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happywitch416 · 1 year ago

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Talked my family into doing christmas next wednesday a few days ago. Last night mom goes on about how everything is bought and ready to go to do christmas on christmas eve. And then is offended and upset when I am like no, we decided on wednesday. But because i didnt answer the phone the other day, while in an appointment for my kid- her boyfriend decided that was an agreement to do everything christmas eve.

Like fine I will be the asshole, its not a family thing if my husband isnt there. I dont care that she did things without my dad when he did shift work. Maybe thats why they were miserable (so many issues) but we aren't them.

Especially not when we bought stuff for homemade nachos and want to have a little quiet christmas for once. If the options are go and be miserable and not have him there and him feeling like hes not wanted, or having an enjoyable not stressful night building legos with the kid and then watching my favorite christmas movie together? Thats a no fuckin brainer.

You see, marrying my best friend is never a problem for me, the problem is the fact it gave me the ability to look at people who can only love me conditionally and then tell them no. Which is only a me problem when I decide to be a problem.

And right now I am this close to being an exploding nuclear reactor's worth of a problem because trying to manipulate me does not go over well.

#i need to get mom a gaslight gatekeep girlboss something and she wouldnt get that its not a compliment #i know shes sad and lonely. but ive offered solutions and ideas and can only take so much of my time being spent #with the problem bc she chooses to let it continue bc the only other option in her mind is to be Alone Forever #i would rather be single then in a relationship with someone who makes me feel abandoned and unwanted #ding dong ditch the whole thing #but im also not afraid to ask for what i want and shes never even tried that lol makes things a million times easier #if you just fuckin talk to each other. to each other not at each other. which can be a struggle when both have audio processing probs #my tired migraine and i are going to go paint #the witch speaks

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