#i guess if i saw smoking portrayed as cool everywhere i would start to post about this going -consider diversity in this- but i wouldnt

[wainswright]

oh no the actual harm asserted is it romanticizes a dynamic in which an innocent waif gets wooed perfectly in a (perfectly) demanding power imbalance relationship, is pursued alluringly, and then somehow it all works out interpersonally without a warning this may not work out quite the same irl. (also supports sexism in the idealized and aspirational air implied through the writing. a misleading and therefore harmful portrayal utilizing wish fulfillment to manipulate a naive audience into pursuing abusive relationships.)

reminds me of this post i read where a guy says he didn’t socialize much and thought talking to people was depicted realistically in comedy shows, so he played “straight man” to friendly strangers, who were put out when he rolled his eyes dismissively to everything they said and thought this came across as unfriendly, and not like an expected archetypal dynamic embodied as truth in reality tv.

I suppose this is a risk of media. but i don’t think its the job of every random independent creator to worry about this. 1) its unrealistic and has been tried to bad effect and 2) ya just gotta. tell people irl the realistic risks of… these situations.