#i sympathize i get horrible breakouts too

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Also, people view Chyler as like a LGBT champion(and I do find her amazing, don't misunderstand), but her and Melissa are really close. She's said in an interview her kids call her aunt Melissa. So like, if people really champion Chyler that much, shouldn't people trust her judgment of Melissa a bit more. Like she's actually speaks to her and knows her personally.

But if you confront these fans with that, they’d likely come up with a reason that Chyler actually hates Melissa now. 

Off the top of my head, they’d say something like… 

“Chyler didn’t defend Melissa on social media, so she must be angry with her. These tweets that happened after SDCC-

-were created by the Supergirl publicist. You can tell by how they copied the two girls dancing together from her past tweets about their sisterhood, before she realized what Melissa is really like. The emoji of the girls doesn’t even make sense here lmao the Supergirl publicist is so bad at their job omfg”

or alternatively, closer to what I’ve actually seen regarding this-

“Chlyer probably doesn’t even know about the SDCC event. Or she only heard it from their side. She would probably agree with us if she knew what really happened, but she might never know how Melissa really is.”

There’s been a general tendency to frame the actors of Supergirl who are on good terms within this fandom against the actors who are not, at all logical costs.

And so as soon as the fandom has issue with an actor, even if they all previously were perceived as having an amicable or close relationship with the other members of the cast, the fandom will suddenly act like the “good” cast members hate this cast member. 

For instance,

David

When the musical recap first dropped, people were making posts that put thoughts into David Harewood’s head, proposing that he was embarrassed by Melissa and Jeremy.

The infamous letter to Melissa’s publicist even said “[…] save for Katie Mcgrath and David Harewood who appeared uncomfortable […]”

And that’s what most fans on that side of the debate seemed to believe.

But then David tweeted-

Which just speaks to how flawed many fans’ interpretations of the meaning behind the cast’s actions are.

So now he’s on the other side of the line, and the fans have moved from acting like he’s super close with Katie and Odette and they’re all against Mel and Jeremy, to acting like the ‘good guys’ actually hate him too.

Mechad

Mehcad’s fallout is weirder, because it felt like some fans initially didn’t want him on the ‘good side,’ though I do remember seeing post that were pro- Katie, David, and Mechad vs the rest of the cast before they turned around.

I’d been kind of avoiding people who were overreacting to the event by the time the anger spread to Mehcad, but looking back at Mehcad’s tag, people thought he said “Zitta” ( “shut up,” in Italian) in response to Katie saying that art can be interpreted in many different ways (referring to supercorp). And then I think? I remember seeing more criticisms, based on that belief, of Mehcad speaking Italian? Don’t take my word for it.

But he really rather clearly was saying “take that.” (Watch this. Op thought Mehcad said “Take that” then “zitta zitta”, but in the second instance he was actually saying “take tha take tha” quickly. Look away from the video when it says “Zitta zitta” and listen for the “t” sound in the beginning of the phrase.)

Because this is such a big leap to me, I do wonder if those who believed it wanted to be angry with Mehcad. And the originator of this idea didn’t appear to speak italian, so it’s not as naturally occurring a mishearing, which makes me wonder if they were looking for it to be negative.

Then Mehcad responded to someone’s comment on instagram (I’m not sure if he’s said anything else about it) and people had a somewhat less ridiculous reason to “cancel” him.

Note: “I’m a member of the HRC so I can’t be homophobic” is an incredibly misleading simplification of what happened

A piece of the comment he responded to, relevant sections to his response bolded:

“You don’t get to decide if we the queer fans you supposedly support can or cannot be sad over this because even tho you supported the community at some point it doesn’t come as genuine right now when we see things like that horrible interview in which only katie mcgrath was demonstrating to be a real ally in defending the fans views, that’s how you treat your fans who have supported you through this years and helped this show get bigger! […] 

So next time try to educate yourself before speaking […]”

His response:

“don’t post to my page again if you’re going to be rude. I don’t supposedly support anyone. I’m a member of the HRC. I’ve consistently supported all human rights. Race and preference included. You don’t know me. Do your research.”

Essentially, he was responding to accusations that he is ingenue in his support of lgbt+ rights and accusations that he is uneducated about lgbt+ issues.

Kind of, ‘I don’t supposedly support queer ppl, I actively support them.’

He wasn’t saying “I am a member of the HRC so that gives me a free pass,” he was responding directly to an accusation that he isn’t a real ally.

Side note: My own issue with “only katie mcgrath was demonstrating to be a real ally in defending the fans views” - 

Not only did Katie initially laugh at the musical recap (before remembering the wlw fans that she, more than anyone in the cast, has had contact with. These fans have followed her and interacted with her since her “breakout” so she’s likely the most sensitive to their possible reactions), but Mehcad also supported Katie’s affirmation that fans can read what they want from the show with his “take that”, and also showed a visible reluctance to support Jeremy when he said that he debunked Supercorp.

Which makes the anti-Mehcad upsurge kinda sad because he seemed to be on Supercorp’s side, in a way.

Side note, similar to the Mehcad situation:

“Melissa said ‘I can’t be homophobic because I was on Glee’” is again, incredibly misleading.

There is of course some question of the validity of the note, but assuming that it’s real, this is the actual quote from Melissa’s publicist (not Melissa herself. Honestly I guarantee that she hasn’t even read the letter):

“You’ve indicted people who are genuine ambassadors of acceptance, compassion and equality and have proven as much, not on only Glee but on SUPERGIRL and in their own personal lives.”

Her publicist said this kind of within the context of ‘advice’, saying things such as, “However, as an activist, it’s very important that you take a step back before inflicting public scorn.”

My read was that it wasn’t an argument against Melissa being homophobic, but an argument for the writer to think about what she’s doing. To consider that she’s punishing people who want to help and have tried to help, for things they didn’t do.

(Of course, someone who wrote a letter “on behalf of LGBT women” would feel "disrespected and patronized" by advice and criticisms from someone with professional experience in public relations)

(I also wonder if the publicist kinda knew that Glee wasn’t enough, considering her phrasing of “not on only Glee.” But I wouldn’t be surprised if she didn’t realize that Glee isn’t exactly highly regarded in lgbt+ spaces. It’s not a discourse straight people are usually familiar with.)

But putting the words “I can’t be homophobic because I was on Glee” into Melissa’s mouth is ridiculous and a move made only to further tarnish her image on this website.

Melissa

Before any of this, a lot of Supercorp fans wanted to put Melissa in the “demon” category. 

Any news that was ambiguous in meaning was read in the worst possible light until there was a backlash in the form of a more positive interpretation (usually from Supercorp shippers who like Kara), and they’d back off for a bit.

Now I’m not sure if this was in response to Melissa beginning to date Chris Wood, or because of an urge to prop up Katie Mcgrath as the one who deserves more attention than the lead. Maybe both. (Maybe neither, I’m open to alternate interpretations.)

Chris

Chris had a falling out, but they never put him on the good side. He was neutral/in waiting for the bad side because of who he plays.

But they couldn’t “strike,” so to speak, because Chris Wood himself hadn’t actually done anything. There was likely some degree of anti-Chris posts, but there were also regular reminders from the some bloggers that, “Chris Wood is not Mon-El, don’t send him hate.”

Then, I think it was his first (?) video interview about Supergirl in which he very clearly liked Mon-El and Karamel, and that was enough reason for him to be considered evil incarnated.

And so the “Chris Wood is not Mon-El” posts died down in response to the idea that ‘he endorses Mon-El’s behavior.’

(My read of Wood is that he knows that Mon-El isn’t like… Doing the Right Things, but sympathizes with him and thinks he is getting better. Over sympathizes. He thinks it’s interesting or compelling or whatever, like a lot of people do. As a society we have way too much sympathy and interest for man-children and their ‘accidental misogyny’ turned ‘okay person’. But it’s not an uncommon reaction to this kind of character, across the board. 

At this stage in the recognition of this trope’s problems, it’s the kind of issue we should work on, not one that we should completely renounce people for enjoying.

I mean, I’m not exactly the biggest fan of the guy and have some degree of issue with other things, but Mon-El’s actions are still not Chris’ actions. I’ll criticize him for things he actually does, thanks.)

But when Melissa started dating Chris, it became impossible for people to say things like “Save Melissa from having to act along side Chris” or “She looks so pained in her scenes with him, compared to with Katie” because we all knew that she definitely likes the guy. 

And sort of accusing Chris of abusing Melissa and forcing her to stay in the relationship, they had to accept that she enjoys his company. (That would be a step too far. But I do wonder if it might have escalated to that point in the future.)

So she couldn’t 100% be on the good side, because she didn’t hate the people on the bad side. But she also couldn’t be on the bad side, because then Katie would have to hate her. And then there goes Supercorp.

…But then Odette came on the scene, just as Melissa participated in saying that Kara and Lena are only friends.

And with the announcement that Lena and Reign are somehow connected, fans who were frustrated with not being able to condemn Melissa are given free ‘reign’.

This is why people are shipping reigncorp, because they have new blood who couldn’t possibly have done anything to upset fans yet, and they can easily divide the cast into people they hate and people the love.

But the only person who is truly safe is Katie Mcgrath, not only because she has a lot more experience with wlw fans and knows what not to say and because she doesn’t have any social media to say the wrong thing on, but because she is their favorite. 

And so no matter what happens, she is always going to be on the good side.

So the argument that Chyler loves Melissa and is a good judge of character will not work.

But if tomorrow, Melissa Benoist said she loves Katie Mcgrath, and Katie Mcgrath said Melissa is a really good person, the fans might suddenly shift Melissa to the good side. 

Because they see the world in black and white, but their fave is more their moral compass than anything else.

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junior year

this should’ve been done a month ago but as usual, i procrastinated and slacked off lol. anyways here goes

1. time management time management time management; pretty self explanatory and you’d think that i would’ve learned this already but it’s still very much a work in progress for me

2. discipline discipline discipline; again, very self explanatory but still very much a work in progress. it was particularly bad junior year for some reason, and i still have no idea why it was so, all i can hope is that senior year and this summer doesn’t turn out the same way.

3. learn to take care of yourself before trying to take care of others; whoops, breaking the fourth wall already but oh well, i find it easier to reflect this way. while junior year wasn’t the best academically, and it wasn’t very good for me personally, the realization of the above really hit me hard. most of my life i’ve found myself listening to other people’s problems and giving advice/sympathizing/empathizing with them. i don’t know why they do that but apparently i’m a good listener and seem trustworthy so often times i turn into an emotional sounding board for many people. while i do care for my friends very much, sometimes i’m just in a really bad place myself and can’t bring myself to listen to other people’s problems, and for most of my life i’ve felt horrible for feeling that. it wasn’t until this year that i realized that it was perfectly acceptable for me to say “hey, i’m super stressed myself and i don’t think i can offer the support that you need from me right now” and not feel guilty about that, and realized that the people who get upset at me for saying that are selfish and didn’t deserve my time in the first place.  tl;dr self care is v important and anyone who thinks otherwise is not worth your time!!!

4. it’s okay to distance yourself from friends who are draining and toxic and generally not good for you; i’ve experienced this year and honestly the only thing holding me back is the fact that we’ve been friends for so long that i feel bad for doing it. but at the same time she’s v judgemental and negative and i’ve found that our interests/goals/friends are changing so it’s best to start distancing myself from her. i’ve found that the people i get along with the most/can be closest with are the ones who share the same values/principles and have similar mentalities. 

5. don’t be afraid to ask questions/speak your thoughts!!!; growing up in a v asian household has caused me to hold in my emotions, especially when it comes to describing why i’m upset/sad/mad, and it’s become such a negative trait for me. i find it incredibly hard to talk about my feelings/struggles, even with my closest friends, and at this point i rarely bring up my problems because i just can’t talk about it. and even if they ask me what’s wrong or what’s up with me i just give a short generic answer like “oh not much i’m just super stressed” and move on. i just have a hard time opening up and yea....

6. rest/lazy days feel 10x better when you’ve actually worked hard; if you spend your days just slacking off and not doing any work, you’ll get really bored. it’s always better to work hard for a couple hours, or even one hour, and then take a break, because then you’ll feel like you actually earned it, instead of slacking off with the constant thought of all the work you’re putting off in the back of your head. 

7. if something is wrong with your body, ie break outs, dry lips, headaches, etc, chances are you’re not drinking enough water, or there’s something wrong with your hygiene. i’ve started drinking so much more water this year, and while i did gain a couple pounds bc of water weight, the benefits are clear. i used to not drink water at all, and mainly drank milk/flavored drinks, which resulted in acne, headaches, dry lips, bad breath, and getting colds all the freaking time. now that i’m drinking a shit ton of water, my skin is mainly clear with the odd breakout, i’ve been getting less headaches, and my bad breath mostly went away. washing my hands v often has greatly improved my immune system, and i’ve only gotten sick once with a cold, for only two days. so yea take of yourself and pay attention to your hygiene!

8. make time for your friends; v important!! even if you can’t meet up with them irl, send them a snap, facetime/call them, or just send them a text. i constantly find myself forgetting to spend time w friends outside of school, mostly because of the parents, but i also tend to ignore chats, snaps, etc. while it’s important to focus, don’t get too lost in the stress and busyness of school and make some time for chilling with friends

9. when you decide to do something, don’t half ass it; if you decide to study for an hour, study for real, don’t spend half on hour on tumblr and then the rest multi-tasking, it’s not worth and wastes a lot of time. if you force yourself to focus on something for a short amount of time you’ll end up doing more in that hour than you will in three hours of multi-tasking/half assing it. learned this the hard way :) 

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While We’re at It, Can We Cancel These as Well?

By Don Hall

I may be an older white guy in America so my grasp on the new methods are a bit slow. I think I get the whole cancel culture thing now. 

Start by looking for anything and everything that indicates something has hurt the feelings or actually done harm in that thing’s history (same for people). I mean, really look. Spend so much time seeking out potential grievances that even basic history and a sense of proportion is completely obliterated by the bloodhound search for sexist or racist behavior.

It also helps to squash your sense of humor and critical thinking skills so thoroughly that you can only see the harm and none of the good. Ignoring time passed and lessons learned by the people you feel need cancelling is essential.

Here’s my list of things and people in need of cancelling:

Statues. Jesus, who cares? I love that the energy behind the George Floyd protests has effectively eliminated every single statue of the Confederacy. George Washington? Fine, he was the hero of the Revolutionary War and our first president but he had slave teeth so trash it. I’m in favor of cancelling all the statues!

Statue of Martin Luther King, Jr. in Washington, DC MLK was brilliant, inspiring, and changed the world for the better but he fucked around on his wife and that is a misogynist use of power over younger women and a betrayal of his family. Cancel him.

Statue of Franklin Delano Roosevelt in DC Same as MLK. He fucked around and interred thousands of Japanese-Americans, and was even wheelchair bound when he did it. Cancelled.

Mount Rushmore Washington (slave teeth and slave owner), Thomas Jefferson (slave owner who cheated on his wife with a slave), Teddy Roosevelt (the ultimate imperialist colonizer), and Abe Lincoln (who wasn’t really into freeing the slaves but did to win the war that ended slavery). Who cares if these dudes did some good things along the way. Get some dynamite and blow the fucking thing to dust!

Mickey Mouse (as well as the statues of Walt Disney) Disney was a racist, anti-Semite, and a Nazi sympathizer. Both he and the mouse he created need to go. In addition to the statues, let’s cancel all of the movies in the Disney catalogue (many are horribly sexist and racist) as well as both parks.

The Thinker in Paris A naked dude thinking implying that only men think. And cock. Nice piece but it’s gotta go. I mean the Venus de Milo is an avatar of misogynist fantasy—don’t cancel her but give her some arms, for crying out loud (which is the exact definition of Twitter, btw)! 

People in need of cancellation:

Steven Spielberg A white directing The Color Purple? Amistad? Cancel.

Tina Fey Horribly racist toward Asians. Also wrote a bunch of blackface scenes in 30 Rock.

Tom Hanks He was at a party with Jeffrey Epstein and starred in Bachelor Party! He also assumed the identity of a woman in his breakout television role Bosom Buddies.

Also:

Texas and Florida From the Alamo to the 2000 Election, both these states have too much in their pasts to even consider keeping around.

Foot callouses  Carb Hangovers  Marketing as a career  Anyone who is of a healthy weight  Whole Foods People who wear sports team branded clothing  All of social media

This is fun! I think I understand it now!