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sweeethinny · 4 years ago

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He and Harry had a fight last week... James said he didn’t like him anymore.’’ Ginny looked at her mother, looking a little sadder now. ‘’Harry cried.’ Would you consider writing their fight and then James Sirius apologizing? I was (re)reading this today and I just love it

thank you anon! you can also read it on AO3, if you want :)

the last part, is the content of the letter that james wanted to send to Harry, i hope you liked it! <3 PART 1, i think? idk, but the fanfic that anon referred to

Ginny didn't quite know what was going on when she got home, exhausted from yet another tiring day at work, with sexist coaches who didn't listen to what she had to say in the interviews, and other journalists who didn't care about the ideas she had proposed.

She did not expect to feel so miserable when she agreed to work on the Prophet.

But either way, she was happy that Harry managed to cut the workload that month, spending more time at home with the kids, especially now that James was six and started going to school, Teddy had just gone for Hogwarts, Albus was at a stage where he just wanted to be with his father, and Lily had her teeth born and was in a bad mood.

They hadn't had much of a problem with James at school so far, he had adapted, made friends, done homeworks, and was well controlled with his own magic, occasionally exploding or making things fly.

Nothing too dangerous and that they couldn't fix.

In the last week James' classes were suspended when 7 of the 12 children caught lice, luckily James was not one of them, so the boy seemed a little anxious about the sudden change in routine.

But today it looked like a war had broken out in the middle of their living room. Lily was taking all the clothes out of the clean laundry basket, Albus was on top of the trunk where they kept some old things, with his knee shredded and looking like he was waiting to make a dressing, while Harry and James argued beside him.

Ginny knew that the combination of her and Harry would make children easy to explode, but she realized that James had an extreme facility in getting Harry off track, much more so than Lily or Albus did. Albus knew how to irritate his brothers, and Lily only irritated them with her loud crying and childish antics like throwing things, but James was at that stage where he challenged his parents to find out how far he could go. Teddy had been there, too, but it was with Ginny that he could do it most easily.

However James seemed to know exactly what to do to have an angry Harry.

'James,' Harry asked, eyes closed as if asking for patience, it probably wasn't the first time they had had that conversation.

'I just wanted to fly!' James shouted angrily, his cheeks red.

'And didn't I tell you that you couldn't do that?' Harry countered, running a hand through his hair. 'How many times have I told you that neither you, or Albus, could fly alone?'

'But Albus was there because he wanted to! I didn't tell him to follow me.' The little one looked as furious as his father, his arms crossed in front of the small body just as Ginny did when she argued with someone. 'Why can Lily fly and I can't ?!'

'I was with her, she was not alone, you know that very well. I said that we could fly later, and that I would go with you- ’

'But you worked all day, and then the night would come and we would not be flying! Again!'

'James... You could have hurt Albus! Or hurt yourself.' Harry pointed out, looking as alarmed as if it had actually happened. As far as Ginny could see from the entrance to the Living Room, only Albus was a little hurt, and he didn't even seem to want to cry or anything.

'Oh, of course, if something happens to the precious Albus, it's the end of the world!' James threw his arms up, as if giving up, and before Harry was able to answer him, he shouted; 'I hate you!' And he ran off, tears streaming down his face as he climbed the stairs as fast as he could, his little legs not helping him to be too fast, but Harry didn't follow him either, which helped James get to the room and slam the door.

Harry sighed, hands on his tired face, and Ginny was still a little paralyzed at the door, thinking about what had happened. 'Mum!' Lily shouted, now sitting in the empty clothes basket, making the other two look at her.

'Hello my loves.' Ginny smiled going over to Albus and kissing him on the cheek, realizing how scared he looked. 'Hi my love, how are you?' She preferred to act as if she had just arrived, looking at his grated knee, still a little dirty with grass.

'Fine, I just fell.' He smiled, the little children's teeth a little dirty from what looked like chocolate.

'It'll be okay,' Ginny promised, casting a simple healing charm and placing him on the floor, before of course, she kissed the small scar that remained. Nothing too serious, but it was a tradition that helped them to be less afraid of when they needed to apply potions or other healing spells that were stronger.

They were a Weasley-Potter, after all, they were always falling.

'Hi my other love,' She smiled at Harry, hugging him, but realizing that he seemed a little reluctant to speak. He just smiled awkwardly, kissing her forehead and letting her go to be hugged by Lily, who had managed to topple the basket of clothes to be able to crawl out and run into her mother's arms. 'And my other love.'

'Hi mommy!' Lily cried awkwardly, hugging Ginny back, and hanging from her neck so she could be picked up.

'And where's my other love?' Harry sighed at her question, waving his wand and causing all the clothes to levitate, to be folded, and to go back into the basket.

'Up there,' Harry murmured. 'Do you take care of them? I'm going to prepare dinner.' Ginny nodded, lowering Lily to the sofa when Albus asked her to play with him and the Lego castle he had won from Percy.

‘Mommy, come and play with us!’ Albus asked, seeming not even to remember the fight between his father and brother anymore, amused by the pieces and teaching Lily how to stack the blocks too - even though she seemed willing to just destroy everything.

‘I’m coming, okay? Let me just go and say hi to James, and I'll be back here, okay?’ She promised, crouching in front of them, drawing all the attention to herself. ‘No mess and fights, Mom will be back.’

'Daddy and James fought,' Al whispered, as if it were a secret.

'Bad James,' Lily added, crossing her arms as she could, to look like her brother.

'They are just stressed, and he’s not bad. Now, I'll be right back.' Ginny left the room and went up to the second floor, still listening to the conversations between Albus and Lily, and the sounds of pots and dishes, much louder than usual, and she imagined that Harry was more angry at what he looked like while fighting with James.

Ginny knocked on the door to their eldest son's room, the photo hanging next to her made her smile, a picture of when they went ice skating, a few days before Teddy received the letter from Hogwarts, he and James were smiling from ear to ear. ear, while she and Harry still needed to hold hands to keep steady and not fall.

She hated it when she or Harry lost patience with their kids, when they got carried away by the tantrum. They should have known that the best thing to do when it happened was to just get away, let the kids scream alone for a few minutes, before they came back calmer and managed to talk to them.

'Hi my love,' Ginny murmured, opening the door and entering James's room, it was colder than usual inside, and maybe he had done accidental magic for this to happen and he could be hidden under the covers. 'It's Mommy.'

'I don't want to say anything.' James' voice was muffled by the pillow and the covers, but she could still tell that he was crying.

Ginny sat on the bed next to him, her hand on what she imagined was his shoulder. 'I heard that you and Daddy had a fight, is it true?'

'He hates me.' Ginny smiled sadly, denying and sighing.

'He doesn't hate you my love, and hating someone is a very strong thing to say, I promise you, he is just tired, and you need to help him a little too.'

'But he wasn't going to fly with me, and I just wanted to fly.' James uncoveredlooking at Ginny with brown eyes wet with tears. 'He only cares about Lily and Albus, he doesn't even love me anymore.'

'James, of course not, your father loves you very much, which is why he was concerned that you might get hurt. You know you can't fly alone, it's very dangerous.' She held out her arms for James to crawl onto her lap as if he were still a baby - for her, he always would be - and put him against her chest, cradling her body a little from side to side to calm his crying. 'Dad was just worried that you would get hurt. Besides, you are the older brother, and Lily is still very small and needs help to do a lot of things, just as Albus still needs more help. You are my big boy already, and you have to help them, and not go flying without authorization.’

'But he yelled at me.' James sobbed, holding Ginny's shirt in his hands, hiding his face like he did when he was a kid.

'Look, what Dad did was not right, but you didn't make it easy either. Both are wrong… Dad is having dinner, go take a shower, okay? I promise that tomorrow we can fly together.' James nodded, still glued to his mother, like a sloth clinging to a tree trunk. 'I love you my baby.'

'Me too,' he murmured, without further tears.

[...]

Dinner had been… tense, to say the least. Proving that he was Harry's son, James spent the whole dinner in silence, sullen, without even looking straight up, just as Harry was, determined to eat the lasagna without saying anything.

If it weren't for Albus chattering, and Lily trying to imitate him, they would have eaten entirely in silence.

After all the children were in their beds, sleeping soundly, and the house was quiet for another reason, Ginny lay on their bed, waiting for Harry to get out of the bath. They hadn't talked much, and he didn't even want to go shower with her, so she just waited, sitting on the bed while pretending to read the last pages of the romance Angelina gave her. Of course, the words didn't make much sense in her head, she couldn't concentrate, but she had to hide her nervousness.

When Harry finally got out of the shower, a towel wrapped around his waist, damp, messy hair, and still that sullen look, Ginny couldn't take it anymore; ‘Can you tell me what happened?’

Harry looked at her quickly over his shoulder, before entering their closet and disappearing, still in silence. Ginny can hear the drawers opening and closing, and then she can see Harry coming back from there wearing old shorts that almost didn't stop at his hip anymore. If he wasn't so sullen, she would try to ease the tension he carried on his broad, bare shoulders.

'He and I had a fight.' That was all he said, throwing himself on the bed next to her and covering himself, looking like he was about to go to sleep.

'It's not me you're mad at, don't be an idiot.' Ginny dropped the book on the nightstand, not turning off the lamp beside her, staring at Harry with determination.

He sighed, sitting up too. 'I was taking care of Lily, now that she is coming out of diapers it looks like she wants to pee every minute, and I asked him to keep Albus playing. They were in the garden, and James had already asked me to fly with him, but I was solving ten problems at the same time and making sure our daughter didn't pee on the couch, so I asked him to hope that later on maybe we could fly… But he is your son, after all, and he managed to break the lock on the shed and get a broom.' Ginny shouldn't laugh, she knew that, but she smiled, a little proudly. 'When I went down with Lily, I could only see Albus flying too, unbalanced, not much more than a meter from the ground, and James going up without control. There was no time and Al fell, but I had to make James levitate because the broom was very uncontrolled and he was unable to get it down.’

‘Harry…’

'It was my fault, I know, I shouldn't... I should have put a different lock on or I don't know, and,' He stopped, hiding his face with his hands again, denying. 'And I lost my temper because I had said that he couldn't fly alone, and Albus was crying on the ground and James looked scared when he realized he was too high... I shouldn't have screamed.'

'You were angry,' Ginny reminded him, realizing how sad Harry looked at this. ‘And worried.’

'But I should have known that when I forbidden him, he would try to do exactly what I said not to.'

'He's a child, Harry, of course he's going to do everything we say he can't.' She said what he usually said to her, when Ginny was worried about Teddy at Hogwarts after he spent two weeks without sending letters, even after she asked him to update them every week.

'He said he hates me, Ginny.' Harry finally looked at her, his eyes watering. Again, her heart broke.

‘Oh, Harry, of course not.’ This time, she didn’t wait for him to come to her embrace, as she did with James, Ginny preferred to hug Harry herself. 'He was just nervous.'

'I did everything wrong,' Harry denied, crying even more, as if he had held his emotions up until now, as if just inside their room was a safe place for him to finally let go. 'He didn't say it like it was nothing, I saw Gin, I saw that he was upset, he meant it.'

'He didn't want to, of course not..Look at me, no, no, Harry, look at me...He doesn't hate you, and you didn't do everything wrong, I probably would have done the same thing, you're just tired.' Ginny stared at him, forcing him to look at her too, her hands holding his face, tears streaming down his cheeks. 'You are the best father they could have, the best I could have chosen to be their father, you will see, tomorrow you will be calmer and everything will be fine.'

'I hate to fight with them.' Harry hid his face on her neck, tears wetting Ginny's skin, his hands tightening on her waist as if to make sure she stayed there, with him. ‘I don’t like them to cry because of me.’

'It's the side that nobody tells you about being parents, love.' She laughed softly, trying to calm the mood. 'But he doesn't hate you, I promise you that... I'm sure you are still his hero, and the person he loves the most in this whole world. You are not a bad father.’

[...]

The next morning, Harry got up first, he heard noises downstairs and knew that probably one of the children was already awake and wanting to make a mess. Passing through the rooms just to check, he saw that Albus was still asleep, and that Lily seemed far from waking up, but James' bed was empty, which wasn't too strange, since the boy seemed to still be keeping up with his early morning routine to go to school, even in that week of recess.

He heard footsteps as he approached the kitchen, an owl hooting loudly at the window, and low murmurs. ‘Stay still.’

'James?' Harry watched as his son tried to tie the letter to the animal's leg, which was trying to get away from him. James was on top of a chair, leaning over the counter, trying to pull Pandora’s closer.

‘Dad!’ Pandora flew away with his cry, without the letter, seeming to frustrate the boy.

'What are you doing? Who do you want to send a letter to?’ Harry was careful to move towards James, but he was happy when his son accepted his arms to come down. He still felt guilty.

'Hm... for you.' James looked at the floor, looking embarrassed.

'Me?' Harry knelt in front of him, staying in his line of sight. ‘Why don’t you just give it to me?’

'I thought it would take you longer to wake up.'

'I heard you coming down the stairs,' Harry said, looking into his son's eyes.

'Are you still mad at me?' James asked quietly, holding the letter tightly in his hand.

‘No, my love… I’m sorry for yesterday, I didn’t want to yell at you, I was nervous and I was worried that you might get hurt.’

'I'm sorry for flying without permission, and I didn't want Albus to have followed me for this either, I didn't see him.' James said. Harry felt so bad all night, unable to sleep in peace, conscience weighed down by having yelled at James, thinking about how sad he looked when he said he hated him.

'It was very risky, you could have been seriously injured.' The two looked at each other, Harry pulled his son close to him. ‘I don’t want you to do it again, okay? You can fly, but only with me or mom, never alone.' He whispered against the boy's hair, hugging him tightly, as if that alone could heal the pain he had felt.

'I didn't mean to say that I hated you, either.' James hugged Harry back, looking sly. ‘I don’t hate you.’

'I love you, Jamie. A lot.' He planted a kiss on his son's head, not caring for the tears that seemed to want to appear in the corner of his eyes.

‘Me too, Dad.’

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''Dad,

I'm sorry for yelling at you, it wasn't my intention. I don't hate you, I was just nervous, I'm sorry again.

Love you

James.''

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goldenhemmings · 6 years ago

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Opening Day - A Stealing Second Extra | Baseball!Shawn

We’re gonna pretend like the Blue Jays didn’t lose their opening game last night.

Yeah, yeah, I know I promised this yesterday on the actual Opening Day but I got distracted because I’m the worst ever with timing. BUT it’s still Opening Weekend so we’re gonna pretend like it’s all good. This takes place about nine or so months after where they were at the end of the final (fifth) part of the series, and it’s about 1.6k words. It can also be read as a standalone piece if you haven’t read the series, but if you’d like to read it, it’s linked in my masterlist. Enjoy, and I’d so love to hear your feedback!!

Opening Day was one of the most exciting days of the year; every baseball aficionado could agree on that. What you hadn’t known, however, was how stressful the day was for those working on the inside to make it happen. The Blue Jays would be playing their first of 162 games in just over an hour, and you hadn’t had a long enough break the entire day to take the time to even acknowledge your excitement.

The team had had a more than successful Spring Training, and you (along with every other Jays fan) were extremely hopeful for the upcoming season. Your current worry, however, was that you’d miss the start of it.

You’d been running around the stadium and the offices like crazy trying to finish your bottomless pit of a to-do list, but every time you thought you were getting close to the end, your boss had more for you to do. You’d been working nonstop since eight that morning, and the closer time crept to 7 p.m. the more anxious you became that you’d miss some of the game.

You clutched the blue folder you were carrying tighter against your chest as you raced through the mass of thousands of jersey-donning fans, needing to get back to your office away from the sea of blue and white. You’d managed to get down to one last task, and it felt like you were walking through a minefield as you waited for your phone to inevitably go off again with yet another thing for you to do. Your goal in going back to your office had been to find Cassidy, hoping she’d be at her desk, but in a stroke of good fortune you spotted her from the corner of your eye leaning against the wall of one of the Rogers Centre’s many team shops, surveying the crowd; you hadn’t even had to leave the actual stadium to find her.

“Cassidy!” you called, wide-eyed as you beckoned her over. She jogged to where you stood, her face immediately showing that she recognized how uncharacteristically flustered you were.

“What’s up?” she asked, the words casual but said carefully.

You wordlessly thrust the blue folder out towards her, and she looked down at it quizzically. “What’s this?”

You sighed, not realizing you were out of breath until you tried to talk. “I promised Shawn I’d meet him before the game like always, but Curt keeps giving me a million things to do and I’m running out of time before Shawn has to be in the dugout. I am begging you, Cass, to please just take this up to Thomas Andrews from the Toronto Star. He’s writing the front-page story about Opening Day and it’s a list of quotes I gathered from the players that he’s been cleared to publish. He should be finishing up interviews in the announcer’s booth.”

She laughed as though you’d just asked her to do something as trivial as tie your shoe. “Sure. I’ve been bored out of my mind for the past hour, anyway. Wouldn’t wanna be the one to break the famous pregame tradition.” She wagged her eyebrows at you, and despite the tension you felt in your chest you managed to laugh.

“You’re amazing,” you breathed out, pulling her into a hug. “Thank you. I will do you as many favors as you need once I get back.”

“Don’t sweat it,” she replied, opening the folder to begin sifting through the compilation of quotes curiously. “I’ll meet you back here so we can watch the game?”

“Of course. I won’t be too long, I promise.”

“Take your time, Y/N,” she teased, and you playfully rolled your eyes as you turned over your shoulder to make your way towards your and Shawn’s usual meeting spot.

Your feet ached from being up and running around all day, but the pain was easy to ignore now that you’d finally found time, however short, to take a break and see Shawn. You pulled open the door of your little meeting spot outside of the team locker room, unable to help the smile that crossed your face as Shawn’s head snapped up to look at you.

“There you are, honey,” he exclaimed, pulling you into a tight hug. You held onto him a little longer than was necessary, inhaling his scent and taking the time to let some of the stress you’d been carrying around all day dissipate.

You finally pulled away to meet his eyes, and you could clearly see how excited they were despite the shadow the brim of his cap cast over them. “I was worried I wasn’t gonna have time to get down here and see you,” you admitted, smoothing out the jersey that covered his shoulders.

He sighed. “I was worried you weren’t coming, too. Has work been crazy today?”

“You have no idea. But I’m here now!” you chirped, pressing a chaste kiss to the underside of his jaw as he laughed. “And you’re less nervous than I thought you’d be.”

“You thought I’d be nervous?” he queried, a glint in his familiar brown eyes as they searched yours.

“Course I did, Rookie. It’s Opening Day.” Shawn laughed at this, and you quirked an eyebrow.

“What’s so funny?”

“You called me Rookie.”

You furrowed your eyebrows, cocking your head to the side as you looked up at him with a curious smile. “And that’s suddenly funny now after the thousands of other times I’ve called you that?”

“You’re forgetting something very important,” he grinned, cheekily, as he leaned in to place a quick kiss to your nose. You looked at him expectantly, feeling the smile growing on your face in anticipation before he made a dramatic show of rolling his eyes and continued. “I’m not a rookie anymore.”

You threw your head back and laughed, and you could hear Shawn join in. “You’re right. Your second season starts in a few minutes.”

“Exactly. So you’ve gotta find a new nickname.”

You gasped, feigning offense. “You don’t like Rookie anymore?”

“C’mon, honey, we just talked about this,” he teased, but you refused to break the act.

“But you’ll always be my rookie,” you pouted, and Shawn’s face scrunched up in reaction.

“Ew,” he joked. “So sappy today.”

You finally cracked a smile at this. “I’m just messing with you,” you giggled. “Kind of. I’ll call you Rookie for as long as I want.”

“We’ll see,” Shawn replied, narrowing his eyes at you playfully as you laughed in response. “But I should actually probably get going,” he continued, sighing as he reached up to remove his hat so that he could run a hand through his hair. “Coach is gonna kill me for not being up there already.”

“Okay,” you nodded, smiling as you gave his arms a reassuring squeeze. As much as you wanted him to stay a little longer, you knew you couldn’t say it—if you did, he’d undoubtedly stay with you until the very last second before the game started, even if it meant getting chewed out by his coach. He’d do anything just to have time with you, especially now that the both of you were going to be ridiculously busy again with the start of the season.

“Are you staying here for the game or watching it at home?” Shawn questioned, unmoving even though he needed to be out the door.

You kissed him hurriedly before nudging him towards the exit. “Watching it here with Cass.”

“Can’t wait to get rid of me, eh?” he razzed, and you giggled as you followed him out.

“I want to see you play opening day, not ride the bench because you pissed Montoyo off by being late.”

“Nah,” Shawn smirked, his feet planted firmly on the ground despite your playful attempts to push him in the direction of the locker room. “The lineup’s already been released, he can’t change it.”

You groaned, eliciting a musical laugh from Shawn. “You’re impossible.”

“Fine, fine, I’m going. For real this time.” He grinned, holding his hands up as if to say I surrender and backing away from you slowly. You quirked your head to the side as you admiringly took in his frame, happier than you’d like to admit to finally be seeing Shawn back in his regular-season uniform.

“Should I wait for you here or at home after the game?” you asked, reaching to pull your phone out from the pocket of your jeans and silently praying that there wasn’t anything else Curt had asked you to do last-minute.

“Here,” Shawn said, without hesitation. “I’ll meet you by my car in the team lot.”

“Perfect,” you smiled, and he animatedly blew you a kiss before turning to walk towards the locker room, the sound from his metal cleats echoing off of the flooring. “Hit a home run for me, Rookie,” you called after him, and you could hear him laugh.

“Still not a rookie, but I’ll do my best!” he shouted back, and with that you turned around and hurried off back down the hallway towards the stadium, smiling to yourself as you anxiously awaited the rapidly-approaching arrival of a new Blue Jays season that was sure to outdo the last.

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herphdjourney-blog · 5 years ago

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What is “Inclusion”?

That question was the focus of this year’s Gender and Diversity in Organizations (GDO) Plenary at the Academy of Management (AoM).

Modupe Akinola, PhD, an Associate Professor of Management at Columbia Business School, said inclusion is: “Feeling like I can be myself and people are curious about my story.” Further, that “inclusion” is when people are not just curious about her identity but also about WHO she is and WHAT makes her who she is.

Derek R. Avery, PhD, the David C. Darnell Presidential Chair in Principled Leadership at Wake Forest University, said that inclusion is “when you can be exactly who you are and it’s OK.”

Other scholars shared insights on inclusion that I’ll touch on in future posts. I recorded the session so that I could cite them in my future work!

But first...under Modupe and Derek’s conceptualization of “inclusion,” let me introduce myself:

My identity:

I am an Afro-Latina, PhD student in organizational behavior, executive/life coach, entrepreneur, dancer, licensed Zumba instructor, traveler, and survivor. I’m from NYC and the daughter of 2 Central American immigrants.

WHO am I?

Hi! My name is Samantha and I am proudly multidimensional.

WHAT makes me who I am?

All of my life experiences these past 43 years.

Yes, I’m 43.

I started my PhD Journey at the age of 41 after 20 years of progressively advancing in nonprofit organizations doing fundraising and communications work on behalf of causes that I care about.

...after 10 years of teaching and performing Latin dance on stages around the world.

...after 2 bachelors degrees and 2 masters degrees.

...after several heartbreaks.

...after 2 near-death experiences.

...and after lots of world travel, including many visits to Costa Rica, where my mother is from, and Panama, where my father was from. He passed away but he was pretty awful during his lifetime (that’s a story for another post). My father’s awfulness & other grown men’s awfulness during my childhood led me to pursue the academic and professional experiences that shaped who I am today.

MY EDUCATION:

My undergraduate degrees are in Psychology and Women’s Studies. My 1st master's degree—was in Women’s History, which I earned in 2 years while working full-time. My 2nd master's degree was in Nonprofit Management. I earned that in 2.5 years while working full-time in an extremely demanding role. Toxic work environments led me to pursue training and certification in life/executive coaching. Now, I am pursuing a PhD in Organizational Behavior.

MY WORK:

I started working at nonprofit organizations during my undergraduate years. Besides the Help Center on my campus, where I volunteered for 3 years, my first off-campus job was an internship at a domestic violence shelter.

Immediately after college, I worked at a civil rights organization, a homeless shelter for women, and a reproductive health clinic.

I worked at feminist organizations for a while but although they espoused diversity values, their lack of a racial analysis or an intersectionality framework in practice is what led me to move on to racial/social/reproductive justice organizations.

My experiences advancing in those organizations is what led me to explore what “leadership” looked and felt like via additional education, workshops, books, blogs, conferences, etc.

Now--I am specifically interested in how people can thrive, not only survive, and I’m both fascinated and saddened by toxic workplaces...as well as by Jeffrey Pfeffer’s book, Dying For a Paycheck.

I study whiteness--not as a skin color but as a phenomenon of power and dominance. I also study thriving/flourishing, allyship, women’s leadership, courage/fragility, rage, love, intersectionality, CEOs, nonprofits, and philanthropy.

MY PASSION:

I have been dancing all of my life. As a kid, I also did gymnastics and cheerleading.

After graduating from undergrad, I also started dancing, teaching, and performing Latin dance around the world. I did that for 10 years until injuries and my intellectual curiosities channeled my attention back to nonprofit organizations and to my first master's degree.

MY DEFINING MOMENTS:

I had my 1st health scare in 2012: blood clots had traveled to both of my lungs from my left leg (a “pulmonary embolism”) but I had NO CLUE that was happening. All I knew was that it felt as though I was having a heart attack. I was hospitalized for a week but then put on blood thinners + watched over by doctors (and my guardian angels) for several years.

That was my 1st wake-up call.

I had been dancing all of my life but stopped and let the “work grind” take over my life. I had been relatively healthy all of my life, so I took my health/wellness/life/blood circulation for granted. My spirit and all of the cells in my body rebelled against me.

After that experience, I was so freaked out that I might die at any moment that I decided to pursue things on my bucket list, including more education and world travels...especially solo world travels, which freaked my doctors AND my Madrina (“godmother” in Spanish) out.

I had my 2nd health scare last year during the 1st year of my PhD Journey...a 2nd pulmonary embolism. You would have thought I had learned my lesson about the pitfalls of sedentary work life the 1st time around, right? 🤦🏽‍♀️ Now I am on blood thinners in perpetuity and more concerned about LIVING (literally staying alive) than I am meeting others’ conceptualizations of “success” in this “publish or perish” academic culture.

I bring all of the above into my PhD Journey, which is why so many of my social media posts are about wellness, self-care, and a #FitPhDJourney.

It’s not that I don’t “grind.” Folks only see the moments when I take a break to capture my life. Not when I’m interviewing research participants for my qualifying paper, analyzing data for my research fellowship, writing papers under huge looming deadlines, coaching clients, working on consulting projects, or laying on my couch depressed and unable to leave my apartment for entire weekends (yes, even coaches are HUMAN).

How do I deal with the stress of this PhD journey?

I try to find moments of peace, joy, and community. Those moments look different for all of us but for me, dance, travel, and adventures have always been my go-to stress relievers. And, since I recently decided to become a licensed Zumba instructor as an act of survival, I also post a lot about Zumba. 💃🏽 I’m aware that my mere existence in this world is resistance to what Max Weber described as the “iron cage” and what Barker & Thompkins described as “concertive control.”

So, circling back to the question of “What is Inclusion?” as I wrap up this very long post...

If we agree with Modupe and Derek’s definition of inclusion (and we should...BUT I will also share other scholars’ insights on other elements of “inclusion” in future posts, which may resonate in other ways with you), then I have questions for you:

Taking intersectionality into account when understanding the multidimensional nature of oppression, what are the implications for mentoring [PhD] students who have various racial, ethnic, gender, family, nationality, professional, academic, and life experiences?

How do we support [PhD] students in their various journeys in ways that challenge them and prepare them for the future THEY want without putting them in the aforementioned “iron cage” of “concertive control”?

If culture and socialization work as unconscious filters shaping our perceptions, how do you engage in reflexivity and mentor people who may or may not look like you...and may or may not want to BE like you “when they grow up” even though you’re amazing?

More to come on “inclusion” in future posts…

xoxo, Samantha

#PhDJourney PhDStudent PhDGrind AfroLatina SurvivingVsThriving Transitions

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STEREK FIC REC POST

i’ve hit another hundred followers on my twitter account @getsteREKT so once again im posting another fic rec post!

as always these fics will be of all tropes so be sure to read the warnings and tags of all fics you wish to read to make sure each fic IS for you. x

my personal favourites will be marked with a **

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i'll always choose you (even when i'm drunk) by trilliastra

He looks at his hand curiously, he’s always had a ring? He can’t remember.

“Yeah.” The guy comes back into the bedroom, helps Stiles sit up and drink some water. “It’s your wedding ring.”

“I’m married?” He yells, making the guy flinch. “I’m married!” He looks between his ring and the guy with pretty eyes in front of him. Oh, no. “I’m married.” He repeats, sadly. He doesn’t want to be married!

“Are you – crying?” The guy asks, reaches out to touch Stiles’ face.

“I don’t wanna be married!” He cries out. “I wanna marry you.”

WORDS: 794

CHAPTERS: 1/1

RATING: General

WARNINGS: none

BYOP by dragon_temeraire ***

Stiles helps Derek revive a family tradition.

WORDS: 2003

CHAPTERS: 1/1

RATING: Teen and up

WARNINGS: None

Second Chances by rootbeer ****

"A lot of times the ‘markings’ were common, simple things you said to strangers all the time. 'Excuse me'; 'thank you'; 'hello'. Some got extremely romantic things like 'it’s you isn’t it? I’ve been waiting for you' or 'Wow you’re really pretty'. And they were always the first words their soulmate would ever say to them.

Of course, having 'You are the fucking worst kind of person in the world' tattooed down your side, didn’t bode well. How fucked up was Stiles Stilinski that even his fucking Soulmate hated him? High School had been a special kind of hell when all the kids learned what his tattoo said—despite his best efforts to keep it a secret."

WORDS: 2624

CHAPTERS: 1/1

RATING: General

WARNINGS: None

Oops by Little Spoon (JaydenNara)

Derek was the one that brought Stiles dinner when he knew Stiles had forgotten, and Derek was the one that massaged Stiles’ feet when he was stressed. When they watched a movie, Stiles snuggled up against him, and Stiles trusted Derek enough to fall asleep on his shoulder. When Stiles woke up in the middle of the night screaming, Derek was the one that held until he fell back asleep, and in return, Stiles would help him count his fingers when Derek wasn’t sure if he was awake.

Derek and Stiles were just friends. Oops?

WORDS: 2852

CHAPTERS: 1/1

RATING: Teen and Up

WARNINGS: None

Just a Hobby by kaistrex (weishen)

Five times Deputy Derek shelters his partner from the supernatural and the one time he discovers he’s just been making a fool of himself.

WORDS: 3014

CHAPTERS: 1/1

RATING: Teen And Up

WARNINGS: none

Soft Derek, Warm Stiles, No One is a Little Ball of Fur by tiedtogetherwithadagger

Stiles is wiping down the counters and humming California Gurls to himself when the bell above the door chimes and Derek walks in. The next notes of the song get stuck in his throat and he freezes. Stiles shouldn’t be surprised, really. The rest of the pack have already been by to visit him, even Jackson. Of course, Boyd was the only person Stiles ended up giving a free drink to, much to their disappointment. So what if he had favorites? How could he not when Boyd was the one to get him ComiCon tickets?

Derek swaggers up to the counter Stiles is stationed behind, because that’s the only way Derek apparently knows how to walk. He’s wearing a maroon knitted sweater today that looks unfairly cozy. Stiles slaps his own hand down from reaching out and touching the fabric because that would be weird. Although slapping yourself might be weirder. Oh well.

WORDS: 3728

CHAPTERS: 1/1

RATING: General

WARNINGS: none

So Color Me Green With Disgust (or maybe with envy) by lapsus_calami

Derek’s as straight as a ruler and he’s totally okay with that. He’s also okay with Stiles being as straight as a bendable squiggly straw. Or at least he thought he was. Recent events have him wondering if he’s secretly some sort of homophobe, and it’s seriously starting to affect his and Stiles’ relationship in a bad way.

WORDS: 3828

CHAPTERS: 1/1

RATING: Teen and Up

WARNINGS: none

Coaches Cupcake Coffee House by ChildOfTheRevolution

Danny looked at him as if he were crazy, ‘It means he wants to ride the dick Stiles.’ He said slowly, as if talking to the mentally insane.

‘Ride the dick, my dick?’ Stiles asked weakly.

‘Figuratively speaking of course, Derek looks more like a topper to me. And you, my friend, are a twink of the most twinkiest standards, but I’m not one to judge.’

‘I don’t know what you’re talking about.’ Stiles admitted, finding himself in a weird crouch-like stance that he apparently now adopts when he’s overwhelmed about finding out Derek Hotcakes wants to bone him three ways to Sunday.

WORDS: 4821

CHAPTERS: 1/1

RATING: Teen and Up

WARNINGS: none

something's missing by trilliastra

Sometimes Derek still asks himself why Kate kept the baby. And then he just tries to shake those thoughts away because even imagining Michael not being here, alive, hurts too much.

WORDS: 5032

CHAPTERS: 1/1

RATING: Teen and Up

WARNINGS: none

Ghost Blanket and the Wolf by PaintedRecs **

Derek's badly in need of hugs, Stiles decides shortly before Halloween. His pack is secure and stable, but he still hovers on its edges, as though not quite sure where he belongs. Will the magic of Halloween night, and a cherished Stilinski tradition, be enough to lift that weight off his shoulders?

WORDS: 6434

CHAPTERS: 1/1

RATING: Teen and Up

WARNINGS: flufff

***Derek vs. Helen (SERIES) by thedevilyousay

Important OTP question: Which one aggressively argues with the suburban soccer moms at the PTA meeting and flips Helen’s 9x12 pan of betty crocker brownies?

WORDS: 8,730

WORKS: 3

COMPLETE?: Probably

WARNINGS: none

****Painted Wooden Letters by DiscontentedWinter

All he ever wanted to be was Stiles Stilinski.

WORDS: 10,011

CHAPTERS: 5/5

RATINGS: Teen and Up

WARNINGS: Rape/Non-con, Underage, mentions of child abuse.

(Not gonna lie, this fic hit me really hard. Its very brutal and you will cry most likely. PLEASE make sure to read the warnings before reading this fic, if any of the warnings are triggers to you, then please dont read this.)

My Boys by losingmyangelgrace

“Afternoon Sheriff, sir, what can I do you for?” he might as well try for innocence.

Something definitely wasn’t right though. He took a deep breath in through his nose. That scent…it didn’t smell like John Stilinski, if anything else, despite some of the layers being different, scents change as a person gets older and there were some he didn’t recognise, but the core of it? It smelt like-

“Holy shit! Derek Hale!”

Stiles.

Stiles was the Sheriff? Derek did not see that one coming.

(In which Derek returns to Beacon Hills after fourteen years away)

WORDS: 11,354

CHAPTERS: 1/1

RATING: Teen and Up

WARNINGS: none

Striking Matches by castielblues & eeyore9990

Stiles has only ever wanted to protect his family and his pack. That’s not easy to do when you're human and sarcasm is your only defense. Now Deaton is telling Stiles he’s a spark, and if that’s a weapon in his arsenal, he’s sure as hell going to learn to use it.

All Stiles needs now, to complete his transformation into a true badass, is a training montage and a decent soundtrack...

WORDS: 14,923

CHAPTERS: 2/2

RATING: Teen and Up

WARNINGS: Graphic Violence

Momentum by TatsuKitty

“That’s how he knew where Erica and Boyd were.” He growled and stood to pace the length of the apartment. Melissa observed quietly while he processed and silently picked him apart. He was obviously possessive and protective but his facial expressions and motions were harsh, a bit wild, just a touch of the wolf showing in the man. Finding out that Derek was a werewolf had almost made a kind of poetic sense.

“I’d guess. I don’t know what happened with them. I know they died.” She reached out and placed a hand on Derek’s forearm. He went totally still like a rabbit caught in the eyes of a fox and stared at her. “I’m sorry.”

“Wh--¬what ?” he just blinked at her, still totally frozen.

WORDS: 14,934

CHAPTERS: 1/1

RATING: Mature

WARNINGS: Underage, mentions of depression

Maggie May by Spikedluv

When Laura Hale died, she left behind a daughter, Maggie. Stiles (and his dad) have been caring for Maggie since the night Laura disappeared. Unbeknownst to Stiles, however, Maggie’s a werewolf, and she’s bonded with Stiles. Which means he feels extra protective when Peter Hale appears on the scene. (He may have also developed a little crush on Maggie’s uncle, the silent and brooding Derek Hale. Who said Stiles’ life was boring?)

WORDS: 24,997

CHAPTERS: 1/1

RATINGS: Mature

WARNINGS: Underage

Adding You to My Future by NekoIzumi

“So, I'm Stiles.” he smiled warmly once he had put his unannounced patient down on the exam table. “I will poke and prod you a little bit to check for internal injuries, those that I can’t see because they're inside you, and some of it might hurt but it will pass, I promise. I will tell you everything I'm about to do and why I'm doing it so just stay calm and this will go like a breeze, okay?”

Now, Stiles wasn’t stupid in any way, shape or form, he knew a were when he saw one… although he had obviously never seen a werecat before, and definitely not one as young as this one.

WORDS: 42,252

CHAPTERS: 9/9

RATING: Explicit

WARNINGS: Graphic Depictions of Violence

The More That I Know You (the more I want to) by LadySlytherin

When death, in the form of hunters, comes for a family of Kelpies seeking refuge in the Preserve - in Hale territory - the Hale Pack is too late to save them. Before he dies, the male Kelpie presses a precious bundle into Stiles’ arms and begs the Emissary to take responsibility for it, which an initially reluctant Stiles does. When he agreed, Stiles had no idea what the sight of him with a baby would do to his esteemed Alpha, Derek. If he’d known, he might not have been so reluctant to agree.

WORDS: 43,655

CHAPTERS: 1/1

RATING: Mature

WARNINGS: canon-typical violence

Pale Horses by Dark_K

Being bitten had never been on his to-do list, but he could deal with that. Helping Derek Hale become a competent Alpha, though, that was so not in his job description.

WORDS: 56,071

CHAPTERS: 15/15

RATING: Explicit

WARNINGS: Graphic Violence, Underage, Derek is a lil weird

Play It Again by metisket

In which Stiles goes along with one of Derek’s plans and ends up in an alternate universe as a result. He should’ve known better. He did know better, actually, and that means he has no one to blame but himself.

“Laura wants to lure the kid in with food and kindness and make a pet of him, like a feral cat. Derek wants to have him arrested for stalking. They’re at an impasse. (And the rest of the family is staying emphatically out of it in a way that suggests bets have been placed.)”

WORDS: 63,206

CHAPTERS: 3/3

RATING: Teen and Up

WARNINGS: Graphic Depictions of Violence

It's a mad, mad world by ElisAttack

"They call him the Feral Wolf." The man laughs hysterically as Stiles backs away from him, fear coursing through his veins. "Feral Hale. Do you know why? Huh?" The man creeps closer, testing the restraint of his chains, white talcum falling from his skin, swirling in the air like the dust devils plaguing the wasteland. "Because he's fucking mad."

Or the one where Stiles is a prisoner looking to return home, but to do so, he may have to rely on a questionable drifter.

WORDS: 73,627

CHAPTERS: 11/11

RATING: Explicit

WARNINGS: Graphic Violence

(Sacred) In The Ordinary by idyll ***

The Pack, after college, graduate school and the starting of careers, comes back to Beacon Hills. Nothing's gotten less complicated after all this time.

Based on a kink meme prompt that grew legs and got serious.

Note: This is a whole lot of pack!fic with a very slow build Derek/Stiles

WORDS: 78,759

CHAPTERS: 9/9

RATING: Explicit

WARNINGS: Graphic Depictions of Violence

Didn't See That Coming by knittersrevolt

Stiles leaves Beacon Hills in the dust after he catches his husband cheating on him.

He finds his way to New York where he starts working for the Hale House Nursery, accidentally adopts a werewolf baby (through no fault of his own thank-you-very-much), and somehow starts training to be an Exorcist Emissary. So, in general, life was going good.

Then he hears that demons have found their way into his hometown. Can he face his inner demons and go back to save the day?

WORDS: 83,838

CHAPTERS: 43/43

RATING: Explicit

WARNINGS: Violence

A Life for a Life, Makes the Whole World Bound by augopher

Stiles was lonely; there was no other way of putting it. The Nogitsune had left the pack a wary of him, not that they thought it had been his fault. No, they worried it would happen again. Once bitten, twice shy. The morning after his 18th birthday, his torso was covered in mysterious green tattoos. He hadn’t been that drunk. He'd definitely remember that. Great. Something else to make him feel like a freak. Insomnia led him to his mother’s diary and a tale of how she helped an odd man once who gave her the warning, ��Be careful of your wishes three." Everything clicked into place. So...he was a djinni. He subtly changed things about himself. More muscle? Done. Better hair? Done and done. End his crippling insecurity? Done, done, done. He hid his new gift until he found himself bound to Derek. With Deaton’s help, they translated meanings in his tattoos, but they were incomplete. A passage of his 'Rules and Regulations' was missing. Everything was fine dandy until Stiles’ new powers and penchant for mischief and karmic retribution threatened to destroy him, fracture his mind, and turn him into something which couldn’t be contained. Could the pack save him in time, and at what price?

WORDS: 90,697

CHAPTERS: 26/26

RATING: Mature

WARNINGS: Graphic Depictions of violence

Of Course It's Fairies by HelloWhyTheFuckAmIHere

While still suffering from the after effects of the Nogitsune, Stiles and the pack stumble upon and save a trapped fairy. The boy's parents, not wanting to be in the pack’s debt, offer each member of the pack who assisted in the rescue, the opportunity to bring a loved one back from the dead.

Having been blissfully reunited with several of their once-lost friends and family members, everyone must work together to figure out how to function as a new pack, and how to defeat a new incoming threat.

WORDS: 100,267

CHAPTERS: 54/54

RATING: Not Rated

WARNINGS: None

When I'm Gone by MissYuki1990

Stiles is leaving. For good if he has any say in it. He gave everything to them and received nothing in return, so who can blame him for wanting to leave and find his place in the world. Apparently? Everyone and their uncle.

WORDS: 108,584

CHAPTERS: 10/10

RATING: Explicit

WARNINGS: Graphic Depictions of Violence

I Know Where Babies Come From, Derek. (series) by DiscontentedWinter ***

Stiles finds a baby on the porch.It looks exactly like him.Well, this is awkward.

WORDS: 127,012

WORKS: 3

COMPLETE: Yes

RATED: Explicit

Home by TheTypewriterGirl ****

January seventh. Seven days since the start of 2015, and seven days since his father’s death.

The bastard, he thinks bitterly. The past year Derek Hale had made it blatantly obvious that he hated his scrawny guts, taking every given opportunity to shove him up against a wall, growl threats in his ears and roll his eyes whenever he stepped into the room, muttering some snide comment about how spastic or idiotic he was.

So why did he fucking volunteer to take him in?

WORDS: 167,178

CHAPTERS: 18/18

RATING: Teen and Up

WARNINGS: Angst, Character Death

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grahamfinch1990 · 4 years ago

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benitezalise94 · 4 years ago

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How would RFA + saeran + V react to MC suddenly being really cold to them and while crying secretly for a week before they discover that everyone ( including them ) forgot her birthday ? She doesn't tell them hoping they remember but they never do tell a bartender at their favorite bar tell get happy birthday. I LOVE your writing and I've been stalking you blog instead of sleeping ^^

I changed the original request up juuuust a little bit to make it more interesting and character fitting. I hope that is alright. Also, this one really inspired me for some reason so this shit right here is long. I hope you enjoy it :3

|| REQUEST ARE (ALWAYS) OPEN!! ||

Zen

♬ Zen is a very busy man

♬ especially once his filming career starts about a year and a halfafter you started dating

♬ shortly after your two year anniversary it’s time for your birthdayto roll around

♬ you’re very excited for it

♬ last year you’d celebrated it together and while it hadn’t been agrant party, it had been amazing fun nevertheless

♬ Zen had gotten you a pretty necklace with a little Z hanging from it

♬ you cherished it a lot

♬ the sex had also been great

♬ like really great

♬ but moving on

♬ you were wondering what he had planned for this year

♬ you didn’t really expect much, no big gift or party, just a littleattention and maybe a small gesture of love

♬ honestly, you would have been happy with roses or chocolates

♬ when nothing came, you felt hurt

♬ you understood that he was busy, but he was such an attentive guy

♬ why did he stop?

♬ what really ticked you off though was when hecame home from shooting the next day

♬ he still hadn’t mentioned nor remembered your birthday

♬ but he told you that Echo Girl had apologized and invited him fordrinks

♬ no intention but making up what she did to you

♬ you were fuming about it, but bit the anger down

♬ maybe he had a surprise planned? Maybe this was a trick to get you toyour favourite bar?

♬ it wasn’t

♬ he actually went to get drinks with Echo Girl and you weren’t eveninvited

♬ after that you just kind of give him the cold shoulder

♬ it’s not like you want to be mean to him and hurt hisfeelings, but you can’t help yourself

♬ he really hurt yours

♬ being busy with filming it takes him a while to catch on, even withyou spending basically 24/7 in the same general area (meaning the setand at home)

♬ about a week after your birthday he actually suggestsgoing to your favourite bar

♬ despite still being a little man, you accept

♬ when you get there you’re greeted with a warm smile

♬ your usual bartender – Beak Seung Jo – is there again

♬ he even goes as far as to walk around the counter and pull you into awarm hug

♬ Zen is confused as to what is going on while you just return the hug,chuckling

♬ he wishes you a happy birthday and you can physically sense Zenfreeze next to you

♬ Seung Jo meanwhile apologizes for being late with his congratulationsand tells you that drinks are on the house

♬ the rest of the evening Zen is strangely silent and gloomy and youthink to yourself that it suits him right for forgetting yourbirthday like that

♬ on the way home he tells you to go ahead, that he’ll catch up

♬ you’re confused but agree

♬ when he comes home about an hour later it’s with a huge bouquet ofyour favourite flowers, a box from Jaehee’s cafe which you know meansit’s a cake

♬ and a delicious one at that, and a small silk box

♬ hekneels before you and hands you the flowers almost like a sacrifice

♬ you can’t help chuckling at his silly gesture, taking the flowers andsmelling them happily

♬ while you enjoy your flowers he unpacks the cake, already ready witha huge I’m so sorry I forgot your birthday, Princess writtenon top of it

♬ he chose to go with one candle, one of those silly electronic onesthat sing

♬ he actually sings along and it’s the first time that someone singingHappy Birthday isn’t awkward

♬ after that he hands you the small silk box

♬ it’s not a ring – he’s still preparing to pop the question to you –but a beautiful bracelet to match the necklace

♬ he admits to having ordered it weeks ago, but having completelyforgotten about it

♬ you feel bad for ever having been mad at him in the first place

♬ Zen would never really forget about you or your birthday

♬ you kiss him then, cake and flowers forgotten

♬ the two of you can still eat that later on

♬ Zen carries you to the bed you share and you make love for hours

Yoosung

★ getting his eye surgery was a big deal

★ he’d waited very long for an appointment at the hospital

★ starting about a month before the surgery he took on especially manypatients

★ he wanted to take care of everyone before having to close the clinicfor a while

★ he just couldn’t work on delicate, sweet pets while healing up fromhis own surgery

★ it just wouldn’t be fair to the cute animals he vowed to protect andtreat

★ you loved him for all the effort he put into his work

★ he was devoted to both his job and you, despite his young age

★ a weak before his surgery it was your birthday

★ the last four years those had been spent rather comfortably, mostly

★ that was just your style

★ he would wake you up to breakfast in bed – yes, he is one of thoseattentive men

★ then the two of you cuddled up on the couch, he’d worked through somefiles while you read

★ when it was time for lunch he’d taken you out for a picnic he’dprepared himself

★ after that you would have gone home to play some video games together

★ and for dinner he’d taken you to your favourite restaurant

★ you’d hoped that this year would be similar

★ you liked your birthday being laid back and between the two of you

★ however, none of these things happened this year

★ which honestly, you were fine with as well

★ the surgery was around the corner, Yoosung was very stressed anddespite having matured a lot he was still very scared of it,understandably so

★ so you had an understanding for the fact that possible plans mightfall flat

★ not even wishing you a Happy Birthday, however, wasn’t okay at all

★ you’d promised one another you’d always be attentive, even duringstressful times

★ still, you didn’t want to overreact, so you told yourself to wait aday or two

★ a week and the surgery went by and he still didn’t seem to remember

★ that is something you couldn’t get over even with the situation youwere in

★ you found yourself keeping Yoosung at arms length, focusing on workinstead of him

★ he attempted to ask you what the problem was a couple of times, butyou said it was fine

★ after another couple of days he asked you whether you wanted to gohave dinner again

★ now that his eye was getting better you had a reason to celebrate,right?it felt like a stab in the heart

★ there had been another reason to celebrate, but he’dforgotten!

★ still, you agree of course

★ he’d risked his life and gone half blind for you

★ the least you could do was celebrate him regaining his eye-sight

★ so you make your way to your favourite restaurant

★ a small cozy place that specialized in noodles and you know theowners of

★ a young, nice man called Bong Joon-gu and his wife, Chris

★ in fact, the second you step in he asks Yoosung about his eye beforeturning to you

★ he clasps your hands and shook them, wishing you a very happy andsadly belated birthday

★ Chris joins in soon after, hugging you and promising that today thefood is on the house

★ meanwhile Yoosung facepalms himself next to you

★ ah, so he finally recalls that he forgot your birthday

★ Good

★ the two of you take your seats and the second Joon-gu disappears intothe kitchen and Chris goes to tend to another guest he turns to you

★ Yoosung actually looks like he might start crying any second now

★ you want to laugh but keep on a stern face, crossing your arms overyour chest

★ pay back was only fair, let him simmer a little

★ …man, you really should stop hanging out with Seven

★ his sadism was obviously affecting you somehow

★ Yoosung apologizes about a million times in the matter of the hourand the half you spend there

★ he also promises to make it up to you

★ which he does come the next day

★ when he brings you your breakfast in bed next morning he’s dressedlike a butler

★ you chuckle and ask him what the deal is

★ he tells you that he is your loyal servant for the day, answering toyour every wish

★ well if that is so…

★ after breakfast you go shopping, letting him carry the bags

★ you let him pay for ice cream and then for the fair you go to

★ the last attraction you go on is the ferris wheel

★ it is night now and the stars are beautiful once you reach the top

★ you thank him for your wonderful birthday, even if it was late

★ then you share a tender kiss with the start and moon shining aboveyou

Jaehee

♨ Jaehee is not the type of person to forget anything, let alone abirthday

♨ she has a calender just for birthday’s

♨ yours is marked especially fat just in case

♨ you find that extremely adorable

♨ and it works too!

♨ since you’ve gotten to know each other fiveyears ago she never once forgot your birthday

♨ before you started dating officially you usually spent them on thecoach, watching Zen’s plays and stuffing yourself with popcorn

♨ her birthday you planned her an entire ‘girly day’ since she’d neverhad one of those

♨ you got a manicure, went shopping, got your make-up done and evenwent for a bubble tea after

♨ so, it was safe to say that you spend your birthday’s together

♨ especially once you finally did get together and there were newcomponents to add

♨ suddenly you could cuddle and kiss

♨ make out on the couch and then move the private party to the bedroom

♨ despite living and working together there wasn’t much time forintimacy for the two of you, so you cherished every moment you couldget

♨ you knew that your birthday meant funday so you were especiallyexcited for it

♨ it had been a while

♨ the café was very successful and kept both of you busy

♨ too busy to indulge in some adult activities you wanted more of

♨ Jaehee also always got you the sweetest and most considerate gifts

♨ like she’d legit a gift pro

♨ they aren’t anything over the top or overly expensive but alwayssweet, thoughtful and sentimental

♨ this year, however, there was an issue in the bakery

♨ about two weeks before your birthday a huge order came in

♨ someone was planning a big celebration and they needed a bunch ofcakes and pies

♨ as you’ve already established, you suck at baking

♨ meaning that Jaehee is on her own with that order

♨ you try to take some of the work load of her shoulder by managing thecafé on your own for the time being while she was mostly in the backpreparing all the cakes and pies for the order

♨ the celebration came and went and so did your birthday

♨ completely unnoticed by Jaehee

♨ while you understood it still kind of hurt and so you found yourselfacting somewhat cold and distant

♨ Jahee didn’t like that at all, heart sinking at the reminder of hertime working under Jumin

♨ she thinks long and hard about what might have caused it, but doesn’tfigure it out until a day later

♨ one of your regulars – Oh Ha Ni – comes into the café with asmall cake in her hands

♨ Jaehee is confused, since she usually buys her cakes at your café

♨ however she gets her answer soon as the young woman bends over thecounter to ask Jaehee in a whisper where you are

♨ she explains that she’d been so busy the last week, she hadn’t beenable to come and congratulate you on your birthday

♨ it was like a slap to the face for Jaehee

♨ someone you barely had any relationship to remembered your birthdayand she didn’t

♨ she told Ha Ni where you were and watched her go to the back to giveyou your cake and hug you

�� that night Jaehee asked you to go home alone, telling you that shehad business to take care of

♨ you were disappointed, since you knew that she now knew that she’dforgotten your birthday

♨ you really wanted to know how she felt, but Jaehee was still shy ofexpressing herself

♨ what exactly she’d spent the night with you found out the nextmorning

♨ as you walk into the café the next morning without Jaehee havingreturned home for the night you worry

♨ you look for her only to find her in the bag

♨ in front of her a huge, white wedding cake

♨ you greet her and she smiles at you tiredly

♨ she wishes you a happy birthday, putting a small candle on top of thehuge cake

♨ you’re perplexed, this is obviously a wedding cake

♨ your questions are soon answered when she pulls out a box with twogolden rings inside

♨ both of you know that you can’t get married legally, but the ringsare a promise nevertheless

♨ you cry for a long time after slipping the rings onto each othersfingers

♨ hen the two of you feed each other the cake

Jumin

♛ he loves to throw you the biggest parties

♛ everyone from the RFA is invited as well as many of Jumin’s businesspartners and your friends and family

♛ he mostly throws those huge parties to parade you around

♛ he is very proud of you and wants everyone to know that

that and the fact that you are his, of course

♛ he’ll shower you in presents, everything from sweet and small to hugeand extravagant

♛ you are his world and he wants to make sure you have everything youcould possibly wish for

♛ the best part of your birthday happens after the party, though

♛ sometimes you’ll sit down with a glass of wine each and talk untillate at night

♛ other times you’d cuddle up on the coach before the warm fire andjust enjoy each other’s embrace

♛ usually it ended with the two of you having passionate sex for a longtime after

♛ in short; your birthday is the best day in the entire year

♛ or at least it was until this birthday

♛ two days before the actual date Jumin tells you he has a businesstrip to attend to

♛ you ask him whether he really has to go, to which he merely replieswith of course

♛ at first you think that he might be planning a surprise party, butthat doesn’t turn out to be the case

♛ even the RFA chat seems somewhat deserted

♛ and no one even congratulates you, not even Jumin himself

♛ on top of that he’s on a business trip and you’re not even by hisside

♛ in breaks your heart and you cry yourself to sleep that night

♛ the next morning he calls and you answer excitedly

♛ secretly you were hoping that he remembered after all

♛ instead he announces that the business trip will take a couple ofdays longer, then he has to hang up

♛ the following two nights you cry again, unbeknownst to anyone but thecat

♛ or at least you thought so

♛ as it turns out one of the maids did hear you sob, and she actuallyasks to call Mr. Han about it

♛ he’s irritated at first – how dare lowly staff interrupt thisimportant meeting – until she explains to him why she called in thefirst place

♛ she also tells him that no one should be alone on their birthday likeyou were

♛ then she hangs up, leaving a baffled and shocked Jumin behind

♛ oh God, he’d actually forgotten the most important thing on his to dolist

♛ he instantly cut the meeting short and booked the first flight backhome

♛ when he entered the apartment he could actually hear your sobs forhimself and it tore him apart

♛ he quietly makes his way to the bedroom where he goes on his kneesbeside the bed to gently brush through your hair

♛ that gets your attention and you look up with swollen, watery eyes

♛ you’re just glad he’s back home, throwing your arms around his neck

♛ he holds you close, expression still pained

♛ his ignorance had cause you misery and he needed to make that up toyou

♛ the next day he announces a one week vacation, something shockingeven his father and you

♛ he uses that vacation to devote every second of every day to you

♛ you spend your days at the beach on some private island you can’trecall the of

♛ when you return home you both have a nice tan and an even closer andmore devoted relationship

Saeyoung/Seven

☼ Seven is the kind of guy to show you affection in seemingly minimalways

☼ he won’t go and plan a huge party or anything

☼ but he’ll always make you a gift for your birthday

☼ every single one of them

☼ and those gifts aren’t just little bird houses type of gifts

☼ they are miniature robots for you to play with kind of gifts

☼ one year he actually programmed an entire game for you to play

☼ that way you wouldn’t get bored when he was busy working

☼ you liked it best that way

☼ after all the excitement the two of you went through, you both needthe calm

☼ especially since you still have work to care for, the RFA party’s toplan and Saeran to keep an eye on

☼ when your birthday came around you were already looking forward to it

☼ Seven’s gifts were unbeatable and you were excited to see what he’dcome up with this time

☼ you still cherished the cat, constantly played his game and loved togo out with the dog he’d made you

☼ but shortly before your birthday Seven began locking himself away inhis room with work

☼ he couldn’t even tell you what he was working on

☼ top secret stuff, apparently

☼ you didn’t bug him about it

☼ you knew how his work could get sometimes, so you let him take careof it

☼ however when he didn’t even come out for your birthday, not even tocongratulate you, you felt hurt

☼ it wasn’t even that you didn’t get a gift

☼ it wasn’t about that

☼ you just wanted some warmth and love

☼ days passed and Seven didn’t even acknowledge having missed it

☼ so he’d forgotten!

☼ you were pretty angry and most of your conversations were distant andcut short

☼ he eventually asked you what the problem was but you just told himthat he was clever enough to figure it out on his own

☼ especially considering he could recite whole wikipedia pages aboutcars to you

☼ after that you’d kind of stormed out for a quick walk to coolyourself down

☼ maybe you were overreacting, but you couldn’t help yourself

☼ Saeran who’d been sitting at the kitchen table beside the two of youjust snorted

☼ “I can’t believe you forgot her birthday like that. Moron.”

☼ Seven froze

☼ FUUUUUUUU

☼ after that he disappeared in his room for another couple of days andyou started feeling homicidal

☼ Saeran had actually suggested getting you a pickaxe to get throughthe door

☼ you’d politely declined, no matter how tempting the offer

☼ when he finally came out, it was with your phone in hand

☼ when he handed it to you there was an App opened you’d never seenbefore

☼ “It’s a special game. I managed to copy some of myconscience into digital format and built it into the game. WheneverI’m being an idiot or not attentive enough you can open the game andtalk to me there. It’s just like the RFA chat, only with me and theothers paying more attention to you.”

☼ he chucklednervously as you stared down at the app, pressing through thedifferent options

☼ it was such a cute idea and you couldn’t imagine how much effort hemust have put into it

☼ you smile down at your phone, a message popping up

☼ it was 707 asking you whether you’d eaten yet

☼ you laugh

☼ “Oh yeah, I programmed it toask you that at least three times a day, just to make sure!”

Saeran

☀ he isn’t really the celebration type of guy

☀ not even when you eventually get together

☀ he even hates celebrating his own birthday

☀ most because he feels it isn’t just 'his day’ and therefor nothingspecial

☀ there is also this huge insecurity and lack of self worth issues Rikacause

☀ so really, any group of people making too much attention to him makehim uncomfortable

☀ that isn’t to say that you didn’t try to celebrate his birthday

☀ but when you first tried to give him a cake he denied it

☀ flat out said he didn’t want it

☀ so when your birthday came around you really didn’t expect anything

☀ honestly Saeran didn’t really have anything planned either

☀ until Saeyoung told everyone else in the chat and Saeran got anearful

☀ especially Zen seemed rather angry about his lack of interest

☀ he insisted that one must never miss an opportunity to woo a lady

☀ which of course confused Saeran, because you were already hisgirlfriend, why woo you now?

☀ Zen also had a heart attack, havingto be held back to choke the ungrateful little fuck

☀ despite never actually punching Saeren like Zen wanted to, theyounger man got the message

☀ birthdays were important to girls

☀ from that moment on he at least tried

☀ they were mostly spent doing mundane things he usually refused to do

☀ you went eating ice cream

☀ once he took you on a romantic walk

☀ and another time he actually agreed to go to a karaoke bar with you

☀ altogether you’d grown to love your simplistic birthday parties overthe years

☀ this year you were actually looking forward to it

☀ until the day actually came and he didn’t even mention it

☀ it wasn’t the first time, sometimes he remembered later on in the dayand made up for it

☀ this time that didn’t happen, however

☀ the day came and went and just like that

☀ even the rest of the RFA didn’t congratulate you or forced Saeran toact like a proper boyfriend

☀ you felt cold and ignored, especially considering that you didn’texpect much to begin with

☀ that night you rolled together in bed, making yourself small andbiting back on tears

☀ Saeran didn’t seem to notice, didn’t even react

☀ until about four days later you heard a whisper in the night

☀ “Did I do something wrong?”

☀ you’re surprised he would ask

☀ “You usually always hold me when we sleep.”

☀ youtake a deep breath, closing your eyes for a moment

☀ “I thought you didn’t like it when I touch you.”

☀ he’ssilent for a minute, you almost think he fell back asleep

☀ “I miss it now.”

☀ silence again, you don’t dare turn around

☀ “What can I do to make itbetter?”

☀ “You couldnot forget my birthday, for a start.”

☀ since you didn’t turn around you cant see him, but you feel a shiftbeside you

☀ the rest of the night is spent in restless sleep

☀ when you wake up the next morning Saeran isn’t lying beside you

☀ after last night nothing really surprises you

☀ when you get to the kitchen a beautiful breakfast is waiting alongwith a note

☀ it has a puzzle on it

☀ it doesn’t take you long to solve it while you eat breakfast

☀ it’s coordinates that lead you to your next destination

☀ it turns out to be the ice cream stand you usually go to

☀ when you arrive there the person behind the counter is alreadyexpecting you

☀ he hand you a huge sundae with all your favourite flavours, whippedcream and little heart sprinkles

☀ the idea that Saeran actually had to ask the man to put little heartson the ice makes you smile

☀ there is also another note waiting for you

☀ this time you find yourself walking through the streets for most ofit

☀ the GPS of your phone leads you to the bridge you’d first kissed on

☀ the one with the many lockets of lovers attached to it

☀ there is a paper sign attached to the bridge

☀ it points to a specific locket

☀ when you look at it it has both your and his name on it, writtenneatly inside a heart

☀ you smile at the locked

☀ attached to the sign is the next clue as well as the keys to thelocket

☀ as tradition says, you toss them into the water

☀ the next and final step leads you to the karaoke bar he hates goingto

☀ you find Saeran standing there, nervously staring at the stage

☀ when you approach him he is surprised to see you

☀ you were quicker than he anticipated

☀ he tells you he was just getting ready to go upstairs…wanted to asing a song for you

☀ you smile and shake your head, tell him he doesn’t have to

☀ you know he’d suffer through it

☀ he visibly relaxed

☀ he looks to the floor, shyly reaching for your hand to hold it in his

☀ he steals a quick kiss and whispers his birthday wishes into your ear

☀ when you get home that night you hold him again and he practicallypreens

☀ shortly before you fall asleep he whispers that the song he’s chosenwas Memories, my Shawn Mendes

☀ because he cherishes all the memories he made with you

Jihyun/V

📷 V is a very attentive boyfriend

📷 especially after all the abuse he suffered through V

📷 he seeks your attention and love, craves it really

📷 he also does anything and everything in his power to make you happy,fulfill all your wishes

📷 especially on your birthdays

📷 anniversaries are super important to him

📷 so are any holidays, really

📷 but especially birthdays

📷 because it just means that the person had survived another year, notmatter how hard it might have been

📷 the two of you had some horribly hard years behind you, so he wasdouble eager to celebrate

📷 he would always take you to the fanciest of days and a day laterinvite everyone from the RFA

📷 you’d have a private little party, eating sweets and talking aboutyour lives

📷 sometimes you’d even play board games

📷 for bonding, V’d said

📷 usually it ended up with Zen throwing the board game at Jumin afterone too many insults

📷 frankly, you found it rather funny

📷 you looked forward to it every year

📷 until the year that you got a phone call stating that Rika had fledthe asylum you’d put her in

📷 they assumed she was back on her way to Korea

📷 suddenly the RFA was in an uproar and Rika was everything all of youcould think about

📷 security had to be tightened again, as she was once more a threat

📷 Saeran suffered a meltdown and Seven was ready to kill her for it

📷 Rika eventually showed up at your apartment, surprised to find youthere

📷 she attempted to attack you, but V managed to stop her before shecould harm you

📷 he got her to a hospital and stayed with her

📷 on your birthday a day later he still hadn’t returned, hadn’t called

📷 you felt sad and replaced

📷 there was always that small voice in the back of your head that toldyou he still loved her more than you

📷 this seemed like proof

📷 when he finally came home the day after he was tired and exhausted

📷 he still constantly returned to the hospital to check on her

📷 despite your wishes not to

📷 many lonely nights were spent crying

📷 eventually Rika was shipped back to Alaska and V returned home forgood

📷 there was still tension between the two of you though

📷 mainly because you could barely stand being in the same room withhim, doubt crippling you

📷 a couple of days later he came to you, tears in his eyes and voiceshaking

📷 he could not stand the idea of being abandoned by you, of losing you

📷 he wanted to know what he’d done wrong, that he’d do better

📷 in that moment you realized that V had given everything for you and abirthday didn’t compare to a life long of love he was willing toshare

📷 you hugged him then, both of you crying out your frustrations

📷 when you tell him about your fears of being replaced by Rika, hecannot understand

📷 he tells you that he spent the entire time talking about you

📷 asking for her blessing

📷 telling her to move on like he did

📷 he tells you that she could not compare to you

📷 that you were the light of his life now, his lover, his muse

📷 for the first time since you got together you fully andwholeheartedly believed him

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Twenty Years Later, '10 Things I Hate About You' Is More Relevant Than You'd Expect

For me and all the other mid-80s millennials, 1999 didn’t signal the end of an era. It was the start of our definitive teenage years, rich with all the compulsive hormone-driven drama that would ultimately shape us into the adults we went on to become.

1999 was the year I started high school; the year that I got what was, at the time, a state-of-the-art three-CD player on which I blasted TLC’s FanMail, Backstreet Boys’ Millennium, and Sugar Ray’s 14:59 on endless loop. It’s also the blessed year that 10 Things I Hate About You was released.

I’m guessing many adolescent girls—and boys, for that matter—at the time could relate to at least one of the characters in 10 Things I Hate About You. There was quippy sidekick Michael (David Krumholtz), doe-eyed and floppy-haired new kid Cameron (Joseph Gordon-Levitt), effortlessly and often infuriatingly twee Bianca (Larisa Oleynik), the tragically underrated Mandella (Susan May Pratt), and of course, the mewling, rampallian wretch herself, Kat (Julia Stiles).

Like Kat, I existed on the fringes of my fairly affluent, mostly white public school’s society, although my banishment was less self-inflicted than hers. Yes, I haunted bookstores in my spare time and plastered my room with torn-out pages from Bust Magazine and dELiA*s catalogs, but I was neither thin, blond, or a voluntary member of any sports team. I couldn’t understand how someone who could effortlessly bare an enviably toned midriff be so bold as to snub male attention, which was the only type of attention I craved as a swarthy 13 year old who had yet to be kissed.

But her defiance of conventional feminine attitudes captivated me. The idea that one could subscribe to their own ideals rather than conform to anyone else’s expectations was a completely new concept in a time when teenage self-discovery was only just taking root. I did give a damn ‘bout my reputation… but maybe I didn’t have to.

In 1999, Kat’s brand of feminism seemed pretty extreme. But looking back on it 20 years later, it’s surprising how mainstream certain aspects of it now come across.

“Every time I watch this movie Kat seems more and more relatable,” explains Sarah Barson, co-host of Bad Feminist Film Club, a podcast that reviews movies through a feminist lens. “At the time this movie came out, I think Kat was supposed to be a super ‘out there’ radical feminist, but the stuff she talks about feels very relevant to modern conversations about pop culture and a woman's right, or even responsibility, to speak up and challenge social norms.”

But according to 10 Things I Hate About You writers Karen McCullah and Kirsten “Kiwi” Smith, Kat may have ended up differently if written for today’s audience.

“I think Kat would have to have a more extreme form of rebellion,” says Smith. “We’d have to dig her even further into a counter-culture, because in that era, it was all pretty simple.”

Rather than merely dreaming of playing in a riot grrrl band, Smith says Kat would’ve already been shredding on her pearly white Stratocaster, playing her angsty songs at different gigs. Had 10 Things been written in 2019, McCullah sees a version of Kat that’s more in touch with the activism of today’s teens.

“Like, kind of the Parkland student vibe, I think. We would add a little bit more of that,” she says. ”I think those kids are amazing, what they’re accomplishing. When I think of teenagers right now, that’s where my brain goes first.”

Smith agrees. “That’s a good point, yeah. When we wrote it, we were kind of in a freewheeling 90s bubble, not really thinking about the larger world around us. Now, as Karen pointed out, the experience of the youth is much different. They’re much more global in their thinking than we were.”

10 Things I Hate About You has its share of shortcomings, although it’s held up better over time than other teen flicks of previous eras, like Sixteen Candles. I’m willing to bet that a fresh audience today wouldn’t laugh quite as hard when Kat flashes her soccer coach to help Patrick (Heath Ledger) sneak out of detention—even with his swoon-worthy dimples—or let it slide when Bianca drops the R-word during an argument with Kat. And let's not forget how “nice guy” Cameron manipulated the entire love triangle just so he could have a shot with the younger Stratford sister. Oof.

Even so, the characters' relationships with one another and even their personal shortcomings hold up relatively authentically in a way that few other movies have been able to accomplish.

“The Craft was the perfect movie for any woman who felt disenfranchised, and Never Been Kissed really did stress the importance of self-confidence and self-acceptance, but 10 Things I Hate About You was about real characters to whom average women could relate,” says Dr. Randall Clark, author of At a Theater Or Drive-In Near You: The History, Culture, and Politics of the American Exploitation Film and associate professor of Communication and Media Studies at Clayton State University.

Dr. Clark’s students have expressed surprise that Kat was open about her sexual experience and yet managed to escape some of the consequences that society tends to heap upon young women who have sex at what they consider to be a young age.

“It was just a fact of her life,” he says, giving credit to the movie for being “not at all judgmental about her past.”

The filmmakers’ non-superficial portrayal of an unapologetic and (one-time) sexually active feminist was a groundbreaking achievement at a time when few other feature films even dared to explore the complexities of teen girl relationships. In the 90s, and to some extent today, feminism is often mistakenly equated with man-hating, an idea that both writers resoundingly reject.

“Feminists need love too!” laughs Smith.

Earlier teen-centric comedies like 1995’s Clueless helped lay the groundwork for 10 Things by weaving together real-life scenarios with tongue-in-cheek banter that managed to entertain, but also illuminate some of the basic pillars of modern-day feminism. The fact that both are remakes of classics— Clueless being a contemporary version of Jane Austen’s Emma and 10 Things I Hate About You being a modern adaptation of William Shakespeare’s The Taming of the Shrew—that revolve around young women with BIG personalities makes perfect sense. Women finding their place in the world, and being tamed by men, is by no means a novel idea.

But one thing that many of these iconic films of the late 90s and early 2000s lack is a sense of intersectionality. Bad Feminist Film Club co-host Kelly Kauffman cites Bring It On as one example of film from this era that addresses issues of race and class that other films—including 10 Things—shied away from.

“There's definitely some parts that haven't aged as well, but on a recent rewatch, I was struck by how the movie [Bring It On] touched on sensitive issues that most mainstream movies try to actively avoid,” says Kauffman.

10 Things I Hate About You may have helped shape the modern definition of “girl power” and inspired movies like Bend It Like Beckham to depict alternative stereotypes of femininity, but it’s not perfect. The one major theme I find particularly problematic upon rewatching is the apparent lack of understanding about consent throughout the film. Kat and Bianca’s father Walter (Larry Miller) doesn’t seem to grasp the concept that sex tends to occur between two people choosing to participate. His fears are clearly distorted for comic effect, but his misguided worldview holds his daughters hostage (as Bianca points out) rather than holding their partners accountable.

This concept extends to the prom scene when Bianca’s BFF-turned-nemesis Chastity (Gabrielle Union) smugly informs Bianca that pretty boy villain Joey (Andrew Keegan) “was gonna nail you tonight,” as though Bianca wouldn’t have had a choice in the matter. Then there’s the entire plot of the film’s inspiration: in The Taming of the Shrew, multiple men scheme and plot over who could obtain the most submissive, docile wife.

But the writers are adamant that the idea of “taming” doesn’t carry over to the film.

“I think at the end of the movie, you never get the sense that her character is going to be controlled by Patrick, in terms of Taming of The Shrew,” says McCullah. “Obviously, she’s not tamed and we don’t think Patrick is the type of guy who would want to control her. That’s why she likes him.” She goes on to call him an ally, or at least a prototype for one.

Seeing a privileged angry white girl like me grapple with trust, relationships, and finding herself inspired me to follow a more unconventional path in my own right. By the end of 1999, I had moved from Sugar Ray to crust punk, spiked my hair, and amassed a collection of ballpoint pen-decorated Chuck Taylors. I eventually dabbled in dating and going to art school, although I unfortunately never did start a band. But seeing someone chase her unorthodox dreams in a world designed to stifle misfits allowed me to dream outside the box in a way I'd never been shown before.

Compared to 2019, 1999 was a relative vacuum of women in media. “There were not a lot of female writing teams when we first started,” recalls Smith. “Now it seems like the appetite for female voices and female-fronted stories is ever-expanding."

Movies like Mad Max: Fury Road and Captain Marvel, with Brie Larson starring in Marvel’s first female-fronted superhero film, prove that we’ve come a long way with female representation. Both Smith and McCullah hope the trend continues, both in their future work, in the entertainment world at large, and with the resonating impact of 10 Things I Hate About You.

As McCullah says, “I hope it keeps inspiring young girls to be badasses and not let other people define them.”

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Twenty Years Later, '10 Things I Hate About You' Is More Relevant Than You'd Expect

In 1999, Kat’s brand of feminism seemed pretty extreme. But looking back on it 20 years later, it’s surprising how mainstream certain aspects of it now come across.

But according to 10 Things I Hate About You writers Karen McCullah and Kirsten “Kiwi” Smith, Kat may have ended up differently if written for today’s audience.

“I think Kat would have to have a more extreme form of rebellion,” says Smith. “We’d have to dig her even further into a counter-culture, because in that era, it was all pretty simple.”

Even so, the characters' relationships with one another and even their personal shortcomings hold up relatively authentically in a way that few other movies have been able to accomplish.

“It was just a fact of her life,” he says, giving credit to the movie for being “not at all judgmental about her past.”

“Feminists need love too!” laughs Smith.

But the writers are adamant that the idea of “taming” doesn’t carry over to the film.

As McCullah says, “I hope it keeps inspiring young girls to be badasses and not let other people define them.”

Follow Beth Demmon on Twitter.

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A Day in Our Lives, ch.3

Of matches and catfights It was going to be one of those days, Hajime thought, when nothing happened. Which was good, of course, since it meant their city was safe and all, but sometimes he wished for something small and innocent, maybe neighbours fighting over a bit of fence, to get him out of the station. It was noon and the only person they’d seen today was a girl who came to pick her wallet someone had found. Sure, it had been more than entertaining to watch her try and charm Ushijima, and get progressively more frustrated as he did not drop the extremely formal speech or loosen up his shoulders even a little. There was a betting pool going on how long before some decisive young lady or gentleman would come and sweep him of his feet. Hajime usually never took part in those betting pools but Tooru had shared with a laugh the other day that he’d seen the great stoic Ushijima pink faced while chatting with a cheerful redheaded florist. Or, as Tooru had described it, “Red just kept going on and on, and Mr Stoic just stood there, getting more and more flustered”.

True, it was cheating, but his colleagues deserved it for betting on the poor guy’s love life. It was not his fault his character was a bit on the cold side.

- Long day ? – He turned. Daichi was leaning casually on his desk. His partner somehow had perfected the art of never appearing bored, even after dealing with the mountains of paperwork half of the station very carefully avoided.

- Nothing happening.

- You know what they say - No news are the best news. And stuff. – Hajime laughed. Daichi’s habit to either butcher proverbs or to add something pointless in the end was one of the little pleasures in his career. They had become friends in the academy and had managed to move up together, getting promoted within weeks and ending up partners. Also, he had noticed, when they went out in their spare time, him with Tooru and Daichi with his boyfriend/childhood friend/team mate, they always attracted attention. Which reminded him…

- Hey, when is Koushi on shift this week ? – Daichi’s better half worked in the biggest veterinary clinic in the city and was one of the most respected and, much to his partner’s entertainment, adored doctor there.

- He’s covering the emergency night shifts this week. One of colleagues caught a nasty stomach bug and is under strict orders not to show up his face at work until he’s stable. It’s been three days already and Koushi has given explicit orders for the poor guy not to be allowed to work until at least next Monday.

- He cares too much. – Daichi smirked.

- Yes, all the girls there think he’s a pure angel. – They laughed. Koushi was many things, but “pure” and “angel” were definitely not some of them. He was as sneaky as Tooru and had the same evil streak, simply managing to hide it better. – But, anyway, why would you need a vet ? Is something wrong with the fish ?

- No. We…Don’t laugh, we have a cat. – Daichi’s jaw dropped but before he said anything, Ushijima walked in the office.

- There’s been a disturbance in the big sport centre. A woman called, someone started fighting in the middle of a volleyball match.

- We’re going. – Hajime did not have to say anything. He just grabbed is jacket and headed to the car. It took him a minute, after Daichi had managed to navigate somehow around the busy boulevards, to remember that there was going to be a game this week. He’d heard all about it. The problem teens were playing…

- Shit ! – His partner threw him a concerned look. – Tooru’s there, his team is playing ! It was supposed to be friendly game, though, to see how the kids are doing as a team. Shit ! – The car went a little faster but the other man still managed to avoid anything close to an accident. A couple of minutes later he parked in front of the sport centre with a practiced move and they ran to the building. The shouting was echoing through the halls and there was nobody at the reception desk to meet them.

Getting more and more alarmed, Hajime threw the door open and he and Daichi stopped to take the picture in. It was a teenagers’ volleyball match, all right. Only a few spectators here and there, Hajime counting eleven, a bunch of confused kids who were, at the moment, too stressed to pretend not to care, and in the middle… He opened his mouth to shout but no sound left his lips as a tall blonde woman chose that exact moment to slap Tooru, who was trying to separate her from another lady, in the face. The sound echoed and everyone froze. The sound was still running through the huge hall when one of the small kids started screaming. There was blood. The woman’s long, manicured nails had left deep red gashes on his husband’s cheek and one of them was starting to bleed.

- Calm down. We’re here and he’s fine. It’s just a scratch. – His shoulder was shaken and that got him out of the fog in his head. What happened later could only be described as “clean up”. He ran down the stairs and caught the woman’s wrist before she managed to land another hit, twisting her entire body at the same time. Managing narrowly to avoid a knee in a very delicate area, he barely caught her other wrist and slipped the cuffs on, the soft metallic click shutting her for a second. After she was safely cuffed and Daichi had dragged her outside, where they could still hear her spit out curses and threats, Hajime gently touched Tooru’s chin and turned his face a little. It looked bad. Three long red lines marring his flawless porcelain skin, the top one dripping blood over his fine coach uniform. The smile he received, though, was pure sunshine.

- My hero. – And there it was, the soft, gentle smile than hit him in the stomach every single time since the first time he’d seen in when they’d been nothing more than kids. – Should’ve taken up those parents who wanted to record on their offer. You make quite the sight, Officer. – The smile changed and Tooru laughed. – I thought you were going to shoot her where she stood.

- You need stitches, idiot. And a tetanus shot. Who knows where her hands have been ? Come on, game’s over. I am taking you to the hospital.

- Oh, the game has been over for a while now, officer. – Tooru giggled with an airy wave. – She was just pissed that they won cleanly and with lots of points without her son in there. She wanted to have words with the lady whose kid I put as a starter but I decided to intervene before things got out of hand.

- And they did. Literally. Come on.

- I can’t just leave, I need to tell them how well they… Hajime, don’t pull ! – When it was like this and his husband was in a chatty mood, the best action was to just ignore him. He’d just stand there and talk to the teens until his face rotted and fell off, he just knew it. So, moving him bodily and getting him in a taxi was, really, the only sensible option. – Hajime, I said… - He could hear whispers behind them, some more worried than others, but he could not think about that right now.

Tooru knew he was overreacting, but, in his defense, so was Hajime. Honestly, to literally drag him out of the sport centre just because of a little scratch… Though the ice pack did feel nice and his cheek was not throbbing anymore, so that was a good thing. The doctor had taken one look at him and Hajime, who was still in his sharp and shiny police uniform, and had done her best to cause him as little pain as possible. In the end, he hadn’t needed stitches but his face was covered in antibiotic cream and a bandage, with an ice pack just in case. And, after the shot, she’d given him a lollipop, which he, as a twenty-eight year old man, couldn’t refuse. Hajime had come, picked him up and taken him to the station to give statement. All his arguments that a spoiled rich woman being a helicopter parent was nothing new and did not deserve the taxpayers’ money fell on deaf years and he’d grumpily agreed to write everything down. Not that there was much to write. There had been screaming that had simply escalated into physical dispute. And he’d interfered before the fight could get ugly. Nothing mattered to Hajime, though, so Tooru was sitting at the station, waiting and going through his social media.

- So, a cat, huh ? – He lifted his eyes from his phone. Daichi was smiling but that’s not what caught his eye. It was the ice pack, identical to the one he was holding, only the officer was pressing it to his left eye and not his cheek.

- She decked you ? In the eye ? Damn, that woman could pack a punch. Think it’s all those heavy shopping bags ?

- Tooru. Good job today. And I know the moment Iwaizumi stops fretting and running around like a headless chicken out of worry, he’d tell you the same.

Tooru could not help it, he laughed and Daichi laughed with him. Headless chicken, huh ?

Later, when they were both in bed, Hajime deep asleep in that strange way of his, where he just dropped on the mattress, pulled the covers and went out like a light, Tooru was petting Éclair, who was purring on his stomach.

- He was a real hero today, little one. Just charged straight up and locked than woman like something out of a film. Very gritty, the brooding detective to the rescue. Only time I wouldn't feel bad being the damsel in distress. And you could see his muscles in that uniform. – He giggled again. – Those bored housewives were drooling, I am telling you. I’ll be surprised if on the next practice I don’t get slammed with questions about him, his favourite colour and his phone number. Have to make sure to flash my ring a lot…- Tooru glanced at the other side of the bed. Born hero. He pushed Éclair on the covers and she looked at him curiously. After moving around a little, he settled down right next to Hajime. Who promptly exhaled, murmured something and threw a heavily muscled arm over Tooru’s waist, falling back into his deep sleep. Well, that was it, there’s be no more moving around that night. Tooru fell into the darkness with a smile on his lips.

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makeupartistinmumbai-blog · 7 years ago

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Best Restaurant Designing and Development Company in Mumbai, India?

Which is the Best Restaurant Designing and Development Company in Mumbai, India?

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The 5 biggest mistakes in nonprofit websites When you start your non-profit's website or campaign which often goes in a few minutes through online services.

But these five points are often overlooked - particularly of non-profit organizations: 1.

Think first of the visitors to your page 90% of your website visitors with the same request and only 10% are interested in anything else.

Therefore her home should meet these 90% and here back the requested content at the center.

such as the latest news or the ongoing campaign.

Again, it's not about what you think is important, but what your visitors interested: That's the whole point!

2.No video Videos are the first and most frequently requested element of every web page.

It is also the No.

1 marketing / campaign tool for NGOs on the Internet.

and video can be forwarded on social media platforms extremely light.

It can be easily posted on Facebook.

- with websites that's no longer so easy - and is also less effective.

From homemade online slideshows to professional campaign clips - Anything is better than no video!

3. No Smartphone compatible payment system.

More and more people go online with your phone.

especially in their free time - so if you have time for your campaign.

Sees its website on smartphones well? And as an NGO: Offer a smartphone suitable donations tool? Today, one-click payment systems are already standard.

and these systems have become readily available and affordable become.

4. A top-level domain is not enough! Each NGO should reserve at least two TLDs.

Once '.Org' and the country domain.such as'.Uk " '.

Org' is known internationally for general-interest and charitable institutions, but the country TLD is as important, at least as a forwarding to their web address.

It can be very difficult if this domain is reserved by someone else, which then redirects to an example car insurance.

TLDs are very favorable.

Do not forget to reserve both.

5. No search engine optimization Google is the No.

1 search engine on the Internet.

If you want to be ranked high in the search results, Your website must be optimisiert it.

Even free website kits provide search engine optimization and routines in order to create tags and descriptions for SEO.

This is a must, for the time and if necessary, a budget should be prepared.

Funding Christian Organisations and Missions - The Business Ministry Model

"If there was an event that was so super-extraordinary, so rare, and so fantastically incredible that it only happened once every 7 to 10 billion years, it would still be infinitely more ordinary, routine, and credible than the passage of today.

Everyday of your life should be perceived as super-extraordinary, rare, so fantastically incredible as it happens only ONCE every 7 to 10 billion years and should be lucky to have this day to enjoy. We all have to deal with life's responsibilities, obligations, work, bills, challenges, hurdles, disappointment and so much more. But who doesn't? There are a few who lives better than others and are more fortunate financially speaking, but again, they also deal with bigger problems than you do. Yes, they may have money, but they also have much bigger expenses. So considering how you live within your means, you are dealing with less stress than they do on a daily basis. Something to definitely feel more grateful for and enjoy your blessings. It is definitely important to have goals and to accomplish them accordingly. Wanting to reach for wealth and glory is something you should aim for but just be careful what you wish for. Great accomplishments comes with great responsibilities. If you know how to handle the sudden growth and world recognition, then I definitely wish you the best in your future endeavors.

Life is full of surprises and every day you focus on what you love doing the most is another day you slowly but surely accomplish your goals. Do not focus on what others are doing, focus on what you do best and do it better. There is always room for improvement in everything you do. You do not want to live life with regret and wonder what things you could have done better in your everyday life. Today is unique and it will NEVER come back, so appreciate what you have TODAY and not feel down or depressed because things didn't happen your way. Yes, you do have TOMORROW but do not live your life to expect that tomorrow is guaranteed. No one knows what will happen the next day as we are not G-d to predict our life. We are given the opportunity to enjoy what we already have, what we are blessed with and what we are capable to do for ourselves and others who do not have that same motivation as we do to move forward. Make sure to hang around the people that will be a blessing in your life and will always encourage your dreams. Stop dealing with vision blockers as they will find any possible way to break your dreams and goals. They are the one who will tell you to NOT bother with this idea as it will fail. Remember that they are talking about their own lack of motivation to do ANYTHING and they want to stop everyone else to do the same. Take them out of your life and focus on living your life today. This is what is required from you to do. So go out there and DO IT!

Some Important Websites:-

GMAT Classes

Mumbai Pune Taxi Services

Old Age Home in Mumbai

Astrologer in Mumbai

Ecommerce Website Development Company

Web Designing Company in Mumbai

NEET Coaching Classes in Mumbai

SSC Classes in Mumbai

Website Designing

Pune Mumbai Cool Cab

Pune to Shirdi Taxi

Packers and Movers Surat

Makeup Artists in Mumbai

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mumbaipunetaxiservices-blog · 7 years ago

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Best Restaurant Designing and Development Company in Mumbai, India?

Which is the Best Restaurant Designing and Development Company in Mumbai, India?

3 Reasons Why a Non-Profit Needs a Social Media Advocacy Program

The 5 biggest mistakes in nonprofit websites When you start your non-profit's website or campaign which often goes in a few minutes through online services.

But these five points are often overlooked - particularly of non-profit organizations: 1.

Think first of the visitors to your page 90% of your website visitors with the same request and only 10% are interested in anything else.

Therefore her home should meet these 90% and here back the requested content at the center.

such as the latest news or the ongoing campaign.

Again, it's not about what you think is important, but what your visitors interested: That's the whole point!

2.No video Videos are the first and most frequently requested element of every web page.

It is also the No.

1 marketing / campaign tool for NGOs on the Internet.

and video can be forwarded on social media platforms extremely light.

It can be easily posted on Facebook.

- with websites that's no longer so easy - and is also less effective.

From homemade online slideshows to professional campaign clips - Anything is better than no video!

3. No Smartphone compatible payment system.

More and more people go online with your phone.

especially in their free time - so if you have time for your campaign.

Sees its website on smartphones well? And as an NGO: Offer a smartphone suitable donations tool? Today, one-click payment systems are already standard.

and these systems have become readily available and affordable become.

4. A top-level domain is not enough! Each NGO should reserve at least two TLDs.

Once '.Org' and the country domain.such as'.Uk " '.

Org' is known internationally for general-interest and charitable institutions, but the country TLD is as important, at least as a forwarding to their web address.

It can be very difficult if this domain is reserved by someone else, which then redirects to an example car insurance.

TLDs are very favorable.

Do not forget to reserve both.

5. No search engine optimization Google is the No.

1 search engine on the Internet.

If you want to be ranked high in the search results, Your website must be optimisiert it.

Even free website kits provide search engine optimization and routines in order to create tags and descriptions for SEO.

This is a must, for the time and if necessary, a budget should be prepared.

Funding Christian Organisations and Missions - The Business Ministry Model

Some Important Websites:-

GMAT Classes

Mumbai Pune Taxi Services

Old Age Home in Mumbai

Astrologer in Mumbai

Ecommerce Website Development Company

Web Designing Company in Mumbai

NEET Coaching Classes in Mumbai

SSC Classes in Mumbai

Website Designing

Pune Mumbai Cool Cab

Pune to Shirdi Taxi

Packers and Movers Surat

Makeup Artists in Mumbai

#troika

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clearperception-blog1 · 7 years ago

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Best Restaurant Designing and Development Company in Mumbai, India?

Which is the Best Restaurant Designing and Development Company in Mumbai, India?

3 Reasons Why a Non-Profit Needs a Social Media Advocacy Program

The 5 biggest mistakes in nonprofit websites When you start your non-profit's website or campaign which often goes in a few minutes through online services.

But these five points are often overlooked - particularly of non-profit organizations: 1.

Think first of the visitors to your page 90% of your website visitors with the same request and only 10% are interested in anything else.

Therefore her home should meet these 90% and here back the requested content at the center.

such as the latest news or the ongoing campaign.

Again, it's not about what you think is important, but what your visitors interested: That's the whole point!

2.No video Videos are the first and most frequently requested element of every web page.

It is also the No.

1 marketing / campaign tool for NGOs on the Internet.

and video can be forwarded on social media platforms extremely light.

It can be easily posted on Facebook.

- with websites that's no longer so easy - and is also less effective.

From homemade online slideshows to professional campaign clips - Anything is better than no video!

3. No Smartphone compatible payment system.

More and more people go online with your phone.

especially in their free time - so if you have time for your campaign.

Sees its website on smartphones well? And as an NGO: Offer a smartphone suitable donations tool? Today, one-click payment systems are already standard.

and these systems have become readily available and affordable become.

4. A top-level domain is not enough! Each NGO should reserve at least two TLDs.

Once '.Org' and the country domain.such as'.Uk " '.

Org' is known internationally for general-interest and charitable institutions, but the country TLD is as important, at least as a forwarding to their web address.

It can be very difficult if this domain is reserved by someone else, which then redirects to an example car insurance.

TLDs are very favorable.

Do not forget to reserve both.

5. No search engine optimization Google is the No.

1 search engine on the Internet.

If you want to be ranked high in the search results, Your website must be optimisiert it.

Even free website kits provide search engine optimization and routines in order to create tags and descriptions for SEO.

This is a must, for the time and if necessary, a budget should be prepared.

Funding Christian Organisations and Missions - The Business Ministry Model

Some Important Websites:-

GMAT Classes

Mumbai Pune Taxi Services

Old Age Home in Mumbai

Astrologer in Mumbai

Ecommerce Website Development Company

Web Designing Company in Mumbai

NEET Coaching Classes in Mumbai

SSC Classes in Mumbai

Website Designing

Pune Mumbai Cool Cab

Pune to Shirdi Taxi

Packers and Movers Surat

Makeup Artists in Mumbai

#troika

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