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waitmyturtles · 11 months ago

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Turtles Catches Up With Old GMMTV: The Bad Buddy Rewatch Edition, Part 4 -- Thoughts on Pran Leaving For Singapore

[What’s going on here? After joining Tumblr and discovering Thai BLs through KinnPorsche in 2022, I began watching GMMTV’s new offerings -- and realized that I had a lot of history to catch up on, to appreciate the more recent works that I was delving into. From tropes to BL frameworks, what we’re watching now hails from somewhere, and I’m learning about Thai BL's history through what I’m calling the Old GMMTV Challenge (OGMMTVC). Starting with recommendations from @absolutebl on their post regarding how GMMTV is correcting for its mistakes with its shows today, I’ve made an expansive list to get me through a condensed history of essential/classic/significant Thai BLs produced by GMMTV and many other BL studios. My watchlist, pasted below, lists what I’ve watched and what’s upcoming, along with the reviews I’ve written so far. Today, I offer the last installment of the BBS OGMMTVC Meta Series -- a meditation on Pran's readiness to move to Singapore.]

Links to the BBS OGMMTVC Meta Series are here: part 1, part 2, part 3a, part 3b, and part 4

WE ARE AT THE HOME STRETCH, FAM! If you've been reading along on this journey of the Bad Buddy OGMMTVC Meta Series, why, I thank you so much! This has been one of the most fulfilling labors of writing love that I've ever undertaken. Bad Buddy means so much to me and to so many of us, and I've spent a lot of time, and expended QUITE the word count, to honor this show in all the facets that I've thought about it.

I wanted to take some time, at the end of this meta series, to talk about some of the facets that I've thought of, and that I've engaged others in discussion about, regarding Pran leaving for Singapore for two years. Let me explain why.

When Our Skyy 2 x Bad Buddy (x A Tale of Thousand Stars) came out this past June, I felt that us as a fandom might have been looking for clues, some kind of reckoning, for the separation that occurred at the end of the Bad Buddy series. We were so overwhelmed as a fandom with a lot:

the impending end of this entire franchise that we love

the impending end of the OhmNanon ship, knowing that Ohm Pawat does not repeat screen partners, and that Nanon Korapat was not happy doing shipping fan service, and

the tie-ins with A Tale of Thousand Stars and Pha Pun Dao, and wondering how EarthMix would get involved with the ending of BBS. (I myself was overwhelmed with OhmEarth, cough cough, and I stay WONDERING when GMMTV is going to DO SOMETHING ABOUT THIS, anyway.)

It was a lot to take in. I know that, for myself, I was definitely looking for clues regarding Pran's emotional readiness to take off for two years to work in Singapore -- and to understand the health of Pran's and Pat's relationship, as they neared graduation, to get to that place of that kind of huge decision.

In this piece, I'm going to put together a lot of the theories and themes I've looked over in my previous pieces, to understand that state of readiness. I mentioned in part two of this series, a meditation on pain, trust, and separation in some Asian dramas, the obvious fact about Pran's departure, one that he literally says himself: the opportunity to make a better career move and better money made the decision to move overseas a clear one. I slapped my forehead in recognition of this when I talked to @recentadultburnout about this, regarding the Thai/Asian viewpoint of this decision -- and I talked about the very common paradigm of economic separations from loved ones from many Asian countries, to go abroad to seek out better salaries and opportunities.

However, I think a kind of nostalgia for Pran and Pat permeated the fandom during Our Skyy 2 anyway, despite that reality. And like I said earlier: what I was looking for during the Our Skyy 2 run were signs of readiness from Pran specifically, to indicate his emotional movement towards making this decision.

My dear fellow BBS stan (I'd say we're almost colleagues now, HA!) @telomeke has waxed beautifully on how Pran attempts to keep his spaces, his inner sanctuary, safe from the traumas that he unwillingly experiences external to his body. The traumas of the various separations he experiences from Pat, the pressures to comport to the demands and boundaries that are set to him by others, namely Dissaya and Wai, and so on.

As I wrote in part 2 of this series: even before the 10th grade separation of Pat and Pran, Pran was already experiencing what I called a "theoretical separation" from Pat, a public separation that did not allow the two boys to even pretend to be friends at school. Then the 10th grade Christmas concert occurs, and Pran is -- poof, gone.

I unwound in part two of this series that that separation was quite remarkable, not just for Pat, who experienced a huge reaction to that separation ("I was so depressingly lonely"), but for Pran, who, I posit, was essentially abandoned by his mother (that's a little harsh, but I'm a mom, too, so I feel this emotionally and structurally) to go to boarding school, out of Dissaya's fear that her son would be hurt by Pat and the Jindapats, the way that she was when she was a teenager. In other words, Dissaya would have rather had Pran away from her, physically, to continue the enmity between the Jindapats and the Siridechawats, than to risk Pran continuing to be physically close to Pat.

In all other words: separation from loved ones, in the life of Pran, had hitherto been associated with trauma. Even regarding the final "theoretical separation" that I posit Pran and Pat having at the end of the series -- where they must pretend to be broken up in order to save the sanctity of their relationship -- that compromise, that sacrifice is certainly associated with the intergenerational trauma that the Jindapats and Siridechawats have levied unto their children. And because of Asian cultural norms, such as saving face, obedience, and filial loyalty to one's family, Pat and Pran will not play an individualistic game of declaring their relationship publicly. Instead, they'll pretend to be broken up, with Pat asking, years later, when he'll ever be able to walk through Pran's front door.

That's a LOT! It's a lot.

So, how do we get from the guys being "theoretically separated," to being actually separated, for two years? There are two ways that I want to look at the actual separation: from the perspective of Pran's emotional readiness, and from a lens that I didn't think of that @telomeke proposed, regarding Dissaya's lost future as a university student.

I stand from the perspective that Our Skyy 2, both for Bad Buddy and for A Tale of Thousand Stars, is underrated. It was full of comedy and improvisation, but after my recent rewatches -- Our Skyy 2 also contained some of the most beautiful emotional closures to on-screen relationships that I've seen. The conclusions to both PatPran and PhuphaTian were so lovely.

"I can't live without him."

"I can't live without you." "Neither can I."

"If anything happens to you -- how can I live?"

The phrase "I can't live without you" is the key to the door opening to Pran's ultimate independence. Before then, Pran still felt insecure enough (which we learn about through his conversation with Phupha) to feel guilty about the previous ways in which he was engaging with his partner, Pat.

In light of that insecurity, and with the confirmations of such permanence -- I can't live without you, I will live forever with you, I can't survive without you -- that gives a person like Pran a foundation, a sense of security.

It sounds so simple, but remember that Pran has not had any kind of sense of security up until the point of his relationship with Pat. Again, even his mother separated herself from her son for her own fear, reputation, and enmity.

Pat's loving confirmation opens the door for Pran to.... finally be himself. If Pat will never leave Pran, Pran can find safety -- maybe even external to his inner sanctuary in which he's found his own internal peace up until the moment that they graduate -- to find himself, through new means, like his burgeoning career.

I love the way that Our Skyy 2 ended in particular around the ongoing commentary between Pran and Pat that Pat was still under the assumption that without Pat, Pran "can't do anything." In fact, when Pat first admits that he "can't live without" Pran, he notes that he's the fool in that equation -- that he's the one who can't function without his partner in Pran. With Pat's solid love for Pran, and with that admission, Pat himself can also let go of his motif of enmeshment and dependence that he assumes Pran has towards Pat -- and allow Pran to be his own holistic self, away from the demands of dependent people like Pat and Dissaya.

In a quick conversation I had with @chickenstrangers a couple of months ago, we actually noted that Pran happens to like having strongminded people around him, people who set boundaries around him and for him -- people like Dissaya, like Wai, and even like Pat, with Pat's jingle of "you can't do this without me" rattling through Pran's head as Pran first boards the bus to Pha Pun Dao. I would posit that that for so long, other people did the work for Pran of setting those external -- and even many of those internal -- boundaries that Pran operated by, that Pran then, without the safety of that inner sanctuary, could often fall into confusion or maybe even a little stress-induced dissociation, during times in which he didn't know how to solve problems, like fixing the dilapidated bus station early in the Bad Buddy series.

But with Pat's own internal change and admission in Pha Pun Dao -- Pran himself then gets to change within far more safe boundaries, the boundaries of his relationship, and he's literally able to fly, both emotionally and professionally.

Besides the internal relationship dynamics between Pran and Pat giving Pran the emotional safety to be able to leave Thailand, my dear BBS compadre, @telomeke, offered another theory regarding Dissaya that I thought was incredibly apt. We know that Dissaya's had almost total control over Pran's physical being for his entire life. How could she let Pran, her only baby boy, go so far away from her?

Again, we know that she sent him to boarding school, away from her, to get him away from Pat. But Pran going to Singapore wasn't about getting away from Pat. At least on paper, for her sake -- he's no longer with Pat, so she doesn't have the Jindapats to worry about in Pran's life anymore.

What @telomeke offers is a read that Dissaya herself could live vicariously through Pran's professional successes -- because her own professional success was denied to her, through Pat's father, Ming. From @telomeke:

...Pran, in going to Singapore, is actually, in a way, living out Dissaya's dream, because she was robbed of a professional future in a career outside the home, so in making a success of himself in his chosen career, he is, in a sense, allowing Dissaya to live her dream thru her baby boy. She didn't stop him from going to Singapore, and I think this is partly why; Pran's success will be hers too[.]

What this theory offers -- along with Pat's own safety and sanctity through Pat's confirmation of permanent love -- is Pran's safety through Dissaya. Dissaya gave Pran up once (arguably, she gave him up a bunch of times). But if Pran is living out a professional dream that was dashed for Dissaya -- and Dissaya supports Pran living out that professional dream? Pran gets double confirmation, from the two people he is the closest with, that he'll be safe to live out a dream of his own, one that belongs only to him, that the people who love him want to see him invest in.

And we see Pran having great success in Singapore. It worked. On the flip side, we see Pat's pain at the separation all throughout the first half of episode 12. We see Pat viscerally missing Pran, and we see other shades of Pat's pain as well (cc @shortpplfedup), especially in the resulting years of conflict with his father after he comes out to Ming with Pran. But with separation will come pain, and it's on a couple, a couple as well-balanced as Pran and Pat, to deal with that and mitigate that pain through their eventual and forever love, the love that was truly confirmed in Our Skyy 2.

Whew. I drop my pen in pure pleasure at turning over this incredible television series through all the lenses that I've been obsessing over, not just for the past two months during my rewatches and my writing, but since this past January, when I first watched this incredible series. I've been so thrilled to demarcate BBS like this on its two-year anniversary, and again, I very much want to thank @telomeke, @grapejuicegay, @recentadultburnout, @neuroticbookworm, and @lurkingshan for discussions on Asian reads on BBS; and @chickenstrangers and @ranchthoughts for side DMs about the wonders of this show. With the closer of this mini meta series, I'll chug along on the final stretch of the OGMMTVC -- but I am tremendously happy to have given Bad Buddy all the space it deserves on this syllabus as a truly remarkable, influential, and groundbreaking show of its time.

(Tagging @dribs-and-drabbles, @solitaryandwandering, and @wen-kexing-apologist by request!)

[ALLLLLLLLLRIGHT! Back to the GRIND, fam! So right now, I have the OGMMTVC on pause as I catch up with Tanachot Prapasri's and Fluke Teerapat's La Pluie, as I know La Pluie is going to end up on a lot of Best of 2023 lists. I AM OBSESSED.

But once I'm done with La Pluie, we stay grindin' on our homework, and I'll get to Cheewin Thanamin's Secret Crush on You. I know that SCOY is being referenced in The Sign right now, which I really wish I had time to watch, but -- there is so much airing. And I'm double-Cheewin-ing with Playboyy at the moment, so I think I'll stick with the SCOY/Playboyy double-feature for a little comparison's sake.

If anyone was noticing, I did take off a rewatch of The Eclipse from the list. I think, as of recent times, that a lot can be said of GMMTV's current ships by way of the closing of Only Friends, and anything I was going to analyze on the side of The Eclipse, I already wrote in my Only Friends meta earlier this fall.

So THAT means that after SCOY -- I've got a rewatch of KinnPorsche on the slate. BL cultural zeitgeist from a brand-new studio, woop woop! I am not-so-secretly looking forward to watching this, as KP was my first Thai BL, ever.

We keep KEEPIN'! Here's the status of the list, and as ever, please head over to this link for a more updated version of this watchlist!

1) The Love of Siam (2007) (movie) (review here) 2) My Bromance (2014) (movie) (review here) 3) Love Sick and Love Sick 2 (2014 and 2015) (review here) 4) Gay OK Bangkok Season 1 (2016) (a non-BL queer series directed by Jojo Tichakorn and written by Aof Noppharnach) (review here) 5) Make It Right (2016) (review here) 6) SOTUS (2016-2017) (review here) 7) Gay OK Bangkok Season 2 (2017) (a non-BL queer series directed by Jojo Tichakorn and written by Aof Noppharnach) (review here) 8) Make It Right 2 (2017) (review here) 9) Together With Me (2017) (review here) 10) SOTUS S/Our Skyy x SOTUS (2017-2018) (review here) 11) Love By Chance (2018) (review here) 12) Kiss Me Again: PeteKao cuts (2018) (no review) 13) He’s Coming To Me (2019) (review here) 14) Dark Blue Kiss (2019) and Our Skyy x Kiss Me Again (2018) (review here) 15) TharnType (2019-2020) (review here) 16) Senior Secret Love: Puppy Honey (OffGun BL cuts) (2016 and 2017) (no review) 17) Theory of Love (2019) (review here) 18) 3 Will Be Free (2019) (a non-BL and an important harbinger of things to come in 2019 and beyond re: Jojo Tichakorn pushing queer content in non-BLs) (review here) 19) Dew the Movie (2019) (review here) 20) Until We Meet Again (2019-2020) (review here) (and notes on my UWMA rewatch here) 21) 2gether (2020) and Still 2gether (2020) (review here) 22) I Told Sunset About You (2020) (review here) 23) YYY (2020, out of chronological order) (review here) 24) Manner of Death (2020-2021) (not a true BL, but a MaxTul queer/gay romance set within a genre-based show that likely influenced Not Me and KinnPorsche) (review here) 25) A Tale of Thousand Stars (2021) (review here) 26) A Tale of Thousand Stars (2021) OGMMTVC Fastest Rewatch Known To Humankind For The Sake Of Rewatching Our Skyy 2 x BBS x ATOTS (re-review here) 27) Lovely Writer (2021) (review here) 28) Last Twilight in Phuket (2021) (the mini-special before IPYTM) (review here) 29) I Promised You the Moon (2021) (review here) 30) Not Me (2021-2022) (review here)

31) Bad Buddy (2021-2022) (thesis here) 32) 55:15 Never Too Late (2021-2022) (not a BL, but a GMMTV drama that features a macro BL storyline about shipper culture and the BL industry) (review here) 33) Bad Buddy (2021-2022) and Our Skyy 2 x BBS x ATOTS (2023) OGMMTVC Rewatch (The BBS OGMMTVC Meta Series is ongoing: preamble here, part 1 here, part 2 here, part 3a here, part 3b here) 34) Secret Crush On You (2022) (on pause for La Pluie) 35) KinnPorsche (2022) (tag here) 36) KinnPorsche (2022) OGMMTVC Fastest Rewatch Known To Humankind For the Sake of Re-Analyzing the KP Cultural Zeitgeist 37) The Eclipse (2022) (tag here) 38) GAP (2022-2023) (Thailand’s first GL) 39) My School President (2022-2023) and Our Skyy 2 x My School President (2023) 40) Moonlight Chicken (2023) (tag here) 41) Bed Friend (2023) (tag here) 42) Be My Favorite (2023) (tag here) 43) Wedding Plan (2023) 44) Only Friends (2023) (tag here)]

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captainnameless · 6 months ago

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any maxy + gp or lando + jon/will or charles + andrea crumbs??

Max + GP

It’s post Singapore ‘23, Max is alright. GP knows, but he is a little deflated. A drop is imminent and Daniel’s stuck on all sorts of data duties, still not back in the car.

The call if he could keep an eye on Max had been expected and accepted without a fuss. Max is already pouting when they step out of the elevator and make their way to Max’s hotelroom.

GP takes a quick look around before he’s intertwining his fingers with Max’s, pulling him along. “Let’s go, buddy.”

“When’s Daddy coming?” Max asks, following GP with a slight resistance in his step.

It’s an expected question, GP knows where he ranks on Max’s favorites list and while he’s proud to know he’s high up there, there’s no shame in admitting Daniel’s #1 stop is out of reach.

“He’ll get here as soon as he’s able, alright? It might be a while.”

It pulls a whine out of the younger and GP quickly swipes the room card to the door so they can have their privacy.

Luckily Max accepts his shower without a fuss, and GP feeds an overly tired Max little bites of his room service meal.

Max is determined to stay awake, eventually gives in to a cuddle when GP promises to wake him up when Daniel gets here.

Daniel gets there late, GP’s watching some B-list moved with dimmed audio while his hand places absentmindedly with little strands of Max’s hair while the younger’s face is pressed into his thigh, body stretched out onto the couch, thumb barely in his mouth still, Leo sat on GP’s other thigh where Max had put him.

Daniel coos, and it pulls a smile from GP who stills his hand.

“How’s he?” Daniel asks, kicking off his shoes.

“Ok.” GP nods, attention back on the boy. “He’s been a good boy, wanted to stay up for you. Eventually settled on being woken up once you got here.”

Daniel grimaces a little. “Let’s pray he goes back to sleep after.”

“He probably will, today was a lot. Think he just wanted a cuddle from you.”

“Well I’m not one to deny.” Daniel replies, moving over to the couch and gently crouching down, brushing his hand over Max’s exposed cheek. “Muffin,” Daniel breathes. “Daddy’s home.”

Lando + Jon

Jon’s bad at the discipline part, even though he’s seen Carlos steer Lando into a corner more than a handful of times, he’s too sensitive to the puppy dog eyes and crocodile tears, even with Lando being the menace that he is today.

Bribes, he’s good at bribes though.

“Lando,” Jon says, trying not to sound exasperated after trying to get Lando to do this one exercise for over 10 minutes now. “If we get the workout done before 3, I’ll take you to get a frozen yogurt instead of you having to eat your smoothie bowl.”

It gets Lando up and going easy enough, and with slightly threatening reminders of said frozen yogurt they get done what they need to do.

“Shower, then a treat.” Jon says, watching Lando scurry off into the gym showers and appear again in record time.

When he’s handing Lando back to Carlos at the end of the day the younger starts babbling about his froyo immediately.

Carlos smiles. “Were you such a good boy that you got a treat?”

“No,” Lando says, “Only a little bit.”

Jon bites his lip, at least Lando’s honest, but the look Carlos gives him shows he knows exactly what has happened and Jon squirms like he might be the one in trouble with Carlos now.

“You know I can’t help it.” Jon rushes to defend himself, taking a step back out of reach just in case with an apologetic smile.

Carlos sighs, ushers Lando towards Jon. “Did you say thank you?”

Jon gets a hug instead.

Charles + Andrea

Andrea has been around Charles for forever, it feels like, he knows the boy inside out. Knows about what helps him relax, be a better driver, even if he’s usually not too involved in that.

Usually.

“Hi.” Carlos says when Andrea opens the door to his hotel room, Charles in partially hidden behind Carlos, his cheeks vibrantly pink, eyes tired and a little wet.

“You know I don’t ask often,” Carlos continues. “But could you put him down for a nap? He’s exhausted, I have a meeting I can’t take him too. I couldn’t reach anyone else.”

Charles whines from behind Carlos, buries his face into Carlos’ side and only now does Andrea realize that Charles is clutching Carlos’ hand, the other one clutches a soft looking elephant attached to a small blanket.

“Of course,” Andrea says immediately, steps out of the doorframe to let them both in. He figures he knows what this meeting is about if Charles can’t come with, not anything Ferrari which is a sensitive subject still and explains the wetness in Charles’ eyes.

Carlos steps inside, takes Charles with him and then gently tries to move the younger out of hiding, facing him.

“Cuoricino,” Carlos says, brushing his thumb over Charles cheek. “Be a good boy for Andrea, ok? Have a nice nap? I’ll be back as soon as I can.”

“No.” Charles pouts, scowl on his pretty face while he sucks in a breath.

Carlos sighs, gives Andrea a look before turning back to Charles. “Charlie,” he starts, “if you sleep time will go a lot quicker, no?”

Charles seems to contemplate that but doesn’t answer, pout growing as his eyes grow wetter.

Andrea moves over into their space, keeps his voice nice and calm. “We have a bit of a cuddle first, hm?” He says, and opens his arms a bit.

Charles is rarely one to deny a cuddle, and an emotional overly tired Charles does not deny one at all, stumbling into Andrea’s embrace with a shaky sigh. “Bravo, Tesoro.” Andrea hums, wrapping Charles up. “Can we say bye to Carlos?”

It’s best to move that part quickly, both Carlos and Andrea know so Carlos moves over to press to quick kisses to Charles’s head. Murmurs his i love you’s before quickly going out the door. “Grazie, Andrea.”

Andrea waves him off, gently maneuvers both him and Charles towards the couch ones the door closes and encourages Charles to get comfortable, watches him bring his thumb up to his mouth while the pout disappears, little blanket twisted around his fingers to brush at his face.

“Dormire.” Andrea says.

#littlef1adventures #lf1a.minific

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intheholler · 1 year ago

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Hiya, thanks for the blog! I'm not really from anywhere (USAmerican/British Citizen, born in Singapore, lived in the UK/China, only moved to the US recently) so regional pride is something quite alien to me. I never set down roots long enough to really feel like somewhere was 'home', so it's always nice to see someone really show their love for a place.

I climbed the New England end of the AT a lot during my youth, and I would love to hike the whole AT one day. Whenever I'd discuss hiking in the Appalachians I'd always hear 'Ah, but they're nothing compared to the Rockies!'. And it only made me love these mountains more. Something about the snotty way someone says a Mountain can't be as great as the one they climbed makes me want to hike over the Blue Ridge and remember what it was like to hike Khatadin. These are ancient structures, built by the earth herself with evermoving hands and blind eyes. The Rockies are powerful, I am sure, but the Appalachians shall be where I climbed first. That holds a special place in my heart.

I envy the love you feel for your home. To have a home to love, to share the beauty and connection to that home, it is a service. Keep up the blog, it's lovely.

Thanks again,

Skye

you know, you just reminded me of something. i was talking to my partner about this recently, and i think part of my "regional pride" is because i also moved so much that i never really had a chance to plant roots in a specific place. i mean, every one to two years we were packing up. my dad was a contractor and we were poor as fuck so we followed wherever he got a few months of work.

but almost all of those moves were in appalachia or the south that i feel a strong sense of connection to the overarching themes of the region itself. it's all my home, even if i have never been able to name a single town as my hometown. especially because, maybe.

i've not known what it's like to move between entire countries and continents, though. i bet the floaty feeling is even worse for you. home is where you make it.

and appalachia can be that for you, too, even if its just in memory of that hike.

thanks for standing up for our mountains. people look at how "small" they are compared to other ranges and don't stop to respect what that means. they don't realize that they are like a badass, aging grandma in that way; endless time and gravity has pushed in on their spines, made them shorter, but appalachia is wise as fuck, and boy has she seen some shit you don't wanna fuck with

#asks #appalachia

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circlejourney · 2 months ago

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When I was 24, I decided to get assessed for autism. At that point, I was in the midst of moving my life to a different country, and while it was not easy, and still isn't, it was also the first time I ever got to live "as a full adult."

Up till that point, my parents had made most of my life decisions on my behalf, including controlling my bank account until I became an adult, taking the prize money I won at competitions, deciding I wasn't allowed to apply to universities overseas for my bachelor's, and generally systematically convincing me I could not survive living on my own.

Anyway, for the first time in my life, I could make my own life decisions. And so I came home one summer, and told them about my wish to get assessed. And they told me something to the effect of:

When you were 13, your secondary school teacher asked us if you were autistic and thought you should get assessed. But we decided we didn't want you to have that label.

[cw self injury and physical abuse, also generally very personal outpouring here]

And you know...after hearing about my friends' horrible experiences with mental health diagnoses and suicide attempts "staining" their record for the rest of their lives...I kind of get it.

They were doing it for my safety. In Singapore, unlike in Australia, having mental illness on your record genuinely affects your chances at employment and access to other freedoms. Disability rights are awful there. And worse than the rights is the stigma.

My parents made the judgment call not to get me checked, because it was seemingly not affecting my functioning. I was studying at "top schools" all my life because my grades and extracurriculars qualified me to be there. I was doing well even in a school where exams were tuned and benchmarked so that only a certain fraction of the students scored an A (because 90% of the students would score an A otherwise). In my parents' eyes, there was not a problem big enough to warrant something so life-changing as a diagnosis.

Still, I don't think I needed a label to receive the stigma, but that's beside the point here. The point is that the diagnosis could have been dangerous in Singapore, and we were in a double bind, where they could not let me seek help, or I risked losing full personhood in the eyes of the State.

After moving to Australia, a lot of other things became clear. Beginning from the fact that my Master's degree course load in Australia was half that of my bachelor's in Singapore. Relatively speaking, I sailed by on my Master's, partly because the hours were so relaxed, and I had the time to live my life in the midst of it. And my bachelor's was easier, again, than high school.

I found out that learning someone was regularly beating their kid was grounds to call Child Protection Services. Haha, what? You mean that thing my parents did so much that I started to avoid coming home from school, is a crime in some countries?

Earlier this year, I heard from my sister that she's working 30-hour shifts on-site as a doctor. She doesn't get any sort of break for sleep in the middle of it, and she does this weekly. 70-hour work weeks, and this isn't even abnormal in Singapore - it's expected of doctors in their first years. And my parents went through that too, and have been telling my sister to suck it up.

What I think is that the Singapore government likes to keep us all in a bubble. It feeds us the lie that this is how all humans live, under the guise of knowing what's best for us. And you really don't know how different life could be - the constant pressure, and the lack of regard for our personhood, is like water to a fish.

And it gets replicated within the household - to align with the State, the Family then must re-enact its authoritarianism. I can't get diagnosed and seek help, I will stop being seen as human if I do. Why do you keep yelling at teachers and throwing things at your classmates? Why do you keep having meltdowns? You need to learn anger management. And I do my exams and I get my A's, and all is well, because see, the grades prove that you're more than functional.

Anyway I started self-harming when I was 10 years old. I thought about committing suicide all the time. As a child. I couldn't understand why the world felt like it was on the other side of a glass wall, through which no one could hear me. Why I never felt like a part of the picture. Why no one seemed to trust me to do anything right.

It makes infinitely more sense now, but I still feel like I'm on the other side of a glass wall, and sometimes I wonder if it's simply too late for me to develop a fundamental sense of security in myself. I have seen my therapist for 5 years and we've made a small amount of headway. But it probably takes more than 5 years to undo, uh, all that.

#thinks #oh this gets a bit dark

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singaporemovingsg · 3 months ago

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“Where are you from?” “Earth, I guess.”

Though this article isn’t exactly an analysis of a theory, it is meant to be an examination of an idea, so I suppose it still falls under the purview of this website. As I may have alluded to in a few of my other posts, I did not grow up in my parents’ home country. Born and raised overseas for the first sixteen years of my life, I identify more strongly with the East Asian cultures wherein I grew up than the Western American culture my parents grew up in, and which I returned to visit every five years. That self-identification isn’t necessarily correct — I have more American attributes to me than I initially thought, of course — but there is still a very real component of disconnect.

The more technical term for someone like me is a third-culture kid, or a TCK. For a TCK, where their parents were from, where their last name probably came from, and what nationality they look like are all components of what we call their passport country. My passport country is America. Where the TCK and their family lives is called their host country. My family moved around a lot, but my three host countries were in East Asia. The reason we’re called third-culture kids is that we were raised with elements of our parents’ culture in a locale with a different culture, so we naturally blend them both, making it a sort of third culture.

When I talk to people in America and they find out I’m a TCK, they’ll ask me questions like, “So are you East Asian?” or “Are you a real American?” or “Do you like America or East Asia better?” I’m certain I’m not the only TCK who’s been asked questions like this. The truth is that most TCKs feel more like, well, a TCK than someone from either country — and most of us will feel more at home with other TCKs than we will with people from either our passport or host countries, even if each other’s countries aren’t the same. For example, a Singapore-based, Nigeria-residing TCK could likely feel more at home with a Russia-based, Italy-residing TCK than either of them will with someone from their respective host or passport countries.

This makes a lot of sense when you think about it — people identify home with community, and people identify community with people like them. The most similar thing to a TCK is another TCK, so it only makes sense that they’ll feel the most community — and the greatest sense of home — there. Because of this, TCKs can often struggle to create proper connections with non-TCKs. Many TCKs find it a challenge to communicate how important their cultural background is to the people closest to them — I certainly have — and it can be hard to help non-TCKs really understand them. My hope is also that through this article, non-TCKs who are close to TCKs can gain some insights into how they operate, and perhaps some things to know when interacting with them. So I’ll break down a few things about TCKs here — why we can struggle to make friends, what we carry, and what we probably wish you knew.

I’m not even going to get close to covering everything about TCKs in this article, nor would I want to. There is a lot of weight that comes with it, and some parts of it are just better left unsaid. Feel free to comment any questions you have below, and I’ll try to answer them as thoroughly and honestly as possible. Finally, because my take on this topic is completely experiential, I’ll do it a greater service by being more narrative than analytical.

Why we can struggle to make friends

I was on a phone call with some of my TCK friends and we happened to be discussing this exact question. There are a lot of reasons, and I want to break them down and explain how the TCK life can bring them to these conclusions.

“I’m tired of starting over.” I can’t even count how many times I’ve heard this. I read an excellent (and very accurate) article called TCKS: The Most Heartless Things that stated that TCKs found solace in pretending they were all fine together. And that’s not wrong. The article says it better than I can, so I’ll just quote it:

TCKs can be some of the most masochistic people ever—always anticipating leaving their current location then detesting for no reason wherever they go next… we all, to some extent, act like we’re used to it. And strangely enough, we find the most comfort in knowing that we’re all letting each other pretend like we’re okay. As one of my best TCK friends said to me once, “We live for the pain-joy of those awful last two weeks, three weeks, whatever.” The time when we finally realize how incredibly happy we are here with these people and we can finally let it all go for these last few weeks before we all scatter again, after all these years of wishing we weren’t here, wishing we were grown up, wishing we were with someone else. We live for this feeling of being insanely full of happiness and full of deepest sorrow at the same time.

What this author is saying, effectively, is that TCKs start over a lot — and every goodbye is something like a death. Part of you dies, that place is dead to you, many of the relationships are dead to you. A lot of TCKs have to say goodbye so many times that they harden to making new relationships as a way of protecting themselves from future pain. I can’t think of any TCK I know that hasn’t felt this for at least some considerable amount of time. This is why the author also says we live for the “pain-joy of those awful last two weeks.” The author is referring to the final weeks before a move, because then you can be happy, realizing that your grief about leaving means you actually liked the place somewhat, that maybe you didn’t harden as much as you thought you did. I’ll come back to this idea of pretending to be okay later, because it will be important.

“They’ll never understand.” This one is also very common. The TCK life is very hard to explain to others who have never lived cross-culturally, because it is hard to communicate the weightiness of constant transition. TCKs are always hovering on the brink of instability, knowing that they don’t belong to either place but not sure where they do belong. And because this is such a deep and ingrained part of our life experiences, it can feel like someone who doesn’t understand that probably won’t understand us.

“Monocultural people are just so ignorant.” Now, it’s important to remember that this is a TCK perception of a group, and there will always be exceptions to the rule. But when a TCK says someone is ignorant, they usually mean that the person hasn’t learned how to notice and respond properly to interpersonal differences. They may mean the person is inattentive to other people or that they lack a broader understanding of the world. TCKs have grown up constantly encountering new information, and they learn a lot of hard things at a young age. To them, ignorance is a cross between a lack of knowledge and a lack of maturity. Because their background tends to spur them ahead of their monocultural peers in terms of maturity, a lot of TCKs are disinclined to make monocultural friends because of what they feel is a disparity there.

This one is particularly pertinent to America, but I’ve heard a lot of TCKs say they’re resistant to making friendships with Americans because they find them very shallow. This idea is complicated and, ironically, culturally derived, but I think I ought to explain what a TCK means when he or she says this. If you have grown up your entire life face-to-face with your weaknesses and confusion, in a community living the same way, trying to find a balance between yourself and an outside culture, then you come to grips with your deficits very quickly. Because everyone in that community is dealing with the same (deep) issues of the self, identity, community, truth, belonging, etc. on the same (deep) level, we kind of drop the standard barriers to deep, personal conversations. We’re all in the same boat, so we may as well talk about it. For this reason, some TCKs will say that if conversation depth can be measured on a scale of 1-5, with 5 being the deepest, even get-to-know-you TCK conversation will start around a 3. Standard American small talk, on the other hand, will start around a 1. If the TCK has formed their immediate community with individuals who all start around a 3, it is a really severe culture shock to be forced to talk on level 1 — and many TCKs new to America have never had a 1-level conversation before, so they simply don’t know what to do with it. A TCK can sound condescending when they call Americans shallow, but what they’re trying to communicate is that they don’t know how to engage in conversation with someone who hasn’t had to think long and hard about who they are and where they belong like the TCK did. The TCK lifestyle forces a lot of self-reflection and self-awareness, so TCKs can struggle to converse with others who have had less practice being thoughtful and self-aware.

So to most TCKs, there is something very attractive about other TCKs — they both feel like displaced foreigners, and so at the core level, they share a sense of unbelonging. That sort of feeling can bond TCKs very quickly, because they share the same foundational framework for viewing reality. When TCKs are put in monocultural settings — especially the ones in their passport country — they can feel discouraged, confused, dismissed, and misunderstood. The experiences overseas that brought them pain and joy and solid community and confusion are suddenly turned into conversational talking points or showpieces. The non-TCK can’t relate and often either chooses not to care or asks questions in a way that can feel devoid of real understanding. The TCK is just looking to be understood, like everyone is when they’re looking for a friend. TCKs just have tighter exclusion criteria, because they’re harder to understand. This leads into the final reason TCKs often offer, which I think is especially practical for non-TCKs.

I call this the axis of attention. When I think back to all of my experiences with non-TCKs, I can categorize almost all of them on an axis ranging from “You are not your culture; I’m going to treat you like you’re normal,” to “You are your culture, and that is what interests me about you.” It seems like most non-TCKs, when they meet a TCK, feel like they have to fall in the right spot on this axis in order to treat a TCK properly. So they totally ignore their cultural experiences, or they ask loads of well-intended really invasive and rude-sounding questions, or they try to vacillate perfectly along that line so that they do it “right”. But, coming from the source, that is not what we want you to do. The most helpful attitude isn’t anywhere on that axis, because that axis tells the TCK that the relationship is defined by how the non-TCK responds to what they find hard to relate to. Or, more formulaically, my plan for operating in our friendship = how I act about the confusing parts of you.

To give you an easier image of this, imagine that you meet someone with a really life-altering disability, like hemiplegia (lower-body paralysis). You want to develop a friendship with them, because they have an interesting personality and a lot of charisma, or something else that you like. If you focus all of your effort on making sure your new friend never feels like you notice or pay attention to their disability, you’re going to make them feel neglected, dismissed, and uncared for, because that’s an important factor that affects their life. And at some point, you’ll accidentally take them somewhere that only has stairs and no wheelchair ramp, because you won’t have any practice thinking about how the disability affects their life. On the other hand, if you focus all of your effort on making sure they feel like you really value how the disability impacts their life, you’ll likely make them feel like that’s the only thing you find interesting about them. Your problem is that both of your strategies revolve around how you see them, and not what you see together. I would rather a non-TCK spend the first, like, four to six hours of our interactions at minimum just trying to find points of interest and connection. If my TCK background comes up, great — try to find points of connection there. But don’t think too much about how you see it. Think more about what we have in common, whether or not it incorporates my cultural background. This is how all TCKs make friendships and how monocultural people make friendships as well. Crossing the bridge can be scary and can make you wonder what strategy you’re supposed to use. As you get to know the TCK and develop a deeper relationship with them, paying more attention to their cultural background is important. But especially early on, the more you think about how you’re thinking about their cultural background, the less effective you’re likely to be.

What we carry

It’s important to say, before going into this, that there are very few TCKs who carry light weights. A lot of us have seen really hard, painful things, and not all of those things have been properly processed. If you’re a non-TCK, it’s especially important that you be very careful not to prod about them before the TCK is ready to share them. This is primarily because the TCK more than likely is expecting you, as a monocultural person, to fall on the axis of attention, to be culturally ignorant, and to misunderstand their experiences. Maybe they’re wrong about you, but they’ve been right about too many people before (or tried to trust them and found they were wrong) to open up right away. TCKs live with a very strong feeling of difference and displacement, and if they think you’ll take something badly that really matters to them, they won’t risk having it hurt again. So what you should not do is approach a TCK you’re getting to know with encouragements to “just talk about it”. A lot of TCKs can feel like this is you trying to win status by winning their self-disclosure, which, even if you didn’t mean it that way, will just close them off more. Instead, you should ask genuine, simple, specific questions with clear reasons for why you want the answer. It’s not that we don’t want you to take a genuine interest in our background — we do, desperately. We just don’t want it to feel fake, and we’re really good at reading that into what people say. We’ll come back to asking TCKs questions in the next section.

So what kinds of things do TCKs carry? Some of them have been woven throughout this article, but here they are in summarized form:

Unresolved grief: we say goodbye a lot, we say it quickly, and we go to the next place. We don’t have a lot of time to process things, and it’s often easier to shove out the sadness in the go-go-go rush of moving to a new place again. If all the moving also means your friend group constantly changes, you also don’t have a stable support network to process the grief within, which means you’ll often isolate yourself to avoid being re-hurt. Like I said above, every move is a series of deaths, so many TCKs have seen a lot of deaths they might not have wanted to see.

Communal disconnect: I elaborated on this a lot more in the other section, but TCKs can feel very acutely that they are alone in a crowd of monocultural acquaintances. They don’t always feel that they belong in their passport country or their host country, and because this is so hard to communicate, they often decline to share. This leaves them alone once again, waiting to find the next TCK and the next pocket of understanding.

Unbelonging: this one is rather obvious — a lot of TCKs move around a lot, but even the ones that don’t can still feel like they don’t belong. After all, the locals see them as a foreigner, but when they return to their passport country, the people who feel like foreigners to them assume they are a local. It gets wearisome explaining where you fit to both sides, and after a while, you’re not sure which side you belong on, or if you belong on a side at all.

Spastic friendships: all of the goodbyes mean that you don’t keep most people around for very long. And sure, as a TCK, your small talk starts three times deeper than the standard, but your friendship ends three times faster than the standard, too. I and my friends sometimes speculate that we start deep so we can actually get to something valuable before one of us just up and leaves again. It’s hard with the TCK lifestyle to find a long-lasting friendship with someone who’s known you a while, who can keep you accountable to things, and who understands you deeply. You expose your raw brokenness to strangers for three, six, nine months, and then one of you is gone. You have a great friendship for that time, but then it’s over — and sure, you pick back up when you talk again, but the friendships are so transient that you have very few people who know you very closely for a substantial amount of time. Just as an example, between the ages of nine and seventeen, I did not have a really solid friendship that lasted longer than six months. It was only shortly after I turned seventeen and stayed in one place that I secured a lasting, deep friendship with someone. It’s lasted over a year, and that hasn’t happened since I was eight.

High responsibility but low sense of control: this one is especially interesting to me. Because we move around a lot and/or have to adapt a lot, we realize very quickly that our success in our environment is contingent upon our ability to recognize social cues and adapt properly to them. For this reason, TCKs tend to take initiative at high levels, be proactive in their environment, look for opportunities, and exert agency in a productive manner. Consequently, most TCKs tend to see themselves as fairly responsible for their success. At the same time, the TCK realizes they had no choice over their location, or how much they moved, or what cultures influenced them. The TCK rarely gets a choice when their family needs to move again, or when they need to start again at a new school, or when their schedule gets upended because the family or immediate community needs something. They don’t get a say in their friends or what questions people from their passport countries ask them. So there are a lot of things TCKs can’t control, but they still often feel acutely responsible for their success. In some ways, this can be healthy and helpful, but in other ways, not so much — it can easily lead to negative feelings that life has it in for them, or that their agency isn’t worth much since they can’t choose most things themselves anyway.

Despair regarding transience: I’ve certainly struggled with this one a lot. I was only eight years old when I decided that everything that I looked forward to about a new place, new friends, or new things would go away too quickly to be worth all of the wait. Because my circumstances changed so much, and the things I enjoyed with it, I felt for most of my life like there was little stability to be found in a place, a feeling (especially happiness), or other people. After all, if things change all the time, why rely on them? Once they get pulled out from beneath you, you’ll fall down — best to not try to enjoy things that won’t even stay around. That mindset isn’t necessarily robust, but it’s very easy to feel that way when you move often, change friends constantly, or feel endlessly displaced.

Hatred towards God: this is especially relevant for kids whose parents live overseas because of religious affiliations. At least a third of my TCK friends to some degree blame God for the challenges the TCK life has brought them, because they feel that he has forced their family to live overseas and instigated all of the hard things that happened as a result. Because of this, many religion-purposed TCKs can struggle with doubting whether God actually cares or loves them or whether he is there at all.

These are very complex feelings and ideas, and they aren’t things TCKs share with just anyone. If a TCK shares this with you, it’s probably because they think you’ll make an effort to genuinely understand them. Depending on the TCK, they can have a lot of baggage from things that happened to them — witnessing deaths, negative interactions with government bodies, severe loneliness, racial discrimination (depending on their host country), reentry distress, financing challenges, living with threats to their lives, and so on — that you more than likely have no idea how to respond to.

If you’re a non-TCK, the seemingly endless stories of adventure, pain, and heartbreak can seem overwhelming and different, and you may not be sure how to handle it. Remember that it’s okay to not know what to do. Here are a few tips, though, if a TCK opens up to you about the hardest parts of their experiences:

Don’t assume that your experiences compare. If you moved from Alabama to Delaware, I’m sure you experienced some cultural changes, and that’s definitely hard, but that is not the same thing as what the TCK experienced. For points of friendship connection, finding ways you can relate to each other is a good thing. When the TCK is sharing their hurt with you, trying to make your story relate is not a good thing. It can make the TCK feel like you are misunderstanding their experiences or devaluing what it was actually like, and they’re very likely to shut down. Unless you’re a TCK, don’t act like you can relate to the TCK’s background. Immigrant kids can relate on some level, but it isn’t the same as a TCK, so while there are points of connection, don’t make yourself sound like a TCK if you aren’t one.

Don’t assume they’re bragging. We have a lot of “crazy” stories, but remember, these stories are our normal. Maybe we rode elephants five times, maybe we were chased by village attack dogs, maybe we had people take our photo everywhere we went, maybe we speak six languages. But we grew up doing those things, so it can be hurtful for other people to constantly assume that we’re flexing any time we talk about our lives, and it furthers the feeling of difference and displacement. We’re telling you stories about our lives because we’re trying to help you understand us, and because we’re trying to connect with you. We want to feel understood, and if we’ve decided that you’re worth a shot, we’ll tell you our stories because we think you’ll be able to understand us if we explain. Just because it would be something you’d brag about if you did it on vacation doesn’t mean it’s something we’re bragging about.

Let them talk. Just listen. We may bring in fifteen subpoints (I certainly do) in our attempt to explain. When we do that, we’re just trying to give you all the context, because we don’t know what you know about cultures and life overseas. We have a lot of untold stories, and a lot will come out on the person who listens. It won’t be orderly often, because we usually cram it inside ourselves. Just be patient with us.

If you don’t understand something, ask. Also, if you’re really curious about something, ask. We like talking about our countries and our experiences, and we understand our lives well — so explaining it to someone who really cares is fun for us. If we use a term you don’t recognize, just ask what it means when we finish the sentence (bonus points: remembering the term and then using it in an appropriate context in a question or statement later is extremely meaningful. This is because the term we gave you is probably an “insider term” that other TCKs from our community use, so using it is a clear attempt on your part to understand us well). And if you’re genuinely curious, just ask us. If you really want to know what Japanese ice cream tastes like, ask. But one way you can make these questions more inviting to the TCK is by explaining why you want to know. Asking a bunch of seemingly pointless questions can make the TCK feel like a show exhibit. Instead, explain why you’re curious about the thing. For example: “I’ve heard Asians don’t like sweets as much as Americans and I found that really interesting. Did you ever notice if the Japanese ice cream flavors were less sweet because of that?” or, on a deeper level (especially if you’re trying to take an interest in their background), “I’ve heard that Japanese people can be self-isolating. Is that true, and if it is, how did that affect you during your time there?” These kinds of questions are helpful because they give us something specific to answer as well as a reason you’re taking a particular interest. You sound interested in our thoughts — not in what interesting facts we can spit out in twenty seconds.

As a final note, if you are a friend to a TCK, there are probably a few rogue cognitive distortions that they’re harboring — and they might not recognize them because they’ve not talked to people about their TCK experiences. If — and that is a very important if — you are close enough to a TCK that they’re willing to share their experiences with you, you may want to consider that you are in a position to (gently!) challenge some of their distorted thought patterns. You can help them by encouraging them to examine their thoughts about transience, lasting friendships, God, or community. These distortions are another thing they carry, and if you’re very close to them, you can help them let go. Feel free to ask more about this in the comments if you’re interested in how you can do this.

What we probably wish you knew

I’ve covered a lot in this article, so we’ve touched on many of the things TCKs wish non-TCKs would know. But there is one thing I want to comment on about TCKs and inter-TCK interactions and community that I think a lot of non-TCKs misunderstand.

This is the idea I mentioned earlier that we all take some comfort in pretending that we are fine. For the TCKs that I’ve interacted with, there is something relieving about knowing we have all experienced enough pain that no one needs to be surprised or turn on therapist mode. We take our experiences as they are, swap crazy stories without needing to filter them or explain terms, and disregard cultural norms wherever we see fit. The difficulty is a given, and that’s both a blessing and a curse. On the one hand, we like that no one feels estranged for having a heartbreaking backstory. On the other hand, it’s kind of heartbreaking that that’s the way it is.

We act like we love the life, the constant change, the cultural exposure, and the hard things that force us to grow — and in a lot of ways, we do. But remember that that isn’t all there is. It is a sharp “pain-joy”, the kind of thing that makes us cry, but the thing we’re glad to cry about. The same author I cited earlier adds,

When it’s a party of TCKs, we eat inordinately huge slices of hummingbird cakes late at night, viciously spearing with forks the decadent plumage whose flavor we cannot label—banana? pineapple? blackberry? coconut? We blow clouds of soap bubbles in each other’s faces… and tell stories about people we love who are in heaven now, but only the funny stories, the stories that make us laugh… The laughter—that’s the most important part. The cackles and snorts and delighted shrieks that swell and rise out of our throats and fill the apartment and overflow down the hallway. We bang our hands emphatically on the table, clutch at the walls as our knees buckle and our sides are throbbing with all the joy and we eventually give up and collapse on the floor and we can’t breathe. The can’t breathe is when it gets dangerous. Because in that moment of sheer white oxygen-deprived hilarity, everything goes quiet in your mind and all of a sudden it is incredibly clear what will happen too soon. It happens in a split second: the heaving in your chest is no longer from breathless laughter but a flood of tears rushing up your windpipe, a tingling gush sweeping through your sinuses, and you tilt your head back as fast as you can to balance the emotions on your eyeballs. But no matter! Mr. TCK-from-Japan-but-is-German-with-an-American-accent to the rescue with more bubbles in my face and open mouth, and I sputter and blink away tears and roar in indignation, and the tribal dance starts up again. Moment of danger safely behind, only slightly bruised.

I love this illustration, because it captures very precisely what a lot of my experiences with my TCK friends are like. We don’t always know what we’re eating. We know we’re emotional wrecks, and we laugh about it until we cry, and then we laugh some more. Our lives have asked a lot from us.

So here is what we wish you knew: when we cry, we don’t always wish we weren’t; when we laugh, we’re not always glad we are. It is not a light weight that we carry, but the weight draws us deeper into reality, and that is valuable. We can be painfully joyed by our experiences simultaneously. There’s a lot of emotional weight that comes with the TCK life, and it sometimes feels like we have to laugh it all away. That is not always a bad thing — our stories are complicated, and so are our feelings. It means so much that you just experience the feelings with us — even if they change.

Again, if you have any questions about the TCK life or want resources to understand them more, ask in the comments, and I’ll try to answer as well as I can. In a few weeks, I and one of my best TCK friends are going to co-author a follow-up article talking more about the benefits of the TCK life and other miscellaneous things, so keep an eye out for that if you enjoyed this one.

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hii hi art!! i just finished reading the newest drabble bc i tried really hard to save it until i’m back in my own bedroom after yoongi’s singapore concert!! 🥰

and yes, of course it’s everything and more than i hoped for it to be :( it was so sad but also so beautiful at the same time. i loved that you showcased how real the emotions from the event that transpired was & that old wounds that havent been tended properly tends to resurface. a couple of things that really stuck with me:

1. both in this and the prev drabble (of the breakup), oc has a lot of inner monologue about how she didnt feel like she is enough and jk’s ability to throw her & their relationship away so easily. but i really liked how in this new story, even though she still thinks about it, she doesnt bring it up anymore bc they’ve talked about it. oftentimes in relationships we tend to overcomplicate and keep bringing up past mistakes that hinders us from moving forward. i love that this is a whole new concern that she has & jk beautifully manages to calm and reassure her.

2. oc is an angel truly bc when i read this all i want is to scream at jk’s face: “PUT YOURSELF IN MY SHOES!!!” i really dont think he can handle: 1. being broken up with after he went home from a TOUR 2. oc giving up on him 3. oc going on a date with someone else 4. everyone else basically being happy that oc is finally not with him

homeboy wouldve lost his mind truly!! oc is a gem i aspire to be her

3. it is so interesting to look at prev drabbles where oc is so careful about not asking anything from jk and never letting him over spoil her (and we’ve seen more cases where she is the one spoiling him!) and to see where it actually stems from. i predicted that the power imbalance of jk’s black card can be intimidating but i didnt think that it’s this deep 🥺🥺 poor oc…. i hope in future drabbles we can see her getting more comfortable in taking what is hers (jk!! so jealous💀) but also, his money. bc that boy has too much of it and i bet he would’ve LOVED to spend it all on her….. jk spoiling oc rotten drabble!!!! 🛍️🛍️🛍️

thank u for ur constant supply of the in which couple, you manage to always make me so happy with them, including the angsty ones! (especially the angsty ones🥰🤭)

hellohello my love 💗🥹 omggg so happy for you i hope you had lots of fun at the show !!! i’m another person closer to yoongi LOL

ihhh you are so kind thank you so much !!! i’m so relieved i was able to execute what i was trying to convey 😭🫶🏼

omg yes yes i love this this is such a good observation !! 🥺 oc wants to move forward but also deals with a lot of internal battle because despite understanding the reasoning behind his actions, he still hurt them deeply >:(

OH PLEASEHDJDHFHF the poor guy literally threw up when oc returned his things he will definitely lose his mind !!! but we won’t even be able to move past #1 😭 his stubborn ass is going to put up a fight

“4. everyone else basically being happy that oc is finally not with him” oh. this really stings though 🥲 oc must be loved and protected at all times :( they went through so much :(

it’s really heartbreaking when you put the pieces together 💔🥲 the thing is oc wasn’t even conscious about that at the beginning at all but then became concerned about other people thinking bad about him :( in the valentine’s drabble though oc offered to pay also as a form of valentine’s gift but i promise they’re definitely plenty comfortable now hehe they’re basically married and oc is living their best life :P AND PLS I HAVE TO WRITE THAT DRABBLE!!! jk fucking loves spoiling oc in every way possible 😭😭😭 oh i feel emotionally unstable already i’m so jealous 🚶

and yayyy thank you for always reading !! 💜 i’m happy to be of service i have too many jungkook thoughts to keep them to myself 🫣

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Book Notes: Singapore Sapphire

Anyone who has asked me for help in the mystery section of Island Books knows that, with very few exceptions (Louise Penny and Ann Cleeves), I do not read contemporary mysteries. I prefer any bloody murder to be at a historical remove. But I also realized, after combing through my reading journal, I’ve primarily read mysteries set in Regency London. Or World War I London. Or post-WWII London. The common denominator apparently being historical London. So when I visited the meticulously curated Lopez Bookshop last fall, I took a chance on expanding my comfort zone with the delightfully titled Singapore Sapphire, by A.M. Stuart, a historical mystery set in turn of the century colonial Singapore.

This series focuses on the widowed Harriet Gordon, who has joined her brother in Singapore following a traumatizing imprisonment in England due to involvement in the suffragette movement. In changing scene to Singapore, Harriet is hoping to put her past behind her and move amongst people who don’t know her history. To earn a bit of money, she offers her services as a confidential personal secretary. Unfortunately she discovers her first client, Sir Oswald Newbold, dead in his home only a day after their first appointment. When the police arrive, Inspector Robert Curran realizes that Harriet is an asset to the case with her keen eye for detail and a practicality honed by years living at the far reaches of the British Empire. He finds himself drawing more and more on her observations, and after another death is connected to Sir Oswald, Curran can’t help but lean on Harriet to help him untangle a dangerous web of deception.

Branching out to colonial Singapore from London felt like I was pushing myself a little, even though the main characters were still Brits. Stuart does a wonderful job of evoking her setting and describing the variety of people from around the world trying to make their way, however unsavory, in Singapore. Mystery series that hold my interest tend to contain central characters with an engaging partnership. With Harriet and Curran, their friendship and trust in each other slowly evolves while they put together the pieces of the murder. Stuart also lays the groundwork for longer character arcs, leaving me eager to start the next in the series.

I raced through the subsequent books, Revenge in Rubies and Evil in Emeralds, The final book in the series has a title, Terror in Topaz, but sadly no publication date yet. For those of you who are fond of historical mysteries like I am, give the Harriet Gordon series a try!

— Lori

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1st-choicepestcontrol · 2 years ago

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How to Control Household Pests in Singapore?

Do you enjoy having bugs in your house?

Naturally, nobody does that! Even those who find these creatures intriguing do not want vermin running loose in their home, causing unsanitary conditions. In actuality, the invasion of practically all pests—from the buzzing fly and itchy mosquito bite to the painful bee sting—is not only annoyance-inducing but also dangerous. Rats, cockroaches, and mosquitoes can spread sickness, but termites can harm your house. Complete pest control is the only solution for this issue.

How can they be repelled?

Keeping the bugs out is the greatest way to get rid of a pest infestation. Water, food, and shelter are the three essential components that every living thing requires to survive. You may make it difficult for these pests to feel comfy by eliminating their food source and hiding places. This will lessen the possibility of pests moving into your house. In order to keep bugs out, you should also seal any potential entry points, such as cracks and holes in the exterior of your home.

Common Household Pest Control in Singapore:

Garbage Disposal Procedures:

Did you realize? Pests enjoy hanging around in and near the trash. In actuality, they can reproduce there and get their food directly from the waste dump. To reduce the risk of these pests, you must be especially careful when disposing of rubbish. Instead of having garbage cans throughout your home, have one in your kitchen for putting out food waste.

Using trash cans with self-closing lids is one of the finest solutions because it keeps the debris out of insects' grasp. To prevent pests from feasting, make sure your compost bin is lined with fabric and has tight-fitting covers. As a result, recycle containers should be frequently cleaned and sanitised before being placed back where they belong.

Install mosquito screens:

For natural ventilation, most homeowners like to keep their doors and windows open. Unfortunately, mosquitoes and other flying insects can easily enter your home through open windows. In this situation, mosquito screens keep pests and trespassers out of your house. Fresh air and ventilation can enter without being obstructed by the mesh. However, make sure the screen is impenetrable—holes allow bugs to easily crawl in.

Fill up the Holes and Cracks:

Every home undoubtedly contains gaps, holes, and cracks that are simple to overlook when assessing our home. Rats and other insects can enter through these openings and explore your cozy abode. As a result, you should frequently inspect the outside of your home or hire an expert.

Clean Stagnant Water:

In the stagnant water, mosquitoes deposit their eggs and grow. Any stagnant water at your house needs to be covered or removed. Always keep an eye out for any water that has become stagnant in the buckets, flower pots, and other containers.

Conclusion

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RELOCATION ESSENTIALS: MOVING FROM SINGAPORE TO THE UNITED STATES

Moving from Singapore to the United States can be a very exciting yet complex process that calls for critical planning and organization. Be it for work, family, or personal reasons, the transition to a U.S. life can be quite intimidating due to cultural, geographical, and legal differences. This move, though, can definitely be smooth and stress-free, provided one is well-prepared with the necessary steps involved.

Here are some key relocation essentials you should know when moving from Singapore to the United States related to visa requirements, how to pack, manage your finances, and adapt to life in a new country.

Understanding U.S. Visa Requirements

Being in America requires you to consider the type of visa, given the reason for relocation to the country is for employment, studying, or reunification with family.

Work Visa (H-1B, L-1, E-2): In case your purpose for going to the United States is because of work, then you may use the H-1B or L-1 visa. Both types are widely issued in the United States for specialized workers, but they differ basically in their meaning. The first one refers to an employee with specialized knowledge, while the second refers to the employee of a company who has been transferred to another branch within the United States or in another country. If you will start a business or invest in a company in the United States, then an E-2 investor visa might be considered as an option.

Student Visa (F-1, M-1): Students coming to the United States for higher education will need an F-1 or M-1 visa, depending on the course of study. The F-1 visa is required for an academic course; a course of vocational or nonacademic study requires an M-1 visa.

Family-Based Visa: You will be able to make an application for a family-based visa, which would include IR-1 in the case of a spouse of a U.S. citizen or F2A for spouses and unmarried children of permanent residents among others, for reunion with family members who are U.S. citizens or permanent residents.

Keep in mind that obtaining a U.S. visa sometimes is a very cumbersome process, and, therefore, requires an early start. Be sure to gather all necessary documents, attend your visa interview, and follow the timelines provided by the U.S. embassy in Singapore with care.

Financial Planning and Setting Up U.S. Bank Accounts

Moving to the United States requires a lot of financial planning in order to transition smoothly. Some things you will have to consider are how to transfer money from Singapore into the U.S., how to handle exchange rates, and how to set up a bank account in the States.

Money transfer: Research international money transfer services for the best rates of exchange and fees before you make your move. Use popular services such as Wise, Revolut, or traditional banks to assist you in securely and efficiently moving your money from Singapore to the U.S.

Opening a U.S. Bank Account Upon entry to the U.S., one of your first activities should be to open a local bank account. U.S. banks such as Chase, Bank of America, and Wells Fargo provide a number of account options for new arrivals. You will need identification, proof of address, and your immigration documents to open an account.

Credit Score: The U.S. is quite particular about credit history, which it would use to decide whether you are in a position to avail loans to purchase or rent a house, or even to subscribe to a mobile phone plan. As you are a new immigrant, you do not have any U.S. credit score; therefore, apply for a secured credit card or deal with any financial institution that assists in building up credit history.

Housing Options and Renting a Home in the U.S.

Finding housing in the U.S. is another important aspect of your move. Whereas the majority of people in Singapore live in apartments, housing in the U.S. comes in several configurations: apartments, townhouses, and single-family homes. How you find a rental will possibly vary with the city or state to which you are relocating.

Apartment: Websites such as Zillow, Apartments.com and Craigslist are good sources to find rental property in the United States. Be prepared to provide proof of income, references and identification to rent a property. Most landlords require a security deposit and first month's rent up-front.

Short-Term vs. Long-Term Rentals: If one is not sure where one would like to stay, consider initiating the process with a short-term rental or staying in a furnished apartment. This will avail you with the opportunity to explore other neighborhoods and find what will work best for your longer-term needs.

Lease Contract Understanding: Lease agreements in the United States often go on for a 12-month duration, though shorter and longer leases may be available. The lease must be read carefully since it contains all the rights and responsibilities, including utilities, maintenance, and early breaking policy if necessary.

Health Insurance and Healthcare System in the U.S.

Being highly privatized, unlike Singapore, which subsidizes healthcare, health insurance forms a very vital part of relocation to the United States of America because medical care could be very expensive without coverage.

Health Insurance Options: This would be a health insurance option availed from the employer in case one is shifting to another city for work. Else, this would have to be sought from the Health Insurance Marketplace or through a private insurer.

Types of Plans: Basically, there exist a myriad of health insurance plans within the United States: Health Maintenance Organizations, Preferred Provider Organizations, and High Deductible Health Plans. Each differs in grades of coverage, networks of physicians, and out-of-pocket expenses.

Understanding Healthcare in America: When you have been covered under the insurance policy, the next thing will be to know how the U.S. healthcare system works. In contrast to the Singapore healthcare system whereby any hospital or clinic can be visited, the U.S. insurance plans normally have networks of doctors and hospitals; you may also need a referral from your primary care physician to see any specialist.

Packing and Shipping Belongings from Singapore to the U.S.

Moving across the world means shipping your belongings across, and that is something which entails a lot of logistical planning. Planning what to bring with you, what to leave behind, and how to ship your belongings efficiently will ease the process of moving.

What to Bring: Before packing, take the time to assess what you will need in the U.S. Given the different climates across the country, it's important to pack accordingly, especially if you're moving to a region with colder weather than Singapore. Also consider how much it will cost to ship larger items, like furniture, versus how much it would cost to purchase them upon arrival.

Select a moving company: Lots of international movers exist that have specialized services in moving from Singapore to the U.S. Some well-known companies include Asian Tigers, Allied Pickfords, and SIR Move Services, which can provide door-to-door shipping to safely move your belongings.

Shipping Costs and Timeframes: The cost of shipping depends on the volume of your goods as well as the method of shipping/sea freight or air freight. It is cheaper by sea freight, which takes several weeks, while air freight is faster but more expensive. Make sure to get quotes from a few moving companies and plan accordingly with your shipping timeline.

Living in the U.S. : Making the Adjustment

Life in the U.S. will be both exciting and challenging because there are great cultural and lifestyle differences from those of Singapore. An open mind and a bit of preparation, however, make all the difference in your ability to settle into your new community.

Cultural Differences: While the U.S. is a melting pot, indeed, of different cultures, there are many marked differences in communication styles, workplace culture, and social mores relative to Singapore. For instance, Americans may be more upfront in their communications, with workplace hierarchies being a lot less formal compared to those in Singapore.

Obtaining a Driver's License In comparison with Singapore, which has public transport options available most anywhere, it is a fact that many locations within the United States will require a vehicle to get to work. If you plan to drive, you will want to get a U.S. driver license. To obtain a license, each state operates its own DMV, and you may be required to take a driving test.

Building of Social Network: Emigration may prove to be an extremely solitary experience during the initial period. However, there is much one can do to create a social network upon arrival. Joining local clubs and organizations, attending community events, and connecting with other expatriates are ways in which one may make new friends and set base in a new lifestyle.

Conclusion

Moving from Singapore to the United States requires some serious life changes. It is a process that calls for careful planning, organization, and an open mind. If you understand certain things, such as those revolving around requirements for visas, financial planning, options of housing, and health care, it would go a long way in ascertaining a relatively smooth transition into life here in the U.S. With proper preparation and the right mindset, you'll be able to adapt to your new environment and thrive in your new home across the world.

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What are the Benefits of Volunteering While You Travel?

Volunteering is one of the best ways to know your abilities, skills, and efficiencies. People involved with volunteering learn about their career options and goals in their lives. Most of the time, they develop professional contacts while volunteering and spending quality time for the welfare of children, poor, victims of natural disasters, rescued animals, abandoned old people and so on. Strategically design your tour by choosing to board economy or cheap business class flights and reach various destinations not only to see new places and explore the culture but also to do various voluntary work to help the locals or support in preservation of the forests and ocean.

There is no proper theory or definition of volunteering. But for many people working as volunteers, this is an eye-opening and self-awakening for them.

People can come out of the square foot of their self-centeredness and can move ahead to think about others too. We are not entering into the debate of what is religiously righteous but this is a very humanitarian action which everyone should try doing once in their lifetime. Keep track of different voluntary projects and get tickets for flights to Cancun from UK from Business Flight Shop to get extra discounts.

Here are some personal as well as professional developments you can experience from volunteering. Hence are the benefits—

Develop skill

You can develop a skill while working as a volunteer. For example, you can be trained how to construct a house and when you start doing it you will find it interesting. After a certain time, you will work like a pro while working as a volunteer in any construction site after a flood or building homes for the poor.

If things go well and you want to some serious job to earn money, you can start your own house construction business. When you are well aware of things, you can easily guide your team in building houses and can earn a reputation besides money as well.

Explore variety

Volunteers get the chance to explore the variety. They can teach students, cook for the flood victims, work as a house builder, contribute as a writer from the war fields or places with great crises, and so on. If you ever get the opportunity to volunteer, you will see how within a short while you have explored and learned so many things.

Later on, you can start your own NGO and help people, animals etc needing help. You can also work for saving the environment by planning campaigns. Initially, you have to work under any banner but if you want, you can be a name by your own with a planned activity schedule. You can book tickets for one of the reputed flights to Dubai from UK and work there for climate changes and how locals are dealing with it. They also need good educationists for grooming the next generations of needy communities.

Grow your friend circle

When you are travelling from one place to another and working in different fields along with various people, you will generally develop connections. This is how you will have a huge friend circle while working. Whether for volunteering or business, networking plays a major role. For instance, if you are planning to book tickets for one of the best flights to Singapore from UK for your next business venture, you might try to involve in some voluntary services and for that this community will guide you.

Boost your career

Employers always look forward to versatile employees. When you produce your resume with the details of the volunteering jobs you have done so far, you will definitely, attract the employers. This, for the majority employers, is an additional skill which they can utilize for their business as well from you.

Even if you are a fresh candidate, you will get a good job instantly because of the volunteering skills you gained by exploring internationally along with your academic capability.

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agarwalmovers · 21 days ago

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Top 5 Qualities of Trustworthy House Movers in Singapore

When it comes to moving your home, you should prefer reliable moving companies because it is all about shifting household belongings that are quite valuable to you and your family. Well, the household items that are useful for you throughout your life journey should be shifted carefully, and that’s why reliable movers are always preferable for house moving. Now the question is how to verify the best moving company for house relocation. Here, some essential qualities of trustworthy house movers in Singapore are mentioned. Read this blog carefully and learn what you should check before hiring a moving company for your house relocation to, from, or within Singapore.

Excellent Customer Service

The foremost thing that you may look for when choosing a house mover in Singapore is hassle-free customer support service. This is not just a convenience but a source of peace of mind. If they have an excellent customer support team, you will feel free to connect to them and get your queries resolved immediately. Also, by calling them from the comfort of your home or chatting with them, you can gather information that is necessary for your house relocation.

Use High-quality Tools and Technologies

The best house movers in Singapore do not just rely on their expertise; they use high-quality tools and technologies to handle the relocation task. They are equipped with damage-proof packaging boxes and other items and have all the modern tools and techniques that are essential for hassle-free moving. From fabric sheets and waterproof boxes to T Corners, the packers and movers use such quality materials to ensure the safety of your household belongings throughout the relocation journey. This advanced approach should give you confidence in their ability to handle your move.

Stay with Customers from Start to Finish

Once you get moving services in Singapore from professionals, you need not to worry about anything. They will be with you from start to finish. From packing the goods to setting them in their proper places, it is their duty that they handle them perfectly. They are with you at every step of moving so that you cannot feel alone at any stage of this daunting journey. Also, they keep you stress-free and relaxed and make you enjoy shifting to your new home.

Great Reputation

A moving company with an excellent reputation is entirely reasonable to hire. A reputed company reflects its high-quality services through many years. Customers appreciate their services and are in high demand in the logistics industry. If you find all the qualities in a company, then finalise the deal without second thoughts. One of the good things about dealing with a reputed company is that you need not worry about the charges. Their charges are always genuine and affordable.

Ensuring the Safety of Goods

Reputed packers and movers go above and beyond to ensure the safety of your belongings under any circumstances. They use damage-proof packaging and other safety measures to ensure the safety of your household belongings throughout the relocation journey. Also, they provide moving insurance that you can claim easily for any mishap. This comprehensive approach should reassure you about the safety of your goods.

These are the top qualities of a reliable house mover in Singapore. You should check them out before hiring any moving company for your house relocation to or from Singapore.

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namolosanu · 1 month ago

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Living in a Singapore Condominium: Quick Guide

Welcome to the wonderful world of Singapore condo living. This place is where ease meets luxury in the city's vibrant heart. The guide is great for expats wanting to explore the special lifestyle of living in a high-demand city property. Singapore condos give you more than a home. They offer an unforgettable experience.

If you're thinking about moving or want a better place, Singapore luxury condos are important to know. We'll look at their modern designs and amazing amenities. These things make everyday life incredible.

For those seeing their home as more than a resting spot, a Singapore condo is a sign of prestige and ease. To make your living smooth, learn about condo management.

Key Takeaways

Discover the blend of modern living and community vibes with Singapore condo life.

Learn the ins and outs of condominium management to maximize your residential experience.

Explore the benefits of strategic condo locations within the vibrant city-state of Singapore.

Engage with a luxurious lifestyle enabled by state-of-the-art condo amenities.

Understand the perks of living in a luxury condo, from convenience to exclusive comforts.

What to Expect When Moving Into a Singapore Condo

Living in a Singapore condo like Meyer Blue condo offers premium condo facilities Singapore is famous for. This includes top-notch security in condos, and a lively Singapore condo community. Every part of condo living adds to your comfort and ease, giving you luxury and a sense of belonging.

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Understanding Condo Facilities and Amenities

Condos in Singapore are all about luxury and ease. They have amazing amenities like modern gyms, beautiful gardens, and big swimming pools. These features make living better and promote a healthy life.

There are also places like BBQ pits and rooms for events. They help residents meet and have fun together, making them key to the condo life.

Security and Accessibility in Singapore Condos

The security in condos in Singapore is very important. It makes sure everyone living there is safe. There are 24/7 guards, lots of cameras, and high-tech entry systems.

Thanks to this, people feel safe all the time. This is very important in a big city like Singapore.

The Community and Social Dynamics

The Singapore condo community is lively and friendly. There are always events like parties and casual meet-ups. This helps people make friends and build a supportive community.

These activities make condo life fun. They also create a strong network of friends and neighbors.

Choosing the Right Condominium for Your Lifestyle

Looking for the perfect condo in Singapore involves more than cost or looks. It's key to make sure the location, size, and offered services fit your life. Picking wisely can make your day-to-day life better by adding comfort and ease.

Location, Location, Location: Proximity to Essentials

Having a great condo location in Singapore is key for a good work-life balance. Pick a place near work, schools, buses, and important services. This saves you time and makes life easier by cutting down your travel.

Evaluating Condominium Sizes and Layouts

Think about now and later when looking at condo sizes. Your choice, from a small studio to a big penthouse, should fit your life. Families might want big spaces with lots of rooms. Singles or couples might like smaller, easier to manage condos.

Amenities That Match Your Interests and Needs

For the best condo life, find amenities that you like and need. Things like gyms, pools, and gardens can make living there great. Also, based on who lives there, having things like a place for pets or kids' play areas is good.

Fully equipped fitness centers

Lap pools and relaxation areas

Functional pet-friendly policies

For more tips on picking the right condo in Singapore, check out this detailed guide at choosing the right condo in Singapore.

Costs Associated With Living in a Singapore Condominium

Living in a Singapore condo is more than the views and fancy things. You need to know the costs too. Let's look at the main expenses to plan your budget well.

Condo living expenses start with the buying price. It changes with the condo's location, size, and extra features. Condo investment cost is the first amount to think about when buying.

Maintenance Fees Singapore: Monthly fees keep the common spaces, amenities, and building in good shape. They usually pay for security, pool upkeep, and gardens.

Other Living Expenses: Bills like utilities and property taxes also need consideration. They should be part of your monthly budget.

The costs might look big, but they're part of the condo's charm in Singapore. This comes from high-quality services and facilities. Knowing what your fees are for can help manage your money better.

Understanding the Rules: Condo By-Laws and Restrictions

Living peacefully in a Singapore condo means knowing the condominium by-laws Singapore. These rules are crucial for a good living experience for all. They make sure everyone gets along without problems.

Common Restrictions and Their Reasons

Condo rules in Singapore might limit pets, renovation times, and use of shared spaces. These rules keep everyone's peace and privacy. For example, noise rules are important at night, especially in crowded places.

Navigating Condo Management and Operations

Good relationships with condo management lead to happier living. They enforce rules and take care of the condo. Working well with them improves your experience. Having meetings and open talks helps everyone stay informed.

Importance of Compliance for a Harmonious Living

Following the rules helps us all live better together. It's not just to avoid fines. It's about everyone enjoying benefits like security and cleanliness. This ensures we can all use the shared facilities without trouble.

Luxuries and Perks of Condo Life in Singapore

The condo lifestyle in Singapore goes beyond just your home. It brings you into a world of unmatched luxury. With Singapore condo luxury living, residents get to enjoy top-notch facilities. Imagine relaxing in an infinity pool on the roof, working out in modern gyms, or finding peace in exclusive meditation areas.

Singapore condos are getting better, offering more amazing perks. They have an on-site concierge for special experiences and private lifts. This means you get into your home easily and privately. Your living space might also have cool tech, like automatic lights and top security.

Living in a Singapore condo means enjoying both comfort and luxury. You can have parties in beautiful function rooms, eat gourmet food in private dining areas, or relax in landscaped gardens. It's more than just a home; it enhances your life and status. These condos are all about excellence and a refined way of living.

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