#i think i need to hang out with more nonbinary people irl lmao

[johnnyutah]

i can tell that i’m getting more comfortable with he pronouns because when friends gender me as he/him i feel only a brief spark of joy instead of overwhelming impostor syndrome compelling me to thank them profusely for respecting my basic identity

[lyricdissonance]

odds please! for ask thing

1. How do you define your sexuality?i’m bisexual, i also identify as queer3. At what age did you first suspect that you are sexually attracted to other girls?first started realizing i “like like” girls instead of just “like” at 15 I believe?5. Did you have an “aha I like girls” moment or was it more of a gradual realization?gradual realization, i had a whole lot of female actresses and musicians i really admired and then realized i was also attracted to them. then i kinda brushed that aside for a while, thinking that my celeb crushes didn’t count as real crushes, before i also got crushes on girls i knew irl which made me realize i definitely wasn’t straight7. How did you become comfortable with your sexuality?reading posts by bi bloggers on here helped a whole lot, they made me realize that i didn’t have to fit a narrow definition to be “allowed” to call myself bisexual. and as someone who grew up in a conservative environment, i probably wouldn’t have discovered my sexuality when i did without tumblr since i’d never been told before that it was ok to not be straight, and i thank the internet for showing me there are other ways to live life

9. Who was the first person you came out to? How did they take it?it was by text message to a male friend who was the only other bi person i really knew at the time. he was super supportive and we haven’t talked in a while but i’d love to catch up with him someday11. How out are you?out to friends and two family members, but closeted to most of my family. which means i can be gay on tumblr and twitter but not instagram and facebook. funny how that happens13. Was anyone surprised when you came out or did people seem to already know?a few people have been surprised, but these days when i meet someone new i prefer to casually mention my sexuality rather than do a real “coming out” and i don’t normally get any reaction from that15. How soon after meeting someone do you usually tell them about your sexuality?like the last answer, if i feel like i can trust them i’ll just try to slip it into conversation. i don’t have a timeline for when i do it though, it’s just whenever i feel ok doing it17. Have you ever wished you were completely straight?not so much that as just wishing my sexuality could be not a big deal. i’d love to be out to everyone but i know it would cause problems in a lot of my family relationships19. If you are not a lesbian, about what percentage of the time do you find yourself attracted to other girls?i gave up using percentages a while ago but i’m attracted to men and women about the same amount overall21. How often do you find yourself trying to sneak a peek or stare at a cute girl?only all the time because girls are Too Cute to not do that

23. What is your current relationship status?

single af

25. Do you remember anything about the first time you kissed another girl?i’ve kissed one person and she was nonbinary, we were hanging out in her dorm common room when she went for a kiss on the cheek and i was like “well we might as well do one on the lips too”27. What is your ideal first date?wherever we go i want us to be having fun! i love going out for food or drinks but if we don’t have a connection then it’s just us staring at our plates so there’s always that risk of it being too awkward. i’d love for us to try something new where we can talk and laugh while getting to know each other29. How flirty are you?i’m the certified worst at flirting. i’m trying to be more confident but my idea of flirting right now is staring across the room31 Do you want have children someday?no but i want to volunteer with children someday and do something to help make their lives better33. How often are you asked if you have a boyfriend?not often, i think my family is used to me saying no by now lmao35. Have you ever been on your period the same time as a girlfriend?nope (see above, single af)37. Have you ever been in a long distance relationship?nope39. Has a girl ever dumped you for a guy? Have you?nope and nope41. Have you ever had a crush on a straight girl?oh yes43. Would you ever date a trans woman?absolutely45. Where do you think is the best place to meet a potential lover?

a wendy’s parking lot in upstate new york 

somewhere where you can meet people who have a common interest, like a bookstore or a dance class or an lgbt event. but the romantic in me wants to believe that the love of my life could be found anywhere

47. Have you ever cut your hair super short? If not, would you ever want to?have not but would love to! even if i don’t like it i want to be able to say i tried it49. What is your opinion on septum/bull nose piercings?don’t want one for myself, but i think they’re cute51. How muscular are you?not very53. Have you ever been told that you don’t look gay, or that you’re too pretty to be gay?

hasn’t happened to me

55. Do you wear skirts and dresses? If so, how often?i may not consider myself very feminine but i do love how skirts and dresses look on me. so like once or twice a week on average?57. How much jewelry do you typically wear?i go without it a lot but i like wearing a piece of statement jewelry when i think an outfit needs it59. How often do you wear a bra?almost always when i go out, but home is a No Bra Zone61. Have you ever worn a suit?nope but i’d try it!63. Do you carry a purse?yep, i find it convenient to have all my stuff with me65. Have you ever worn any men’s clothing?because of my body shape finding men’s clothes that fit well is Hard but i’ve worn men’s shirts on occasion67. Have you ever shared clothes with a girlfriend?

no but i like this idea so cute girls who are my size please hmu

69. Who is your favorite LGBT celebrity?my faves include freddie mercury, janelle monae, st. vincent, and lady gaga71. Have you ever watched Will & Grace?nope73. How well do you feel LGBT women are portrayed on television?i’d like for us to survive to the end of the show for one thing. and not be overly sexualized. i’m glad that we’re seeing more positive and happy depictions like on b99 but we could always use more75. Do you watch any LGBT YouTubers?tbh i don’t really follow any youtubers77. Do you have a favorite LGBT themed blog or website?i follow a lot of gay blogs on here, too many to choose a favorite. and i really like autostraddle.com79. Have you read any LGBT themed literature? If so, do you have any recommendations?

i really need to start reading more lgbt lit, but shoutout to the misfits by james howe which was the first time i ever encountered gay characters in literature. i think it’s important that that book showed a gay boy who was unashamed about liking feminine things and had friends who supported him. i know my young mind was opened a little after i read it. and now that i’m looking it up again it turns out the author is gay which makes it even better!

81. Boobs or butts?Certified Boob Lover (tm)83. Ellen or Portia?

probs ellen

85. Have you ever been to a gay bar or a gay club?no but there’s a gay club that’s popular w people at my school that is on my list! 87. Do you have any LGBT relatives?my sister, no others that i know of89. How outdoorsy are you?i’m definitely more outdoorsy than i used to be! i’ve learned to enjoy a bit of hiking, kayaking, and exploring but i still don’t do well with heat and bugs lol91. How many rainbow items do you own?one rainbow rubber bracelet, and a couple of bi pride items93. Have you ever participated in the National Day of Silence?no, as far as i know it was never a big thing at my school? i knew one or two people who did it95. Have you ever attended a PFLAG (Parents & Friends of Lesbians and Gays) meeting?no, i’m kinda curious about what a meeting would be like tho97. Have you ever been part of a softball team?nope99. Do you play any video games?

well i used to be a hardcore nintendogs player back in the day

101. (on a scale of 1-10, how attractive are...) Women who wear glasses?glasses on girls are GR8 - 10/10103. Women who are covered with piercings?kinda neutral on this, i support women getting the piercings they want but "covered with piercings” isn’t really something i look for in a person - 6/10105. Women with short hair?if you have short hair i am guaranteed gay for you - 10/10107. Tall women (i.e. around 1.83 meters/6 feet or taller)?

*wearing a shirt that says I

109. What does equality mean to you?to me it means i’m treated the same as anyone else and i have all the same opportunites111. Do you eat meat at all?yes113. How do you feel about the terms “woman crush” and “girl crush”?i find them harmful to girls trying to figure out their sexuality bc the implication of a “girl crush” is that all women have crushes on women and that it shouldn’t be taken as serious attraction. that being said i think a not-insignificant amount of women who say stuff like that just haven’t realized yet that they are attracted to women (i was one of them whoops) and i hope we can find ways to talk about the “girl crush” problem that leave room for questioning people to talk about their feelings115. How do you feel when people use the word gay to mean things such as stupid, dumb, boring, or idiotic?i hardly ever hear it anymore but i don’t like it117. What are your views on gender identity and bathroom use?everyone should be able to use the bathroom that they feel safest and most comfortable in, gender neutral bathrooms need to be everywhere, and any lawmakers who want to get in the way of that can fuck outta here119. Have you ever been called a gay slur?nope121. Have you ever been discriminated against because of your sexuality or gender identity? If so, please explain.not like, personally, but the number of people who have said in my presence that they “don’t believe” in bisexuality is Too High123. Americans: How did you feel on June 26, 2015?it was really incredible, i’d been watching as state by state (including my own) had legalized same-sex marriage and suddenly it was all across america. seeing all the love and happiness being poured out on that day was amazing125. Have you ever tried to “pray the gay away”?luckily i’ve never been there, but it breaks my heart to think about people going through that127. What LGBT stereotype do you most disagree with?"bi women are just doing it for male attention” excuse you i’m clearly doing it in the hopes that jenna coleman will fly to the states and elope with me get your facts right129. What advice would you give to a girl who is struggling to figure out her sexuality?

take your time! you don’t have to 100% understand your feelings but please let yourself feel what you feel and remember you are not alone. and i want to be here for questioning girls the same way that other people were there for me when i was questioning so if you need someone to talk to i am always here.

[sleepless-obsidian]

Tag game;

Rules: Complete the survey & say who tagged you in the beginning. When you’re finished, tag people to do this survey. Have fun and enjoy!

I was tagged by @gohegdo (oml sorry i have no chill lol)

1. Are you named after someone? no but zoe means life and my middle name is the french word for sun, so when my mom had my little sister she named her eve which means life and luna which means moon so that’s cool 2. When was the last time you cried? i angry-cried from stress sometime within the last month.. i think. idk i don’t cry that much anymore 3. Do you like your handwriting? most of the time 4. What is your favourite lunch meat? ham? idk, i dont eat deli meats anymore; 5. Do you have kids? no, thank god 6. If you were another person, would you be friends with you? hA i post on vent about this a lot. the answer is no bc i’m rlly annoying, but also maybe bc i’m clingy and clingy+clingy=cling to each other woo 7. Do you use sarcasm? yeah, but i exaggerate my tone irl and use the 🙃 (upside down smile emoji) or say i’m being sarcastic over text 8. Do you still have your tonsils? yea 9. Would you bungee jump? nonononon 10. What is your favourite kind of cereal? holy heckie there’s this one kellogg’s cereal called cracklin’ oat bran and i fucken lov. other than that i like to scoop cocoa pebbles into my mouth this thing just skips 11 i guess? 12. Do you think you’re a strong person? physically, sure maybe. in any figurative way? hell no who do you think i am? emotionally stable? 13. What is your favourite ice cream? cookie dough, strawberry, or any kind of cheesecake 14. What is the first thing you notice about people? attractiveness,,, it sounds terrible but at least i don’t really think anyone is unattractive? like i don’t notice the “ugly” stuff unless the person’s personality is gross (triggered jokes stay tf away from me) 15. What is the least favourite physical thing you like about yourself? the shape of my shoulders rn 16. What colour pants and shoes are you wearing now? blue jeans and black and white shoes (my shoes are rlly cute and semi-new and i love them) 17. What are you listening to right now? nothing currently, but i would be listening to danse bacchanale since my orchestra’s masterworks concert is coming up. the last thing i listened to was the trndsttr lucian remix 18. If you were a crayon, what colour would you be? not to be emo but probably one of the grays 19. Favourite smell? the warm day, fresh breeze smell during the beginning of spring and fall and sometimes during summer days. it’s rlly nostalgic for me 20. Who was the last person you spoke to on the phone? my mom, she calls me when she leaves work. 21. Favourite sport to watch? figure skating bc i’m yuri on ice garbage and i don’t really like any other televised sports 22. Hair colour? bleached-blond, growing it out and haven’t been touching up the color so there’s like three solid inches of my natural hair color (dark brown) 23. Eye colour? not to sound scene but it’s either hazel or blue with orange/light brown central heterochromia 24. Do you wear contacts? my contacts are the wrong prescription, so i wear my glasses whenever possible. also my glasses hide the dark circles under my eyes while my contacts leave my face bare for all the world to see so fuk em 25. Favourite food to eat? [bangs fists on the table] chicken kiev chicken kiev chicken kiev chicken kiev chicken kiev 26. Scary movies or comedy? comedy; im not opposed to scary movies they’re just,, scary,,, 27. Last movie you watched? kung fu panda 2. i wish i were joking 28. What colour of shirt are you wearing? black (with a TIGER on it hell yea hell yea hell yea) 29. Summer or winter? summer 30. Hugs or kisses? please, for the love of all that is holy, give me both and in abundance 31. What book are you currently reading? i’m reading the great gatsby and welcome to night vale for english, but i follow a couple fanfics too 32. Who do you miss right now? a Lot of ppl, mainly friends 33. What is on your mouse pad? 1) on mobile, 2) don’t even have a mousepad 34. What is the last TV program you watched? miraculous ladybug i think? i lurk on youtube more than watch tv shows 35. What is the best sound? yooo, low E-flat or B-flat on a string instrument (bonus points if the next note is a half step up/down) 36. Rolling stones or The Beatles? i can actually name and know the lyrics to a couple beatles songs so i guess the beatles 37. What is the furthest you have ever traveled? florida;; for reference, i’m from wisconsin 38. Do you have a special talent? in orchestra i’m pretty good at feeling rhythms, keeping time, and coming in on time without keeping track of what measure we’re on (bc my other special talent is getting distracted by literally everything) 39. Where were you born? oconomowoc, wisconsin : ) have fun pronouncing that @ anyone not from oconomowoc

i’ll tag @nonbinary-to-the-max bc i tag you in everything anyways h Aha and @halfdead-ghooostchil since we’ll be hanging out today anyways and i need conversation topics lmao