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Ochre's Poly Propaganda - And What After?

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I wasn’t sure if I was going to write this but it was bothering me and I don’t see anyone else talking about some of this so here goes. Heartstopper season 2 brought a lot more focus on Charlie’s ED and I’m glad because we don’t see men dealing with that much at all in media and men definitely do.

My issue comes with how Charlie’s ED affects his relationship with Nick and will in the future (I haven't read the comics yet but from what I know it's an on going part of the story). I know a lot of people will see this storyline and say Nick is the best most supportive boyfriend ever (and he so is) but I also don’t want younger people watching this getting the wrong impression on some things.

Having an ED is not Charlie’s fault. Whatever time he needs to figure that out and work through it he deserves. He also deserves to have the people who love him support him through this. However speaking as someone who was in a relationship with a person who had an ED and other mental health struggles (including spending time in psychiatric hospitals) and as someone who has also dealt with my own mental health issues including self harm and panic attacks I want people to understand that there's a lot more to this kind of stuff than just loving and supporting someone during their struggles.

For one thing and something I've already been seeing in Charlie and Nick's relationship that has bothered me is Charlie has lied to Nick on numerous occasions because of his ED. Now this is quite common for people dealing with mental health issues especially stuff like ED and self harm because there's a lot of shame and the feeling you don't want to be a burden to the people you love. You're already battling a lot of negative feelings of self worth so of course you're going to think your problems don't matter. But that still doesn't mean it's okay to lie to someone who is supposed to be your partner. The lying and the sneaking around is what forms the cracks in a relationship and can ultimately lead to it deteriorating. It erodes the trust you're supposed to have in your partner and them feeling like they can trust you. I can already see a little of this happening with Nick and Charlie. Not that I think it will cause them to break up but I do think Nick is going to have some difficulty trusting Charlie completely right now.

I also think that Nick has to be mindful not to take on all of Charlie’s struggles as his own. Again speaking from experience there’s a difference between love/support and fully taking the weight of someone else's burden on top of your own personal stuff. I think far too often media romanticizes these things like in order to love someone you have to save them from themselves which just isn't true. The first person you should be taking care of is you because you can't be a good support system to someone else if you're not looking after yourself and addressing your own needs.

The other thing I think it's important to emphasis is you can't force anyone to change or get better especially not on your timeline they have to do it on their own and for their own reasons. It's clear that Nick loves Charlie and wants him to get better and likely season 3 will have a lot of that storyline incorporated but I also hope we see Charlie really recognize he has some problems and want to get help for himself more than just for Nick or anyone else. I also hope Nick speaks up if he doesn't like something Charlie does like lying or hiding things. I also hope we get a scene where Nick talks to someone about how he feels about it all maybe Tao (I love how their friendship as been developing). It's just it's clear Nick already has a lot of feelings about all of this some he's shared with Charlie some likely not but when you have a partner who is ill it affects you a lot too and Nick will need support too.

Anyway I'm not sure how much of this made sense I just wanted to get some of my thoughts out. Feel free to disagree or respond with other thoughts especially if you're someone who is like Charlie and has or had an ED. I'm not at all trying to judge or hate on anyone with EDs or any other mental health issues and definitely not trying to hate on the show. I love Heartstopper and Nick and Charlie's relationship. This storyline just got me thinking a lot about things I've gone through. If you read this all thanks. ❤️

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this homestuck discourse shit is easy

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[juniorectobiologist]

happy 413 everyone!! 15 years felt like a significant number so i wanted to do push myself to do smthg over the top for this one haha

this comic has had me in a chokehold for over 10 years waow.. still lookin forward to see what comes from the new team! anyway happy anniversary sweethearts <333

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[catgirl-catboy]

I think polyamory should be used to make romance subplots even more convoluted, actually. Sure, it could theoretically solve a love triangle- but it could also make things infinitely more chaotic and that's way better.

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Churgney Gurgney's Hit Single Mod

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I literally could not know less about welding I just wanted to draw him doing that

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the lovers ever