#i could just hook up with someone from grindr but its like too easy where is the FUN

[mrsterlingeverything]

Its either entirely too easy or entirely too hard to get with other men... you go on an app and fuck someone within 5 minutes or pine after someone for 15 years until he dies in an anvil accident.

[evakuality]

And we’re onto episode two, where things start getting interesting Even-wise, but there’s also lots going on in othger aspects of Isak’s life.  Episode one can be found, starting here.

Episode number and name:  Two. Du er over 18, sant?

Clip number and name:  One.  Grindr

My thoughts/analysis:  One of the lovely things about this clip is the way it starts with Eskild just relaxing with Isak in his bedroom.  For all his judging and horror over the way the room smells and how gross Isak supposedly is, Eskild clearly enjoys his company.  It makes a lot of sense.  Eskild obviously loves Linn, but she is so closed off so much that you can imagine him wanting other company.  Noora was someone who would be out in the main area a bit and they interacted there quite often, but Isak is much more of a ‘I’m going to stay in my cave and hibernate’ type.  So Eskild hibernates with him.  He’s also probably fairly aware that Isak is not straight (it seemed pretty obvious in s2 that he was covering for Isak when he told Noora and Eva that Isak isn’t gay) and so there’s probably some sense of kindred spirits and/or a desire to ‘guru’ for the insecure and unaware gay boy he’s taken in.  What’s really lovely about it is that Eskild is fairly clearly an extrovert, and yet he’s just being here with Isak.  They’re both doing their own thing, so Eskild is operating in a way that is likely to be peaceful and calming to Isak.  It’s just nice to see someone go so thoroughly against their own ‘style’ in a deliberate way in order to spend time with someone else.

He’s also really keen to know Isak’s opinion on the guy he’s thinking of hooking up with.  While Isak sees this as a sneaky way to entrap him into admitting some guy is handsome (which he tries very hard to avoid in almost all facets of his life), it seems clear from the casual way Eskild does this that he actually values Isak’s opinion.  It’s only after Isak reacts as if Eskild is pushing him too much that Eskild actually does start pushing.  His voice is so exasperated when he says that you can say someone is handsome without being gay.  There’s a lot of information in this small snippet, from Isak’s very wary dislike of being asked a question like that (which is clear on his face and in his uncomfortable body language) to Eskild’s ease and comfort with it and the way he does gently try to push at Isak.  This obviously becomes more forceful (though less overt) when Eskild talks about the guy saying he’s straight but still wanting to hook up on grindr.  It’s such a clear poke at Isak’s insistence that he’s straight when of course Eskild will have some very strong suspicions that he isn’t.  There’s also some deliberate irony in the ‘buddy I’ll give you one year then you’ll be out of your closet’ and Isak’s reaction to it ‘why do you think everyone’s gay?’ -- while probably not intentional, Eskild has hit close to something there for Isak.  He knows already that he’s in a closet; he knows he’s attracted to Even and he is probably uncomfortably aware that there will probably come a time when deciding to come out may be a thing for him.  I doubt he thinks it’ll be within a year, but Eskild’s older, so this guy is probably older.  This is an uncomfortable conversation because it reminds Isak that it’s not just school he has to get through, it’s the rest of his life.  We already know he’s unhappy with this ‘fake’ show he has to put on, so this conversation is a catalyst in a lot of ways.  Of course, that just gets worse for him when Eskild says he has a good gaydar (like … could he possibly know Isak is gay?  Is the gaydar that good? Should Isak panic now?) and then when he inadvertently suggests to Isak that Even is probably not straight.  Talking with stranger guys about blow jobs makes you possibly gay?  That super hot stranger guy Isak met talked with him about blow jobs.  If that’s true, and it might be since Eskild seems to know what he’s talking about, then Isak could potentially be in a position to admit certain things soon.  That’s got to be both scary and exhilarating.  Scary because he has to face up to this stuff, he has to stop trying to hide behind this fake face he’s been putting on, at least to himself.  Exhilarating because maybe he didn’t imagine the sparks that were flying between him and Even, and maybe Even could be someone to explore this with.

As a side note, it’s interesting that despite his later protestations Isak really does treat Eskild as a gay guru.  Even here, where he’s so annoyed and scared that Eskild might guess or know that Isak isn’t straight, Isak still asks him questions.  The groundwork is already laid of course.  Eskild having been so chill and relaxing in Isak’s space in a way that Isak can relate to, is then easy to approach and say … well, okay then.  How do you tell? (with a terrified undercurrent of ‘can you tell about me???’).  Eskild’s response is a little facetious, and I’m sure he didn’t mean for Isak to take him seriously and yet Isak did.  He immediately (by the look on his face) remembers the conversations with Even, and he later goes looking for Even on grindr.  Eskild may not have been serious, but Isak certainly was.  And it’s very cute that he trusts Eskild’s opinion so much.

It’s also interesting to note that Isak is so obsessed with Even now that he knows his name that he is scrolling through a huge list of potentials just on the basis of a first name.  He’s primed already to be interested, so when Eskild’s conversation confirms that Even may not be straight Isak’s interest is piqued.  I suspect that this conversation gave Isak a lot of the confidence he needed for the rest of this episode and led almost directly to the events at the end.  Eskild’s guruing is pretty powerful, even when he’s joking.  Though, to be fair, Isak is so immediately obsessed that it probably wouldn’t have taken much for him to keep ‘researching’ Even.

Romeo and Juliet connections for clip: sadly, no.  

Associated extras: None, since I included any possible ones for this clip along with the last one.  That’s an interesting choice, since it allows the clip to stand on its own.  There’s a lot going on here under the surface but on the surface it’s just Isak and Eskild and their chill, sometimes irritated, sometimes teasing friendship.

Overall impressions: This is a really nice, soft, quiet clip.  It shows Isak in his natural environment and it shows Eskild making an effort to slot into that environment.  It gives us a lot of insight into the relationship the two have and makes it fairly obvious that it’s no surprise a) that Eskild is later the first one Isak comes out to and b) that Isak sees him as someone who knows what he’s doing and a potential for advice giving.  It’s interesting to note that Eskild is pretty much joking here when he answers Isak’s questions, because it gives us a base for how they interact later when Isak actually goes to him for real advice in a much more determined way.  Despite the tone, Isak respects Eskild and his opinions and takes what he says very seriously.

The next meta in this series can be found here.

[shirlleycoyle]

Users Are Changing Their Online Dating Profiles to Say They Got Vaccinated

We have been inside for way too long. Here in the U.S,, some cities are nearing a full year of social distancing, isolation, and the longest dry spell of some people's lives.  

It shouldn't be surprising, then, that with the first COVID-19 vaccinations rolling out in the last month or so—not just to nursing homes and elders over 65, but also to healthcare professionals, grocery store workers, politicians, and teachers—people on dating apps are marketing themselves as vaccinated, in hopes of persuading someone to go Mask Off with them. 

It's popping up in bios on almost every major dating platform, sometimes with as much detail as when they got their last dose. 

Three of the most popular online dating platforms told me they've seen an increase in users referring to vaccinations in their profiles.

Bumble said it's seen "a steady increase in the number of people who have included the word 'vaccine' or 'vaccinated'" on their profiles, beginning after the first vaccines started being administered in the US in December.   

A spokesperson for Tinder said it's noticed a 238 percent increase in vaccine mentions in Tinder bios, and "a significant increase starting in November 2020 and continuing to rise in December." That includes all mentions of vaccination, including things like "when i get that second dose it's over for y'all" and "if you believe in the 5 second rule…don't worry about what's in the vaccine."

OkCupid started adding questions specifically around social distancing when this whole mess began: "What’s your ideal virtual date?" and "What's your preferable winter-lockdown date?" to name a few. 

It recently added a matching question that asks, "Will you get the Covid-19 vaccine?" which users can answer "yes," "no," "I'm not sure," or "I already have." Users can skip the whole question, or select their own responses—and choose what their ideal match would say. 

According to Michael Kaye, public relations manager at OkCupid, 72 percent of respondents said they'd take the vaccine, 3 percent say they've already taken it, and 16 percent are "still deciding," having chosen the "I'm not sure" option. Nine percent are currently opposed to taking the vaccine. 

"Luckily, our daters are taking the pandemic very seriously," Kaye said. "In fact, more than 170,000 people on OkCupid said they would cancel a date that didn’t want to socially distance." 

A spokesperson for Perry Street Software, which owns gay men's dating apps Scruff and Jack’d, said, "We don't currently have any updates to share on this front but will keep you posted should that change." 

But I also gave several of these apps a cursory scroll and swipe myself, to see who's flaunting their vax status as a fuckability factor. On Scruff and Jack’d, where you can change your username whenever you want, I found that searching for usernames like "vaccinated" and "vax" returned several dozen guys, with creative variants like "9"uc Vax'd," "Vax 4 Vax," and "Vaccinated & Horny." Others are using usernames to convey that they're waiting for a vax before meeting up, actually.

"Vaccinated Top" is on one app while "Vaccinated Bttm" is on another—truly, star-crossed lovers. 

Grindr didn't respond to a request for comment, but people are doing something similar there, according to friends who use the app: changing their usernames or adding to bios that they're vaccinated and looking for the same. 

It makes sense for dating apps to experience this kind of evolution. Queer platforms like Scruff and Grindr have given users the option to reveal their HIV status for years, as well as whether or not they're on PReP. 

Across all of these apps and sexual orientations, some people are adding antibody status and that they're getting COVID tested regularly. 

While antibodies might imbue people with some immunity for some time, it doesn't mean you're definitely immune from COVID, and while currently results are showing promising protection, a lot more research needs to be done on how long antibody protection lasts or whether someone can still carry and transmit the virus even if they've had it before. And while regular testing is great, only a hard, two-week quarantine before meeting up can really qualify as a safe way to physically interact, sans-mask, with people outside of your household. 

For now, it's mostly healthcare workers putting "vaccinated" in their profiles. Of those eligible for the vaccine right now, they're most likely to be the youngest and using dating apps. 

Marcus Sandling, a physician specializing in infectious diseases, HIV, and Hepatitis C, as well as clinical director of sexual health at Callen-Lorde Community Health, told me that as a sexual health provider, he takes these things with a grain of salt.

"Most people feel like they are making good decisions around their sexual health, for the most part, and a lot of times people are incredibly shocked when they come into the office and they've contracted chlamydia or gonorrhea," he said. "So, people's external behavior, and their internal assessment, does not always line up."

Abstinence is the safest option, but it isn't realistic in the very long term for most people. Beyond that, it's about discussions with partners, personal safety choices, and testing.

"I do kind of put this idea of vaccination in that milieu of things that people are doing to signal their safety to partners, as well as to pre-screen and signal that that's what they're looking for, so that they can engage in the behaviors that they were able to do before coronavirus," Sandling said. 

He also wonders how vaccine distribution might make small, seemingly frivolous activities like meeting up with a romantic partner even more inequitable among the hardest-hit populations. As we know, so far, the vaccine rollout has been a bit of a disaster in general, compounded by the way non-white communities that have been affected the most are now also facing the highest barriers to vaccination access. Studies have shown that loneliness and lack of physical intimacy can have serious health consequences. As the healthcare industry faces its own systemic racism issues, it's easy to see how inequities could widen for activities as simple as online dating. 

"Not being able to live and have psychological health is traumatizing for the whole world," Sandling said. "And now, a certain part of the population is getting an off ramp earlier than everyone else."

If you're going to hook up during a pandemic, waiting until you're vaccinated, and then only seeing other vaccinated people, is probably not the worst way to go about it. But as with any vaccine, this one isn't 100 percent guaranteed; the Moderna and Pfizer are both around 95 percent effective. Antibodies and vaccines both invoke a false sense of security that could lead to riskier behavior, and higher chance of getting or spreading the virus. It's also still unclear whether being vaccinated prevents someone from carrying COVID asymptomatically, and passing it to someone who isn't vaccinated.

You also have to take into account that if you're meeting a rando online, they might just not know what the hell they're talking about. 

"Not every person that gets the vaccine is as medically literate about what it is they're getting or what happened," Sandling said. "So someone could tell me I'm vaccinated, and they might have had one vaccine [dose], or they might have thought they were getting the coronavirus vaccine and didn't. But I'm not inherently against it." 

Right now, it's only a small percentage of people revealing their vaccination status on dating apps, because it's only a small percentage of the whole world who's had their shot. But it's a look into all of our futures: where online profiles and meetup groups could ask people to certify that they've been given their two doses, and where we'll have to keep having more and better conversations about sexual health with our partners. 

"With all types of sexual health I think just generally having conversations is better," Sandling said. 

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[gapimnydiaries]

Diary Entry #17

Dear Diary,

I have a story to tell you –

“Where do you see yourself in 10 years?” I asked him.

He thought about it for a while and responded.

“Um, I want to have a house, and I want to have a job. On the weekends I want to go to the movies, and I want to have a group of friends to go with.”

“That sounds pretty good! How can you get there?”

Another pause.

“Well, I have to quit meth…”

It was a warm, sunny afternoon. I sat across from a friend on a balcony looking down on a calm street. We got into a conversation about his struggles with methamphetamine addiction, and I wanted to understand where he was coming from. I thought it would be a good idea to talk first about his aspirations rather than the gritty details of how he became addicted. I was shocked by how simple and “normal” his dreams were for the future. I had always taken shelter, school and friends for granted, but my friend didn’t have those things. He grew up in an impoverished neighborhood in Brooklyn, New York where drugs and violence were rampant. He joined the military, which was his ticket out of that environment. He finished his service only to fall back into a life of drugs and destitution. All of these complicated social issues were also intertwined with his sexuality. In our conversation, he told me he just wanted to be normal – a place to live, a job and friends. What was noticeably missing in his vision was a family.

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I recently read an article in the Huffington Post called “The Epidemic of Gay Loneliness” by Michael Hobbes that I thought captured very well some of the psychological problems that plague the modern gay man, and it has become one of my most referenced articles. One concept that stood out to me was minority stress that describes the constant psychological strain associated with being a stigmatized minority. In the case of being a minority in sexuality, relatively minor stresses dealing with perceived or actual social rejection and prejudice accumulate over time and lead to prolonged psychological trauma. It also talked about the sadness of not being able to have a traditional family. That was definitely an "aha!" moment for me because up to that point, I had not realized that a significant portion of my own depression could be attributed to my sexuality.

In junior year of college, I was going to a weekend retreat with the board of one of my college organizations. It was one of those bonding opportunities that gets the board closer to each other so we can work better together. The retreat would start with talks of organizational agenda setting and annual planning and eventually progress into secret sharing after a few rounds of drinks. When everyone was having a good time playing “Fuck, Marry, Kill”, I had already retreated into the corner anxiously like I always did in similar situations. I had to mentally prepare all kinds of reasons why I didn’t have an extensive dating history by college and came up with stories of attractions to various imaginary people. I would be mentally exhausted by the end of the night trying my hardest to provide unsatisfactory answers. To everyone else, it made me seem secretive and unwilling to share, defeating the point of a bonding night. It took me a while to process how those experiences shaped my interactions with others and my own psyche. I now realized how much my sexuality contributed to my social anxiety and unwillingness to get emotionally close to others. I felt like I had something to hide and was afraid I would be “discovered”. It was difficult to develop the kind of close friendship I saw in others because I couldn’t let my guards down.

I am much more comfortable with my sexuality today, but unfortunately the stress persists. When I visited relatives in China this past summer, I had an earful of questions about why I didn’t get a girlfriend in medical school or when I would get one. My family members were making all kinds of commitments to attend my wedding, including my 80 year old grandmother. When this came up, and it did a lot, I simply smiled and nodded. To them, I was an exemplar child -- well educated and professionally accomplished. To me, I just felt like a fraud – I likely would never be able to deliver the kind of “normal” marriage and family they expected. I was going to be a disappointment to people who loved me the most. I believe that the closer one is to family, the worse the feeling. It only took me half a week before I couldn’t take it anymore and wanted to take the next flight back to the U.S….

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When I asked my friend why he kept using meth despite all its negative consequences on his life, he said he felt powerful and sexy with it. It’s boring to meet guys without it because he didn’t feel attractive and confident. He had been struggling with depression and loneliness, and taking drugs was his way to have a moment of feeling like normal, no matter how temporary. He actively looked for people who party and play (hook up while on drugs) on Grindr. He just wanted to feel good about himself, and drugs were his gateway to that feeling. I nodded with an implicit understanding – I knew that feeling too well.

Perhaps you have read my last year’s diary entry on my entrance into the gay world, and it wasn’t full of rainbows and unicorns, so to speak. When I first came into contact with the gay world, a series of painful rejections quickly crushed my naive idealism and simple desires for acceptance. My self-esteem was at an all-time low, and what came with it was depression and a sense of self-hatred. There must’ve been something wrong with me if none of the pretty profiles on dating apps wanted me, right? In Hobbes’ article, he describes a process of being “re-traumatized” as one enters the gay world, a community where we are waiting to be accepted for who we are, only to be ruthlessly rejected for our ethnicity, appearance, income or demeanor. A quote that stood out to me was that “every gay man I know carries around a mental portfolio of all the shitty things other gay men have said and done to him.” In an age of anonymous, headless profiles on dating apps, it’s easy to forget all social etiquette, and we end up with a collective toxic culture that makes everyone miserable.

I have been ghosted or blocked on datings apps more times than I can keep track in the past years, but I do remember a few notable ones. One time I talked to a guy for several weeks and made plans to get boba. I was blocked right after finally sending him a picture. Another time I went rock climbing with a guy and never received a reply to my text after. There was a time that I traveled all the way from Boston to Hartford for a second meeting with a guy who said “you are a great person with a great personality and career, but not exactly my type physically.” Over the years I have struggled with deleting the apps but only to go back on a few days later. I think using dating apps is like gambling. We are on it to hit whatever jackpot that we imagine for ourselves, whether it’s the perfect boyfriend or the hot-boy-next-door hookup. But just like the casino, the player never wins. We end up creating an environment where guys with the best profile pictures get all the attention and can therefore pick and choose and leave the rest of us miserable and desperate from the trail of rejections.

The rejections, especially in the form of ignoring, ghosting and blocking, left me confused and depressed. At times it seemed like I was bracing myself for the eventual rejection in all my interaction with guys. I was defensive and quick to jump to conclusions whenever there was even a lag in response. Many of my friends have told me that I just needed more confidence, but it was very hard to find confidence when I had just received so many rejections. It was especially bad when this was compounded by being Asian and getting racist responses from apps. A friend once commented to me, when you have low self-esteem, you become desperate. And when you are desperate, you do the most irrational things. People engage in risky hook ups and drugs in an attempt to fill this painful void, but it’s like scratching an itch; they offer ephemeral relief but only to make the problem worse long term.

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“Sometimes, I only eat a little bit of my food, like a quarter of a sandwich, and it would make me feel really fat, so I just threw the rest into the toilet.”

A while into the conversation, my friend admitted that he had been struggling with bulimia. Even though he had a normal Body Mass Index, which is how weight is measured to determine if someone is in a healthy range, he had an altered view of his body and believed he was overweight. He mentioned to me how there are so many fit and muscular guys and Grindr, and it made him feel unattractive.

A few years ago, I met up with a guy in Downtown LA. I was surprised that he even responded to me because he had what looked like a modeling picture on his Jack’d profile with the most amazing tan and ripped muscles. Fortunately for my anxiety, he looked a lot more normal in person, and we had a discussion about what he believed to be an inevitable progression for many guys in gay life. He said that when someone first enters the gay world, the person has this vision of finding and settling down with a normal looking, nice guy. Then he gets into the partying culture and starts to work out and look better. All of a sudden the nice guys are not fun and attractive enough. At the time, I was quite surprised and told myself “no, that’s not going to be me, I will always want the nice guy”.

In my exploration of the gay world, I have discovered more and more a whole lifestyle centered on partying. I started in West Hollywood and made my way around some of the gay centers in the country like the Castro and Hell’s Kitchen. I have been to clubs in LA, NYC, San Francisco, Boston, Miami, San Diego and even some international spots like Valparaíso, Mexico City and Bangkok. I started learning about the various colors of circuit parties in the U.S., Europe and Asia. Interestingly, the attendants are typically young professionals who can afford the ticket and travel expenses to attend these parties, and I have gotten a glimpse of the scale of the drug culture in these events.

I went to Songkran in Thailand during April, and I think I finally understood what that guy meant with the progression of gay life. What I saw were professionally successful gaysians with model-like bodies from around the world descend upon the city overnight, filling up all the hotels in the well-known Silom district and meandering around in the busy streets of Bangkok. I was told by an acquaintance that the parties served as body building check-points for these guys who planned their travels around Songkran in April, White Party in May and EDC in June, etc. and that the most muscular guys are the ones who are perhaps most insecure about their bodies. Perhaps these guys are the ones who have “succeeded” to reach the body image zenith that gay guys strive for and are now enjoying the partying life, but then what?

We live in the era of social media and are under the constant bombardment of impossibly muscular guys from around the world who fill up our Instagram feed. These guys put Adam West’s Batman and George Reeve’s Superman to shame. The western standard of beauty for men has changed over the years to “more muscle and less body fat the better”, and the world is catching up. It takes an incredible amount of training and dieting, as well as good genetics, to reach that level. Most of us with normal lives busy with school and work will find it hard to pursue that lifestyle, but our Instagram and Facebook give the illusion that it’s ubiquitous and anything less is unattractive. We could blame professional makeup and Photoshop for the guys in magazines, but Instagram is real people! We forget that people take painstaking effort to curate their social media profiles by picking one out of hundreds of pictures with the best lighting, angle and shading. We are now all looking for someone who looks like that and feel bad that people don’t like us for not looking that way.

That day, I tried to offer as many words of encouragement and comfort to my friend as he shared his struggles with mental health, substance abuse and body image. I tried to tell him that it’s possible to be gay and to have a normal and perhaps even “successful” life. I wished to give him more hope for the future so he could heal from his past traumas and end his drug addition. But deep down, I don’t feel so different from him. I struggle with my own insecurities and psychological void. I have a hard time defining my own vision of “success” in life in the context of the gay world. Just like my friend, I need to figure out where my own path leads to and define a vision that is worth striving for.

I would like to suggest that one way to counter the toxic culture in the gay community is to create supportive, friendly and less-sexualized spaces both in person and online. I admire the work done by organizations such as GAPIMNY in NYC and AQUA in DC that offer in-person communities and safe spaces for gaysians to explore their identities and connect with others in a more meaningful way. However, not everyone lives in a big city with a large enough gaysian population, so online communities become extremely important. I want to put in a pitch for G3S where we offer an opportunity to discuss gaysian related issues and offer a supportive online space for those who might not have any organizations locally. We also have a mentorship program that connects people in a more personal setting where someone new to the gay world can be paired up with a mentor who have more experiences with coming to terms with their identities. Additionally, we are working to expand our model to more in-person groups by developing local chapters in cities like LA, SF and Toronto in an effort to create a more affirming gaysian culture.

I think we all have an individual responsibility to improve our collective culture. For me, I think it’s about treating myself and others well and with respect. I want to keep a realistic perspective of how many of the above mentioned issues affect me personally and take myself out of a loop of negative thoughts. I want to have goals for myself, whether it’s body image or professionally, but I want to keep them realistic and measured against my own growth. I am also making an effort to treat my online interactions with the same courtesy I would with my in-person interactions. I do my best to clearly communicate my intentions and only make promises I can keep. I think my life would improve significantly if I surround myself with kind and supportive people who are invested in my success. I want to thank all my friends in G3S and GAPIMNY who have supported me and encouraged me to write this follow up entry!

Fish

[syrolecep-blog]

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11 Legit Best Dating Sites Free (March 2019!) Complete a couple of steps like providing your age and location , and then start searching for that perfect match — whether it be a one-night stand, date, relationship, marriage.  But we also have a lot of other great features that are absolutely for free.  It's perfect for bars, businesses, and all other public or private events.  Send and receive private messages, pictures, or voice memos.  The site has an ever-increasing user base of over 38 million active members out of which, 8 million are photo-verified.  Believe it or not, people want to talk to someone with a clear face they can imagine even dating online.  OkCupid is a free dating site having over 40,000,000 people.

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The Best Dating Apps for iPhone & Android in 2019 This latest version of the app has got to be one of the most frustrating and poorly designed apps I have ever used.  Why is 3Fun one of the best sex apps? Whether you want to date, make new friends or just casually chat - the right person for you is waiting on Badoo.  Among people who have seriously saved our team is known as the app.  Great if you want to find no strings sex right now.  Right when you join, you can: o Tell your story.  The Discover section tells me I have new messages but when I go to the inbox there are no new messages there.  Share your everyday moments and show off your talents with new live streams, a whole new way to meet and connect with people on Badoo.

The Best Dating Apps for iPhone and Android UK The Premium membership also lets you purchase credits to spotlight yourself for more possibilities.  But from there, things change up a bit.  Each match you make only stays on your account for 24 hours, matches are limited per day and the person initiating the match must be the first to leave a message.  Our monthly releases include bug fixes, speed optimization and are loaded with feature enhancements.  The site aims to address issues with spam that many dating services face.  You can switch off the auto-renewal any time after the purchase by going to your settings in the iTunes Store.  France pof mobile app hook-up for android app to the people date around the world.

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Is Gen-Y A Bunch Of Commitment Phobic Tinder Addicts?

Smashing the myths around youth dating culture.

Being in a steady relationship with the second boyfriend of my life has resulted in me being a total stranger to this new world of dating I keep hearing, reading and watching Netflix originals about; and I suffer from an acute condition of FOMO. So when I miss out on something I try my best to experience it vicariously.

Don’t get me wrong, I downloaded dating apps too (just so I could check out what the hype was all about) but, in a few hours my brother came back home with a disgusted face and confessed, “You showed up on my Tinder…and your DP sucks.”

Delete account.

Uninstall App.

Open Instagram and check out food videos.

So I picked up the phone, made some calls and decided to be privy to the dating world through the experiences of others. It wasn’t just FOMO. It was also an indomitable urge to find out if the opinions that were making the rounds were true. Was it really depressing youngsters, ruining relationships and making it harder for people to stay committed to their respective partners? Or was it simply a change that was trampling long-standing social constructs and making people uncomfortable. Was the stigma around dating apps justified?

Related: Dating Apps Have Made Us More Free To Express Our Sexuality

“There are all kinds of people out there,” said almost everyone I spoke to. It turns out the web is a place where you can find love, lust, friendship and much more. I had heard the usual things people have to say about online dating but having just moved to a new city and looking to meet new people, I decided to give it a try. A friend of mine found a decent guy she dated for a while till he moved abroad and I thought, ‘Well, why not?’ I made my profile, put up some nice pictures and left out the description bit because I couldn’t think of anything. What was most important was that I joined it with zero expectations. I knew the worst that could happen would be that I went out on no dates and deleted the app.

It’s a match. Image source: kampustoday.com

I matched with almost everyone I swiped right for (and every other girl I spoke to said the same thing), and went out with five men from different walks of life and all of them went well. Some were just one night stands, some became really good friends and some just fizzled out. And then I stopped using it.

Why? Well, for starters I am dating someone now and it kind of got a little tiring because I would invest a lot of time in getting to know as much as I possibly could about the person on the app before I actually met them in person. But I would use it again if I were single because it’s a great way to meet people. I don’t understand why so many people trash these apps. It really depends on how and what you use it for. If you can use your discretion wisely and follow simple rules like - always meet the person for the first time at a public place rather than their house etc. It's a safe way to date. If one keeps in mind these basics then it can be really fun. In fact if you think about it, it’s safer than meeting someone at a bar because you are behind the safety of your screen.”

Behind the screen. Image source: lovesite.ro

From what I gathered, a friend too had a great time meeting people through the app, including a 28 year old guy who had never been on a date before. Another friend of mine who recently shifted to the city after living in Hyderabad said, “Some of my friends were using the app and going on great dates. Sure I ghosted some people and some people ghosted me. Sure, swiping left for a person who doesn’t look good is superficial but we’d do that in a bar too. It’s natural to want to be with people you are physically attracted to. I am very traditional when it comes to dating but, I was single and looking to have fun.”

Related: The Love Trip

“What do you think about people saying that apps like these are ruining dating culture and creating commitment issues among the youth because they make it easy to find someone else?” I inquired.

“I think its complete bullshit! It totally depends on the person. If you are with someone and you’re feeling attracted to someone else, then what does that say about your relationship? The issue is not with dating apps, it’s with people. I think it’s just an excuse. I have used Tinder and yet I am having absolutely no problems being committed to my boyfriend. All this stigmatizing is rubbish. Everyone should be on a dating site. I made some great friends I am still in touch with.”

Love in the times of Tinder. Image source: medium.com

Another friend whose dating habits I found quite unique is a 30 year old music composer currently living in Mumbai.

“I am the biggest advertiser for online dating there is,” said my self-proclaimed Tinder loyalist friend. “I first started using it a couple of years ago because I had shifted to Mumbai and was lonely. I think what made it a wonderful experience for me was the fact that I used it with zero expectations. I hooked up, almost fell in love, made so many friends and got to meet more people through the friends I made on it.”

What to me was really intriguing was the fact that he is currently in a relationship and continues to use the app with his girlfriend’s knowledge and NOT to hook up. In fact, he is fully committed to her.

“I have made it very clear to everyone I chat with that I am not looking for anything physical any more. And guess what? People don’t think it’s weird. They understand and respect my decision and I still use it very regularly to talk to people.”

He truly is a committed harbinger of the app for my conversation with him was the longest. He continued, “What’s this crap about how superficial it is? People are superficial. Yes, you see a photo and judge them by it. Isn’t that what they do outside the app as well? In fact I think what’s great about these apps is the fact that it allows you to be completely honest and since everyone else is being that way as well no one really minds. It’s like a safe environment for people to be who they truly are and there’s no forced formality.”

Another 29 year old guy working at an HR consultancy in Kolkata seemed to have an entirely different opinion. “I used Tinder and Aisle. On Tinder you can judge people based on their looks and on Aisle you can filter them out based on their religion and looks.” He wrapped the whole thing up in one sentence, “it made no difference to my life and I hated the interface,” and then added, “perhaps because I was using it in Calcutta which is still a 100 years behind. I only found funny people who weren’t at all dateable.”

Related: Serial Dater

A friend of mine from Delhi who is also a musician and 27 said, “It was good when I used it initially. My first date was just great and then it just went downhill but people should totally use it because it can be fun!”

From these varied conversations I gathered two things: 1) Women were having more fun on dating apps than men, who got much fewer matches. 2) No one particularly felt dating apps had anything to do with creating commitment issues and said it depended on the person.

Grinding with Grindr. Image source: dailydot.com

Just to ensure variety, I spoke to the coolest gay friend I have, who is 28, works at an Ad agency in Delhi and has zero F*&^S to give. He has been using Grindr avidly for almost ten years now (Fun fact: Grindr came to India years before Tinder did) and has used Tinder as well. Talking about his experiences on these apps he said, “I don’t think you can fit my experience in an article. It is so colorful sometimes I think I should have my own web series. I will just sit in front of a camera, roll my eyes and give my one liners. I really think I could make it Ellen’s show, you know?”

Laughing uncontrollably for almost two hours, Shib walked me through his dates.

He got robbed by two people who had come over for a threesome.

He met married men with children who were closeted and had decided to continue being that way till eternity.

Bisexuals, confused straight people, curious straight people, curious straight people who didn’t want to have sex, gay people who wanted to have sex but not kiss. You name it. He had seen it all.

Shib describes their kind as ‘diluted gay people’ and expressing grief he said, “It’s a great place to hook up, but for varied reasons it’s been really hard for me to find concentrated gay people. They are adulterated by skepticism, bisexuality or curiosity. As such, most of my dates stop at being a one night or at best several nights’ stands and to be honest I couldn’t care less.”

“So do you think people should be on these apps?”

“Of course! Everyone should have their own experience. Also I think in a society like ours Grindr is perhaps the most viable option for gay people to meet other men. You just have to proceed with zero expectations or do what I do.”

“What do you do,” I asked laughing, knowing it would be something funny.

“I just have this process where I uninstall the app every now and then when I feel dejected, but then I feel bored which is worse than dejected so I just download it again!” As parting advice to the world he said, “Be wary of people who share their dick sizes before they say hello…”

What I realized was this: 1) The myth: Dating apps are making it hard for people to be committed. 2) The truth: Don’t throw the baby out with the bath water.

Everyone is swiping. Image source: india.com

Every other day I find sponsored posts on my newsfeed asking me to read articles lashing out at millennials for their approach to dating, with headlines like “Is the institution of marriage dying,” “Why is it becoming so hard for the youth of today to find love?” “Is the entire Gen-Y a bunch of commitment phobic Tinder addicts?” et al. I often wonder why everyone is suddenly so worried about young people’s personal choices instead of say, how the economy is affecting youth employment or bilateral relations with developed countries impacting the growth of our indigenous sectors. However, what seems to be clear is that dating apps have penetrated the lives of most single people and are here to stay.

So keep calm and continue browsing, because if you’re having issues committing, you probably don’t want to.

Disclaimer: The views expressed in this article are independent views solely of the author(s) expressed in their private capacity and do not in any way represent or reflect the views of 101India.com.

By Anisha Singh Cover photo credit: eeyuva.com

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New App Offers Ingenious Option For Guys Who Are Too Shy To Send Dick Pics

Sex Heroes is an ongoing HuffPost Q&A series by Voices Editorial Director Noah Michelson that explores the lives and experiences of individuals who are challenging, and thereby changing, mainstream culture’s understanding of sex and sexuality. 

In our modern age of online dating and internet hook ups, dick pics, for better or for worse, have become a kind of digital currency ― especially for gay men. Hop on Grindr or Scruff or any other web app designed to connect men looking for love ― or just someone to get off with ― and it won’t be long before you’re asked to show exactly what you’re packing.

For some, sharing explicit images isn’t a big deal. But for those who are worried about privacy and want to avoid having their nether bits distributed to anyone ― or everyone ― on the internet, dick pics have been seen as a total no-go.

Gyorgy Szucs, the 28-year-old gay CEO and founder of design and code company Creative Robot, wants to help eradicate dick pic stigma while promoting sex and body positivity and what he refers to as “kinkiness.” He’s developed a new app, called Dick Code, that lets users choose from a number of illustrations that most closely match their genitals and then generates a “code” that they can send to whomever they choose without fearing that move might eventually come back to haunt them.

Dick Code asks each user to select from a variety of physical penis characteristics ― from size and girth to hairiness and curvature ― in order to create an intimate profile of their member that is as representative as possible. Dick Codes also offers additional information that a dick pic can’t, like the trajectory and pattern of the individual’s ejaculate.

“I started by drawing many dicks as a practice,” Szucs told me in an email. “First I started with the obvious categories, like size and circumference and then I went on to the ‘dirty’ stuff and added everything that my mind could think of absolutely shamelessly.”

Szucs, who is originally from Hungary but currently resides in Santiago, Chile, also shared with me where the inspiration for Dick Code originally came from, his thoughts on the politics of dick pics (especially involving straight men sending unwanted images to women), his upcoming plans for Vagina Code and Sex Code apps and more.

The Huffington Post: Where did the idea for Dick Code come from? Was there a specific “a ha!” moment of inspiration? Gyorgy Szucs: I received a picture from a friend with drawn penises where you could choose the right one for you. I felt it was incomplete and too complicated to communicate the result. I immediately thought it could be a great web app, especially if I put my kinkiness in it as well.

Do you intend for people to really use it when communicating with others online? Or is it more of an art or conversation piece? I wanted a simple, handy tool that enables people to communicate more about their sexual features. I focused on the parts we tend to be shy about, so I intentionally didn’t give descriptions. I’m a very rational person, so I don’t feel like it’s an art piece ― I just want to help people and bring out their kink.

Dick pics are controversial and can be problematic because they are often sent to people who don’t want them ― especially by straight men to straight women. What are your personal thoughts about the politics of dick pics? It depends. I believe if you receive a dick pic you didn’t ask for, most likely that means the owner of it has an ugly face and/or personality. But if you’re already in a conversation with someone online looking for a hookup, and passed the mental check, I see no problem in exchanging hot pics. Now you can exchange dick codes too.

Do you think that dick pics work differently among gay men versus non-gay people? How do you think women feel about this and do you think straight men would use Dick Code? Let me tell you ― [by looking at Google analytics I learned that] 40 percent of the 1 million visitors I had in four days were women. I thought it would be a gay thing only, but I think now I’ll have to interview straight women too to see what’s going on. Based on the feedback so far, I believe that girls use it to describe their favorite dick. Straight guys don’t really use it, in fact they are mostly disgusted by this, but maybe they will soon be asked by their next date to share their dick code. No escape.

What has the response been? What are people saying? I’m having such fun days. I’m receiving like 50 messages a day about how ingenious the idea is, how easy it became for shy people to be more kinky. They are laughing a lot while still sharing features they never talked about before. And the most amazing part is that people who created and shared their dick code tell me how surprisingly positive the responses are. They believed that their dick was not impressive as it is not “big,” but they had now come to the realization that people (women especially) are kinky deep inside and find certain aspects of a dick impressive, other than just the size.

And of course, girls keep asking for the V[agina] Code. I’m already working on that, I just need lots of help as I’m not experienced in that area.

Are there other “codes” in the works and when will they roll out? Vagina Code and Sex Code. The latter will be basically about sex positions and games. Kinky games. I believe the V Code will come in the following few weeks, and the Sex Code after that. I’ll update the Dick Code page with details.

I’m absolutely shocked by the fact how many women use the Dick Code. I think the V code will be fun for straight guys mostly, but I guess the Sex Code will turn into the next “50 Shades of Grey.”

What do you ultimately want people to take away from this project? I believe it is a fun tool to bring out your kinkiness in a very safe way and share it with your partner. It’s easy to tap innocent drawn images about dirty stuff. It is definitely not just a gay thing. People tell me and now I believe that I started something big, something that might reform online dating and the way we talk about sex. I’ll keep adding ways to it. I hope that dating sites will realize the value and maybe add a field in people’s profile for D, V and Sex Codes.

You can visit Dick Code here. For more from Szucs, visit his Instagram page.

Is there a sex hero you think deserves to be covered on The Huffington Post? Send an email to Noah Michelson.

This interview has been lightly edited for clarity and length.

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New App Offers Ingenious Option For Guys Who Are Too Shy To Send Dick Pics

Sex Heroes is an ongoing HuffPost Q&A series by Voices Editorial Director Noah Michelson that explores the lives and experiences of individuals who are challenging, and thereby changing, mainstream culture’s understanding of sex and sexuality. 

In our modern age of online dating and internet hook ups, dick pics, for better or for worse, have become a kind of digital currency ― especially for gay men. Hop on Grindr or Scruff or any other web app designed to connect men looking for love ― or just someone to get off with ― and it won’t be long before you’re asked to show exactly what you’re packing.

For some, sharing explicit images isn’t a big deal. But for those who are worried about privacy and want to avoid having their nether bits distributed to anyone ― or everyone ― on the internet, dick pics have been seen as a total no-go.

Gyorgy Szucs, the 28-year-old gay CEO and founder of design and code company Creative Robot, wants to help eradicate dick pic stigma while promoting sex and body positivity and what he refers to as “kinkiness.” He’s developed a new app, called Dick Code, that lets users choose from a number of illustrations that most closely match their genitals and then generates a “code” that they can send to whomever they choose without fearing that move might eventually come back to haunt them.

Dick Code asks each user to select from a variety of physical penis characteristics ― from size and girth to hairiness and curvature ― in order to create an intimate profile of their member that is as representative as possible. Dick Codes also offers additional information that a dick pic can’t, like the trajectory and pattern of the individual’s ejaculate.

“I started by drawing many dicks as a practice,” Szucs told me in an email. “First I started with the obvious categories, like size and circumference and then I went on to the ‘dirty’ stuff and added everything that my mind could think of absolutely shamelessly.”

Szucs, who is originally from Hungary but currently resides in Santiago, Chile, also shared with me where the inspiration for Dick Code originally came from, his thoughts on the politics of dick pics (especially involving straight men sending unwanted images to women), his upcoming plans for Vagina Code and Sex Code apps and more.

The Huffington Post: Where did the idea for Dick Code come from? Was there a specific “a ha!” moment of inspiration? Gyorgy Szucs: I received a picture from a friend with drawn penises where you could choose the right one for you. I felt it was incomplete and too complicated to communicate the result. I immediately thought it could be a great web app, especially if I put my kinkiness in it as well.

Do you intend for people to really use it when communicating with others online? Or is it more of an art or conversation piece? I wanted a simple, handy tool that enables people to communicate more about their sexual features. I focused on the parts we tend to be shy about, so I intentionally didn’t give descriptions. I’m a very rational person, so I don’t feel like it’s an art piece ― I just want to help people and bring out their kink.

Dick pics are controversial and can be problematic because they are often sent to people who don’t want them ― especially by straight men to straight women. What are your personal thoughts about the politics of dick pics? It depends. I believe if you receive a dick pic you didn’t ask for, most likely that means the owner of it has an ugly face and/or personality. But if you’re already in a conversation with someone online looking for a hookup, and passed the mental check, I see no problem in exchanging hot pics. Now you can exchange dick codes too.

Do you think that dick pics work differently among gay men versus non-gay people? How do you think women feel about this and do you think straight men would use Dick Code? Let me tell you ― [by looking at Google analytics I learned that] 40 percent of the 1 million visitors I had in four days were women. I thought it would be a gay thing only, but I think now I’ll have to interview straight women too to see what’s going on. Based on the feedback so far, I believe that girls use it to describe their favorite dick. Straight guys don’t really use it, in fact they are mostly disgusted by this, but maybe they will soon be asked by their next date to share their dick code. No escape.

What has the response been? What are people saying? I’m having such fun days. I’m receiving like 50 messages a day about how ingenious the idea is, how easy it became for shy people to be more kinky. They are laughing a lot while still sharing features they never talked about before. And the most amazing part is that people who created and shared their dick code tell me how surprisingly positive the responses are. They believed that their dick was not impressive as it is not “big,” but they had now come to the realization that people (women especially) are kinky deep inside and find certain aspects of a dick impressive, other than just the size.

And of course, girls keep asking for the V[agina] Code. I’m already working on that, I just need lots of help as I’m not experienced in that area.

Are there other “codes” in the works and when will they roll out? Vagina Code and Sex Code. The latter will be basically about sex positions and games. Kinky games. I believe the V Code will come in the following few weeks, and the Sex Code after that. I’ll update the Dick Code page with details.

I’m absolutely shocked by the fact how many women use the Dick Code. I think the V code will be fun for straight guys mostly, but I guess the Sex Code will turn into the next “50 Shades of Grey.”

What do you ultimately want people to take away from this project? I believe it is a fun tool to bring out your kinkiness in a very safe way and share it with your partner. It’s easy to tap innocent drawn images about dirty stuff. It is definitely not just a gay thing. People tell me and now I believe that I started something big, something that might reform online dating and the way we talk about sex. I’ll keep adding ways to it. I hope that dating sites will realize the value and maybe add a field in people’s profile for D, V and Sex Codes.

You can visit Dick Code here. For more from Szucs, visit his Instagram page.

Is there a sex hero you think deserves to be covered on The Huffington Post? Send an email to Noah Michelson.

This interview has been lightly edited for clarity and length.

-- This feed and its contents are the property of The Huffington Post, and use is subject to our terms. It may be used for personal consumption, but may not be distributed on a website.

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New App Offers Ingenious Option For Guys Who Are Too Shy To Send Dick Pics

Sex Heroes is an ongoing HuffPost Q&A series by Voices Editorial Director Noah Michelson that explores the lives and experiences of individuals who are challenging, and thereby changing, mainstream culture’s understanding of sex and sexuality. 

In our modern age of online dating and internet hook ups, dick pics, for better or for worse, have become a kind of digital currency ― especially for gay men. Hop on Grindr or Scruff or any other web app designed to connect men looking for love ― or just someone to get off with ― and it won’t be long before you’re asked to show exactly what you’re packing.

For some, sharing explicit images isn’t a big deal. But for those who are worried about privacy and want to avoid having their nether bits distributed to anyone ― or everyone ― on the internet, dick pics have been seen as a total no-go.

Gyorgy Szucs, the 28-year-old gay CEO and founder of design and code company Creative Robot, wants to help eradicate dick pic stigma while promoting sex and body positivity and what he refers to as “kinkiness.” He’s developed a new app, called Dick Code, that lets users choose from a number of illustrations that most closely match their genitals and then generates a “code” that they can send to whomever they choose without fearing that move might eventually come back to haunt them.

Dick Code asks each user to select from a variety of physical penis characteristics ― from size and girth to hairiness and curvature ― in order to create an intimate profile of their member that is as representative as possible. Dick Codes also offers additional information that a dick pic can’t, like the trajectory and pattern of the individual’s ejaculate.

“I started by drawing many dicks as a practice,” Szucs told me in an email. “First I started with the obvious categories, like size and circumference and then I went on to the ‘dirty’ stuff and added everything that my mind could think of absolutely shamelessly.”

Szucs, who is originally from Hungary but currently resides in Santiago, Chile, also shared with me where the inspiration for Dick Code originally came from, his thoughts on the politics of dick pics (especially involving straight men sending unwanted images to women), his upcoming plans for Vagina Code and Sex Code apps and more.

The Huffington Post: Where did the idea for Dick Code come from? Was there a specific “a ha!” moment of inspiration? Gyorgy Szucs: I received a picture from a friend with drawn penises where you could choose the right one for you. I felt it was incomplete and too complicated to communicate the result. I immediately thought it could be a great web app, especially if I put my kinkiness in it as well.

Do you intend for people to really use it when communicating with others online? Or is it more of an art or conversation piece? I wanted a simple, handy tool that enables people to communicate more about their sexual features. I focused on the parts we tend to be shy about, so I intentionally didn’t give descriptions. I’m a very rational person, so I don’t feel like it’s an art piece ― I just want to help people and bring out their kink.

Dick pics are controversial and can be problematic because they are often sent to people who don’t want them ― especially by straight men to straight women. What are your personal thoughts about the politics of dick pics? It depends. I believe if you receive a dick pic you didn’t ask for, most likely that means the owner of it has an ugly face and/or personality. But if you’re already in a conversation with someone online looking for a hookup, and passed the mental check, I see no problem in exchanging hot pics. Now you can exchange dick codes too.

Do you think that dick pics work differently among gay men versus non-gay people? How do you think women feel about this and do you think straight men would use Dick Code? Let me tell you ― [by looking at Google analytics I learned that] 40 percent of the 1 million visitors I had in four days were women. I thought it would be a gay thing only, but I think now I’ll have to interview straight women too to see what’s going on. Based on the feedback so far, I believe that girls use it to describe their favorite dick. Straight guys don’t really use it, in fact they are mostly disgusted by this, but maybe they will soon be asked by their next date to share their dick code. No escape.

What has the response been? What are people saying? I’m having such fun days. I’m receiving like 50 messages a day about how ingenious the idea is, how easy it became for shy people to be more kinky. They are laughing a lot while still sharing features they never talked about before. And the most amazing part is that people who created and shared their dick code tell me how surprisingly positive the responses are. They believed that their dick was not impressive as it is not “big,” but they had now come to the realization that people (women especially) are kinky deep inside and find certain aspects of a dick impressive, other than just the size.

And of course, girls keep asking for the V[agina] Code. I’m already working on that, I just need lots of help as I’m not experienced in that area.

Are there other “codes” in the works and when will they roll out? Vagina Code and Sex Code. The latter will be basically about sex positions and games. Kinky games. I believe the V Code will come in the following few weeks, and the Sex Code after that. I’ll update the Dick Code page with details.

I’m absolutely shocked by the fact how many women use the Dick Code. I think the V code will be fun for straight guys mostly, but I guess the Sex Code will turn into the next “50 Shades of Grey.”

What do you ultimately want people to take away from this project? I believe it is a fun tool to bring out your kinkiness in a very safe way and share it with your partner. It’s easy to tap innocent drawn images about dirty stuff. It is definitely not just a gay thing. People tell me and now I believe that I started something big, something that might reform online dating and the way we talk about sex. I’ll keep adding ways to it. I hope that dating sites will realize the value and maybe add a field in people’s profile for D, V and Sex Codes.

You can visit Dick Code here. For more from Szucs, visit his Instagram page.

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This interview has been lightly edited for clarity and length.

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