#i love to create new concepts during lectures without meaning to. a time honored tradition

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new creature: THE KNIGHT BEAST

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An Interview with Dr. Adi Jaffe, author of The Abstinence Myth

Recently I read Dr. Jaffe’s new book, The Abstinence Myth.

I found Dr. Jaffe’s alternative recovery approach refreshing and so needed.

Only you have the power to understand yourself and where you want to go. Only you know if you really have what it takes to beat addiction down. ~ Dr. Adi Jaffe

This is a book that would appeal to people who are interested in moving away from the black-and-white thinking of abstinence versus non-abstinence, which can hold people back from getting help.

The Abstinence Myth shares stories of Dr. Jaffe’s own journey as well as others. He explains the process of his 9-step IGNTD Recovery program which is an important piece of the book and offers a more inclusive way to get recovery support.

Welcome, Dr. Jaffe!

1. Please introduce yourself and briefly explain how you decided to work in the addiction field?

My name is Adi Jaffe. I am an addiction expert who got his start in the field through personal experience with drugs and alcohol followed by a return to school. I received my Ph.D.from UCLA’s psychology program to study addiction and figure out what happened.

My mission is to help at least 1,000,000 people beat their addiction!

2. What inspired you to write The Abstinence Myth and to create IGNTD Recovery?

After school and research, I opened up my own treatment center – Alternatives. When I studied and researched addiction I was appalled by the fact that only 10% of those who need help end up getting it. So I set out to change that.

I had studied the barriers or the things that were keeping people out. I thought that offering a non-abstinence treatment center would do the trick. Unfortunately, while we did very well with the clients we served (and published a lot of research on our success in the process). The treatment was still expensive and the logistics of getting to us (taking time off of work, letting people know you needed treatment) still made it too difficult.

I started IGNTD Recovery when Alternatives closed in order to offer an easier option for help.  It’s cheaper and easier to access (available online 24/7).  The program doesn’t require anyone to walk into a room full of people, which helps with shame.

The idea for The Abstinence Myth came as I was working on the IGNTD Recovery online course. It offers a super-simple first step for people who are struggling and not interested (or turned off by) traditional treatment approaches It’s a completely different way to tackle addiction.

3. With all the conflicting advice out there around addiction, how should parents change their view to better help their addicted child?

First of all, I would urge all parents to examine “why” their child is turning to the drugs/alcohol/etc. We place far too much emphasis on the behavior and not enough on the underlying reason.

This means that, by forcing your child to stop the problematic behavior, you are actually telling them that you don’t care about what they were trying to achieve.

For instance, if your child has started smoking marijuana because all of their friends do, by requiring them to stop you are telling them that you don’t care whether they fit in with their friends… Or at least this is what THEY interpret or perceive. THIS is the reason for so much resistance around addiction and recovery. Without addressing the “why” you cannot truly resolve the problem and you will build resistance.

Now, to be clear, addressing the “why” is definitely NOT always easy or simple. However, identifying it and explicitly making it part of the discussion will at least create a more realistic and potentially successful approach.

Imagine, in the above scenario, talking to your child about how you recognize that all of their friends smoke and that it’s hard to stick out… It begins an entirely different way of communicating about these issues.

4. Many parents struggle with feeling that they are doing too much for their kids, yet the idea of letting go or allowing them to hit rock bottom is disturbing as well.

Can you provide some insights on how parents can best help their teen or young adults who are struggling with addiction so they are not enabling, but also not letting go?

This is a wonderful question and one that comes up often. The world operates by natural consequences. Instead of the concept of “tough love” I like to simply talk to parents about loving their child enough to trust them even if they have to “skin their knees.”

I always make sure that the conversation is explicit and, in some instances, that an actual contract is drawn up. The important thing is to let our child know that you are there to support them, but not to protect them from all of the natural consequences of their action.

The thing is that, in the end, those consequences will come. I’ve worked with children of multi-billionaires who receive checks and loans worth millions simply to “kick the can” down the road. In the end, consequences will present themselves. It’s our job as parents to manage those as best we can.

5. In your dedication, you say, “To my parents for being there when I needed them the most…” What were some of the things your parents did to support you along the way that you remember as being the most helpful?

My parents and I were VERY distant during the 5 years that my drug use was at its worst. I avoided their calls, lied to them constantly and hid from them.

But when they received the call from my attorney and were told of everything that happened, they offered to support my legal fees (I could pay for a small amount of them) and pay for rehab.

They stuck very firmly to help me throughout the experience but without overdoing it – money for rent, but not spending money. Money for school, if I got a job and paid for food.

And they loved me through all of it, even as I got kicked out of one rehab and did things imperfectly. They also supported my departure from traditional recovery because we spoke about things openly and candidly.

Overall, the experience actually helped us create a stronger and more authentic relationship than we’d ever had. When my father passed 8 years ago, we were closer than we’d ever been. I am grateful for that.

6. What kept you going in your darkest hour that can give others hope?

Initially, it was certainly the desire to avoid more punishment and not disappointing my parents. Eventually, it developed into the need to help reduce the pain of others and help as many as I could.

I believe in finding a sense of purpose to make sure that you truly know that you are having an impact and following your path.

I’m so happy to have found my reason for waking up every morning!

Adi Jaffe, Ph.D. is a nationally recognized expert on mental health, addiction, and stigma. He lectures in the Psychology department at UCLA and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country.

Dr. Jaffe’s work and research focus on changing the way Americans think about and deal with mental health issues. He is passionate about the role of shame in destroying lives and aims to greatly reduce the stigma of mental health in this country. In this context, Dr. Jaffe has used his personal experience as an incredibly effective inspirational and motivational tool.

Dr. Jaffe attended UCLA, graduating with a B.A. in Psychology. It was during his undergraduate career that Adi began struggling with drug issues himself, eventually leading to a 4-year hiatus from studies and into the Los Angeles drug-dealing world where he became quite successful. During that period of his life, Adi’s days looked more like a re-enactment of a beatnik novel or a Quentin Tarantino film than the life of an upper-middle-class suburban kid. Following a SWAT team arrest in his apartment, and the extended court case and a year-long jail sentence, Adi began rebuilding his life. This eventually led to his attainment of a Ph.D. from UCLA’s top-rated doctoral program in psychology, where he graduated with honors. Even before he graduated Dr. Jaffe’s name had become known through his online and academic writing. His views on addiction and his research on the topic have been published in dozens of journals and online publications and he has appeared on numerous television shows and documentaries discussing current topics in addiction and the problem of addiction as a whole.

Adi’s debut book, The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction With Shame, Judgment Or Rules is launching in August 2018 where he challenges the current recovery system and discusses his own non-traditional approach. His goal is to help others overcome addiction without shame, judgment or rules.

Adi currently resides in Los Angeles with his wife, Sophie, their three children and their dog. Adi and Sophie are both running individual wellness businesses from their home. Sophie owns her own superfood company called Philosophie and together they host a podcast, IGNTD, where they explore all things relationships. Together they serve as daily inspiration for millions of readers and followers.

from Drug Rehab Treatment Near Me https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/an-interview-with-dr-adi-jaffe-author-of-the-abstinence-myth/ from Addiction Treatment News https://addictiontreatmentnews.tumblr.com/post/176727538632

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An Interview with Dr. Adi Jaffe, author of The Abstinence Myth

Recently I read Dr. Jaffe’s new book, The Abstinence Myth.

I found Dr. Jaffe’s alternative recovery approach refreshing and so needed.

Only you have the power to understand yourself and where you want to go. Only you know if you really have what it takes to beat addiction down. ~ Dr. Adi Jaffe

This is a book that would appeal to people who are interested in moving away from the black-and-white thinking of abstinence versus non-abstinence, which can hold people back from getting help.

The Abstinence Myth shares stories of Dr. Jaffe’s own journey as well as others. He explains the process of his 9-step IGNTD Recovery program which is an important piece of the book and offers a more inclusive way to get recovery support.

Welcome, Dr. Jaffe!

1. Please introduce yourself and briefly explain how you decided to work in the addiction field?

My name is Adi Jaffe. I am an addiction expert who got his start in the field through personal experience with drugs and alcohol followed by a return to school. I received my Ph.D.from UCLA’s psychology program to study addiction and figure out what happened.

My mission is to help at least 1,000,000 people beat their addiction!

2. What inspired you to write The Abstinence Myth and to create IGNTD Recovery?

After school and research, I opened up my own treatment center – Alternatives. When I studied and researched addiction I was appalled by the fact that only 10% of those who need help end up getting it. So I set out to change that.

I had studied the barriers or the things that were keeping people out. I thought that offering a non-abstinence treatment center would do the trick. Unfortunately, while we did very well with the clients we served (and published a lot of research on our success in the process). The treatment was still expensive and the logistics of getting to us (taking time off of work, letting people know you needed treatment) still made it too difficult.

I started IGNTD Recovery when Alternatives closed in order to offer an easier option for help.  It’s cheaper and easier to access (available online 24/7).  The program doesn’t require anyone to walk into a room full of people, which helps with shame.

The idea for The Abstinence Myth came as I was working on the IGNTD Recovery online course. It offers a super-simple first step for people who are struggling and not interested (or turned off by) traditional treatment approaches It’s a completely different way to tackle addiction.

3. With all the conflicting advice out there around addiction, how should parents change their view to better help their addicted child?

First of all, I would urge all parents to examine “why” their child is turning to the drugs/alcohol/etc. We place far too much emphasis on the behavior and not enough on the underlying reason.

This means that, by forcing your child to stop the problematic behavior, you are actually telling them that you don’t care about what they were trying to achieve.

For instance, if your child has started smoking marijuana because all of their friends do, by requiring them to stop you are telling them that you don’t care whether they fit in with their friends… Or at least this is what THEY interpret or perceive. THIS is the reason for so much resistance around addiction and recovery. Without addressing the “why” you cannot truly resolve the problem and you will build resistance.

Now, to be clear, addressing the “why” is definitely NOT always easy or simple. However, identifying it and explicitly making it part of the discussion will at least create a more realistic and potentially successful approach.

Imagine, in the above scenario, talking to your child about how you recognize that all of their friends smoke and that it’s hard to stick out… It begins an entirely different way of communicating about these issues.

4. Many parents struggle with feeling that they are doing too much for their kids, yet the idea of letting go or allowing them to hit rock bottom is disturbing as well.

Can you provide some insights on how parents can best help their teen or young adults who are struggling with addiction so they are not enabling, but also not letting go?

This is a wonderful question and one that comes up often. The world operates by natural consequences. Instead of the concept of “tough love” I like to simply talk to parents about loving their child enough to trust them even if they have to “skin their knees.”

I always make sure that the conversation is explicit and, in some instances, that an actual contract is drawn up. The important thing is to let our child know that you are there to support them, but not to protect them from all of the natural consequences of their action.

The thing is that, in the end, those consequences will come. I’ve worked with children of multi-billionaires who receive checks and loans worth millions simply to “kick the can” down the road. In the end, consequences will present themselves. It’s our job as parents to manage those as best we can.

5. In your dedication, you say, “To my parents for being there when I needed them the most…” What were some of the things your parents did to support you along the way that you remember as being the most helpful?

My parents and I were VERY distant during the 5 years that my drug use was at its worst. I avoided their calls, lied to them constantly and hid from them.

But when they received the call from my attorney and were told of everything that happened, they offered to support my legal fees (I could pay for a small amount of them) and pay for rehab.

They stuck very firmly to help me throughout the experience but without overdoing it – money for rent, but not spending money. Money for school, if I got a job and paid for food.

And they loved me through all of it, even as I got kicked out of one rehab and did things imperfectly. They also supported my departure from traditional recovery because we spoke about things openly and candidly.

Overall, the experience actually helped us create a stronger and more authentic relationship than we’d ever had. When my father passed 8 years ago, we were closer than we’d ever been. I am grateful for that.

6. What kept you going in your darkest hour that can give others hope?

Initially, it was certainly the desire to avoid more punishment and not disappointing my parents. Eventually, it developed into the need to help reduce the pain of others and help as many as I could.

I believe in finding a sense of purpose to make sure that you truly know that you are having an impact and following your path.

I’m so happy to have found my reason for waking up every morning!

Adi Jaffe, Ph.D. is a nationally recognized expert on mental health, addiction, and stigma. He lectures in the Psychology department at UCLA and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country.

Dr. Jaffe’s work and research focus on changing the way Americans think about and deal with mental health issues. He is passionate about the role of shame in destroying lives and aims to greatly reduce the stigma of mental health in this country. In this context, Dr. Jaffe has used his personal experience as an incredibly effective inspirational and motivational tool.

Dr. Jaffe attended UCLA, graduating with a B.A. in Psychology. It was during his undergraduate career that Adi began struggling with drug issues himself, eventually leading to a 4-year hiatus from studies and into the Los Angeles drug-dealing world where he became quite successful. During that period of his life, Adi’s days looked more like a re-enactment of a beatnik novel or a Quentin Tarantino film than the life of an upper-middle-class suburban kid. Following a SWAT team arrest in his apartment, and the extended court case and a year-long jail sentence, Adi began rebuilding his life. This eventually led to his attainment of a Ph.D. from UCLA’s top-rated doctoral program in psychology, where he graduated with honors. Even before he graduated Dr. Jaffe’s name had become known through his online and academic writing. His views on addiction and his research on the topic have been published in dozens of journals and online publications and he has appeared on numerous television shows and documentaries discussing current topics in addiction and the problem of addiction as a whole.

Adi’s debut book, The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction With Shame, Judgment Or Rules is launching in August 2018 where he challenges the current recovery system and discusses his own non-traditional approach. His goal is to help others overcome addiction without shame, judgment or rules.

Adi currently resides in Los Angeles with his wife, Sophie, their three children and their dog. Adi and Sophie are both running individual wellness businesses from their home. Sophie owns her own superfood company called Philosophie and together they host a podcast, IGNTD, where they explore all things relationships. Together they serve as daily inspiration for millions of readers and followers.

  from Drug Rehab Treatment Near Me https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/an-interview-with-dr-adi-jaffe-author-of-the-abstinence-myth/

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On making music most people will dislike

Gordon Mumma - Cybersonic Cantilevers (1973)

Mumma (born 1935) is, to me, one of the underappreciated peripheral figures of the New York scenes centered around Cage and Tudor. The maker and designer of many devices used or modified by Tudor, he was the one to introduce the latter to semiconductors after vacuum tubes proved to be too much for the pianist (source: chatting with Nic Collins).

Here are the liner notes for the New World Records 2005 Gordon Mumma release:

Cybersonic Cantilevers (1973) extends his resourceful use of live-electronic processes to include the active participation of audience members, many of them children and teenagers who were quick to grasp the artistic potential of cybersonic technology.

http://www.newworldrecords.org/album.cgi?rm=view&album_id=15052

The piece begins with an electronic stutter covering a faint background hum, eventually (d)evolving into a full on electronic orchestra of syncopated perscussive sounds washing against a drone, with a few vocal stutters along the way. Eventually, the percussive sounds fade away, giving back way to a sparse stutter from the beginning of the piece. The last 10-12 minute of the piece then center around this modulated drone, peppered with bleeps, scratches and sub-bass rumbles.

Although I've grown fond of listening and making music "like this" - music with no song structure, music exploring a process, music about offering a set of interactions to an unpredictable force - I forget that to most people not involved in making this type of work do not hear the point of this. My grandma tends to ask me "at which point does the melody come in?" Experiments in Art and Technology (EAT) were the height of this "panacea that failed," as systems-theorist and artist Jack Burnham would eventually qualify it. The criticism hasn't changed much: people coming from listening to pop music ask if the song ever start, while those up for a bit of a challenge feel like the disconnection between the underlying concept (whatever it may be) and its usually abstracted form are disappointing at best. "You don't leave half the argument up to the audience to figure out" said my Science and Technology Studies professor when summarizing his criticism on avant-garde music.

David Behrman - Wave Trains (1966)

This becomes almost limpid in David Behrman's 1966 piece Wave Trains, in which Mumma controls the electronics (transducers and microphones creating a feedback loop around a piano). Assuming Behrman is at the piano, and Mumma at the electronics, you can hear them clearly interact through the common medium of the piano's string and frame. The closed loop of the system means hierarchies are agreed upon and negotiated throughout the piece. The relative lack of traditional "piano sound" means that Behrman - the official composer for this piece - is mostly interested in the sonic consequences of that negotiation. You mostly can differentiate the clear feedback from the overtoned resonances, and you can hear them interact - the blurring of responsibility is equivalent to a blurring of timbral identities.

Again - this is work I'm happy to listen to, because my personal history in and around these practices has shaped my listening to appreciate this type of interaction as represented through sound. I would love to learn about what precisely the piano was, what the microphone was, what the transducers were, if there is any type of instruction from Behrman, and maybe even try to reperform this piece - but I've also come to accept that I am in a minority, and that perhaps this is why Mumma remains an underappreciated figure in my eyes: no moment of fame with a Sitting in a Room or 4:33, and no commercial breakthrough a la Oh Superman. Same could be said of Behrman, whose work I'd qualify as the electroacoustic parallel to Mumma.

Nic Collins - In Memoriam Michael Waisvisz (2009)

Nic Collins (born 1954) is part of the younger generation of people who worked with Alvin Lucier and David Tudor after Behrman and Mumma. I saw this piece performed multiple times before know what exactly it referenced, and before I understood Collins' position in this type of practice: I genuinely enjoyed this piece. I was just familiar enough with the modes of operation of the square wave oscillator attached to the photocell controlled by the candle to know exactly what was happening (40106/4093 circuits built from his book Handmade Electronic Music have a distinctive timbre because of the specific pulse-width they end up producing, as I'd learn from Nic).

Reading about Michael Waisvisz, a colleague of Nic's during his tenure at STEIM, you understand both something about these friends, their respective personalities, and interactions (it takes special people to dedicate a dramatic whiny toy performance in your honor, and perform it many many times, after your death). I find something particularly touching about a piece which so humorously captures a relationship probably based around jest and playful professionalism (these are, after all, two people with careers of making strange sounds with other people) and yet achieves profoundness with building blocks as silly as a birthday cake candle and a personal battery powered fan (as Nic walks around the candle, the flame squiggles and dances, affecting the tone of the oscillator. He occasionally walks very far, chaotically triggering small air currents across a room, with his hand held electric fan, occasionally climbing on chairs and tables to gain elevation).

And yet, once again, for people not personally invested in this practice or these people, this would probably make little sense. Nic knows that, so do Mumma and Behrman. They've all negotiated their careers so that they could afford to limit their audiences to those interested and the few souls those followers could bring along with them. Nic has achieved this partially through institutional recognition, while Behrman and Mumma have maintained peripherally academic positions and found ways to support their art through other means. This is, to some extent, a privilege, one they've worked hard to achieve and preserve, but a privilege nonetheless. Nic's book has made it to the hands of countless musical electronics nerds, and therefore affected the microsociality of contemporary electronic music making. Through him, Mumma and Behrman's influence has reached those practice too - but overall, these three practitioners are in Laurie-Anderson-before-O-Superman areas of recognition in the mainstream.

Paula Mathusen - But because without this (performed by the dither quartet, 2011)

Paula Mathusen's work for four guitars (she rescored this for the Dither quartet's format) is a lovely piece, of the right length, playing on the tropes that got me into experimental music (the fine line between guitar noodling and composed piece). Again, I can explain why I like the piece, why each turn reminds me of just the right parts of Morricone soundtracks with and the ruthlesslness of Dylan Carlson's riffs in the band Earth but more playful. Mathusen scored the piece entirely, it is intriguing for me to imagine the notation for extended technique guitar, and even just to imagine playing from a score in general.

But this piece points out another aspect of "unusual" music making as a practice that can offer a point of entry to those not naturally inclined to 8 minute guitar quartets with no song structure or lyrics might consider. Mathusen, by picking guitars, has to contend with a culturally charged timbre and set of compositional options. We can safely assume that Mathusen has heard guitars in a pop music context before, just as we can assume that at some point, Mumma, Collins and Behrman have listened to and enjoyed a top fourty track of some year. Over time, all these composers departed from the majority decisions in terms of what they wanted to hear, and they all did this differently. With each piece from each of these composers, you get a glimpse of how they might have departed, and how far they are away now, and how this is not a linear or logical process: they get to back, jump forward, explore new compositional concepts at will - it's their job. Most pieces are somewhat autobiographic, I appreciate these because they acknowledge the role of some objects in these sonic storytellings (Mumma's Cybersonic systems, Behrman's piano, Collins' oscillator and flame, and Mathusen's guitars), but in terms of composing for a varied audience, I would posit that finding artefacts or processes which can be perceived in a varied set of ways that will seem personally relevant to a wide variety of people is perhaps the best way to engage an unsuspecting audience.

We were lucky enough, last week, to get Bonnie Jones in the Open Source Art, Music and Culture class I TA. In her lecture, she described how she really viewed her practice as a direct consequence of her upbringing. She gave us details on the context in which she grew up, but also details of the music she chose to listen to or be engaged in as she was growing up. 

One of the students asked her at what point she went from using guitar pedals the regular way, to “the other way:” she described some musical experiences that, put together, made it seem unnecessary to keep working with the structures she had simply assumed were part of music making. The result is an abstraction of where that negotiation, between how she got to develop her own tastes and the confines of what was made available to her (both musically and materially) which can be heard through sound. There is a lot more to hear, but: in a nutshell, this is the wordless storytelling I am interested in. 

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An Interview with Dr. Adi Jaffe, author of The Abstinence Myth

Recently I read Dr. Jaffe’s new book, The Abstinence Myth.

I found Dr. Jaffe’s alternative recovery approach refreshing and so needed.

Only you have the power to understand yourself and where you want to go. Only you know if you really have what it takes to beat addiction down. ~ Dr. Adi Jaffe

This is a book that would appeal to people who are interested in moving away from the black-and-white thinking of abstinence versus non-abstinence, which can hold people back from getting help.

The Abstinence Myth shares stories of Dr. Jaffe’s own journey as well as others. He explains the process of his 9-step IGNTD Recovery program which is an important piece of the book and offers a more inclusive way to get recovery support.

Welcome, Dr. Jaffe!

1. Please introduce yourself and briefly explain how you decided to work in the addiction field?

My name is Adi Jaffe. I am an addiction expert who got his start in the field through personal experience with drugs and alcohol followed by a return to school. I received my Ph.D.from UCLA’s psychology program to study addiction and figure out what happened.

My mission is to help at least 1,000,000 people beat their addiction!

2. What inspired you to write The Abstinence Myth and to create IGNTD Recovery?

After school and research, I opened up my own treatment center – Alternatives. When I studied and researched addiction I was appalled by the fact that only 10% of those who need help end up getting it. So I set out to change that.

I had studied the barriers or the things that were keeping people out. I thought that offering a non-abstinence treatment center would do the trick. Unfortunately, while we did very well with the clients we served (and published a lot of research on our success in the process). The treatment was still expensive and the logistics of getting to us (taking time off of work, letting people know you needed treatment) still made it too difficult.

I started IGNTD Recovery when Alternatives closed in order to offer an easier option for help.  It’s cheaper and easier to access (available online 24/7).  The program doesn’t require anyone to walk into a room full of people, which helps with shame.

The idea for The Abstinence Myth came as I was working on the IGNTD Recovery online course. It offers a super-simple first step for people who are struggling and not interested (or turned off by) traditional treatment approaches It’s a completely different way to tackle addiction.

3. With all the conflicting advice out there around addiction, how should parents change their view to better help their addicted child?

First of all, I would urge all parents to examine “why” their child is turning to the drugs/alcohol/etc. We place far too much emphasis on the behavior and not enough on the underlying reason.

This means that, by forcing your child to stop the problematic behavior, you are actually telling them that you don’t care about what they were trying to achieve.

For instance, if your child has started smoking marijuana because all of their friends do, by requiring them to stop you are telling them that you don’t care whether they fit in with their friends… Or at least this is what THEY interpret or perceive. THIS is the reason for so much resistance around addiction and recovery. Without addressing the “why” you cannot truly resolve the problem and you will build resistance.

Now, to be clear, addressing the “why” is definitely NOT always easy or simple. However, identifying it and explicitly making it part of the discussion will at least create a more realistic and potentially successful approach.

Imagine, in the above scenario, talking to your child about how you recognize that all of their friends smoke and that it’s hard to stick out… It begins an entirely different way of communicating about these issues.

4. Many parents struggle with feeling that they are doing too much for their kids, yet the idea of letting go or allowing them to hit rock bottom is disturbing as well.

Can you provide some insights on how parents can best help their teen or young adults who are struggling with addiction so they are not enabling, but also not letting go?

This is a wonderful question and one that comes up often. The world operates by natural consequences. Instead of the concept of “tough love” I like to simply talk to parents about loving their child enough to trust them even if they have to “skin their knees.”

I always make sure that the conversation is explicit and, in some instances, that an actual contract is drawn up. The important thing is to let our child know that you are there to support them, but not to protect them from all of the natural consequences of their action.

The thing is that, in the end, those consequences will come. I’ve worked with children of multi-billionaires who receive checks and loans worth millions simply to “kick the can” down the road. In the end, consequences will present themselves. It’s our job as parents to manage those as best we can.

5. In your dedication, you say, “To my parents for being there when I needed them the most…” What were some of the things your parents did to support you along the way that you remember as being the most helpful?

My parents and I were VERY distant during the 5 years that my drug use was at its worst. I avoided their calls, lied to them constantly and hid from them.

But when they received the call from my attorney and were told of everything that happened, they offered to support my legal fees (I could pay for a small amount of them) and pay for rehab.

They stuck very firmly to help me throughout the experience but without overdoing it – money for rent, but not spending money. Money for school, if I got a job and paid for food.

And they loved me through all of it, even as I got kicked out of one rehab and did things imperfectly. They also supported my departure from traditional recovery because we spoke about things openly and candidly.

Overall, the experience actually helped us create a stronger and more authentic relationship than we’d ever had. When my father passed 8 years ago, we were closer than we’d ever been. I am grateful for that.

6. What kept you going in your darkest hour that can give others hope?

Initially, it was certainly the desire to avoid more punishment and not disappointing my parents. Eventually, it developed into the need to help reduce the pain of others and help as many as I could.

I believe in finding a sense of purpose to make sure that you truly know that you are having an impact and following your path.

I’m so happy to have found my reason for waking up every morning!

Adi Jaffe, Ph.D. is a nationally recognized expert on mental health, addiction, and stigma. He lectures in the Psychology department at UCLA and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country.

Dr. Jaffe’s work and research focus on changing the way Americans think about and deal with mental health issues. He is passionate about the role of shame in destroying lives and aims to greatly reduce the stigma of mental health in this country. In this context, Dr. Jaffe has used his personal experience as an incredibly effective inspirational and motivational tool.

Dr. Jaffe attended UCLA, graduating with a B.A. in Psychology. It was during his undergraduate career that Adi began struggling with drug issues himself, eventually leading to a 4-year hiatus from studies and into the Los Angeles drug-dealing world where he became quite successful. During that period of his life, Adi’s days looked more like a re-enactment of a beatnik novel or a Quentin Tarantino film than the life of an upper-middle-class suburban kid. Following a SWAT team arrest in his apartment, and the extended court case and a year-long jail sentence, Adi began rebuilding his life. This eventually led to his attainment of a Ph.D. from UCLA’s top-rated doctoral program in psychology, where he graduated with honors. Even before he graduated Dr. Jaffe’s name had become known through his online and academic writing. His views on addiction and his research on the topic have been published in dozens of journals and online publications and he has appeared on numerous television shows and documentaries discussing current topics in addiction and the problem of addiction as a whole.

Adi’s debut book, The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction With Shame, Judgment Or Rules is launching in August 2018 where he challenges the current recovery system and discusses his own non-traditional approach. His goal is to help others overcome addiction without shame, judgment or rules.

Adi currently resides in Los Angeles with his wife, Sophie, their three children and their dog. Adi and Sophie are both running individual wellness businesses from their home. Sophie owns her own superfood company called Philosophie and together they host a podcast, IGNTD, where they explore all things relationships. Together they serve as daily inspiration for millions of readers and followers.

  from Drug Rehab Treatment Near Me https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/an-interview-with-dr-adi-jaffe-author-of-the-abstinence-myth/

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An Interview with Dr. Adi Jaffe, author of The Abstinence Myth

Recently I read Dr. Jaffe’s new book, The Abstinence Myth.

I found Dr. Jaffe’s alternative recovery approach refreshing and so needed.

Only you have the power to understand yourself and where you want to go. Only you know if you really have what it takes to beat addiction down. ~ Dr. Adi Jaffe

This is a book that would appeal to people who are interested in moving away from the black-and-white thinking of abstinence versus non-abstinence, which can hold people back from getting help.

The Abstinence Myth shares stories of Dr. Jaffe’s own journey as well as others. He explains the process of his 9-step IGNTD Recovery program which is an important piece of the book and offers a more inclusive way to get recovery support.

Welcome, Dr. Jaffe!

1. Please introduce yourself and briefly explain how you decided to work in the addiction field?

My name is Adi Jaffe. I am an addiction expert who got his start in the field through personal experience with drugs and alcohol followed by a return to school. I received my Ph.D.from UCLA’s psychology program to study addiction and figure out what happened.

My mission is to help at least 1,000,000 people beat their addiction!

2. What inspired you to write The Abstinence Myth and to create IGNTD Recovery?

After school and research, I opened up my own treatment center – Alternatives. When I studied and researched addiction I was appalled by the fact that only 10% of those who need help end up getting it. So I set out to change that.

I had studied the barriers or the things that were keeping people out. I thought that offering a non-abstinence treatment center would do the trick. Unfortunately, while we did very well with the clients we served (and published a lot of research on our success in the process). The treatment was still expensive and the logistics of getting to us (taking time off of work, letting people know you needed treatment) still made it too difficult.

I started IGNTD Recovery when Alternatives closed in order to offer an easier option for help.  It’s cheaper and easier to access (available online 24/7).  The program doesn’t require anyone to walk into a room full of people, which helps with shame.

The idea for The Abstinence Myth came as I was working on the IGNTD Recovery online course. It offers a super-simple first step for people who are struggling and not interested (or turned off by) traditional treatment approaches It’s a completely different way to tackle addiction.

3. With all the conflicting advice out there around addiction, how should parents change their view to better help their addicted child?

First of all, I would urge all parents to examine “why” their child is turning to the drugs/alcohol/etc. We place far too much emphasis on the behavior and not enough on the underlying reason.

This means that, by forcing your child to stop the problematic behavior, you are actually telling them that you don’t care about what they were trying to achieve.

For instance, if your child has started smoking marijuana because all of their friends do, by requiring them to stop you are telling them that you don’t care whether they fit in with their friends… Or at least this is what THEY interpret or perceive. THIS is the reason for so much resistance around addiction and recovery. Without addressing the “why” you cannot truly resolve the problem and you will build resistance.

Now, to be clear, addressing the “why” is definitely NOT always easy or simple. However, identifying it and explicitly making it part of the discussion will at least create a more realistic and potentially successful approach.

Imagine, in the above scenario, talking to your child about how you recognize that all of their friends smoke and that it’s hard to stick out… It begins an entirely different way of communicating about these issues.

4. Many parents struggle with feeling that they are doing too much for their kids, yet the idea of letting go or allowing them to hit rock bottom is disturbing as well.

Can you provide some insights on how parents can best help their teen or young adults who are struggling with addiction so they are not enabling, but also not letting go?

This is a wonderful question and one that comes up often. The world operates by natural consequences. Instead of the concept of “tough love” I like to simply talk to parents about loving their child enough to trust them even if they have to “skin their knees.”

I always make sure that the conversation is explicit and, in some instances, that an actual contract is drawn up. The important thing is to let our child know that you are there to support them, but not to protect them from all of the natural consequences of their action.

The thing is that, in the end, those consequences will come. I’ve worked with children of multi-billionaires who receive checks and loans worth millions simply to “kick the can” down the road. In the end, consequences will present themselves. It’s our job as parents to manage those as best we can.

5. In your dedication, you say, “To my parents for being there when I needed them the most…” What were some of the things your parents did to support you along the way that you remember as being the most helpful?

My parents and I were VERY distant during the 5 years that my drug use was at its worst. I avoided their calls, lied to them constantly and hid from them.

But when they received the call from my attorney and were told of everything that happened, they offered to support my legal fees (I could pay for a small amount of them) and pay for rehab.

They stuck very firmly to help me throughout the experience but without overdoing it – money for rent, but not spending money. Money for school, if I got a job and paid for food.

And they loved me through all of it, even as I got kicked out of one rehab and did things imperfectly. They also supported my departure from traditional recovery because we spoke about things openly and candidly.

Overall, the experience actually helped us create a stronger and more authentic relationship than we’d ever had. When my father passed 8 years ago, we were closer than we’d ever been. I am grateful for that.

6. What kept you going in your darkest hour that can give others hope?

Initially, it was certainly the desire to avoid more punishment and not disappointing my parents. Eventually, it developed into the need to help reduce the pain of others and help as many as I could.

I believe in finding a sense of purpose to make sure that you truly know that you are having an impact and following your path.

I’m so happy to have found my reason for waking up every morning!

Adi Jaffe, Ph.D. is a nationally recognized expert on mental health, addiction, and stigma. He lectures in the Psychology department at UCLA and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country.

Dr. Jaffe’s work and research focus on changing the way Americans think about and deal with mental health issues. He is passionate about the role of shame in destroying lives and aims to greatly reduce the stigma of mental health in this country. In this context, Dr. Jaffe has used his personal experience as an incredibly effective inspirational and motivational tool.

Dr. Jaffe attended UCLA, graduating with a B.A. in Psychology. It was during his undergraduate career that Adi began struggling with drug issues himself, eventually leading to a 4-year hiatus from studies and into the Los Angeles drug-dealing world where he became quite successful. During that period of his life, Adi’s days looked more like a re-enactment of a beatnik novel or a Quentin Tarantino film than the life of an upper-middle-class suburban kid. Following a SWAT team arrest in his apartment, and the extended court case and a year-long jail sentence, Adi began rebuilding his life. This eventually led to his attainment of a Ph.D. from UCLA’s top-rated doctoral program in psychology, where he graduated with honors. Even before he graduated Dr. Jaffe’s name had become known through his online and academic writing. His views on addiction and his research on the topic have been published in dozens of journals and online publications and he has appeared on numerous television shows and documentaries discussing current topics in addiction and the problem of addiction as a whole.

Adi’s debut book, The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction With Shame, Judgment Or Rules is launching in August 2018 where he challenges the current recovery system and discusses his own non-traditional approach. His goal is to help others overcome addiction without shame, judgment or rules.

Adi currently resides in Los Angeles with his wife, Sophie, their three children and their dog. Adi and Sophie are both running individual wellness businesses from their home. Sophie owns her own superfood company called Philosophie and together they host a podcast, IGNTD, where they explore all things relationships. Together they serve as daily inspiration for millions of readers and followers.

from Drug Rehab Treatment Near Me https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/an-interview-with-dr-adi-jaffe-author-of-the-abstinence-myth/ from Addiction Treatment News https://addictiontreatmentnews.tumblr.com/post/176720898057

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An Interview with Dr. Adi Jaffe, author of The Abstinence Myth

Recently I read Dr. Jaffe’s new book, The Abstinence Myth.

I found Dr. Jaffe’s alternative recovery approach refreshing and so needed.

Only you have the power to understand yourself and where you want to go. Only you know if you really have what it takes to beat addiction down. ~ Dr. Adi Jaffe

This is a book that would appeal to people who are interested in moving away from the black-and-white thinking of abstinence versus non-abstinence, which can hold people back from getting help.

The Abstinence Myth shares stories of Dr. Jaffe’s own journey as well as others. He explains the process of his 9-step IGNTD Recovery program which is an important piece of the book and offers a more inclusive way to get recovery support.

Welcome, Dr. Jaffe!

1. Please introduce yourself and briefly explain how you decided to work in the addiction field?

My name is Adi Jaffe. I am an addiction expert who got his start in the field through personal experience with drugs and alcohol followed by a return to school. I received my Ph.D.from UCLA’s psychology program to study addiction and figure out what happened.

My mission is to help at least 1,000,000 people beat their addiction!

2. What inspired you to write The Abstinence Myth and to create IGNTD Recovery?

After school and research, I opened up my own treatment center – Alternatives. When I studied and researched addiction I was appalled by the fact that only 10% of those who need help end up getting it. So I set out to change that.

I had studied the barriers or the things that were keeping people out. I thought that offering a non-abstinence treatment center would do the trick. Unfortunately, while we did very well with the clients we served (and published a lot of research on our success in the process). The treatment was still expensive and the logistics of getting to us (taking time off of work, letting people know you needed treatment) still made it too difficult.

I started IGNTD Recovery when Alternatives closed in order to offer an easier option for help.  It’s cheaper and easier to access (available online 24/7).  The program doesn’t require anyone to walk into a room full of people, which helps with shame.

The idea for The Abstinence Myth came as I was working on the IGNTD Recovery online course. It offers a super-simple first step for people who are struggling and not interested (or turned off by) traditional treatment approaches It’s a completely different way to tackle addiction.

3. With all the conflicting advice out there around addiction, how should parents change their view to better help their addicted child?

First of all, I would urge all parents to examine “why” their child is turning to the drugs/alcohol/etc. We place far too much emphasis on the behavior and not enough on the underlying reason.

This means that, by forcing your child to stop the problematic behavior, you are actually telling them that you don’t care about what they were trying to achieve.

For instance, if your child has started smoking marijuana because all of their friends do, by requiring them to stop you are telling them that you don’t care whether they fit in with their friends… Or at least this is what THEY interpret or perceive. THIS is the reason for so much resistance around addiction and recovery. Without addressing the “why” you cannot truly resolve the problem and you will build resistance.

Now, to be clear, addressing the “why” is definitely NOT always easy or simple. However, identifying it and explicitly making it part of the discussion will at least create a more realistic and potentially successful approach.

Imagine, in the above scenario, talking to your child about how you recognize that all of their friends smoke and that it’s hard to stick out… It begins an entirely different way of communicating about these issues.

4. Many parents struggle with feeling that they are doing too much for their kids, yet the idea of letting go or allowing them to hit rock bottom is disturbing as well.

Can you provide some insights on how parents can best help their teen or young adults who are struggling with addiction so they are not enabling, but also not letting go?

This is a wonderful question and one that comes up often. The world operates by natural consequences. Instead of the concept of “tough love” I like to simply talk to parents about loving their child enough to trust them even if they have to “skin their knees.”

I always make sure that the conversation is explicit and, in some instances, that an actual contract is drawn up. The important thing is to let our child know that you are there to support them, but not to protect them from all of the natural consequences of their action.

The thing is that, in the end, those consequences will come. I’ve worked with children of multi-billionaires who receive checks and loans worth millions simply to “kick the can” down the road. In the end, consequences will present themselves. It’s our job as parents to manage those as best we can.

5. In your dedication, you say, “To my parents for being there when I needed them the most…” What were some of the things your parents did to support you along the way that you remember as being the most helpful?

My parents and I were VERY distant during the 5 years that my drug use was at its worst. I avoided their calls, lied to them constantly and hid from them.

But when they received the call from my attorney and were told of everything that happened, they offered to support my legal fees (I could pay for a small amount of them) and pay for rehab.

They stuck very firmly to help me throughout the experience but without overdoing it – money for rent, but not spending money. Money for school, if I got a job and paid for food.

And they loved me through all of it, even as I got kicked out of one rehab and did things imperfectly. They also supported my departure from traditional recovery because we spoke about things openly and candidly.

Overall, the experience actually helped us create a stronger and more authentic relationship than we’d ever had. When my father passed 8 years ago, we were closer than we’d ever been. I am grateful for that.

6. What kept you going in your darkest hour that can give others hope?

Initially, it was certainly the desire to avoid more punishment and not disappointing my parents. Eventually, it developed into the need to help reduce the pain of others and help as many as I could.

I believe in finding a sense of purpose to make sure that you truly know that you are having an impact and following your path.

I’m so happy to have found my reason for waking up every morning!

Adi Jaffe, Ph.D. is a nationally recognized expert on mental health, addiction, and stigma. He lectures in the Psychology department at UCLA and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country.

Dr. Jaffe’s work and research focus on changing the way Americans think about and deal with mental health issues. He is passionate about the role of shame in destroying lives and aims to greatly reduce the stigma of mental health in this country. In this context, Dr. Jaffe has used his personal experience as an incredibly effective inspirational and motivational tool.

Dr. Jaffe attended UCLA, graduating with a B.A. in Psychology. It was during his undergraduate career that Adi began struggling with drug issues himself, eventually leading to a 4-year hiatus from studies and into the Los Angeles drug-dealing world where he became quite successful. During that period of his life, Adi’s days looked more like a re-enactment of a beatnik novel or a Quentin Tarantino film than the life of an upper-middle-class suburban kid. Following a SWAT team arrest in his apartment, and the extended court case and a year-long jail sentence, Adi began rebuilding his life. This eventually led to his attainment of a Ph.D. from UCLA’s top-rated doctoral program in psychology, where he graduated with honors. Even before he graduated Dr. Jaffe’s name had become known through his online and academic writing. His views on addiction and his research on the topic have been published in dozens of journals and online publications and he has appeared on numerous television shows and documentaries discussing current topics in addiction and the problem of addiction as a whole.

Adi’s debut book, The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction With Shame, Judgment Or Rules is launching in August 2018 where he challenges the current recovery system and discusses his own non-traditional approach. His goal is to help others overcome addiction without shame, judgment or rules.

Adi currently resides in Los Angeles with his wife, Sophie, their three children and their dog. Adi and Sophie are both running individual wellness businesses from their home. Sophie owns her own superfood company called Philosophie and together they host a podcast, IGNTD, where they explore all things relationships. Together they serve as daily inspiration for millions of readers and followers.

  from Drug Rehab Treatment Near Me https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/an-interview-with-dr-adi-jaffe-author-of-the-abstinence-myth/

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An Interview with Dr. Adi Jaffe, author of The Abstinence Myth

Recently I read Dr. Jaffe’s new book, The Abstinence Myth.

I found Dr. Jaffe’s alternative recovery approach refreshing and so needed.

Only you have the power to understand yourself and where you want to go. Only you know if you really have what it takes to beat addiction down. ~ Dr. Adi Jaffe

This is a book that would appeal to people who are interested in moving away from the black-and-white thinking of abstinence versus non-abstinence, which can hold people back from getting help.

The Abstinence Myth shares stories of Dr. Jaffe’s own journey as well as others. He explains the process of his 9-step IGNTD Recovery program which is an important piece of the book and offers a more inclusive way to get recovery support.

Welcome, Dr. Jaffe!

1. Please introduce yourself and briefly explain how you decided to work in the addiction field?

My name is Adi Jaffe. I am an addiction expert who got his start in the field through personal experience with drugs and alcohol followed by a return to school. I received my Ph.D.from UCLA’s psychology program to study addiction and figure out what happened.

My mission is to help at least 1,000,000 people beat their addiction!

2. What inspired you to write The Abstinence Myth and to create IGNTD Recovery?

After school and research, I opened up my own treatment center – Alternatives. When I studied and researched addiction I was appalled by the fact that only 10% of those who need help end up getting it. So I set out to change that.

I had studied the barriers or the things that were keeping people out. I thought that offering a non-abstinence treatment center would do the trick. Unfortunately, while we did very well with the clients we served (and published a lot of research on our success in the process). The treatment was still expensive and the logistics of getting to us (taking time off of work, letting people know you needed treatment) still made it too difficult.

I started IGNTD Recovery when Alternatives closed in order to offer an easier option for help.  It’s cheaper and easier to access (available online 24/7).  The program doesn’t require anyone to walk into a room full of people, which helps with shame.

The idea for The Abstinence Myth came as I was working on the IGNTD Recovery online course. It offers a super-simple first step for people who are struggling and not interested (or turned off by) traditional treatment approaches It’s a completely different way to tackle addiction.

3. With all the conflicting advice out there around addiction, how should parents change their view to better help their addicted child?

First of all, I would urge all parents to examine “why” their child is turning to the drugs/alcohol/etc. We place far too much emphasis on the behavior and not enough on the underlying reason.

This means that, by forcing your child to stop the problematic behavior, you are actually telling them that you don’t care about what they were trying to achieve.

For instance, if your child has started smoking marijuana because all of their friends do, by requiring them to stop you are telling them that you don’t care whether they fit in with their friends… Or at least this is what THEY interpret or perceive. THIS is the reason for so much resistance around addiction and recovery. Without addressing the “why” you cannot truly resolve the problem and you will build resistance.

Now, to be clear, addressing the “why” is definitely NOT always easy or simple. However, identifying it and explicitly making it part of the discussion will at least create a more realistic and potentially successful approach.

Imagine, in the above scenario, talking to your child about how you recognize that all of their friends smoke and that it’s hard to stick out… It begins an entirely different way of communicating about these issues.

4. Many parents struggle with feeling that they are doing too much for their kids, yet the idea of letting go or allowing them to hit rock bottom is disturbing as well.

Can you provide some insights on how parents can best help their teen or young adults who are struggling with addiction so they are not enabling, but also not letting go?

This is a wonderful question and one that comes up often. The world operates by natural consequences. Instead of the concept of “tough love” I like to simply talk to parents about loving their child enough to trust them even if they have to “skin their knees.”

I always make sure that the conversation is explicit and, in some instances, that an actual contract is drawn up. The important thing is to let our child know that you are there to support them, but not to protect them from all of the natural consequences of their action.

The thing is that, in the end, those consequences will come. I’ve worked with children of multi-billionaires who receive checks and loans worth millions simply to “kick the can” down the road. In the end, consequences will present themselves. It’s our job as parents to manage those as best we can.

5. In your dedication, you say, “To my parents for being there when I needed them the most…” What were some of the things your parents did to support you along the way that you remember as being the most helpful?

My parents and I were VERY distant during the 5 years that my drug use was at its worst. I avoided their calls, lied to them constantly and hid from them.

But when they received the call from my attorney and were told of everything that happened, they offered to support my legal fees (I could pay for a small amount of them) and pay for rehab.

They stuck very firmly to help me throughout the experience but without overdoing it – money for rent, but not spending money. Money for school, if I got a job and paid for food.

And they loved me through all of it, even as I got kicked out of one rehab and did things imperfectly. They also supported my departure from traditional recovery because we spoke about things openly and candidly.

Overall, the experience actually helped us create a stronger and more authentic relationship than we’d ever had. When my father passed 8 years ago, we were closer than we’d ever been. I am grateful for that.

6. What kept you going in your darkest hour that can give others hope?

Initially, it was certainly the desire to avoid more punishment and not disappointing my parents. Eventually, it developed into the need to help reduce the pain of others and help as many as I could.

I believe in finding a sense of purpose to make sure that you truly know that you are having an impact and following your path.

I’m so happy to have found my reason for waking up every morning!

Adi Jaffe, Ph.D. is a nationally recognized expert on mental health, addiction, and stigma. He lectures in the Psychology department at UCLA and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country.

Dr. Jaffe’s work and research focus on changing the way Americans think about and deal with mental health issues. He is passionate about the role of shame in destroying lives and aims to greatly reduce the stigma of mental health in this country. In this context, Dr. Jaffe has used his personal experience as an incredibly effective inspirational and motivational tool.

Dr. Jaffe attended UCLA, graduating with a B.A. in Psychology. It was during his undergraduate career that Adi began struggling with drug issues himself, eventually leading to a 4-year hiatus from studies and into the Los Angeles drug-dealing world where he became quite successful. During that period of his life, Adi’s days looked more like a re-enactment of a beatnik novel or a Quentin Tarantino film than the life of an upper-middle-class suburban kid. Following a SWAT team arrest in his apartment, and the extended court case and a year-long jail sentence, Adi began rebuilding his life. This eventually led to his attainment of a Ph.D. from UCLA’s top-rated doctoral program in psychology, where he graduated with honors. Even before he graduated Dr. Jaffe’s name had become known through his online and academic writing. His views on addiction and his research on the topic have been published in dozens of journals and online publications and he has appeared on numerous television shows and documentaries discussing current topics in addiction and the problem of addiction as a whole.

Adi’s debut book, The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction With Shame, Judgment Or Rules is launching in August 2018 where he challenges the current recovery system and discusses his own non-traditional approach. His goal is to help others overcome addiction without shame, judgment or rules.

Adi currently resides in Los Angeles with his wife, Sophie, their three children and their dog. Adi and Sophie are both running individual wellness businesses from their home. Sophie owns her own superfood company called Philosophie and together they host a podcast, IGNTD, where they explore all things relationships. Together they serve as daily inspiration for millions of readers and followers.

from Drug Rehab Treatment Near Me https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/an-interview-with-dr-adi-jaffe-author-of-the-abstinence-myth/ from Addiction Treatment News https://addictiontreatmentnews.tumblr.com/post/176706019227

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An Interview with Dr. Adi Jaffe, author of The Abstinence Myth

Recently I read Dr. Jaffe’s new book, The Abstinence Myth.

I found Dr. Jaffe’s alternative recovery approach refreshing and so needed.

Only you have the power to understand yourself and where you want to go. Only you know if you really have what it takes to beat addiction down. ~ Dr. Adi Jaffe

This is a book that would appeal to people who are interested in moving away from the black-and-white thinking of abstinence versus non-abstinence, which can hold people back from getting help.

The Abstinence Myth shares stories of Dr. Jaffe’s own journey as well as others. He explains the process of his 9-step IGNTD Recovery program which is an important piece of the book and offers a more inclusive way to get recovery support.

Welcome, Dr. Jaffe!

1. Please introduce yourself and briefly explain how you decided to work in the addiction field?

My name is Adi Jaffe. I am an addiction expert who got his start in the field through personal experience with drugs and alcohol followed by a return to school. I received my Ph.D.from UCLA’s psychology program to study addiction and figure out what happened.

My mission is to help at least 1,000,000 people beat their addiction!

2. What inspired you to write The Abstinence Myth and to create IGNTD Recovery?

After school and research, I opened up my own treatment center – Alternatives. When I studied and researched addiction I was appalled by the fact that only 10% of those who need help end up getting it. So I set out to change that.

I had studied the barriers or the things that were keeping people out. I thought that offering a non-abstinence treatment center would do the trick. Unfortunately, while we did very well with the clients we served (and published a lot of research on our success in the process). The treatment was still expensive and the logistics of getting to us (taking time off of work, letting people know you needed treatment) still made it too difficult.

I started IGNTD Recovery when Alternatives closed in order to offer an easier option for help.  It’s cheaper and easier to access (available online 24/7).  The program doesn’t require anyone to walk into a room full of people, which helps with shame.

The idea for The Abstinence Myth came as I was working on the IGNTD Recovery online course. It offers a super-simple first step for people who are struggling and not interested (or turned off by) traditional treatment approaches It’s a completely different way to tackle addiction.

3. With all the conflicting advice out there around addiction, how should parents change their view to better help their addicted child?

First of all, I would urge all parents to examine “why” their child is turning to the drugs/alcohol/etc. We place far too much emphasis on the behavior and not enough on the underlying reason.

This means that, by forcing your child to stop the problematic behavior, you are actually telling them that you don’t care about what they were trying to achieve.

For instance, if your child has started smoking marijuana because all of their friends do, by requiring them to stop you are telling them that you don’t care whether they fit in with their friends… Or at least this is what THEY interpret or perceive. THIS is the reason for so much resistance around addiction and recovery. Without addressing the “why” you cannot truly resolve the problem and you will build resistance.

Now, to be clear, addressing the “why” is definitely NOT always easy or simple. However, identifying it and explicitly making it part of the discussion will at least create a more realistic and potentially successful approach.

Imagine, in the above scenario, talking to your child about how you recognize that all of their friends smoke and that it’s hard to stick out… It begins an entirely different way of communicating about these issues.

4. Many parents struggle with feeling that they are doing too much for their kids, yet the idea of letting go or allowing them to hit rock bottom is disturbing as well.

Can you provide some insights on how parents can best help their teen or young adults who are struggling with addiction so they are not enabling, but also not letting go?

This is a wonderful question and one that comes up often. The world operates by natural consequences. Instead of the concept of “tough love” I like to simply talk to parents about loving their child enough to trust them even if they have to “skin their knees.”

I always make sure that the conversation is explicit and, in some instances, that an actual contract is drawn up. The important thing is to let our child know that you are there to support them, but not to protect them from all of the natural consequences of their action.

The thing is that, in the end, those consequences will come. I’ve worked with children of multi-billionaires who receive checks and loans worth millions simply to “kick the can” down the road. In the end, consequences will present themselves. It’s our job as parents to manage those as best we can.

5. In your dedication, you say, “To my parents for being there when I needed them the most…” What were some of the things your parents did to support you along the way that you remember as being the most helpful?

My parents and I were VERY distant during the 5 years that my drug use was at its worst. I avoided their calls, lied to them constantly and hid from them.

But when they received the call from my attorney and were told of everything that happened, they offered to support my legal fees (I could pay for a small amount of them) and pay for rehab.

They stuck very firmly to help me throughout the experience but without overdoing it – money for rent, but not spending money. Money for school, if I got a job and paid for food.

And they loved me through all of it, even as I got kicked out of one rehab and did things imperfectly. They also supported my departure from traditional recovery because we spoke about things openly and candidly.

Overall, the experience actually helped us create a stronger and more authentic relationship than we’d ever had. When my father passed 8 years ago, we were closer than we’d ever been. I am grateful for that.

6. What kept you going in your darkest hour that can give others hope?

Initially, it was certainly the desire to avoid more punishment and not disappointing my parents. Eventually, it developed into the need to help reduce the pain of others and help as many as I could.

I believe in finding a sense of purpose to make sure that you truly know that you are having an impact and following your path.

I’m so happy to have found my reason for waking up every morning!

Adi Jaffe, Ph.D. is a nationally recognized expert on mental health, addiction, and stigma. He lectures in the Psychology department at UCLA and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country.

Dr. Jaffe’s work and research focus on changing the way Americans think about and deal with mental health issues. He is passionate about the role of shame in destroying lives and aims to greatly reduce the stigma of mental health in this country. In this context, Dr. Jaffe has used his personal experience as an incredibly effective inspirational and motivational tool.

Dr. Jaffe attended UCLA, graduating with a B.A. in Psychology. It was during his undergraduate career that Adi began struggling with drug issues himself, eventually leading to a 4-year hiatus from studies and into the Los Angeles drug-dealing world where he became quite successful. During that period of his life, Adi’s days looked more like a re-enactment of a beatnik novel or a Quentin Tarantino film than the life of an upper-middle-class suburban kid. Following a SWAT team arrest in his apartment, and the extended court case and a year-long jail sentence, Adi began rebuilding his life. This eventually led to his attainment of a Ph.D. from UCLA’s top-rated doctoral program in psychology, where he graduated with honors. Even before he graduated Dr. Jaffe’s name had become known through his online and academic writing. His views on addiction and his research on the topic have been published in dozens of journals and online publications and he has appeared on numerous television shows and documentaries discussing current topics in addiction and the problem of addiction as a whole.

Adi’s debut book, The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction With Shame, Judgment Or Rules is launching in August 2018 where he challenges the current recovery system and discusses his own non-traditional approach. His goal is to help others overcome addiction without shame, judgment or rules.

Adi currently resides in Los Angeles with his wife, Sophie, their three children and their dog. Adi and Sophie are both running individual wellness businesses from their home. Sophie owns her own superfood company called Philosophie and together they host a podcast, IGNTD, where they explore all things relationships. Together they serve as daily inspiration for millions of readers and followers.

  from Drug Rehab Treatment Near Me https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/an-interview-with-dr-adi-jaffe-author-of-the-abstinence-myth/

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An Interview with Dr. Adi Jaffe, author of The Abstinence Myth

Recently I read Dr. Jaffe’s new book, The Abstinence Myth.

I found Dr. Jaffe’s alternative recovery approach refreshing and so needed.

Only you have the power to understand yourself and where you want to go. Only you know if you really have what it takes to beat addiction down. ~ Dr. Adi Jaffe

This is a book that would appeal to people who are interested in moving away from the black-and-white thinking of abstinence versus non-abstinence, which can hold people back from getting help.

The Abstinence Myth shares stories of Dr. Jaffe’s own journey as well as others. He explains the process of his 9-step IGNTD Recovery program which is an important piece of the book and offers a more inclusive way to get recovery support.

Welcome, Dr. Jaffe!

1. Please introduce yourself and briefly explain how you decided to work in the addiction field?

My name is Adi Jaffe. I am an addiction expert who got his start in the field through personal experience with drugs and alcohol followed by a return to school. I received my Ph.D.from UCLA’s psychology program to study addiction and figure out what happened.

My mission is to help at least 1,000,000 people beat their addiction!

2. What inspired you to write The Abstinence Myth and to create IGNTD Recovery?

After school and research, I opened up my own treatment center – Alternatives. When I studied and researched addiction I was appalled by the fact that only 10% of those who need help end up getting it. So I set out to change that.

I had studied the barriers or the things that were keeping people out. I thought that offering a non-abstinence treatment center would do the trick. Unfortunately, while we did very well with the clients we served (and published a lot of research on our success in the process). The treatment was still expensive and the logistics of getting to us (taking time off of work, letting people know you needed treatment) still made it too difficult.

I started IGNTD Recovery when Alternatives closed in order to offer an easier option for help.  It’s cheaper and easier to access (available online 24/7).  The program doesn’t require anyone to walk into a room full of people, which helps with shame.

The idea for The Abstinence Myth came as I was working on the IGNTD Recovery online course. It offers a super-simple first step for people who are struggling and not interested (or turned off by) traditional treatment approaches It’s a completely different way to tackle addiction.

3. With all the conflicting advice out there around addiction, how should parents change their view to better help their addicted child?

First of all, I would urge all parents to examine “why” their child is turning to the drugs/alcohol/etc. We place far too much emphasis on the behavior and not enough on the underlying reason.

This means that, by forcing your child to stop the problematic behavior, you are actually telling them that you don’t care about what they were trying to achieve.

For instance, if your child has started smoking marijuana because all of their friends do, by requiring them to stop you are telling them that you don’t care whether they fit in with their friends… Or at least this is what THEY interpret or perceive. THIS is the reason for so much resistance around addiction and recovery. Without addressing the “why” you cannot truly resolve the problem and you will build resistance.

Now, to be clear, addressing the “why” is definitely NOT always easy or simple. However, identifying it and explicitly making it part of the discussion will at least create a more realistic and potentially successful approach.

Imagine, in the above scenario, talking to your child about how you recognize that all of their friends smoke and that it’s hard to stick out… It begins an entirely different way of communicating about these issues.

4. Many parents struggle with feeling that they are doing too much for their kids, yet the idea of letting go or allowing them to hit rock bottom is disturbing as well.

Can you provide some insights on how parents can best help their teen or young adults who are struggling with addiction so they are not enabling, but also not letting go?

This is a wonderful question and one that comes up often. The world operates by natural consequences. Instead of the concept of “tough love” I like to simply talk to parents about loving their child enough to trust them even if they have to “skin their knees.”

I always make sure that the conversation is explicit and, in some instances, that an actual contract is drawn up. The important thing is to let our child know that you are there to support them, but not to protect them from all of the natural consequences of their action.

The thing is that, in the end, those consequences will come. I’ve worked with children of multi-billionaires who receive checks and loans worth millions simply to “kick the can” down the road. In the end, consequences will present themselves. It’s our job as parents to manage those as best we can.

5. In your dedication, you say, “To my parents for being there when I needed them the most…” What were some of the things your parents did to support you along the way that you remember as being the most helpful?

My parents and I were VERY distant during the 5 years that my drug use was at its worst. I avoided their calls, lied to them constantly and hid from them.

But when they received the call from my attorney and were told of everything that happened, they offered to support my legal fees (I could pay for a small amount of them) and pay for rehab.

They stuck very firmly to help me throughout the experience but without overdoing it – money for rent, but not spending money. Money for school, if I got a job and paid for food.

And they loved me through all of it, even as I got kicked out of one rehab and did things imperfectly. They also supported my departure from traditional recovery because we spoke about things openly and candidly.

Overall, the experience actually helped us create a stronger and more authentic relationship than we’d ever had. When my father passed 8 years ago, we were closer than we’d ever been. I am grateful for that.

6. What kept you going in your darkest hour that can give others hope?

Initially, it was certainly the desire to avoid more punishment and not disappointing my parents. Eventually, it developed into the need to help reduce the pain of others and help as many as I could.

I believe in finding a sense of purpose to make sure that you truly know that you are having an impact and following your path.

I’m so happy to have found my reason for waking up every morning!

Adi Jaffe, Ph.D. is a nationally recognized expert on mental health, addiction, and stigma. He lectures in the Psychology department at UCLA and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country.

Dr. Jaffe’s work and research focus on changing the way Americans think about and deal with mental health issues. He is passionate about the role of shame in destroying lives and aims to greatly reduce the stigma of mental health in this country. In this context, Dr. Jaffe has used his personal experience as an incredibly effective inspirational and motivational tool.

Dr. Jaffe attended UCLA, graduating with a B.A. in Psychology. It was during his undergraduate career that Adi began struggling with drug issues himself, eventually leading to a 4-year hiatus from studies and into the Los Angeles drug-dealing world where he became quite successful. During that period of his life, Adi’s days looked more like a re-enactment of a beatnik novel or a Quentin Tarantino film than the life of an upper-middle-class suburban kid. Following a SWAT team arrest in his apartment, and the extended court case and a year-long jail sentence, Adi began rebuilding his life. This eventually led to his attainment of a Ph.D. from UCLA’s top-rated doctoral program in psychology, where he graduated with honors. Even before he graduated Dr. Jaffe’s name had become known through his online and academic writing. His views on addiction and his research on the topic have been published in dozens of journals and online publications and he has appeared on numerous television shows and documentaries discussing current topics in addiction and the problem of addiction as a whole.

Adi’s debut book, The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction With Shame, Judgment Or Rules is launching in August 2018 where he challenges the current recovery system and discusses his own non-traditional approach. His goal is to help others overcome addiction without shame, judgment or rules.

Adi currently resides in Los Angeles with his wife, Sophie, their three children and their dog. Adi and Sophie are both running individual wellness businesses from their home. Sophie owns her own superfood company called Philosophie and together they host a podcast, IGNTD, where they explore all things relationships. Together they serve as daily inspiration for millions of readers and followers.

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An Interview with Dr. Adi Jaffe, author of The Abstinence Myth

Recently I read Dr. Jaffe’s new book, The Abstinence Myth.

I found Dr. Jaffe’s alternative recovery approach refreshing and so needed.

Only you have the power to understand yourself and where you want to go. Only you know if you really have what it takes to beat addiction down. ~ Dr. Adi Jaffe

This is a book that would appeal to people who are interested in moving away from the black-and-white thinking of abstinence versus non-abstinence, which can hold people back from getting help.

The Abstinence Myth shares stories of Dr. Jaffe’s own journey as well as others. He explains the process of his 9-step IGNTD Recovery program which is an important piece of the book and offers a more inclusive way to get recovery support.

Welcome, Dr. Jaffe!

1. Please introduce yourself and briefly explain how you decided to work in the addiction field?

My name is Adi Jaffe. I am an addiction expert who got his start in the field through personal experience with drugs and alcohol followed by a return to school. I received my Ph.D.from UCLA’s psychology program to study addiction and figure out what happened.

My mission is to help at least 1,000,000 people beat their addiction!

2. What inspired you to write The Abstinence Myth and to create IGNTD Recovery?

After school and research, I opened up my own treatment center – Alternatives. When I studied and researched addiction I was appalled by the fact that only 10% of those who need help end up getting it. So I set out to change that.

I had studied the barriers or the things that were keeping people out. I thought that offering a non-abstinence treatment center would do the trick. Unfortunately, while we did very well with the clients we served (and published a lot of research on our success in the process). The treatment was still expensive and the logistics of getting to us (taking time off of work, letting people know you needed treatment) still made it too difficult.

I started IGNTD Recovery when Alternatives closed in order to offer an easier option for help.  It’s cheaper and easier to access (available online 24/7).  The program doesn’t require anyone to walk into a room full of people, which helps with shame.

The idea for The Abstinence Myth came as I was working on the IGNTD Recovery online course. It offers a super-simple first step for people who are struggling and not interested (or turned off by) traditional treatment approaches It’s a completely different way to tackle addiction.

3. With all the conflicting advice out there around addiction, how should parents change their view to better help their addicted child?

First of all, I would urge all parents to examine “why” their child is turning to the drugs/alcohol/etc. We place far too much emphasis on the behavior and not enough on the underlying reason.

This means that, by forcing your child to stop the problematic behavior, you are actually telling them that you don’t care about what they were trying to achieve.

For instance, if your child has started smoking marijuana because all of their friends do, by requiring them to stop you are telling them that you don’t care whether they fit in with their friends… Or at least this is what THEY interpret or perceive. THIS is the reason for so much resistance around addiction and recovery. Without addressing the “why” you cannot truly resolve the problem and you will build resistance.

Now, to be clear, addressing the “why” is definitely NOT always easy or simple. However, identifying it and explicitly making it part of the discussion will at least create a more realistic and potentially successful approach.

Imagine, in the above scenario, talking to your child about how you recognize that all of their friends smoke and that it’s hard to stick out… It begins an entirely different way of communicating about these issues.

4. Many parents struggle with feeling that they are doing too much for their kids, yet the idea of letting go or allowing them to hit rock bottom is disturbing as well.

Can you provide some insights on how parents can best help their teen or young adults who are struggling with addiction so they are not enabling, but also not letting go?

This is a wonderful question and one that comes up often. The world operates by natural consequences. Instead of the concept of “tough love” I like to simply talk to parents about loving their child enough to trust them even if they have to “skin their knees.”

I always make sure that the conversation is explicit and, in some instances, that an actual contract is drawn up. The important thing is to let our child know that you are there to support them, but not to protect them from all of the natural consequences of their action.

The thing is that, in the end, those consequences will come. I’ve worked with children of multi-billionaires who receive checks and loans worth millions simply to “kick the can” down the road. In the end, consequences will present themselves. It’s our job as parents to manage those as best we can.

5. In your dedication, you say, “To my parents for being there when I needed them the most…” What were some of the things your parents did to support you along the way that you remember as being the most helpful?

My parents and I were VERY distant during the 5 years that my drug use was at its worst. I avoided their calls, lied to them constantly and hid from them.

But when they received the call from my attorney and were told of everything that happened, they offered to support my legal fees (I could pay for a small amount of them) and pay for rehab.

They stuck very firmly to help me throughout the experience but without overdoing it – money for rent, but not spending money. Money for school, if I got a job and paid for food.

And they loved me through all of it, even as I got kicked out of one rehab and did things imperfectly. They also supported my departure from traditional recovery because we spoke about things openly and candidly.

Overall, the experience actually helped us create a stronger and more authentic relationship than we’d ever had. When my father passed 8 years ago, we were closer than we’d ever been. I am grateful for that.

6. What kept you going in your darkest hour that can give others hope?

Initially, it was certainly the desire to avoid more punishment and not disappointing my parents. Eventually, it developed into the need to help reduce the pain of others and help as many as I could.

I believe in finding a sense of purpose to make sure that you truly know that you are having an impact and following your path.

I’m so happy to have found my reason for waking up every morning!

Adi Jaffe, Ph.D. is a nationally recognized expert on mental health, addiction, and stigma. He lectures in the Psychology department at UCLA and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country.

Dr. Jaffe’s work and research focus on changing the way Americans think about and deal with mental health issues. He is passionate about the role of shame in destroying lives and aims to greatly reduce the stigma of mental health in this country. In this context, Dr. Jaffe has used his personal experience as an incredibly effective inspirational and motivational tool.

Dr. Jaffe attended UCLA, graduating with a B.A. in Psychology. It was during his undergraduate career that Adi began struggling with drug issues himself, eventually leading to a 4-year hiatus from studies and into the Los Angeles drug-dealing world where he became quite successful. During that period of his life, Adi’s days looked more like a re-enactment of a beatnik novel or a Quentin Tarantino film than the life of an upper-middle-class suburban kid. Following a SWAT team arrest in his apartment, and the extended court case and a year-long jail sentence, Adi began rebuilding his life. This eventually led to his attainment of a Ph.D. from UCLA’s top-rated doctoral program in psychology, where he graduated with honors. Even before he graduated Dr. Jaffe’s name had become known through his online and academic writing. His views on addiction and his research on the topic have been published in dozens of journals and online publications and he has appeared on numerous television shows and documentaries discussing current topics in addiction and the problem of addiction as a whole.

Adi’s debut book, The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction With Shame, Judgment Or Rules is launching in August 2018 where he challenges the current recovery system and discusses his own non-traditional approach. His goal is to help others overcome addiction without shame, judgment or rules.

Adi currently resides in Los Angeles with his wife, Sophie, their three children and their dog. Adi and Sophie are both running individual wellness businesses from their home. Sophie owns her own superfood company called Philosophie and together they host a podcast, IGNTD, where they explore all things relationships. Together they serve as daily inspiration for millions of readers and followers.

  from Drug Rehab Treatment Near Me https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/an-interview-with-dr-adi-jaffe-author-of-the-abstinence-myth/

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An Interview with Dr. Adi Jaffe, author of The Abstinence Myth

Recently I read Dr. Jaffe’s new book, The Abstinence Myth.

I found Dr. Jaffe’s alternative recovery approach refreshing and so needed.

Only you have the power to understand yourself and where you want to go. Only you know if you really have what it takes to beat addiction down. ~ Dr. Adi Jaffe

This is a book that would appeal to people who are interested in moving away from the black-and-white thinking of abstinence versus non-abstinence, which can hold people back from getting help.

The Abstinence Myth shares stories of Dr. Jaffe’s own journey as well as others. He explains the process of his 9-step IGNTD Recovery program which is an important piece of the book and offers a more inclusive way to get recovery support.

Welcome, Dr. Jaffe!

1. Please introduce yourself and briefly explain how you decided to work in the addiction field?

My name is Adi Jaffe. I am an addiction expert who got his start in the field through personal experience with drugs and alcohol followed by a return to school. I received my Ph.D.from UCLA’s psychology program to study addiction and figure out what happened.

My mission is to help at least 1,000,000 people beat their addiction!

2. What inspired you to write The Abstinence Myth and to create IGNTD Recovery?

After school and research, I opened up my own treatment center – Alternatives. When I studied and researched addiction I was appalled by the fact that only 10% of those who need help end up getting it. So I set out to change that.

I had studied the barriers or the things that were keeping people out. I thought that offering a non-abstinence treatment center would do the trick. Unfortunately, while we did very well with the clients we served (and published a lot of research on our success in the process). The treatment was still expensive and the logistics of getting to us (taking time off of work, letting people know you needed treatment) still made it too difficult.

I started IGNTD Recovery when Alternatives closed in order to offer an easier option for help.  It’s cheaper and easier to access (available online 24/7).  The program doesn’t require anyone to walk into a room full of people, which helps with shame.

The idea for The Abstinence Myth came as I was working on the IGNTD Recovery online course. It offers a super-simple first step for people who are struggling and not interested (or turned off by) traditional treatment approaches It’s a completely different way to tackle addiction.

3. With all the conflicting advice out there around addiction, how should parents change their view to better help their addicted child?

First of all, I would urge all parents to examine “why” their child is turning to the drugs/alcohol/etc. We place far too much emphasis on the behavior and not enough on the underlying reason.

This means that, by forcing your child to stop the problematic behavior, you are actually telling them that you don’t care about what they were trying to achieve.

For instance, if your child has started smoking marijuana because all of their friends do, by requiring them to stop you are telling them that you don’t care whether they fit in with their friends… Or at least this is what THEY interpret or perceive. THIS is the reason for so much resistance around addiction and recovery. Without addressing the “why” you cannot truly resolve the problem and you will build resistance.

Now, to be clear, addressing the “why” is definitely NOT always easy or simple. However, identifying it and explicitly making it part of the discussion will at least create a more realistic and potentially successful approach.

Imagine, in the above scenario, talking to your child about how you recognize that all of their friends smoke and that it’s hard to stick out… It begins an entirely different way of communicating about these issues.

4. Many parents struggle with feeling that they are doing too much for their kids, yet the idea of letting go or allowing them to hit rock bottom is disturbing as well.

Can you provide some insights on how parents can best help their teen or young adults who are struggling with addiction so they are not enabling, but also not letting go?

This is a wonderful question and one that comes up often. The world operates by natural consequences. Instead of the concept of “tough love” I like to simply talk to parents about loving their child enough to trust them even if they have to “skin their knees.”

I always make sure that the conversation is explicit and, in some instances, that an actual contract is drawn up. The important thing is to let our child know that you are there to support them, but not to protect them from all of the natural consequences of their action.

The thing is that, in the end, those consequences will come. I’ve worked with children of multi-billionaires who receive checks and loans worth millions simply to “kick the can” down the road. In the end, consequences will present themselves. It’s our job as parents to manage those as best we can.

5. In your dedication, you say, “To my parents for being there when I needed them the most…” What were some of the things your parents did to support you along the way that you remember as being the most helpful?

My parents and I were VERY distant during the 5 years that my drug use was at its worst. I avoided their calls, lied to them constantly and hid from them.

But when they received the call from my attorney and were told of everything that happened, they offered to support my legal fees (I could pay for a small amount of them) and pay for rehab.

They stuck very firmly to help me throughout the experience but without overdoing it – money for rent, but not spending money. Money for school, if I got a job and paid for food.

And they loved me through all of it, even as I got kicked out of one rehab and did things imperfectly. They also supported my departure from traditional recovery because we spoke about things openly and candidly.

Overall, the experience actually helped us create a stronger and more authentic relationship than we’d ever had. When my father passed 8 years ago, we were closer than we’d ever been. I am grateful for that.

6. What kept you going in your darkest hour that can give others hope?

Initially, it was certainly the desire to avoid more punishment and not disappointing my parents. Eventually, it developed into the need to help reduce the pain of others and help as many as I could.

I believe in finding a sense of purpose to make sure that you truly know that you are having an impact and following your path.

I’m so happy to have found my reason for waking up every morning!

Adi Jaffe, Ph.D. is a nationally recognized expert on mental health, addiction, and stigma. He lectures in the Psychology department at UCLA and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country.

Dr. Jaffe’s work and research focus on changing the way Americans think about and deal with mental health issues. He is passionate about the role of shame in destroying lives and aims to greatly reduce the stigma of mental health in this country. In this context, Dr. Jaffe has used his personal experience as an incredibly effective inspirational and motivational tool.

Dr. Jaffe attended UCLA, graduating with a B.A. in Psychology. It was during his undergraduate career that Adi began struggling with drug issues himself, eventually leading to a 4-year hiatus from studies and into the Los Angeles drug-dealing world where he became quite successful. During that period of his life, Adi’s days looked more like a re-enactment of a beatnik novel or a Quentin Tarantino film than the life of an upper-middle-class suburban kid. Following a SWAT team arrest in his apartment, and the extended court case and a year-long jail sentence, Adi began rebuilding his life. This eventually led to his attainment of a Ph.D. from UCLA’s top-rated doctoral program in psychology, where he graduated with honors. Even before he graduated Dr. Jaffe’s name had become known through his online and academic writing. His views on addiction and his research on the topic have been published in dozens of journals and online publications and he has appeared on numerous television shows and documentaries discussing current topics in addiction and the problem of addiction as a whole.

Adi’s debut book, The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction With Shame, Judgment Or Rules is launching in August 2018 where he challenges the current recovery system and discusses his own non-traditional approach. His goal is to help others overcome addiction without shame, judgment or rules.

Adi currently resides in Los Angeles with his wife, Sophie, their three children and their dog. Adi and Sophie are both running individual wellness businesses from their home. Sophie owns her own superfood company called Philosophie and together they host a podcast, IGNTD, where they explore all things relationships. Together they serve as daily inspiration for millions of readers and followers.

  from Drug Rehab Treatment Near Me https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/an-interview-with-dr-adi-jaffe-author-of-the-abstinence-myth/

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An Interview with Dr. Adi Jaffe, author of The Abstinence Myth

Recently I read Dr. Jaffe’s new book, The Abstinence Myth.

I found Dr. Jaffe’s alternative recovery approach refreshing and so needed.

Only you have the power to understand yourself and where you want to go. Only you know if you really have what it takes to beat addiction down. ~ Dr. Adi Jaffe

This is a book that would appeal to people who are interested in moving away from the black-and-white thinking of abstinence versus non-abstinence, which can hold people back from getting help.

The Abstinence Myth shares stories of Dr. Jaffe’s own journey as well as others. He explains the process of his 9-step IGNTD Recovery program which is an important piece of the book and offers a more inclusive way to get recovery support.

Welcome, Dr. Jaffe!

1. Please introduce yourself and briefly explain how you decided to work in the addiction field?

My name is Adi Jaffe. I am an addiction expert who got his start in the field through personal experience with drugs and alcohol followed by a return to school. I received my Ph.D.from UCLA’s psychology program to study addiction and figure out what happened.

My mission is to help at least 1,000,000 people beat their addiction!

2. What inspired you to write The Abstinence Myth and to create IGNTD Recovery?

After school and research, I opened up my own treatment center – Alternatives. When I studied and researched addiction I was appalled by the fact that only 10% of those who need help end up getting it. So I set out to change that.

I had studied the barriers or the things that were keeping people out. I thought that offering a non-abstinence treatment center would do the trick. Unfortunately, while we did very well with the clients we served (and published a lot of research on our success in the process). The treatment was still expensive and the logistics of getting to us (taking time off of work, letting people know you needed treatment) still made it too difficult.

I started IGNTD Recovery when Alternatives closed in order to offer an easier option for help.  It’s cheaper and easier to access (available online 24/7).  The program doesn’t require anyone to walk into a room full of people, which helps with shame.

The idea for The Abstinence Myth came as I was working on the IGNTD Recovery online course. It offers a super-simple first step for people who are struggling and not interested (or turned off by) traditional treatment approaches It’s a completely different way to tackle addiction.

3. With all the conflicting advice out there around addiction, how should parents change their view to better help their addicted child?

First of all, I would urge all parents to examine “why” their child is turning to the drugs/alcohol/etc. We place far too much emphasis on the behavior and not enough on the underlying reason.

This means that, by forcing your child to stop the problematic behavior, you are actually telling them that you don’t care about what they were trying to achieve.

For instance, if your child has started smoking marijuana because all of their friends do, by requiring them to stop you are telling them that you don’t care whether they fit in with their friends… Or at least this is what THEY interpret or perceive. THIS is the reason for so much resistance around addiction and recovery. Without addressing the “why” you cannot truly resolve the problem and you will build resistance.

Now, to be clear, addressing the “why” is definitely NOT always easy or simple. However, identifying it and explicitly making it part of the discussion will at least create a more realistic and potentially successful approach.

Imagine, in the above scenario, talking to your child about how you recognize that all of their friends smoke and that it’s hard to stick out… It begins an entirely different way of communicating about these issues.

4. Many parents struggle with feeling that they are doing too much for their kids, yet the idea of letting go or allowing them to hit rock bottom is disturbing as well.

Can you provide some insights on how parents can best help their teen or young adults who are struggling with addiction so they are not enabling, but also not letting go?

This is a wonderful question and one that comes up often. The world operates by natural consequences. Instead of the concept of “tough love” I like to simply talk to parents about loving their child enough to trust them even if they have to “skin their knees.”

I always make sure that the conversation is explicit and, in some instances, that an actual contract is drawn up. The important thing is to let our child know that you are there to support them, but not to protect them from all of the natural consequences of their action.

The thing is that, in the end, those consequences will come. I’ve worked with children of multi-billionaires who receive checks and loans worth millions simply to “kick the can” down the road. In the end, consequences will present themselves. It’s our job as parents to manage those as best we can.

5. In your dedication, you say, “To my parents for being there when I needed them the most…” What were some of the things your parents did to support you along the way that you remember as being the most helpful?

My parents and I were VERY distant during the 5 years that my drug use was at its worst. I avoided their calls, lied to them constantly and hid from them.

But when they received the call from my attorney and were told of everything that happened, they offered to support my legal fees (I could pay for a small amount of them) and pay for rehab.

They stuck very firmly to help me throughout the experience but without overdoing it – money for rent, but not spending money. Money for school, if I got a job and paid for food.

And they loved me through all of it, even as I got kicked out of one rehab and did things imperfectly. They also supported my departure from traditional recovery because we spoke about things openly and candidly.

Overall, the experience actually helped us create a stronger and more authentic relationship than we’d ever had. When my father passed 8 years ago, we were closer than we’d ever been. I am grateful for that.

6. What kept you going in your darkest hour that can give others hope?

Initially, it was certainly the desire to avoid more punishment and not disappointing my parents. Eventually, it developed into the need to help reduce the pain of others and help as many as I could.

I believe in finding a sense of purpose to make sure that you truly know that you are having an impact and following your path.

I’m so happy to have found my reason for waking up every morning!

Adi Jaffe, Ph.D. is a nationally recognized expert on mental health, addiction, and stigma. He lectures in the Psychology department at UCLA and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country.

Dr. Jaffe’s work and research focus on changing the way Americans think about and deal with mental health issues. He is passionate about the role of shame in destroying lives and aims to greatly reduce the stigma of mental health in this country. In this context, Dr. Jaffe has used his personal experience as an incredibly effective inspirational and motivational tool.

Dr. Jaffe attended UCLA, graduating with a B.A. in Psychology. It was during his undergraduate career that Adi began struggling with drug issues himself, eventually leading to a 4-year hiatus from studies and into the Los Angeles drug-dealing world where he became quite successful. During that period of his life, Adi’s days looked more like a re-enactment of a beatnik novel or a Quentin Tarantino film than the life of an upper-middle-class suburban kid. Following a SWAT team arrest in his apartment, and the extended court case and a year-long jail sentence, Adi began rebuilding his life. This eventually led to his attainment of a Ph.D. from UCLA’s top-rated doctoral program in psychology, where he graduated with honors. Even before he graduated Dr. Jaffe’s name had become known through his online and academic writing. His views on addiction and his research on the topic have been published in dozens of journals and online publications and he has appeared on numerous television shows and documentaries discussing current topics in addiction and the problem of addiction as a whole.

Adi’s debut book, The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction With Shame, Judgment Or Rules is launching in August 2018 where he challenges the current recovery system and discusses his own non-traditional approach. His goal is to help others overcome addiction without shame, judgment or rules.

Adi currently resides in Los Angeles with his wife, Sophie, their three children and their dog. Adi and Sophie are both running individual wellness businesses from their home. Sophie owns her own superfood company called Philosophie and together they host a podcast, IGNTD, where they explore all things relationships. Together they serve as daily inspiration for millions of readers and followers.

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An Interview with Dr. Adi Jaffe, author of The Abstinence Myth

Recently I read Dr. Jaffe’s new book, The Abstinence Myth.

I found Dr. Jaffe’s alternative recovery approach refreshing and so needed.

Only you have the power to understand yourself and where you want to go. Only you know if you really have what it takes to beat addiction down. ~ Dr. Adi Jaffe

This is a book that would appeal to people who are interested in moving away from the black-and-white thinking of abstinence versus non-abstinence, which can hold people back from getting help.

The Abstinence Myth shares stories of Dr. Jaffe’s own journey as well as others. He explains the process of his 9-step IGNTD Recovery program which is an important piece of the book and offers a more inclusive way to get recovery support.

Welcome, Dr. Jaffe!

1. Please introduce yourself and briefly explain how you decided to work in the addiction field?

My name is Adi Jaffe. I am an addiction expert who got his start in the field through personal experience with drugs and alcohol followed by a return to school. I received my Ph.D.from UCLA’s psychology program to study addiction and figure out what happened.

My mission is to help at least 1,000,000 people beat their addiction!

2. What inspired you to write The Abstinence Myth and to create IGNTD Recovery?

After school and research, I opened up my own treatment center – Alternatives. When I studied and researched addiction I was appalled by the fact that only 10% of those who need help end up getting it. So I set out to change that.

I had studied the barriers or the things that were keeping people out. I thought that offering a non-abstinence treatment center would do the trick. Unfortunately, while we did very well with the clients we served (and published a lot of research on our success in the process). The treatment was still expensive and the logistics of getting to us (taking time off of work, letting people know you needed treatment) still made it too difficult.

I started IGNTD Recovery when Alternatives closed in order to offer an easier option for help.  It’s cheaper and easier to access (available online 24/7).  The program doesn’t require anyone to walk into a room full of people, which helps with shame.

The idea for The Abstinence Myth came as I was working on the IGNTD Recovery online course. It offers a super-simple first step for people who are struggling and not interested (or turned off by) traditional treatment approaches It’s a completely different way to tackle addiction.

3. With all the conflicting advice out there around addiction, how should parents change their view to better help their addicted child?

First of all, I would urge all parents to examine “why” their child is turning to the drugs/alcohol/etc. We place far too much emphasis on the behavior and not enough on the underlying reason.

This means that, by forcing your child to stop the problematic behavior, you are actually telling them that you don’t care about what they were trying to achieve.

For instance, if your child has started smoking marijuana because all of their friends do, by requiring them to stop you are telling them that you don’t care whether they fit in with their friends… Or at least this is what THEY interpret or perceive. THIS is the reason for so much resistance around addiction and recovery. Without addressing the “why” you cannot truly resolve the problem and you will build resistance.

Now, to be clear, addressing the “why” is definitely NOT always easy or simple. However, identifying it and explicitly making it part of the discussion will at least create a more realistic and potentially successful approach.

Imagine, in the above scenario, talking to your child about how you recognize that all of their friends smoke and that it’s hard to stick out… It begins an entirely different way of communicating about these issues.

4. Many parents struggle with feeling that they are doing too much for their kids, yet the idea of letting go or allowing them to hit rock bottom is disturbing as well.

Can you provide some insights on how parents can best help their teen or young adults who are struggling with addiction so they are not enabling, but also not letting go?

This is a wonderful question and one that comes up often. The world operates by natural consequences. Instead of the concept of “tough love” I like to simply talk to parents about loving their child enough to trust them even if they have to “skin their knees.”

I always make sure that the conversation is explicit and, in some instances, that an actual contract is drawn up. The important thing is to let our child know that you are there to support them, but not to protect them from all of the natural consequences of their action.

The thing is that, in the end, those consequences will come. I’ve worked with children of multi-billionaires who receive checks and loans worth millions simply to “kick the can” down the road. In the end, consequences will present themselves. It’s our job as parents to manage those as best we can.

5. In your dedication, you say, “To my parents for being there when I needed them the most…” What were some of the things your parents did to support you along the way that you remember as being the most helpful?

My parents and I were VERY distant during the 5 years that my drug use was at its worst. I avoided their calls, lied to them constantly and hid from them.

But when they received the call from my attorney and were told of everything that happened, they offered to support my legal fees (I could pay for a small amount of them) and pay for rehab.

They stuck very firmly to help me throughout the experience but without overdoing it – money for rent, but not spending money. Money for school, if I got a job and paid for food.

And they loved me through all of it, even as I got kicked out of one rehab and did things imperfectly. They also supported my departure from traditional recovery because we spoke about things openly and candidly.

Overall, the experience actually helped us create a stronger and more authentic relationship than we’d ever had. When my father passed 8 years ago, we were closer than we’d ever been. I am grateful for that.

6. What kept you going in your darkest hour that can give others hope?

Initially, it was certainly the desire to avoid more punishment and not disappointing my parents. Eventually, it developed into the need to help reduce the pain of others and help as many as I could.

I believe in finding a sense of purpose to make sure that you truly know that you are having an impact and following your path.

I’m so happy to have found my reason for waking up every morning!

Adi Jaffe, Ph.D. is a nationally recognized expert on mental health, addiction, and stigma. He lectures in the Psychology department at UCLA and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country.

Dr. Jaffe’s work and research focus on changing the way Americans think about and deal with mental health issues. He is passionate about the role of shame in destroying lives and aims to greatly reduce the stigma of mental health in this country. In this context, Dr. Jaffe has used his personal experience as an incredibly effective inspirational and motivational tool.

Dr. Jaffe attended UCLA, graduating with a B.A. in Psychology. It was during his undergraduate career that Adi began struggling with drug issues himself, eventually leading to a 4-year hiatus from studies and into the Los Angeles drug-dealing world where he became quite successful. During that period of his life, Adi’s days looked more like a re-enactment of a beatnik novel or a Quentin Tarantino film than the life of an upper-middle-class suburban kid. Following a SWAT team arrest in his apartment, and the extended court case and a year-long jail sentence, Adi began rebuilding his life. This eventually led to his attainment of a Ph.D. from UCLA’s top-rated doctoral program in psychology, where he graduated with honors. Even before he graduated Dr. Jaffe’s name had become known through his online and academic writing. His views on addiction and his research on the topic have been published in dozens of journals and online publications and he has appeared on numerous television shows and documentaries discussing current topics in addiction and the problem of addiction as a whole.

Adi’s debut book, The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction With Shame, Judgment Or Rules is launching in August 2018 where he challenges the current recovery system and discusses his own non-traditional approach. His goal is to help others overcome addiction without shame, judgment or rules.

Adi currently resides in Los Angeles with his wife, Sophie, their three children and their dog. Adi and Sophie are both running individual wellness businesses from their home. Sophie owns her own superfood company called Philosophie and together they host a podcast, IGNTD, where they explore all things relationships. Together they serve as daily inspiration for millions of readers and followers.

  from Drug Rehab Treatment Near Me https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/an-interview-with-dr-adi-jaffe-author-of-the-abstinence-myth/

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An Interview with Dr. Adi Jaffe, author of The Abstinence Myth

Recently I read Dr. Jaffe’s new book, The Abstinence Myth.

I found Dr. Jaffe’s alternative recovery approach refreshing and so needed.

Only you have the power to understand yourself and where you want to go. Only you know if you really have what it takes to beat addiction down. ~ Dr. Adi Jaffe

This is a book that would appeal to people who are interested in moving away from the black-and-white thinking of abstinence versus non-abstinence, which can hold people back from getting help.

The Abstinence Myth shares stories of Dr. Jaffe’s own journey as well as others. He explains the process of his 9-step IGNTD Recovery program which is an important piece of the book and offers a more inclusive way to get recovery support.

Welcome, Dr. Jaffe!

1. Please introduce yourself and briefly explain how you decided to work in the addiction field?

My name is Adi Jaffe. I am an addiction expert who got his start in the field through personal experience with drugs and alcohol followed by a return to school. I received my Ph.D.from UCLA’s psychology program to study addiction and figure out what happened.

My mission is to help at least 1,000,000 people beat their addiction!

2. What inspired you to write The Abstinence Myth and to create IGNTD Recovery?

After school and research, I opened up my own treatment center – Alternatives. When I studied and researched addiction I was appalled by the fact that only 10% of those who need help end up getting it. So I set out to change that.

I had studied the barriers or the things that were keeping people out. I thought that offering a non-abstinence treatment center would do the trick. Unfortunately, while we did very well with the clients we served (and published a lot of research on our success in the process). The treatment was still expensive and the logistics of getting to us (taking time off of work, letting people know you needed treatment) still made it too difficult.

I started IGNTD Recovery when Alternatives closed in order to offer an easier option for help.  It’s cheaper and easier to access (available online 24/7).  The program doesn’t require anyone to walk into a room full of people, which helps with shame.

The idea for The Abstinence Myth came as I was working on the IGNTD Recovery online course. It offers a super-simple first step for people who are struggling and not interested (or turned off by) traditional treatment approaches It’s a completely different way to tackle addiction.

3. With all the conflicting advice out there around addiction, how should parents change their view to better help their addicted child?

First of all, I would urge all parents to examine “why” their child is turning to the drugs/alcohol/etc. We place far too much emphasis on the behavior and not enough on the underlying reason.

This means that, by forcing your child to stop the problematic behavior, you are actually telling them that you don’t care about what they were trying to achieve.

For instance, if your child has started smoking marijuana because all of their friends do, by requiring them to stop you are telling them that you don’t care whether they fit in with their friends… Or at least this is what THEY interpret or perceive. THIS is the reason for so much resistance around addiction and recovery. Without addressing the “why” you cannot truly resolve the problem and you will build resistance.

Now, to be clear, addressing the “why” is definitely NOT always easy or simple. However, identifying it and explicitly making it part of the discussion will at least create a more realistic and potentially successful approach.

Imagine, in the above scenario, talking to your child about how you recognize that all of their friends smoke and that it’s hard to stick out… It begins an entirely different way of communicating about these issues.

4. Many parents struggle with feeling that they are doing too much for their kids, yet the idea of letting go or allowing them to hit rock bottom is disturbing as well.

Can you provide some insights on how parents can best help their teen or young adults who are struggling with addiction so they are not enabling, but also not letting go?

This is a wonderful question and one that comes up often. The world operates by natural consequences. Instead of the concept of “tough love” I like to simply talk to parents about loving their child enough to trust them even if they have to “skin their knees.”

I always make sure that the conversation is explicit and, in some instances, that an actual contract is drawn up. The important thing is to let our child know that you are there to support them, but not to protect them from all of the natural consequences of their action.

The thing is that, in the end, those consequences will come. I’ve worked with children of multi-billionaires who receive checks and loans worth millions simply to “kick the can” down the road. In the end, consequences will present themselves. It’s our job as parents to manage those as best we can.

5. In your dedication, you say, “To my parents for being there when I needed them the most…” What were some of the things your parents did to support you along the way that you remember as being the most helpful?

My parents and I were VERY distant during the 5 years that my drug use was at its worst. I avoided their calls, lied to them constantly and hid from them.

But when they received the call from my attorney and were told of everything that happened, they offered to support my legal fees (I could pay for a small amount of them) and pay for rehab.

They stuck very firmly to help me throughout the experience but without overdoing it – money for rent, but not spending money. Money for school, if I got a job and paid for food.

And they loved me through all of it, even as I got kicked out of one rehab and did things imperfectly. They also supported my departure from traditional recovery because we spoke about things openly and candidly.

Overall, the experience actually helped us create a stronger and more authentic relationship than we’d ever had. When my father passed 8 years ago, we were closer than we’d ever been. I am grateful for that.

6. What kept you going in your darkest hour that can give others hope?

Initially, it was certainly the desire to avoid more punishment and not disappointing my parents. Eventually, it developed into the need to help reduce the pain of others and help as many as I could.

I believe in finding a sense of purpose to make sure that you truly know that you are having an impact and following your path.

I’m so happy to have found my reason for waking up every morning!

Adi Jaffe, Ph.D. is a nationally recognized expert on mental health, addiction, and stigma. He lectures in the Psychology department at UCLA and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country.

Dr. Jaffe’s work and research focus on changing the way Americans think about and deal with mental health issues. He is passionate about the role of shame in destroying lives and aims to greatly reduce the stigma of mental health in this country. In this context, Dr. Jaffe has used his personal experience as an incredibly effective inspirational and motivational tool.

Dr. Jaffe attended UCLA, graduating with a B.A. in Psychology. It was during his undergraduate career that Adi began struggling with drug issues himself, eventually leading to a 4-year hiatus from studies and into the Los Angeles drug-dealing world where he became quite successful. During that period of his life, Adi’s days looked more like a re-enactment of a beatnik novel or a Quentin Tarantino film than the life of an upper-middle-class suburban kid. Following a SWAT team arrest in his apartment, and the extended court case and a year-long jail sentence, Adi began rebuilding his life. This eventually led to his attainment of a Ph.D. from UCLA’s top-rated doctoral program in psychology, where he graduated with honors. Even before he graduated Dr. Jaffe’s name had become known through his online and academic writing. His views on addiction and his research on the topic have been published in dozens of journals and online publications and he has appeared on numerous television shows and documentaries discussing current topics in addiction and the problem of addiction as a whole.

Adi’s debut book, The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction With Shame, Judgment Or Rules is launching in August 2018 where he challenges the current recovery system and discusses his own non-traditional approach. His goal is to help others overcome addiction without shame, judgment or rules.

Adi currently resides in Los Angeles with his wife, Sophie, their three children and their dog. Adi and Sophie are both running individual wellness businesses from their home. Sophie owns her own superfood company called Philosophie and together they host a podcast, IGNTD, where they explore all things relationships. Together they serve as daily inspiration for millions of readers and followers.

  from Drug Rehab Treatment Near Me https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/an-interview-with-dr-adi-jaffe-author-of-the-abstinence-myth/

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An Interview with Dr. Adi Jaffe, author of The Abstinence Myth

Recently I read Dr. Jaffe’s new book, The Abstinence Myth.

I found Dr. Jaffe’s alternative recovery approach refreshing and so needed.

Only you have the power to understand yourself and where you want to go. Only you know if you really have what it takes to beat addiction down. ~ Dr. Adi Jaffe

This is a book that would appeal to people who are interested in moving away from the black-and-white thinking of abstinence versus non-abstinence, which can hold people back from getting help.

The Abstinence Myth shares stories of Dr. Jaffe’s own journey as well as others. He explains the process of his 9-step IGNTD Recovery program which is an important piece of the book and offers a more inclusive way to get recovery support.

Welcome, Dr. Jaffe!

1. Please introduce yourself and briefly explain how you decided to work in the addiction field?

My name is Adi Jaffe. I am an addiction expert who got his start in the field through personal experience with drugs and alcohol followed by a return to school. I received my Ph.D.from UCLA’s psychology program to study addiction and figure out what happened.

My mission is to help at least 1,000,000 people beat their addiction!

2. What inspired you to write The Abstinence Myth and to create IGNTD Recovery?

After school and research, I opened up my own treatment center – Alternatives. When I studied and researched addiction I was appalled by the fact that only 10% of those who need help end up getting it. So I set out to change that.

I had studied the barriers or the things that were keeping people out. I thought that offering a non-abstinence treatment center would do the trick. Unfortunately, while we did very well with the clients we served (and published a lot of research on our success in the process). The treatment was still expensive and the logistics of getting to us (taking time off of work, letting people know you needed treatment) still made it too difficult.

I started IGNTD Recovery when Alternatives closed in order to offer an easier option for help.  It’s cheaper and easier to access (available online 24/7).  The program doesn’t require anyone to walk into a room full of people, which helps with shame.

The idea for The Abstinence Myth came as I was working on the IGNTD Recovery online course. It offers a super-simple first step for people who are struggling and not interested (or turned off by) traditional treatment approaches It’s a completely different way to tackle addiction.

3. With all the conflicting advice out there around addiction, how should parents change their view to better help their addicted child?

First of all, I would urge all parents to examine “why” their child is turning to the drugs/alcohol/etc. We place far too much emphasis on the behavior and not enough on the underlying reason.

This means that, by forcing your child to stop the problematic behavior, you are actually telling them that you don’t care about what they were trying to achieve.

For instance, if your child has started smoking marijuana because all of their friends do, by requiring them to stop you are telling them that you don’t care whether they fit in with their friends… Or at least this is what THEY interpret or perceive. THIS is the reason for so much resistance around addiction and recovery. Without addressing the “why” you cannot truly resolve the problem and you will build resistance.

Now, to be clear, addressing the “why” is definitely NOT always easy or simple. However, identifying it and explicitly making it part of the discussion will at least create a more realistic and potentially successful approach.

Imagine, in the above scenario, talking to your child about how you recognize that all of their friends smoke and that it’s hard to stick out… It begins an entirely different way of communicating about these issues.

4. Many parents struggle with feeling that they are doing too much for their kids, yet the idea of letting go or allowing them to hit rock bottom is disturbing as well.

Can you provide some insights on how parents can best help their teen or young adults who are struggling with addiction so they are not enabling, but also not letting go?

This is a wonderful question and one that comes up often. The world operates by natural consequences. Instead of the concept of “tough love” I like to simply talk to parents about loving their child enough to trust them even if they have to “skin their knees.”

I always make sure that the conversation is explicit and, in some instances, that an actual contract is drawn up. The important thing is to let our child know that you are there to support them, but not to protect them from all of the natural consequences of their action.

The thing is that, in the end, those consequences will come. I’ve worked with children of multi-billionaires who receive checks and loans worth millions simply to “kick the can” down the road. In the end, consequences will present themselves. It’s our job as parents to manage those as best we can.

5. In your dedication, you say, “To my parents for being there when I needed them the most…” What were some of the things your parents did to support you along the way that you remember as being the most helpful?

My parents and I were VERY distant during the 5 years that my drug use was at its worst. I avoided their calls, lied to them constantly and hid from them.

But when they received the call from my attorney and were told of everything that happened, they offered to support my legal fees (I could pay for a small amount of them) and pay for rehab.

They stuck very firmly to help me throughout the experience but without overdoing it – money for rent, but not spending money. Money for school, if I got a job and paid for food.

And they loved me through all of it, even as I got kicked out of one rehab and did things imperfectly. They also supported my departure from traditional recovery because we spoke about things openly and candidly.

Overall, the experience actually helped us create a stronger and more authentic relationship than we’d ever had. When my father passed 8 years ago, we were closer than we’d ever been. I am grateful for that.

6. What kept you going in your darkest hour that can give others hope?

Initially, it was certainly the desire to avoid more punishment and not disappointing my parents. Eventually, it developed into the need to help reduce the pain of others and help as many as I could.

I believe in finding a sense of purpose to make sure that you truly know that you are having an impact and following your path.

I’m so happy to have found my reason for waking up every morning!

Adi Jaffe, Ph.D. is a nationally recognized expert on mental health, addiction, and stigma. He lectures in the Psychology department at UCLA and was the Executive-Director and Co-Founder of one of the most progressive mental health treatment facilities in the country.

Dr. Jaffe’s work and research focus on changing the way Americans think about and deal with mental health issues. He is passionate about the role of shame in destroying lives and aims to greatly reduce the stigma of mental health in this country. In this context, Dr. Jaffe has used his personal experience as an incredibly effective inspirational and motivational tool.

Dr. Jaffe attended UCLA, graduating with a B.A. in Psychology. It was during his undergraduate career that Adi began struggling with drug issues himself, eventually leading to a 4-year hiatus from studies and into the Los Angeles drug-dealing world where he became quite successful. During that period of his life, Adi’s days looked more like a re-enactment of a beatnik novel or a Quentin Tarantino film than the life of an upper-middle-class suburban kid. Following a SWAT team arrest in his apartment, and the extended court case and a year-long jail sentence, Adi began rebuilding his life. This eventually led to his attainment of a Ph.D. from UCLA’s top-rated doctoral program in psychology, where he graduated with honors. Even before he graduated Dr. Jaffe’s name had become known through his online and academic writing. His views on addiction and his research on the topic have been published in dozens of journals and online publications and he has appeared on numerous television shows and documentaries discussing current topics in addiction and the problem of addiction as a whole.

Adi’s debut book, The Abstinence Myth: A New Approach for Overcoming Addiction With Shame, Judgment Or Rules is launching in August 2018 where he challenges the current recovery system and discusses his own non-traditional approach. His goal is to help others overcome addiction without shame, judgment or rules.

Adi currently resides in Los Angeles with his wife, Sophie, their three children and their dog. Adi and Sophie are both running individual wellness businesses from their home. Sophie owns her own superfood company called Philosophie and together they host a podcast, IGNTD, where they explore all things relationships. Together they serve as daily inspiration for millions of readers and followers.

  from Drug Rehab Treatment Near Me https://cathytaughinbaugh.com/an-interview-with-dr-adi-jaffe-author-of-the-abstinence-myth/