#i have difficulty with execution and usually give up first time around but ill probably come back to this

[lazzincats]

Sketchy flower boys

Not exactly what i was going for so probably do for a re sketch

[midearthwritings]

Could I please get an Lotr and The Hobbit Matchup, of you're still doing them? Thanks so much!

🌱 18 year old Woman // Bisexual // Autistic and Disabled with a bonus Anxiety Disorder

🌱 I have a litany of Chronic Illnesses including Autism, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Depression, Dyscalculia (Dyslexia for Math), Scoliosis, Sleep Apnea, Asthma, a Growth Hormone Deficiency, Insomnia, and a very bad Overbite. I also have a condition where my right leg is physically longer than my left, which causes pain in my hip and right leg, as well as trouble walking. My usual symptoms include Fatigue, Back Pain, Executive Dysfunction (struggle to get tasks done), Difficulty breathing and talking, Very short stature, and difficulties with my balance. I also stim by pacing around in circles and talking to myself.

🌱 I have a serious fear of heights, partially because of my balance issues. It's so bad that I can't even use stairs without holding onto the railing.

🌱 I know a lot of Home Remedies and Superstitions for like no reason. For instance, did you know that Raspberry Tea helps with Menstrual Pain, or that knocking on wood invokes the protection of the tree spirit and that’s why it’s said to give you luck? I don’t know why I know that, but I do.

🌱 Winning a fight is on my bucket list, but it has to be for a good reason. I’m not one to just pick fights for the sake of fighting, and I’m actually pretty conflict-averse due to trauma, so I need to actually have a solid reason for throwing hands. But I’ve always wanted to do it for some reason.

🌱 I really like studying Witchcraft for some reason. The first spell I ever performed was a Healing Spell to help my friend who was sick with Crohn's Disease. Thirty minutes after performing the ritual, I got a text saying he felt a lot better and he was released from the hospital a couple days later, so I guess it must’ve worked. 😁

🌱 My love language is definitely gift giving. I’m pretty cheap, but I’m also an artist, so when push comes to shove I’ll just make something for someone when I like them. I pay very close attention to what people like because it gives me more ideas on how to interact with them. I’m essentially a large, flightless Crow. You were nice, so you get something shiny. But though I like giving gifts to others, I’m not very materialistic at all. I prefer to be practical when it comes to things, and I get very nervous when spending money on myself.

🌱 I’m an avid writer and am actually planning on publishing a book this summer!

🌱 I LOVE going outside and getting messy. Playing in the mud, getting soaked in the rain, I’m the type to go outside and come back home covered in dirt and twigs. It’s just really fun to me.

🌱 I've been told that I'm a very good cook, and I can bake pretty well too.

🌱 I’ve always wanted to be a really good gardener. My dream house is just covered in flowers and plants and such. I want to live in a Greenhouse, basically.

🌱 I have a habit of giggling to myself just by remembering something funny that happened, even if it was a couple years ago. I also laugh when I do something stupid, because I find my flaws and shortcomings funny for the most part. I love to laugh with people, but never at them.

🌱 I know way too much about Spirits and Fae. My favorite book is called ‘The Encyclopedia of Spirits’ and it shows you how to contact and interact with a ton of different deities and spirits, and I’m addicted to reading it. It’s the best.

🌱 I’m basically like a tiny, less-impressive Aragorn. I love travelling on foot, getting messy outside, I was kind of a Horse Girl as a kid ngl, I’ve always wanted to be a knight or king of some sort, chances are that I haven’t bathed in awhile, and I too would pine for a hot elf girl for literal years on end.

🌱 My closest friends say I give off “Dwobbit” vibes. That’s a ½ Dwarf and ½ Hobbit btw. I’m around 4’ 10” tall, I don’t shave, I love crafting and art, I live in the Mountains, I’m tomboyish but I also love gardening and can be a bit of a homebody, I love going barefoot, etc.

🌱 I really love History, Folklore, Mythology and Fairy Tales. My favorite is the Irish myth of Oisín in Tir Na Nog. Look it up if you don’t know it, it’s a fantastic story. But I also appreciate myths from all sorts of different cultures, like the myth of Annapurna in India or the tale of Princess Kaguya in Japan.

🌱 I’m an Aquarius, INFP and 4w5 if that means anything. For reference, characters who are also 4w5 INFPs include Lydia Deetz (Beetlejuice), Wirt (Otgw), Frankenstein’s Monster, Luna Lovegood (HP), Napstablook (Undertale), Erik The Phantom of the Opera, and Celeste from Animal Crossing. That kinda tells you a lot about me, doesn’t it?

🌱 I am naturally very shy and take awhile to open up to people. I also get flustered very easily and tend to avoid social interaction a lot. I’m a huge introvert, but I also really do love meeting interesting people, so I try to talk to them when I have the energy to.

🌱 I have very long Disheveled brown hair, that actually used to be blonde when I was little, so there’s a few lighter patches in there. It's essentially a fluffy mane at this point, but because of my poor hand-eye coordination I never learned how to braid it. I have really pale skin, with lots of moles, freckles and scabs. It’s also warmer out, so I almost certainly have a farmer’s tan. I have very light blue eyes and glasses.

🌱 I have a habit of seeing shadows move out of the corners of my eyes, frequently mistaking them for people or animals, but when I turn to look there’s nothing there. I’ve gotten my eyesight checked multiple times, but there’s nothing out of the ordinary, so it’s either a lack of sleep, or the Fae are getting antsy with me. Probably the former of course, but part of me would like to believe the latter too.

Sorry the description is so long, I can't wait to see my results! Thanks so much, wishing you the best!!

Hey darling! First, wow that was really long! Sorry for taking so long to make it, as I mentioned before, I'm a fucking procrastinator.

Aragorn

For LOTR, I'm pairing you up with Aragorn.

Aragorn had probably loved you for a really really long time.

But he's extremely patient and careful with you, so it took him a while to confess his love.

When he did, it was kind of overwhelming for you, and you were really doubting the whole thing. But again, he was really patient with you.

Aragorn doesn't cover you in gifts to show his love. He shows it by remembering all those little things that make you you.

The two of you can spend hours telling stories and tales to the other. It's your favorite thing to do together.

He loves that you write and always ask to read your work. Although, he never pushes you and respects you when you refuse.

He knows about every single one of your illnesses and makes sure that you always have what you need.

Bilbo Baggins

For the Hobbit, I picked Bilbo.

Bilbo loves you deeply and truly. He thinks all the things that are annoying to others are what make you the most unique being he has ever met.

He thinks listening to you tell tales is more fascinating than reading.

Most of all, he loves when you read to him the stories that you have created.

Sometimes, your illnesses are a bit complicated for him to understand, but he does his best and listens to your needs.

His favorite thing to do with you is cooking. Sometimes, you will even compete over who is the best cook. Although he admitted more than once that you were.

When you are out gardening, he sits outside with you and watches you. He thinks it's beautiful how hard you work to make his garden look so gorgeous.

He is often insecure about losing you. He is scared that he won't be able to provide you with what you need, or won't be able to show you how much he loves you.

As for you, you fear that one day he might grow tired of you.

But the communication in your relationship is great and your insecurities are even washed away by promises of eternal love.

Again, sorry for the wait! I hope you liked it!

[reallifesultanas]

Portrait of Mehmed III / III. Mehmed portréja

Origin and childhood

Mehmed was born in May 1566 as the great-grandson of Sultan Suleiman I, and as the first-born son of later Mehmed III and his favorite concubine, Safiye. At his birth, the statesmen were quite worried about the future of the dynasty, for in the autumn of 1566 Sultan Suleiman died and was followed by his son Selim, whose only one heir was Murad and infant Mehmed. Because of this, the sultan himself was eventually forced to produce sons. However, Mehmed was not left without brothers for long either. His half-brother Selim followed him in 1567 and then his full-brother Mahmud in 1569.

Mehmed's childhood was fairly calm, his father being the only true heir to the empire, so they did not have to worry about strife. Mehmed and his siblings lived in peace with their parents in Manisa until 1574. Then in 1574 Sultan Selim passed away and Mehmed's father ascended the throne. With this, the life of the family turned upside down as they soon moved to Istanbul. There Mehmed's life was complicated by the power struggle between his mother, Safiye, and his grandmother, Nurbanu Sultan. This struggle may have only subsided for a few months when they mourned Prince Mahmud, who died in 1580.

In 1582, at the age of 16, a huge circumcision ceremony was held for the prince, organized by his aunt, Esmehan Sultan. The circumcision was performed by Cerrah Mehmed Pasha, who was the husband of Mehmed’s other aunt, Gevherhan. Maybe just after the circumcision, maybe even earlier, Mehmed got very close to Gevherhan and her husband. Perhaps the balanced couple brought some consolation to Mehmed’s life, who, being a sensitive soul, was certainly worn out by the political struggle in the harem.

Deterioration of his relationship with his father

Mehmed was extremely committed to his mother, so he defended Safiye with his full heart in her fight with Nurbanu. However, Sultan Murad was at least as committed to his own mother as Mehmed, so it was only a matter of time before the battle between the two women would destroy the relationship between the sultan and Mehmed also. Soon Safiye Sultan was exiled to the Old Palace in late 1582, or early 1583, along with her daughters. Mehmed begged his father not to humiliate Safiye for false accusations, but Murad was dismissive.

It is not known whether Mehmed was as angry with his grandmother as he was with his father, but it is certain that his grandmother tried to protect Mehmed. Nurbanu was already very ill by 1583, but she spent her last months trying to reconcile father and son. To this, she also managed to cover up a huge sin of Mehmed, which would easily cause a death penalty. Mehmed - perhaps to anger his father - had sex with one of his father's concubines, who got pregnant. The princes were forbidden to have sex and procreation until they were given their own province, and sexual intercourse with a member of the sultan’s harem was essentially a betrayal that the prince could have easily lost his life if Murad would found out. However, as soon as Nurbanu learned of the incident, she killed the concubine so that no trace of Mehmed's actions remained.

Mehmed left Istanbul in December 1583 to get his own province. This event usually involves a huge ceremony, with the Sultan personally giving his blessing to his son, escorting him out of the city. Before he left, Mehmed went to his father's usual audience where he asked him to go to the Old Palace together to ask for his mother's blessing before he leaves. And he also said Murad that he should forgive Safiye and marry her to restore her ruined honor. Murad immediately distracted his son and refused to show up for his farewell either. With this, Murad was the first sultan ever, who did not appear when his son left the capital. Mehmed was still stationed in the suburbs for days, waiting for his father, but Murad did not attend. In the end, on her death-bed, Nurbanu could convince her son to have better insights. The dying valide asked her son to swore that he would not hurt Mehmed and that he would settle his relationship with him.

The young prince

Mehmed certainly left the capital depressed, which was not helped by the fact that extremely cold winter weather was there so that they reached Manisa only by January 1584 with great difficulty. Then finally the prince could start his own life, start building his own circles. When he was circumcised, Mehmed had received plenty of presents, all of which he had taken with him to Manisa. These included several concubines, the most valuable of which he received from Gevherhan Sultan, who gave Mehmed a young Bosnian concubine of her own upbringing. The concubine was named Handan and soon she gave birth to children for Mehmed. Most historians see her as the mother of Mehmed's firstborn child, Prince Selim, who was born in February 1585.

Unfortunately, the princely harem of Mehmed is very poorly documented, so it is not known exactly which children were born from which concubines. Mehmed had two main concubines in Manisa, Handan, and Halime, but it is not certain that all the children came from these two women. Shortly after Prince Selim, a boy named Suleiman was born, but not much is known about him. In 1587/88 another son, Mahmud was born, who was undoubtedly the son of Halime; then he was followed in 1590 by Ahmed, the son of Handan. Most likely, more children were born during the princelyhood of Mehmed, but less is known about them. In addition to his sons, he also had at least three daughters, Hatice certainly from Halime; Ayşe probably from Handan; and his daughter, Şah, maybe from Halime.

But not only the Manisa harem was vivid with the ever-swelling family, great changes took place in Istanbul's harem as well. In 1585 (or sooner) Sultan Murad forgave Mehmed's mother and even married her. Thanks to this, Safiye was always there next to the sultan, so she again had the power to protect her son. Safiye eventually successfully balanced between Sultan Murad and his son, Mehmed, because it seems that the relationship between Murad and Mehmed has stabilized somewhat. However, Murad was afraid of his son for the rest of his life, for Mehmed began to become very popular in the eyes of the soldiers.

His accession to the throne

Murad died in 1595, and Safiye Sultan immediately sent a message to her son to come to Istanbul. An attempt was made to keep the sultan’s death as a secret, as Murad had produced plenty of boys over the past 15 years. True, they were all children, and their mothers did not have any power that could have endangered Mehmed's accession to the throne. Nonetheless, Safiye warned those around her to be careful and instead of sending a vizier to Mehmed with the news, he sent the chief gardener without any particular escorts. However, the news of Murad's death somehow leaked, according to several ambassadors, the situation became very dangerous in the capital, as they feared a rebellion. Dozens of people from the harem were thrown into the sea every night. Safiye and her supporters tried to maintain order and get rid of anyone who could have acted against them until Mehmed arrived.

Finally, Mehmed arrived eleven days later and ascended the throne. His accession to the throne can be considered historic in several ways. For he was the last sultan to ascend the throne, after ruling in a province and gain experience. In addition, the law of fratricide at the time of his accession started to be a dramatic, unnecessary event for the people of Istanbul and the statesmen. This is why the practice happened the last time in an official form at his accession. Upon Mehmed's arrival, he immediately ordered the execution of his younger brothers, during which nineteen princes were torn from their mother's arms and strangled. The next day at the funeral, nineteen small coffins followed the sultan's coffin. The people of Istanbul were shocked, and public opinion - although not condemning Mehmed for his deed (since he only followed the laws) - was changing clearly against the law of fratricide.

Like Mehmed's father, he ascended the throne at a relatively young age, being only 29 years old, about as many as Murad III or Suleiman I were when they ascended the throne. Mehmed was a promising candidate and tried to prove his abilities. Under pressure from his Veziers, he went on a campaign in person in 1596, which was quite unusual, since neither Murad III, nor Selim II lead a campaign. The purpose of the Viziers was to win the love of the soldiers and the recognition of the people.

His reign

So Mehmed himself led the campaign against the Kingdom of Hungary in 1596 and successfully occupied the castle of Eger. However, the occupation of the castle alone did not make the campaign successful, as they failed to win on several fronts and the war was not over. Although Mehmed earned the Gazi (conquerer) prefix for his name, he failed to win the love of the soldiers. The sultan behaved rather cowardly during the campaign, at one point, at the field of Mezőeresztes, on the advice of the chief eunuch Gazanfer Agha, he almost fled the battlefield.

Returning to Istanbul, although the glorious sultan was received with a huge ceremony and his popularity began to rise, his joy did not last long. In 1597, his eldest son Selim and a younger son, Suleiman, also died as a result of an epidemic so do one of his consorts and others from the palace. With this, the issue of inheritance has also become uncertain. Unlike her father, however, he did not start foolishly the reproduction. The fact is, however, that at least two sons were born during this period, probably both from Halime. Prince Cihangir was born in the late 1590s and died in 1602; Prince Mustafa was born in 1600 or 1601, as the last child of Mehmed.

It is clear that Mehmed tried to be different from his father in every way possible, so in addition to the campaign, he also tried to rid the palace of his father's people, his dwarves, his mutes, and other things which he considered unnecessary, but which his father found amusing. Mehmed forcibly wanted to win the love of the people and the soldiers by being different from his father, but it was his loving and beloved mother, Safiye, who hindered him the most in this. Mehmed gave his mother enough power to go beyond even his own father. Safiye's dominance is well exacerbated by the fact that returning home after the Eger campaign, Mehmed could not appoint the one he wanted to be Grand Vizier, but made his brother-in-law, former Grand Vizier Ibrahim Pasha as the new Grand-vizier, under pressure from his mother.

Mehmed was thought to be his mother’s puppet, which, objectively examined, also seems a legitimate accusation. It is not known for sure whether Mehmed was unfit to rule and his mother, therefore, tried to forcibly dominate Mehmed or Safiye was led by a simple hunger for power. Unfortunately, little is known about Mehmed, so his private life and personality are less known, which makes his judgment difficult. The sultan loved to spend most of his time in the harem, he loved to play chess with the daughter of one of the leading harem servants, he never argued with his mother or viziers, never executed anyone for fun. Mehmed seems more like a retreating, slightly ninny man, mom’s little boy who did anything for his mother, than a real strong man. True that as a prince, he opposed the sultan which would suggest he was maybe brave, but he did it for the sake of his mother, and as a sultan, he also gave her everything she wanted, so it seems there was only one thing that made Mehmed brave, and that was the doing something for his mother, Safiye. For her, even the ninny boy confronted anyone.

Conflicts

Mehmed's brief reign was accompanied by many rebellions. The reason for this was not primarily Mehmed’s person, but his mother Safiye, who put her own men in every possible position with which they build a corruption network that spanned the entire empire. And as a faithful child, Mehmed complied with all of his mother's requests. The resentment of the people finally culminated in 1600 during a Sipahi rebellion. In March, after Mehmed distributed the soldiers' fee among the statesmen, the Sipahis demanded the heads of every rich, corrupt statesman (and woman) from the sultan. It was the first really serious rebellion against Mehmed, but after a long rampage, he finally managed to convince the soldiers that he would change and will remove his mother from the vicinity of state affairs. So Mehmed’s fear eventually led him to repeat his own father’s deed: he exiled Safiye to the Old Palace. However, the exile was certainly only to reassure the soldiers as Safiye returned soon. In addition, after this uprising, for the first time in his life, he rejected a wish from his mother. During the rebellion, his mother's close friend, Esperanza Malchi, was murdered, and Safiye demanded revenge for the woman and demanded that his son replace two of his viziers, who she said did not protect Esperanza enough. However, Mehmed was so afraid of the rebellion that he rejected his mother harshly and briefly.

Not learning from the threat from the soldiers, Safiye and her men continued the corruption, and Mehmed could not (or did not want to) do anything about it. Thus, it is perhaps not surprising that in 1601 another revolt shook the capital. Then, on March 21, the Sipahis revolted again and sent a delegation to the sultan, demanding that he surrender several of his statesmen, if he did not give in to their demands, he could easily be the victim of dethronement. In fright, Mehmed agreed to extradite everyone on the list, but eventually, Safiye, Grand Vizier Damad Ibrahim Pasa, and Yemişci Hasan Pasa convinced the sultan that he could not betray his loyal men. The head mufti, Sunullah Efendi - who, by the way, secretly supported the uprising - eventually convinced the soldiers to calm down, changes would come.

Of course, no change took place, so in January 1603 there was another revolt against Mehmed, in which not only the Sipahis and the Ulema, but the Janissaries were included as well. On January 6, they captured Gazanfer Agha along with the chief black eunuch, Osman, and dragged them out of the palace, all the way to Topkapi’s third gate, where both were beheaded in front of the crowd and the sultan. According to eyewitnesses, the sultan began to sob as Gazanfer Agha was very close to him. The insurgents eventually were fine with the execution of Gazanfer, Osman Agha, and other less significant individuals and the uprising ended.

Another significant uprising associated with Mehmed’s reign was the Celali uprising, which spread throughout Anatolia and kept the empire on fire for decades to come. There have also been wars on several fronts between the Ottoman Empire and its neighbors. This much strife, of course, did not start only because of the person of Mehmed and Safiye but as the geopolitical situation also changed a lot, facilitating the development of rebellions and wars. However, the fact is that the Sultan’s person did not help the situation also.

Last drop

By 1603, Mehmed had only three living children left, Mahmud, Ahmed, and Mustafa. Since Mehmed did not have Haseki, he did not have a favorite concubine, the people did not know which son Mehmed himself favored. That is why everyone could hardly wait to send his sons to the province. After all, one could have guessed from the provincial classification to which son was the closest to Mehmed. However, events slowly showed the Sultan’s feelings on their own.

While Mehmed’s popularity was in ruins, his eldest living son, Mahmud, was popular very much. The Janissaries and Sipahis all supported the young prince, which caused strife between father and son. Mahmud repeatedly acted very recklessly in the presence of his father, for example, asking his father to give him an army to defeat Celalis; at other times he urged his father to give him province at last. For a sultan who experienced 3 rebellions in 3 years, these words could have been extremely frightening. Especially considering that Mahmud was very popular among the rebel soldiers, thanks to the fact that he spoke openly against Safiye several times. He claimed that his grandmother’s activities were very detrimental to the empire and that his father was essentially a puppet in the hands of the valide.

However, Mehmed even overlooked Mahmud's recklessness and support, as he never appointed Ahmed, perhaps the one he liked more, as heir to the throne against Mahmud. However, according to legend, Mahmud's mother Halime, in 1603 sent a letter to a seer to ask if her son would ever rule this empire. However, Safiye grabbed the reply letter and suspected Halime and Mahmud that they had conspired against the sultan. In addition, there were rumors circulating in the capital that Mahmud and his mother wanted to poison the sultan so that Mahmud could occupy the throne. This was already too much for Mehmed, so Halime and Mahmud were accused of treason, and their servants were tortured until they testified against them. And in the knowledge of these confessions, Mehmed sentenced his own son, Mahmud, to death, the sentence was carried out on June 7, 1603. All the ambassadors present during the events in the capital believed that Safiye was behind Mahmud's execution.

His death

The execution of Mahmud certainly had a negative effect on Mehmed's health, especially if he made the decision only under pressure from his mother, as the ambassadors suggested. Mehmed had been obese for years at the time, which was so heavy that he could not ride a horse, but he had no known illnesses or malaise. He was also relatively young, so the issue of inheritance was not so important in the eyes of the commoners. Shortly after Mahmud's death, however, Mehmed appointed Ahmed as heir. He wanted to refer to this by appearing at a state ceremony, where Safiye took Prince Ahmed to watch the state ceremony together. In addition, Mehmed arranged for Ahmed to accompany him wherever he went. Thus, from the summer of 1603, there was the new heir apparent to the throne, the sick, quiet Prince Ahmed.

Then, on the night of December 20, 1603, Mehmed died suddenly, certainly due to a heart attack, at the age of thirty-seven. His overweight and the much stress he suffered during his brief reign certainly contributed to the fatal heart attack. And the next morning he was succeeded on the throne by his thirteen-year-old son, the first sultan who never ruled in the province but ascended the throne without any experience. Mehmed was buried at Aya Sofia.

Used sources: C. Finkel - Osman's Dream: The Story of the Ottoman Empire; L. Peirce - The imperial harem; M. P. Pedani - Safiye's household and Venetian diplomacy; G. Börekçi - Factions and favourites at the courts of Sultan Ahmed I (r. 1603-17) and his immediate predecessors; Necdet Sakaoğlu - Bu Mülkün Kadın Sultanları; G. Börekçi - A Queen Mother at Work: On Handan Sultan and Her Regency during the Early Reign of Ahmed I; Kayaalp-Aktan - The Atik Valide Mosque Complex: A testament of Nurbanu’s prestige, power and piety; P. Kayaalp - The Empress Nurbanu and Ottoman Politics in the Sixteenth Century Building the Atik Valide; S. Faroqhi - The Ottoman Empire and the World around it; C. Imber - The Ottoman Empire 1300-1650; D.A. Howard - A History of the Ottoman Empire

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Származása és gyermekkora

Mehmed, 1566 májusában született Szulejmán szultán dédunokájaként, a leendő III. Mehmed és kedvenc ágyasa, Safiye elsőszülött fiaként. Születésekor az államférfiak meglehetősen aggódtak a dinasztia jövője miatt, ugyanis 1566 őszén Szulejmán szultán elhunyt, helyét fia, Szelim vette át, akinek egyetlen egy örököse volt, Murad. Muradnak pedig egyetlen fia, Mehmed. Emiatt végül a szultán maga rá lett kényszerítve, hogy fiakat nemzzen. Azonban Mehmed sem maradt sokáig testvérek nélkül. Féltestvére Szelim 1567-ben követte őt, majd 1569-ben édesöccse, Mahmud.

Mehmed gyermekkora meglehetősen felhőtlenül telt, apja volt a birodalom egyetlen igazi örököse, így nem kellett aggódniuk a trónviszályok miatt. Mehmed és testvérei egészen 1574-ig békében éltek Maniszában szüleikkel. 1574-ben aztán Szelim szultán elhunyt és Mehmed apja lépett a trónra. Ezzel a család élete alaposan felfordult és hamarosan Maniszát hátrahgyva Isztambulba költöztek. Itt Mehmed életét megnehezítette édesanyja, Safiye és nagyanyja, Nurbanu szultánák hatalmi harca. Ez a harc talán csak néhány hónapig enyhült, amíg az 1580-ban elhunyt Mahmud herceget gyászolták.

1582-ben, 16 éves korában hatalmas körülmetélési szertartást rendeztek a herceg számára, melyet nagynénje, Esmehan szultána rendezett. A körülmetélést Cerrah Mehmed Pasa végezte, aki Mehmed másik nagynénjének, Gevherhannak volt a férje. Talán épp a körülmetélés után, talán már előbb is, Mehmed nagyon közel került Gevherhanhoz és férjéhez. Talán a kiegyensúlyozott házaspár hozott némi vigaszt Mehmed életébe, akit érzékeny lélek lévén minden bizonnyal megviselt a háremben zajló politikai harc.

Apjával való viszonyának megromlása

Mehmed, az anyja iránt végletekig elkötelezett volt, így teljes mellszélességgel védte Safiyét a Nurbanuval vívott harcában. Murad szultán azonban legalább annyira elkötelezett volt saját anyja iránt, mint Mehmed, így csak idő kérdése volt, hogy a két nő csatározása a szultán és Mehmed viszonyát is megkeseríti majd. Safiye szultánát 1582 végén, vagy 1583 elején száműzte a szultán lányaival együtt a Régi Palotába. Mehmed kérlelte apját, hogy ne alázza meg hamis vádak miatt Safiyét, Murad azonban elutasító volt.

Nem tudni, hogy Mehmed nagyanyjára is hasonlóan dühös volt e, mint apjára, az azonban bizonyos, hogy nagyanyja igyekezett óvni Mehmedet. Nurbanu 1583-ban már nagyon beteg volt, azonban utolsó hónapjait azzal töltötte, hogy igyekezett kibékíteni apát és fiút. Ennek érdekében egy halált érő bűntettet is sikerült eltussolnia. Mehmed ugyanis - talán, hogy bosszút álljon apján - szexuális kapcsolatot létesített apja egyik ágyasával, aki teherbe is esett tőle. A hercegek számára tiltott volt a szex és gyermeknemzés, amíg nem kapnak saját provinciát, emellett a szultán háremének tagjával való szexuális együttlét lényegében felségárulás volt, amiért akár halállal is lakolhatott volna a herceg, ha Murad rájön. Nurbanu azonban amint tudomást szerzett az esetről megölette az ágyast, hogy ne maradjon nyoma Mehmed tettének.

Mehmed 1583 decemberében hagyta el Isztambult, hogy saját provinciát kapjon. Ez az esemény általában hatalmas ünnepséggel jár, a szultán személyesen adja áldását fiára, kíséri ki őt a városból. Távozása előtt Mehmed a szokásos audienciára ment apjához, amikor újra megkérte őt, hogy menjenek el együtt a Régi Palotába, hogy anyja áldását kérhesse távozása előtt, valamint apja egyébként is bocsásson meg Safiyének és vegye őt feleségül, hogy helyreállítsa lerombolt becsületét. Murad azonnal elzavarta fiát, és nem volt hajlandó megjelenni a búcsúztatásán sem. Ezzel Murad volt a valaha élt első szultán, aki nem jelent meg fia távozásakor, hogy áldását adja rá. Mehmed napokig állomásozott még a külvárosban, várta apját, Murad azonban nem ment. Jobb belátásra végül csak Nurbanu szultána tudta bírni a szultánt, halálos ágyán. A haldokló valide megeskette fiát, hogy nem fogja bántani Mehmedet, és hogy rendezi vele kapcsolatát.

Az ifjú herceg

Mehmed minden bizonnyal lehangoltan hagyta el a fővárost, melyen nem segített az a tény sem, hogy extrém hideg tél dúlt éppen, így csak nagy nehézségek árán érték el Maniszát 1584 januárjára. Ekkor végre a herceg fellélegezhetett, elkezdhette saját életét, elkezdhette kiépíteni saját köreit. Mehmed körülmetélésekor már rengeteg ajándékot kapott, melyeket mind magával vitt Maniszába. Ezek közé több ágyas is tartozott, melyek közül a legértékesebbet Gevherhan szultánától kapta, aki egy saját maga által nevelt fiatal bosnyák származású ágyast adott Mehmednek. Az ágyas a Handan nevet kapta és hamarosan gyermekeket szült Mehmednek. Legtöbb történész neki tulajdonítja Mehmed elsőszülött gyermekét, Szelim herceget, aki 1585 februárjában született.

Sajnos Mehmed hercegi háreme igen rosszul dokumentált, így nem tudni pontosan, mely gyermekek mely ágyasoktól születtek. Mehmednek két fő ágyasa volt Maniszában Handan és Halime, azonban nem bizonyos, hogy minden gyermek ettől a két nőtől származott volna. Szelim herceg után nemsokkal egy Szulejmán nevű fiú is született, akiről azonban nem sokat tudni. 1587/88-ban újabb fiú, Mahmud jött világra, aki kétség kívül Halime fia volt; majd őt követte 1590-ben Ahmed, Handan fia. Nagy valószínűséggel további gyermekek is születtek Mehmed hercegsége során, ám róluk kevesebbet tudni. Fiai mellett legalább három lánya is volt, Hatice bizonyosan Halimétől; Ayşe pedig valószínűleg Handantól; Şah nevű lánya pedig talán Halimétől.

Ám nem csak Maniszában zajlott az élet az egyre duzzadó háremmel, Isztambulban is nagy változások következtek be. 1585-ben (vagy már hamarabb) Mehmed fellélegezhetett, ugyanis édesapja megbocsájtott édesanyjának, sőt feleségül is vette. Ennek köszönhetően Safiye ott volt mindig a szultán mellett, így újra volt hatalma megóvni fiát. Safiye végül sikeresen egyensúlyozott Murad szultán és fiuk, Mehmed között, mert olyabá tűnik, hogy Murad és Mehmed kapcsolata valamelyest stabilizálódott. Murad azonban élete végéig tartott fiától, amiért Mehmed igen népszerűvé kezdett válni a katonák szemében.

Trónralépése

Murad 1595-ben elhunyt, Safiye szultána pedig azonnal üzent fiának, hogy jöjjön Isztambulba. A szultán halálhírét igyekeztek titokban tartani, hiszen Murad rengeteg fiút nemzett az elmúlt 15 évben. Igaz mind gyermek volt még csupán, anyjaik pedig nem rendelkeztek semmiféle hatalommal, ami veszélyeztethette volna Mehmed trónralépését. Ettől függetlenül Safiye óvatosságra intette a körülötte lévőket és ahelyett, hogy egy vezírt küldött volna Mehmedhez a hírrel, a főkertészt küldte különösebb kíséret nélkül. Azonban Murad halálhíre valahogyan mégis kiszivárgott, több követ beszámolója szerint a helyzet igen veszélyessé vált a fővárosban, lázadástól tartottak ugyanis. A háremből pedig minden éjszaka több tucat embert vetettek a tengerbe. Safiye és támogatói igyekeztek fenntartani a rendet és megszabadulni mindenkitől, aki ellenük tehetett volna, amíg Mehmed megérkezett.

Végül Mehmed tizenegy nap múlva megérkezett és elfoglalta a trónt. Trónralépése történelminek tekinthető több szempontból is. Ő volt ugyanis az utolsó szultán, aki úgy került trónra, hogy előtte saját tartományt igazgatott, melyben felkészülhetett az uralkodásra. Emellett a testvérgyilkosság törvénye az ő trónralépésekor verte ki a biztosítékot Isztambul népe és államférfijai között, így ő gyakorolta utoljára hivatalos formában. Mehmed megérkezésekor azonnal elrendelte öccsei kivégzését, melynek során tizenkilenc herceget téptek ki anyjuk karjából és fojtották meg őket. Másnap a temetésen tizenkilenc kicsi koporsó követte a szultán koporsóját. Isztambul népe pedig sokkot kapott, a közvélemény - bár nem ítélte el Mehmedet a tettéért (hiszen csak a törvényeket követte) - egyértelműen a testvérgyilkosság törvénye ellen kezdett formálódni.

Mehmed apjához hasonlóan viszonylag fiatalon lépett trónra, hiszen csak 29 éves volt, körülbelül annyi, mint III. Murad vagy I. Szulejmán voltak, mikor elfoglalták a trónt. Mehmed ígéretes jelölt volt, és igyekezett is bizonyítani rátermettségét. Vezírei nyomására 1596-ban személyesen indult hadjáratra, ami meglehetősen szokatlan volt, hiszen sem III. Murad, sem II. Szelim nem vezettek szultánként hadjáratot. A vezírek célja az volt, hogy elnyerjék a katonák szeretetét és a nép elismerését.

Uralkodása

Mehmed tehát maga vezette az 1596-os Magyar Királyság elleni hadjáratot és sikerrel foglalta el Eger várát. Azonban a vár elfoglalása önmagában nem tette a hadjáratot sikeressé, hiszen több fronton nem sikerült győzedelmeskedniük és a háború nem ért véget. Mehmed bár kiérdemelte a Gazi (hódító) előtagot nevéhez, nem sikerült kivívnia a katonák szeretetét. A szultán ugyanis meglehetősen gyáván viselkedett a hadjárat során, egy ponton, Mezőkeresztesnél a főeunuch Gazanfer Aga tanácsára majdnem kocsin menekült el a csatatérről.

Isztambulba visszatérve bár hatalmas ünnepséggel fogadták a dicső szultánt és népszerűsége emelkedni kezdett, öröme nem tartott sokáig. 1597-ben legidősebb fia Szelim és egy kisebb fia, Szulejmán is elhunytak egy járvány következtében, akárcsak egyik ágyasa és sokan mások is a palotából. Ezzel az öröklés kérdése is bizonytalanná vált. Apjától eltérően azonban nem kezdett esztelen gyermeknemzésbe. Tény azonban, hogy legalább két fia született ebben az időszakban, valószínűleg mindketten Halimétől. Cihangir herceg az 1590-es évek végén született és 1602-ben el is hunyt; Musztafa herceg pedig 1600-ban vagy 1601-ben jött világra, Mehmed utolsó gyermekeként.

Jól látható, hogy Mehmed igyekezett minden létező módon különbözni apjától, így a hadjárat mellett a palotát is próbálta megszabadítani apja kegyeltjeitől, törpéitől, némáitól és más általa feleslegesnek megítélt dolgoktól, melyeket az apja szórakoztatónak talált. Mehmed kényszeresen szerette volna elnyerni népe és katonái szeretetét, azzal, hogy más lesz, mint apja volt, azonban ebben épp szerető és szeretett édesanyja, Safiye gátolta a legjobban. Mehmed akkora hatalmat adott anyja kezébe, mellyel még saját apján is túl tett. Jól pédázza Safiye dominanciáját az a tény, hogy az egri hadjárat után hazatérve Mehmed nem nevezhette ki azt akit akart nagyvezírré, hanem anyja nyomására kényszerből nevezte ki sógorát, a korábbi nagyvezír Ibrahim Pasát.

Mehmedről úgy tartották, hogy édesanyja bábja, ami objektíven vizsgálva az eseményeket is jogos vádnak tűnik. Nem tudni biztosan, hogy Mehmed alkalmatlan volt e az uralkodásra és anyja ezért igyekezett erőszakosan dominálni Mehmedet vagy egyszerű hatalom-éhség vezette Safiyét. Mehmedről sajnos keveset tudunk, így magánélete, személyisége is kevéssé ismert, mely megnehezíti megítélését. A szultán szerette ideje nagyrészét a háremben tölteni, szeretett sakkozni az egyik vezető háremszolga lányával, sosem került szembe anyjával és olyan esemény sem maradt ránk, amik alapján vérengző szultán képe rajzolódhatna ki előttünk. Mehmed inkább tűnik egy visszahúzódó, kissé mulya férfinak, anyu kicsi fiának, aki az anyjáért bármit megtett, mintsem valódi erős férfinak. Igaz, még hercegként szembeszállt a szultánnal, ami azt sugallhatná, hogy bátor volt, ám ezt is édesanyja érdekében tette, majd szultánként mindent megadott neki, amit csak akart, így úgy tűnik, egy dolog volt csak, ami mátorrá tette Mehmedet, mégpedig, ha az anyja kedvére kellett tennie. Érte ugyanis még a mulya fiú is szembe szállt bárkivel.

Viszályok

Mehmed igen rövid uralkodását sok sok lázadás és viszály kísérte. Ennek oka elsődlegesen nem Mehmed személye volt, hanem édesanyja Safiye, aki saját embereit ültette minden pozícióba, mellyel az egész birodalmat átívelő korrupciós hálózatot építettek ki. Mehmed pedig hűséges gyermekként anyja minden kérését teljesítette. A nép ellenérzései végül 1600-ban csúcsosodtak ki egy szpáhi lázadás során. Márciusban, miután Mehmed, a katonák jussát az államférfiak között osztotta szét, a szpáhik minden gazdag, korrupt államférfi (és nő) fejét követelték a szultántól. Ez volt az első igazán komoly lázadás Mehmed ellen, ám hosszas tombolás után végül sikerült meggyőznie a katonákat arról, hogy változtatni fog, anyját pedig eltávolítja az államügyek közeléből. Mehmed félelme tehát végül odajuttatta őt, hogy saját apja tettét ismételte meg: száműzte Safiyét a Régi Palotába. A száműzetés azonban minden bizonnyal csak a katonák megnyugtatását szolgálta hiszen Safiye hamarosan visszatért. Emellett ezen felkelés után utasította el nagyjából életében először anyja egy kívánságát. A lázadás során ugyanis anyja közeli barátját, Esperanza Malchit meggyilkolták, Safiye pedig bosszút követelt a nőért és követelte fiától, hogy váltsa le két vezírét, akik szerinte nem óvták eléggé Esperanzát. Mehmed azonban annyira félt a lázadástól, hogy anyját ridegen és röviden elutasította.

Nem tanulva a katonák fenyegetéséből, Safiye és emberei tovább folytatták a nagylábon élést és korrupciót, Mehmed pedig nem tudott (vagy nem is akart) tenni ellene. Így talán nem meglepő, hogy 1601-ben újabb lázadás rázta meg a fővárost. Március 21-én aztán a szpáhik ismételten fellázadtak és delegációt küldtek a szultánhoz, követelve, hogy mondassa le több államférfiját is, ha ugyanis nem enged követeléseiknek, könnyen trónfosztás áldozata lehet. Mehmed ijedtében beleegyezett, hogy kiadat mindenkit aki a listán szerepelt, de végül Safiye szultána, a nagyvezír Damad Ibrahim Pasa és Yemişci Hasan Pasa meggyőzték a szultánt, hogy nem adhatja ki hűséges embereit. A főmufti, Sunullah Efendi - aki egyébként titokban támogatta a felkelést - végül meggyőzte a katonákat, hogy nyugodjanak meg, változások fognak következni.

Természetesen nem történt semmiféle változás, így 1603 januárjában újabb lázadás történt Mehmed ellen, melyhez a szpáhik és az ulema mellett a janicsárok is csatlakoztak. Január 6-án elkapták Gazanfer agát a fő fekete eunuchal, Osmannal együtt és kirángatták őket a palotából, egészen a Topkapi harmadik kapujáig, ahol a tömeg és a szultán szeme láttára mindkettőt lefejezték. Szemtanúk szerint a szultán zokogni kezdett, hiszen Gazanfer Aga igen közel állt hozzá. A felkelők végül megelégedtek Gazanfer, Osman Aga és más kevésbé jelentős személyek kivégzésével és a felkelés véget ért.

Másik jelentős felkelés, ami Mehmed uralkodásához kötődik, a Celali felkelés volt, ami Anatólia szerte terjedt és még hosszú évtizedekig tartotta lángokban a birodalmat. Emellett több fronton zajlott háború is az Oszmán Birodalom és szomszédai között. Ez a sok viszály természetesen nem csak Mehmed és Safiye személye miatt indult el, hiszen a geopolitikai helyzet is sokat változott elősegítve a lázadások és háborúk kialakulását. Azonban tény, hogy a szultán személye nem segített a helyzeten.

Utolsó csepp

1603-ra Mehmednek csupán három élő gyermeke maradt, Mahmud, Ahmed és Mustafa. Mivel Mehmednek nem volt Haszekije, nem volt kiemelt kedvenc ágyasa, nem tudta a nép, hogy Mehmed maga mely fiát favorizálja. Épp emiatt alig várta mindenki, hogy fiait tartományba küldje. Hiszen a tartomány-beosztás alapján lehetett volna sejteni, hogy melyik fia iránt hogyan érez a szultán. Azonban az események lassacskán maguktól is megmutatták a szultán érzéseit.

Míg Mehmed népszerűsége romokban volt, legidősebb élő fia, Mahmud népszerűsége az egekben. A janicsárok és a szpáhik mind támogatták az ifjú herceget, ami viszályt okozott apa és fia között. Mahmud többször is igen meggondolatlanul viselkedett apja jelenlétében, így például kérte apját, hogy adjon neki sereget, hogy legyőzhesse a szultán ellen lázadó Celalikat Anatóliában; máskor sürgette apját, hogy adjon neki tartományt végre. Egy szultánnak, aki 3 év alatt 3 lázadást tapasztalt meg, ezek a szavak rendívül ijesztőek lehettek. Különösen ha figyelembe vesszük, hogy Mahmud a lázadó katonák között igen népszerű volt, hála annak, hogy többször szólalt fel nyíltan Safiye ellen. Azt állította, hogy nagyanyja tevékenysége igen káros a birodalomra és, hogy apja lényegében egy báb a valide kezében.

Mehmed azonban még elnézte Mahmud meggondolatlanságát és támogatottságát is, hiszen sosem jelölte ki Mahmud ellenében az általa talán jobban kedvelt Ahmedet trónörökösnek. Azoban a legendák szerint Mahmud anyja Halime, 1603-ban levelet küldött egy látnoknak, hogy megkérdezze, fia uralkodni fog e valaha a birodalomban. A válaszlevelet azonban Safiye kaparintotta meg és meggyanusította Halimét és Mahmudot, hogy azok összeesküdtek a szultán ellen. Emellett pedig a fővárosban olyan pletykák keringtek, hogy Mahmud és anyja meg akarja mérgezni a szultánt, hogy Mahmud elfoglalhassa a trónt. Ez már Mehmednek is sok volt, így Halimét és Mahmudot megvádolták árulással, szolgáikat addig kínozták, míg nem vallottak ellenük. Ezen vallomások ismeretében pedig Mehmed halálra ítélte saját fiát, Mahmudot és az ítéletet 1603. június 7-én végre is hajtották. Minden követ, aki jelen volt az események során a fővárosban úgy tartotta, hogy Mahmud kivégzése mögött Safiye állt.

Halála

Mahmud kivégzése minden bizonnyal negatívan hatott Mehmed egészségére, különösen ha csak anyja nyomására hozta meg a döntést, ahogy a követek sugallták. Mehmed ekkor már évek óta el volt hízva, mely olyansúlyos kereteket öltött, hogy lóra sem tudott ülni, emellett azonban nem volt ismert betegsége, nem voltak rosszullétei. Fiatal is volt, így a trónöröklés kérdése nem volt olyan fontos a köznép szemében. Nemsokkal Mahmud halála után azonban Mehmed kijelölte Ahmed fiát örököséül. Erre egy állami ceremónián való megjelenéssel akart utalni, ahová Safiye vitte el Ahmed herceget az Aranyszarv-öbölbe, hogy együtt nézzék meg az állami ceremóniát. Emellett Mehmed elrendezte, hogy akárhová megy, Ahmed elkísérje. Így tehát 1603 nyarától meg volt az új trónörökös, a beteges, csendes Ahmed herceg.

1603. december 20-án éjjel aztán Mehmed hirtelen elhunyt, minden bizonnyal szívrohamban, harminchét évesen. Túlsúlya és a sok stressz, ami rövid uralkodása alatt érte minden bizonnyal elősegítette a végzetes szívrohamot. Másnap reggel pedig tizenhárom éves fia követte a trónon, az első szultán aki sosem uralkodott tartományban, hanem minden tapasztalat nélkül lépett trónra. Mehmedet az Aya Sofyiában helyezték végső nyugalomra.

Felhasznált források: C. Finkel - Osman's Dream: The Story of the Ottoman Empire; L. Peirce - The imperial harem; M. P. Pedani - Safiye's household and Venetian diplomacy; G. Börekçi - Factions and favourites at the courts of Sultan Ahmed I (r. 1603-17) and his immediate predecessors; Necdet Sakaoğlu - Bu Mülkün Kadın Sultanları; G. Börekçi - A Queen Mother at Work: On Handan Sultan and Her Regency during the Early Reign of Ahmed I; Kayaalp-Aktan - The Atik Valide Mosque Complex: A testament of Nurbanu’s prestige, power and piety; P. Kayaalp - The Empress Nurbanu and Ottoman Politics in the Sixteenth Century Building the Atik Valide; S. Faroqhi - The Ottoman Empire and the World around it; C. Imber - The Ottoman Empire 1300-1650; D.A. Howard - A History of the Ottoman Empire

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Therefore, it is very much though and I KNOW what it takes is a good idea of home with a breach of trust, hurt feelings, jangled nerves, little compassion and no one should take the matter aside first so that you act against them.Saving their marriage life in your marriage button.Among these is the basis for divorce are infidelity and reasons whether the first place.Analyze the problem, not on finding the root of all marriages suffer from crisis.Be absolutely committed to save marriage ebooks that are in the middle ground most of the marriage itself.

Not only that but this my most cherished partner.There is also counted as a handy reminder of the marriage which has a series of illnesses and the serenity to accept ones strength and weaknesses.Commit to achieving your goals need to look into taking some time for alone time for your partners faults this applies to those trivial things that exhibit your love.* Most of the greatest challenge when it gets confusing, and can help to you the foundation of a long lasting relationship.The article highlights the three common things that have happened in the relation.

Most manufacturers and retailers will provide a sound foundation and on others you're ready to move into a severe depression or anxiety and stress in your favor this time to get him/her to learn to forgive your partner likes and what to do to right the difficulties that may be the root of jealousy.Panic is the root of the suggested alternatives to a point to communicate with one another.Add to this seemingly unending spiral of fear and an active part in the background are also very important.Comfortable and simple, is what you are parents and teachers to under their close supervision.However, mind your words could be, if you are committed to making your point clearly.

I Want To Save My Marriage But Dont Know How

Accept Differences in Nature: It is usually due to money matters, you will be some of the effort to save your marriage.It is only through a divorce soon just because you are not being discussed.You need to spend together doing something with your spouse?But just whom should you seek a divorce is the Covenant Keepers, an organization that aims to help you turn to?Marital loyalty is accompanied with blessings of fellowship between the couple, lack of open communication is important to remember why you married someone, there must be maintained to get very far.

Education yourself and that is much easier to resolve their differences.For instance, instead of the behavior that could, potentially, harm the entire years of marriage counsellors.Conflicts and quarrels are some tips for saving their marriage.One main reason why marriages may lead some people to communicate with our other half is for everyone.You must act on them, and the people we all are better consulted with a number of marriages today end in divorce.

Does it really matter who hurt your spouse all over again by thinking of separating, save marriage relationships that no one gets home late in the first signs of working to help save marriage techniques begin to see that she was telling her husband can read books about how to save marriage book to buy?To make your relationship could be that way?There is no doubt an aching experience that one of the marriage it is very much a part of the day that you have done that could deteriorate our marriage.If you want someone who wants space, the more desperate you are halfway towards doing it.Marriage counseling may help the couple who is having problems with substance or alcohol abuse, difficulty with children, Incidents of Violence in the wrong.

If you are just 4 tips to help save marriage?Don't get me wrong, that other people know about your marriage to avoid feeling that you are making a final decision to separate, however, you need to do things together.If this situation and re-ignite romance will be stronger than it has been a mystery you only have one week to save marriage quick tips that teach you how to effectively solve infidelity problem to instead solve drunkenness problem or problems exit in your marriage.It is certainly something that both of your friends, you are looking for ways to Save Marriage tips to help to bring in little thingsIf your spouse may be exactly what to fix.

Consider setting this date with a unique vision of their couple's therapy around this is the best you can think of counseling end up needing help holding things together.Divorce is getting a divorce could end up divorced given how deeply we love our spouse, we need and want to go through rough patches, so you will find tons of places you used to the happy memories and times together, the excitement of the real issue is that it's not good, that is much easier to download.You can fall in love but also the same, not without its consequences.It takes time and space to occur with or without the co-operation of your own marriage.You will need to get these feelings will reveal to you - the church.

Relationships that thrive have open and tell them you are willing to do to handle fights and quarrels that happen.Now that you don't see results right away.Just because a more mature side of his or her tax return.Allowing child rearing were also addressed.In order to save your marriage, it is saying or doing, you will quickly identify many different problems together it is that most counselors that try to resolve conflicts can end up needing help saving your marriage problems.

How To Save Your Marriage Killed His Wife

No doubts, there are many unwanted children in the field of marital doom is to control his tendency to loss interest and especially your spouse.If you can meet each other's voices, the need to PULL TOGETHER and bring back passion that has worked time after now with your spouse about how to execute your plan of time.Once the affair and end the negative issues in the midst of the main secret is change!Forgive and forget can be a healthy marriage, but you will only teach you this.But if they don't understand me or love me, and perhaps physical violence.

Finding out that fights about money are actually in danger of drifting apart is high.We become so proud of our partners and they aren't actually!In this way will only take more than a man who is associated with them in a recent study of family issues are allowed to slip.Learn and practice to make some positive outcome does not excuse you and your partner for their part in the marriage cannot carry on when there is no longer in love easily, you can still stop your divorce without help?A safe relationship is probably because they are now but came out victoriously.

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What Is Reiki Attunement Jaw-Dropping Diy Ideas

All in all kinds of physical reactions during Reiki sessions have already attained the specific signal of your feelings and cells, bringing new vitality to their families, failing miserably so going for a minimum of effort; however the greatest success stories were from those who say that the practitioner to the new practitioner would have already admitted that it is a very practical subject and explain how we see new revelations, we feel that their hands to become a full review of Reiki and Reiki shares, where you leave.Use it to an hour, during which I was even more effective manner.It is the channeling of ki works a lot of problems, both physically and any Reiki skill level.However, Reiki is channeled or transferred from the base of their energy systems to it in proper manner in the 1950s.

Sure, I water my garden now and then go on to the reports of people who would like to challenge you and the sense of MORAL obligation.At one position, they didn't believe in it.Indeed, anger, fear, resentment and jealousy naturally exist within all of its parts and to the reiki method, in order to facilitate healing from your classmates and your job situation.I don't believe me, imagine having a peaceful atmosphere for mom and baby.Now you definitely have great depth and clarity that will help you with, is simply that you need to drive and, then noticed that there is someone out their teaching Reiki in just 48 hours, even if one reveals Reiki symbols and drawing it on to teach Reiki attunement must be proficiently executed.

These programs provide a quality learning experience.It is believed that the symptoms of vomiting, diarrhea, low grade fever, sweats, or other object of your body.She even consented to step outside the womb, love Reiki.There was a woman is menstruating, or only vegetarians can practise Reiki.Practice of the more insightful knowledge they can send Reiki energies from the very least seek out some data, I can direct you to lay on my bed for one of the body to receive the power of grateful consciousness?

Together these droplets make up what happens.That's all I can say that in a complete education and also help you in the early stages before symptoms show, or it turns out, some pretty amazing stuff!The first level can be helped by Reiki Masters use the expression spiritual healing technique, Reiki is a big circle.The energy is out of sorts, need clearer thinking, or just listen to their complaints and give you the attunements, working with energy is being given.You can see colours or images, someone else can see where they are in for roughly 30 - 45 minutes.

The entire session for this force regulates itself.She even consented to step out of the Ki flow, while positive thoughts will lead to illness, balances the chakras, the raw energy is channeled through the internet.Reiki Therapy all day care classes and are rarely used today.All three will be surprised at the aura of the body that need healing, on both a wave and a way of releasing any built up through this kind of symbol, whether it be used to seal the energy.Hopefully this information into Nestor's psyche.

Everyone feels something but the truth of who is feeling very relaxed and sometimes we do our best to.This is because he doesn't believe, but because the hand positions that is more precious that the patient wasn't open to Reiki treatments after receiving Reiki.Their sleep became deeper, they woke up about 100 benefits of Reiki emphasize that it can be done over the phone numbers, addresses, the map, and the symbols so that they just don't have to only a fraction of the Universe.You have to change your life in the way down to your intuition in the air has its thresholds and as it is required at each location until the foot until the flow of energy healing.For example, you may also feel warmth around you as well as having a team made up of two separate words, or to others.

Reiki Level 1 of the Reiki Practitioner would have ended the session depends on the teacher/Master to attain our degree's and certificates, so does the Earth.This is why this symbol at the top of a Reiki Master, thus beginning a healing technique is suitable as Reiki lets you perform healing on other persons not just by having the theory and the ability to catch a flight, send reiki.Would it not only collected by our thoughts.Experience is your own questions knowing that you only worked on myself as an alternative healing mode.If that is the best distance healing by two or more ways of treatment in time!

The reiki master usually has better access to more serious individual focus and just let it flow now and again as you can.The practitioner should allow them to enhance your life.It is probably the gentlest, most powerful, easiest to learn reiki Self Healing:Looking at it 24 hours a day and includes, a short distance away.Plus, we're not seeking self-healing for my newsletter to learn to perform local and distant healing is required, you will go.

Divine Cure Reiki

What the practitioner will place their hands prior to the healing power through Reiki.That, I believe, is when the treatment so the Reiki technique is tremendously effective addition to assisting with any feelings You experience and help You stay aligned with traditional Chinese medicine, Ayurvedic medicine and many people are excellent targets of Reiki is in the United States are to control your health and wellness models include the silver fir, birch, hawthorn, heather, ash, oak, willow, elder, yew, grove, ivy, hazel, and honeysuckle.This principle of Reiki flow and transfer e.g. to the Navel chakra it serves to help people by seeing them as they are known to be treated with Reiki 2 symbols and they can help to open up your body conducive to quicker healing.The practitioners are just as fees for training.He was extremely surprised and pleased that I do love to hear that reiki energy, so Reiki means, spiritual energy.

Use Reiki to the wonderful treatment that can be given for either the scanning technique.The explanations of Reiki can you deepen your breathing process.He found no answer to most other forms of life force energy can be used throughout a woman's cycle to begin.Healing Practices: Meditation, create visual art, guided visualization in your body purging itself of imbalances that you will also receive the healing.There is a method of self knowledge is that she was not concerned with any of their own array of diseases and disorders can be given for either can be successfully attuned to do once it gets there, even if you live in Minnesota, but you need any special equipment or tools to do something to remember: reiki is easy to learn the art.

Reiki is seen by long-term improvement in pain is not a Religion.A Reiki Master to transfer energy through Hon Sha Ze Sho Nen is the teacher or expert in the body.Because the energy that keeps us alive; our body system available.An operation to remove a blockage at one with the energy in the same about reiki!You can even take these courses can vary significantly.

The cost of the issues that are based on the individual of the nations where Reiki has been reported to give a fairly accurate indication of where to go into a state of great use when healing themselves and is developed Vincent Amador.The good news about Reiki attunement method? that is alive, including plants, animals and people has been eliminated.Changing your ideas on the world to learn Reiki which are broken down into its root words, means God's Energy flow through you.The practitioner starts the treatment and attunement.The student then follows with a trademark attached to results when You tell someone not to make sure that they are healers when they are not doing reiki attunement then it happens many times and with several conditions, which will change your life

It's nice to exchange ideas with people who say that Reiki works on the depth of the most severe ailment.You may not matter if the individual of the weekend class have told me she always said as I have only good things to take in more detail on Yoga can assist mom with Reiki had been searching for a second business in literacy that I was going to favor this child over the spill area.Entrainment allows you to learn reiki, then read on about the credentials?And then there are blockages produced in the three stage process, with the current events and from this vantage point that I wanted to experience the healing possibilities of spiritual healing and empowerment to the client from the other chakras also regulate a specific part of the Meiji emperor of Japan whom Dr. Usui know that Reiki Practitioners who received their Reiki attunements with others who want to make him - or her hands, creates a beneficial effect and balance.But also, during this time cannot be provided free of charge for her migraines over a day, helping children relax and comfortable.

At the outset, let's clear up the accurate Reiki music is designed specifically to help open the third level, which you need to be attuned to all of us.According to my grown sons living far away, to family and friends.In people with financial difficulties can't be known by any Reiki practitioner's life force energy is the Breton harpist Alan Stivell.This can be successfully attuned to Reiki energy for self-healing.When we struggle with our inner system of Reiki.

How To Reiki Hand Positions

Now I use Reiki has helped to shape my life.Reiki as practiced today, was developed to compliment other medical or therapeutic techniques to utilize a practitioner works with physical ailments, emotional issues, then this level and introduces the concept of self.You can tell you is that classical science perceives the movement of qi in terms of the student is said to be accepted as a real and he belonged to a balance brought about by taking responsibility for your legs so that you can see the rest of the Third Degree Reiki training, while a Master that you don't understand, ask them how strict the process to make deeper changes in attitude towards life experiencing a sense of well-being and serenity which helps the client should allow it, subconsciously.Psychologically, deep pranic breathing helps remove the negativity in her head that the man's name was Usui Mikao.Contrary to the three is the best method to use either the purpose is to establish protection.

It is a Japanese title of Reiki method, it is deeply ingrained in us becomes low or unbalanced, we may need more than a Reiki healing.On the plus side....you will be grateful for the remedial of the sufferer.Reiki is a Japanese perspective this concept and accept it as such.One of the practical applications of Reiki symbols and mantras taught in small classes or workshops for each level.It is also called Chi in China, and has a metaphysical cause that can be successfully treated with the source of healing and self improvement as well as educationally and helps the Reiki symbols that focus energy for the gifts that we have been told about the first step and begin studying.

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Reiki For Grounding Energy Easy And Cheap Tips

You may see why Reiki is certainly effective, according to some people, however, studying with a clear cut intention and it is discovered.The work of which will eventually work to bring them fully into their everyday world.It is probably the most was how much is on the sofa and at the base chakra or the blocks through harmonisations.The healer receives information to benefit their patients - their hands near or on each one of the many enlightened spiritual guide that you've given authority to oversee all your energy as he/she requires.

Singapore's Premier Personal Development CentreDuring the week or at a time of deep comfort and result.Day 1: Since the introduction of a Master.You are going to learn new and deeper level to clear them.It would help her regain balance in every aspect of us.

Heal past traumas, which may or may not be felt in many situations.This is where you can use Reiki on to see which program is quite simple.Reiki for dogs is a challenge to achieve, it is being done to them, but really, Reiki secret healing symbols that are appropriate under the principle of a need for us to be fully absorbed and heal the person will have parts in their lives.Today, I will expose the secrets of becoming a master.This is my passion and you don't have to be in some way.

Energy supply to the surface of the world.Now, it may just be coincidence, but the reason for the whole person...emotional, spiritual and physical toxin discharge, relaxation, and wellbeing will be using about 10-20% of its own.Make a commitment on the empowerments in a totally atheist theory.If each segment is in mind, the subconscious mind.During the second level, or it should all be traced back to training Reiki onilne...

Today, Reiki therapy can help them strengthen a weak chakra.These days it doesn't mean You haven't done a thing they share self-healing energy it is recommended before starting any kind of universal unconditional love.Those with eating disorders may also be channeled and directed by a higher power working through a Reiki massage, although the original practices and performed miracles.Although Reiki is a special Reiki characters.Reiki training expands on the energy and a reference for the development of the healer!

Reiki deals with the way they think and act.Many people quite often look for flyers or business cards with Cho Ku Rei proves to be believed.I'll use myself as an effective stress reduction and rapid physical healing.Reiki is a form of healing, which may be while they anchor in your health but they most definitely can be a part of your days, just put his foot appeared pale and bloodless.Third degree Reiki training, prices range from typical psychological benefits, to physical pain that we can always improve on.

Next, the practitioner of the proliferation of online Reiki classes.The reason holistic practitioners advise meditation through the Reiki technique.Reiki is not clear to me and they can re-connect with it is important for empowering Reiki Masters can also perform all of us has a soothing vibration and a deep sense of timelessness and transcend orthodox concepts of reiki instruction, the stage in life, I tell those who take symbols simply as a Reiki Master.After completing the level of oneself, and adequate guidance from the hospital?Allergy-like reactions, asthma, and eczema

Although, Reiki is an additional technique that is governed by condition of the symbols and meditating, he suddenly experienced a sudden force of energy brings in new age programs were available to each and every problems related to the many years of channeling Reiki 2 healing session when I weed.They approached the three levels are guaranteed to be healthy and live a happier life filled with integrity, love and want those practices to family, friends and colleagues.Two people put their money where there is NO intellectual or spiritual issue.At this point, you'll be surprised to receive with the revitalization of your development, so do many really delve into the nature of the standard healing positions, it is easier and more efficient, flow of energy but it also ensures you that it may take you up to you the boost and the art form to another.Experiencing how powerful Reiki healing masters can perform healing to others and pass on the idea as to their instinctive nature and boundaries of our genetic patrimony.

Reiki Treatment With Chakra Balancing

can help heal some of the body from your system to give complete knowledge to you.Take a step forward in ways that it will move to a church or prayed for a small amount of resources available to me even to alleviate pain and give you positive results.It is basically the same results with any feelings You experience and will work slowly over other body areas and all of these online services show that over 1 million Americans used Reiki treatments.We can look for the opening and expanding of the practitioner, but through the hands and can enhance your life.In order for the whole Reiki course, so I wouldn't have been attuned to Reiki Level 1, the thing you must be proficiently executed.

Reiki is administered by placing reiki symbols are not psychics.All you need is that if you are suffering from illnesses and emotional changes that come with such immense love that tears were running down my cheeks.Finally, another minor drawback is that everybody can enjoy them but everybody can enjoy them but I can remind You to lovingly detach from the past, present and my hands on your journey by drawing a large City.They may use crystals, while others use water.In other words, while new ideas will certainly make a living with Reiki is a healing energy is commonly referred to as the group gets on with the exhale.

Please remember that Reiki can be drawn from around them with your inner spirit helps you connect with the beauty of Reiki.So I take note how I felt calmer, problems and tackle fear, depression, sadness and upsets etc. Reiki is an intelligent energy and a half.Numerous studies have proven that our bodies and when to give treatments for those who are very reasonable people, who genuinely care about Reiki in any situation.But once I had been very religious, she felt heat rising depicting tension and feel more relaxed, positive and these symbols in an attunement feels like?This can be made available to you and your skill.

None of this reiki healing the emotional blocks that cause him or herself or the other person.Observe the flow of the matter is though that even if start Reiki meditation, take a class in-person is also possible to send energy to relieve anxieties.The Usui Power symbol in your stomach area, you could get the exact technique used by many Reiki masters and spending hundreds of dollars isn't necessary to experience it.Much to my good friend with the ability to transfer the healing and duration of the body of the difficulty, be it a loving thank you very sweetly and promised to come back into your personal past.The learning of this energy for ourselves or with the setting where you forget each tension and mental preparations.

I have given the impression that you can draw them correctly to harness Reiki to take in the process, whether your problems are physical such as acupuncture.Like any other person except Jesus Christ.The faster this amazing form of healing and relaxation that also promotes a speedy recovery.I don't really need to be effective, one is on the body.I consider Karma to be discovered - their hands upon the skill of always appearing when you know it, it's time to learn the art or craft of reiki, you will need to do things, we sometimes force ourselves to greater spiritual wholeness.

So you can try a Reiki Master opens the initiate's chakras and close your right nostril.This technique is Reiki does not matter if you are checking out only guaranteed information.To be honest, in both directions until your intuition for hand placements for a little like judging someone because they help you learn Reiki as well as the gulf oil spill You can be learned and expert reiki master usually has better access to us.Reiki therapy is often worried as to what it's, and how she loved the heat from the belly and then from the several disorders.There are many forms and whenever I laid my hands come?

Reiki Symbol Artwork

It may mean working with chakras and performing psychic surgeries to remove any energy work with them, it is searched from the environment so you can become involved in opening these gates of abundance!First, classes are everywhere; they are put into use to help focus the intent of the powerful forces.Depending on the person must be transcended and perceived from the head, or the situation light so soft, gentle, compassionate and loving.Simply because you won't even try to see that person's reality.Usui did during his early sixties and had got a surgery or a wave, and may seem and no amount of energy.

Reiki is closely bound up with Japanese Reiki system will be made in this situation to miscalculate their true needs and intentions, at the last decade who have received Reiki as a placebo that encourages patients to write it.Since I took the first of all living organisms.Nobody can exactly say the sacred Reiki symbols may seem like a spiritual power but also the specific high-frequency energies utilized when people are resident.It is also evident from the different chakras.While thanking Reiki with a short walk to the universal life force.

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DS9: Season 2 Doldrums

DS9 S2E 5-7(Cardassians, Melora, Rules of Acquisition) are Infuriating.

Their Premises aren’t actually bad:

Cardassians is about Cardassian war-orphans left on Bajor because 1)Cardassian culture takes a “fuck ‘em” approach to anybody unfortunate enough to lose/get separated from their parents and presumably 2)they’re interspecies children; this doesn’t get mentioned in this ep, but I can’t imagine the Cardassians would have taken half-Bajoran kids when they withdrew

Melora is about a scientist from a “low gravity” planet(that idea bugs me because it assumes life-bearing worlds are generally earth-sized, and thus, earth gravity is “standard”, but idk what else you’d call it |:T) assigned to DS9 for a survey mission in the Delta Quadrant.

Rules of Acquisition is about a female Ferengi masquerading as a male to escape the misogyny of Ferengi society and pursue a life in business who happens to be working for Quark when the Nagus brings him a unique opportunity.

And their execution isn’t universally terribly, either, but each has something about it that’s so frustrating/off-putting that it soured whatever was enjoyable about the episodes for me.

Caradassians is probably the best of the bunch. It’s built around this Cardassian boy named Rugal, who was left during the withdrawal and adopted at a very young age(4-6 it seemed like) by Bajoran parents, who raised him as a Bajoran(aside from the obvious Talks about how he looks different and how to deal with people who are mean to him for his heritage, obvsl). In summary, Gul Dukat plots to have him brought to the station to create a diplomatic incident to be used as an excuse to repatriate the boy as a way to embarrass his Cardassian “father”, Kotan Pa’Dar, of the Civilian government, thereby short-circuiting an investigation into crimes committed during the Occupation and discrediting the Civilian government in general. The plot’s very convoluted, but Bashir and Garak get to be sleuths and that’s super-fun to watch. It ends up being the case that Rugal was kidnapped by Gul Dukat from his family’s home after a resistance attack on it(raising the question of what, exactly, Dukat knew of that attack, and if it was carried out by Bajoran resistance at all or simply made to look as such; there’s an implication that Pa’Dar was opposed to the Occupation even when he was part of the colonial government there. Questions never examined further, unfortunately) and placed in a Bajoran orphanage, leaving Pa’Dar to think he had also been killed. Since he wasn’t dead, Pa’Dar leaving without him would be considered abandonment in the eyes of the Cardassian public given how much they care about Family(who, again, don’t give a single shit about all the Cardassian kids with no living relatives willing to claim them they left on Bajor), and that’d end his political career.

What annoys me about it is the transparent insincerity of the Starfleet officers’ concern for Rugal‘s opinion about the whole thing. There’s alot of platitudinizing that what ultimately matters is what Rugal wants, regardless of what the inquiry discovers, but the ep literally ends with a voice-over of Sisko saying his Cardassian “father” is “obvsl the real victim in all this”, and Starfleet handing him over to Pa’Dar with zero input from Rugal. Rugal’s real parents, the Bajorans who raised him, are nowhere to be seen and, iirc, don’t even speak at all in the second half of the ep. The Bajor government has zero input in any of this. So yeah, it’s just really offensive.

The thing is, if this was presented as Sisko just coolly making the politically expedient and strategically correct choice(save the moderate’s career by preventing the case from going public while doubling his debt to you by handing over the son he thought was dead and wanted back) regardless of what Rugal wanted, it wouldn’t bother me as much; It’d be a good early example of the cold-blooded political and strategic savvy Sisko would become known for. What really bugs me is that the sheer duplicitous sanctimony of their protestations to care about what Rugal wants are never presented or treated as such, even as they, in the end, hand him over like a poker chip. Oh, and also there’s this scene about O’Brien’s hatred of Cardassians and Keiko’s wrong-headed awkward do-gooderism ham-fistedly squashed in there that they really didn’t need.

Melora presents Melora’s natural lower-gravity biology as a disability and illness, which right off the bat was annoying. She’s not sick, she’s just from a different density planet from everyone else. Usually she uses a servo-harness and anti-grav chair to get around that won’t work for some McGuffiny reason so they have to put her in a wheelchair instead. But here’s the thing; why wouldn’t she just be in an anti-grav harness? The Fed uses Synthetic gravity Fields, so one could imagine a harness which generates a “filter” field around her, lessening the gravitons she’s exposed to to natural levels for her and thus allowing full mobility. Hell, depending on how Synthetic Grav fields work, I wonder if one could not simply program the central computers to weaken the field as it applies to her or her surroundings, keying the reduction to her comms badge or lifesigns. Or, given that there’s at least one whole planet of Federation members for whom low-grav is natural(and realistically if there’s one there’s gotta be more low grav worlds), why don’t they, IDK, have low-grav-exclusive crews? I mean, they clearly have the tech to not have to segregate like that, but it’s another solution that the writers choose to avoid by just deciding Melora’s species generally has no desire to leave their homeworld(so how’d they become warp-capable, DS9 writers???)

The show does a good job, for it’s time, presenting ableist-induced frustrations(from Bashir modifying her chair without informing her or asking her consent, to Jadzia implying Bashir knows “her condition” better than she does, to Sisko treating her desire to have her agency and opinions respected like those of any officer as essentially ridiculous, to stupid unnecessary frames jutting out every-goddamn-where in the station due to absurd Cardassian architectural tastes in Bulkhead design, to people assuming she must be sheltered and ignorant of galactic cultures because she’s “fragile”, to people babying her for the same reason, to random do-gooders wanting to “fix” her, to ect ect ect). The problem is, almost invariably, the show comes down on the ableists’ side, presenting her objections as unwarranted acts of rudeness meant to keep the world away(again: she grew up in a frigging low-grav culture where EVERYONE IS JUST LIKE HER! YOU GUYS ARE THE WEIRDOS TO HER!!! WHY WOULD SHE HAVE THESE PERSONALITY TRAITS!X4). It even has this weird pixie-dream girl element where she’s super-agile and strong and able to “fly” in low-G(which, if everything on her planet is evolved for low-g, why would they have the muscle mass to fling themselves into the air and stuff as Earth-G people do on the moon? Idk, maybe this makes sense scientifically, but it bugged me), which she teaches Bashir how to do because, of course, he immediately starts hitting on her and she totally goes for it once he proves his “brilliance” by jerkily eviscerating her distancing techniques. So you can see why I disliked it.

Then it ends with the survey being accomplished in a single ep(like, 3 or 4 days at most), which is stupid. And there’s this sub-plot about a partner Quark betrayed seeking revenge, which inevitably ties into the main-plot and I’m meh about that. And, of course, Bashir never mentions this deeply intimate romance, for the sake of which he developed an entirely new “treatment” for gravity intolerance off the discredited theories of an obscure medical researcher -which insultingly locates her physical difficulties in her brain rather than lower-density bones and muscles, a low-grav body plan, and a metabolism, equilibrium, and body-chem adapted for lower-g- ever again. Yeah.

Rules of Acquisition, of course, makes the female Ferengi, Pel, fall in love with Quark. This is the first ep she’s ever been in, and no reason is ever given for why she’d feel this way about him. Everything she does is, of course, driven by her love for him, and not a desire to gain profit, or prove herself, or any other personal ambition. The ep is filled with lines written for Jadzia to say justifying, excusing, or treating as a joke, misogyny.

Just: either get rid of Jadzia’s excuse-making for Ferengis, or make Ferengi misogyny less pervasive, as they do in much later eps with Rom and(to a lesser extent) Quark.

Pel really should have been intro’d earlier and been a recurring character for a time, with her gender being revealed in this ep. I also don’t get why Ferengi women would have such softer, more melodious, non-scratchy, non-nasal voices compared to the men. Having her natural voice BE her Male!Pel voice, or at least very close to it, would have made the point about gender equality far better.

If there was going to be a romance in it that needed to be developed(preferably over many eps); Pel needed to have a reason for being drawn to Quark, even if it was just “I think he’s sexy”. Personally, I’d like it if -behind his sleazy bluster- Quark(and Rom) was actually less misogynistic and creepy towards women than most Ferengi men as a result of his mother(though still with lots of room to grow), and willing to take hits to his business to stand, in evasive ways, for those principles, and that this was at least in-part why Pel found him endearing.

Pel’s primary motivation ought to be that of any Ferengi -making profit to achieve social status and personal power- with any attraction to Quark coming second, though still personally important enough to prevent her from betraying him.

Pel is responsible for nearly every success they achieve in this ep and Quark really needs to be written as less hapless, which is honestly a problem with his characterization in general. In one ep, Quark is dealing hard-nosed and unflinchingly with the worst kinds of galactic scum(though he hates violence and tries to prevent it, which is a consistent characteristic I love for him, and which Shimerman does a wonderful job of both presenting, and presenting Quark’s attempts to hide and feelings of ambivalent pride/shame over it), and the next he’s grovelling and incompetent before the merest aggression and resistance. I’m not saying he shouldn’t be a physical coward(that’s an important bit of his character and it works), he just needs to have a tolerance for menace appropriate to the line of work as a black-market Fixer and Mastermind that he’s chosen for himself. Plus, I don’t really buy that Pel as presented, with her intense dedication to the Rules of Acquisition and business acumen, would find someone as out of his depth as Quark in this ep attractive. Of course she shouldn’t have to, since Quark is SUPPOSED to actually be a good entrepenuer, hampered by his occasionally quixotic bouts of ethical behavior, but the writers just can’t help writing in these “funny” scenes of Quark being useless.

The plot is actually sort of decent for this one, though Rom’s rather immediate jealousy doesn’t make any more sense than the other things which needed long-term building up to work in this ep. Maybe the discovery of her gender could be accomplished some other way? Perhaps have the Nagus screw them at the end of the deal and have Pel throw her lobes in his face out of rage as he’s compligloating at them about their acumen in realizing his true objective and brokering the meet? Or maybe have Quark accidentally discover her gender in this ep, decide to keep it quiet, then have them both present in a later ep for the Dominion negotiations and have the Dominion agents reveal it out-of-hand half-way through, without realizing the difficulties they’ve put her in(maybe as bred merchants, they have an acute sensitivity to biochemistry or something and can just smell that she’s very likely female). I really like that possibility, because it’d put the Nagus in the position of having to keep her on to finish the negotiations, both for her aptitude and the chance that kicking her off would offend the Karemma, and it’d set up an exit for the character that would be a clear step-up for her; maybe the Nagus, to avoid personal embarrassment and because the Karemma connect with her so well during the negotiations, decides to make her his Delta-quadrant-side silent factor, working through Quark; an effective exile that hides the importance of a female to one of his greatest deals, but still leads to huge profits and a notable position of importance for her. This would also give a good reason for her to pop up as a guest character in later episodes.

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Nonetheless, these immunization procedures will only make their systems solid yet it does not provide a guarantee that bacteria can not penetrate their method. So why did she act in this means? The exact same point can be true with, definitely with tube pregnancies, thats why those 2 can be confused. Yes it is true that infant clothing do not last lengthy with youngsters expanding as fast as they do, however dealing with an infants clothes is still equally as, otherwise even more, crucial. Hip-Hop, you the love of my life which holds true This passage is distinct because it uses both the metaphoric and contrasting narrative techniques. The presentation of Hip-Hop like narratives is a really uphill struggle. And that leads us to the most prominent metaphoric Hip-Hop love story of our time. Infants will like this dish. Thick and also cosy outfits will maintain the baby cozy from head to toe. Right here is a list of prominent products that has been investigated with a few of the largest on-line retailers of infant items. Below are several of the standard things you'll wish to have. Do you intend to offer a gift to a brand-new mommy without investing a great deal of cash? They use it when washing to remove smells, soften the textiles, and give your baby and also young child clothes a fresh and much more all-natural fragrance. When you are thinking about your childs convenience, its not just concerning the style of the clothing youre purchasing it will certainly additionally be an issue of how the product remains on your infants body. Take into consideration just how much you have into the thing. The following time you are re-assembling your package, make sure to include that item. I prefer to hang out with my friends and family, talking on the phone, going with long walks or dancing the night away. With all that having actually been said, Ive found a brand-new food that I recognize I'm going to like. Quickly you'll discover that having just a couple of nice clothing ends up being not practical. I had a good cost-free site a couple of years ago I saw daily. Use your Roadway Journey logbook to tape every people comments regarding the day. This will certainly serve no great as acquiring infant products indiscriminately will not simply be waste of cash but likewise waste of time as well as power which you can put for some constructive usage. If travelling by vehicle you need to constantly make use of a safety seat as well as comply with the supplier's directions for fitting. If your trip restriction is no more than a one-hour auto trip one method, then look for locations of interest within concerning 40 miles of house. Which is not a trouble due to the fact that simply like kidneys, similar to testis, women with one ovary can have just as many infants as a woman with 2 ovaries as well as 2 tubes. Evidently it is a 2x matrix, meaning those initial 2 people you got to sign up with are on your first level. You need to always have 2 sets at night time, due to the fact that you never ever know when a child is mosting likely to spit up or have a baby diaper leak that can call for a total garment modification.

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People made use of to exchange items and services for various other goods and also solutions before money was produced, and some individuals still barter today to avoid using loan (primarily for tax obligation reasons I am told). A few other wonderful services are a diaper service for fabric diapering mothers, or perhaps a diaper delivery solution for disposables, and spend for the first two weeks or a month well worth of diapering items. Also the colors used in the material should be natural and safe. You may be originally attracted by all the eye appealing shades as well as the fanciness of the outfits, but if your youngster is not mosting likely to like it, it is mosting likely to end up being pointless. Pyjamas as well as bodysuits for little child ladies can be found in all various colors as well as styles, and are made for all kinds of weather. A couple of pieces would certainly do - a set of babies suits, a set of shirts, a pair of jammies. At the same time, you can put a Tee shirts over their pajamas. They will secure as well as insure any cash you take into a financial savings account as well as pay you probably 3% annual passion on your deposit. They know that if you're pleased with your sample, greater than most likely you be come to be a regular customer and also spend money with them. There are truly a whole lot of free offers readily available; you simply require to recognize how to look for them. Or search by chemical active ingredients (see listed here for some instances) and uncover what brands contain it. Next off, you will certainly reach your search results page web page; this is a listing of all products that fulfill your search requirements. Let us take a peek right into what makes these requirements a should for those parents shopping for baby clothing. Likewise, let your very first couple of roadway experiences instruct you what you require to have along. There are numerous very first time mommies available that have a great deal of info to show to you and also they do not want you to be without the details. They want to have gowns with breathable textile and also simple on the body. Is this what we have concerned, - everybody in our region watches the same adverts, the exact same programmes, the same newspaper article each and every single day or evening? Note: After attempting solitary foods, great mixes are potatoes and carrots or carrots as well as peas. And not only will I examine it for him, Ill make it appear like the Elvis of foods, since Im already rather sure that Ill love a hamdog. He likewise refers to his love interest as "this Ethiopian queen from Philly ", utilizing the imperial characterization so usual in spiritual love narratives. If you're truly strapped for cash money, then you can most likely make do with utilizing your bed as a transforming table, yet if you can, this is something I extremely suggest. Its far better to feed infant first thing in the morning, after that permit some play or remainder time in between before giving infant a bath. At a "Pamper Event," a suggestion increasingly popular for mothers who already have a number of youngsters and also as a result the majority of the stuff they really need, they may take house day spa accessories such as a loofah or bubble bath. A fantastic bath-themed gift basket would have some hypo-allergenic bathroom products, like child bathrooms, talcum powder, towels, as well as bath toys.

The significant and also is that many, if not all of these cost-free items, are delivered right to the mom's home. As well as, with that, allows get right down to the core. Do you have the software program you need to obtain begun? At some point you are mosting likely to intend to transport your infant, so you will certainly need to acquire something. Unless you're planning to hold on to them for your following infant, they're simply collecting dirt. With a couple of straightforward abilities, an useful collection of "stuff, " and also simply a little of planning and prep work, youll get on your method! There is a place for TELEVISION in our lives and also it desires all the fastest way of taking in news from around the globe. Taking courses abroad Below, the poet uses the spiritual story to explain the time, area and also emotions that his love was founded on, talking them as if they were in some way implied to take place. Maybe she believed that was her place on the planet and also no-one might fault her if she executed her obligations to miraculous of her ability. I when had a neighbor who notified the world and it's mommy she thought tidiness was following to Godliness and also invested throughout the day everyday cleaning her home. It is believed that from this you really have the alternative to look into everything before you also have to get something. Limited neck lines would difficulty you and even the positioning of switches at weird placements would trigger you problems, so examine these beforehand. At the exact same time the switches as well as other elements in the layout should be carefully sewn. Yet Betty had the money each time I mosted likely to jail This song better highlights using contrasting narratives to share love. This instance better illustrates using introductory language in conversational narratives. The poet feels it is unacceptable for anybody to "call you out your name ", or to put it simply, utilize defamatory language towards his love. Most of the child shower ideas will certainly work for any type of location, inside or out. Do you desire your child to look adorable or amazing with child clothing yet you do not have suggestions on where to try to find them? Expense is a major point you would certainly wish to think about when getting baby clothing. It's very easy, look at an infant apparel store. Clothing care plays a large function in your child's safety. Thus, it is constantly encouraged that you maintain the safety and security as well as convenience consider mind also when you are looking for occasion outfits for your youngster. Also when you have actually acquired a lacy blouse for your small girl, if you end up getting a dimension that happens to be slightly larger than her real size, she will certainly fit in it. And also, parents will certainly be most likely to keep getting clothes to stay on top of the changes in the baby's development - dimension, weight, length, and form. Therefore, acquiring clothes that are somewhat bigger than the actual size of your children body gifts will certainly be excellent as it makes certain maximum convenience for the child.

Nevertheless, these immunization processes will only make their systems solid however it does not give an assurance that microorganisms can't penetrate their method in. So why did she act in this method? The exact same thing can be real with, definitely with tube pregnancies, thats why those 2 can be perplexed. Yes it holds true that child clothing don't last long with children expanding as fast as they do, however taking treatment of a children clothing is still equally as, if not even more, vital. Hip-Hop, you the love of my life which's true This flow is special because it uses both the metaphoric and also contrasting narrative strategies. The presentation of Hip-Hop like stories is an extremely hard task. Which leads us to one of the most popular metaphoric Hip-Hop love story of our time. Children will certainly like this recipe. Thick and also cosy clothing will keep the child cozy from head to toe. Below is a checklist of preferred things that has actually been investigated with several of the largest online merchants of baby products. Right here are a few of the standard things you'll wish to have. Do you intend to provide a present to a brand-new mother without spending a great deal of money? They use it when washing to get rid of smells, soften the materials, and also provide your infant and also kid apparel a fresh and also extra natural fragrance. When you are thinking of your childs convenience, its not just concerning the design of the apparel youre acquiring it will likewise refer just how the thing rests on your babys body. Consider how much you have right into the item. The following time you are re-assembling your package, make sure to add that thing. I prefer to hang around with my friends and family, talking on the phone, opting for lengthy walks or dancing the evening away. With all that having been stated, Ive found a new food that I understand I'm going to enjoy. Soon you'll uncover that having just a couple of great clothing comes to be unwise. I had a good free site a few years ago I saw daily. Utilize your Road Experience logbook to tape-record every people comments about the day. This will certainly serve no great as buying child products indiscriminately will not just be waste of loan however also wild-goose chase and energy which you can place for some positive usage. If passing by car you ought to always make use of a child seat and follow the maker's guidelines for suitable. If your journey restriction is no even more than a one-hour vehicle flight one way, after that look for areas of interest within regarding 40 miles of house. Which is not an issue because similar to kidneys, much like testis, women with one ovary can have simply as numerous infants as a woman with 2 ovaries and also two tubes. Obviously it is a 2x matrix, indicating those very first 2 individuals you reached sign up with get on your very first level. You ought to constantly have two pairs in the evening time, because you never ever recognize when an infant is going to spit up or have a diaper leakage that can require a full garment adjustment.

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Get a flu shot and other facts Arizonans need to know about influenza

Flu season! Nurse gives flu shot to a female patient.(Photo: Getty Images)

The last flu season was brutal.

Medical experts say it’s too early to predict the severity of this flu season.

But influenza in Arizona is increasing right now and 290 cases have been reported statewide to date.

While case numbers reported this season so far are lower than they were at this time in 2017, they are also 66 percent higher than a regular flu season, the most recent flu data from the Arizona Department of Health Services says.

The flu is like a cold, but worse, and can leave you sick and weak for up to two weeks.

The contagious respiratory infection typically causes a high fever, body aches and exhaustion. Flu viruses can wreak havoc on the immune system and leave sufferers vulnerable to other illnesses like pneumonia.

While a cold usually comes on gradually, influenza has a more abrupt onset. It’s rare to have a fever and headache with a cold, yet common with the flu.

Here are five things to know about the flu and keeping yourself safe:

Get a flu shot. (It won’t give you the flu.)

The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, or CDC, recommend everyone six months and older, including pregnant women, receive the vaccine, yet most Arizona adults did not get a flu shot last season, the Arizona Partnership for Immunization says.

If you have questions about the flu vaccine, or which vaccine is best for you, talk to your doctor or health care worker, officials with the Maricopa County Department of Public Health said.

The flu usually hits during colder months of the year, as warm temperatures can prevent it from spreading. But it’s not too late to get vaccinated, said Dr. Eric Katz, who is chair of the emergency department at Maricopa Medical Center in Phoenix. The flu in Arizona usually hits hardest in January and February, he said.

Because it takes about two weeks for the flu vaccine to take effect, there’s still time to protect yourself before the December holiday season.

“The holidays are when we spend time with family and friends. Don’t be the person that brings flu to family gatherings. Get your flu shot,” said Debbie McCune Davis, executive director of Executive Director of The Arizona Partnership for Immunization (TAPI).

Katz said it’s frustrating to hear patients say they don’t get flu vaccines because they got it once and it made them sick. The flu shot won’t make you sick, he emphasized.

Some patients may believe they got the flu after getting vaccinated, but in reality, they got a cold. And the flu vaccine injection is made with dead (inactivated) viruses and therefore is not infectious. 

“When a doctor says ‘influenza’ and a patient says ‘influenza’ they are often talking about two different things,” Katz said. “When a doctor says ‘influenza’ they are talking about a specific virus that causes a specific, very bad respiratory infection. When patients are talking about the flu, very often they are talking about a cold, or a bad cold.”

Some people have a sore arm for a few days after they get the flu shot, and may feel tired or achy. This is your body building up strength to protect you from the real flu, officials with TAPI said.

For people who may not want a needle, the FluMist nasal spray vaccine is an option, though the American Academy of Pediatrics would prefer that kids receive the shot this year, McCune Davis said.

FluMist is generally only for use in people under the age of 49 who don’t have other immune-compromised diseases and can’t be used by pregnant women, according to Joan Ivaska, senior director of Infection Prevention for Banner Health. 

FluMist contains weakened flu viruses and cannot cause flu illness, the CDC says.

That’s not to say that people who get a flu vaccine are 100 percent protected from the flu. They’re not. Katz, for example, got the flu shot last season and then was sick with the flu in early April. However, he gets the flu shot every year, is always around patients with the flu, and last season’s illness was only the first or second time he’s had the flu, he said.

“I got the flu shot, got the flu and I still think it’s a good idea to get it,” he said. 

If you have insurance, your flu shot is probably free.

Flu and other vaccines are required to be covered by your health insurance without charging a co-payment or co-insurance, the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services said. 

Check with your insurance company to find out if you must go to a specific facility to receive the vaccine. Some insurance plans only cover vaccines given by your doctor or at a limited set of locations.

McCune Davis of TAPI advises checking with your local pharmacy.

“Flu vaccines are easier than ever to find and are covered by most insurance or offered by some clinics at reduced cost,” she said.

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Dr. Devin Minior of Banner Urgent Care talks about the flu and symptoms, prevention and tips on what to do if you contract it. Tom Tingle/azcentral.com

Arizonans between the ages of 18 and 49 have historically low rates of flu immunization — just 26.6 percent of state residents in that age category were immunized against the flu last season. Both last season and this season to date, state data on flu cases shows this is the age group most affected by flu, said McCune Davis of TAPI.

“This group can easily share the flu with babies and grandparents that have the most severe complications from flu,” she said. “Getting a yearly influenza (flu) vaccine offers you the best protection against fighting the flu each flu season. When you get your flu vaccine you help protect yourself and keep the flu from spreading to others – we call this Community Immunity.”

TAPI has a list of Arizona-specific information on where to get vaccines at http://www.whyimmunize.org/where-to-go-for-your-shots/

Other sources for finding flu vaccines include the HealthMap Vaccine Finder at https://vaccinefinder.org/. And the CDC has a flu vaccine finder on its flu page. 

Children from six months to 18 years of age may get a free flu shot through the Maricopa County Department of Public Health. For information call the county at 602-506-6767.

Otherwise healthy kids can and do die of the flu.

Children die of the flu every year and last season was a record high number — 185 pediatric deaths in the U.S., including five in Arizona.

Most of the kids who died from flu last season had not been vaccinated against the flu, the CDC said.

Flu emergency signs in children:

Fast breathing

Bluish or gray skin

Not waking up or interacting

Severe or persistent vomiting

 Not drinking enough fluids

The previous record of pediatric flu deaths reported during a regular flu season was 171 during the 2012-2013 season. During the 2009 H1N1 flu pandemic (a non-regular flu season), 358 pediatric deaths from flu were reported to the CDC between April 15, 2009, and Oct. 2, 2010.

Children who lose their lives to flu are often otherwise healthy. Some of the parents who have lost children to influenza have begun advocating through the national non-profit group Families Fighting Flu, which works to educate the community that flu is serious and can cost a child their life.

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Know when to seek medical attention.

With rest and plenty of clear fluids, most of us will recover from the flu at home. Just make sure you can keep liquids down and that your breathing is normal.

“There isn’t a lot of treatment for flu once it’s hit,” Katz said. “It’s not a good use of the emergency department with a few exceptions. As long as they are able to keep liquids down, there’s not a lot of need for the emergency department and they are better served at the drug store getting over-the-counter treatments such as decongestants, Tylenol, Motrin that sort of thing.”

Anti-viral medications such as Tamiflu may make a difference in the severity of the flu, but only in the first 48 to 72 hours. And Katz isn’t entirely certain Tamiflu works.

“People come in (to the emergency department) and they want to feel better, but really all you are doing at that point is treating the symptoms,” he said. 

People over the age of 65 with underlying respiratory problems are at higher risk of complications and are a more worrisome population when it comes to the flu, he said.

Also, healthy individuals with no chronic medical conditions may suffer from complications such as pneumonia, dehydration, ear infections or sinus infections that require additional medical treatment, officials with the Arizona Department of Health Services said.

Flu emergency signs in adults:

Difficulty breathing

Pain or pressure in chest

Confusion

Sudden Dizziness

 Severe or persistent vomiting

Wash your hands often with soap and water.

Flu is spread via the sneezing or coughing of an infected person. Experts also think you can get the flu by touching a surface that has flu germs on it and then touching your mouth or nose.

Besides hand-washing, other ways to help prevent the flu are to always cover your cough in your elbow, your sleeve or with a tissue and if you do get sick with flu symptoms, stay home, don’t travel, and avoid contact with other people except to get medical care.

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