#i swear it was understood only a few years ago wtf happened to the whole solidarity and understanding of non-SAM aros and aces

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It's all "Ppl who don't use the SAM are valid!!!" until those people ID as only Aro or Ace when you feel they are aroace. Then it's suddenly ppl trying to erase one identity or the other and "NO YOU MEAN AROACE NOT JUST ACE!!!" etc etc etc.

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Jane the Virgin 1x15 Chapter Fifteen

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Stray thoughts

1) I really like how the show has found a way to sneak political commentary without being too political…

JANE: What's the deal with the electoral college?

XIOMARA: Turns out this whole electoral college thing is crazy. We're not even actually voting for our president.

JANE: I know. We're voting for electors who are then pledged to a candidate.

XIOMARA: What?! Then why'd you ask?

JANE: Because you've voted in two elections. It was time you understood the process.

It’s also a small yet relevant moment between Jane and Xiomara because it portrays what type of mother Xiomara is. Jane asks her a lot of questions Xiomara doesn’t have the answers for, yet she doesn’t dismiss Jane’s queries or tells her it’s not important. Instead, she probably goes “I don’t know, but let’s find out.” It’s a very nurturing approach, in my opinion, because you’re telling your kid A) that’s it okay to admit that you’re ignorant, even if you’re a parent, B) it’s okay to ask questions, especially to ask “why.” And C) there are ways to find answers to your questions.

2) Oh, I get this…

JANE: Mom, what does love feel like?

XIOMARA: Why?

JANE: Just curious. How do you know for sure you're in love?

XIOMARA: It sort of feels like your heart is glowing, if that makes sense.

That’s why in the first few episodes we could see Jane’s heart glowing whenever she was around Rafael. That’s the idea of love she’s built in her mind because that’s what her mom told her so many years ago.

3) Aww!

4) “I love you” “I love you so much” blaaaa! Am I the only one who thinks this is all too sudden? Please, this is the one question that I want you guys to answer. When you were at this point in the story, did you feel their relationship was rushed? Am I the only one who wasn’t in insta-love with them as they are with each other? Was this ship universally shipped immediately? Just say yes or no.

Well, at least they’re not moving in together yet. Although they might be by the end of this episode, probably.

5) Rogelio is going to be in a sci-fi telenovela, and I think that’s the best concept ever?

6) Ay, Xiomara…

7) Well, I may not be a fan of Michael, but…

Not only does he know Jane but he is also very supportive of her interests. That’s cool.

8) I think this kind of supports my theory that Jane might actually be the narrator in the show?

NARRATOR: Jane threw herself into her writing with a renewed energy and passion. And when Jane's writing was flowing, it was as if she had been transformed into another person, a woman named Juana.

The idea that she feels like someone else when she’s writing could easily be translated into her having a different voice as that person, you know? In this case, the voice of a Latino hunk.

9) Regardless of how I feel about this ship, this definitely was an amazing way to propose…

10) Damn!

That is so not what someone proposing wants to hear. But, as great as the proposal was, you really need to be super sure that you’re in a committed relationship in which both of you are on the same page and want the same things. Jane had declined his offer to move in together because she felt she wanted to take things one step at a time, even if they’d started their relationship all backward. The fact that he thought Jane would say yes just because that’s “the right order” to do things she’d envisioned her whole life further proves that they really don’t know each other at all.

11) And Xiomara and Alba are back at being Jane’s angel and demon on her shoulder. And again, I side with Xiomara. I tend to always see things through a similar lens than her.

12) Petra must be planning something. Is she going to make Lachlan bus tables or something?

13)

14) Ay, Alba, taking a compatibility test from a magazine is really NOT the answer…

15) Uh-oh…

I swear to god, if they finally fucking address this in a proper way with a sensible resolution, I will feel so vindicated.

16) Oh, what a fucking douchebag!

I hope he gets murdered, seriously. And Rafael, don’t you dare team up with this fucking piece of trash.

17) And as she’s questioning how much Rafael knows her, she runs into Michael and is reminded of how much he knows her. Gotta admit, the flashback where she was reading to him was kind of sweet.

18) Wow, indeed.

XIOMARA: I'm a little late. And I missed a pill or two this month. And I'm worried I might be pregnant.

He’s definitely not taking it too well, but he did really try to make Xiomara feel okay and not freak her out by freaking out.

19) Oh. Xiomara made it look like it was a joke, and now she’s getting the real reaction. This is not going to go down well.

20) I mean…

I get that they were trying to make a point of how little they know each other, but maybe they should’ve gone with something other than Jane testing how supportive of her passion he is because that’s probably the only thing he’s done well since day one. He’s always been the one pushing her to become a writer instead of a teacher, so, as much as I agree they really don’t know each other AT ALL, it doesn’t make sense for him to be unsupportive.

21) Oh, you got me good, show!

22) And what do you know? Jane is the one who messed up. Why would you tell him that “he passed a test”? I get why Rafael would be hurt, that’s not a good way to build trust with your partner and communicate.

23) I don’t know why but I’m not buying Aaron’s saint persona. I think he’s a closeted asshole who is trying to manipulate Petra. Like, that whole, “I won’t judge you” spiel he gave her right before they ate. If you won’t judge, then there was no reason to bring that stuff up right before she started eating.

24) Oh, Rafael, I really hope you’re coming clean to Petra to team up with her because if you’re really trying to blackmail her I will fucking lose my shit…

25) Ouch.

XIOMARA: My period is late.

JANE: But you're on the pill.

XIOMARA: I forgot one. Or two.

JANE: Mom…

XIOMARA: I know. I know. And I knew we should wait, but we got so caught up in the moment.

JANE: Caught up in the moment? You're not 16.

XIOMARA: It was an accident.

JANE: No. No, it wasn't. Me standing here pregnant, that's an accident. You were reckless. I mean, what's your plan? Are we gonna be pregnant together? Did you want to raise these babies like sisters?

XIOMARA: No. Look, I didn't have a plan…

JANE: Yeah, I know. Again. I'm sorry. I just thought… I don't know.I just thought that you would be more thoughtful if you thought about having another kid. Because of… Well, Me.

I get why Jane feels this way, but Xiomara is at a completely different place than she was when she got pregnant with Jane. She’s not a teenager anymore, and she’s already a mom. So whatever happens, she really doesn’t need a lecture because she’ll take care of her kid.

There’s also this underlying judgment every time motherhood comes up in a conversation between these two. Jane always makes it look as if Xiomara has been a terrible, absentee mother who did a terrible job and ruined Jane’s life by raising Jane on her own as a single mother. And… everything that I’ve seen so far proves otherwise? Xiomara is an amazing mother. She’s caring, supportive, understanding, loving, and honest. She may not be a traditional mom, and she might be a bit clueless at times, but she’s not a bad mom by any means, and the way Jane refers to her childhood and upbringing paints Xiomara in a very negative light. Jane is basically telling her that she’s going to ruin another baby’s life, and that’s kind of unfair. Like, what is so wrong and awful about being a single parent?

26) WTF

27) Yes, Petra, that is such a bold, courageous move!

RAFAEL: I didn't release the tape. It must have been Lachlan. I would never do something like that.

PETRA: Lachlan didn't release the tape. I did.

RAFAEL: What?! But why?

PETRA: Because as long as it existed, he could hold it over my head.

28) Good, Petra and Rafael are teaming up against Lachlan. Although it’s still unclear why Rafael told her he had the tape, his motives were left unexplained and it bugs me.

29) Jane should fucking follow her own advice…

So then date Rogelio and see where it goes. But go slowly. Take it step by step.

30) See? Xiomara is a fucking great mom, okay? So Jane’d better stop mom-shaming her from now on, I’ve had it.

XIOMARA: The time you found Michael's list in the book. That night the smile on your face you were so happy. Even though you'd only known each other a year, you didn't have any questions.

JANE: But it wasn't right.

XIOMARA: That's not the point. You know what it's like to be sure.

31) Good, she finally admitted that they’re moving too fast and that marriage is not a good idea just yet.

32) Why…?

This seems like a cheap gimmick? Why didn’t she tell her? She was about to, and then the author told her she liked a quiet massage, and she just accepted it?

33) Poor Rogelio…

Peach just doesn’t make him pop.

34) Aww, they’re moving in together! Xiomara and Rogelio, I mean. Not Jane and Rafel, ew.

35) ….

Like, I want Rafael and Jane not to be together because it doesn’t feel right to me, I’m not into it, but I don’t know if I want her to be with Michael either?

36) I knew it! I knew this dude wasn’t a saint!

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