#i can't reblog a lot of the posts bc i'm blocked by most of the fandom so

[dearly]

Liam was so badly abused and mocked online. That needs to be called out.

i want to write about this but i don't have many examples--believe me, i KNOW it happened but i wasn't documenting anything because i was just hoping things would get better.

[scoobydoodean]

I have 2 spn accounts, a Deancentric blog that ships Destiel and another account that unintentionally follows a lot of Samgirl blogs. So one blog follows majority Deangirl blogs and the other incidentally follows a lot of Samgirl blogs. And here's the major difference I've noticed on the different dashboards.

Deangirl dashboard: Great meta analysis. Beautiful art. Level 1 and 2 headcanons (largely based in canon). Pro-Dean. Stumble across reblogs of Deancrit. Bitter Deangirl blogging. Generally fair portrayal and discussion of the positive and negative traits and actions of Dean, Sam and Cas. Deanhater anons.

Samgirl dashboard: An entirely different pool of beautiful art. Whole lotta woobie!Sam art where Dean is his abuser. Deancrit about Dean being an abuser. Bitter Samgirl blogging about how people will find any excuse to hate Sam. "How can anyone be Samcrit he has done nothing wrong ever." Level 5 headcanons (you literally ignored canon to make that up). More about how Dean is Sam's abuser. So many posts about how awful Samcrit is. "Do Deangirls really think that Dean cries himself to sleep at night thinking that ppl thinks he doesn't know how to read." I have yet to see any actual Samcrit posts (not even links or reblogs from Sam defenders), not even after literally searching the Samcrit tag for it. The Samcrit tag is full of Samgirls crying about Samcrit and no actual Samcrit. "Samgirls are feral, but we need to be bc of the hate ppl throw Sam's way."

I literally have to block so many people on the incidentally Samgirl dashboard bc I'm not on Tumblr to randomly stumble across a post on how Dean is a toxic stalker who abused Sam by changing Amelia's number in his cellphone. Do you have any idea on why Samgirls seem to feel so attacked all the time even though I literally only ever see *them* attacking Dean?

If you dig deep enough into any fandom, you will encounter people who fetishize "helpless victimhood". Some fandoms attract more people with those particular proclivities than others. Supernatural and Sam in particular attracts people who hold those sorts of aesthetic interests because of his relationship toward accountability versus Dean's.

Dean is a character with an overactive sense of responsibility. He blames himself for the Lindbergh baby and unemployment and every child murdered by a shrtiga from 1990 to 2005 because he went to play an arcade game when he was 10. He also blames himself for things like Jessica dying and Sam not being in school. Other characters pile on this blame frequently. John blames Dean for Sam getting hurt (1.18). Ruby tells him (and Sam) that Sam is a weak baby who won't psychologically survive without Dean there to protect him (3.11). Meg alleges that Dean is "dragging Sam everywhere" (1.16). Sam rewrites reality from 1.05 to 1.21 to make Dean responsible for his burning desire for revenge. Cas and Zachariah and Gabriel blame Dean when Sam breaks the last seal because he didn't stop Sam in time. Sam blames Dean for him drinking demon blood first because Dean wasn't there to protect him and then—in a complete 180—because Dean is smothering (4.04, 5.05). Dean generally absorbs blame when it is piled at his feet because he has been blamed for things he couldn't control for most of his life and thus he feels guilty and responsible for things even when him being responsible makes no logical sense. He's never a victim of anything—everything is always on him.

Sam, on the other hand, tends to eventually deflect blame because he can't handle the gnawing bite of it for long. It reminds him too deeply of being left isolated and alone as a child and the feelings of otherness and wrongness he developed through that neglect. When his actions ultimately have consequences he didn't foresee and/or that he finds undesirable, it makes him feel ugly and unaccepted and he can't face it so he eventually finds a way to make what happened someone else's fault—usually Dean's fault. Nothing is ever on him. He's always at least a little bit of a victim and Dean always carries at least partial responsibility for his decisions (1.21, 1.08, 4.04, 5.05, 8.23, 11.01)

In other words, Sam has an under-active sense of responsibility and Dean has an overactive responsibility and that dynamic—driven by their childhood experiences—places them into a vicious cycle of blame being cast onto Dean for Sam's decisions and Dean absorbing it. Dean absorbing it reinforcing the narrative for samgirls with a victimhood fetish that Dean deserves blame and that Sam truly is a helpless baby. They never watch what actually happens on the show to see whether this narrative that Dean is responsible for everything and Sam is a helpless baby lines up with the actual events that occurred onscreen because why would they? That would ruin their enjoyment. Sam isn't interesting to them outside of his capacity to be mourned as some sort of helpless martyr. And yes—they will cry and moan about how horrible and unfair Sam's suffering is, but it isn't because they're having a bad time. They're having a great time. They love thinking about Sam that way. They wouldn't be here blogging about it day in and day out for the last 20 years if they didn't actually want to see exactly what they're seeing.

Related tags of note:

#sams motivations

#taurus sam in the flesh

#In which Sam is not a helpless little waif with his hands cast over his eyes being carried along by the tides of the immutable sea

#sam the hunter

#sams follower/leader false dichotomy

#parentification

[vaspider]

Friend of mine from RL reached out like "hey I logged into Tumblr and went to try to find you so I searched vaspider and uhhh are you okay" and I'm just like, yeah, man, I have no idea what you're talking about.

So I'm gonna say this bc I have to say it every so often: Yeah, I know there are a bunch of people on here who have me living rent-free in the haterade brew of their brains.

No, I don't care.

It doesn't actually matter. Please understand that. It doesn't affect my actual life in any way. Every so often, people make me aware of someone who is stirring up a particularly noxious batch of haterade. And then?

I block them. I block their buddies who piled in on the post. I block the people who mindlessly reblog posts calling me whatever words are supposed to incite Tumblr's favorite current moral panic. I block all of them. This process takes maybe five minutes. At most. Usually, it takes a lot less.

And then - and this is the key part - I never think about any of those people ever again.

Nobody is required to like me, or to read what I write, or anything of the sort, and I'm not required to recognize that they exist. One of those two things happens, and it isn't me recognizing or remembering any of the people who spend so many thought cycles thinking about how I'm a [current scary word here].

I recommend this method for dealing with people who have nothing better going on in their lives than running around sending I SAW VASPIDER DANCING AT THE DEVIL'S MASS asks to anyone who reblogs a post with me in it or whatever. Try it. Genuinely. Just block anybody where the vibes are even slightly off - including me, sure. I assure you that if I ever notice - which is highly unlikely - I will not care. The only way I'd ever notice is if I try to like one of your posts and can't, in which case... I block you, bc if you don't want to talk to me, then cool, I'll respect that and make sure it's mutual.

And I move on with my life, and I never think about that person again.

So like, who wins in this situation? Some old dyke just minding his own business, or the people investing lots of time and energy and emotion in hating someone who doesn't remember that they exist?

[juicezone]

Hi! I'm TL, and I do agere/petre art requests! You can find my open status on my header! You can also check out this link to see my current inbox details/scheduled posts! Please read the rules below, thank you! It helps to reblog this to spread it around :D

You must obey the DNI of this account. These requests are also meant for age/pet regression/dreaming and system little/kid only, not general requests.

If requests are closed, you may DM me and ask me to send you a message/heads up when I re-open then!

Please be kind when asking :) these are not commissions, i am not required to do them! use your manners- a please, thank you, or general appreciation goes far!

if your request is something i’m not comfortable with doing, i’ll priv answer so you have the option of sending another if you’d like! (this is easiest to do if you're not on anon oryou leave an @ of your sideblog! If you're on anon, you just might not see the ask be answered.)

not a rule but feel free to give suggestions! Honestly, details can help a lot with ideas, especially when I don't know the fandom or character that well. For example, outfit ideas, toys, pacis, diaps, with a star themed blanket, as a particular animal for pet regression, a particular age range for age regressors! (further examples below) "Can you draw XX with a green paci please?" "Can you draw XX as a fox regressor please?" "Can you draw XX in a blue diap please?" I will also draw characters crying, being upset, etc. I will draw padded regressors as well, but due to past experiences, I'm not comfortable drawing accidents themself.

I’d prefer to not draw your persona/sona/ect! I don’t mind drawing in a “blank/YN” type character, but I no longer would like to draw personas/sonas/ect. Sorry! People who I have given EXPLICIT PERMISSION may ask me to draw their ocs. Please do not ask unless I have reached out to you! (will work off piccrews if you don't have ref images but also ill make you a simple ref image if u want!)

Requests may take a while! If you're unsure if your ask was eaten, please check this link! I am a fulltime college student and I have work. I do these requests for free. If you pester me, I will delete the request and block you.

Please be reasonable with the amount you're sending at once. If you've sent a request in before, you're absolutely still allowed to submit other requests! I just ask that you don't send in multiple at once - maybe limit to 2-3 a month if I'm open and accepting :).

FANDOMS I'LL DO

I'll do most any Media - it's really best to just ask! There's so many media types out there, I can't possibly list or know them all. General kids cartoons (Bluey, Winnie the Pooh, Disney, etc) Superheroes (DC, Marvel, etc) Games (FNAF, Genshin Impact*, Mass Effect, Nintendo, etc) Books (Warrior Cats, Wings of Fire, ect) Anime/Comics (My Hero Academia/Vigilantes, One Piece, Naruto, etc) Shows (Star Trek, Pokemon, Dr Who, Transformers/Robots**, ect) MCYT*** (Hermitcraft, Empires, Life Games, etc) *Complicated character outfits (like in GI or similar games) will be simplified or dressed up in different outfits! Feel free to request outfit ideas, vibes, colours, etc however :) (I find their canon outfits hard to draw sorry)

**I’ll do my best to draw robots/mecha but they are unfortunately fairly hard for me (which sucks bc I Love Transformers) so I’ll give it my best effort! *** Will not do DSMP or characters that are primarily based/originated there, sorry! Just not comfortable with it, and I'm not familiar enough to know which of those creators supported or distanced themself from Dr/eam. Will also not do Isk/all. It's best to ask, but I might be picky on accepting MCYT based requests, sorry.

FANDOMS I WON'T DO likely to be updated as i think of things/get requests in that remind me

Harry Potter, Hetalia, IRL People (as in the Content Creator - see below for more detail), Attack on Titan, Hazbin Hotel/Helluva Boss, Country humans/Country balls/Anything based off the countries, Rick and Morty, DSMP*, The Magnus Archives, Mouthwashing, Family Guy, American Dad, Southpark, Simpsons, Morel Orel, Big Mouth

ABOUT IRL PEOPLE

Will do: MCYT for example! Because my design is based off their MC skin. It's like actors v their characters if that makes sense Won't do: Things like Sanders Side or Marki/plier ego stuff, because it's like. there's nothing there for referencing other than the literal person. idk its hard to explain TLDR: thats just my comfort level sorry ^^''

[churipu]

rules !

( 𝐁𝐄𝐅𝐎𝐑𝐄 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐅𝐎𝐋𝐋𝐎𝐖 )

I.) basic dni criteria , do not go into my ask to excessively hate on me or my writings ★ my blog is a sfw blog, so please refrain from requesting anything related to nsfw or 18+ topics.

II.) (feel free to block me and do not interact with me if you support isr@el) // you like reading and writing shit like incest, stepcest, p links post (especially with minor characters) — in other words, i'm telling you to go seek help. ty.

[ ✓ ] i write my requests based on who requested first, so if yours is taking long, just know that i'm not ignoring nor deleting your request (sometimes i accidentally put your requests on the queue list — and i don't know how to edit it, so your request will still be posted in the form of a screenshot! sorry) -> update: i finally know how :D !

[ ✓ ] if your request hasn't been posted for a long time, I apologize but it probably means that i'm not going to write it. but for specific reasons, either i didn't know the prompt you're referring to or i just didn't know how to write the prompt. i'm sorry :(

III.) my works are completely sfw, suggestive at most. they are appropriate for people 16+.

( 𝐁𝐋𝐎𝐂𝐊𝐋𝐈𝐒𝐓 )

I.) i absolutely hate blocking people, but i'm setting boundaries to my blog and i as a person, so please respect that.

blocked ! i will not hesitate to block the accounts who are as the following criteria:

[ ✓ ] if you make and post porn links, HARD BLOCK. idk why they're even a thing, no offense lol. i don't mind if you write / reblog nsfw works (as long as they don't contain illegal things) bcs that's up to you really, but porn links are different and they're a big ick.

[ ✓ ] blank blogs. blank blogs. blank blogs. at least put your age, please. convince me that you are not a bot.

[ ✓ ] if you're here to hate on my writing — especially when you decide to hide behind the anon feature to do so. i mean, if you have anything to say to me, the least you could do is to have the balls to say it directly to me without hiding behind the anon feature, thankies <33

[ ✓ ] incest/step-cest, that shit is weird as hell. don't even try lol, i'm not even asking anymore atp, i'm implying for you to go get help if you write + read those.

[ ✓ ] i hope you know the difference between constructive criticism and straight on hating. i appreciate constructive criticism of my writing and how i can grow my blog — but i do wish you won't straight up blow hate on me and hide behind "constructive criticism", because honestly, that's just embarrassing :(

[ ✓ ] plagiarism. plagiarism. plagiarism. pretty self-explanatory. just no.

( 𝐊𝐄𝐄𝐏 𝐈𝐍 𝐌𝐈𝐍𝐃 )

I.) my first language is not english, i apologize for any grammar mistakes or typos! do tell me if you see any mistakes so i can immediately correct it, thank you.

II.) my blog and i am pro palestine. i reblog support to palestine a lot, block me immediately if you support isr@el in any kind of form and way ! thank you very much.

III.) i do not want to write smut for this blog, so please do not send in requests that contain smut for any characters in any kind of way. i'm honestly fine with a little suggestiveness, but full on smut is just a big no to me as of now (bcs i can't write them lmao), sorry :((

IV.) i try to keep the reader in my fics gender neutral, but if they're not, the gender of the reader will be said at the top.

V.) i don't have an updating schedule, i try to update at least once after a day. i'm currently in my fourth semester of uni, and things are currently a little hectic — but i'm trying to fit in updating daily into my schedule, so please refrain from rushing me to update. thank you!

VI.) DO NOT spam like please. tumblr will probably think that my account is a bot and possibly put me in the shadow realm :/ likes + reblogs are very appreciated, thank you :(

VII.) hate anons / cowards who hide behind the anon feature will be deleted (or posted) none in between lmao

VIII.) mutuals that want to cut contact with me -> keep in mind to HARD BLOCK my account, don't soft block me or unfollow me and just leave it at that. HARD BLOCK ME.

[ ✓ ] keep in mind that if i hard block any of you to cut the mutual line, do not try to reach me out from another account because you'll be blocked in that account as well.

[ ✓ ] i don't block people without a reason — if i block you, there must have been a reason to WHY i did that. that's your part to find out why though, because i don't want anything else to do with you.

[ ✓ ] please do not associate me with people i used to follow / supported before or were mutuals before, i associate with people i follow NOW. thank you :)

[ ✓ ] if you think i've blocked you but you don't post any contents included in my blocklist or you don't fit in those criteria, please try to reach out through another account and i will apologize sincerely for my mistake + unblock your other account.

( 𝐃𝐌𝐬 )

I.) if you have a problem with me, i appreciate if you reach out to me through my dms :)

II.) i am open to talk about anything as long as you're respectful, but please don't interact with me if you are under the age of 16.

( 𝐋𝐀𝐒𝐓𝐋𝐘 )

I.) i hope you enjoy my writings, do tell me and educate me nicely if i do anything wrong! thank you.

[ ✓ ] i do appreciate it if you tell me about problematic blogs whose works i have reblogged or am currently associated with too, i don't really keep up with a lot of things and tend to follow up really late and i would usually find out WHEN things appear in my dashboard. if my ask box is closed, please reach out to me through my dms ! thanks !

© CHURIPU 2024 . hope you follow my rules before interacting !

finished reading? you can now proceed to my masterlist !

[goosehaver]

Please check out my carrd!

here's a little intro!

hi, i'm goosehaver, aka rowan, or you can call me goose, or ducky. i'm a bird loving freak what can i say? i'm an adult, and use he/him.

tag guide:

#goose honks - general original post tag

#personal quacking - my ramblings abt my life and thoughts

#goose friends - my pets or other animals/bugs/critters

#goose arts - my various creations, crafts, art, etc

#goose hoard - plushies and other things i collect

#goose ask - asks

big, long info post under cut! prepare yourself. it's a lot. i did my best to break it up for easier readability. and please forgive any mistakes in spelling and formatting. i'm doing this on my phone, just bc i felt the urge to ramble

TLDR: read the carrd. it's basically the condensed, easy version of everything. plus, it has cute animal pics!

fun fact! those animals are all pets of mine! (not all current, but all animals i knew and loved. the duckling was actually a childhood pet) the cat is Tucker (that boy was a miracle and a menace. he survived near-death at least 3 times, and was nearly 20 pounds. not fat, just massive), the duckling is a baby pic of Pearl (he grew into a big, gorgeous boy), the goose is my evil son Lotus (he sucks but i love him anyway) and the handsome boy at the end is Daffodil! (he was such a little sweetie)

🌱about me!🌱

🦆 i post silly shit, animals, bugs, current event stuff, mutual aid/fundraisers, occasional assorted interests (though i have separate blogs for some, u can ask me abt them if u want!) and whatever else i'm feeling.

🦆 i don't tag most stuff aside from flashing lights, but if u need it feel free to ask!

🦆 if u don't like me for whatever reason, feel free to just block me. i dont like arguing. if i say/reblog something that seems iffy, or maybe the op is shitty, please let me know! i dont keep up with most of the discourse stuff, so i may not recognize if someone is bad news, and i am not infallible myself, so if i fuck up, or maybe phrase soemthing poorly, i am always open to discussion as long as you are!

🦆 i get nervous abt direct interactions, but i promise (unless i dont see it for whatever reason, tumblr does eat asks and notifs sometimes) i will reply eventually, unless i feel i have nothing to say, maybe. i dont mean to me rude, i'm just autistic and tend to overthink this stuff.

🦆like i said, i'm super nervous, but i would love to make friends, or even just friendly acquantinces! that said, if you'd like to say hi, or whatever else, please feel free to reach out! i'm rarely brave enough to be the one to start a conversation. i have tons of free time, so you're not gonna inconvenience me. just don't be surprised if i take a while to respond. anxiety and all, y'know. or we can just trade pet/animal pics. that would be fun.

🦆regarding fundraisers: as of now i am reopening my askbox. i've decided to, instead of answering every individual ask, to just rb their posts with the link, unless it seems suspicious or i can't confirm it's vetted. this has not rlly been an issue in the past, though, just clarifying that, unless the ask is lost/broken, i'll rb any verified fundraiser. mutual aid posts will be handles the same way, minus the vetting.

🌱onto the annoying part🌱

🚫this is the end of the fun part. you are now entering the "dni" portion. of course, if u dont want to read it all, you can just block me, or read the short one on the carrd. for the most part, it's just expanding on the usual stuff. nothing too absurd or unusual i think.

⚠️if any of this applies to you, please just block me and move on. arguing is annoying and unpreductive. we will not agree. we will not get along. please save us both some time and simply block me. also! i am not implying that everything i'm abt to list is equally "bad" or immoral. some are just things i don't care to interact with, for whatever reason. ok? (these are sorted by category) ⚠️

🚫proship, comship, darkship, profic, comfic, or whatever else people are calling it now. to clarify, anything that involves romanticizing/sexualizing/otherwise trearing the following as morally good or unproblematic (genuinely, i don't meant unreliable narrators or whatever): incest, pedophilia, zoophilia, necrophilia, rape, sexual assault, grooming, abuse, bigotry of any kind (ableism, transphobia, homophobia, antisemitism, you get the idea).

⚠️DISCLAIMER⚠️

❗️before i move on, no, i'm not saying these things cannot or should not exist in media/fiction. i'm specifically against using them as essentually jerk-off material. these things can and should be discussed/written about, but not as fetish material.

🚫animal rights activists (not animal welfare, that's a different thing!), PETA supporters, anti zoo (referring to the facilities, not zoophiles. and also meaning being against the existance of any and all zoos, not just the bad ones. being against shitty zoos is valid), folks who are insistant shaming others for their choice of diet (not just vegans/vegetarians. i don't agree with anyone bullying others about food, regardless of what diet they are pushing), people who knowingly endanger or mistreat animals, or support those who do (improper housing, diet, keeping wild animals without necessary training/permits, cohabiting incompatible species, etc.), outdoor cat defenders (ppl who insist cats should be outside), fox-feeder types (disrupting wildlife populations by interfering, by feeding, petting, or otherwise treating wild animals like pets, leading to them losing wild instincts), anti farming (meaning the idea of farming as a whole, not improperly managed farms, or abuse of farm animals), people who insist on hating/being nasty about a particular animal or bug (you are allowed to dislike them, but wishing harm/death on them/people who like them is not okay!).

⚠️DISCLAIMER⚠️

❗️no, i am not an animal expert, nor do i claim to be. i just have strong opinions/morals regarding animal welfare, and i am not open to arguing over the above topics. i am, however, always open to learning about and discussing animal welfare in general. i just have some stances i am not about to back down on.

🚫folks who are way too into discourse (of any kind, really. just like, any intense arguing over insignificant things. legit issues are fine.) ppl who try to cancel/call-out others over petty things (again, legit reasons are different. and i'm referring to situations where people harrass or endanger someone specifically. petty drama is annoying, but not really harmful) basically anyone who is just needlessly mean tbh. i don't care for constant negativity (you don't need to be all sunshine all the time, just don't be a dick for no reason) ppl who bully others for being furries/therians/otherkin/etc. (it's such a non-issue. you can have beef with them for other reasons, but if you're just being a hater for no reason, that's lame).

⚠️DISCLAIMER⚠️

❗️this is not about spreading info about people who are legitimately dangerous, or serious issues like that. i mean stuff like arguing over fandom shit or inventing reasons to stat drama. i am simply too old for all that and want no part in it

🚫similar to above, folks who engage in infighting/othering parts of their community unjustly (meaning lgbt ppl who are bigoted towards certain groups in the community, like bipobic gays for example, or neurodiverse people who demonize certain conditions, such as npd or schizophrenia, that sort of thing), ppl who are against objectum/posic folk (it hurts no one, and as someone with strong attactments to objects i feel a sort of kinship even if i may not fully understand), ppl who are anti-kink types (kink referring to actual kinks, and not actual harmful shit that some try to call kinks. meaning, as i said above, incest/pedo/zoo/necro/rape. i also mean ppl who demonize or try to shame others for simply having a kink, not rightfully calling out inappropriate behavior involving/blamed on a kink) or otherwise shame others for sexual activity (other than the previously stated, or exposing non-consenting parties to their activities. those are genuine issues), ppl who are mean/rude to others based on their age (like being mean to old ppl just bc they're old, or kids just bc they're young), anyone who condones child abuse (including spanking, yelling at kids for no reason, corporal punishment stuff, just treating kids as lesser).

⚠️DISCLAIMER⚠️

❗️you cannot change my mind. block and move on.

🚫anyone who hates any of my big interests (sorry, you're allowed to feel that way, but we're not gonna get along. i'm very passionate about the things i like. no hard feelings!), people who really dislike/fear bugs/spiders (same as before), if you're under 16 (perhaps hyppocritical, but if you're much younger than that you shouldn't be here tbh, for safety reasons. i was, and it was not good for me. but hey, i can't stop you. just be safe. as for my blog spefically, it's not explicit, but i'd rather not have kids looking at it. i don't care if they interact with my original posts, but i reblog adult jokes, post about intense topics, and sometimes gory art/horror content, and i just don't think kids need to see that), ppl who don't like adult jokes (jokes abt sexual things, or dark humor. you're valid, but i do rb that kind of thing), or you just simply don't like my vibe (which is fine! you do you, i'll do me. we can stay put of each other's way).

🎈you have reached the end. congrats! if you read all that, and you're not headed to the block button, you're a real champ. if you skimmed, that's still pretty admirable. if you skipped to the bottom, that's cool, too. i know that was a lot. thanks for looking anyway!🎈

[starry-sophrosyne]

Started stressing out abt this idea when I read through crashing's and eldette's reblog of my reblog of pen's post (GO READ IT IF YOU HAVEN'T BTW /srs HERES THE LINK.) so I'm gonna make this post for my own sake; and yes, even though it was so long ago, it's never left my mind.

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I'm also gonna put this under a cut, despite my original plan not to, bc I've seen everyone sharing the same ideas about this whole "we might get found out" notion. However, this still is a conception abt/for myself that I sincerely want people to see and understand/to talk abt, even it's not directly related to the "rpf community exposure" itself, so yeah. While this post is definitely unnecessarily long, esp considering how long it's been since the incident that prompted me to write this, I still think it's worth posting; Especially considering the fact that I don't think the "rpf-community-exposure-situation" will get better from here. Either way, thank you guys for understanding and reading. /srs /gen

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I've been pretty scared to reveal my really negative side within this community just bc of how I try to come off as/get perceived - i.e. the reason I use emoticons - so I haven't ever really fully crashed out in a post like I did previously. Even seeing Eldette's and Crashing's reblogs, they definitely put it a lot nicer than I did, which is fair and also credit to how probably they are irl; It's just that I think I'm very different regarding which parts of myself I expose to others, and you guys in particular, especially regarding my anger. I'm not going to edit that post because I think it's the blunt truth in the most unapologetic way possible, which is truthfully the way I am, but I hope that you guys understand that my negativity in those kinds of posts is not the same personality i have when I go about posting my regular things about the guys n stuff :_)

For that matter, I hope y'all don't see me differently or have a warped/changed view on personality/character. What I mean by this is that I'm hoping you all still like me despite seeing the bad parts of me. However, it's also something that's unavoidable, for people to not like you once they get to know the more uglier sides of you; So I guess what I want you guys to do more than genuinely like me is, that regardless of what y'all think now, you guys are all honest with me and yourself. If you don't wanna see "those" posts of mine bc they're a little extreme for you, but you wanna continue interacting with my other posts, that's fine, please do! I don't plan to post those seriously negative posts frequently at all. However, if you really find yourself really uncomfortable by those posts, esp knowing that I might slip up into that sort of personality in the future, please feel free to block me. I've blocked some pc crit blogs that I really wanted to see certain posts of theirs, but I couldn't stand seeing other posts they made, so I made a decision that was better for the both of us in the end, because I knew it wouldn't be worth it to continue interacting with them if that was how I truly felt. Either way, I won't take it personally if you do the same at all, because the truth is, if you don't like me, you just don't. Nothing I'm gonna do to try and change that, because more often than not, it's something that can't be helped. So uhh.. yeah- :,)

TLDR: If me crashing out in posts like this makes you uncomfortable, feel free to stop interacting; I won't be like that often but I do plan to let my true personality show a little more, hope you all still accept me despite what may be a very unnecessary fear of mine :)

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This is a side tangent that was written after the initial post was drafted, it's more relevant to clearing up my identity and the differences between me, my personas and my self-inserts in aus. It's too complicated to be TL:DR'ed, however, so read at your own will; it's not as important for ppl to fully understand either as the previous point, but extremely important to me and my definitions. /gen /srs.

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I've decided to label this alternate emotional state of mine (serious & comes out when talking about stuff regarding the pc rpf community, mainly as a whole/regarding the incidents that have and will continue to happen) as Rosyne, but not in relation to the april fools joke I did as "Rosyne". The personality of that "Rosyne" while blogging is more or less the personality of "Rosyne" as a character, rather than myself or my persona that's changed in regards to my self insert. I know that's all super confusing so let's just clarify:

Starry and Rosyne, by themselves, are just me; both part of my identity. Rosyne is my personality when I’m addressing serious stuff. Starry is my personality when I’m posting about anything else, aka my neutral state, and is (therefore) the name I go by on this blog. Starry and Rosyne, as self inserts, are representations of myself within fics/aus. They might have jobs/roles that are entirely inaccurate regarding my actual jobs/roles (or personal interests) irl, but they only have these in order to fit the narrative. Starry and Rosyne, as self inserts, are also two entirely different individuals, as it makes more sense than one person with two different identities. Either way though, they are supposed* to be genuine representations of myself, through and through. Starry and Rosyne, as general personas, however, are the designs of my identities; They still represent me, only giving me the ability to alter my appearance in a way I can't irl. However and more importantly, they also connect my self-inserts in aus to my identity, as they are the base design/reference for the self-inserts' appearances (which change depending on the au). I do have my general persona designs for both Rosyne and Starry, along with several self-inserts designs for diff fic aus, I just haven't posted them yet.

*This is where I've found this issue of some sorts. You see, I feel as if I've started to turn Starry and Rosyne into actual characters rather than my self-inserts within my writings about aus/fics. Especially Rosyne, although to a reasonable fault, as it's hard to characterize the part of you that only talks abt the actual pc rpf community issues. Either way, the writer side of me has become so obsessed with making them narratively-fleshed out that they don't really feel like direct representations of myself anymore; They feel more like ocs whose experiences & preferences are heavily influenced by the ones I have irl, and whose names are related to me, but they're unrealistic to what a direct 1-1 self insert/representation of myself would be.

I still plan to write about them, especially in regards to this post, but not only are "the-things-they've-experienced" not accurate to the things I've actually experienced irl, but they are also a bit more dramatized in general just for the sake of narrative/creative writing. Not to say that"the-things-they've-experienced" aren't influenced by my own personal experiences, of course. After all, aren't all of our ocs reflections of ourselves/our irl journeys/stories? Just expect me to continue anxiety tagging "dont-take-this-too-seriously!-(´ ᗣ ` )՞" in all my upcoming posts/drabbles about my TTOS "personas"-

[porcelainpistol]

If this is an account ran by an adult, please know posting images of 13 year old girls is kinda weird.

*run

i get messages like this a lot, and boy howdy is it exhausting for people who can't even defend their moral stance with their username attached to try and come at me. so, i'm gonna make a Big Statement on it, and i'll probably just point to this post if i get more messages on it

it's pics archiving a subculture. if nobody shared any pics bc we can't verify ages on a lot of the people in them, then we would have a very, very small amount of pics to share

they're mainly selfies, and were originally posted by the people in them. ie, the people in them put them out in the internet ether themselves. i was one of them. my own teenage face is on this blog

a large amount of people in the subculture weren't even minors, no less as young as 13, unless you think it was common for 13 year olds in the 2000s to have fantasy colored hair, piercings, and tattoos

contemporary pics, since the aesthetic has had a resurgence, may be of some minors, but that would also mean i couldn't engage with any new content

most of the content on this blog is reblogs, and if i'm the originator the pics were found on other image archive. they were already in circulation

it'd be different if i was inviting minors to come into my dms or trying to slide into theirs, making inappropriate commentary on the pics, or the pics being the only thing posted here, but i'm just vibing looking at pics of fashion and things related to a subculture i still enjoy. subculture can be enjoyed by anyone of any age. if that's weird, it's because you're making it weird

maybe you don't see it this way, but this mentality is basically telling me that because i'm an adult, i can no longer engage with a subculture i was in the first generation of, unless you expect the only content on this blog to be invader zim and gloomy bear with no actual examples of the aesthetic. folks wonder why you can't learn anything about a specific subculture or era or interact with elders of a subculture when folks act like the people from the first wave of it still engaging with it are """weird""" for having actual pics from that era on a nostalgia blog, and try to push them out

i'll also have you know this blog was around in 2018, and i find having joined the subculture in 2004-2005 a source of pride. i done been here, and you're on my lawn, whippersnapper

if you're uncomfortable with the content on this blog, i recommend you block it

[lunadreamscaper]

Basic Info and Introduction Page

I am the mostly present host of our system, still the same ol Larry Da' Cat! you all remember, just rebranded!

i'm also gay as fuck and an ex mormon (ex cult) now, also it's been literal fucking yearsa So any and ALL past drama is no longer relevant to who we are or what we believe in. B)

(you can ask questions about the past drama if your intentions are genuine but I can't garuntee we'll respond to them but it's a possibility)

With that being said. Here are the headmates that will probably be interacting with this post the most

Luna Dreamscaper (me) • she/they • host • (no sign off usually except for 🌙)

Johnny Ghost • he/they • brother • 🔦

Frank • he/they/she • brother • ⚠️

Jimmy • he • 🦐/⚰️

Hunter • he/them • co-host(???) • 🐦‍🔥/⚜️

yes we have a Johnny Toast, no he is not dating Johnny Ghost. (please do not ask headmate/alters if they're dating just to live your shipping fantasies. no one likes it and also it's weird/lh)

no they aren't my literal brothers but found family bc we can do that lol 😭🙏

it's an 80% chance that you'll mostly get Luna (me) tho lol.

we are not comfortable with people asking to talk to specific headmates but I can grab their opinions on things... maybe.

remember that we are people and not fictional characters lol 💜🩵💙🖤

assholes get thrown into the sun -🔦

We are bodily 22! Headmates ages range from 18-22 as well.

Things we will post about:

Mostly VenturianTale but expect other things like Supernatural, Smosh, OCs, Strive SMP & Crow SMP (smps we're in), vents and rants?, stuff about plurality (mostly our own experiences tbh) and other stuff i like.

and we reblog a lot. because that's what tumblr is for😭🙏

we also call our VentrianTale PIE focused au "Shatterverse." B)

@pie-resurgence is our alt about more of our p.i.e. lore and related projects!

I love P.I.E. so much and the VT world and it's lore, we love receiving Asks about the topics!

also please reblog our art! we would appreciate that so much! 😭🙏

(post is long af but here's more info down below) 👇

the basic DNI's should obvious but here is a few specifics that we won't engage in:

endos make us nervous due to bad experiences so we will not interact.

this is very specific and targeted but i dont care: people who think they're their source. and actively brag that you did the terrible things that source character has done. we'll just block you lol.

we don't hate this ship or mind people who ship it but please don't ping us in anything Ghost x Toast or Jimmy x Gavin related. (also bad experiences. also makes headmates uncomfortable lol 😔✊)

Speaking of ships. anyone who comes to us complaining about what we do indulged in will get thrown into a Volcano. (Blocked.) unless it's actually problematic, stfu lol.

don't be weird/passive aggressive/mean towards mine, friends VT headcanons. VenturianTale was written badly let people do what they want. Unless it's problematic as shit. stfu pt 2

Please go to Google/do research about systems, DID, OSDD and general Plurality. (the only questions about systemhood we'll answer is how we interpret Johnny Ghost/Jimmy's plurality, or any other plural-coded characters)

Jordan and Isaac Frye supporters dni. see this post.

trying to bring back old dusty ass drama will not be tolerated lol (this probably won't happen but it's happened before because people are cringe

also mormons dni. yall got me fucked up lol

Okay that's it. for now. Thank you for reading this through.

[statementlou]

i genuinely dont mean this to be shady but do you have any tags for your larry/1d related so i can block them? bc i always LOVE your takes and answers but i dont think i want to religiously see those things on my timeline and i also dont think i want us to unfollow each other lol

Hm! On the one hand, if people don't want to see something and ask for a tag, usually no brainer, ofc. And you're very sweet about it! But first of all to be clear, this is a One Direction fan blog; Louis is my favorite and I mostly blog about him, but I think it's all fascinating and all of them are interesting to me even if only for having been part of everything that happened. But that's not really the point here- the next most posts after Louis solo content I have lately are Zayn posts and you're not asking me to tag those even though he was in 1D; this is about what parts of Louis people want to see. But the thing is: larry and One Direction posts ARE LOUIS CONTENT, that's part of following Louis and talking about him and what's going on with him, which is what I DO! And actually I'm not into being part of the project of trying to erase huge parts of his life by acting like it's shameful or separate from current day Louis. I don't think being the most influential part of the biggest band in the world is shameful or something he would want danielled, and I don't think Harry Styles is evil and needs to be erased from history. I think that pretending big parts of Louis' life didn't happen is weird and is pretending he's someone other than who he is, which is basically insulting him if you ask me because his actual self is great, and like… I'm not into it. In this house we appreciate ALL of Louis!

However! I do tag my thoughts posts ("blah blah blah") and anyone can follow that as a tag (or other specific tags of mine like screen design or louis promo or what have you) if they unfollow me as a blog to just see my wordy ass takes and not all these glorious Louis pics and updates (and occasional other things). And if I follow you now I will continue to unless you post a bunch of things I don't like (ie about how much you hate 1D and larries lol or you just get really enthused about some untagged anime and I can't handle it); this is a sideblog so I can't easily see who I'm mutuals or not with, and I follow or don't based on whether a blog's content is what I want on my dash or not, period. There are lots of lovely people who I think highly of but don't follow and I support anyone doing the same, do what works for you. But I hope you instead choose to keep the small number of 1D and larry posts I make or reblog on your dash and take the opportunity to get to know Louis better by also letting those parts of his life be part of your picture of him rather than erasing it, which I think does him a disservice, and also leaves out a lot of context for the present moment. You say you appreciate my takes and thoughts: the things I chose to post are part of that! It's food for thought maybe! But also anyone can also just filter some key phrases or blogs and get rid of a lot of whatever they don't like that way from not just me but everyone ;)

[cloudy-with-a-chance-of-chaos]

"This is real, this is me" - Demi Lovato, at some point back in the 2000s

TL;DR: Hi, my name is Laura and this is my personal blog. I'm Christian and vocal about it, we can talk about it if you want. I'm Brazilian and bilingual and so is this blog. I talk a lot so my posts will be often lengthy; I'm a librarian and a writer so I'll be posting about things around these themes - info science, organization, book-related, writing, short stories, OCs… I have a lot of interests ranging from Ts4, BG3 to kpop and poetry so expect those too. I'm an insecure artist, looking for a place to call mine, basically. More info bellow the cut.

It's probably the millionth time I try to kick start this blog, but anyway

Hi everyone! My name is Laura and this is my personal blog. Before anything, lemme present myself.

First of all, I'm Christian. I think it's important to clarify this right off the top so we're clear on how this blog goes and how I go. I'm Christian and really value my faith, I'm rather vocal about it, so that's within basically everything I do. I'm also always avaiable to talk about it to curious people or fellow Christians wanting to talk. Hit me up if you feel like it ✨

I do not enjoy this bit but, if things get rather hostile or aggressive, I'm unfollowing/blocking and ask you do the same bc there's no need to keep annoying ourselves. Jesus said to turn the other cheek, not to become a doormat so we'll keep things respectful and friendly as to not get into heated arguments ok? Ok.

With that on the clear, here's other things for you to know me: I'm Brazilian! And living in Brazil (for now). I speak Portuguese as a first language, and English as a second - and do risk myself at Spanish sometimes, and I'm learning Korean, so: this is a bilingual and at times multilingual blog. THOUGH I will be speaking English most of the time. That's what most people speak around here, right, so let's go, bora pra cima Brasil 🥳

⚠️This is a warning⚠️ please be noted that I talk a lot. I know I do. I talk way too much in person and type even more, so please be WARNED that my texts (this bio included!) will more often than not be lengthy. I apologize but also don't. That's it.

Hmmm, what else? Oh Yeah Well

I'm a Librarian! And a writer! I have an insane amount of projects going on now (you can call me a workaholic lol). I'm an enthusiast for Library Sciences and topics related to information, organization, books! Everything Info Science is on my radar, so I'll be probably talking about that or linking my other blog with texts about that. Feel free (and please do) to ask me about those things!

As for the Writer part, I'm a fantasy writer, with about 3 to 4 different sagas going on inside my head and very little written about them 🤡 I'm trying to get better at that as to be able to actually have something to show people rather than loose drafts. I'm also an enthusiast for short stories so I'll be eventually posting drabbles about random themes!

That's actually the whole point of this blog, writing.

Other interests and possible themes to be happening here are related to:

The Sims 4 (hi Simblr ^^); I do play this too often and will be rambling about my Sims OCs;

Baldur's Gate 3 [screams]; I am OBSESSED with this game but only get to play it when I go to my bestie's place, so not that many posts about it BUT I WILL DEFINITELY BE TALKING ABOUT ASTARION. No, I'm not a weirdo Astarion Girlfriend, I'm a normal person;

Cats. I love cats, I have cats, I'm obsessed with cats;

Poetry; I take my chance at those very rarely but I do;

Super Junior and other kpop subjects; 🤩 I'm ELF, yeah, I did write a handful of fanfics about SJ so I'll link them at my catalog, though I don't write those anymore. I do talk about them tho;

Hm, idk, the color blue, art, sea and storms (huge fan of those), random reblogs about aesthetic stuff, photography, museums, wtv. If you can't tell I have major hyperfixes in random things.

I do think of myself as an artist and I've been considering and not doing things like this blog for way too long. This is my try at making it work. I do write and post on other platforms (you can navigate through them on the buttons on the top of my blog - on desktop view - or on the links on my soon to be pinned post) but they don't usually take lengthy (I really like this word) posts like Tumblr can so HERE AM I.

I hope to find my people around here.

This is a very quick shortened bio of mine (believe me), ask me questions if you want to, my askbox 📫 is always open. And please remember: internet is just a slice of someone's life so don't go around making assumptions.

ー L

[aangarchy]

Tbh it's just Tumblr tag culture to tag all sorts of spoilers? Because we can't just assume everyone had the previlege and luxury to have had access to the internet and to consume fiction media as it came out..... Like my case may be extreme but my family was literally too busy squatting and living as ~illegals~ so we could never have an internet or cable connection for like 8 years. So I've got A LOT of catching up to do on pop culture etc and maybe one of my followers was in the same or a similar situation? Anyway that's how Tumblr works, we just tag spoilers because it doesn't cost anything and it doesn't ruin the experience of people who were too living too unstably, people who lived in rehabilitation centers, people who weren't allowed to consume certain media because of their parents, people who've put off watching a show because of a particular trauma or squick but who still want to watch it eventually etc

Okay now you're just being fucking annoying. Why are you tying your personal sobstory/trauma to something as stupid as TAGGING A POST. It's not even a tw tag either (bc if it was then i would understand) it's literally just my POV on when spoiler tags should and shouldn't be used.

Let me simplify this One more time. Tagging for spoilers on tumblr only works if everyone collectively does it. That way people can block said spoiler tag for a set amount of time, so everything tagged with #(content) spoilers will not show up on their TL. Example: new season of sex education dropped. People are tagging their posts about S4 with #sex education s4 spoilers, or just #sex education s4 because most people who don't want to get spoiled will have those tags blocked. That's how the tag system works. Everyone needs to do it, otherwise spoilers will still show up. People especially did this when avengers infinity war and endgame dropped respectively, bc those fandoms are very serious abt spoilers.

For atla there is NO USE in tagging spoilers because NOBODY DOES IT ANYMORE. This show is older than a lot of you on this fucking app. If you decide to go through the atla tag on tumblr, or follow atla blogs, you WILL get spoiled even if you have the spoiler tag blocked because i can't think of a single atla blog i follow that tags their fucking spoilers nowadays.

I'm not saying you're not allowed to tag spoilers. In fact i have never once said the words "don't tag atla spoilers". What i am saying, is that it's redundant to do so and it kind of makes you look stupid because, again, fucking DUH!

Once again you people are pretending like the internet needs to follow YOUR rules. "Oh people might not watch now bc of a trauma and might still want to enjoy the show later" ok and? Don't go following or reblogging atla blogs before you've even watched then, bc you WILL GET SPOILED. You're responsible for creating your own internet experience. I haven't watched sex ed s4 yet so i blocked the spoiler tags and for good measure i'm not scrolling the main tag either, because i don't rely on other internet users to do the work for me (even though i don't rlly care that much abt spoilers for that show). When heartstopper s2 came out i couldn't watch for two days bc of work, so i avoided everything to do with that show until i watched. That way i didn't accidentally get spoiled by someone who forgot to tag or just doesn't tag.

(Like i said this is different for tw tags, like tw flashing or tw gore or tw sexual assault. Those are things everyone absolutely must tag for the safety of everyone online. I would not want to be responsible for someone having a seizure bc i didn't tag a gifset with tw flashing)

This is my opinion on spoiler tags. It leans into my opinion on spoiler culture as a whole tbh but i digress. Once again: you can tag whatever you want. I just personally find it redundant and i'm allowed to make fun of it. I'm not making fun of YOU, i'm making fun of the concept of tagging spoilers for something that's nearly 20 yrs old. Hence the star wars spoiler joke i made, or when someone in the tags said someone got mad for spoiling fucking titanic (which is hilarious bc that's a historical event lmao).

This is the last i'll say about it bc honestly you're just pissing me off now. I'm allowed to enjoy posting about my show without having to pay mind to people who haven't watched yet but might in the future.

[therhythmafterthesummer]

I've come to ask something from you bc I kinda see you as a mom on Tumblr (and I mean that in the most respectful, honorable way) just bc your fics are top tier quality and I just think you're so fucking cool.

I'm a writer myself, I have over 1k followers (I know it's not much) my top post has almost 2k notes, I have more than I think 3 posts over 1k notes (not boasting this is genuinely with a purpose) but all my latest fics don't go over say like 200 notes. I've tried softer fics, more smutty fics, more thorough, less thorough, I've changed the way I write and still nothing gets me as many likes as I used to get before. So now I'm thinking I was just a one hit wonder?

I even stopped posting and only dropped fics every now and then bc I thought I was annoying people and that's why my likes dropped? But I gain like over 10 followers a day so I really don't understand.

Basically what I'm saying is, I've been considering leaving Tumblr bc of this, because I just feel like I've gotten too greedy and 200 notes isn't enough, I want more like I used to get. I've even become fearful of requests bc I constantly think is this one even gonna make it. I'm talking about spending 7 hours on a fic just for it to get like 50 likes, that's devastating and fucking heart wrecking. I have writers block because I just repeat to myself that it won't even make it so what's the point.

So I've come to ask for your advice, to ask if you think I should push through, or leave, or what should I do bc I just don't know anymore. I'm sorry for the lengthy message I've just been needing advice and I couldn't think of a better person to ask than you.

Thank you for taking the time 💕

not you calling me a mum and cool, pls skdjfskdfjhsfd i'm warm.

okay, first of, i'd like to say 1k followers is a lot ! at least in my perspective. when you imagine how 1k people look like in a room it's certainly a lot hahah. if it eases your mind, i'll tell you that our numbers are pretty similar, at least the ones you described.

with that being said... here's what i think, and it might not really be what you want to hear. mind you, this is 100% just my opinion, and how i personally view this hobby of writing fanfiction. other people might have different opinions to mine, yourself included, and that's fine...

if you're writing with numbers in mind, you'll never be satisfied with anything you do. whenever you set a target audience for your writing that isn't yourself, you start losing the joy. it all becomes a spiral of 'is this good enough?' 'what if this doesn't gather an XYZ amount of notes?' rather than what the story really is about.

notes never ever determine how good a story is. i've seen stories with notes around the five digits that i personally didn't find particularly enjoyable, whereas stories i absolutely adored and made me feel a plethora of emotions still sit within the three digits. it's all subjective, and also a bit of luck. sometimes all it takes is a blog with a moderately sized following to reblog your story on main for that story to blow up, really.

if you're writing solely for the validation that notes can bring you, that's valid, it's fine, but it's, in my opinion, something that is bound to make you question your own passion (like it seems to be happening to you right now). it's a completely volatile and unreliable source of energy, and the moment it starts wavering, it all feels worthless (even when it isn't).

which is why i, personally, write because i just... feel like it. i want to read the stories that pop up in my head, it's why i always mention the 'little lizard' in my brain, because i genuinely just work on what i want to work on and that's it. it's also why my creative process doesn't work for "requests". if someone requests something that doesn't immediately spark my interest, i won't be able to fulfil it, so i'll be both bummed out by that fact, and the fact that i can't give the person what they requested in the first place.

ultimately, i'll write stories even if i don't post them, because i enjoy them. i enjoy doing this. i choose to share them with the world, and if there's people out there that enjoy them, too, that's great, it's amazing! and if a story isn't particularly popular, that's okay, too. it was written for me, and i loved it, so i already feel accomplished.

all this to say, my advice to you is that you sit back and start thinking about why you're doing this.

writing takes time, takes energy, and if you're doing it for anything other than the pleasure of writing and reading the story yourself, it's gonna weigh heavily on you. creativity isn't something that can be forced. so, if you force yourself to write something just because of the numbers it might bring, you're already setting yourself for heartbreak when the engagement you receive isn't the one you expected (because it's never enough. when you spend hours working on something you feel like you deserve a million notes, and you do, but it's not how this platform works, unfortunately). you'll end up just resenting the hobby in general, and burning yourself out because you're forcing yourself to write even if you don't feel like it, just because you want to see the numbers grow.

whenever i feel too tired, too overwhelmed, and too insecure about my work, i try to take a step back and give myself grace. i went on hiatus a while ago because i was starting to obsess over the numbers too much, and that time away made me realise all the things i said above. numbers aren't a direct reflection of your work, nor your worthiness as a writer, you know?

i'm not sure if this will be helpful to you or not, i genuinely hope it is. just know that if you feel like it, my DMs are open if you want to talk about this further (:

[dumbdomb]

just so yknow tht post by kittenteeth have pornblogs in their dni!

so, nsft blogs are not pornblogs. "pornblogs" are accounts that are mostly impersonal, and very heavily show content that is extremely graphic and no other content. typical blogs i see post lots of thin, light skin, nude women or lots of content that clearly belongs to someone else (whether it be an independent swer or studio production). these blogs are violating the tos and community guidelines and risk being reported or terminated by the website itself.

bc i post lots of nsft, it only makes sense that i limit who i interact with (not reblogging from and blocking people under eighteen years of age). if someone has a description or pinned stating something like: nsft or kink blogs dni, then i avoid interacting and usually block that person to prevent accidentally interacting in the future. i never intended to strictly post nsft content, and i don't. this is a personal blog. i just try to maintain safety, respect, and limit my interactions to fellow adults around here.

i agree with kitttenteeth about not wanting older men lurking around and interacting, i also do not want that. i sometimes can't believe how many people i find that are closer to my age, that i have to block bc they are intentionally following and seeking much younger people... it's giving too "maps" for my comfort levels. though there are a few older people that have stuck around, it seems most have left for other platforms and got busy with work, kids, life, etc...

please do not refer to my blog as a pornblog just bc i post nsft and kinky content. if you view all nsft blogs this way, regardless of what they post, please block me. sex-negative, anti-kink, and anti-porn people are not welcome here. my blog welcomes ace/aro/allo kinksters, poc and people with different views on sexuality than what is normalized in western and mainstream society. ...and please do not involve other users if this was an attempt to harass me. it's not necessary, if you have questions about what someone allows or has boundaries with on their blog, it's best to ask the source for clarity rather than create a bigger situation out of nothing.

edited, october 6th, to include:

nsft and pornblogs were never synonymous, except to sfw users who didn't want to be around anything sexual or kinky at all. idk what you mean about "making your space safe for people like you" but i'm also ace and kinky. i'll post the tag below i use specifically for aspec content...

i think if there's ever any confusion about the intention of someone's dni, limits, boundaries then the best way to understand is to contact that person directly- which would've been the other blog in this case, not mine. it wasn't my dni, it was hers. regardless, this has been sorted and i have no ill feelings about it.

i appreciate you taking the time to think about this and write back. this post was for clarity and transparency, not a reprimand. i had no intention to make anyone feel bad and was mostly worried if i'd accidentally crossed some boundaries here (which wasn't the case at all and why i wrote everything out explaining things). i try to be very respectful of people's dni and how i'm interacting with different posts from everyone (since my blog is not entirely nsft, kinky, etc and i do post other things).

[epickiya722]

Honestly, i think there's a lot of people from twt who hates Tumblr bc they just, don't really know how to actually get used to using it, can't even. And I do kinda understand why.

Tumblr is a whackland full of inside jokes that operate in a way that ppl have to participate for it to be fun, and it requires even more effort to keep you and your friends out there so not to be confused for a bot or be completely invisible, and to set your preferences straight before you start.

A lot of them have really bad burnout and all of this is probably too energy taking, and i get it.

Very random, but I'll reply.

Honestly, even with all the advice posts on how to work with Tumblr and what to avoid, I think, yeah it does take a lot of energy to get used to it.

But that also can apply to any site that people are not used to.

I'm sure if I get a Twitter I'll get tired from getting started because I'm not used to having a Twitter. (Honestly doubt I'll ever get one.)

Really the most I have to say to anybody joining Tumblr, not just refugees but to anybody, is take two minutes at least changing your profile pic.

It's just me, but when I first got a Tumblr before I followed anybody, the first thing I did was change my username, created a header and icon and changed out of the default header and icon to them.

I just hate having a "boring theme" so it's always my first priority when having an account for anything that allows to me to have changes.

And I'm just at the point of giving up on repeating the same thing over and over.

If folks want to lurk, alright, fine. I personally don't care. You wanna continue having a default icon despite people saying don't, that's you. I already have my icon and header changed.

(By the way, these porn bots also now have the default icons, not just the sexy ladies as their icons. I blocked like five recently.)

If people want to have an empty blog, go ahead.

At this point, I just don't care.

Tumblr is indeed a whackland of jokes and whatnot, but it's also the user's responsibility to decide if they participate in those jokes or not. If they don't get a joke, that's fine. I didn't get some jokes despite never have left Tumblr.

Example, I did not care for the vanilla extract joke. Didn't hate it, but didn't find it funny either. It was "meh" for me. So I ignored it. Because it's not a requirement for me to participate in the joke. People I follow were reblogging the joke and all I did was scroll past. Took little effort.

Just... do whatever you want with your Tumblr, really. Yes, still figure out how the settings work, look at the posts that show you how to use said settings.

But if you choose not to participate in jokes, don't. It is not an obligation and anyone who says otherwise is either just being an asshole or just joking.

Don't feel pressured to have your Tumblr a certain way because everyone else does.

That's really all I have say. 🤷🏿‍♀️

[apricior]

Good for you for taking a break and unfollowing blogs that are causing you stress. I recently unfollowed a whole bunch of my mutuals bc they were reblogging a lot of antisemitic posts, and even though I have most of the tags blocked it was still getting to me. There are not a lot of jews or supporters in the dndads fandom lol. I'm not open about being Jewish or Israeli online for obvious reasons but since I can't make my own post about it I wanted to congratulate you for taking a stand

it is honestly very heartbreaking cause it's so... relentless. the hatred and misinformation is genuinely a very serious problem, and i'm very sorry that you have to hide your identity to avoid hate. i'm sending you all my love and support and if you ever want to chat, my dms are open <3