#i have nothing to offer anyone anyway

[saaraahka]

It makes me so sad seeing the bdsm community develop in a direction were unless as a sub you pay or contribute with free labour, there is no reason to even consider contact with dominant women. But I guess it makes sense too. Were all getting fucked by the economy and with the sub to domme ratio being like it is it makes sense to only have higher expectations I guess. Idk maybe it makes perfect sense having someone do all cleaning, laundry, handyman duties etc as part of any vetting process idk. Or it's just a convenient way of exploiting people

[astronnova]

proposition: danny's hair turns white in random patches when he's used too much power, he just dyes it back to all black when he gets home

[ailinu]

i am not indulging my worst impulses but i sure do want to.

[copia]

been a sleep token fan since january; listened to ascensionism for the first time today. don't ask. point is i should be used to them and vessel's genre-defying ways by now but the switch-up at ~1:47 still made me laugh out loud

[dancewithmejustforthehellofit]

aRGH i finally got a job offer (kinda?) and now i'm existing in this weird limbo for the foreseeable future!!

[trimmedarmor]

doing the equivalent of gripping something intensely hard then forcing myself to let it go every time i see something about the stupid fandom drama i got pulled into earlier this year

[talkorsomething]

I can't sleep again.

[olli-online]

[tautozhone]

idk how to start this so this post is ab individual action, trying to motivate positive change in the world, etc etc

a lot of growing up in the US for me makes things feel more scary than they are. like it’s actually not that difficult to go out of your way to get a bottle of water or iced cup of water from some random drive through if you think you should do it. either fast food conglomerate or local actually, it’ll usually be cheaper than 5 dollars to get drinkable water. i try to have 5-10 dollars i can justify spending on water, and asking for change, because sometimes when i’m out driving i need to go grab water.

i do not do this for me as much as i try to do it specifically when i see someone who’s most likely homeless on a street corner. i’m sure one day i might do this and they might not be there when i come back, but what have i lost really? a bit of time and a bit of money that would’ve meant more to them, that i can hold onto until i see them next.

the pressure that a lot of people feel when they think “what can i do” comes from this grand narrative that the average citizen can singlehandedly fix the housing crisis. rich people? maybe. nonprofits? not in a day, not all one person still. what can i do is a question i ask a lot. what can i do, not just because it feels bad to move along like nothings wrong with the world, but what can i do that will do anything. what can i do that makes even the smallest change.

i feel like it took me too long to figure out a personal method to what i consider individual action. it’s taking time to get to my own financial stability to be able to do more. but for now it’s as simple as water and cash. not water and food, but water and cash.

individual action means a lot in small steps, go get a bottle of water bare minimum and the price of a meal if you can and then just give it to them. if it wasn’t such a miserably hot place where i live i would keep a pack of water in my car, which i still want to do for the sake of having immediate access to water to give someone who might need it- hot or cold sometimes won’t matter. but when it’s hot out, get cold water, if it’s cold out, a warm tea will hydrate more than coffee will as long as it’s not super caffeinated.

[gentlethorns]

hmmm getting in my head a little bit about some issues i'm already seeing in my first draft that ik i'll need to confront in my second draft. but i genuinely just have to be like *sprays my overcritical mind w a spray bottle* no!!!!! let me finish the first draft first!!!!!!

[itspileofgoodthings]

there is a point at which using your persona to make money simply invalidates any sincerity you try to put into it.

[bleuberrygliscor]

I wanted to both answer this publicly (idk if the sender wanted their name attached to it just in case) and put a huge ass [this is just my own personal experience] label on this post, because its gonna get sad before it gets good.

The answer honestly is: the degree is not going to get you living wages, not anymore.

Unless you are going into a field that is extremely technical and requires documentation and masters' level shit, your ownership of a degree is not vital. does it help? yeah kinda, but its not worth your mental or physical health over.

There are plenty of vocational schools, if you want to go into something more specialized but not academic. Lots of Vet-tech, Beauty, etc etc places that dont require college to get into or graduate from. If you wanna run straight into work stuff, Temp Agencies are pretty good. I myself do contract work (which blows but thats another soapbox for another day) and thats decent too. Really alot of these places who want "degrees" just want "experience" and are being dicks about it. (especially if youre in the stem field. recruiters are so unhelpful, dont fucking listen to them 90% of the time.)

i have worked with people with degrees, in the same shit filled trenches i was in, miserable and underpaid. the degree will not save you from a minimum wage job unless you were lucky enough to get into a lab or something. lucky enough to be in good graces with a professor who happened to know someone who was looking for a new person. lucky enough to be on campus when a recruiter worth their salt showed up, and not some army schmuck.

and thats what it really comes down to, degree or not, its luck. it was never about how hard you worked, or how much time you put in. its about being lucky, at the right place at the right time, or knowing someone who can pull you up with them. i am almost 30, and i still live at home, because for years (even when working 1 full time and 2 part time jobs, while also attending university, all at the same time) i could not afford to even look at a studio apartment where i live. But. if i would have stayed in college, i would have killed myself, if not outright then from the stress, and i would never have made it long enough to get lucky enough that i can maybe entertain leaving my childhood bedroom.

But, knowing that its luck doesnt mean you should give up. if going to college for what youre doing is what you want, truly deep down what you want, then you should keep going- take breaks if you need to, slow down on your courses. but if its not, then fuck it and pursue what you do want. Find roommates that are chill and share an apartment / home with them. Get a job close to doing what you like, so you can gain experience. Keep rolling the dice and you'll get to where youre wanting to be eventually.

[celticwoman]

can hear my mom and my sister talking about me :)

[rokurookajima]

waking up ready to cry but also .. with a cruel angel’s thesis stuck in my head lol

[beetrans]

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[wasch-lappen]

Slowly starting to accept the fact I am just unlikeable as a person and interaction will never go well for me. My friend of over 7 years slowly drifting away is the final nail in this coffin for me. Just no person can stand me and that is just how its going to be