#he’s a homemaker

[righteous-r0de0]

Gavin and Freelancer’s House (apartment)

let’s just say the OF takes off. penthouse apartment for these freaks of nature. they live in the richy rich sector of downtown dahlia (their asses do NOT fit in!!!)(and neither do their friends!!). it’s 3 bed/2 bath but one of the bedrooms is gav’s “home office” wink wink nudge nudge. dami/hux and lasko/dear fight over who gets the guest room when they all stay over

the master bedroom! floor to ceiling windows baby! and thank god they’re high enough that you can’t see through those windows if you know what i’m saying lol. gavin definitely insists on giving fl the nicest things possible with his newfound riches since you know their ass was living off of ramen and cold poptarts at DAMN

what did i say?! floor. to. ceiling. windows. imagine game nights and dinner parties here!! and you know the entire crew has passed out on the couch and rugs before! ugh i’m so in love with all of them

balcony sex. need i say more?

main bath (white) and guest bath (green)! gav is all about luxury! the guest bath is always fully stocked with the nicest version of everything and the softest towels you’ve ever felt in your life. he definitely does target hauls/restocking asmr videos for his large tiktok following

if you haven’t noticed, there’s a touch of gold in everything. gav loves gold. do they use the kitchen or dining room very often? absolutely not. but there’s gold sinks, gold appliances. are you picking up what i’m putting down?

color palette!!

who next?

taglist and pinterest board below the cut

@zimix-whispers @milogreersleftdresssock @wilted-rose-posts @int3rtwiningh3artstrings @froggytimemachineinternet

[neverstheless]

MATTHEW GRAY GUBLER as SPENCER REID 06 x 16 : CRIMINAL MINDS — CODA

[zweig-eater]

oh no…. im stuck in a storm… i hope glen powell doesnt come out of this tornado and save me….

[sweetonsugden]

It’s never spoken enough how good a cook Dean is.

He made an amazing burger and also an egg white omelette for Sam. He was grilling like a champ with Lisa. And when he summoned Death in S10, X 23 “brother’s keeper” he cooked up taquitos, tamales, and queso — HOMEMADE.

[frobby]

I think it would be really funny if rin was the more helpful one around his house. Like u would think rin would be the disrespectful one who always bails on housework or mass but its actually yukio who would always have an excuse not to go or forget about chores to the point that rin just does them instinctively now

[lunarharp]

being attached to that moment qifrey held a baby one time and my ideas for the future :)

[simple-and-cozy-life]

Bottom art credit: "Morning Glory" by James V. Griffin

[matttheratkingart]

Kuzan really gets the Stay At Home Mom treatment in the pregnant!Sen au. Sentomaru goes off to work the odd repair/tech jobs around the nearby town while Kuzan looks after the girls. After being an Admiral and a Pirate Captain he's got no responsibilities farther than parenting and loving his partner. He's never been happier

[melisssg99]

Today I went to the hospital to finally get an official diagnosis for my fibromyalgia. (I apparently didn't get an 'official' diagnosis before)(long story)

Basically I was told that of all tests I score higher than whats required for it to be recognised as fibromyalgia.

So I guess I might have fibromyalgia+deluxe edition😆

Had some blood drawn to make sure that it's "just" fibro and not maybe something different or more that might be causing all my symptoms.

Next week I'll visit again and hear the results and what our next steps will be.

I feel so lucky.

My doctor really seemed to get me and was so nice to me.

She was very clear and helpful.

It's good to feel understood and not feel like my pain is not taken seriously and that I have to "proof" myself.

[miraculouslbcnreactions]

What's your opinion on malewife/house husband Adrien posts? I asked this to another blog, and like I said to them, I find them a guilty pleasure: The concept is cute, but I know that would be the last thing Adrien would ever wanna be after all his dad put him through.

I don't think that it would be the last thing that Adrien would ever want. I actually think it suits his character in a lot of ways, you just have to handle the topic with care.

First let's talk about why it suits him.

Miraculous has totally failed to give Adrien any sort of career-based passion and - if we ignore the senti complication - I honestly love that for him! I want more characters with no major life ambitions to balance out the Marinettes of the world!

I think that society places way too much pressure and value on finding the perfect career that fulfills us in every way while also allowing us to put food on the table. Most people will never find that and that's okay. It doesn't mean that you've failed or that you're lesser. For most people, the goal is to find a career that pays the bills and that you enjoy enough that you don't hate doing it 40hrs/week. Along similar lines, for most people, your passion will be something that doesn't make money. It will be something like a hobby or spending time with those you love or analyzing badly written French TV shows.

This brings us back to Adrien.

Adrien seems to get a great deal of joy from being around his loved ones and making them happy, so I can absolutely picture him finding a lot of joy in running a home. This is extra true because Marinette is pretty clearly career driven and she's planning to go into a creative field, so she'll probably have a pretty crazy schedule and struggle to stay on top of it all. Having a loving husband to take things like cooking and cleaning off of her plate would be a blessing and a gift that she'd greatly appreciate, but that would feel unbalanced if Adrien was working, too. (Yes, they could hire staff, but that risks the secret identity thing, so I don't see them doing that.)

If they both have power careers, then they'd barely see each other and I hate that for them. I think that it would make Adrien incredibly sad and depressed. Plus, while Marinette thrives off of competition and staying busy, only needing occasional breaks before diving right back in, Adrien seems to hate busy schedules and heavy work loads.

Given all of that, I think that there's a lot to be said for Adrien stepping away from the working world. Especially since he's been in it for years and being a child celebrity is no joke! I think it would be nice for him to escape from strict schedules and expectations. Dinner fails? Order takeout!

While we're on the topic of food, I really like the idea of Adrien falling in love with cooking. Dude needs a creative outlet and that's honestly a great one (I hate it when people write characters as unable to figure out cooking like it's some cute quirk. While an initial struggle is believable, it's not a mystical art that takes years of practice. Between YouTube, the wider Internet, and maybe some classes if he wants to get fancy, I think that he'll be fine.) There's so much variety with what you can do in the kitchen and the end result gets to be shared and appreciated by those you love. It just seems like a perfect fit for him, but I would never make him a professional chef because the hours are insane and the pressure to be perfect is high. I only see him loving it as a hobby where he can go at his own pace, take days off, and make lazy meals when he's not feeling like being a show off.

The big concerns that come with making him a homemaker are a lack of financial independence and a lack of socialization. I don't see the first thing as an issue for Adrien since he comes from a wealthy family, so that one doesn't phase me.

The isolation could very easily be an issue, but it could just as easily be a problem if he started working, too. It's not as if a job is a sure way to have friends or even just consistent positive social interactions, which is another reason why I don't really see a need to give him a traditional job. You can get a vibrant social life in lots of other ways.

Here are the two big things that I keep in mind when writing an Adrien-as-a-homemaker or similar setup as it is where I tend to have Adrien land for all of the above reasons:

Adrien needs to be active in some organization or project. Volunteer work is a good fit as is being an active stay-at-home parent or some combination of the two. Voice acting is also on my radar, but my default is to have him act as the head of team miraculous' out-of-battle activities. Scheduling meet and greets. Going to see sick kids. Jetting around the world for humanitarian aid missions. Basically let Chat Noir be his "career" which gives him a lot of much needed flexibility for making his own schedule, especially if he's a stay-at-home parent to any eventual kids. I also like the poetic nature of Adrien finally being proud to be the face of a "brand" via his hero side while his civilian side becomes just some guy that people kind of remember from old ads.

Consider having a non-traditional living arrangement. I am a big fan of hero teams living together, so my default is to take the Agreste mansion and remodel it into a secret HQ for the team. Adrien and Marinette would have their own apartment/wing/whatever, but they'd still be surrounded by their found family on a near-daily basis, so that social isolation is the last thing on Adrien's mind. There's almost always someone to hang out with! You could also just have Alya and Nino or other friends live in the same apartment building so that they're over a lot/Adrien has a place to hang when Marinette is working late because you know that she'd do that.

Basically, Adrien's rich, so he doesn't need to make money and he doesn't seem to have any interest in a normal job, so I really like letting him having a unique life where he doesn't have a traditional job. He is a superhero, after all. Unique career paths are pretty par for the course. You just have to be careful to make sure that all of this feels like his fully informed and carefully considered choice and not like you forced it on him to make Marinette's life perfect (I only brought her up earlier because this is a story and it makes sense to design characters around each other). I usually do this by sending Adrien to therapy in his late teens or by giving him some other parth of self discovery.

Do note that all of the above is inspired by my read of Adrien which may be totally different from your read of him and that's fine! I just can't picture him as someone who thrives in a traditional career path based on knowing people who strike me as similar to him and from whom I draw my understanding of how to write that part of Adrien's character. I think that he'd be perfectly able to have a traditional career path, but I also think that he'd be pretty miserable for a lot of reasons.

I'll also note that I'm not sure what posts spawned this ask, so there may be elements of those that I'd have criticisms of. This post was about the general concept of Adrien being a homemaker. I tend to avoid the broader fandom for my own sanity and the use of the term "malewife" has me concerned that I'm implying support of something I wouldn't actually support because that's a new one for me and it sounds incredibly sexist.

I'm not a fan of implying that the default definition of "wife" is "submissive homemaker" so a man taking on a homemaking role is clearly submissive and acting like a woman does while his aggressive, domineering wife is acting like a man, which is the definition of this word that I'm finding online and yikes! Wife and husband are legal/social status in my book. They are not clearly defined jobs/roles/personality types, so I'm not a fan of using gendered terms to refer to stuff like this especially since I do actively try to use gender neutral words in my own writing whenever I can, though I'm certainly far from perfect on that front.

I also don't see homemaking as a submissive act. It certainly can be, but that's not how I picture Adrien at all! I picture him as relaxed and plesent, but 100% in charge of the home and all choices about how it's run. I also see him being in charge of their finances like homemakers often were in the "old days" since they were the ones in charge of things like scheduling cleaners, buying food, and other things that needed strong budgeting skills while the person who worked wasn't actually spending money or managing the home since they were at work. I like to think that Nathalie would prep Adrien to be a wealthy man and so he'd have strong skills in finance management.

[traditionaldream]

Merry Christmas to everyone 🎀🎄

He's the reason for the season

[theseancekid]

okay but that throwaway line in s4 where Klaus talked about cutting coupons was actually so fucking funny to me. I didn't love the germophobe take, but I do genuinely love to think about Klaus in a domestic setting. getting all excited when his favorite brand of cookies is on sale asfdfxcajsfdgcjgfc he's so cute i can't stand it

[rjavenuru]

not so random screenshots from Gothic Homemaking

[drink-tang-gang]

I think one of the funniest aspects of Baffy is that, Bugs is down BAD, but would rather eat dirt before admitting it.

Like he could re-arrange the entire universe for Daffy and trip him on the next morning. And bcs Daffy doesn’t know he despises Bugs ( on a very surface level bcs deep down he also cares)

yes that's exactly it! We've seen as much in bia haven't we?? it's implied Bugs knows the entire movie was going on just so Daffy could have his limelight. I even love in Bah Humduck Bugs has no purpose in the story. Like at all. Except to tease Daffy and play around with him <3 Bugs lives for that. He doesn't have to be the cool-headed joe he's gotten reduced to (at that time period) he can be his zany trickster self around him and for that alone Bugs would give him the world <3

Daffy cares too, despite his grumblings! Who tf else would burrow with Bugs? Who else would let Bugs be in charge of the map and over-prepare for when he inevitably takes a wrong direction?? Man I love these two.

[marc--chilton]

(mgv) during the 3rd wilson divorce period where he crashed on house's couch, sometimes if house felt especially generous to wilson's plight (withering bond messing with his mood, not quite missing julie nor wanting to argue that they can make it work but a secret third thing) when they're watching tv and having takeout dinner, he'll rack up a purr entirely for his benefit. it's even rarer than house playing music for someone because of house's complex relationship with his status as an omega, so when house pulls it out, wilson is so careful not to do or say anything that would make house want to stop. he doesn't say thank you, he never asks for it, just graciously accepts whatever house gives him, relaxing a little easier into the sofa with that low rumble at his side

[llycaons]

while I enjoy an AU where sect cultivators stood by wwx in his defiance against the cultivation world or supported the wen remnants with him, they can't hit like canon does bc they always feel a little...hm. like if the author is super invested and insists THIS is what should have/would have happened its like they're missing the point of all the characters and their arcs?