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murdermade · 2 months ago

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I would like to preface this by saying this blog can and will contain dark themes including Bhaalcest. Blog policing and purity culture will get you blocked. Do not try to police my content or the ships i write. Orin is an insane muse and while i respect boundaries and triggers, I will not hold her back.

I don’t believe fiction has any standing on a mun’s moral compass and if you think otherwise this is probably not the blog for you.

Do not involve me in callout culture. Period. I do not think it does any good. If I see callouts or DNIS, I will block. Do not try to make me choose between anyone either because I WILL choose the person who isn’t making me choose.

I also want no part of drama. I don’t care what it is, tag it.

I don’t care about callouts in any sense. I don’t care if they’re present or past. I judge people based on how they treat me and what I see myself.

I do not care if people have DNIS on me for my content and I don’t care for any type of callout. don’t bring them to me. I do not care.

I don’t care if you don’t like me, I don’t care if you know someone who doesn’t like me, don’t bring me into drama. I’m tired of it.. Please don’t bring me up in drama that doesn’t even include me either, don’t mention my name especially if I have nothing to do with the subject at hand, i’m tired y’all.I have never written a callout and never will. I have stood up for myself before and told my side of the story, though very rarely, but callouts are stupid and I’ll always stand by that.

OC communication is highly encouraged and highly valued. Please never be afraid to IM me or ask for my discord, I love making friends!

If you im me, please put everything in ONE message. My tendency to go into sensory overloads can not handle the constant IM ping.

Communication is very important to me. I am autistic so sometimes i word things badly or say things and come across as a way i never meant to. I also don’t read cues well, please be upfront and honest with me. I will never take it as a personal attack unless you are accusing me of something I did not do or you are being clearly unfair. In which case, I will defend myself but still try to talk it out.

Just communicate with me! I’m always open to it!!

I’m very excitable, as well, so if that ever gets overbearing please tell me. I will back off.

I welcome OOC friendships as well. I find I write better with people I can be at ease with and talk to.

I love having multiple threads with someone. I don’t care if we have 1 or 100, always give me more threads with any of my muses, or multiple! The more the merrier.

I prefer mult-para and novella threads. The latter more than the former. Novella keeps my muse longer. If you’re looking for short one para or one liners, this is not the blog for you.

Spamming me with memes is highly encouraged, I will try to answer every single one of them

I am mutuals only. If you follow me, I’ll check out your blog, and if we’re compatible with rp styles and views, I will follow you back. I will unfollow if I see drama or just don’t think we vibe well. Please do not ask me why I have unfollowed.

I use the block button liberally. I will block anyone who tries to police me and my content or try to start drama. I also block if you rush me on replies and be passive aggressive. I also block if we don’t vibe well or if a situation comes up that clearly can’t be solved. Basically, don’t be a dick and we’ll be fine. I WILL NOT be made to feel bad about blocking anyone no matter the situation. I have my reasons.

Please don’t ask me to follow you/ask to rp with you if I chose not to follow. That tells me you have not read nor respected my rules.

If I follow you and you don’t like me or the content here, please just block me. I try very hard to keep people from being uncomfortable and not follow those uncomfy with me or my content, but I am only human, and have a bad memory. There is absolutely no need to start anything over a follow. if you write a canon character and completely turn them into someone they canonically aren't (verses are fine!! I may interact with those!!) then I'm not interested in following. I don't really vibe with the whole reimagined canons as OCs thing. You do you and no hard feelings but I don't vibe with it. That's NOT saying that I'm not here for headcanons and expanding them as a character. I mean turning villains into good guys and good guys into villains or morally grey characters into strictly good or bad. there is a reason they are who they are.

Smut will be present here. I am over 25 so smut is welcome Please keep in mind if you write smut with me, I will not write my muses as dominant/or tops. For personal reasons, I can only write submissive roles/bottoms. If you do not like this, you don’t have to smut with me. I won’t make myself uncomfortable for smut. I am very kink friendly so i’m open to writing most things, as long as I do not have to write the dominant/top muse. I am, however, not open to breeding kink that involves any pregnancy related stuff. It squicks me out.

#rules

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spawnmade · 2 months ago

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I would like to preface this by saying this blog can and will contain dark themes. Blog policing and purity culture will get you blocked. Do not try to police my content or the ships i write. I will NEVER force these topics on anyone and never really bring it up first, either. If you’re interested in doing anything darker and heavier, just send me an IM.

This blog will contain content exploring Cazador & Astarion. I recognize this is a terrible abuser/abusee relationship and I am not diminishing that at all. Astarion will never 'love' Cazador so please don't start with me.

I don’t believe fiction has any standing on a mun’s moral compass and if you think otherwise this is probably not the blog for you.

I also want no part of drama. I don’t care what it is, tag it.

I don’t care about callouts in any sense. I don’t care if they’re present or past. I judge people based on how they treat me and what I see myself.

I do not care if people have DNIS on me for my content and I don’t care for any type of callout. don’t bring them to me. I do not care.

OC communication is highly encouraged and highly valued. Please never be afraid to IM me or ask for my discord, I love making friends!

If you im me, please put everything in ONE message. My tendency to go into sensory overloads can not handle the constant IM ping.

Just communicate with me! I’m always open to it!!

I’m very excitable, as well, so if that ever gets overbearing please tell me. I will back off.

I welcome OOC friendships as well. I find I write better with people I can be at ease with and talk to.

I love having multiple threads with someone. I don’t care if we have 1 or 100, always give me more threads with any of my muses, or multiple! The more the merrier.

I prefer mult-para and novella threads. The latter more than the former. Novella keeps my muse longer. If you’re looking for short one para or one liners, this is not the blog for you.

Spamming me with memes is highly encouraged, I will try to answer every single one of them

Please don’t ask me to follow you/ask to rp with you if I chose not to follow. That tells me you have not read nor respected my rules.

Smut will be present here. I am over 25 so smut is welcome. All my muses involved in smut are of age or in a verse where they are of age. Please keep in mind if you write smut with me, I will not write my muses as dominant/or tops. For personal reasons, I can only write submissive roles/bottoms. If you do not like this, you don’t have to smut with me. I won’t make myself uncomfortable for smut. I am very kink friendly so i’m open to writing most things, as long as I do not have to write the dominant/top muse. I am, however, not open to breeding kink that involves any pregnancy related stuff. It squicks me out.

Astarion is not easy to ship with but he is open to ships. He is open to sexual relationships, he's just slow to trust. I write Astarion as bisexual.

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eucharist-eulogy · 1 year ago

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Oh, your heart, Aortic work of art!

Wow this is awkward, anyways hi besties, it’s your favourite menace of a mun fifi here. Hope y’alls are doing well :)

§ 18 § She/They § Aroace (sex indifferent) § SEAsian §

I’m also a diagnosed autistic person, and I’m pretty sure I have undiagnosed ADHD, so please be patient with me.

An artist (both digital and traditional) and a crazy gamer (and tired student)

DNI if:

You promote any prejudice or hatred, especially to the vulnerable. I do not condone racism, ableism, sexism, homomisia, transmisia or any other kind of discrimination and I will swiftly report should I see any. I also do not support things like the fetishisation of asians or infantilisation of neurodivergents. Please keep such gross behaviour away from me with a 20 kilometer pole.

You promote/align yourself with hateful ideologies such as Nazis, TERFs, etc. This is related to the previous point, don’t hate others for existing.

You engage with me in sexual and/or 18+ topics without prior consent. I will reiterate that I am aroace, and I have no interest in debating my identity. I only discuss topics of an 18+ nature with people I want to, and in private, not on a blog where all can see. Sexual JOKES are okay, but do not dump a whole smut fic onto me, thanks.

You believe in pro-shipping / age-of-consent arguments / any kind of argument that justifies problematic ships, pedophilia, romanticisation of abuse, etc. Just because it’s fiction doesn’t mean it’s okay. Heavy topics like abuse and manipulation should be taken with the weight they carry, and not be treated lightly.

NOTES/WARNINGS:

I consume content that includes but isn’t limited to: violence, gore, cannibalism, and similarly dark topics. I will do my dilligence to tag them, and if I fail to, you can remind me to do so, and I will gladly. However, if the content is not problematic (as in, it romanticises such content), I see no reason to take it down. Consumption lies on you, the viewer, and if the content isn’t promoting morally wrong ideas, I have no reason to remove material that might be uncomfortable to some.

I engage quite regularly in dark humour. If that puts you off, please let me know. I take mental well-being seriously.

Though mun is above 18, I wish for this blog to be clean of NSFW or otherwise 18+ content. Please respect this wish.

Fandoms im in / games I play in order of relevance: Identity V, Genshin Impact, Star Rail, Honkai Impact 3rd, Bungo Stray Dogs, Woomaverse, Chonny’s Charming Chaos Compendium (CCCC), Moriarty the Patriot, The Amazing Digital Circus, Reverse 1999 (there’s probably more i’ve forgotten, feel free to ask if you wanna know)

I also have a barely fleshed out Non-Fandom world called Dreams of Delirium, which is highly underdeveloped but I may occasionally gush about, make art of, or hold random ‘events’ on my blog about.

I create OCs for the fandoms I’m in, and you can read more about them if you’d like. One day I’ll be organised with tags, I swear.

TAGS:

Personal art: me arts

Reblogs: reblog

I’ll rip in hands and teeth and take a bite!

credit:

@cafekitsune (for the dividers)

ricedeity on youtube (for the offical butcher vanity mv art)

kurou ( the character being depicted ) belongs to me, but is highly inspired by butcher vanity by flavour foley

#intro post #ooc

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storiesungaa · 4 years ago

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mobile rules & information

Since people don’t read rules all the way through i would like to preface this by saying: TRIGGERING MATERIAL WILL BE WRITTEN HERE. THIS INCLUDES BUT IS NOT LIMITED TO: INCEST, DUBCON, SUICIDAL IDEALATIONS, CHEATING, AND ANYTHING ELSE I WANT TO WRITE. BY CLICKING FOLLOW, YOU AGREE TO BLACKLIST THE TAGS PROVIDED IN THE FORM OF (trigger here) tw. DO NOT FOLLOW ME IF YOU THINK FICTION EQUALS REALITY OR IN ANYWAY HAS ANY REFLECTION ON A MUN’S MORAL STANDING.

HATE WILL NOT BE TOLERATED AND ANY ANON’S I GET ABOUT THIS THAT IS HATE WILL BE BLOCKED/NOT AT ALL ACKNOWLEDGED.

THANK YOU.

about: this is an indie mutuals only rp blog for a multimuse with various fandoms from tv shows, movies, anime, and video games. mun is 25+, genderfluid lesbian, goes by he/him pronouns (but i am genderfluid so i don’t mind she/her pronouns, most just call me he/him) online and name Jay. Previously known as Ares and Snow.

Callout culture: Do not involve me in this. Period. I want no part of it and will block as soon as I see it, tagged or not. I believe it does more harm than good and something like tha is extremely harmful..

content: there will be some pretty heavy material featured here. such as suicidal thoughts, mentions of rape, incest, and anything else I want to write. I will not tolerate hate being sent to me about this and I will block anyone who tries to police me. The only hard limit i have and absolutely refuse to write is pedophilia.

Don’t ever be afraid to ask me to tag something!

side note: if you believe fiction equals reality, please don’t follow me.

discord: is open to those who follow me. simply ask for it. i do not write on discord though. ooc contact is highly encouraged!

disclaimer: i'm in no way affiliated with any of the actors, fandoms, or characters on this blog. Banners, promos, and icons belong to me. Theme was made by inkfated. all screencaps used to turn into icons on this blog are not mine and belong to their rightful owners. Lara Croft screencaps come from soulcluster. tsunade icons belong to hellspath. rectangle tsunade icons belong to me. Some psds are not mine. Credit to iconholic for Red Velvet psd. Credit to plutocommissions for psd 183 - wild. some psds used are made by rivercraze

Drama: There won’t be any. I’m too old for tumblr’s drama, if you try to start something, make me choose, or drag me into drama - you will be blocked.

DNI’s will get you blocked. I don’t agree with making people choose between people when there are things like blacklist and tumblr’s own filtering system to help you avoid a person

Hate: Character hate, show hate, etc will get you unfollowed. I don’t have time for that negativity, pls tag it so I can filter it out, thank you.

IMs: pls refrain from sending me multiple messages all at once as I’m autistic and it sends me into sensory overloads!!

follow/unfollowing: i usually follow back pretty quick. if i don't follow within a week, i'm probably not going to follow back. 9/10 i do follow back. i will not follow if i see vaguing, callouts, or any sort of drama on blogs. i also will not follow any under the age of 18.

if i’ve been following you for a month and you don’t interact with me within that time limit, I’m unfollowing. I won’t soft block because I’m totally okay with people still following me but I don’t see the point in following if we’re not gonna write.

If I do not follow you back, do not message me asking to write or become mutuals - you will be blocked.

If I block you, do not come to me asking why. It will only get you blocked all over again. Do not ask why i’ve unfollowed you, either.

DO NOT FOLLOW ME IF YOU’RE A MINOR.

side note: if you’re the type to blindly believe a callout because that’s what everyone else is doing save yourself the trouble and don’t follow me.

Memes: Send as many as you want for as many muses as you want just be sure to specify muse or they’ll get deleted! Always feel free to turn meme answers into threads, too.

Do not use me as a meme resource. Send something in or reblog from the source, please.

note: if you send memes multiple times and there’s clearly a way to continue them, ESPECIALLY if we’ve never interacted before, and you keep sending memes but have NO INTENTIONS on replying to them, I will be less likely to respond to them. memes, in my eyes, are used as alternatives to starters. if you don’t respond to them after i’ve responded to quite a few, that’s me putting work into it for no reason really, so yeah.

My triggers: Sharks. That’s it. Just tag pictures of sharks for me please

nsfw: smut will be present here. i can not play the dominant party in smut, please don't ask me too. if you don't feel comfortable with it, we can fade to black, easy peasy. i won't make myself uncomfortable for some smut. All muses involved in smut or ships are 18+. If you think that aging them up is pedophila, do me a favor and get off my blog. Smut may happen with aged up characters but that does not mean it was done specifically for smut. Do not assume.

OCS: I love them. Send them my way, please!

OOC: I post ooc, sometimes quite a bit, sometimes rarely. I am human and I will act as such. I will not tag ooc posts mostly bc i’ll forget. Sorry if that bugs people but like i said, I’m human and I like to write things down and share things with the dash.

OOC note: please do not flirt with me or ask me to date you, thank you!

Shipping: all muses are LGBT+ in some shape or form so if you want to ship, just let me know. They’re pretty open to anyone, though gay and lesbian muses will stay gay and lesbian. I ship toxic pairings and incest so if that’s your cup of tea, just lemme know, and we can work something out if not? That’s alright too!!

As previously stated, all ships and smut scenes are involved with characters 18+. I will never under any circumstance write something with underage characters. Characters, however, can be aged up but are never simply just for the sake of smut. Smut may happen with aged up characters but that does not mean it was done specifically for smut. Do not assume.

wait time: sometimes i can take months, sometimes seconds, sometimes days. I’m not a fast rper, please respect this.

writing: i generally prefer writing multi-para or novella. one-liners or one-paragraphs usually end up getting dropped or made into much longer threads as i have absolutely no chill.

edit: from now on any drafts that are below three paras will be deleted, i don’t have muse for short things.

End note: Do me a favor and like this post if you’ve read my rules. Not needed but deeply appreciated. Also below you’ll find important links:

MUSES & NAVIGATION & MUSE INTEREST CHECKER & SHIP INTEREST CHECKER & COMMISSIONS INFORMATION & MOBILE MUSE LIST & THREAD TRACKER

#mobile rules

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gwynblcidd · 3 years ago

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MOBILE RULES & INFORMATION

about: this is an mutuals only indie blog for a Geralt of Rivia. Book, Game, and Netflix based.. mun is 25+, i'm genderfluid and my pronouns are primarily he/him and they/them. she/her is fine but it is not prefered like those are. my name is Jay. Previously known as Ares and Snow. previously witcherblooded.

important note: this is a pro netflix blog. if you hate the show, tag your hate or don’t follow me.

content: triggering matieral will be present. please blacklist tags in the form of (trigger here) tw

Don’t ever be afraid to ask me to tag something!

side note: if you believe fiction equals reality, please don’t follow me.

discord: is open to those who follow me. simply ask for it. i do not write on discord though. ooc contact is highly encouraged!

disclaimer: i'm in no way affiliated with any the Netflix series, the author, Henry, or Geralt of Rivia. psd belongs to rivercraze and theme background and promo made by cterglow, dash icon, and icons were all made by me.

Drama: There won’t be any. I’m too old for tumblr’s drama, if you try to start something, make me choose, or drag me into drama - you will be blocked.

DNI’s will get you blocked. I don’t agree with making people choose between people when there are things like blacklist and tumblr’s own filtering system to help you avoid a person

Hate: Character hate, show hate, etc will get you unfollowed. I don’t have time for that negativity, pls tag it so I can filter it out, thank you.

interactions: I LOVE multiple threads with someone, if you let me, I’ll have 100 threads with people. I also, sometimes, NPC characters to help move threads along and build plots, if you’re not okay with that, please just let me know. Ciri will be heavily featured as NPC when not interacting with other ciris.

IMs: pls refrain from sending me multiple messages all at once as I’m autistic and it sends me into sensory overloads!!

If I block you, do not come to me asking why. It will only get you blocked all over again.

DO NOT FOLLOW ME IF YOU’RE A MINOR.

side note: if you’re the type to blindly believe a callout because that’s what everyone else is doing save yourself the trouble and don’t follow me.

Memes: Send as many as you want!!! i love them

Do not use me as a meme resource. Send something in or reblog from the source, please.

My triggers: Sharks. That’s it. Just tag pictures of sharks for me please. not exactly a trigger but please also tag negativity.

OCS: I love them. Send them my way, please!

OOC note: please do not flirt with me or ask me to date you, thank you!

Shipping: Geralt is multi ship and pansexual so he’s open to anyone regardless of gender (or lack of) and species.

i’m VERY selective with shipping geralt with triss/ write with triss’ in general because of what she did to him. the fandom has a bad habit about ignoring it and i just can not. this does not mean i won’t write/ship with triss’ but it needs to be acknowledged instead of ignored.

since it was ignored that triss assaulted geralt in the show, show triss’ are safe from mine and geralt’s harsh treatment towards triss, because it’s not their fault. while yes it’s nice to have it acknowledged, a lot of show watchers know nothing about the books, so i will not fault them.

the only way show triss aren’t safe is if they’re also book based or the show acknowledges it in the future.

wait time: sometimes i can take months, sometimes seconds, sometimes days. I’m not a fast rper, please respect this. this is also not my only blog.

writing: i generally prefer writing multi-para or novella. one-liners or one-paragraphs usually end up getting dropped or made into much longer threads as i have absolutely no chill.

edit: from now on any drafts that are below three paras will be deleted, i don’t have muse for short things.

IMPORTANT LINKS BELOW:

ABOUT/MAINS/VERSES & MY MULTI & OPEN STARTERS & HEADCANONS & MEMES & MY CIRI SIDEBLOG

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imagining-in-the-margins · 4 years ago

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im honestly sorry if you feel triggered by this, but how do you feel about mgg fans diagnosing him adhd to excuse him saying the r word? isnt that invalidating towards neurodivergent people because hes not actually diagnosed with it? for some reason that just really bothers me (i have horrible adhd that i actually take medication for and it's awful so it annoys me when ppl ask diagnose with it)

So, I don’t have ADHD - I’m neurodivergent because I am autistic - just want to put that out there before I move on.

From my understanding, people mistakenly think that he is actually diagnosed. I’ve seen a few people swear they’ve heard him say it. I’ve searched for awhile, but never been able to find any sign of Matthew explicitly calling himself ND in any manner. Since I think a lot of it comes from a genuine misunderstanding, it doesn’t bother me at all. (*If someone has proof he’s identified that way, please let me know and show me the link!).

As for people who are actually openly and admittedly armchair diagnosing, I take issue with that. I’m a firm believer in self-diagnosis, particularly in America and for adults over the age of 20 with NDs, specifically. It is way harder than a lot of people understand to get a proper autism dx in America if you’re an adult. If my parents weren’t willing/able to testify to my childhood, no psychiatrist would believe me. I think a lot of younger folks don’t realize how much our understanding of neurodiversity has changed in the last three years, nonetheless the last thirteen.

HOWEVER, armchair diagnosis is awful in my eyes. I am not a fan for a number of reasons, part of which being that there is often a bias by the person doing it. A lot of ND symptoms overlap between all of the different “qualifying disorders,” and I constantly see people say X is evidence of Y, when the correct statement is X can be evidence of ABCDEFGHIJKLM- (You get the point).

When it’s done by a NT or able bodied person, I get even more upset. They have no business guessing what it’s like to be us or talk about how they perceive us. It’s not their business. They need to keep their (usually ableist) opinions to themselves, period. I don’t want to hear about whether or not they think there is something “wrong” with literally anyone, ever (that includes Cheeto Man, who people seem real comfortable throwing “bad” mental illness labels on).

Lastly, my biggest problem with armchair diagnosis or outing someone’s disability they don’t outwardly express is that it takes the autonomy away from the person that matters. I personally don’t think it’s right to reclaim a slur if you don’t identify yourself as a member of that demographic, since you are benefiting from the pain without any of the work/danger. That being said, some people’s opinions differ. Our histories with our own disabilities and how the world reacts to them are all very different.

Do I think Matthew is ND? Possibly, but it’s not my place to say that for him. If he doesn’t say he is, then I’ll assume that he is not, because that’s probably what he wants. Until he says otherwise, I will assume that he does not want to be identified as ND, and in my opinion, he shouldn’t say the R slur (which, he hasn’t said in almost 5 years now, has removed from his very first directed works and website, is part of a campaign to replace the word, and he has started heavily advocating for adults with intellectual & developmental disabilities - one of THE most neglected demographics).

Finally, I actually have some semi-controversial feelings about the R-slur itself and who should feel comfortable reclaiming it. The ND umbrella is extremely massive, and includes wildly different experiences. When specifically referencing the R-slur, the people whose opinions should be amplified the most, to me, are the people with intellectual and developmental disabilities that also suffered at the hands of the educational system.

As someone who was in school in the nineties, I went from being officially marked the R-slur on my educational record & being told I’d never be able to hold a job or be a functioning member of society... to being told I needed to skip 3 grades & that I was a genius... Those two experiences are so, so, so, so, SO painfully different. Sure, I still got called the R-slur for my other behaviors outside of the educational context, but we can’t erase the VERY different experiences in SpEd and TAG programs. I just want people to think about that, too. I personally get kind of uncomfortable when people who’ve never struggled with learning or intelligence tests tell me they get to use the word. I don’t feel comfortable using the word, but I also grew up in a very different time. I’m glad that people feel more comfortable with reclaiming the word now, though, because it means we’ve made progress and they feel safer with it! There’s a lot to it, and it’s an intracommunity discussion, anyway.

That’s a brief summary on my feelings. Mainly I want people to be patient with people who say he has ADHD just because I think a lot of people genuinely (albeit mistakenly) believe he’s identified that way. A lot of ND people cling to any representation we can find because it is so rare to find. I try to be more understanding with the topic for that reason.

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archivevolcania · 4 years ago

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could you clarify what you mean by "weaponizes labels?" i genuinely have no idea what you mean by that.

i’ll try my very best to explain it in a simple way, though i can be terrible in how i word things, so if you still have questions after this feel free to send another ask or just shoot me a message kjhgdfg i’ll Try my Hardest i promise.

going straight to the point, it’s when people quite literally ‘use’ their mental disorders, orientation, gender, identity, etc etc... as a weapon and shield to either make themselves the victim in one scenario or justify their shitty behavior. of course, there ARE cases where they are indeed, the actual victim, don’t get me wrong. it’s when their intention is literally just to get that attention and validation and pity? it’s just ridiculous and extremely toxic as well as damaging to their own self. because at the end of the day, it means they’ll be used to that attention and validation to feel better about themselves and it can escalate really quickly and lead to bad places, both for the person in question as well as those around them.

EDIT: this doesn’t mean im against people bringing up their disabilities. there’s a difference between bringing it up for the other person to be considerate when interacting with you should it be something you find necessary (all in favor for this) vs shoving it down their throat for you to get away with just about any toxic and manipulative behavior you want to justify or make the other believe every single hurtful and controlling thing you do / say is ‘because you are just That Way’.

i honestly just don’t want to interact with those types of people because i know that stupid tunglr drama is so not worth it, that there’s people here who no matter what you say, how you word things or try to approach them? they’ll play the victim and rely on a label (for example, idk being autistic) to justify that need to be reassured by others, while tagging the other person as guilty.

and again, I KNOW there’s cases where the person was in fact, horribly bullied and manipulated even. i’m not denying that, i have seen cases and you could say i was p much one of those genuine victims lmao, the difference here is that some people learned to find an easy way out by bringing up that stuff.

a quick example. you’re talking with this someone and apparently, the way you worded something while typing offended them and made them feel bad. so you try rephrasing it because obviously, that was not your intention because you’re not an asshole, but at that point that person swears you hate them, are against them, and... you’re homophobic. just because that person happened to be gay and they will Use That to tag you negatively, and that way people will immediately think badly of you, all while they get away with it. meanwhile, all you wanted to do was explain something better and yet you weren’t given the opportunity.

it’s extremely immature, toxic, and damaging to both parties.

so yep. i avoid that kind of shit. i’m too tired to treat someone as special or feel like i have to walk avoiding eggshells because they mention left and right that they are something (when they clearly and violently only seek that validation and don’t do it for good reasons).

i am here for equality and respect. don't expect me to put someone on a pedestal just because they’re different, but i will be respectful and educated cus it so happens that’s basic human decency.

i keep my blogs drama-free. the rule on my blog along with this post is literally the only thing you’ll see about it, as i stay away from any and all personal drama.

and if by any reason this rule of mine makes you uncomfortable, i encourage you not to follow me. if we’re already mutuals, please soft or hard block me. if you also follow my sideblogs, please unfollow those as well. i’ll hold nothing against you, i just want us both to feel comfortable in our blogs and if that means blocking (whether hard-block or soft) then that is totally fine. we can move on and act like grown ups.

:’) i hope that made sense ilu bye

#▸ anon. ◂#▸ ooc . psa ◂

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violet-knox · 5 years ago

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ok then! im actually high functioning(but still autistic), which would infer that im A: more able to control my anxiety/emotions, etc. or B: very intelligent, understands things quite well that others doesn't seem to as much. there are some downfalls to that, though... Im kinda both of those things. dm me if you will (I can't right now, my email's acting up)

Imagine Severus Finding Out That You’re Autistic

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A/N: Oh man, this took way longer than I thought it would. I’m soooooo sorry for how long this has been sitting in my inbox (same with the anon who sent the request after this one). Life has been especially hard lately 🙈 Anyways, hope you enjoy, who knows when I’ll find time to post next 😂

The reader is a Metamorphmagus and the story is based off of a story that Professor I mentioned a while ago told my class on day. More about that in the tags.

- He’d never have known if you hadn’t told him. You were always soput together, he’d looked up to how strong you were, how you’d always providedhim with such support, both in his lab when discussing potions and in your ownpersonal chambers. It never occurred to him you had your own struggles to dealwith.

- He was shocked that you feltcomfortable enough to open up about the struggles you had when you were young,how you’d be made fun of for misinterpreting a situation or the simple act of acurious question hitting the nerves of those you’d called friends, just likehim.

- How you’d like to expressyourself through the colour of your hair. Purple for ecstatic. Green for happy.Blue for sadness. Red for anger. Black for depressed. How inattentive had he beento miss this? To miss your attempt at communicating how you felt to the rest ofthe world, to him.

- He felt guilty for snappingat you not moments ago as you’d reach up to swipe away the tears dripping fromhis eyes. Once again, you’d misinterpreted the situation when you’d walked into find him on the floor, hunched over a torn photograph and once again you’dtaken the wrong action, unsympathetically asking why his face waswet.

- He’d take back those awfulwords he’d spat if he could. He’d take them back and replace them with wordsfilled with nothing less than love and devotion.

- The truth was, he understoodhow you felt more than anyone. How many times had he wronged Lily andmisunderstood her? How many times did he say the wrong thing or act the wrongway? Too many to count.

- “I’m sorry,” you whispered,sitting next to him. Your frown spoiling the soft colour of your cheeks, yourslouch ruining that beautiful figure hidden under your robe. “I didn’tmean to sound unsympathetic.”

- It hurt to see you so upset,to see the look on your face when he’d shouted at you. Your curious eyeswidening in shock as you struggled to understand how a simple question couldlead to such a reaction.

- Severus shock his head inshame. “It’s not your fault,” he’d say as he took your hand in both ofhis, gently closing them around yours. You were his support system and never inhis life had he felt this way about someone. Things with the Dark Lord wouldonly get worse from here and he knew he’d be doomed if he let you go. Hewanted nothing more than to sit here in this room (with the door bolted shut)for the rest of life, holding your hand in his and leaning into whatevercomfort you’d be willing to offer him.

- “You should have toldme.” He spoke softly with the gentlest of touches as if you were glass about toshatter. The guilt was a lot to deal with but more than anything, he was hurtyou hadn’t trusted him enough to open up as you had now, as he’d done in thepast. He did his best to understand, and he realized how importantcommunication would be in your relationship, but it was hard not to takeoffence.

- He was in a vulnerable place,his emotions going haywire when that torn picture of Lily fell out of hisdrawer. His vision blurring with tears as he remembered all the hurt he’dcaused her, everything he’d lost and the poor choices he’d made all those yearsago. He needed you to walk in and comfort him, tell him it would be alright,that he was making it up to her now with all the work he’d been doing for theOrder. But instead of the reassurance he craved, he was met with unintendeddismissal the moment his eyes met yours.

- “I didn’t want to scare youaway.” Your voice shriveled as memories of your peers distancing themselvesfrom you swept through your mind. You were always a quick learner, and this wasno exception. You’d learned then and there that any sign of abnormality onlyseparated you from others. You were the house freak. The only one who couldnever get behind social constructs. How were you to know how to read a person’semotions? Humans were much more complex than a simple book, flipping through thepages with ease. That had been made very clear to you.

- You’d accepted that you’d neverunderstand the world as a whole. Truthfully, you weren’t sure anyone truly did.But you’d never let your autism hold you back before. Not with your job and notwith your last eight months with Severus.

- Your last relationship wasquite the rollercoaster; he was never really there for you and finding outabout your autism just put that last nail in the coffin for you both. It wasn’ta big lose, but you missed that sliver of support he’d provided you. Theability to talk to someone about your day, or just hold one another when youwere feeling down.

- It was different withSeverus. He was cold at first, much more resistant to your interest in him. Butin the end, his warmth became your latch to the world. His support, the abilityto run into his arms after a hard day, the feeling of his fingers runningthrough your hair. The comfort, the joy you felt was something you were willingto fight for, even if that meant keeping all of yourself from him.

- In hindsight, not tellingSeverus everything about you was probably a big lapse in judgement, but seeing thatphotograph he clutched in his hand and the sorrow he emitted through his words,he hadn’t told you everything about himself either.

- Transparency was hard andhe’d told himself he’d do better with you. This diagnosis wasn’t going to stophim from loving you, nor would it come between your growth as a couple.Tomorrow he’d read up on autism and get to know how it affects you. Tomorrowhe’d find a way to help you. Tomorrow, he’d do better than he had tonight.

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funeraloracle · 5 years ago

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tagged by @softapollo tho not really? they just tagged anyone that wanted to do it and i did! so im tagging @gguksostara @faithums @coyoteskies @dramathics @headstronghawkshaw @mercurian-goddess @schoolofapollo @fatherofghosts @aresdaughters @greyscalegalaxie @cloudedaura @witchytinky @withmygoldenmagicslingshot and youuuu!

1. name: listen this shit changes every week but lets go with Miette for the time being.

2. nickname: oh lord any number of things. the most popular ones are Mimi, Crumbcake... i’ve had a few people call me Funeral.

3. zodiac sign: leo sun, taurus moon, taurus rising.

4. height: 5′8. if im taller than you, reply with your height muahahaha

5. languages: english and some american sign language. i’m supposed to be learning greek but all i know is the alphabet and i barely know that. i’ll get back to it soon;;

6. nationality: american, though i have heavy welsh ancestry. i’m from somewhere in the south but i won’t tell you where. no, it ain’t texas.

7. favourite season: see this is hard for me. there are too many storms in spring and i’m piss scared of storms (sorry zeus). there’s also a lot of thunderstorms in the summer and a higher chance of tornadoes where i live so its no bueno. winter is really cold and very depressing, so i’m gonna have to go with autumn by process of elimination. though tbh the margin between summer and winter has gotten smaller and smaller these days.

8. favourite flower: ohh are you kidding me... sunflowers, lillies of the valley, specifically pink carnations, bleeding heart flowers, angel’s trumpet flower, hyacinths, coral roses, yellow marigolds, red poppies...

9. favourite scent: it changes all the time because im autistic, and therefore scents can be very overwhelming. but right now im very into thick, desserty scents. all the candles i buy are in buttery pastry or mocha-y/coffee scents. my partners bought me a chocolate chip candle for valentines day and it just finished its burn today ): i also love gasoline for some reason?

10. favourite colour: this too changes! i especially love pink, i have so many things in pink. but i also love yellow, orange, mint green, baby blue, scheele’s green...

11. favourite animal: BEARS!!! bears for sure i love bears so fucking much especially giant grizzlies UGH

12. favourite fictional character: i hate these questions i can’t pick a favorite ANYTHING. so ill go with the characters that i most relate to/most influenced who i am today, in no particular order: bubbles and blossom from powerpuff girls, princess luna and pinkie pie from my little pony, alice liddell from alice in wonderland, hello kitty and mimi from the hello kitty straight to vhs series, harley quinn from the dc universe, bambi from disney’s bambi, ariel from the little mermaid-- have you learned something about me yet?

13. coffee, tea, or hot chocolate: ill drink anything with matcha, whether thats tea or coffee. i’ll go on the record rn to say if you put something with matcha in front of me i will fucking eat/drink it.

14. average hours of sleep: 7-7.5 hours is what i try to stick to.

15. cat of dog person: cats! though im just an animal lover in general, i own a cat of my own.

16. number of blankets you sleep with: one big heavy ass duvet. i cant imagine sleeping with more than one... that’d be so heavy and uncomfortable. sensory hell.

17. dream trip: greece! country ROADSSSS TAKE ME HOMEEEEE

18. blog established: only a few months? i believe i made it at the end of 2019, though this is a sideblog. ive been on tumblr since 2014.

19. followers: 49 on my main @softmiette and 496 on here.

20. a random fact: i have a deer skull on my altar! he’s the best. i also have two unidentified bones that i received from a close friend. i believe one is a coyote rib and the other is a deer’s femur.

#mine #tagged

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makeroomforthejolyghost · 4 years ago

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ok well i originally drafted this while thinking about this post, but it’s relevant to what i wanted to say about (my tags on) this one too so i’ll just post it now, how ‘bout that.

i mean, Getting Used to It (and thus expanding your definition of “i’m fine”) isn’t always as dramatic as your brain completely turning off its pain response to an event, so that you don’t realize you’ve injured yourself until some other clue tips you off. that’s certainly happened to me? (and w/ smaller injuries it happens to healthy people too, as when you cut yourself on paper without noticing, and it doesn’t start to hurt until you see it bleed.) but the more everyday/pedestrian forms of this phenomenon are, like. that the level of pain i rated as an 8 in 2016 now reads to me as, like, 5. and that when you’re depressed (or at least when i am), pain goes up but interest in that pain goes down, because of depression’s tendency to normalize negative stimuli.

i think these are two manifestations of the same thing: your brain removes fear from the equation, and since fear makes pain more intense, most pain experienced in fear’s absence seems like no big deal. and that goes double for painful stimuli you once associated with fear but no longer do? in a sorta feedback-loopy way. or at least it does for me. less fear-->less pain-->even less fear the next time something similar happens.

if i sit in nearly any given position too long, one or more of the joints in my legs will sometimes... well, i think subluxate is technically the right word?* but it’s not like a sudden pop: it’s like, as the muscles around them relax my joints slowly slide out of place. as you can imagine (given the low bar required to achieve it), this happens A Lot; i don’t keep track, but probably once a day on average? i know it’s not every day, but also that some days it happens many times, and that both these latter and the days when it doesn’t happen at all often strike me as a change from the norm. so, yeah, probably a mean of once per day. but until sometime in 2019, it used to freak me out—a lot—every time.

it’s often one of those above-mentioned doesn’t hurt until you notice for other reasons scenarios, too, like the paper cut. so i’d be like innocently sitting there, then look down or attempt to adjust position and suddenly OH GOD MY LEG(S). and every time it happened i’d think, “oh god, is this the time i really and truly get stuck and have to be scooped out of this position on a stretcher. fuck, please, no, that would be so humiliating, there’s no way the paramedics would believe me, strangers must not see me like this,�� &c., and the more determined i got to prove to myself that i could move, that i wasn’t stuck, that i could get myself out of this, the more horrifically painful these attempts became—partly because fear of pain leads to greater pain, and partly because when you’re panicky you don’t tend to move with much patience or care.

but, of course, every time i would eventually get out of it. it’s hard to say how long it took, because, again, i never timed it, and also because time does weird shit when you’re freaking out. (plus i have adhd, so my estimates of how long things take aren’t the greatest to begin with.) i want to say though that the longest i ever took unpretzeling myself in this way was an hour and a half—and i usually took way less time than that. (it’s hard also to estimate because these days exceeding ten minutes marks an especially long battle of this kind.) iirc, the ~90-minute incident was like, my right hip already felt not quite right, and someone on the internet recommended W-sitting as a way to reduce a subluxed hip, and i tried it because i either didn’t know at that time or had forgotten that when i W-sit for more than a few seconds i often misplace several toes, up to two joints per knee, maybe an ankle, and/or at least one hip. some of these will reduce themselves automatically as soon as i move; others i can only move passively until after i’ve reduced them. so like, that endeavor was a fucking jigsaw puzzle, and good luck figuring those out when a. every wrong move doubles the pain and panic you’re in, but b. leaving the puzzle unfinished is also agonizing. most of the time it was not that bad.

…what was my point? oh yeah: this sat-wrong-now-my-leg’s-stuck business still happens a lot, and it’s n o t like sitting on a pen, where your brain eventually gives up on signaling your discomfort.** nor like when you’re running on adrenaline and your brain doesn’t bother to tell you you’re hungry. nor like what tumblr user bibliosphere described, where her brain evidently just… prioritized other tasks over the “hey please fix this leg” alarm that pain would have signified. but incidents like this do, literally, hurt less the tenth time they happen than they do the first time, and it’s not because your body Toughens Up or whatever either (that only works w/ exercise-related muscle pain); it’s because your brain learns that this event does not pose imminent danger. a subluxation you know how to reduce will hurt less than one you don’t.

that’s what the “i’m always subluxing” version of the hulk meme means. most chronically ill people describe this whole phenomenon as more like the argument from “shot in the knee theory.” as like, you stop screaming because you learn screaming doesn’t help. and i mean… yeah? but ime it’s more that you stop screaming*** when you learn what does help. the OP in that post asks rhetorically,

Are you going to scream and cry the entire time, or are you going to come to grips with reality and accept the fact that freaking out isn’t going to make the ambulance come any faster?

and jesus christ, OP, are you kidding? in real life? definitely the first one! if you literally got shot in the knee, you wouldn’t just scream because it hurt—you would scream also because holy shit, am i gonna die of blood loss? why did they shoot me? are they going to shoot me again??? and pain you’ve had for years, or an injury you’ve sustained many times before, is nothing like that. if it scares you at all, the content of your fear is more like, oh, crap. what’s this gonna feel like tomorrow. will i have to cancel my plans again?

*n.b. i’ve never had this confirmed by a doctor. i just assume that’s what’s happening because 1. the sensations’ non-pain components are very similar to what the subluxations i have had confirmed feel like; 2. if it’s a joint i can see from my position (e.g., the ankle pressed against the floor when criss-cross-applesauced), it usually looks a little fucked up; and 3. it behaves quite differently from regular stiffness, joints in this scenario feeling not so much too tight to move properly as like i keep aiming for and missing the lever that moves them. (and each failed attempt HURTS like my soft tissues are pumpkin guts and my bones are knives trying to scoop them out.)

**i’ve never actually tried this experiment, though, and i’ve heard it doesn’t work on some autistic people. hopefully this goes without saying lmao but my sensory perceptions are Weird in General, so, any hypotheses i build upon them should be salted liberally

***well, whimpering, anyway. for me at least, if i literally scream at an injury it’s not from the pain, it’s from the surprise. i’m more likely to scream when i stub my toe than when i try to bite and my jaw crunches sideways, because the latter is a possibility i sign up for every time i put food in my mouth, whereas like. ob…viously you wouldn’t have stubbed your toe if you’d already known the object you accidentally kicked was there. (except i guess in movies when people kick objects to express rage, forgetting that this will hurt them. in that case i suppose they scream partly from surprise and partly because negative stimuli encountered in “fight” mode reinforce preexisting anger. wow i digress lmao sorry.) but reactions like whimpering, clenching your teeth, &c. only partly come from surprise; they’re also stims, i think, tho clearly not ones unique to ND people. the woman who pierced my ears when i was a kid told me to focus on tapping first one foot and then the other, so i wouldn’t shrink away. i think it’s kinda like that: it releases nervous energy, gives you a competing stimulus to focus on.

#existential fart chart #screalth tag #icee straw kazoo

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dxmagedrose · 5 years ago

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GET TO KNOW THE BLOGGER!

Tagged by: my lover @hammurabicomplex I’m tagging: anyone and everyone who wants to pick this one up! share with the class if you feel like it! tag me in it!!

PRESENTING. RANDOM DEEP DIVE WITH INDIGO-MUN AT 2AM ;

FIRST NAME Good fucking question… It’s (sort-of) currently Dylann! I was Kieran before that, though; it’s still used as one of my first names and I’m not used to Dylann quite yet bc I’ve just started using it.

Indigo is one of my middle names though, and I’ve used it as an online handle elsewhere forever so I use it here now! [ Fun etymology facts: Dylan(n) is a mythology name generally meaning “born of the wave” (aspiring diver & a water witch at heart). Kieran means “little dark one” bc of my love for horror, && I chose Indigo bc as a kid to be it was neither boy (blue) or purple (girl) and was both and neither as well as my absolute favorite color as this vibrant ass mystical color. ]

STRANGE FACT ABOUT YOURSELF hmmmmm…. I’m a horror lover at heart, so as a child (I wanna say 12), I was walking through an antique store (I have a few cool finds, I considered putting my other one as the fact tbh) and I turned the corner and I saw these two dolls staring back at me at the foot of the stairs of this antique building. my blood froze, and i felt my stomach drop. i got actual, physical goosebumps stumbling across these two creepy dolls staring back at me in the corner, and i couldn’t leave the store without them. perhaps the little painted porcelain boy would be somewhat spooky by himself if it wasn’t for the terrifying lidded gaze of the porcelain girl with the hairline fractures and slightly open lips. i cant look at her. i dont really find dolls scary, I like to find the spookier ones ones, and she makes me paranoid as hell. i keep her face covered and her up in my closet except for when i bring her out to show her off proudly as the spookiest thing I have but……. i dont really collect dolls anymore. even thinking about her brings a fearful tear to my eye. i don’t like to think about her for very long, but that’s why I’m so fucking proud to own her. ( YES — I’m THAT white person in the horror film )

TOP THREE PHYSICAL THINGS YOU FIND ATTRACTIVE ON A PERSON hhhhh a beardy jawline, high cheekbones, crooked canine teeth >:3c

A FOOD YOU COULD EAT FOREVER AND NOT GET BORED OF b.l.t.’s with avocado. ahhhh. my mouth is watering just thinking about it, oh my god. just a bit of salt and pepper???

A FOOD YOU HATE barbecue anything, i hate the taste of bbq sauce, you keep your nasty black goo to yourselves at the grill. twice in my life i have presented with barbecue pizza and both times i cried literal tears. why would you do such a horrible thing to a person? what kind of a monster are you? how do you sleep at night?!

GUILTY PLEASURE the sims. constantly. always. i’ve sunk thousands of hours into my households. oh also uhhhhhh i run two 80s horror blogs, one being a shitpost blog with occasional art of mine and one gremlin fanfic ship blog for horrible, terrible self indulgent fanfics i’ll get the courage to finish writing & post so i can be cancelled on tumblr for at some point. NO, i won’t link them. as i pretend they’re even all that hard to find, within a day i was found on both by someone i admire here a lot :’) ilu bby thnk u eternally for supporting ur local horrifying dumbass wtf

WHAT DO YOU SLEEP IN the same clothes i’ve been wearing all day usually, my sweats & long sleeve raglans or my hoodies. i like being cozy day & and out. and ugh. efoort. just throw me in a blanket in a cool room and im out.

SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS OR FLINGS serious relationships with some openness or poly. i wish i could fling! just not exactly easy for demisexual autistics lmao.

IF YOU COULD GO BACK IN THE PAST AND CHANGE ONE THING ABOUT YOUR LIFE, WOULD YOU AND WHAT WOULD IT BE I think I would be adopted by my grandma as a kid. It would save me some trauma but mostly I think it would get my autism diagnosed way earlier and save me angsting all these years of wondering why & thinking it’s my fault I’m struggling so much and so loud and affectionate and different in a world that i didnt fit in the same way.

ARE YOU AN AFFECTIONATE PERSON when i get drunk i text people how much they mean to me in my life. does that answer your question? ahhh. i’m sometimes a cuddle monster with friends, i message people with long texts about how much they mean to me, but I sometimes really don’t like to be touched at all.

A MOVIE YOU COULD WATCH OVER AND OVER AGAIN FLYPAPER. F L Y P A P E R. FLYPAPER. FLY, and, I can’t stress this enough, fucking PAPER. ( Though also Whole Nine Yards and both Re-Animator & Bride ). I have watched Flypaper already like, 5 times this week and I’m still not done, and the other movies have been on repeat for days in this household within the last year. In the past it has also been Donnie Darko & the new Nightmare on Elm Street. roast me.

FAVORITE BOOK White Fang by Jack London. Have I actually ever finished it? No. Do I still own a copy I’ve had since childhood thru multiple dogs eating it, taking it to and from school, and highlighting and circling all the best parts of chapter one ever since I was a kid and it was too hard of a book for me to read? You bet your ass. If I ever need inspiration I just reread chapter 1. Although one of my other favorites was Broken Monsters by Lauren Beukes. But White Fang is like, a weirdly personal text. We stan London’s writing in this household.

YOU HAVE THE OPPORTUNITY TO KEEP ANY ANIMAL AS A PET, WHAT DO YOU CHOOSE FENNEC FOX!! I used to daydream about having my own named Shiloh when I was a lil kid. they’re adorable little things and i am obsessed. i mean, gimme any fox and im happy, marble foxes, red foxes… but I was obsessed with fennec foxes. Also tbh ferrets. I want a ferret.

TOP FIVE FICTIONAL SHIPS [IF YOU ARE AN RP BLOG, YOU CAN USE YOUR OWN SHIPS AS WELL] Rosa & @ninetyscnds‘s Luke, Rosa & @iimpulsivity is already screaming my name, Rosa & Constantine, Jesse & Andrea from Breaking Bad, and the joker and harley of 80s sci-fi Dan & Herbert from Re-Ani. I am but a simple opossum.

PIE OR CAKE Pie! I’ll take both pumpkin & melty apple over cake. also, cheesecake is more pie than cake soooo, pie wins.

FAVORITE SCENT my dogs / my blanket. :’) It’s the most grounding smell in the world.

CELEBRITY CRUSH oliver jackson-cohen, i’m fucking GAY and im angry about it. there i was, minding my own business, and i saw that asshole in a certain SHIRTLESS GIF and it AWOKE SOMETHING IN ME. dont talk to me about it, holy shit im obsessed with beardy men now god fuckkdafjaask i hate him why did he make me this gay i was perfectly fine being into girls but NOOOOOO him and his dumb hairy chest and sweet rugged face and I—— I also am obsessed with the archaeologist & television personality Josh Gates and may or may not be considering making a fan blog for him bc idk if my anthropology docuseries host is Dad or Daddy but i love him lots

IF YOU COULD TRAVEL ANYWHERE, WHERE WOULD YOU GO I would go on a dive with anthropologists and archaeologists doing fieldwork research in the ancient cenotes of the Yucatán Peninsula. My actual dream job, catch me crying & fantasizing about being underwater documenting Mayan skulls given as offerings. Fuckkkk, I love anthropology so much!! take me anywhere in the world to immerse myself into culture & archaeology.

INTROVERT OR EXTROVERT Introvert. I have a real life friend I see roughly once a month, and that’s it. Plenty of online relationships, I’m chatty, message me all day every day. but i dont do people well.

DO YOU SCARE EASILY I used to! Really bad. I don’t as much anymore. I do get paranoia a lot still. Having therapists telling you that the FBI could be outside your house watching you through your windows will kind of nervous. ( no google results for: yes hello fbi i am a writer please dont put me on watchlists i just have research i need to do for this idea im working on, would you like to try again? ) I have nightmares nightly but not they never make me afraid, they just make me feel like crap. jumpscares and loud noises and seeing people reaching into their pockets dont set off as many brain alarms anymore tho!! progress haha.

IPHONE OR ANDROID I like my android better bc of capabilities but meh

DO YOU PLAY ANY VIDEO GAMES My mom, her husband & I play COD for family game night, and Silent Hill is my life’s blood. I’ve sunken hours into Sims & Skyrim, and Norman Jayden from Heavy Rain is my #1 fictional character in existence, why do i love the druggie babies

DREAM JOB Oh… You’re asking me to pick? I’d love to be an anthropologist doing work out in the field. Underwater archaeology is peak, but I’m also heavily considering being a body recovery diver or police diver. I’d love to see myself in uniform someday, if possible. Just the thought makes me teary eyed & proud.

WHAT WOULD YOU DO WITH A MILLION DOLLARS fund my person creative & educational endeavors. get myself a spooky ass abandoned house to make my own home to create in, and travel to the world’s best dive sites. just live a mild life of education, creation & exploration. that’s the dream TM.

FICTIONAL CHARACTER YOU HATE dr. hill is a gross and whiny lil bitch this post brought to u by the miskatonic crew, how is everyone here an even worse bad guy than herbert west precious dan excluded talk shit get hit tho john winchester from spn and both walter white & todd from breaking bad are all in my crew of hated characters. i jusT… the reani novel is difficult to read because i have to deal with this old sack of shit.

FANDOM THAT YOU WERE ONCE A PART OF BUT AREN’T ANY LONGER Supernatural :-)

… AND THIS CONCLUDES A DEEP DIVE WITH INDIGO!! //

#||: && the mundane ( ooc );#( get to know a bitch!! )#( this was... a lot of me rambling about weirdly personal shit at 2 am )

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mental-health-advice · 5 years ago

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Submission from Sophocles

[tag as Sophocles] i hope this is okay to ask - i’ve been abused my entire life i have ©ptsd. but im concerned about what my ex was doing to me because everyone was saying that it wasnt a good sign but idk. she’s very short tempered and she would get extremely irritable over literally everything and she would take that out on me. if i didnt respond to her messages fast enough (LDR), she would get mad and say “whatever. bye”. and disappear for several hours. but if i did respond quick 1/?

Sophocles 2/? - if i did respond quick enough she would just keep saying never mind whenever i tried to ask about it so i chaned the subject and if i asked a question she would always ask me why do i ask a lot of questions because my questions would annoy her, and i annoyed her (she’s told me multiple times) but the only other option besides asking a question was just talking so i would try to talk about something that would cheer her up and she would only say that she doesnt care

[Sophocles] 3/? - she wasnt always *this* angry though. she is still quick to get annoyed though regardless. she would always call me dumb and weird and annoying for the questions i ask (im autistic. most of my questions were because i didnt understand something) some of them were just because i was interested in learning more about her. she admitted recently that she’s been distancing herself from me and when i asked why she wouldnt say anything about it.

Sophocles 4/? - she would always say that no one is there for her when i tell her everyday to make sure she knows how much i care. sometimes i would question if she loved me so i would ask her and she would only ask me what i think the answer is (yes or no) and if i said one or the other she would only say okay and nothing more. she rarely ever said that she loved me. she never asks about me anymore. she told me several months ago to tell her when i want to self harm so i did but she would never

Sophocles 5/5 - but whenever i told her about it she wouldnt say anything at all about it and i had to change the subject to keep the conversation going. and whenever im suicidal (often, but i usually never mention it) she would just say same, okay, or nothing at all. please help me. am i just over-reacting? am i too much? i dont know anymore. i dont want to be a burden

Hey Sophocles,

It’s perfectly okay to ask about this! It sounds like your situation is very complicated. It makes sense that you would be struggling with this. I can assure you that you aren’t being a burden. Your reactions are perfectly understandable and justified.

It sounds like your ex had some issues of her own to work through. from what you described, I agree, it doesn’t sound like a good sign. I’ve come off of a similar relationship myself, so I feel like I can give you some advice from my experience.

My ex actually acted in a very similar way with messages. If I didn’t respond within three minutes, she would delete her messages a lot of the time. She’d respond with “nevermind, I just bother you”. I learned later that it came from very low self-esteem and being told by previous people that all of her ideas were dumb. I don’t know your ex, so I can’t say for sure that this is the case for her.

It sounds like almost anything you could say was annoying to her. That’s a really hard place to have a relationship from, it sounds very contentious. You shouldn’t have to be constantly guessing what is happening, or guessing how to react when someone seems to expect something from you. No one can read people’s minds, and acting like that’s a fair expectation is just not okay. It’s not realistic, and it creates toxic situations.

It’s not solely on you to keep the conversation going, or to support her, or to try to get her to see that you were there for her. If she makes fun of you for not understanding something, that’s really harmful behavior.

I know you feel like a burden in this situation, she’s very much acted like you are. However, you are going out of your way to help her, to try to accommodate her and go to her level and she is not making any changes. In fact, she’s being very hostile, and it’s only going to make your mental state worse.

I spent years, literally years, trying to help my ex. Trying to get her to see that I cared about her, that I wanted to know what was going on with her and support her in what she was doing. She didn’t hear it, no matter how many times I said it. I thought that maybe I was doing something wrong, that maybe I wasn’t saying it in the right way.

But it took a lot of therapy and a lot of talking to other people for me to realize that it wasn’t on me. She wasn’t willing to try to make changes, she wasn’t willing to try to help me help her. So I finally decided to leave her, because it wasn’t fair for me to continue being treated this way.

It still hurts, I’ll be honest. I still feel like I did something wrong. But I deserve to have someone who will make an effort for me, just as much as I make an effort for them. She wasn’t willing to do that, so I’ve moved on to spend more time with my current partner, who has shown me that he does care about me, and that he’s willing to put an effort in to love and support me.

What I would encourage you to do is to spend the time that you had been spending on her on helping yourself heal from the relationship. Put time into helping yourself find coping strategies for your self harm thoughts and suicidal feelings. That’ll help you get the support you need and feel more fulfilled in your life. I know it did for me.

I hope this can help you in some way, and I hope that you can find someone who treats you the way you deserve: with respect.

Much love,

Mel

#cptsd #sophocles #mhamel #abusive ex #long distance relationship #autism #relationship issues #disrespect

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wildfangz · 6 years ago

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@liliithvatore tagged me in that simself thing thats been goin around DAYS ago but here it finally is! also thank you for the tag this was fun :-]

I tag @slythersim @thelurgoyf @seoulchii @weicyn @solitasims @daisydezem @raha-plays-the-sims if they want to do it & anyone that just wants to do it in general! message me and I’ll even @ u directly if u want.

anyway lets DO THIS shitload of questions under the cut u’ve been warned!!!

1. what is your name?

julian

2. what is your nickname?

jewel, jules

3. birthday?

oct 26th

4. what is your favorite book series?

percy jackson and the olympians will probably always own my heart & soul

5. do you believe in aliens or ghosts?

yes & yes. tho i do think a lot of alien sightings and conspiracy theories and what not are bullshit

6. who is your favorite author?

maggie stiefvater probably? also cornelia funke but its been years since ive read anything by her so i cant be sure BUT i loved inkheart & the thief lord so much

7. what is your favorite radio station?

ummm when i listen to the radio at all i kinda just switch between two rock stations and our popular music station.

8. what is your favorite flavor of anything?

blue raspberry !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! tasty and i love a blue tongue

9. what word would you use often to describe something great or wonderful?

cool. or bitchin’. i play it simple

10. what is your current favorite song?

hands like houses - revive

11. what is your favorite word?

roulette and inhibition which i never get to use either as much as i want !

12. what was the last song you listened to?

emarosa - givin’ up ! its a bop!

13. what tv show would you recommend for everybody to watch?

the new she-ra on netflix its so good. and gay

14. what is your favorite movie to watch when you’re feeling down?

moana. its also like the only movie i dont have trouble getting thru despite how many times ive already seen it

15. do you play video games?

16. what is your biggest fear?

idk... being inherently unlovable i guess n ending up alone? also spiders !

17. what is your best quality, in your opinion?

im fairly open-minded and laid back. Unless someones being like, purposely nasty or something I generally don’t get defensive or aggressive. also a lot of little quirks that piss others off dont bother me im very u do u as long as its not actually harming anyone and ive had people tell me this makes it easier to open up to me so thats probably my best quality....

18. what is your worst quality, in your opinion?

....at the same time though i do get very sensitive when faced w/ criticism even if its of the fair variety when its not phrased really gently for various reasons and i dont like that. especially since I have a tendency to not even talk to people about it. I’ll just immediately start distancing myself. also other than that i think overall I have a really high tolerance lvl but if you cross that line I hold a grudge like a motherfucker

9. do you like cats or dogs better?

cats! dogs are good too but cats are a lot easier for me to handle...and quieter generally but even when they’re loud cat sounds dont get to me quite as much as barks do

20. what is your favorite season?

autumn but im starting to really like summer for some reason? wack :/

21. are you in a relationship?

nope

22. what is something you miss from your childhood?

the lack of responsibility, probably. that sounds real bad lmao but for me its like...I know I’ve grown in various ways over the years but I also feel like so many of my experiences, my trauma, my mental health has held me back and I don’t think I’m mentally where I should be for my age. so all the responsibility of adulthood is just..really overwhelming for me sometimes, even though ive been given a pass from certain aspects of it and the rest is pretty simple its the idea!!!!

23. who is your best friend?

my ex

24. what is your eye color?

25. what is your hair color?

26. who is someone you love?

my mom

27. who is someone you trust?

not really anyone rn unfortunately...would like 2 work on that

28. who is someone you think about often?

are my OCs a fair answer because i am always thinking about my babies.....

29. are you currently excited about/for something?

my favorite webcomic (that also has two of my all time favorite characters in it) just came back!! the artist disappeared back in 2015 like the day after I binge-read the whole fucking thing & i was so disappointed but its BACK and 2018 has been redeemed

30. what is your biggest obsession?

sims probably! i could talk about anything relating to it for hours

31. what was your favorite tv show as a child?

there were so damn many its hard to even think and figure out the most notable ones...i really, really liked teen titans though?

32. who of the opposite gender can you tell anything to, if anyone?

my ex, again

33. are you superstitious?

not terribly so but somewhat. I take certain things as signs and I mean I do believe in astrology & such to a degree

34. do you have any unusual phobias?

i used to be afraid of mirrors but thats all i can think of and its not even a thing anymore...the only other thing is tornadoes but i dont think its unusual. but it definitely sucks for me ‘cause i live in tornado alley!

35. do you prefer to be in front of the camera or behind it?

behind it....like taking pretty pictures and dont like ppl capturing my image 2 film

36. what is your favorite hobby?

sims.....also singing!!! and drawing!!!! video editing!!!!!!!!! the works

37. what was the last book you read?

The Dream Thieves....havent finished it though because last time i went to read it a spider was lying in wait and im traumatized

38. what was the last movie you watched?

coco i think???

39. what musical instruments do you play, if any?

drums, various other percussion instruments, and violin mainly

40. what is your favorite animal?

ferrets!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

41. what are your top 5 favorite tumblr blogs that you follow?

uhhhhh @bratsims @liliithvatore @cabsim @wildlyminiaturesandwich @keysims pls dont feel bad if i didnt include u these were just the first to pop into my head and ive been following some of them since I first made my blog!! and have kept up with their stories completely and enjoy them etc check them OUT !

42. what superpower do you wish you had?

shapeshifting!!! dysphoria? gone. ugliness? gone. want to morph into a fucked up clown and scare people when they realize all the classic clown features are a real actual part of my face? possible!

43. when and where do you feel most at peace?

chillin’ at the pool in summer during the part of the day when no ones there.... swimming is always relaxing 2 me then i love just resting under the sun and drying off afterwards especially since we have a little pond nearby and i can hear the water! its nice

44. what makes you smile?

always and without fail? interacting with anyone i have a crush on. i’ll look like a dope the whole time

45. what sports do you play, if any?

i used 2 play basketball a lot. Like not seriously but it was a thing

46. what is your favorite drink?

dr pepper and monster energy (original flavor) pumps through my veins at this point. we love a carbonated beverage

47. when was the last time you wrote a hand-written letter or note to somebody?

two years ago for my ex and I’s first year anniversary... I never got it mailed but I did at least take a picture of it (with included caption because my handwriting is atrocious). i was very up front about being a romantic and see heres the PROOF

48. are you afraid of heights?

nope! very excited by them actually

49. what is your biggest pet peeve?

i cant stand passive aggressive behavior. my stance is either get over it or quit acting like a bitch because otherwise im just going to ignore you thats the scorpio way (in all seriousness I really, really do recommend not putting up with it and ignoring it until they decide to be up front with you. it can be exhausting constantly reading into conversations and its not healthy for you or them. if they have something to say they need to learn to talk about it properly, and that lack of social skills is not ever on you)

50. have you ever been to a concert?

yep! i think about....six or so? i love them...which is really funny im autistic and EVERYTHING about them should freak me out and they do in other circumstances but at a show i just live for it

51. are you vegan/vegetarian?

nope! ive thought before id like to go vegetarian...but i couldnt do it with my health problems. also i love shrimp too much

52. when you were little, what did you want to be when you grew up?

ive always wanted to do something creative! when i was rlly young I thought a lot about singing and acting and writing in particular...all things im still interested in.... also i wanted to be a dictator ages 4-7 because i told my mom i wanted to be president of the world and make people do what i say and she said “honey thats a dictator not a president”. i then made that known at school and that turned into a situation!

53. what fictional world would you like to live in?

pokemon universe or bust.

54. what is something you worry about?

never being able to do things i want to do or catching up with others because of my disabilities

55. are you scared of the dark?

yes but a reasonable amount i think

56. do you like to sing?

yes :]

57. have you ever skipped school?

yes i used to play sick a LOT and as my parents caught onto it id even go all out to convince them. i was good at school but i hated it so much

58. what is your favorite place on the planet?

dunno! malls maybe i love shopping and looking at material objects i wish to own

59. where would you like to live?

oregon! portland in particular thats been my dream for a few years now

60. do you have any pets?

a cat! he lives with my dad & grandma though...hes grown up there and likes going outside so I felt bad about taking him with me when i moved out but anyway this is him hes fat and stupid and i love him his name is coffee

61. are you more of an early bird or a night owl?

night owl because my rhythm is all fucked up but in my heart....an early bird...if i get a good nights sleep i’ll be up early yacking your ear off and so excited for the day

62. do you like sunrises or sunsets better?

sunsets are prettier...but sunrises feel more refreshing

63. do you know how to drive?

nope ! im gay !

64. do you prefer earbuds or headphones?

headphones. better sound quality also discourages people from talking to me slightly more

65. have you ever had braces?

nope! but i need them

66. what is your favorite genre of music?

post-hardcore maybe?

67. who is your hero?

every trans person living their truth and being open and loud about who they are past present & future. the worlds not particularly kind to us and our existence alone is considered a radical act, so its always given me hope to see others refusing to pretend to be someone they’re not in this environment and I’ll always have mad respect for that

68. do you read comic books?

i read manga and webcomics...ive always wanted to get into superhero comics but the amount of issues and different versions is ridiculous and makes it inaccessible 2 me

69. what makes you the most angry?

i mean its hard to pinpoint what makes me angry the MOST...but a contender is definitely how some people feel free to treat others with cruelty and think its their god given right to deny or attack someones existence in some way, & how acts of kindness, even the most basic are branded as liberal bullshit or whatever....it goes against everything i was taught growing up

70. do you prefer to read on an electronic device or with a real book?

real book! electronic device can be easier but....rough on the eyes after a while and nothing beats the real thing for me

71. what was your favorite subject in school?

language arts...at least when we did creative writing stuff

72. do you have any siblings?

two older sisters & an older brother that passed away years ago but. still my brother u kno

73. what was the last thing you bought?

mocha frappe baby!!!!!

74. how tall are you?

5′4″

75. can you cook?

a little bit....not as much as id like to though but im learning

76. what are three things that you love?

storms, cheesy breadsticks, and cat purrs

77. what are three things that you hate?

unnecessary rudeness, being talked down to or generally treated like im stupid, grapefruit which is the worst thing on this list

78. do you have more female friends or more male friends?

female i think?

79. what is your sexual orientation?

im the big bad promiscuous bisexual your parents warned you about

80. where do you currently live?

oklahoma. gofundme campaign to get me out

81. who was the last person you texted?

my friend jojo! just Now!

82. when was the last time you cried?

yesterday afternoon but im a changed man now thats behind me. i will cry about different things soon

83. who is your favorite youtuber?

the mcelroy brothers. also super best friends play. matt, pat & woolie are all great tbh

84. do you like to take selfies?

depends on whether i feel ugly or terribly dysphoric that day or not

85. what is your favorite app?

ummmm....love live school idol festival ive been playin for years its an addiction

86. what is your relationship with your parent(s) like?

dad = bad mom = okay. theres some issues that strain it but its not too bad

87. what is your favorite foreign accent?

i have no idea what the fuck australians are talking about half the time but i dig it anyway

88. what is a place that you’ve never been to, but you want to visit?

Italy, Greece, Germany, Japan, Mexico, various other states (ive only been out of state three times. twice to texas and then once to kansas. for five minutes)

89. what is your favorite number?

6!! 26 also

90. can you juggle?

ive always wanted to but alas.... :-[

91. are you religious?

i suppose...but im rlly not into organized religion

92. do you find outer space of the deep ocean to be more interesting?

space probably theres so fucking much of it man!

93. do you consider yourself to be a daredevil?

not to brag but sometimes i eat my mcdonalds hamburgers cold from the fridge so you can figure that one out yourself B)

94. are you allergic to anything?

pecans. not deathly allergic though so catch me eating turtle pie anyway!

95. can you curl your tongue?

nope :[

96. can you wiggle your ears?

nope :[

97. how often do you admit that you were wrong about something?

usually as soon as i realize....unless someones being real smug and annoying then i might be stubborn about it

98. do you prefer the forest or the beach?

ive never been to the beach but i love her!!!

99. what is your favorite piece of advice that anyone has ever given you?

probably that you have to look at your accomplishments differently when you’re disabled or just struggling, to not be so down on yourself because its a fact that what might be a mole hill to someone else is a mountain to you and you have to judge yourself accordingly. Like maybe you weren’t able to clean the whole house, but washing the dishes and tidying your desk doesn’t usually get done but you did it. That that should be celebrated because while it would also feel good if you did more, you still did something and thats great all things considered.

100. are you a good liar?

sometimes, really depends what im lying about and if im like....into it at all. If my guts against it for whatever reason I’ll have trouble

101. what is your hogwarts house?

i always get slytherin or hufflepuff! usually with like 1 point difference

102. do you talk to yourself?

i am talking to myself right now as i fill this out

103. are you an introvert or an extrovert?

extrovert mainly! i used to think i was more introverted but now i think a lot of exhaustion when theres any comes from me just going the extra mile and actively trying to read people and pick up on social ques.... if I just chill im fine

104. do you keep a journal/diary?

nope...ive tried but i just cant keep up with it so i do the next best thing. shouting into the void on the internet to a bunch of strangers

105. do you believe in second chances?

depends on what you did the first time. Some people just don’t deserve taking that risk imo...but i can be a little guarded so maybe thats a bit too harsh

106. if you found a wallet full of money on the ground, what would you do?

turn it in, unless there was no identifying things in it & it was found somewhere kinda random. Then I’d maybe hold onto it unless my gut challenged that

107. do you believe that people are capable of change?

absolutely. i mean thats all we do throughout our lives is change and evolve...that being said I think extremely drastic changes are maybe not entirely impossible, but extremely rare, and the residue of the former self usually sticks around in some form

108. are you ticklish?

yes, dangerously so

109. have you ever been on a plane?

nope

110. do you have any piercings?

one day hopefully!

111. what fictional character do you wish was real?

asra from the arcana.....even if he wasn’t my boyfriend thats just a dude u could chill and eat some pomegranates with u know. Before I downloaded the app my friends kept telling me he was made for me and he really was he ticks like everything on my Favorite Characters Feature List except villain but he has that particular allure & attitude i like so much in villains so thats not a single point off hes perfect

112. do you have any tattoos?

nope...one day! hopefully!

113. what is the best decision that you’ve made in your life so far?

accepting my genderqueerness and bisexuality definitely. Self Love hasn’t been perfected just yet but that was such a huge step in the right direction

114. do you believe in karma?

yes! she doesn’t get shit done as much as id like however

115. do you wear glasses or contacts?

glasses. not contacts yet because my eye doctor is a bitch

116. do you want children?

I do....just not sure if id be a good parent. Its really important to me if I had a child itd be for the right reason and I could raise them well in a healthy environment & be able to take care of all their needs yknow

117. who is the smartest person you know?

probably my friend jojo

118. what is your most embarrassing memory?

one time i looked outside and the sunset was really pretty and i wanted to get a photo of it so i walked out.....and stood like right by the street so there weren’t trees in my way...and then i realized mid-pic 1) i am not wearing pants & my shirt is full of holes 2) id been depressed for days so my hair was a tangled mess. I tailed it back inside so i didnt even get a nice pic it was blurry!

119. have you ever pulled an all-nighter?

120. what colour are most of you clothes?

black i didnt even have to think about that one

121. do you like adventures?

they are pretty swell

122. have you ever been on tv?

a few times when i was little. always photobombing the news reporters 4 what i thought would eventually lead 2 fame & fortune

123. how old are you?

124. what is your favorite movie quote?

this is technically lyrics to that lil song in moana at the end but

“ They have stolen the heart from inside you. But this does not define you.”

hits me hard every time! emotional impact? i know her

125. sweet or savory?

sweet!!!!!!!! gotta balance out my bitter somehow

#tag meme #about #srry if theres any weird grammar or spelling going on half of this was written when i had a monster headache #and was doing everything but laying down!!!!

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mxxnbxby · 7 years ago

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🕯️intro to magic🕯️

there are probably a lot of posts like this but i’m gonna try my own hand at it. i know a lot of people who are very interested in magic, but really do not know where to begin. so i’m making a long post about magic and general witchcraft, in a faq format with questions i hear some non-witches / baby witches! disclaimer though: i am not an authority or expert, everything i speak about in this post is going to be my experiences and my understandings. i answer questions i feel equipped to answer, other more experienced witches can totally weigh in if they think i’ve missed something or am spreading misinformation !

with that out of the way let’s get into it 👀

🔮 what is magic / how does it work?

magic is having a goal and making it manifest in the physical plane. it’s influencing people or events through the use of spells, sigils, rituals, etc. it’s taking your intent and what you want to happen and making it happen through the use of supernatural means. that’s the best way to explain it.

if i were to go further though, i’d use the example of a love spell. it’s really simple. you have a piece of paper with the name of the target on it, you could also use a piece of this person, like hair or blood or nail clippings, these things represent that person and when you do the spell, visualize the target and attach their image to the piece of paper, if that’s what you’re using. play it in a fire proof jar, and sprinkle rose petals over it, as you do this visualize this person slowly falling in love, being surrounded and over come with love. imagine them in their minds eye. then take a piece of paper with your own name, or a piece of yourself as listed before, to represent you, drop it in the jar to signify the direction of these new feelings of love are towards you. drop a match in the jar and as it all burns and turns to ash, imagine the passion and intense love that will come of the spell. and then keep the ashes in a safe place and bury them if you want the spell reversed. it sounds like a lot but it’s actually pretty simple, the big picture here is that all the ingredients you use in the spell are tools to better help you make your goal (having a target fall in love with you) manifest into real life.

this is how magic works for me, and it may be different for others but this is how i best understand it and how i explain it when people ask!

magic as a word can also be used interchangeable with witchcraft

🔮 how old is magic?

magic has been around for centuries upon centuries. if you look into your own countries history you may find a type of folk magic that has been passed down.

for example i looked at the philippines and found the practice of kulam which is a type of folk magic that is as old as our original people, and is still in use today.

it’s important when looking at history to be a little critical though, accusing a woman of being a witch was typical to smear her image and ruin her, if not get her executed. many innocent women were killed throughout history, so don’t take every accusation of magic as seriously, depending on the context.

🔮 do i have to be wiccan to be practice magic? / are all witches wiccan ?

it’s a common misconception thinking all witches are wiccan, and i think the two big reasons for this is: one, because wiccans themselves have pushed this belief. big example is silver ravenwolf, a pagan book author.

“there is no difference between wicca and witchcraft. anyone who tells you there is a difference is experimenting in the theory of occum’s razor.” silver ravenwolf, the teen witch handbook.

not true at all. and you can ask just about anyone in the tumblr witch community (including wiccans), they’ll tell you to steer clear of this lady and her books. she doesn’t know what she’s talking about and is no way an authority on magic, or wicca.

the second reason being a lot of the witchcraft you may see in pop culture is wicca, with movies like the craft (1996) and the love witch (2015), for example.

when i was younger and just getting into witchcraft, i also believed being wiccan was the only way to practice magic when i began years ago, there wasn’t exactly a tumblr community at the time, and i was on http://www.spellsofmagic.com/*, where the unspoken standard is very much wicca.

but the truth is this is not the case at all! wicca is a religion, and witchcraft, is in itself, a craft. magic and witchcraft is a big part of wicca, so, all wiccans are witches. but not all witches are wiccans. there are other religions that exist that also practice magic, voodoo, hoodoo, and santería** are popular examples. i personally practice witchcraft separate to my religion, hellenic polytheism (the belief and worship of the greek gods).

so tldr; nope. wicca is not the default to be a witch. witchcraft is attached to the religion but it is not the only way to practice magic. magic may intersect with certain religions, but for the most part they are separate.

*disclaimer: that site is no longer and kinda has never been reliable. **voodoo, hoodoo, and santería are closed religions / practices. as in you cannot pick it up and decide to join it like most religions or practices. i’m not entirely equipped to speak on the subject, so here and here are some resources, and you can do research yourself if you’re curious!

🔮 what are pagans?

pagan is a term coined by christians during the holy roman empire, to refer to any religion or practice that wasn’t christian. it’s come now to mean religions or practices that fall under the “other” after the more popular religions. a lot of witches tend to be more open to paganism and follow pagan religions. some example of pagan religions: wicca, hellenic polytheism, native / indigenous religions, etc!

🔮 what is the difference between magic and magick?

magick is used to differentiate from houdini’s type of magic, which isn’t real magic, but rather sleight of hand.

it’s really personal preference with which word you use, i use magic just to save time, people know what i’m talking about when i say magic. if you’re looking for the community on tumblr you might find better results if search tags with magick but again it’s really up to you which you like better.

🔮 how do i become a witch?

research is the first step! find out what kinda witch you want to be, as there’s different types: for example green witches work closely with nature, weather witches incorporate the weather into their craft, and so on! you can find many posts on tumblr and other sites about types of witches and the such. a lot of people here on tumblr identify as eclectic witches, which is a witch who takes in inspiration from a lot of places and may incorporate different types of craft into their own (respectfully of course, this doesn’t apply to closed practices / religions).

as i mentioned tumblr has a large community for witches, and there are tons of information out there ! on my blog i have a “how to” tag for some of the things you might hear about a lot in the community, like how to make a sigil, how to read tarot etc! i think a lot of witches on here are very open to questions from baby witches unless stated otherwise, so when in doubt! ask! im always free to talk to and explain things !

after the research part it’s pretty much putting what you learn into practice, and that’s it! you’re a witch now ! congrats!!

🔮 can i be a witch even if i have disabilities?

absolutely !! 100% yes you can. in fact you can even incorporate your disability in your craft! i’ve seen this post going around for autistic witches, this is just one of the many examples of using your disability in your craft. you can also adjust your craft to suit your personal needs, if your mute you can work around doing chants, if your blind you can work around making sigils, or even find a way to approach it differently! everyone’s craft is different, and you can totally adjust or tweak yours to your liking, abled or disabled.

this is all i can think of right now and if more questions are asked, i’ll add them to this post !

#baby witches #magick #magic 101 #witchcraft #paganism

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sidewalkscienceguy · 8 years ago

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Representation Matters. And recently, I learned that one of the characters in my books is having a real impact on real people.

For the sake of privacy, I’m not going to tag any specific individuals I spoke with in this post, but this is a true story about how a character with autism in my books has affected people with autism in the real world.

When I began writing Embassy back in 2013, as I’ve said many times, the story/plot were extremely different than they are now. Most of the characters were the same, but they had different roles, and I included many characters just for the sake of including them, as I still wasn’t completely serious nor as dedicated to this series as I am today, January 5th, exactly four years since I began writing Embassy.

But as I completed more drafts of Embassy, and as I experienced various changes in my life (my most life-changing events were yet to come), I came to realize I didn’t want Embassy to be the book it started out being. I wanted it to be something deeper, playing more to the emotions and personal journeys of the characters instead of the outside plots. My purpose for writing Embassy changed. Suddenly there was a dream behind it, a message that would carry on through the unintended sequel, Resonance, and now Perihelid, the final arc of Arman Lance’s emotional journey (and the conclusion of the main themes of the first three books in the series).

Even with this more-intentional purpose shining through all the way to publication, and through the writing and publication of Resonance, too, there were still elements and characters that began to become more and more relevant to the story overall. And, recently, it has been brought to my attention that one of the still-minor characters has been having an incredible effect on some readers of my books that I didn’t quite anticipate: John Mistin.

For anyone familiar with my books, John Mistin is the older brother of Ellin Mistin, and both of them were recruited to the Embassy Program at the same time as Arman Lance (the MC) from their hometown of Cornell, on the planet Undil.

John is a socially-awkward, overly-enthusiastic guy who will give you his unwavering friendship if you so much as let him speak to you. “Hi, I’m John!” followed by a hard handshake is his signature greeting to every new person he meets. He has a form of aphasia, which is sort of similar to dyslexia, but instead of messing up spellings and being unable to read certain words/fonts, he instead routinely confuses complicated words, and Ellin is constantly correcting his mistakes. He’s aware of his aphasia, and he touts his younger sister as “my favorite dictionary.”

John has an “eidetic memory,” that is, an incredible photographic memory that allows him to vividly recall visual-spatial patterns. His life’s dream in the Embassy Program is to become a cartographer and make maps of every city, asteroid field, and planet in the Program, even venturing out on long-duration deep-space missions to map the galaxy with the Undil Embassy’s Horizon Tower. He’s an extremely quick learner with the latest cartographic technology, and is pioneering mapmaking through neuro-optical holography, where he literally creates maps by picturing them in his head and translating them into a 3D space.

He is committed to friendship. His sister, Ellin, is his best friend, and when she’s hurting, all he wants to do is comfort her. He can’t really tell when other people are uncomfortable around him, though, as we see through Arman’s eyes, Arman is at first very apprehensive about being around John, because he just doesn’t know how to “handle” being around him. Fortunately, Ellin is usually there to calm John down when he gets too excited.

I’m describing all of this because yes, John is autistic.

He’s not a main character, and we haven’t seen too much of him yet (proportionately, at least), but he takes control of the scenes he’s in. He’s a very visible character.

This is so, so, so important.

The other day, one of my followers who has read my books messaged me asking if she could ask a question about a certain character. Her question was non-specific, simply, “I don’t know if this was intentional on your part, but what’s the deal with John?”

When I told her that he’s on the autism spectrum, she was thrilled. Like, absolutely thrilled. And she told me that that’s what she thought, but she wasn’t sure if I had meant to write him like that, because the thing with John is that he sticks out from the rest of the cast. And while I’ve written other, less-visible characters in the series, John is the one I’ve paid special attention to because his role in the rest of the series is incredibly important.

The follower went on to tell me that many of her siblings have autism, and that her brother was asking her about my book, particularly about John. And when she told her brother that John was indeed autistic, her brother got really excited, too. Here’s portions of her responses telling me all of this, verbatim:

“You have...no idea how incredibly happy I am right now. Holy shit. I’M- That’s literally exactly what I was- The fact that he is intentionally- AHH. It’s so rare for autistic people to be represented and then- This is something really important to me because most of my siblings are on the spectrum actually.......

“I’ve grown up surrounded by areas of the spectrum and so I recognized that behavior and the fact that it was intentional I’m so freaking happy. Also, Ellin and John’s dynamic reminded me a lot of my own with a lot of my siblings. SO ANYWAYS THAT WAS PROBABLY MORE THAN YOU WANTED TO KNOW BUT YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW MUCH MY RESPECT FOR YOU JUST ROCKETED....

“You’ve got this utopian-ish universe and there’s characters who are autistic and bi and- It means a lot to me. But I’ve been planning on rereading Embassy and Resonance so I’ll make sure to try to pay more attention to those scenes!......

“And honestly, it’s so important to listen to anyone really, but especially someone with autism bc a lot of people will tell them to shut up instead(I’ll fight people I swear), but it’s also just-the excitement and happiness they get when talking about something they love and actually having someone listen- it’s so great. And yes! So many people look down at people with autism and it’s so- Like all of my siblings and anyone else I know are pretty high-functioning........I mean one brother, he has these intricate worlds in his head and, literally, he can put them all on paper exactly and is just-he’s so talented with art and he’s so passionate and his style is so specific to im and ahhh..........

“OH and I meant to tell you. Last night I was talking to one of my brothers and earlier someone had been telling him about how some people won’t let autistic people do things and he was really frustrated over people being ignorant and judgmental basically, and I told him about how there was a character [in Embassy and Resonance] who was autistic and is important to the series and how positive he is, and then mentioned something about how [you] had also mentioned [you’d] known someone in college who had autism who was really smart and basically he just had this really great smile on his face and it led onto this discussion about how proud he is of his own autism and the things autistic people can do, and while there are crappy people there are some really great people too and he just-the look on his face every time I talked about [John] was just really freaking good. So-thank you. :)”

When I read that last message from her, I cried. I was sitting on my couch and just let the tears flow. To hear that, to hear how your work, how a character you’ve had in your head for years, has affected someone who lives with autism... It’s such a powerful feeling. I was completely overcome, because that is so important.

Just yesterday, I was talking with another friend and we got into a discussion about John Mistin and how a follower on Tumblr told me her story about how John has impacted her and her brother, and my friend then told me that her own brother is on the spectrum, too. I’ve been hanging out with her family more and more recently, and she told me that ever since I’ve started coming over, he’s been calmer, and is interacting with them differently, and making goals for himself to follow through on, and that I’ve had a positive impact on him, too. Even just a few days ago, I showed him this book full of satellite imagery of the Earth, and he was absolutely fascinated by it, and he and I were just sitting at the table flipping through the pages, and he was telling me all these stories about stuff he loves doing and everything he’s interested in.

As she and I were having this discussion, I just started tearing-up right there. It’s just so overwhelming. I cannot express how important it is. I always say that my goal with my books is to inspire a love of space exploration and get people interested in the sciences, but never--NEVER--did I think that my stories would have this impact on the unsung-heroes, some of the best people you will ever meet if you just open yourself to them. Yes, it can sometimes be uncomfortable at first, but there is so much to discover, and so much to love about autism.

Even before my follower and my friend told me about their siblings, I’d already had John’s character-arc planned out. Yes, he has a big role as my books continue. Yes, you will see more of him, and you will continue seeing how good of a person he is, how devoted he is to his work, how genuine of a person he is. But now, even I am realizing how important John Mistin is outside of my books.

Representation matters. It matters because we are so numb to thinking that everyone is the same. That there are heroes and heroines and villains and friends and enemies.

We all have strengths and weaknesses, and none of us are magically good at everything. Sometimes the people we want to avoid at first are the best people we could ever meet. I didn’t write John because I needed diversity. I didn’t write John because I needed a stereotype “crazy” character. I wrote John because he is important to the story, because without him, my books literally would not be the same. And now I know he might be even more important to other people than he is to me.

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