#i hope all the people affected are ok💙💙💙

[molliemoo3]

Another FE + BBC related presenter being a fuckhead is not the news I expected from today. Hopefully are the people affected are being supported and will be OK 💙💙💙💙💙

[delusion-of-negation]

There was this one post I saw floating around some weeks ago, that even specific types of discrimination, can be experienced by people not of the "target" group. Best way I can explain the several paragraphs long post was eg: A cis woman who looks masculine can still experience transphobia because ppl around her will view her as "not being a real woman" because she looks masc. Even though she's not trans, she's perceived as trans and the discrimination she experiences is bc ppl think she's trans

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sorry it's taken me a couple of days to get back to you on this, I needed to pick up meds and the nearest chemist is across the industrial estates and council estates (where I live), so it was an effort to get there, as per usual, because I can't drive. funnily, or rather, annoyingly, in the time since, I actually saw a post saying people who are talking about this sort of thing (ie people not of groups can experience that discrimination targeted at them) are proof that we aren't of said group and only care about the issues when they affect us and think it's acceptable when said group is suffering and/or that they deserve to suffer. and I was like?? no? obviously that's not how that fucking works. I can talk about the obvious fact women can be victimised by misandry without me being a woman, hating men, or only caring about it when things affect me personally. it's the whole "I care about animal rights, I probably am not a llama" thing. but yeah, just because someone doesn't actually have x trait doesn't mean somebody yelling shit about how they'll kill them for it stops being a scary experience, racists don't go "oh, my mistake king, carry on" if you pull out an ancestry test and say they got your race wrong. transphobes in bathrooms won't believe the bearded lady when she says she is actually cis. and the violence they experience is equally worth a conversation about, because it's the same conversation, it's still talking about racist and transphobic systems, and the nuances regarding how they affect people's daily life, and there's still talk about the primary targets of said discrimination within that too. while I'm here, I've been saying this a while, like here's one post:

[borderlinereminders]

Hi hi,, i hope its ok to ask this but is it normal to sometimes like.. not feel stuff around my partner? Like i know i love him and i am happy to be with him all the time, he makes me feel safe and cheers me up constantly.. Its just that he's been going through something rough for a few years now due to trauma and i think i've been getting a slight burn out from that, he hasnt been as affectionate as he was with words back when we first got together so i think its been affecting me quite a bit. Am i an awful person for just,,feeling like smth's missing? He also is experiencing smth similar to what i just described as well..

I dont plan on letting go or leaving him of course.. i want to stick with him through the entire thing till he lets go of his past and let himself recover. I just dont know if what im going through from my end is ok. I hope i get some advice or smth from you.. idk if its related at all to this blog but i wanted to share it regardless.. I hope its ok with you.

Tysm for keeping this blog up as well, its been slowly helping me with my other problems that i've encountered and i couldnt be happier 💙

Hi anon,

That is okay. Relationships are never consistent and often people can’t give 100% all the time and this usually ends up with the other person picking up a bit extra and sometimes getting burnt out. And a few years is a long time to be dealing with that.

It’s completely okay to feel like something is missing. You didn’t say you wanted to leave but I just wanted to assure you that even if you did, you aren’t awful. Your mental health is important.

Have you both sat down and talked about what you’d like to see from your relationship? Maybe there’s a set date night you can have a week or a month?

It’s also okay for you to communicate your needs. Sometimes people can’t meet our needs. But a partner in a relationship should at least try and compromise to meet both their needs and ours. Within reason of course. You having a need for more affection is an example of one within reason and while it may not be easy, he should be willing to try and find a middle ground so that you both have your needs met. It might help to go to him with some little ideas of things he can do that would help and then see if you can both talk about how to make those happens or workable alternatives.

[ngc-5194]

Hello, Lemon Drop! I hope you've had a lovely day so far 💛💛💛 I know literally next to nothing about twewy but I would be inch rested to hear your thoughts about it anyway 👀 if you'd like!

hello happi!! and hehehe ty for enabling me <333 /hj

The first character I first fell in love with - Shiki!! I think you'd like her too honestly, Happi! She was always just so kind and sweet and upbeat despite their situation, (not to mention mr. mew is Iconic) and I really loved her a lot. Were I in Neku in that situation, I think the exact same thing would've been claimed as my second entry fee, the best friend vibes she gives off are simply Too Strong.

The character I never expected to love as much as I do now - Beat, honestly. Ok, so, I'll be real, I didn't especially love Neku at the start of the game either, but (considering he's the main character) I knew that I would grow to like him, no matter how much of the game it took playing through. Beat, on the other hand, I wasn't really sold on. He very much had his valid reasons for disliking Neku, and I thought he was a pretty fun character, but until like... halfway into Week 2, I found him... kinda boring? As he had more and more development and screentime though, I grew to really like him! :D

The character everyone else loves that I don’t - One Mr. Sho Minamimoto. Listen, he's fun, sure. In NEO he was great, but I just don't see the appeal. If I wanted to listen to someone scream math terms at me that they (canonically) don't completely understand, I would just go to my brother. His whole Taboo Noise plot and Leo Cantus are pretty cool though, I will admit.

The character I love that everyone else hates - Hmm,,,, I guess Yammer? Though really I think that's only a lack of people remembering him instead of actively hating him. This question doesn't really apply because I really haven't seen an exuberant amount of hate for Any character (esspecially not the ones I really like). Maybe Josh sometimes???? but there's an equal if not greater pushback of love for him, and he's one of my favourites, so ????

The character I used to love but don’t any longer - Kanon, I suppose? She never really clicked for me the way most of the rest of the cast did, but I liked her, I thought she was pretty cool. Her death didn't affect me much, but it was certaintly felt. Kinda all went up in smoke (and it's technically the writer's fault but) when offical ages were released. Kanon, a 23 year old, flirting/encouraging Fret, a 15 year old, to flirt with her is just... Not It. It's a bad look.

The character I would totally smooch - (On the cheek) Rhyme, Shoka, Eiru, Shiki, Joshua (probably maybe), and Rindo :D

The character I’d want to be like - Eri No offense to the rest of the cast, but both before and after the Game she seems to be the most put together of them all. And the one (1) thing she did wrong was accidentally cause a misunderstanding between her and Shiki. A misunderstanding in which she was trying to compliment her friend. Or the Prince, in a sense. How confident in himself he is is something quite a few people strive for. Though, I perhaps would just like to be just a bit more self confident not,,, Quite as much as he is.

The character I’d slap - *chanting* Kubo! Kubo! Kubo! Kubo! He probably wouldn't even feel it, but consider: I don't care, it'd be worth it <3

A pairing that I love - Erishiki. I am always soft for best friends to lovers. (Meaning, yes, Frindo is in here too) And, of course, Joshneku. That,,,,, their dynamic is simply Very Good, and I wish Joshua had gotten more time in NEO

A pairing that I despise - Uhh,, Mr H x Joshua and Uzuki x Kariya. The vibes are simply Off for me on those two. For,,,, a number of reasons. 💙

[fellshish]

thanks for the reply/virtual hugs. it’s always nice to not feel quite so alone. 💙 because of my circumstances that part of the con (regarding what misha said) felt so relatable to me, so to have some people instantly be like “look who misha definitely is today!” felt really... saddening. like who you present yourself as at one point in time is how people are always going to see you, no matter how hard you try to find a way to currently be comfortable as you are.

Very this! Some people i’m sure were joking, but i get how personal that can feel when you relate hard to not being able to be out at work.

Again, i don’t want to assume anything about misha’s sexuality and it’s all fine. He can be straight or queer, whatever, it’s none of my business and it doesn’t affect me.

But i will say this about my own experience at work. I found it surprisingly hard to come out, there, even though i knew they would be ok with my sexuality, still there is a sense that… it changes how people see you and talk to you. And in some ways, it did — for example, the male colleagues stopped trying to flirt lol. And you’re always wondering, what do they REALLY think? Do they feel uncomfortable around me now? And when i think about misha’s situation — if he is queer, imagine having to come out in front of an audience of millions? I struggled with a couple of hundred in my life. I know, i know, poor rich actor man, but truly: coming out isn’t as easy as some people make it out to be, even in this day and age.

I hope things get so much better for you and you get to be who you are, most of the time, and if not, with people who make you feel so loved. <3

[forcebook]

i think it's completely normal to react to an event in a show that's traumatizing for the characters and then not dealt with accordingly. i know it took me some time to realize why i was upset after the outing scene and it brought up real emotions in me i wasn't expecting. and i thought it didn't make sense bc it wasn't even like directly connected to any specific event in my life. i don't think you have to try to 'just get over' how the episodes affected you bc they deserve a satisfactory conclusion and so do you. i think it makes sense to be upset on their behalf bc their feelings haven't been validated and i know i wanna see that. i hope you don't feel pressured to join back in on the fun or whatever bc sometimes (a part of) a show is dissapointing af and that's ok 💜

thank you SO much for this message 😭😭😭

these past five days have been really difficult for me. i’m lucky to have good friends who listen to me and validate my feelings. i just wasn’t ready to share that with tumblr, kinda makes it feel even more real than it is 😭

what you said is absolutely right and i knew it all along but still i kept punishing myself for feeling like this. so sometimes we really need to hear other people say it.

so really, thank you. means a lot to me ❤️💙

[celestialblushxoxo]

Hello !! I'm a new follower !😊 I hope you're doing Great !!😄 May I participate in your new future spouse AskGame ?😍 I'm C😻⛵, She/Her and Straight, and thank you so much !!💙

Hey angel, welcome, hope you're having a lovely day/night as well and enjoy your reading🦋✨

Wow ok your person has their $hit together like they are going faaaast like flash in their career/academics take what resonates. He's like steaaady and faaast. He's almost there, reaching his goal. He knows what he wants. He knows he is it. Very confident and smart. He's good at speaking as well. Damn he good with words and vocabulary. Like he sounds like this genius otherworldly man lol. You'd be smitten by him. He also like to text by like extending words like heyyy, cutieee, hellooo, babyyy. Awwww do you see this. He's like a golden boy, everyone loves him, people wanna be like him, an all-rounder, he can do anything so freakin talented. He may play piano. Participate in sports. He's good at sketching. GURL WHAT CAN YOUR MAN NOT DO? omg he says nothing, I can do everything, you tell me what you want😭😂😂 he's funny as well omg. He is like on top honestly, his family is proud, he himself is proud. Self love is there, he's worked on that, parents have been supportive always hence he is so confident in himself. He's brought up in a very chill and healthy family. His family is very financially stable, I see Uni for some reason. If you are older than take it as a career where he is at a good position or he has a business. He loves to drive, may love cars. He got good comebacks. Knows what to say at the right time. Will compliment and hype you up so much, your personal cheerleader. Cheerleader by OMI. Very supportive and youthful but also serious when it comes to work. Noel? Why did a name pop out omg. N as an initial as well. This is first👀 maybe he is your first bf or first time a relationship lasted this long. He's very cautious, he looks at every situation carefully. Looks wise WOWWW, he's your dream guy. He looks so so good man. Fair to tan skin(could be dark too). Dark hair. Dimples mostly. Beautiful arms, they are built. Looks either younger or older fir their age. Wavy to curly short hair. May have a very cute and sweet face. But man when they wear formals😳😏 irresistible. Oof oof. Black satin shirt. Watches. Necklace(silver). Damnn he got good fashion sense as well. He got $$ so he spends it on things which he wants, perfumes, expensive stuff. Financially he is doing great like very good no worries. As a person he is independent, doesn't reply on intuiton more towards sensitivity. Scared about someone breaking their heart. Loves love. Others/their close ones may see them as someone who has a lotta potential, hard working, giving and generous, Loverboy, youthful, chill, confident, fun to be around, limitless, talented, unbeatable, unstoppable, charming ,handsome, luxurious, gorgeous, creative, inspirational, some to look upto. Honestly I'm trying to see what he is his not so good qualities and I can't see anything except he can be stubborn at times lol. But he is very humble tho. Right now he feels kinda lonely, he wants someone to be with him, someone to share his love with, maybe he graduated or already reached the position at work but he is single so he wants someone to share his feelings with to spoil them, to give and receive affection. He is going to love you so much and remind it to you everyday, fun dates and movie nights is also a part in the relationship and gift giving ofc. Very sweet person.

Possible placements: Gemini, Libra and Aquarius, some Taurus and Cancer placement, Venus, Mercury, Sun

All I want by Olivia Rodrigo came up listen to it

Possible fashion aesthetic:

Thank you so much for being patient! Hope you enjoyed your reading and moodboard love, do let me know if you liked it or not, it helps me improvise! Hope you have a wonderful day ahead💗🦋✨

[usergyumoved]

this is to your last anon ok

im so angry like you're the sweetest person I know and some people are just devoid of any kindness, and have nothing better to do im so sorry and I hope you don't let that affect you okay I love you angel💙💙💙💙💙💙💙

AKGDKSGAKGS noooo, gonna square up at their door n take them down on sight....... 10/10 quality time 👊🏼💥 but it's all fine honey dw 😙💙 now hold on ... gonna share my 🍓🍓🍓 w u!! 💕💙✨ love uuuuuu

[friendlyneighborhoodcapricorn]

Hi ! I don't know if your requests are open or not but if they are just feel free to ignore this ^^

I was wondering if I could get a Harry Potter Matchup please :)

~ I'm a French girl, she/her

~ I'm INFP-A and type 4

~ I'm a Ravenclaw 💙🦅

~ I have ADHD

~ I can be very very very shy at first ! Especially in crowded rooms, and I often hide behind a book. But then when I feel comfortable I'm very affectionate. I'm forgetful and clumsy, I'm patient with a lot of empathy and open minded and people see me as good mannered and gentle (I've been told). I'm very sensitive to criticism but I never show it and always pretend I'm ok when it happens. If I'm surrounded by people I love, my mood can be really affected by theirs (if the looks grumpy or sad I feel meh but the second they start smiling I smile too :) ). I'm very protective and sometimes treats my friends as if they were my children 😅 I'm bad at seeing danger

~ I love books, photography, Frida Kahlo, Aurora, chess, sport, walk in nature (I love in the mountains now but I come from Paris)

~ I'm 174cm, 59Kg, I have an hourglass body shape. I have medium length curly dark brown hair and a fringe. I have dark brown eyes. My hands are always cold ! Once they they turned completely black (I'm white), like, completely, and my doctor told me I have too small veins 😳.

I think that's it ~ thanks for reading !

My requests are currently open, so here's your matchup :)

I match you with...

Hermione Granger

You probably met because you both snuck off to a quiet corner to read during some big event. She saw the book you were reading and just blurted: "Oh, I love that one."

Your relationship starts out because of books, so naturally a lot of your time together is spent discussing your favorites.

Playing chess against each other is always a blast because you're both great at it. Hermione can be a bit of a sore loser, though, and she won't hesitate to demand some affection as a consolation prize.

Hermione is cannonically the responsible friend, so if you're bad at seeing danger, she'll point it out to you.

If you don't mind company on your walks, she'll gladly join you. Sometimes you walk in silence the whole time, sometimes neither of you can stop talking. Either way, it's always a good time.

She'll absentmindedly take your hands and warm them with her own. She doesn't even realize she does this until someone points it out to her.

This also leads to her holding your hand whenever she can. It's adorable.

Since you're into sports, I'm going to assume you'd play Quidditch. You can bet Hermione always cheers for Ravenclaw when your team plays.

She's very intrigued by your photography, even a little jealous because she wishes she knew how to find the right angles, the best light, all that kind of stuff. Since she can't, she settles for loving your work.

You're each other's number one fan.

I hope you enjoyed this! Thank you for requesting, and have a lovely day/night :)

[delusion-of-negation]

1 Thanks for your addition, and for understanding that it's difficult to get all the nuances into tumblrs character limit, considering how nuanced and deep this topic goes, especially when adding personal experiences. I never really thought to deeply about it, even though you're right. I'm a half-slavic woman living as diaspora in a white country where they have a history of oppressing the white-indigenous culture, and I've been called a slur relating to that despite not being of said indigenous

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character limits and casual conversations and the limitations of talking about such huge topics inevitably lead to not every little nuance being covered, I sometimes worry that the way my head goes "oh and also here's some other stuff that fills that gap!" will come across as saying "how dare you forget this", so thanks also because I worried I wasn't getting my tone right lately and I was worried you'd think I was attacking. yee, I think I've been called certain slurs beginning with g that jimmy carr would approve of more than my actual name at this point, I think it's fair for me to view that as racism, it's attacking a person for their race or their perceived race, but it's easy to forget that it's racism when main discussions of racism revolve around the more severe topics like slavery for obvious reasons. having been the victim of a beating from the police for being trans and disabled, I see how that was weaponising the same systems against me that are weaponised against others - it's not a battle against one big bad with just an ultimate singular goal, it's fighting a complex web of attitudes or behaviours or policies or so forth, that overlap at points and will contradict each other at other points. intersectionality is drawn sometimes as circles with lines between them, and each circle generally is described as a person who has traits the lines target with bigotry - this is a very poor way to envision it and leads to a whole lot of misunderstandings. intersectionality's seeing how a policy that was invented to arrest hippes and poc, the anti-drug crusades in america I mean, now attacks disabled people who're using said drug as pain relief also, and the *issue* intersects for seemingly disparate features people may have, the opiate issue similarly affects disabled people because when that drug group became demonised doctors started giving it out less, which has generally been heralded as a good thing preventing addiction in people, yet what it actually does is push people to either live life constantly in agony or seek out illegal meds via dealers. seeing different ways the system affects different groups, and how the webs sometimes cross strings in various ways, that's what it is, that's intersectionality, not "abel is a black trans woman and so mathematically speaking abel has it worse than joe", and I think sometimes it just takes one casual conversation where phrasing makes something click for people to realise the difference there, understand their experience in a new light, etc, and that's some reasons why working side by side and together is so important, while remembering that we can't all prioritise everything, we are going to have our own specialities. I think mine is just getting us talking to each other, I'm not great at designing policy but I like having conversations and helping people see different angles.

[ajokeformur-ray]

Omg im so sorry i didnt think of that, i was a little in my own head after that incident and was looking for blogs w characters i like (the possum is ok!! We got him help!!)

Im autistic im sorry!!! Im not good with emotions🥵 i wont do it again &be more careful!!!!

Hello, nonnie!!! ~ 🥰💖

Oh, darling, it’s okay! 💖 I understand. I’m so sorry that you had that incident! It’s so upsetting and scary when situations like that happen (I’ve had a few myself, which is partly why it really upsets me) and I’m so sorry that you’ve had this experience.

I’m so relieved to hear that the possum is okay and that he got the help he needed! 🤗💗 You’re a beautiful person for helping another living being skksks I almost want to thank you on behalf of the possum.🥺🥺🥺💙

Okay, well... you’ll have to forgive me for any rusty characterisation because I haven’t written for L since October 2019 (such a special time...🥺) but I do want to give you something because of how this has affected you and because of how sweet these asks are, so I’ve spun a small something under the cut. I hope it’s okay! It’s unedited and literally just whatever I thought up on the spot ksksksk I just really want to give you something, darling.💝

TW; animal harm implied under the cut (not much because I don’t want to upset myself or anyone else, but know it happened “off-screen”).

L got to the phone before you did.

He had you on surveillance at all times, even when you were by his side where you belonged, so when you had the possum carefully cradled in your lap, L was already phoning you. He didn’t need to ask what had happened, when it had happened, or anything else. 

His only concern was you.

“L, I - the possum, it - “

L cut you off. “I know, Y/N, I saw.” His voice was monotone to all by you. You heard the slightly rushed breathing, the crackle of the phone as he held it tighter to his ear than necessary, the audible swallowing of whatever sweet treat he was munching so that he could speak to you slowly, clearly, to keep you calm and rational. “There is a veterinarian clinic near by. I will stay on the phone with you until you get there. Can you put me on speaker, Y/N?” By using your name often was L grounding you and keeping you there with him.

L kept his promise and he got you to the clinic easily enough. You did your best to get the possum help and on your way home all you could think about was L. His dark eyes, those treats he favoured, the loose way he held you until you squeezed his midsection and made it obvious that you craved him.

Your journey home was a blur, your vision barely focused on the road ahead of  you, your nerves fried. You parked the car in the garage at the Tate Hotel, opened the driver’s door and almost fell into L’s arms. His plain white shirt absorbed your tears and slowly, slowly, did L get you into his hotel room.

You were safe. 

You were home.

TW; shootings, unsolicited violence (it’s J, I mean????)

J was not happy. You knew to not phone him when he was out on “business”, so when he answered the call with an eye roll, he was expecting something bad. Anything less and he would have your head.

“J, the - I hit a - possum - “ You broke off, too upset to speak.

J made a sharp motion with the hand which wasn’t holding the phone and three men scurried forward like rats out of the darkness as he put you on speaker.

“All right, doll, shush, shush, shush,” J shook his head, “Deep breaths for me, hm? Where are ya’?”

“I don’t know, I - “ You choked on a sob and J sighed, making another motion with the same hand so that another of his men could start to trace the tracker he’d put on your car months ago.

“Sit tight, Y/N. I got’cha.” 

J put one, two, three bullets into random people’s heads and stalked from the warehouse, the three men he’d chosen hot on his tail as the fourth man texted him your location.

The world could burn for all J cared, for in this moment all he saw was you.

[hooned]

I am here to just say that I am not a fan of Bright or Win but I do not condemn cyber bulling. I dislike that people are going around misinterpreting false information and video clips that they have seen and then make an assumption off it. Bright getting more fame after 2Gether has definitely gone up and it's sad to see that because of it there are going to be so many anti fans. Those anti fans do not understand that hateful words can hurt emotionally and mentally. Bright is probably

Going through a paranoid and traumatic state reading and hearing about all these hate so much. I just hope that he will not harm himself and I hope that he does get therapy because he's still very young and to have all these things come at him can be very stressful. I hope that the people he loves do take good care about him because hateful words can be engraved into people's thoughts and hearts. It's a serious matter and it's not a joke to play around with.

hiii, love!! 💙 exactly. thank youu so much for sending this bb. we're not really asking people to like him. like whoever you like. it's ok. but at LEAST. AT THE VERY LEAST. respect him. at least think about how he's just as human as all of us. he laughs, he cries, he gets happy, he gets tired. he is human and he will break if this much goes on. it has to stop. people on twitter actually saying that the boycott hashtag was a joke ??? it stops being a joke when someone's mental health is literally being jeopardized. it stops being a joke when it hurts people. it stops being a joke when it harms perfectly good relationship. it is not a joke. it is what it is, cyberbullying. and people need to be held responsible for it. *side eyeing gmmtv* 👀

+ people can't say that these stuff don't affect bright coz it does. he keeps on saying on interviews that he tries to not let it get into his head, that he sees it as a lesson to improve himself, but the man has done nothing to elicit such hate?? like. it does affect him. he used to be vvv addicted to social media. he used to go on insta lives always, happy when he sees people coming to watch him. he always does askbright on twitter coz he loves talking to his fans. but now?? now what?? he almost does not go online if not for endorsements and promotions. now tell me it's not that deep. tell me it does not affect him. that he's okay.

he's not. and the photos of him and win recently shows how tired and drained they are of everything. just let them take a break pls. let them rest. they need it 😔

[definitelynotwinter]

Hey are you ok? You don’t have to answer but I want you to know are worth love and care and affection. I’m sorry that you’ve had to fight for it and made to feel like you don’t deserve it but you do. Other people treating you like trash is a reflection of them not you. You valid and wonderful just as you are. I hope you feel better soon. Sending you all the love you actually deserve and more.

💙💙💙

Hi. Thank you for your kind words. I am not in the proper mental state to give you all the words you deserve back but to make it short I am not okay- and your words have more of an impact than you know. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for reaching out

[delusion-of-negation]

1 Not sure if I can give that anon my experience as a fellow ND disabled, since they didn't add their Acc. So I hope this is ok. Intersectionality acknowledges that (in the West) a disabled indigenous gay person is in a spot where they'll be attacked from 3 different points, and have to deal with oppression from these traits. But that doesn't mean that a disabled white cishet person suddenly doesn't experience any oppression based on their disability, just because they're also white and cishet.

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still somewhat of an oversimplification - as a white person, you actually will be affected by racist systems in a negative way, the building blocks of abusive legislation that negatively impacts an area of life seemingly unrelated often have connections to some racist policy of the past, you can be mistaken for non-white, or simply have your "whiteness" revoked (see: polish people in the united kingdom) and be victimised by racism, and so forth. but genuinely, that's just an aside I wanted to add, I don't expect the character limit and casual nature of this convo to result in total perfection explaining intersectionality. but to illustrate why this distinction matters "mentally disabled" and "physically disabled" lines randomly get drawn in the sand, and yet allegedly physical disabilities make my thinking foggy and distracted, make it hard consuming food or sleeping, and make my head worse, while an allegedly mental one damaged my organs, accelerated my now irreparable muscle atrophy, and is helping slowly kill me. there's actually no line between these two things. and yet, there are the ways being more "physically disabled" affects your experience, discrimination, etc, generally speaking - a depressed person will ultimately be able to leave the shopping center via the stairs in a dangerous fire, somebody who can't walk won't and will need to actually be carried, because nobody thinks to design lifts safe in disaster situations, if that's even possible. having a neuro issue causing physical symptoms, like epilepsy, gets sidelined in nd conversations because people think of it as just autism or adhd. similarly, racism and disability issues aren't these unique arrows that'll hit you if you meet a certain criteria - like I said, it's not all actually one, it's all an interconnected web of systems, not only rooted in white supremacy, but not disconnected from it either. personally, I take issue with the need to say "as someone who is unaffected by x" because I'm called racial slurs semi-regularly, because people mistake my race irl, and idek for sure my race, majority of my family doesn't talk to me, those that do aren't bio relatives, and my mom did cheat on my abusive father at least a couple times. what I do know is I'm half welsh, and the kinds of oppression the english did to the welsh (took our land, tried to destroy our language, etc) are literally their go-to racist policies, which isn't to say "welsh and black is the same", it's to say that oppressive institutions have patterns that manifest similarly to various groups they attack - welsh, black, gay, trans, disabled, I would submit that all this "the welsh shag sheep", "witches fuck satan", "arabs fuck goats", "gay people fuck kids", "trans people... actually also fuck kids we're out of ideas", they're all the pattern repeating itself, attacking people on the grounds of an alleged dangerous/harmful deviant sex to degrade and dehumanise the people. this stuff isn't "x is hurt on the basis of y and z, but I am only affected by z", it's complicated, but having your bugbear be simply z, and then saying all y is actually z, would also be wrong. overall otherwise 100% agree though, invalidating the pain that white disabled people experience doesn't help anti-racist stuff. which is why I said we need to work on our own issues together apart, apart together, side by side, with intersectional and kind awareness of how this isn't a movie with just one big bad villain.