#her frustating very valid

[onlyswan]

hi art! since we are here talking about in which!oc I also want to share how she validated my feelings by just being herself. I am the kind of person who has a very bad relationship with luck, and I am very clumsy and careless for the lack of better word and it is cute how kook has always been so patient with her despite her stubbornness and klutzy nature and is always so careful with expressing his frustation at times. I have been trying to change and be more matured ever since my last relationship and how it shaped my mind into thinking that I am just a handful one and I am a bad person for dropping the relationship the moment I have had enough of the disrespect but the past two drabbles gave me a spark to reflect on how me and oc kind of had the same past and hearing her thought process about it made me realize that I am not a bad person just because I wanted something better than how he was treating me at the time.

aaaah! art, you are so cool and it is so amazing to think about how you share these things with us for free and how we share this love and adoration for the couple and our little community that feels so cozy and comfortable. you are so cool, art!

oh my beloved anonie :( sending you warm and tight hugs !! 🫂🫂🫂 you are so strong for walking away from such a bad relationship and i hope you know that <3 it’s truly not easy and it takes a lot of courage ++ it’s so important to remember to respect ourselves too !! which is something i always try to communicate through oc as well :") i’m so glad the past two drabbles could spark such reflective thoughts in you it truly means so so so much that you’re sharing this with me !! moments like this make me think that what i do in this blog is so fulfilling and priceless 🥹 thank you for being a part of this little community <333

[just-an-enby-lemon]

Barbara was never good in lying to herself.

It was why even without the events of the last month she would never had stayed a cop for long: to truly care about the people of Gotham and somehow remain in the uniform one needed to trick themselfs into belinving that things inside the system were getting better, that they were changing things and doing good. And while an excellent liar, she was an even better detective.

It was also how she knew, right now, that her motives going into Arkham were fake. Sure the case in her hands was hard, but she would never had become a private investigator if she wasn't able to quickly solve it, between the insane criminals and the incompetent police Gotham had a very competitive P.I market.

Honestly it was her worst lie yet. She had even choose Sharp's day off, because of all the wards whose her dad befriended, he new her best and would see right through it and she was not in the mood to worried glances and bad advice about how she should try to find a way to go back to the police and not mix with "these type or people" (and god did she hate that expression).

"Barbara, what brings you back so soon?" Nygma greeted. The same predatory smile of last time. But she knew better. The Hannibal Lecter imitation was so obvius in restrospect that she wanted to laught. "Is the Gotham P.D really that desperated that they need my help a second time?"

"Knowing the G.C.P.D? Probably. But I woudn't know much about it personaly."

He looked at her intently, curiosity clear in his brown eyes. And then smilled wide not even trying to pretend indiference, clearly understanding the implication. Why are you a police oficcer? He had asked the first time they met, in this same place, a month and a life ago.

"Finally!! I suppose congratulations are in order, hm? I always knew you were meant for better."

He meant it. He had belived in her for the start for some reason neither of them could truly comprehend and the realization hurted. Because Ed seemed even worst than last time, even though Arkham was suposidly better now that Bruce was trying and Strange was dead. He looked like a beat up ghost and she wanted to do something about it, but she knew she coudn't. It was frustating. To not be able to do something, anyrhing to help. Last time he hardly looked like Riddler, at least not like the bright green young man she saw on TV on her teenager years with such an intense fire in his eyes and a terrifying smile that made the suit, cane and gimmick stop sounding stupid and became nightmarish. This time he didn't look much like Nygma either. He seemed less intense, subdued somehow, controled. Not like the man who was pratically jumping during their investigation because he knew something she didn't, the man who hided behind her because of Ace of all things, that talked excitedly about entering a TV studio without a heist in mind. It was a scary vision on itself. She hoped the visit helped somehow.

"Most people said they were sorry or other valid coments about how losing a job sucks. You are the second to act as if it was good news."

"Second?"

"B was the first one."

"Oh, of course, silly me." And he was smilling. The stupid dorky fanboy smile he had directed toward's Bruce at all times during their little adventure. For the first time Barbara asked herself how could Ed be such a good liar when he was soo fucking expressive.

She ignored the voice in her head saying it was because no one cared to try and read him before.

"So" He broke the silence, pointing to the files on her hand. "What did you got me this time?"

-

Working with Ed was easy. And soon they were in a confortable rythm. Trading information and theorizing as much as talking (or listen to Ed talk) about random irrelevant knowledge and exchanging sarcastic coments that were more friendly than what their whole situation would suggest. After hours of her hacking and his discoveries (and riddles) and the conclusion to the mistery was pratically already there, she just needed to check in the adress they found. She smilled happy with the good work and the prospect of helping someone. A smile that disapeared as the euphoria of solving it give place to worry as Nygma suddently turned to her looking way more serius than before and she knew he was ready to point out that she never really needed his help, to ask what the fuck was she playing at, why was she there.

"Next time, could you bring an actual hard case?"

That was new. No questions or acusations. Not even a hint of suspicion in his tone. There was a hidden meaning, because it always had with them and maybe it always would, but Ed was actually very easy to read if someone really tried to and Barbara cared so she knew: he was asking her to visit again. It was all soo clear in his fear and hope and lonelyness.

She wished that she was as easy to read. That he knew for certain she was there because she missed him even if she shoudn't. That she was also lonely and it was this that united them: he had no friends and maybe neither had she because Alfred and Bruce were more like family and Renee was soo much more (or at least Babs wanted her to be).

"Sure. I'll try, but it does depend on my clients."

And he understood and smiled brigthly, finally having his intencity back. Barbara corrected herself. Edward had one friend and so did her.

[crybabysunflower]

Why I am physically unable to hate any of the main characters in Mystic Messenger

Disclaimer:- while I am writing this, my thoughts are not well organised so I feel that this post will be very messy.

I find it hard to hate any of the main cast is because no one, not even the very main antagonist Rika are bad persons inside. Deep down they are all either acting naturally according to the conditions present or are making "well intentioned" mistakes, I mean they have good intentions but end up doing wrong actions. All characters in the main cast are imperfect, they all have good qualities, they are all flawed and because they are flawed they will definitely be moments where they will make mistakes or do something wrong, there will be moments when they will annoy you and frustate you (this especially happens when a particular character is at their lowest point). There are also moments where the positive traits of these characters shine the brightest, this usually happens in the Good Endings.

For Example

Jaehee was being an obstacle in Zen route because she was overprotective of his budding career and did not want it to be ruined. However no matter how well intentioned she was, it was certainly wrong of her to interfere in his private matters.

Zen was being an obstacle in Jumin route because of his prejudice towards Jumin and was wary of Jumin in that route. He had no ill intentions behind his behaviour and since Jumin reminded him of someone who had betrayed and abused him, his feelings are quite valid. Yet it was wrong of him to go too far with the hatred towards, to invalidate Jumin's feelings when he was having a mental breakdown and finally he had no right to interfere between Jumin and MC.

Yoosung was going through the darkest period of his life since Rika left, the person who had guided him, inspired him and had shaped him into who he is and he loved her like his own sister. After she left he was desperate to hold onto anything which reminded him of her. MC takes over her position and validates his feelings which made him feel that MC is similar to her. He used to compare her with Rika because he thought that being compared to her is the highest form of compliment. However despite how well intentioned he might be in this case it was still wrong of him to compare MC with his beloved cousin. Its because we can never replace anyone, not even a deceased person, also with this comparision MC would feel insecure about herself and would feel pressurised to be as good as her. Besides he loves MC in a different way than he loves his cousin.

It was also very reasonable for him to be mad at Jihyun because he felt betrayed by his actions, he really needed Jihyun's support that time which Jihyun was unable to provide him properly and the fact that he was hiding and ghosting the younger male, it had added more fuel to the fire. Yet, it was still wrong when he went too far with his harsh feelings towards Jihyun and blaming him for the "death" because Jihyun would never intentionally hurt Rika and he also did not want Yoosung to become more miserable than he already is . His depression and his own feelings of betrayal might explain his actions but it does not make it any less wrong.

Jumin might seem like he has everything but in reality he is one of the loneliest person among the main cast. He has severe trust issues and abandonment issues due to his traumatic past which involves his emotionally unavailable parents (especially his dad whom he loves very much but the dad treats him more as an employee than like a son)and his friend whom he had trusted very much abandoning him and also because he has constantly seen his dad's wives and mistresses using them for his wealth. But when he finally finds someone who loves him for who really is and not for his wealth, someone whom he can finally trust with he becomes posessive towards them. His possessiveness is highly driven by his fear of abandonment and definitely meant no harm.

Seven has lived a life deprived of affection, on top of that he is working under hazardous conditions which can potentially be fatal to him or someone he loves dearly. He sometimes goes too far with his funny persona and I was mad at him for invalidating Jumin's feelings and making fun of him when the latter was having a mental breakdown. Because he did not want MC's life to be at stake due to his job he was mean and abusive towards her to keep her away from himself. Having MC or anyone else get hurt because of him is the last thing he would want to happen. Most of us were able to see his intentions because we are able to view things objectively. But in real life, being in a relationship with someone like him would be very difficult, for this one really needs to have the patience of a saint. His good intentions does not make his actions towards MC any less abusive.

Jihyun is the most selfless out of the main cast. He is a good guy but he is so good that it is very toxic. He always thought about others and did everything for other's sake. Despite doing some horrible stuff, he had no ill intentions behind doing so. He loved others so much that he decided to take the entire matter into his own hands and deal with it singlehandedly. Because he neither want RFA members nor Rika get hurt, he had decided to keep Mint Eye a secret by faking Rika's death which had some serious negative consequences such as Yoosung falling into a deep depression. He had also hidden the truth about Saeran to Saeyoung, which caused the latter to go through a traumatic experience when he found out the truth.

Jihyun was under the impression that he was in love with Rika when in reality he was rather obsessed with her. He thought he was helping Rika by making her use himself as a punching bag but through this he was rather encouraging her unhealthy coping mechanism, thereby leading to the worsening of her condition due to which he was partly if not totally responsible for the downfall.

Since Saeran and Rika are almost in a similar situations, I will talk about them together. They both have come from abusive homes, are not self aware of their actions (for Saeran its due to the cocktail of drugs he is fed and in Rika's case its due to her severe mental illness which causes her to have delusions). They are under the impression that they are doing good by leading people into the "paradise" but in reality they are abusing people. They are both commiting crimes but they dont realise their actions.

Thereby I conclude by saying that I cant hate any of the characters because I feel that they all deserve love as all of them are broken in some way or the other

[xsecretblastsx]

1x18 Much I do about nothing

So, here it is the final recap for S1. Once again this one took way too long, but long story short I have limited access to a laptop I’m basically only able to do this on mobile, which is not the best.

I normally do the recaps in one sitting, which takes me quite a while and it’s hard for me to find the time to do it. So going forward I’m going to try to do it a bit differently and watch the epsiode in parts, I’m hoping that will help to have the recaps out there faster.

Anyway, here’s the recap.

Thoughts I had while watching the episode

Serena calling after Dan all night... he isnt’t worthy of that but she loves him so there’s that

Rufus and Lily finally got their sexy time. Too bad is the morning of Lily’s wedding. Talk about akward.

This is one of my fave scenes of Chuck and Blair, there’s cuteness, there’s flirty banter and feisty Blair, what’s not to love.

I still want to know the story about him not removing that scarf. Just for entertaining purposes.

Nate and his dad running is a nice little call back to the early episodes of S1, which feels like ages ago.

And here we are with Dan and Georgina and Serena finally exposing her as a manipulative evil mastermind

Thanks Serena for reminding that Lily & Rufus can’t coexist with Dan and Serena 😪

That scene between Bart and Lily is actually good, he’s obviously making a point and letting her know she must make a choice, the good old days when Bart was actually a character and not a cartoon villian.

I remember thinking on my first watch while Dan and Blair are scheming, the show should make them snarky friends that would be fun. 😪

Seriously Dan and ‘Sarah’ have known each other for how long and they already have “their spot” guys are the worst

“Humphrey you’re a born liar” you don’t even know the half of it Blair

As much as I love Blair and this iconic line “haven’t you heard, I’m the crazy bitch around here” I still can’t believe that aftet plotting the whole night with Chuck their plan was just ratting her out to her parents.

Sorry Jenny but that dress Vanessa is wearing is awful. Actually I’m not a fan of Blair’s dress either. Anyway everything is a tad better with ‘Time to pretend’ playing in the background, overplayed as it was I still love it.

Also Blair and Chuck again with the flirty bantering, reminiscing a bit about that first time and Chuck getting kicked. Quality content all around.

I don’t know about Serena but luckily for Blair twenty years in the future she won’t be on her fourth husband

I always hated that “I didn’t sleep with Georgina, but I may as well have” like first of all what does that even mean. Second it’s so frustating because it feels like the show went through great lengths to keep Dan as the “good guy” on this particular situation, and that wasn’t fair to Serena.

Even though I know this is only the end of S1 and there’s more to come I’ll forever be bitter about Rufus and Lily not being together. I do like the bittersweet note of this particular moment though.

Rufly aside I have such a soft spot for the Van der Basses. Sure it was far from perfect but still.

That earlier bit between Nate and Chuck with the captain pointing out that whoever the girl they’re fighting about ain’t worth it and Chuck agreeing and Nate saying that’s the problem may seem like another of Chuck douchbag smarmy moments, but I actually like how it sort of makes sense later in the episode, because is only when Chuck admits the truth to Nate about how he felt about Blair, that Nate not only finally listens to him about the captain, but is also willing to have his friend back.

Poor Nate, always being let down by his father, at least he got to make his point, even if he had to punch his dad (again) to do it.

Even though Blair is on full bitch mode towards Vanessa, she ain’t actually wrong about Nate: endless family drama and never getting over Serena.

Nate and Chuck’s friendship isn’t as larger than life as Blair and Serenas, but is one I still love, and finally is back on. Also Nate’s amused and surprised smile about Chuck’s feelings for Blair is priceless. Chuck’s reaction too, how con someone be smug and shy at the same time?

Dan makes me want to scream like what bullshit is thid “i got seduced by a girl who was pretending to someone else and you knew” so somehow that’s Serenad fault? “I am the most understanding person in the world” Excuse me!!! In what universe, like honestly Dan just shut up.

The fact that this show actually has Serena saying “we are exactly we were at the Bass brunch when we started dating I wasn’t the person you thought I was and you can’t forgive that” and then Dan just sidetracks and claims a lot has happen... and we’re only on season one

Beside the fact that I love the scene of Chuck’s speech while he’s looking at Blair, this line is so spot on “in the face of true love you don’t give up, even if the object of your affection is begging you to” the whole speech is basically the abreviated version of the Chuck and Blair story.

Serena’s is in her own cloud of missery and yet she still makes a face when she sees Chuck and Blair are kissing 😂

Chuck Bass is a romantic, and that’s all that matters 😉.

As much as I’m not sad about Dan and Serena breaking up, it is kind of sad watching them have a last dance with ‘the ice’s getting thinner” playing in the background (such a good song btw)

I had honestly forgot about Jenny for a bit here.

I feel so robbed because they just skip a week and we didn’t got to see any of it, like Chuck being a complete gentlemen? C’mon! Anyway Blair’s traveling outfit is almos customy, nevermind I still love it, it also helps how fears about helicopters aside, she’s excited she’s about the Tuscany trip,

I remember the first time I was like so that’s the end of Nate and Vanessa? How swift. Not that I mind because that scene between Nate and Serena was so promising about summer and the Hamptons... but that’s a rant for S2

The way Bart can’t help but messing up Chuck’s head, even if he doesn’t try to, though whith Bart one never knows. Fun fact: the first time I watched this episode when Chuck goes after Amelia I literally screamed to the screen: “NO!!!’ You idiot”.

So that’s a wrap on Season 1! It was such a fun ride and I’m going to miss it. This last episode was really packed, it also felt quite long for some reason. It also ends with every major ship on the outs, which sucks a bit but it’s also a great set up for season 2.

First there’s Dan and Serena, who call it quits because for the last few episodes their relationship has been a constance struggle of secret and lies. One could make the point that their relationship was always dishonest by Dan’s secret identity as gossip girl, god knows I’ve been ranting about that the whole season particularly the last episode, because in principle is very hypocrital of Dan to be so mad about Serena’s lies when he’s keeping the biggest secret of all. But since she doesn’t know this the whole discussion is centered about her mistakes... Serena makes the very valid (and true) point that Dan can’t forgive her for not being who he thought she was, and this is something that’s going to keep being an issue for them the whole show, but for this particular break up the other big issue is lack of trust

Trust is the key point in a relationship and how can Dan trust Serena if she lies and hides stuff, they can’t have a relationship that way, even if she has come clean about her past who’s not to say if they come across another issue Serena will be honest this time and not hide and try to handle it on her own, truth is she most likely will, (she does act this way in future seasons) but what I would like to point out is that as much as Dan can’t trust her now, Serena actually never trusted him, not in the sense that he would spill her secrets but rather that she didn’t trust him not to judge her and she also didn’t trust that he would still love her if he knew everything about her. And in her mind he proves her right that’s why she points out they’re having the same argument they had at the Bass brunch and even so (sadly) Serena still wants to work through this and Dan is the one that says no, let’s break up. I don’t disagree with him is better for them to be separated but I ‘m petty and so I kind of hate he’s the one in his high horse breaking up with her, when he almost cheated on her with Georgina and even has the nerve to be like “i only did that because you cheated on me and you’re a liar and you let me get involved with a psycho” and it’s just hell no Dan! First of all no one force you to do anything, and also how long did he knew this girl Sarah and they already have “their spot” like that’s on you, and I’m not even mentioning how this argument of the psycho pretty much destroys itself when one remember he’s gossip girl so... who’s the most twisted manipulative one there. I would have issues with Dan and Serena even if he wasn’t Gossip Gilr, but the fact that he is... seriously he’s one devious guy.

Also not a fan of the show going out of their way to keep Dan’s nice guy image, they keep teasing his night with Georgina and then they decide to be light, well he didn’t actually slept with her, the intention was there, but he didn’t because he’s good Dan and sex is meaningful for him, so it’s a big deal for him, but still he was nice and faithful. Sorry but no, have him cheat, everyone else in this show makes questionable decisions and surely the UES changes Dan, so I would like for the show to embrace, they eventualy show it, but they had the space to start to show it much earlier, also just for the record sex with Dan was meaningful for Serena, it wasn’t something she had really experienced before, and it was pointed out earlier in the season, so sex it’s not only meaningful for Dan.

Other two relationships have a quick death this episode: Rufly & Nate and Vanessa. The later gets set aside almost like and afterthought which was dissapointing because it was like why bother then in the first place? Also I actually like their interactions and Vanessa while still judgemental makes and effort for Nate to be more understanding and in turn allows her to show different sides of her character and that’s nice. Then we have that scene between Nate and serena and it’s iluminatinhg, because at list at this point it looke like the show wanted to set something up there and it’s like finally! let’s unravel this (and then...😪 but that’s a rant for the next recap). Rufly on the other hand I like how it went, it felt natural and yet sad because basically they don’t take their chance because they feel that boat sailed a long time ago, it’s been 20 years, and they could have stolen moments, but more than that is just not possible, doesn’t seem like it could work at this stage of their lifes, and while it’s exciting to take the plunge I totally get why they didn’t here.

Finally there’s Chuck and Blair, and me screaming into infinity. Don’t get me wrong I love this episode and even when I still was like No Chuck you idiot! In some ways it needed to happen. Or at least some version of it, but I’m getting ahead of myself. What I love about this episode is all their flirty banter, their chemistry shines through every single scene they have, and they truly make me think of much ado about nothing, i like the back and forth and the obvious subtext of how much they truly like each other, and one can also tell how this is exciting for them, these thing between it’s a first for both of them for him it’s the first time he wanted more from a girl, he yearns for her in a way he never has feel before, he feels, he’s in love, and to her is quite a heady experience to be so openly wanted by someone, she doesn’t even have to try, to force it like she did Nate whose eyes were always following her best friend, Chuck’s eyes follow her and no else. For a minute there they take the plunge, armed with having his best friend back and getting a family Chuck’s goes for it via a best man speech and an apology. He’s a romantic at heart and he wants her to know, and she can’t resist it and goes for it to.

We’re robbed from that week they’re together after that night and is such a shame because while I feel internally each of them have acknowledged they’re in love with each other, there’s a difference between falling in love with someone and actually loving someone, and I feel this is the time that while they obviously don’t speak about it, I don’t even think they fully realized then but they truly fell for each other to the point where it was never the same again. It’s a scary thought, and it’s Bart who brings those fears to the front of Chuck’s mind, the guy is scared to death, is not only because the change of going from womanizing playboy to boyfriend seems monumental for a guy like him but more importantly Chuck’s someone who believes the worst of himself, and it wasn’t a big deal for him, because to eyes of the person whose opinion matters the most to him he’s alreayd a failure and that’s not got to change, but Blair is his second thoughest critic, what she thinks matters and unlike Bart she actually believes he has it in him, to be whatever he wants to and Bart’s words make him think of the expectations Blair may have of him now, and the thought of proving her wrong, he doesn’t want her to see that, and sure he’s going to fail and she’ll hate him for it... and that would be it. So better to end it now, on his terms while he’s the one in control of the situation and put a stop to it.

Bottom line he ain’t ready for it at all, he actually won’t be for a long time, and because of this is going to take Blair a lot of time too to be ready for it. Is what I like about Chuck’s best man speech at first glance is his way to tell Blair he feels something for her and he wants her to give him, them the chance to be something. It’s a plight at heart. It also works perfectly as a summary of what their relationship will be for a while. That no matter what, they love each other, theirs is true love and even if it’s hard almost impossible at times, they can’t give up, and that when one of them wants to throw the towel there’s the other one to remind them of why is worth it in the end.

The game between them is really about to start, here we go S2.

Random bits I’ve noticed:

Chuck lightly squeezing his dad’s arm when Lily’s almost at the end of the altar warmed my heart.

[thelonehepburnette]

I've recently gotten into A:TLA. And I have to say, I didn't expect myself to ship Zutara.

I really didn't. It took me by surprise.

For this particular post, I'm not following a particular outline. These are just a messy string of thoughts and feelings, bared and written down.

Let's cut to the chase shall we?

I knew how things end in the show, one of them being Kataang. Back then, I just accepted it. I was young and believed in the trope that the hero gets the girl in the end. I didn't think much about it. Now all grown up, I thought I'd naturally ship Kataang once I've gotten into the show. But I didn't. Maybe I would've if I've seen all three seasons as a child, but I've only seen some eps here and there.

With A:TLA on Netflix, I got to watch it completely for the first time, but with a more mature perception.

I DON'T think Kataang shouldn't have happened. It's definitely a valid ship. There's friendship, loyalty, trust, and affection between Aang and Katara. Those aspects in their bond serve as valid foundations for romance to bloom. It was obvious from the start. Bryke dropped the hints and I could tell. Despite all the foundations, the way they had Aang and Katara's romance develop was rather lackluster.

I know, I know. A:TLA is a kids show and romance isn't a major theme. If I was a kid now, I might've believed in Aang and Katara's romance.

For the most part, Katara has been acting all motherly/sisterly towards Aang. While Aang's feelings for Katara were portrayed as juvenile. Just a normal kid with a crush. They definitely have a strong bond, but it's quite difficult to see them as something more than friends at their age. In book 3, things between Aang and Katara do get more serious, but the development up to that kiss in the last episode just wasn't believable.

For me at least, things would've been better if Aang's feelings for Katara were further challenged. That way, he gets to see through the ideal image he has of Katara and accept the darker parts of her personality in a more difficult and intimate manner. It also would've been better off if they didn't kiss in the finale. BUT, there would be a scene between Aang and Katara that would allude to a promise of something more... something romantic. This way, I would've believed and rooted for Kataang.

As for Zutara, why do I ship it?

I'm not trying to say that Zutara deserved to be canon. I'm not trying to say that they shouldn't be canon either. I didn't see Zuko and Katara's interactions as romantic. We have a few of them, and they're all platonic at best. But what I really like about the pairing is their development. From enemies to allies who understand, believe, and risk for each other. Not only that, but the symbolism and parallels put together throughout the three books... The sun and the moon. The eclipse. The blue spirit and the painted lady. Oma and Shu, star-crossed lovers from two feuding villages. Fire and Water/Ice. Tui and La. Yin and Yang. If romance was in the cards for them, Zutara would have been the ultimate symbol for forgiveness and unity between two nations that shared so much bad blood.

I don't wish that right after Katara forgives Zuko that they'd immediately get all romantic and kiss by the end, considering the very few episodes that are left and the direction of the show's plot. But if the show had more episodes and Zuko had more time to develop a bond with each member of Team Avatar before the big fight, I'm not against some romantic progression between Zuko and Katara or the promise of something more.

Based on what we have, they definitely had potential. They could work, both thematically and narratively. For me, more so than Kataang.

Despite the few interactions, they all have been very powerful and vital. They all contributed to Zuko and Katara's characterizations and their development. With Katara, Zuko finally finds someone with similar experiences and knows just the right way to understand and speak when his thoughts and feelings are bared. With Zuko, Katara didn't have to put herself in that motherly/sisterly role and just shows those dark parts of herself she tried to hide from everyone. Despite their differences, they appear more like equals, compared to the other characters. All their moments lead to a bond forged from understanding and forgiveness, and it's a powerful one.

Zutara is a ship full of potential and possibility. They might not be canon, but I root for it and I'll continue doing so. I also feel the frustation like a lot of you shippers, knowing a ship had so much potential but it was not further explored. Dwelling on what could have been of Zutara if there were more episodes or if Zuko turned to Team Avatar earlier on. I would've loved to see Katara and Zuko's bond grow if those were the case, even if they weren't innately romantic.

Kataang and Zutara are valid ships to root for. They both have their merits. You can ship either, both, or another pairing. When it comes to shipping, it's a ride or die situation. And I'll definitely ride and die for Zutara.

[faithhopeloveandtherapy]

(1/2)this has been upsetting me and i have no ideia what to do and you are a good mom so im asking u.Im in my 20s but basically as a child I used to get hit supposedly for discipline. It wasnt ever serious like i never got injured or anything close. I know my family loves me and sacrificed for me. But i find it hard to cope and fit that in with hitting me. it was just some slaps and slipperings on the bum but it was done in anger and when they lost control and it felt like it just was lack...

(2/2) lack of control and taking out their frustrations not discipline. I still feel resentful about this and it really gets me down sometimes and i dont know how to concilliate with their love. i remember being a kid and feeling so confused that they were all i had in the world and the only 1s that would protect me but then would also just hit. smtims i didnt know why i was getting hit. I remember putting my hands up to cover my head spontsneously when my mom lifted her hands near me.

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Hi anon,

I’m sorry this happened to you. It’s not right for parents to hit their children, nor to let their own emotions overwhelm them to the point where they lose control. Unpredictability and violence are really scary for a child, and like you say, especially scary when it’s from the people supposed to be keeping you safe.

I could write various things in their defence. Society’s opinions on hitting children for discipline have changed massively over the last 60 years. It used to be a very common thing to do, and your parents maybe got hit themselves by their parents. It’s not easy to shift away from your own childhood experiences without some intentional work. Parenting is hard, I can tell you that, and it pushes you to your limits. I have definitely said and done things I regret to my children, and there have been times when I have just lost it with them (not in terms of beating them up, but having tipped over the edge in frustation) Parents aren’t perfect humans and they make loads of mistakes, which are due to their own issues and truly not reflective on their child, although as the child you often do feel it is “your fault” somehow. But it’s not. Adults are responsible for their own emotions and actions.

Sorry I’m doing to you what my therapist does to me on occasion and trying to explain where some of their behaviour might be coming from and how it can sit alongside them being loving parents to you. Sometimes that’s helpful and sometimes I just need her to listen to how it felt from my perspective. I don’t know which you need right now. But either way, your feelings now are valid. Your parents did what they did and you have feelings about it and that’s ok and normal and understandable.

[chasserlerouge]

@agentinred

It’s been a few weeks since those weirdos tried to scramble his brain to find out the truth about ACME, and while the frenchman had an iron will, the ever-looming menace of technology has always been his biggest weakness, which is unfortunately why he spilled the beans about a lot of things about his agency.

Luckily, ACME decided to not dismiss Chase of his duties, in fact, they even gave him a paid week off and some obligatory therapy to deal with the trauma dealt in that situation. And while sitting in a quiet room as a man with oversized glasses is there judging your every move is basically Chase’s definition of hell, he would be lying if he said that it didn’t help a little bit. Not much! Just... a little bit.

Honestly, the man might not admit it, but he needed that therapy more than ever, especially since he learned from The Chief that Carmen didn’t kidnap him, in fact, she was actually trying to rescue him. The mere thought of it just filled him with conflicting emotions, a lot of them  could be summarized with a sequence of frustated groans and growls. To think that a former Agent of Interpol would actually be rescued by the very person he’s hunting down... it was beyond embarrassing to say the least.

Life only started to make sense once again when he got a tip off of the whereabouts of Carmen.

According to the tip, Carmen next target is a Top Secret government safehouse in Buenos Aires, inside that establishment, there’s a flash drive supposedly containing classified information regarding VILE and its affiliates. The tip was then validated by ACME since they’ve been trying to get that flashdrive for years now.

Chase promptly volunteered himself for the job of catching Carmen once the tip came in. Finally the world would make some sort of sense. Sandiego is a criminal, therefore she’s going to steal the flash drive for her own evil means, finally he won’t have to think about what happened anymore, because it’ll all come back to normal... hopefully.

So there the Frenchman was, inside the secret safehouse after being given permission by the agency. At first it didn’t seemed like anything special, it was pretty much a three-room houses with a kitchen, a waiting room and a tiny bathroom. But if you got inside the fridge of the kitchen and pressed the button next to the frozen peas, you’d get down an elevator, leading to a fortified safe with armed guards on each side, truly a sight to behold. 

Well... not that Chase ever got to see the safe as he only had the credentials to be inside the safehouse, but not down with the safe, much to the frenchman dismay.

“Ugh, I’m so bored! Couldn’t the government give you people a tv, or cards at least? How do you just not die of boredom working in a place like this?”

The Frenchman asked the stern armed guard tending to the door, completely ignoring his inquiries. It seems that Chase won’t be seeing much action until Carmen comes in... and this time... she won’t get away.

[algumaideia]

My mom is fucking stupid sometimes

Her: hey what do we want for meals this week

Me: hey what about blank

Her: I love that idea

Me thinking how it takes a long time to make and thinking because she’s a mature adult she’ll plane accordingly also knowing that me and my brother are hungry Eairly

Her: I’m not gonna make it till we typically eat and when my kids are now very hungry tell them to eat something else and yell at them for picking out the meal I agreeed to, I’m so smart!

Also any time anyone gets mad at her she says shit like I’m gonna wait till you calm down or cry’s and plays victim

It’s great, I’m fine /s

Hi nonnie!

Well this seems bad to say at least, I can see how frustating this situation is. I don't know if your mom does the meal thing on porpose or not, but it is bad either way.

And about the argue I kind of get you. My brother is also insuferable to argue, he just straight up ignores the other person argument and say that you are wrong and crying and being overly emotional. It is terrible.

Unfortunetly I don't have anything more to say, I just never what to say to help in those situations.

I hope things get better.

Edit: Your feeling about this situation are valid, and I hope you can find someone to talk about it, maybe an adult.

Best regards,

Me.