#he's so aro-coded and i love that for him. genuinely would love to be his bestie irl

[aro-aizawa]

i love when you're just vibing w a new game and you have loose ideas of the characters and suddenly you're hit w a "oh man i have a new favourite don't i" bc uhhhh yeah

[shinysobi]

"it was awkward to see colin flirt and behave like a rake" "he gave me the ick" yes ! that is the fucking point!! congratulations! you have the media literacy skills of a fucking monkey because my 4-year old niece could understand it better than you do.

we are supposed to find colin cringey and annoying and get the ick because that is not who he is. he is not anthony, or simon, or even benedict. colin (apart from gregory) is the sweetest of all bridgerton brothers (i'm going by book canon) and his most identifiable character trait is the fact that he values an emotional connection above everything. he runs away to the continent because he wants to feel that emotional connection. he has meaningless sex in brothels because that is the example he has seen growing up, that is the norm. he tries so hard to fit into the norm. he goes out drinking, adopts an entirely new personality, learns flirtations because that is how he thinks he will fit in. he's got armour on, as violet said. he puts everyone's needs above his own, he stops rambling on and boring his family with details of his trip because he knows no one cares. he doesn't talk to anthony or benedict about his heartaches because he knows they still, somewhere in their heart of hearts, view him as the annoying younger brother. he's so devastated by his closest friend not responding to him that he adopts a new personality in the hopes that it might mask the hurt better. he runs after penelope in episode one because he is so attuned to her emotions that he knows she's hurting, and tries to comfort her even when she's spiraling and lashes out. he must have been hurt by her words in the "good night mr bridgerton" scene but he puts it aside to genuinely apologise to her when literally no one else in that family would do that. colin, instead of brooding over his own feelings, goes and corners penelope in her family's garden and apologises to her, disregarding his own hurt at being cruelly dismissed by his close friend.

penelope asking colin to kiss her is not a mark of how "pathetic" she is. she has written and shamed herself in a manner that is almost entirely unsalvageable. she is at her lowest point, and then portia comes in and reminds her of how undesirable she is, and she sinks even lower. she asks colin to kiss her because she sees it as a final act, after which she can quietly wave goodbye to her dreams of ever getting married and leaving her mother's home. colin kisses her because he is also keenly aware of how she's feeling. he knows how hurt she is, he wants to do anything to alleviate that. be it cracking a joke, or kissing her. he is gentle, because he wants it to be something she can dream of when she's by herself. penelope, at this moment, has no hope for herself, and their kiss is an act of letting go for her. no, it's not a pity kiss, no he did not like her after her glow up, he has always loved her. him being struck dumb is a reaction to her physical transformation, nothing more. he does not flirt with her in that ballroom scene, he only approaches her when she's in distress. he's not flirting with her. i can assure you penelope could wear the frumpiest most neon yellow gown of all time and colin would still go "<333 my pen" for her.

colin jumps to catch the balloon's ropes because he sees that penelope is in danger, he does not give a shit about anyone else lmao. he feels temporary relief when he sees eloise run to safety, but the moment he sees penelope in immediate danger, he rushes to take action. afterwards, when he sees that she's being comforted by debling (all my homies hate debling, even if he is aro/ace coded i do NOT claim him) he does not approach her. it would be easy for him to do so, but he does not, because he respects her boundaries. colin bridgerton is the only man in the ton who respects women (the featherington sons-in-laws are too pretty to have a thought) he calls out fife and his friends for treating women like objects and calls them cavalier. the only way he would have been more explicit about his demisexuality was if he tap danced on the club table (entertaining thought, luke newton please)

colin also rapidly takes action, something which no one in the show has done so far. simon would have died instead of accepting his feelings for daphne, daphne would have been content with a loveless marriage forever instead of asking for help. kate would have pushed edwina down the aisle and gone off to india instead of confronting her own feelings, and anthony would have married edwina if she hadn't been brave enough for the three of them to run from the altar and ruin herself. penelope stood on the sidelines for years and loved him quietly because she had no hope of him loving her back. colin, the moment he is assured of his feelings, runs to penelope, almost kisses her in the middle of a ballroom. when he hears that debling is about to propose, he goes to the ball, just to dissuade penelope one more time. he cuts into their dance because he's desperate. when he runs after her carriage, he asks her if she has been proposed to, because he would not have touched her otherwise. he confesses his feelings to her only when he knows that she hasn't gotten engaged to debling, and when she says "but we are friends" he moves away. nothing more. he would have let her go, if she did not return his feelings.

idk whether i should be flattered or offended at people misunderstanding this season because on one hand it is offensive, but on the other hand, it means only smart people get polin. seriously. your minds have been rotted by insta-love and enemies to lovers that you can't even appreciate the innate beauty of friends to lovers. being friends with someone and then holding all those feelings for them. the trepidation of possible rejection. the fulfillment of being loved by the person who knows you the best of them all. the privilege of loving someone whose feelings you know better than your own. love is gentle and kind and yes it is a violent, uprooting force but above all, love does not hurt anyone. it does not hurt you. i could love someone quietly for years and it wouldn't bother me if their feelings were requited or not because my feelings are none of their business and i consider it a privilege to love and be loved by them, even if it is not in the way i would want it to be. polin are privileged in the highest sense. they know each other better than anyone else, they know how to love each other better than anyone else. to think they are rushed or they dont deserve each other is a disservice to both of them. they would be miserable with anyone else.

in other matters, if i see one more person talking smack about luke or nicola behind the safety of their screens i will personally get a bazooka.

[yinwaryuri]

Seeing a lot of upset posts about how the show ended with Boston and feeling like something really went over a few heads. Do I also believe Boston deserved better? Yes. But let's be realistic in the way Jojo and Ninew approached this.

Boston and his promiscuity have been the target of harsh judgements from episode one. And the writers have stated that he has a moral code, it's just very different from others. I was never expecting him to state it outright, that it would just be a thing worth paragraphs of speculative meta, but he does!

Boston stated his definition of boyfriend. If he wants to be exclusive, that's for all the emotional bonding that he desires with someone special, but does not deny him the ability to fulfill his physical desires with whomever he wishes. That's not just polyamory, it's a very specific kind!!! And it's entirely different from the traditional sort of relationship society has accepted. The thing is, he wouldn't have discovered that possibility without knowing Nick.

Boston did genuinely fall for Nick. But how could he have handled that properly when he has no experience being loved and has never learned how to love someone back? Moreover, how could he come to the conclusion that he likes being exclusive in one way but not another without absolutely fumbling the bag with someone who's on a different page? It's not exactly Nick's fault that he prefers physical affection to be exclusive as well, that's just how he is. There couldn't have been any discussion about this, it was a discovery in the making.

The truth is Boston would still have a hard time finding happiness in Thailand due to the political climate, especially with his father being a politician. He's gay and that alone makes achieving his dreams more difficult, but being as promiscuous as he is means even a majority of the queer community will shut him out. He's better off moving to the states where at least he has rights and better acceptance for who he is. And that's what happened.

Because having a sexual or romantic appetite outside of monogamy is still looked down on. I still see it in the BL fandom. I see it just in general. 3 Will Be Free is so often cited as a must-watch, but how many people stick to their comfort branded pairings?* How many people have made or heard jokes about the "Seattle polycule"? How many romantic aces and allosexual aros get othered and excluded and judged for their identity?

Jojo said there was no intended message, but that doesn't mean there isn't one to be found. Boston's arc is a prime example of how slutty queers get treated even by their own peers, even by people who care about them most. It's a cry from the cold and lonely dark that if we think these people deserve better, we need to change existing paradigms and find how we can give them that!

Nick wasn't prepared to do that because he is still hurting, and that's also okay. Not everyone has to change themselves to make the puzzle pieces fit. Boston and Nick's story centers around that so much. Nick being jealous and trying to copy Top, Boston trying to be what he thinks a boyfriend is - they only hurt each other because the parts that don't fit are digging in.

I hope we get a second season, but if not friends, remember Boston. He represents such a particular demographic that gets hated on and ignored constantly, and they deserve a chance. They're not easy, but that doesn't mean they're not worth it. Remember Nick too. We all have a Nick in some manner - someone that made us want to try, but no matter how much we cared for each other it just wasn't going to work. Family, friends, partners, whoever.

Instead of being outraged with the show, be outraged with society. Do something about it. Be kinder. Community is important, now more than ever. I cannot possibly overstate how much we need community, especially among minorities.

*this isn't meant to be judgmental toward fans who prefer branded pairings or aren't interested in that particular show. I know watching anything requires time and energy and scratching a certain itch at the right moment. It is, however, a concern that so many fans complained about numerous aspects of OF to the point where the creators went to the effort of explaining themselves on a weekly basis and editing certain parts to avoid backlash. I mentioned 3 Will Be Free because it's another example of Jojo's work. Many BL fans have heard of it, but only a small portion seem to have watched, and that can be an indicator of certain biases. This is not to imply anyone who hasn't seen it has said biases and is only intended to encourage reflection if needed.

[aroacewxs]

the ruikasa that lives in my head is not romantic in the SLIGHTEST and it cracks me up. sharing my repulsed aro ruikasa thoughts here hehehe don't mind me

first of all i just cannot see tenma tsukasa above all people, the aromantic of project sekai (he's competing with ichika for number one coded aro) sparing one single thought in his empty head for romantic feelings. i feel like tsukasa lacks all common sense surrounding society's idea of what is suggestive/romantic/flirtatious, to the point where if he were to be assigned a role that required him to perform a kiss scene or something of the sort, he'd be all "boy oh boy im going to knock the audience's SOCKS off with this one" and completely disregard that this is actually very very embarrassing for the poor actor that has to be on the receiving end of his rehearsed romantic gestures

oh yeah, speaking of rehearsed romantic gestures

i need you to picture a pathetic tenma tsukasa, specifically kamikou fes tsukasa, on one knee in front of his mirror at 2 in the morning, reciting his cheesy love monologue and chuckling to himself after for how GOOD he is. "just ham it up. it'll look so good. i'm so good. genuinely who else is professing their undying love for their soulmate like i am"

on the other hand, rui actually has thoughts. these thoughts fill him with such distress it makes him feel nauseous. he's really just going about his day, rehearsing with wxs at the wonder stage when he suddenly feels a surge of warmth swirl in his chest whenever tsukasa gladly complies with his wacky ideas. he's just trying to live his poor life when the excitement and adrenaline from performing shows with wxs has him in shambles later because he's debating whether or not this is what everyone calls Romantic Love (it's not. he's just a repulsed aro loser who would die for his friends)

tsukasa: rui, throw anything my way and i'll deliver with 12000% !!!!! guaranteed!!!! as always!!!! HA HA HA HA HA HA

rui: (god are you trying to torture me or what. am i deserving of such a person. Goodness gracious i feel like im floating whenever I'm around these guys is this some kind of sorcery I'm unaware of. i think my heart is going to twist and leap out of my chest they're so good they're so wonderful and im really just here aren't I im really just here and oh my freaking god is this what they call having a crush. is this what everyone around me has been hyping up. jumping jellyfish if it is, it feels AWFUL and i can't believe i've been thinking i'm missing out. no but then what really defines romantic feelings because if we're talking pros and cons and hypotheticals and possibilities, i would not want to kiss tsukasa like that, but isn't that a given when you love someone in that way. am i crazy am i broken am i an anomaly. I need to write this down for later and perform a google search)

[allthefujoshiunite]

Hi, Nora....My friend and I made a list of ace and aro characters from BL, and then we get to Love For Sale. We think Sieon is aro, based on he never regret his previous relationships until he is with Namwoo. And how he felt so indifferent about them. But what do you think? Also, do you have any BL characters that you think are ace or aro?

Great question! And thank you for giving me a chance to talk about Sieon. I'm always happy to do so. If you want the tl;dr answer, I don't consider him to be one. However, as is always the case on Wild Wild Web when you express a thought or preference, people take it as me condemning all the other thoughts/preferences. So here's a PSA: if you consider him Aro, good for you! You can interpret him however you like.

Also, lots and LOTS of spoilers for the uninitiated.

As for how I read his character. I think Sieon is hard to understand for a lot of people because they expect him to be either this or that and try to put him into categories he doesn't fully belong in. It's one of the reasons why I'm so enamored with Love for Sale as a whole, and Sieon in particular. Dal Hyeonji, even though this is their first commercial BL work, does an absolutely fantastic job in this character study.

Back to the point. When the story was still being released, I entertained a similar idea myself about him that, maybe he's demiromantic. Not a romance-aversed aromantic, but still a part of the spectrum. Then I kind of abandoned that as well.

We are a melting pot of our environments, cultural codes, family, and our characteristics. That's why most of the time, it's hard to make out whether you've become something due to some external force or you were that something before anything else. A very lame example would be, do I find red lipstick sexy because I find it arousing, or is it because it was marketed in such a way that I am conditioned to think it's sexy? Similarly, it's not always easy to tell apart whether your feelings are genuine, you feel like you have to feel certain ways towards certain people, or something impacted you in such a way that you don't feel a certain way anymore. I know I'm being vague but hopefully, it'll make more sense now.

Sieon, having to shoulder her mother's emotional well-being and their reversed parent-child roles, has found himself in a position where he seeks gratification through the things he can provide to his partners so he can feel 'needed'. The comfort he can provide for his partner becomes his purpose to be in that relationship. I was throwing him bombastic side-eyes very early into the story where he never expressed any type of preference and was very evasive whenever Namwoo tried to probe. Naturally, it was quite frustrating for Namwoo. As for me, it was as if Sieon was trying to erase himself from the relationship and be there for Namwoo as a combination of 'bank account + lips to kiss + a hand to hold' and blend into the ether as a person.

That's also why his relationships ended the way they did. He knew his mom wasn't happy, and even if he tried to alleviate her pain, it ultimately didn't work, thus, the one last good deed he could do for his mom was to let her go. To not be greedy. To not be selfish and say "I need you, don't go." This is the root of his letting go of his exes 'too easily', rather than him not 'loving' his partners.

Here's where things get tricky. Ideally, a romantic relationship requires you to be vulnerable, communicative, diplomatic, etc. Ideally. But none of us are exempt from carrying our baggage with us into the next relationship, no matter how big or small. In that sense, should we say that just because Sieon hasn't been perfectly vulnerable or has been avoiding conflict, he was never in a real relationship before? I don't think we can. 

One of the moments my heart ached for him was during his conversation with his close friend. He reiterates it later on when they're having the talk with Namwoo, but he desperately tries to convey that, no matter what his partners felt, whether they were satisfied on their own account or not, he was always genuine. Has always been. It may not fit the mold of grandiose, shouting-from-the-mountaintops, I'd-swallow-a-sword-for-you kind of love we are constantly sold in the romance genre, but that doesn't mean he isn't capable of love either. On the contrary, I think he does look for romantic companionship, but he just doesn't know how not to intellectualize his feelings.

So, in my opinion, "he didn't love anyone else before Namwoo" is not exactly the correct way to read him. Up until Namwoo decided that he was going to hold onto Sieon and 'show him a selfish love' in Sieon's mom's words, their relationship was following the pretty much same direction as the others. At first, Namwoo is content with what Sieon provides, but then he develops feelings for him and expects Sieon to return them in a way he can't. The same old story that is bound to end with a break-up.

Emphasis on 'in a way he couldn't'. The way I read it, his way of loving is different from what others deem as 'romantic love', so he's convinced that he can't reciprocate others' feelings. If that's love, and his feelings don't look like that, then he must not be in love after all. And when Namwoo shows Sieon that it's okay to be needy and selfish at times, and it's okay to be vulnerable and honest, we see that was the wake-up call he needed all along. 

The verdict? If you consider his past partners through the "he wasn't able to genuinely love them" lens and interpret his "not being able to reciprocate romantic feelings" literally, you can think of him as an aromantic who's not really averse to dating. But as I've tried to elaborate, rather than not feeling romantic love, he does feel love and seek companionship but doesn't know how to handle conflict and can't break free from the behavioral patterns ingrained in him in childhood. 

About aro/ase characters in BL. There's only one work that comes to mind which, interestingly, makes asexuality/demisexuality one of the core themes it explores and that's This is Love by Ziki Masaya. I have reviewed it before (click me) and I highly recommend it! I can maybe mention Sangwoo from Semantic Error, but then again, I think he's just autistic and his approach to romantic love for another guy is different from his normie boyfriend Jongchan because of that. I can't really think of any other works with Aro/ace characters as there's always romance/sex involved. Or maybe I just haven't paid enough attention! Let me know about the list you two came up with ~

PSA: I added the intro because the original link needs you to login to Lezhin as it's a Mature title, but you know the drill. Read on the official platfrorms!

[absurdly-overpowered-astronaut]

Aro-ace headcanons >:3

I have a lot of queer head canons for Code Geass. Despite not having any outright confirmed Queer characters to my understanding asidefrom intro girl (“actually I want to kiss Milly” girl you will always be famous) it is a very queer piece media in so many ways.

Specifically I want to hone in on some Aro-ace readings of certain characters.

Firstly I really like veiwing C2’s story through the lens of being Aroace or as being a metaphor for the aroace experience. C2 wants to be loved and so when she gets her Geass its the ability to make people love her but its not what she really want. She wanted genuine connection and community but instead she gets a superficial artificial devotion.

It remains me of how Aroace people often want close relationships and intimacy but not romance/sex so they seek out romantic relationships because they think its what they want but they don’t want love in that way. They don’t want the superficial aspects of relationship but the emotional connection.

C2 didn’t realise at first when she got her geass that the love she wanted and the love her Geass gave her weren’t the same. She didn’t want to be loved in that way. She didn’t so much want love well she didn’t want the superficial aspects of love/associated with love (kind words , gifts ect) but rather the genuine connection.

Much like how aroace people don’t always want sex or kissing or to hold hands or whatever but rather want a genuine connection and they often mistake those things for the love that they want in out heteronym/romance-norm society.

She is also often dehumanised alot which though maps pretty well to really any and all minority groups unfortunately…but dose have an aroace angle. To have sex and want love are seen as an essential part of the human experience so the absence of these desires in aroace people leads to dehumanisation. Not that this evidence would hold up if it was the only piece just that its an interesting aspect to my pre-existing reading.

Mao loves her in a way that isn’t exclusively romantic it’s weird and messy romantic love mixed with possessiveness and maternal love / familial love plus some other stuff. You can’t put their relationship in a clean box but for his time in his episodes its mostly framed as romantic and C2 says she loved him but as a friend/mother/older sister/guardian figure not romantically/exclusively like he wanted. People feeling intitled to the love of a arco-ace person (especially aro-ace women or just like women in general unfortunately) so him being so insistent on making her love him even though she’s not interested and him thinking that something must be wrong because why wouldn’t see love him? He’s doing everything right! She just needs to be convinced!

Her whole thing with mao is similar to a common Aro-ace experience. Not that allo people can’t have unrequited love thats forced on them just that this is a common aro-ace experience.

I couldn’t quite explain this all right but hopefully the idea gets across.

Though I primarily headcanon Lelouch as gay I also like reading him as aroace for a lot of the same reasons I read him as gay

-seems genuinely pretty uninterested and even uncomfortable with romance.

-Seems to see it as an obligation(ie Shirley kiss)/hindrance (ie the fan girls at school)

-is expected to date women by Sayoko , his friend group and the rest of the school 

-usually never the one who initiates the kisses he gets through the story (ie C2 at the start of R2 , shirly , Kallen at the end of R2) the only time he dose initiate is when force kisses Kallen when she finds him about to take refrain but that comes of to more as more het-norm/rom-norm and desperation (not it makes it okay)

Ect

I read this as him being uninterested in women but I like and think you could also read this as him just not being interested in anyone and only engaging out of rom-norm or obligation (he’s also my favourite and I’m a-sexual and probably a-romantic too and he’s my blorbo and I like projecting onto him)

Lastly and certainly leastly Loyd…Loyd I love you but the grown your character is built upon sure is shaky. Loyd is the closest to being canonically Aro-Ace he says so himself that he doesn’t really feel anything towards other people and is arranged marriage to milly seems purely out of convenience (if I’m remembering right) buttttt thats less because Lyod is Aro-ace coded and more because Lyod is based in some not so great scientist tropes that draw on stereotypical autistic/nd traits…I think he even calls himself a sociopath? When he is talking to Nina about having to choose between your heart and science and how he didn’t have to make the choice because he dosed have a heart which a bit yikes for a ND coded character to be characterised as having not empathy sure do low the low empathy rep here haha…ahhhh loyd I love you but I hate you

He’s the mad scientist who doesn’t understand emotions and is married to his work and though that translates to some very aro-ace coded scenes/lines and I do head canon him as such its more shaky…

[miiilowo]

Ough tell us abt William and gender

bc Funtime Foxy and Springbonnie are both characters Will had a very strong influence in making. I've personally always seen it as (likely unconscious) projecting on his part. I have Many Thoughts on Funtime Foxy being feminine presenting with a masc voice and passionate entertainer like William. And Springbonnie being William's absolute favorite; and Sb can very much be interpreted as not caring about gender and using any pronouns from the fnaf world screens

How do you think William's life wouldn't turned out if there were no murders and nothing bad happened? Would he have stayed with Henry and Fredbear's or pursued different passions? What would he be like as an old man and potential grandfather, theres not too much in canon you can base on so it's fun to ask and seeing all the different answers you can get

Would do you think about William's apparent fondness for the circus and the like? (Based on the SL designs and ar springtrap having a clown skin) I think it makes the random "1810 circus pipe organ" audio in fnaf 1 real fun. Like. the implications of it or something

I LOVE HOW FUCKING QUEERCODED HE IS 💥💥💥💥IT GENUINELY MAKES ME SO HAPPY TO THINK ABOUT. i 100% would not be surprised if scott did it on purpose, especially when you take the spring bonnie gender thing into account. he is bisexual & aro To Me and while i do generally perceive him as a cis guy, that doesnt mean he cant get a little silly with gender stuff :3c id never thought it about funtime foxy being projection, but it absolutely makes sense, especially considering the tie-in with him being an entertainer. using spring bonnie probably wouldve been bad rep at that point in the timeline, so having using funtime foxy instead is delightful and im incorporating that into how i view him now. i love effeminate queer coded villains. they r everything to me. no way this dude wasnt spotted as being queer by the general population. type of motherfucker to have a musical number if i am being honest. like if there was an animated fnaf movie i wholeheartedly believe he would have some over the top song and performance about his Evil Plans. he loves that shit. hes soooooo FUCKING SILLY im going to eat him alive. anyways

he probably wouldve just kept doin what he loved if everything went well. its his passion ! god knows the two of them would be well off enough to retire. i dont think theyd be anything too extraordinary, though if william went down the path of wanting to be Better than henry still, murders aside, then i can see him achieving some pretty cool shit. i think he'd eternally have like, weird uncle or embarrassing dad energy for the rest of his life. this is because he is autistic

aaaaaaaand as for the circus thing, i think it just makes sense given his adoration for entertaining. being a clown isnt really too far off what he already did- both of em dress up as characters to perform for people, especially kids, and are known for doing silly little tricks. e.g. juggling. which he can do, canonically. im not sure he has too much interest in clowns, just likes them, and it makes a lot of sense thematically :o)

[henrysglock]

So, I have been thinking over your conversations about Ace Dustin and it made me rethink the reasons I carried that headcanon, it was always because I related to him the most. I'm ace and he was always my fav and I tend to project onto my fav character in a lot of media I enjoy.

I also headcanon Murray as ace, something about him resonated with me and I loved that headcanon.

I also thought about your words; "why not Nancy, Joyce, Jonathan, etc." and I agree, why not them? It's wise to think proactively about our headcanons and how it speaks to other people around us.

I would love to see more characters portrayed on the ace and/or aro spectrum because it's never the same from individual to individual. It would be nice to see diversity in this.

I apologize for this ramble, I don't often talk about "discourse", I'm afraid of wording my thoughts poorly.

Hey Nonnie!! At the risk of it coming off negatively…I want to start out by saying: thank you for being Normal about this all. Genuinely.

Ace Murry is an absolute favorite of mine!! He and Jonathan give off so many ace vibes (though I lean towards demi/gray for Jonathan but full on ace for Murray) Like…gough. Impeccable.

I personally have not seen ace headcanons for Nancy/Steve/Joyce/Hopper/etc. I’ve only seen Jon recently (as in I found out other people headcanoned him the way I do because of this big controversial post). It’s always Dustin or Will, who imho have a non-insignificant amount of allosexual coding.

Nonnie, I think you’re one of the few people talking to me about this topic that Gets It. It’s not about me disliking ace headcanons. It’s never been about that. The problem is the pattern of who is chosen and the implicit bias in those choices.

I’m not telling people the can’t hold those headcanons. Not once have I said that. All I said was that it has little canon basis, and that people should examine the other parts of the characters they choose, parts that might make an asexual headcanon harmful/might feed into stereotypes about other marginalized communities.

I would love to see more aroace Nancy, aspec/arospec Hopper, demi Joyce!! Hell, I’m on the aro spectrum. I don’t typically use microlabels (because to cishets, a queer is a queer), but for anyone who cares: I am cupioromantic. I would kill to see more diversity in the aroace headcanon territory.

(In fact…I have been warming up to cupioromantic Henry, which I was particularly resistant to because of his status as a mental/emotional and sexual abuse victim. However. I cannot escape the character projection death spiral.)

My issue is with people who refuse to see the bigger picture, how people outside the ace community and especially people from other marginalized communities (i.e. the disabled community, gay men, SA victims…of which I am 3 for 3) might perceive their representation always being assigned asexual in spite of that not-insignificant allo coding.

Again, I’m not saying people can’t hold those headcanons, I just need them to acknowledge the pattern of stereotypes and implicit bias.

[benene-the-banana]

Love the aro-ace Dewey hc. It definitely stands in opposition to Huey's more romantic coded. So if we're talking the triplets thoughts on Louie and Huey?

do you mean hc wise for their sexualities? Well if so then I personally like to think Huey is Bi-Demiromantic. Why you may ask? Well I will be very honest it's a self projection hc bcuz I am a Huey kinnie (he's my highest kin actually and a huge comfort character) so ofc I like to project some hcs onto him based off of traits of myself 😅 I also could genuinely see him not minding much if he had a gf/bf/partner. But I feel like he would lean a bit towards girls preference wise but still be open to other options. as for Louie I'm actually not too sure what his sexuality could be. I could see him being anything but like even if he DID have attraction he would just CHOOSE not to act on it. I could also see him not really minding he isnt in one. I feel like this is due to him already having sm planned already with his future and business that he'd want to focus a lot of time and effort on that. And that would be very time consuming. And the only relationships he may want to focus on are his family and friends. He'd already have so much time taken up especially during the beginning he may just want to prioritize them when he can. Totally valid if you disagree tho. This is just my take.

[gay-otlc]

Legacy Recap

Spoiler alert: It's gay

An unprecedented 234 pages before Sophie pulls out an eyelash! I'm genuinely so proud the trich is improving folks

Sophie is not good at prioritizing

Keefe's mental health is improving too! He's shown signs of suicide ideation but he does want to keep looking very proud of him as well <3

Dex and Keefe deserve to interact more often because their relationship is fantastic, I'll die on this hill

Actually, Ro should stop making people uncomfortable for the fun of it please and thank you.

SOPHIE WINCED AFTER BEING CALLED LADY THIS BITCH NONBINARY GOOD FOR THEM

Sophie being bad at prioritizing, part two electric boogaloo

Fellas, is it queer of gender to complain about dresses for an entire page?

As usual, Biana's introduction is extremely sapphic.

We stan Wylie bitching at the council.

Tiergan confirmed what we already knew; being in the black swan is inherently queer.

Also, the council now knows Tiergan is Granite, for reasons related to being pissed about Prentice and/or losing at Uno.

Linh and Wylie are siblings pass it on.

We stan Tiergan bitching at the council.

Sophie, validating their friend's genders, doesn't want to call them lords and ladies.

Biana, validating Sophie's gender, doesn't want to call them lady.

"Master Sophie" is considered, which is a masculine honorific did Shannon realize she had Biana suggest a masc title for Sophie and no one thought anything of it?

Stina grabs Sophie's wrist. And calls her Foster, which is a sign of affection as we learn from Keefe.

Bronte is aromantic.

Sophie is (a) not ready for a relationship, (b) in love with Biana, and (c) nonbinary. This can be deduced by their reaction when Fitz says girlfriend.

Someone give Keefe a hug.

Aro Wylie supremacy. He's so tired of the allo drama.

Bronte should have been Sophie's father solely because I would love to see the Wylie/Forkle/Bronte confrontation.

Not only do Linh and Marella train together a lot, they train together a lot. Italics are a direct quote. Were they necessary? Seems kinda gay.

AMY MY BELOVED

Forkle and Bronte made out. Forkle then studied his saliva for the inflictor DNA. How romantic.

Cassius should get punched. Repeatedly. I volunteer.

Marella is so fondly exasperated with Linh and her Princess Purryfins antics.

Lesbian coded Linh? I cannot think of another purpose for that line-

Your favorite Solreef angst bitch is back to remind you that Linh moved back in with Quan and Mai and I want to know how it went when she told her family aboout this decision. For science.

(From what I've gathered, Tiergan is ignoring problems by focusing on work and no one is talking to one another)

Although Bronte's not Sophie's biological father, his reaction makes me think he knows who it is, which means it's probably Fintan.

Forkle straight puns? Forkle straight puns.

SOPHIE AND EDALINE DYNAMIC OWNS MY HEART CURED MY DEPRESSION ETC ETC

Fitz should have heard about Wylie exploding a chandelier, just because I think it would be funny to explore Fitz's complicated relationship to chandeliers.

Livvy understands why Sophie finds Vackers hot.

Fellas, is it gay to call your friend your "Best Dude" and make a ship name for the two of you? Asking on Keefe's behalf.

Livvy yeeting Forkle out of the way 🧡

Hey, Keefitz shippers- don’t think about Fitz hiring Keefe to paint a romantic picture of him and Sophie :D

Grady's ability needs to be explored more istg there's so much potential!!!

Forkle and Dex both ship Sokeefitz.

Sophie jumping off a cliff to avoid getting grounded. Iconic.

Time zones in the lost cities are addressed, and are then promptly forgotten.

DARK FITZ. FORESHADOWING FOR DARK FITZ. I WANT TO SEE THIS

Fitz and Keefe (and Sophie) being terrified they'll turn into their evil relatives supremacy

Sandor wants to fight Forkle. Deserved.

Everyone in the Neverseen is queer, explicitly confirmed.

Sophie doesn't know about coping mechanisms. Get Sophie therapy.

Alvar has the "little miss perfect" gene, just like every other Vacker ever.

MORE DARK FITZ FORESHADOWING

Gisela probably has another ability; could be beguiler, technopath, mesmer, pyrokinetic, ???

Keefitz!

Oralie mom reveal!

I think Prentice and his family deserve to yell at Oralie just a bit. As a treat.

Other than being mlw, Sophitz is very little miss perfect-ish.

Sophie's way of coping with her breakup is my way of coping with life (avoiding eye contact! hiding!)

LINH WAS HOLDING HANDS WITH MARELLA AND MARUCA. CANON THING THAT HAPPENED. I AM SCREAMING

I want to know what Tiergan would do if one of the councillors was hurt or killed because he didn't get to finish but I have a feeling the end of that sentence would be hilarious.

Elwin 🧡🧡🧡

Elwin used they/them pronouns for Sophie we stan supportive queer elder Elwin in this household.

Shannon foreshadowed an Empath having their sanity shattered- Keefe is the most likely option but Oralie or Stina could be interesting.

Okay you know what. Solreef family happy ending Tam comes home we were robbed of this scene I need to see it for science

[tbhimnoteasyonmyself]

Benedict and Eloise are my queer coded babies and I can't stand they coupled them both to the opposite sex. They can be bi (I would love that for Benedict) but but, I'm pretty sure they won't even go for that. I want Eloise to meet a cute girlie yk😭😭

You read my mind SO WELL, Liyah

I suffer every time they give Benedict another woman as a love interest and I am DEADLY afraid of season 3 because, if they are to follow the book order, it's going to focus on Benedict and he's gonna have yet another woman, which is, at this point and especially after whatever the fuck his very confusing arc of dealing with the underground queer society of London was, is ridiculous. He was obviously interested in what was going on and they just cut that entirely (#MakeBenedictBiAgain). Frankly, when he went to the academy I thought: NOW THERE IS IT, the all-men school gay awakening he needs! Alas, somehow, he found the only woman available in the entire place and managed to shag her, I- Unbelievable.

And yes, ELOISE, BY THE LORDS!!! I do find her and Theo very cute but I genuinely think it's because the actors are so good (not saying Luke and his female co-stars are shit, far from it, I just think he, particularly, is not buying the straight agenda either. but I digress) I would like to see her being portrayed as an aro. Alternatively, as lesbian, maybe somewhere on the ace spectrum. I think it could be interesting. She's such a good character as is, making her have a romantic plotline all of a sudden when you already have so much romance going on... It's kinda tiring, especially considering her arc was much more about the world itself and the condition she is put in rather than love. Not to say, of course, that a woman cannot be in love AND be a feminist but making her have a traditional "falling in love with a white man" romance makes her arc seem a little pointless.

I still have a little hope for them, there's a chance next season might be about Pen and Colin and so they'll have time to build all this up or they might actually just fuck around and change Benedict's love interest to a man, who knows... But the way this seems to be going... Idk, I felt this season that they screwed both of them up because they were too worried about Colin and Pen (which I don't really get, they could've co-existed). Suddenly, El was nothing but a girlie in love (when they introduced a WHOLE FUCKING REVOLUTIONARY WOMEN'S RIGHTS GROUP) and Benedict was thrown all over the place whenever they needed a character to be there and fill the space which was a shame (I mean, him being high was hilarious but it DOES NOT solve everything). =/

Anyways, I've rambled too much already, I believe. There's not much we can do, really, but hope for the best and prepare for the worst. Let us pray, my dearest fellow bisexual, let us pray ksksksksksk

[elytrafemme]

ack this is so long but ghostkicks thoughts: prime defenders background: it’s a superhero story! not dnd a diff rpg system. andd william is the guy who has the shirt I said csranboo would wear (that is his life story) whereas dakota has the jacket I said cstommy would like (red and swaggy)

ghostkicks/blueraspberry are soooo qpr coded to me bc to me dakota is aroace Anyway the joke is is that William is a little in love with all of his friends and he’s kind of cringefail about it. in canon he’s especially into other pc Vyncent (guy with KNIFE shirt) which is why ghostknife is very popular. BUT I watched the prime defenders villain oneshot before I watched a lot of the main campaign and william and Dakota are like.. world’s most fucked up evil qpr in that where they literally only trust, like, and look out for each other (they bring Vyncent into this but he’s very much “the new guy”) and I think it completely changed the way I view them in canon akdjs

not always as Obvious as ghostknife but there are a lot of little moments with William and Dakota I like :] a bigger one is when dakota asked William to tango at a party to talk to him about something in secret even though he didn’t need to they could’ve just like.. gone off in a corner

they just have a very interesting dynamic to me and I like that Dakota who is someone very impulsive will still listen to William for any kinda plan. also this is more of an aroace thing than ghostkicks thing but the people Dakota is canonically “attracted” to really feels like someone who doesn’t know he’s aroace and is trying to perform heterosexual attraction liiike it’s Ms. G his superhero idol and then Vyncent’s mum -> aka “safe” people who can’t return anything and I knoooow I’m looking too much into it bc they’re just bits but also…….

anyway dakota and william have a very compelling dynamic and relationship to me and I can’t explain it all here without actively deconstructing and analysing like 60% of their scenes together. basically: I think they could be in a qpr.. also ghostkicks getting together when ghostknife has been so like.. Referenced In Canon would be very funny to me ^_^ hashtag ghostkicks sweep etc etc

OH yes yes yes okay these r the shirt guys!!! so cool didnt know jrwi did things other than d&d but thats so so neat :D

MAJOR FAN OF DYNAMICS WHERE PPL ONLY TRUST ONE OTHER PERSON ... even if there r complexities or certain issues in those relationships the fact that they only trust the other is like. oguhggogoug it gets me

omg the tango at the party scene ... Your honor these bitches are queer! i genuinely love that sooooo much thats so. thats such a good moment im obsessed w that energy i <3 it

sometimes it feels like youre just looking at bits when headcanoning characters as aroace in media w/o explicit aroace characters. what u must remember is that youre always right all of the time and if u think a character is aroace they literlaly are hope this helps ^_^ but yeah dakota's got those vibes from what im hearing Godd bless <3

okay yes i am even more on board w this GET THE GHOSTKICKS SWEEP ON THAT TWITTER POLL I RBED FROM BRACKETT A BIT AGO !!! its a win for the aro community !!!

[autisticzukka]

do you have any headcanons about autistic Zuko? Whether that be modern au or canon doesn't matter. What are his stims, special interests, etc?

AHHH i wasnt notified this was sent thank you for so much for sending something in!!! I wouldn’t say I have specific headcanons about autistic!Zuko because... I literally never write him any other way. But here’s a number of headcanons anyways.

+ Stims: I REALLY REALLY like using the fire meditation for a stim with Zuko, where it goes up and down with his breath, you know? it sounds like the bender equivalent of rocking, tbh. I especially like having him just... poof up a little flame and hold it in his hands, especially when talking about hard subjects. Other stims I like are rolling himself up in a blanket or nearby sheet or something for Pressure TM, and jumping off of and onto things. When stressed, yeet yourself out the nearest window and parkour away from your emotions. This is a motto Zuko lives by. I also like making him pick at the threads on stuff and chew on bits of his mouth.  

+ Special interests: as far as canon, I would say dao and gymnastics. for headcanons i really like embroidery, actually? I like the idea that when he was little he had a lot of trouble with fire regulation and with dexterity, and so Ursa just included him on her embroidery to help him train those up. If you fuck up too badly, you stab yourself. If you get too angry you fucked up, you set the cloth or the thread on fire. But it’s incredibly low stakes, and something he can do while feeling calm beside her. Also: it’s practical for someone who’s likely going to be a career soldier, but not necessarily something he’d be taught in formal classes.  

+ if it’s a modern AU i refuse to believe that Zuko prefers speaking out loud. he clearly has issues with tone modulation and saying the Wrong Thing. he let his phone battery go below 40% once and it was the most harrowing moment of his life. he started carrying around a small notebook, 2 pencils, and a pen. just in case. 

+ I adore faceblind Zuko. I adore Zuko who doesn’t have any idea what he looks like, really, he formed some kind of self image at like 10 and then just aged it up mentally as he went. 

+ I also really love “i both over planned and under planned for this because I know that I do some of my best work improvising under pressure so I will DELIBERATELY back myself into a corner and turn on survival mode” Zuko. this specific habit of his is why i kind of headcanon him as adhd & autism combo, actually, because that’s what i have. and can i just say... this is how I passed MANY an exam. 

+ most of his scripts are McFucking uselessly oriented around being the Crown Prince of the Fire Nation. he gets better about this as the show goes on but I like to think that sometimes when he’s tired he’ll slip into extremely courtly manners. after a long day he’s trying to figure out how to ask Katara to pass the improvised foraging soup and he just goes “Lady Katara, I can’t help but notice that soup. It looks delicious.” (Fire Nation courtly manners for royalty are indicating interest, manners for everyone else is immediately offering as a gift whatever they expressed interest in, unless it’s their literal clothing. Well. Most of the time, if it’s their literal clothing.)

+ I really love writing him deflecting! He’s bad at outright lying, and he’s bad at saying the truth outright unless he’s pushed to a breaking point and he’s yelling it. What does he do? Deflect in circles around the topic! this is really fun with Sokka, because he’s so straightforward...

+ I love nonbinary and aro/ace spectrum entirely queer Zuko. this is super common with a lot of my autistic friends, we just... things are... confusing. Recognizing your own feelings? confusing. deciding what they mean? confusing. attraction? do we... actually know what that is? a lot of people feel VERY strongly that Zuko is a man, so why not roll with it, right? a lot of people feel VERY strongly that Zuko should have a wife someday, so... why not roll with it? I really like writing Zuko feeling out the differences between relationships with sexual/romantic attraction, and relationships without. And I like him choosing to prioritize both types! Queerplatonic and romantic. 

+ strict code of honor & behavior but it’s almost indecipherable to others who don’t think in the same way as him. “I have wronged Katara, and all of my attempts to make it right have failed. That means I do whatever she wants within reason until she’s no longer wronged. I will sit outside her tent all night instead of knocking so I don’t bother her. Hey, do you want me to kill that guy for you? Cuz I’ll totally kill that guy for you.”

+ I really like writing him like - bouncing between intentional humor and unintentional. Attempting to keep a straight face and not managing it. Being a bit overdramatic about something entirely genuinely and then when he realizes leaning into it, humorously, mocking himself a little bit. Sometimes too much. 

[satellitesunset]

Rank the glee men on how much queer energy they exude!!

ty jas for this question <3 and giving me an excuse to just judge based on the vibes.

in an ascending order from the straightest heterosexual to ever be straight to was so painfully almost explicitly queer coded u genuinely forget they aren't canonically confined as queer.

Burt

so painfully heterosexual, but we love a good ally!

Will

very straight, but also 👀

Rory

I know Rory/Sam is a thing, but I don't see it.

Joe

I don't see it? maybe on the ace-spectrum though.

Finn

so part of Finn's arc, the one about choosing between sports and glee is like a metephor for bisexuality, but also he was homophobic, so fanon Finn could be higher.

Roderick

asexual and aromatic, doesn't believe in violence will punch homophobes.

Ryder

had overall like straight vibes, but he was in love with Jake and Unique and Marley so poly.

Spencer

his story is just explicit queer, but if it wasn't so I would put him below Finn.

Matt

gay asexual, I accept no criticism.

Mason

oblivious pansexual, it's a vibe.

Jake

he and Ryder had unresolved tension, and also the scooter, no straight man is that iconic.

Mike

bisexual king, it just makes sense.

Artie

out of all the characters, canonically he makes 'jokes' about finding men/guys attractive, major bisexual vibes.

Dave

Is canonically gay, and the scene at the restaurant is popping in my head all the time.

Jesse

dramatic bisexual my beloved, I rewatched S1 and like it's obvious.

Puck

canonically had a threesome, pansexual grey-aro.

Kurt

do I have to explain? (affectionate)

Sam

first off, pansexual himbo, so many of his arc is inherently queer I have a whole meta about it, also he's not 100% cis, I'll die in that hill.

[moved-to-piersgender]

Jasper for the ask game. We have to do it to 'im

Hoo boy, infodump time

favorite thing about them: Everything. I love everything about him. I love how he was just this creepy knight asshole at first that I disregarded until the game revealed his true depth and ended up breaking my heart. I love the passion and depths of emotion in his storyline. I both love and hate how much of myself I see in him. I love all of his designs, the silver knight, the Extra-ass crossdressing warlock, the demon clearly designed by the team monsterfucker... I could be here all day.

least favorite thing about them: His tragic, pointless and brutal Act 3 death, especially compared to how similar villains (Psaro and Marcello) have been treated in previous entries. It makes me rage and seethe. He doesn't even get closure in the version most people played. Hmm, wonder what's different about him and how hes coded that would make the writers feel the need to punish him so

favorite line: He has so many good ones! His whole post-mortem act 3 speech is has to be my favorite though. It's fucking fantastic and is what made me love him so. The way that all he needed to know to be at peace was that Hendrik still cared about him... I... 😭

brOTP: There's so much untapped potential with Jade, the game just completely ignores that he helped raise her just as much as Hendrik did. I also find the idea of Serena befriending him against his will kind of fun. I also enjoy the headcanon that he kind of took Mia under his wing while they were both evil, and would end up doing so again in an AU where he lives and they both join the party.

OTP: Hendrik. Just look at my "Shipping" tag. Not only my #1 Dragon Quest OTP, my aro ass didn't care much about shipping AT ALL beforehand before they happened to me. They make me emotional in the best possible way.

nOTP: Don't really have any "kill it with fire"-tier ones like H*nSylv is, but romantic Jasper/Serena kinda skeeves me out because in the bit that people cite for it in the character book he's pretty clearly talking about manipulating her. And there is SO MUCH DISTURBING PORN holy shit. I also find Jasper/Krystalinda pretty eye-rolling, she was certainly thirsting bad but I can't really see genuine mutual interest happening there at all.

random headcanon: The Sniflheim storyline wasn't at all a serious attempt on Hendriks life. He's a smart guy, he could have killed him SO MANY OTHER TIMES and made it look like an accident, but instead he does this spiteful, Extra-ass plot involving freezing an entire city with so many potential failure points including Hendrik not investigating in the first place, that just so happens to hinge on a witch famed for seducing and killing, which would be most successful via Hendrik being an idiot unable to keep it in his pants? This is "spiteful ex with resources" behavior, not murderous behavior.

unpopular opinion: Most of them, probably. I don't think he's bisexual or that he and Hendrik used to date for something unpopular in the Tumblr fandom, the fact that he's not actually envious of Hendrik, that his stated motivations ingame are a crock of shit he's told himself to not have to deal with his abandonment issues for something unpopular in the fandom as a whole.

song i associate with them: So many, I could make a whole playlist. Diary of Jane by Breaking Benjamin is #1 though, with the instrumental Fatal Lullaby by Adrian Von Ziegler at #2.

favorite picture of them: Would be easier to find pictures of him I DON'T like tbh. But for the sake of simplicity, this one, this one, this one of course, this one, and that smile he gives Hendrik at the end which I don't have because while beautiful it kiiind of makes me feel like I've been kicked in the chest haha

[kakitysax]

TAG YOURSELF

FT. My Friends From School

Cairo - crippling depression - draws houses - incompatible with the american education system - deserves self-esteem

Hummus - 4'11'' - classical music - probably ace/aro-spec - mentally stable

Jellybean - surprisingly stubborn - cephalopod enthusiast - refuses to put on lotion, cut her nails, or get diagnosed as neurodivergent - weird blood problems Dirk - too good for this world - I want to say r/egg_irl but that would reinforce the gender binary just let him be sweet and enjoy his long hair - definitely ace/aro-spec - please protect him

Shinee - "yeah it kind of sucks being straight" - hella smart - the best friend you’ll ever have - legit I /p love this guy so much that I thought I was alloro for a sec

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Case - like Dirk he's too good for this world - unlike Dirk he's socially competent - keeps getting cast as queer-coded characters in the school plays - legit some of these guys make me wish I were allo or that they were aro/ace but I want them to have the hetero life partners that they deserve

Woot - also really smart - tries too hard to be cool - it’s not like it’s not working? But dude am BEGGING you to be yourself I promise people will like you as you are - I really want to be friends with him but he's one of those people that I can never tell if they're making fun of me or not so I just kinda keep my distance

Button - huge nerd - LEGOs - Tolkien enthusiast - talks like a history professor; like, that's just his voice

Zuckerberg - thinks his experiences are universal then mass overshares and makes everyone really uncomfortable while accidentally outing himself to all the secret cisn’ts/hetn’ts in the room - enough internalized homo/trans-phobia to kill a full-grown moose - this man is so deep in the closet that he basically just lives in Narnia and I don't think he's ever getting out - He really needs someone to tell him, but, like, *touches nose* Not It

Mitch McConnell - built like Michelangelo's David - stonks (TM) - Christian Nationalism - has a white supremacist aesthetic but on the other hand he treats everyone around him with what seems like genuine kindness and respect so I like him anyway??