#i hope this doesnt come across curt i tried editing it but frankly im too tired rn

[fatphobiabusters]

hi, genuinely not trying to call y'all out or anything and I 100% agree with everything y'all say about fatphobia. I just wanted to ask that y'all not call bigots 'delusional' or tell them to 'go to therapy.' As a neurodivergent person, it's kinda hurtful to see ableist insults like that, even in progressive spaces

Hi there!

So presumably this is in response to this?

I understand where you're coming from, but I am also neurodivergent. Not all neurodivergent folks will agree on everything and I think this will be one of those times.

Since I was the one who made the rb in question, let me try and explain my side.

Believing that fat people existing are gaslighting you is not healthy. It is not okay. They are experiencing a delusion bc a delusion is, from Google, a false belief or judgment about external reality, held despite incontrovertible evidence to the contrary.

While I did not actually say, "get therapy", I did strongly imply it. And frankly, I stand by it! The OOP of the post in question needs to go to therapy to learn to deal w the fact fat people existing are not miserable bc they were. I'm neurodivergent and very very pro therapy, I think therapy is far to inaccessible so perhaps you could call me classist, but recommending therapy is, to me, not ableist.

Clearly being fat was traumatic for this OOP, but its not okay for them to unilaterally decide every fat person must be traumatized and unhappy bc they were. I stand by what I said, the OOP has serious issues they're projecting onto people in a unhealthy manner. That can't be allowed to continue happening. The point of this blog is to argue against fatphobes, and OOP, despite being very unwell mentally, is still perpetuating harmful ideals about fat people.

Just to be extra sure I was understanding ableism, I looked it up and honestly the OOP was being far more ableist than I was for assuming fat folks a) need to be healed and become skinny, b) we lead unhappy and unfulfilled lives, and c) assuming fat people don't do things for themselves.

We do appreciate feedback for this blog and I will keep what you said in mind for the future!

Mod Fatshion