#i just defend it bc i'm sick of ppl's ignorance

[wc-confessions]

it makes me sick knowing that this person will NEVER take accountability for their racist actions and even sicker that so many people are rushing to defend them. makes me realize that we'll never truly be listened to or respected because we can't even have one conversation without white people exerting their white privilege over us in order to effectively silence us.

idk like it's all so exhausting and there's just no point trying to educate ppl to want who remain ignorant. people saw the doc as trying to cancel marinin hating white skinned people etc and are refusing to understand the real issue which is that this person knows their privilege and belittles poc. like yeah their brazilian but that doesn't. erase the fact that this person has done offensive things. and it def doesn't erase the fact that guess what racism and colourism exists everywhere shocking. and this isn't the first time either. i don't want to keep talking abt it bc ik nothing will be done if you aren't fitting their ideals you don't mean shit to them. idk if marinin means to do these things but idk it looks bad that Everytime someone addresses something they did they always mention they are brazilian as if. ppl are supposed to go 'oh sorry ur good then'. i understand they wanna keep their place but there's nothing wrong with at least trying to understand you're at fault sometimes and working to do better.

this is all just sick seeing the way ppl respond to bipoc speaking up in the fandom. I'm seeing people try to tie this with racism against whites and it's like. ??you are the exact reason why racism will always remain rampant and why poc will always isolate themselves from you.

[margokesses]

Also I feel like there’s two levels to the drama and ppl are mainly focusing on the OFMD VS BS thing and ignoring part of what caused that dumbass rant:

People rightfully brought up that OFMD was really weird for woobifying actual slave owners and instead of addressing that separately, the poll owner somehow thought it’d be smart and not at all weird asf to just..combine the two into one issue and speak on black issues including police brutality in order to defend OFMD.

They genuinely made the point that ‘we need to stick together cause conservatives hate all of us’ and that ‘being mad about OFMD was not going to solve police brutality’ (paraphrased heavily but I think the post is still up so u can read it if u want to) and (this next part is just how I FELT) and was extremely condescending towards black ppl. It felt like they were trying to hold our hands through activism and kept trying to reiterate that community was important whilst telling us to put racism in the backburner because at least they’re gay. I hate to keep repeating myself but it was really really weird and it speaks volumes that their idea of unity is us ignoring systemic oppression bc said oppression is filtered through a gay lens.

Hello?? Why would they even say that??? God I'm so sick of the yt gays

[sanstropfremir]

I feel like so many kpop fans disregard the work of the ppl behind the scenes while also blaming them for anything that they see as a hindrance to their groups and its so sick like smthn smthn no man is an island and bts's inability to find consistent collaborators was such a huge roadblock in creating a creative identity that evolves with them as artists. like!! I'm pretty sure pixy have worked with the same producers since debut and!!! what do u know!!! they have distinct artistic identity!! loona is a good example too bc they regularly worked w monotree from pre debut to butterfly and since they stopped working w monotree their sound has completely shifted + they were also pretty consistently working with digipedi for mvs and just from the TEASER for their newest comeback u can tell they switched. also I find it rly funny how many ppl were defending their last few releases when one of the members said he hated boy with luv??? like??? u think they like permission to dance???

yep yep yep!!! tons of idols work with the same creative teams; beat int has had the same stylist on payroll since a.c.e's debut, she's done all of their comebacks and now she's doing forestella's too! and sm also has a couple of resident stylists, including wook/punkyspider who has done all the senior sm artists cbs in the last three years at least. every person in a creative team has their own signatures and brings their own opinions to the table and that is so important to collaborative work. it's what gives the work depth, what makes it feel alive. aesthetics are so important to performance and they help shape everything about it, from how the work is conceptualized to how it is received by an audience. to actively ignore and not invest in that aspect is naive and shortsighted, especially when you are in an explicitly performance based industry. part of the reason why i started talking about kpop design here is because pretty much no one else is doing it, and talking about it is just as important as talking about dance or about the vocals. everything comes together to create the performance!!! you can't talk about one thing without taking into account the others!!!

[thelesbiancitizen]

The solution to the lesbian "community" falling apart isn't to create a cult like the transes have created wherein no one is allowed to question anything or commit wrongthink. Attacking women who are trying to have important conversations about the defence of exclusive same sex attraction isn't very feminist of that anon and frankly it's tiring to hear ppl repeatedly say lesbians have to have certain values in order to be lesbians. Lesbian is a sexual orientation NOT a value system. Homosexual ppl question their orientation constantly in heteropatriarchy and talking about it in the open isn't evil or an attack on the "community". Lesbians are not a monolith. Lesbians can be conservative even, but that doesn't make them less homosexual or cause them to lose their label bc lesbian is a defined sexuality not a changeable value system or ideology. Pretty weird of anon to insult you like that in such an antifemist, lesbophobic manner. Reminds me of the discourse over that gay conservative politician in the US - gay people don't have to have specific politics to be gay, they just have to be exclusively same sex attracted. Also dragging bi women like.. that kind of behaviour is an exact reason why bi women hide or deny their bisexuality in situations where lesbians are present. It's a positive feedback loop of shaming and hiding. Shaming women for their sexuality is a male supremacist talking point and doesn't help feminist solidarity amongst women, exclusively same sex attracted or otherwise. Lesbians that wholesale ignore the oppression and violence bi women face and choose to blame bi women for the violence they face are honestly so antifeminist but I'm not about to say they can't be lesbians bc of their bad politics. See how that works, anon?

THANK YOU VERY MUCH.

I have gotten several anon messages in support of the infamous posts I made a few months back, I didn’t publish them all because I was tired of defending myself against foolish reactionary women who are not interested in having a converation and just wanted a break from it, I’m actually continuing to get messages agreeing with me & more of them than the hateful ones honestly, the evidence is there that many women and lesbians agree with the ideas I was putting forth (ALSO NOT MY IDEAS BY THE WAY!!!! READ A BOOK) and are afraid to publicly agree just the same way women are afraid to profess their gender critical views. We have the same problem within the lesbian community and telling women to shut up and not share their ideas or opinions is so fucking backward and stupid. Like truly, how do you think that’s gonna solve anything? By staying silent, not trying to think in new ways? Anyway thank you for this I’m so sick of these women telling me to shut up and then calling themselves radical for it

[touyaz]

Hello!

For the ask game: #5 with Gojou, Naoya and Toji!!!!

- @ame-791

5. go on a six hour road trip with (no car radio, you choose who drives), sit next to on a six hour plane flight, sit across from on a six hour train journey

Omg for the road trip, I think I'm the bigger issue bc I get carsick on long journeys so I always just go to sleep which is probably boring if we're alone agdhjs I think maybe touji would like that the most out of these three, like we'd talk for a bit, I'd give him food if he's feeling hungry, but for the most part, it'll be time for him to just unwind and not have to think/ do much other than focus on the open road ahead. I think he'd be the most appreciative/ enjoy that sort of calm moment <3 also just imagine how sexy he'd look w one hand on the wheel, the other on ur thigh, window down so a lil breeze runs thru his hair...... A dream 🥰

Plane flight w gojou definitely for that first class experience 🤩🥰😋🥳 I'll plug in my headphones and ignore him the whole time <3 jk bc he'd def pull them out my ears so he can yap :/ it would be fun playing those multi-player games like battleship w him lmao (he screenwatches like a loser ☹️) & he'd probably sweet talk the staff into getting extra food agdjsk would let me fall asleep on my shoulder but also takes pics of me like a creep so it's a struggle 😞 kicks the seat in front of him then blames me knowing I don't have the social skills to defend myself 😐 makes funny faces at the babies on the plane then looks away if they start crying 💀 CLAPS WHEN THE PLANE LANDS ☠️👹

Train journey w naoya fs. He hogs an entire compartment and gives ppl dirty looks if they even so much as think abt sitting w us lmaoo 💀💀 he'd be so much quieter than normal on the journey, probably really enjoys playing games too. Like when I pull out sudoku on my phone he'll move next to me and start helping me out (gets tired of me double checking everything he says & takes my phone from me to do it 😐 starts playing w/o me bruh 💔) I also think he'd really like people-watching, like yk when u look at someone and start making up their backstory, etc. He's so good, he comes up w the wildest things that actually make sense. I can imagine he gets sick/ sleepy on long journeys too, and he has those sucking sweets to make him feel a lil better, but eventually he'll doze off on my shoulder :( sweet angel baby who can do no wrong ily :( 💗💗

Ask game

[ballplayersxo]

sorry this is loooooooong BUT i was *waiting* for the rachel nichols shit to hit the fan. just ULTIMATE "pick me" energy!!!! DISCLAIMER: i JUST woke l up. i'm 3 hours behind here in LA. i heard the audio, not surprised. but have been ignoring espn in the past few months bc of ppl like her, so i don't know her full stance of chauncey/kidd. but i'll assume it's terrible bc she's rachel nichols. ok SO: she enjoys closeness to these male athletes and what they can do for her image, but says the most surface-level nonsense when it's time to do the serious part of her job. never pushes back if they do even the vile shit. she can't even do the easy part: acknowledging that there's more players in the league she besides the most famous superstars she likes being friends with. or announcing which wnba games are on that night and then complaining that no one talks about the women in basketball. ON HER HOUR-LONG BASKETBALL SHOW. she only talks about the women's league when talking about the lack of coverage, pay disparities, disrespect from media, how more exposure would lead to more money and stability for the league and it's like BITCH???? aren't you in the media?? at espn?? on an unnecessarily long professional basketball show?? i stupidly watched "the jump" all last season waiting for crumbs, and nothing. to make matters worse, the people she placed below her are malika andrews, the BEST basketball interviewer at espn. so respected by players and coaches etc bc of her investment in storytelling. monica mcnutt, who can make any topic interesting, has instant chemistry with anyone she is on screen with, and is just born to lead and host and funny as hell. chiney ogwumike, she's like a living computer and knows every play, every stat, every possible minuscule detail, and has energy for days and carries her own espn radio show. they're all small contributors at most, while KENDRICK PERKINS and matt barnes and paul pierce and richard jefferson and vince carter constantly get/got way more airtime over them. and when rachel would be out, she'd have some random white guy idek his name, fill in. when chiney was in the same city, same building, in her own off-season. and that's only *three* of the *many* black women who can do that job infinitely better! rachel is just a such a hypocrite. like.... chiney's radio co-host is another white dude but is constantly giving her her flowers and defending women who have been victims of abuse from athletes. never plays devil's advocate and instead argues that the nba and other leagues need to hold men accountable no matter who they are and that no, settling out of court does NOT equal innocence and that these people have legal teams designed to ruin lives. same radio show, mind you, that also discusses things like: "is breakfast for dinner overrated?" and "which donut chain is better?" so what is rachel's excuse???? LONG STORY SHORT: rachel nichols is a pick-me who doesn't give a shit about the people she steps on, especially victims and hyper-qualified black women, to stay above everyone. she got too comfortable and needs to be held accountable in a meaningful way. again sorry this is so long!!!! doing this 3 espressos deep is.... not it

don’t apologize cause i needed someone to read her since idk enough about her but this all makes sense! how are you a woman laughing at a man talking about being tired of the metoo movement basically? is this who we are? that’s why i’m saying white feminism is literally a disease because half the shit they preach about, they aren’t living. you seemingly pro-women but when a black women gets certain jobs over you, suddenly they aren’t qualified? it sounds like she’s essentially against affirmative action (which doesn’t even apply here but still) when i swear white women benefit the most from it. she’s just so nasty & sick. that’s how a lot of white women are. fake or hyper woke to either piss off white men, or to somehow use it as a prop to one day get the same power they do. the only thing keeping white women from being oppressors to the same extent of white men is their gender and it makes them SICK, this is why behaviour like rachel’s doesn’t shock me anymore. i really hope espn does something meaningful with this situation but i doubt it tbh

[professorjjong]

I was reading another blog and ONCE AGAIN there was the typical anon saying that jjong can't be gay "bc he dated several women". Where the hell do they get the "several" part when he's only dated ONE woman publicly? Also you can date women and also being attracted to men? Plus closeted people exist in the entertainment industry? i'm sick of people "defending" jjongs heterosexuality as if the mere mention of him being anything but straight was a terrible offense.

honestly? yes. a thousand times yes. we’re at this point where the fans who are insisting that he’s straight are basically just ignoring him? their excuses are flimsy and just plain old false (u can’t pretend that gay men never have relationships with women. that’s the entire premise of the grace & kelly tv show, plus kurt in glee had a brief crush on rachel, and i’ve personally heard stories of similar things happening through ppl around me). 

we just need to continue to be vocal about it--to continue theorizing about him. it doesn’t harm anyone, but only helps others potentially realize things about themselves or be more understanding toward ppl in their lives. even though it’s so fucking annoying that the excuses of straight cis-het fans is just a fucking broken record, so we sound like a broken record too, combatting the same flawed argument over and over and over...