#grandparents' role in child upbringing

[tanuandthetriplets]

Triplets Papa Chale Gaon - Part 1 | Triplets Vlog - 24th December'23

[dinarosie]

I Was Bullied Too, So Why Didn’t I Turn Out Like Severus Snape?

I came across an anti-Snape post where someone shared their experience of being bullied in school. They said that even though they were bullied, they were able to overcome it, which is why they admired James Potter—because he changed and stopped being a bully. However, they hate Snape for not being able to move on from his past.

Everyone has the right to hate or love the characters based on their taste but What bothers me is how people often compare their own trauma to others' and disregard the genetic and environmental differences that shape us as individuals. I’ve decided to write a long post comparing my own life with Snape’s—two people who were both bullied as children. it was difficult for me to write this post, but I hope this comparison shows that not everyone who experiences bullying ends up the same. The variances in our upbringing and support systems play a crucial role in shaping who we become.

When I was seven years old, I was mocked and humiliated by a group of older girls on the school bus (they were eleven at the time). They made it clear that they bullied me because I was smaller and weaker than them. They treated me in a way that made me believe I deserved their bullying. I thought a weak and ugly girl like me was deserving of all their humiliation. They would mess up my hair, pull it, and ridicule me for having messy and ugly hair. Whenever I cried, they laughed. They didn't even let me be friends with other girls. To torment me further, they would point at me, whisper to each other, and giggle, making me feel even more isolated. I had allergies and a runny nose, and they wouldn’t let me wipe it, which they used as another reason to belittle me, saying I was disgusting. Even if there was an empty seat, they wouldn’t let me sit with them because I was "gross." I was terrified of them, hated school because of them, and cried every morning, begging not to go to school.

But why didn’t I turn out like Severus Snape?

1- I grew up like a normal child in every other aspect of my life. I was cared for and valued. I always had birthday parties with cake and gifts. I was praised when I got good grades. I had friends outside of school to play with, went on family vacations, and had fun times. From childhood to adulthood, I’ve had a safe home, enough sleep, good food, and a loving family.

2- I had parents who loved and cared about me. When my mother found out about the bullying, she went to the school and demanded they stop it. My parents also enrolled me in a private school to protect me from further bullying. When I started having nightmares and trouble sleeping, they took me to a child therapist.

3- My grandparents adored me. I would stay at their house when my parents were at work, and they made my childhood even more joyful. I always had safe arms to run to. Plus, my aunts and uncles cared for me and regularly took me to parks and other fun places, showering me with gifts and making sure I enjoyed my time.

4- My family had a respectable place in society, and I was never shamed or humiliated because of my family's circumstances. My father cared for me, my sister, and my mother, and he worked hard to provide for our needs. He respected my mother, and I never witnessed any abuse from him toward her.

5- My family had a stable income, and I always had new, appropriate clothes to wear. I never had to worry about poverty, hunger, or wearing hand-me-downs that would make me feel inferior to my peers.

6- My bullies mocked me, but they never caused me serious physical harm. I never feared for my life or sexual assault at school. The bullying was short-lived, lasting less than two years, and by the time I was a teenager, it had completely stopped. As I grew older, I made plenty of good friends and was popular among them. I have many fond memories from high school with my friends.

7- As a teenager, I didn’t worry about my future. My concerns were not about surviving a war, avoiding humiliation, or escaping poverty. I was free to plan my life, knowing I would go to university and study what I loved. Whenever I needed help, I knew I could count on my family—they were always there to support me.

8- I’m a psychology student, and studying this field has completely shifted my perspective on myself and others. It has allowed me to see the world with greater depth and empathy. I’ve become better at recognizing not only my own psychological wounds but also those of others, which has helped me connect with people on a deeper level. I've also sought therapy, both in-person and online, and have seen positive results. While I still struggle with some issues from my past—like feeling insecure about my appearance, doubting people’s motives, and having a hard time trusting—I’ve learned how to manage these feelings fairly well.

All of these factors combined have shaped me into someone different from Severus Snape. Yes, I was bullied, but I didn’t turn out like him because, unlike Snape, I was given numerous opportunities to grow, to experience love and joy, to heal, and to find pleasure in life.

Now, It’s much easier for someone like me to be kind and nice to others, to love people, to forgive myself and others, and to move on from those who don’t like me. It’s easier for me to see the world and people not as threats but with a more mature and balanced perspective. but I’m under no illusion that I am a better and more worthy person than Severus Snape or anyone like him who didn’t have the chance to heal. I simply know that I’ve been luckier, and for that, I’m grateful. But I never want to dismiss or belittle the suffering of others or blame them for their psychological struggles.

I can’t say for certain what I would’ve done in Snape’s exact situation or how bitter I might’ve become. But I’m certain of one thing: I could never be as brave or as selfless as Snape was, sacrificing his own life so readily for others. I know that I could never be a hero like him.

[brf-rumortrackinganon]

Peter and Zara were also at Gordonstoun. Zara being the in same year as W. So there was precedent in H's generation as well of sending kids to Gordonstoun. They did know the kinda academic+outdoorsey life a child that age would experience at G.

H's problem isn't the school he attended. It's he himself. There were no checks & balances on him once he was at school. No discipline for him once he hit his teens. Teachers couldn't discipline him, he constantly bullied other boys, staff. Took advantage of his RPOs. Wasted his time stoned or skipping classes. He did visit home- Windsor castle or Highgrove just as much as William did. He did his grandparents and they spoiled him rotten.

The Queen Mother spent an hour every other week with William telling him and teaching him about his legacy, his family's role etc. essentially grooming him for his role as king. She was pretty strict and no-nonsense. And if Harry had been made to do this he would have hated it. For a child William or Harry's age that mandated hour would have been a chore. But William put up with it and in hindsight saw how invaluable it was.

Harry probably spent that hour watching TV, horse riding swimming, eating sausage rolls and would have relished the fact that William is being punished. At the same he also saw that William getting extra attention.

What I'm saying is, Harrys problem is he himself. It would be the case wherever he was. William, in the same situation, chose different because he is made differently.

After Eton Harry was given so many opportunities, he had so many people in side family and outer circle who supported him, loved him, mentored him, guided him, covered for him. He had therapy, he had expert advisors, very competent staff, opportunities to get some.perspective because of all the charities and organizations he worked with.

At no point did he make better choices. If something was done for him to put him on the right path he went along with it until it got too hard. Then quit and it's on to the next thing. He didn't go to university. All his other cousins did. He could have had his pick of whichever uni, whatever course and he would have skirted through. Then he had his military career handed to him. But the moment it became non-glamorous actual work he quit.

I still think he was motivated to quit because William and Catherine had started having a public role and we're getting the limelight, so he thought he should also be a public figure and be admired.

We can only blame Charles and Harry's childhood trauma and his wounded inner child to a certain extent. When he becomes a bully, an abuser, an entitlement addict...when he starts sabotaging his loved ones ... It's on him.

William and Harry, with the exact same upbringing and trauma, with just 2 years between them, have turned out to be complete opposites. That's a great argument in favour of nature vs nurture.

I mean, everything and everyone warned him against Meghan. Most people predicted 7 years ago how their relationship would go. And yet he made that choice, stuck with it. The rest is history in making.

Anon hits it right on the nail - I like the analytical side of royal-watching precisely for what they point out: nature vs nurture, and how the royals are fascinating case studies for it.

[occasionallyprosie]

Hi Proxi. I like your Shekiak legend head cannon, but I don't know a lot about it. Would you being willing to tell me about it? It's okay if you are too busy right now.

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OMG

First of all, thank you for the ask!!!

Second of all, you've opened a can of worms, allow me to info dump? :D

My Sheikah Legend head canon stems from an offhanded thought of him having red eyes! Specifically, in terms of my Triforce Hero head canon of the Triforce Heroes being Legend, Wind, and Twilight, and their color symbolizing which part of the triforce they represent. I can go into detailing that another time, but basically it results with Wind=Courage, Twilight=Wisdom, and Legend=Power, and their eye colors being the indicator.

The idea of Legend having red eyes ended up resulting in him being at least part sheikah, and now the head canon has become a full sheikah.

So Sheikah Legend is born and raised in Kakariko, Impa is his aunt, and one or both his parents died when he was little. Very Disney Princess I know. But Impa teaches him how to use Sheikah magic which is just Shadow Magic, and he's super good at it. His parents were scholars and as a result he's a huge nerd, absorbs information like a sponge, which makes for an even better magic user.

Before his first adventure, he was set to succeed Impa as the Sheikah protector of the Royal Family. So he's at the castle frequently, only he doesn't get to meet the royal family until later, he's supposed to be shadowing Impa and practicing his disappearing magic, but he gets distracted and helps out the staff every time they visit.

But then he hears a voice one night, he hears Zelda(Fable) and goes to the castle. He finds a knight he's helped out before dying in the sewer. He sneaks through the castle, breaks Fable out, and does the whole ALTTP journey. He learns how to fight with weapons and without magic from Fi, as a way to conceal his identity.

After his first adventure, he's basically banished from Kakariko as himself. He's the hero now, and Sheikah aren't supposed to be the hero (they're Hylian). So Impa takes him to some friends of hers, who take the role of grandparents to him. He dyes his hair blond and gets contacts to turn his eyes blue, blends in as a hylian while learning the culture of the people who called him a monster and a traitor. As a Sheikah, Legend is still wanted by the law, but as a "Hylian" he slips past their notice. He goes the rest of his adventures pretending to be something he isn't, exiled from his hometown but still close with Impa and still intending to maintain his duty as protector of the Royal Family.

Overall, he's far less of a 'normal kid turned hero' child soldier type and more of a 'trained to fight since birth' child soldier type, and he has extreme abandonment issues. He has no problem using his Shadow Magic, but admitting he's Sheikah? Nope. Because he got basically banished from Kakariko, and Hyrule hates him, he is completely terrified of revealing his heritage. He also has extremely high expectations of himself as a result of his extensive training and responsibility. He's always acting like something he isn't at his core, and it's been ongoing enough that before LU, while still under pressure of his era, he forgot isn't his real self. In Labrynna and Holodrum, he loses that mask a bit because he's only a kid and can't keep it up, and because he's escaped the pressure of Hyrule. But in LU, he eventually becomes comfortable enough with the Chain that his real self starts to come out and it terrifies him because he can't risk losing everything all because of his heritage again.

Kind of akin to Warriors' with the identity crisis, Wild with the upbringing, and Hyrule with the secret heritage.

Wind and Twilight already know tho, he let it slip during Triforce Heroes. They keep it secret, and it didn't help Twilight figure out that Legend is the same Link as the one from Hytopia now that he's blond and has blue eyes though. Wind somehow still figured it out, nobody knows how, he's just like that.

Overall his character/personality isn't different, just different backstories and different fears.

[horizon-verizon]

Phoebe Campbell saying about Baela and Rhaena “There’s a little bit of tension because of their separate upbringings, Baela was raised with grandma & grandpa, Rhaena by stepmom and half siblings. Rhaena feels quite a lot of resentment there.”

So... that garbage fanfic wants to put the dragon twins against each other ?? They aren’t Arya and Sansa, Baela and Rhaena actually love each other, and unlike Sansa, Baela never bullied her sister. And why would Rhaena resent the fact that she had to live with her stepmom and half siblings ??

This is if--and only IF--Phoebe is correct in how the show will decide to characterize Rhaena, and since they literally acted the character, shot all the scenes, and haven't gone on record with bad takes, I think we don't have much a reason to suspect otherwise.

Link to the article that came out today and what anon refers to:

BranwynHlfwitch over at Twitter has a whole thread pointing out other stuff how Ryan Condal has never had a great grasp on the plot or really of history & historians.

I think that part of it is they are trying to develop these characters for their larger roles they're planning during the Dance & the way they decided to go about that is to create conflict b/t the fan fav sisters. And I think they might try to to argue or imply that she is resentful bc of not just second-son syndrome, but basically Baela was picked by their grandparents to be closer and let Rhaena be. Why not both of them, if they are already seeming to break tradition? It will likely folow the theme of silent rejection the show allows the audience to quickly assume from episode 6, where Rhaena bemoans Daemon ignoring her bc of her not hatching an egg...which I already talked about.

Baela--for a very dumb reason--becomes the "ward" of the Velaryons & Rhaenys wants Corlys to name Baela as his heir...presumably without consulting Daemon, the girl's father or Viserys, the head of the house Baela is actually a part of and who would determine how his house's possible heirs inherit what over other candidates...bc Baela & Rhaena are both technically still in line for the throne though they aren't titled as princesses. Just way down and the claims would get stronger the more people before them die...which we already see in the bk.

Anyway, Baela is seemingly older than Rhaena instead of being her twin as by canon; she has a dragon where Rhaena does not; she is, bc she is older, taken to Driftmark to learn the ways of a leader as if she might become the head of a house or whatever even though we also know that Corlys has definitely not named her his heir by his & Rhaenys' conversation in the last episode (so for 6 years why is Baela there without being named when they could just visit each other--her and Rhaenys--by ship and dragonback [pic below] idk, the spectacle of it?).

And while Rhaena loved her dad, loved her stepsiblings/1st cousins-once-removed & I believe that Rhaenyra was a great stepmother to her, because the show did not show us their lives, they will take advantage of that and present us with a lot of stuff like this--breaking lore and going along with the breakage to build their own tale but also sometimes not showing a logical progression from that point of breakage [again, lok to the link abt cradle-bonding].

Yes, there's the argument that Daemon is merely worried over Rhaena's being singled put and left out or belittled, sidelined, for not having a dragon as he felt being a second son/child even with his dragon...but again, look to my post about cradle-bonds and the history of dragon bonds he supposedly knows and it becomes still dumb when he still ends up doing the very thing he's supposed to have feared for his daughter, to her.

Would it have helped if the writers actually developed these people's lives before the Dance and actually think through their plot decisions if they planned to make Rhaena-Daemon's deal this, absolutely! But we have what we have.

Show!Rhaena could come to just resent her sister for all this perceived favoritism.

I may be wrong, who knows.

[juju-or-anya]

I’m working on the third part of "Childhoods and Marriage", and this story delves deeply into Wednesday and Tyler’s journey as parents, exploring what it means to raise a child as teenagers. One of the things I love most about writing this is how central Wednesday is to Aradia’s upbringing. She’s usually the one who takes her to classes—not just because she’s still breastfeeding, but because she wants to be fully present in every aspect of her daughter’s life. She’s the one who insists on attending every medical appointment and who decided that no one else but her and Tyler would care for their daughter: no nannies, no grandparents, just the two of them.

Wednesday wants to be truly active as a mother, deeply involved in every detail. In many fanfics, we often see Tyler taking the lead in parenting, and I think that’s amazing because it challenges traditional gender roles, showing that a man can manage the household and be the emotional backbone of his family. However, I feel it’s unfair when Wednesday is portrayed as merely “tolerating” her children. To me, she loves her kids just as fiercely as she loves the other important people in her life: passionately, darkly, and unconditionally. Wednesday would give everything for them, without hesitation or second thought.

[valandhirwriter]

Favorite side characters, any media. Go!

Thanks for the ask, @do-androids-dream-ao3acc, but you are aware, how dangerous it is, to ask me such big things?

Tam al'Thor from Wheel of time

Who is this: In WoT Tam is the father (or rather foster-father) of Rand al'Thor the Dragon reborn. Tam raised the baby that he found on the battlefield after the Blood Snow so well amd with such love, that the revelation that he isn't Rand's father comes as a shock, and even after knowing the truth, Rand still considers Tam as his father. Tam has his own role to play during the series and proves an important balancing factor for Rand in the days before Tarmon Gai'don. With Tam the author broke the trope that heroes slated for death (which the Dragon is) will either have no family any more, or be estranged in some fashion. While Rand's biological parents are dead, he still has a family in Tam, who will be deeply impacted by the loss of his son, and bears that knowledge with such a quiet strength, makes the fact that the Dragon will die at Tarmon Gai'don all the more poignant. Late in the books Rand is asked, what is different between his last incarnation as the Dragon (Lews Therin) and now, and Rand replies: "I was raised better." Showing that Tam's down-to-Earth upbringing did a world of good for the man who is supposed to save the world but also maybe break it again.

Quote: "All we can do is the best we can with the life that's given to us. And take comfort from it. But no matter what happens, what pain we face, what heartbreak, even death, the Wheel keeps turning. Always. And we try again. Maybe do a little better than the last time."

Pet Headcanons I have:

1. I cannot see how Tam could find a baby, freshly born on the slopes of Dragonmount and not guess something. Moraine in New Spring thinks that no one will admit to a child born on the slopes of Dragonmount because that detail of the prophecy is too well known. Tam also evades the initial Aes Sedai search, in spite of the offered money to all children born during the days of the Siege. So, I believe he saw something or at least believed that the baby boy could be believed to be the Dragon Reborn.

We know that Tam had an interessting military career, from the Whitecloak War to the Blood Snow, and I honestly still think that there were more adventures he had than we ever get to know.

Tam's family: We know Tam left the Two Rivers as a young man and came back years later with a wife and child. The child obviously Rand. But Rand never remembers grandparents, and after the death of Kari al'Thor Tam raises his son alone, much as the women of Emond's field strongly think he should remarry. We do not see any other female relative helping, nor get any mentions of the wider al'Thor family. So I have this headcanon that Tam's choice to leave had something to do with the loss of his family. His role in the pattern necessitated him leaving, living outside the Two Rivers, finding the child, and bringing it back, everyone thinking that it was Tam's son. If Manetheren had to fall and be forgotten, so it might shelter the Dragon Reborn in it's youth, Tam needed to be propelled out of his home. And by not having a family to ask questions later, there were no chances anyone could learn that Rand was indeed a foundling. So I think that something happened to the entire al'Thor clan, leaving Tam to carry on alone.

Fanfic I would love to read/write about him: Tam fought in the Blood Snow, much as my other favourite Wot character did: Lan al'Madragoran. We know in canon they did not meet, as Lan wonders how Tam came by a heron-marked blade, and whether he had a right to it. An answer that is only given in the Last Battle itself, when Lan sees Tam fight. Meaning Lan's Malkieri and the Illianer Companions did not interact. Now, I would love to see a story, where those two actually meet in the days of the Siege of Tar Valon, maybe fighting Aiel together. A small story would be great, but a story where their meeting propels them both on a different path - that would be great. A Tam/Lan pairing even better. But that would be ta'veren levels of AU, and writing in WoT might still be way beyond my skill level.

Eskel from he Witcher

Who is this: Eskel is another Wolf Witcher, that readers first encounter when Geralt brings Ciri to Kaer Morhen, and Ciri gets frightened when she sees his face, because of his scars. Eskel is one of the Witchers who trains Ciri in Kaer Morhen, and Ciri has a vision about his death during her time there (among other pyromantic visions). In the games Eskel is a supporting character, trying to help Geralt with his memories and ultimately fighting in the battle of Kaer Morhen.

Quote: I'm a simple witcher, Wolf. Don't fight dragons, don't fraternize with kings and don't sleep with sorceresses…

Pet Headcanons I have: 1. In the games there is a throwaway line about Eskel coming from the Mountains, something that grew into my headcanon about Eskel's background and people.

Eskel's scars - I feel that the explanation we get in the games is rather sloppy storytelling and doesn't make sense of several levels. So I still hold onto my own stories about the scars, that I had long before the games came out.

Big Brother: in my head canon Eskel is the older and more reliable brother of Geralt, sensible, steady and less given to temper. A bit of a big teddy-bear in some aspects, but also a grounding anchor for his younger brothers.

Fanfic I would love to write about him: Ummm… already wrote a bunch.

General Bel Riose from Foundation

Who is this: In the books we get to know Bel Riose as "The last of the Imperials", an Imperial General of immense skill, born in the waning days of the Galactic Empire. He ultimately gets executed by Emperor Clean for treason. In the TV series we get more time with him, see the consequences of his earlier fallout with Cleon, and see how Bel Riose takes on the Foundation. We also get to see him as a loving husband, and get torn apart when he is forced to fire on the planet where his husband has crash-landed, and having nothing left to lose, turning on Cleon, and damn, if he doesn't give Cleon a long deserved beating. Of course Bel dies, in the explosion of the ships, thanks to the chain reaction his spaces navigator caused.

Quotes: "To those who fight and ask why."

Pet Headcanons: 1. His reasons for not refusing to fire on Terminus. It is heavy implied in the series that Bel Riose does not rebel, because he has seen the anarchy outside the Empire, and is convinced that even a bad Emperor is better than none. And I think most of us watching expected him to rise up, when Cleon orders him to fire on Terminus with Glawen still grounded down there. I believe that at this point Rios knew that he was doomed, and most likely Glawen with him, if one considers Cleon's nature. So actually firing that shot, knowing that it will Glawen a swift and clean death, was an act of love, sparing Glawen the suffering that would await otherwise. And I think Glawen thought the same when he told Bel to do it. Glawen knew, with his own death, Bel would be free to act against the Emperor.

He saw the space plan coming. I am utterly convinced of this. Bel had a respectful friendship with his spacer navigator and I think he knew her well. He'd have seen something coming, and maybe he let it happen, because while he himself wasn't a man to rebel, he saw why others would. I also cannot see the spacer, who has a really good connection to her General, and respects him, would quite betray him like that.

I think he studied some illegal things about Seldon and his theories.

Fanfic I would love to write about him: I would love to write an AU where things go differently, simply because Bel didn't deserve to go down like this. Full Stop. This would be the one where both he and Glawen survive. I'd also be intrigued by one where only Bel survived, though heck - that man would become a total problem for the Empire. Or an AU where Glawen was drawn more on Cleon's side and they both are seperated, even as Cleon still sends Bel against the Foundation, while keeping Glawen for himself. Very chaotic ideas on that one.

General John Dixter from "Star of the Guardians"

Who is this: General John Dixter is the youngest roxal General in the book series, and in love with Guardian Maigrey Morianna, though he knows she only sees him as a friend. During the Revolution he helps Maigrey escape, and find medical help, though she later ditches him and escapes on her own. John becomes a mercenary, trying to forget and rising to a respected mercenary leader. Even his rival, Lord Derek Sagan respects his military skills. John is drawn into that fight again, by encountering young Dion Starfire, and recognizing that this is the child, that Maigrey talked about in the night of the revolution. He finds and loses Maigrey again, in the following events, and ultimately becomes Lord Admiral in service of young King Dion, to rebuild the Royal Military in an honourable fashion. One thing that stands about John, outside his military skills, is that even as his love for Maigrey will never go anywhere, he never gets bitter or jealous about it. He knows she will never love him back, and he is a reliable friend to her, no matter what. Even including walking into the jaws of one Derek Sagan again, or facing torture at that man's hands. John shows an incredible strength of character during all of this, and in between all the blood Royal he often is the person with the best common sense.

Quotes:

Pet Headcanons: 1. In spite of Maigrey professing her hope that John found someone else in the intervening years, I don't believe she'd really have been all that happy with it.

It would have made one hell of a friendship had Derek and John each other, before John met Maigrey.

John sensed/felt/knew that Maigrey was not dead, which is why he never got over her.

John's incurable space sickness, is (as Dr. Giesk, the old creep rightly assumed) psychological not physiological and it links back to a trauma from his youth that he's surpressing in his mind (or that was taken from him by a Guardian).

Fanfic I would love to write about him: One story I would like to write, is about his life after the book events, maybe set during or after the MagForce7 books. A story where now that Maigrey is truly gone, John finds a new life, one not defined by his grief. I also would love some deeper story about John's work rebuilding the Royal Military. I would also like that story to adress a few inconsistencies about the Revolution, and maybe the source of John's space-sickness. But definitely a story of him finding love, when he did not expect that to happen any more.

tagging @do-androids-dream-ao3acc, @regis-favorite-raven, @tigerlyla-of-metinna, @andordean, and @ginstermoff to answer the same question.

[meapistrash]

Things Added in Translation - Brief thoughts on On Earth We Are Briefly Gorgeous by Ocean Vuong

Foreword: This a very nerdy thing I thought about as I started reading this book, these are mostly my preliminary thoughts and opinions and is in not actually academic facts.

So this book has been in my to be read pile for approximately over 4 years ever since I found out about it and saw quotes floating around the internet. However, it took me until new years two years ago when I saw the Vietnamese translated hardcover edition at a book fair - which is still cheaper than the English version by the way - to actually get it. I had an idea to read this book in both versions, English (the original language it was written in), and in Vietnamese (the language that is Vuong’s heritage and his “mother’s tongue”). 

It’s mostly curiosity because I wanted to see how writings written by a Vietnamese American author could be translated, specifically one that is - from my current understanding - to be letters from poet/author son to his Vietnamese immigrant, illiterate mother, and the stories of a Vietnamese upbringing in a foreign country (disclaimer: i know there's A LOT more to this book but alas I haven't finished reading it).

The key reason for this intrigue is that there are nuances in the Vietnamese language that are so very difficult to translate into English (and vice versa). For example, Vietnamese pronouns are highly contextual based on age, familial relationships and relative relations via mutual connections. What choice of pronouns you use will set a different mood for the people in a conversation and third parties gazing into that conversation – this is a point I will delve into later. 

I think it’s safe to say that anyone who is at least bilingual knows you have a different identity for every language you speak. And while I don’t assume to know or understand how 2nd gen immigrant kids would feel towards their mother tongue and English in general, I thought it would be interesting to see Vuong's words as written in his voice might sound like if it were actually given to his mother in a language she understands.

FYI disclaimer, I am not a translator or a linguist expert. This is what I understand about both languages in general.

The focus of this analysis is the first two lines of Vuong’s novel. 

Let me begin again. Dear Ma,

In Vietnamese (translated by Khanh Nguyen), it is translated as: 

Để con bắt đầu lại. Mẹ ơi,

As mentioned, Vietnamese pronouns are highly contextual. Vuong uses “me” in the first line, translated to “con” (also meaning child), the Vietnamese equivalent of I/me but specifically used when you are speaking to people who you may consider parents, aunt/uncles, grandparents and teachers. If you want to be very very strict and technical, you might even be able to say that "con" is exclusive to parental-child relationships, because the pronouns are so highly contextual, it also carries a sense of ownership. I often joke with my coworkers, Tôi muốn làm con ba mẹ - I want to be my parents’ child. The punchline here is I want to be unemployed and be supported by my parents. But con ba mẹ literally means dad and mom’s child. To be someone’s con is exclusive to the father/mother noun. To use con means to give higher level of respect to the person you’re speaking to, and it’s even higher than level of respect you would owe your friends or siblings. It takes you two sentences in English, whereas it take you one sentence in Vietnamese to establish a definite power imbalance between the narrator and the person he is speaking to. The Vietnamese translation can already provide hints about his relationship with this person before we even know who he is talking to. 

Again, this is why I believe you have different identities in every language. Pronouns play a very role in any works translated into Vietnamese and it actually has on multiple occasions misconstrued my understanding of certain novels just because I read it in Vietnamese, and the work was subject to the constraints of Vietnamese language conventions, therefore added meaning where the original work doesn’t have it. But in this case, I think there’s an added cultural nuance about Vuong’s Vietnamese heritage that cannot be provided by the English language, which brings further depth into the narrator’s voice as a whole. 

In the second line, Vuong writes “Dear Ma.” It is translated to “Mẹ ơi” - “Mẹ” being mum. In the same way that the English language has mom and mum, we have regional words for mothers in Vietnamese. What is interesting here is that Vuong’s family are southern Vietnamese (as far as I’ve researched and understood). In southern Vienamese dialect, they use Má instead of Mẹ. Which was why when I saw the line in English, I didn’t think of it as just ma like mama, but má in the way that I thought Vuong would actually call his mother as per the southern dialect. I almost thought it might have been intentional on Vuong's part to use "Ma" instead of the conventional mom because it sounded very very similar to má. As to whether or not Vuong was consulted when the Vietnamese translation was done, I don't know, but I do think it’s a strange choice that the translator would choose the northern Vietnamese equivalent mẹ. It could also very well be that his family does use the northern dialect of the word because it was passed on like that - I do know some families who use different mixes of dialect - but I somewhat feel like the choice of dialect here might have fallen short in hinting Vuong’s background. 

This line in general is actually a little difficult to translate because of the nuances of affection and respect in it. “Dear” is a classic and common way to address someone in letters. The most accurate translation I think should be Thưa mẹ. Thưa, being a non-translatable word used to preface that you are beginning a conversation with someone with deep respect, in the same way Dear acts to preface the letter as being written to his mother. However, “dear” implies a sort of affection that thưa doesn’t always quite deliver. There are many other ways to say dear, such as thân mến/kính mến/yêu, but the choice in the translation is “ơi”, which though has been used for letters, is a word that is very colloquial. You use ơi to call someone regardless of their age, and it implies affection and closeness, which I guess was why it was preferred to thưa. “Ơi” has an added depth that “Dear” doesn’t carry as it is used both to call for and answer someone, like the start of a verbal conversation between two people who are in each other’s presence. So where “Dear Ma” is the beginning of a letter that is not necessarily involving the presence of both parties in a conversation, “Mẹ ơi” is Ma, I am talking to you almost seemingly with expectations to be answered. I also find it particularly poignant that this line wherein Vuong is addressing his mother is written out. I do not know if Vuong’s mother is Vietnamese literate, but regardless of the language in which the words are delivered, it is in the written medium, and as Vuong points out, “each word I put down is one word further from where you are.” It is the need to speak the words aloud with the yearning that “Mẹ ơi” evokes that it might be able to reach his mother's understanding. 

But anyhow, that's my take on the first two lines of this translation. I think it’s a privilege to be able to read this in both languages because I’ve heard great things about Ocean Vuong’s prose so I'm sure a lot of the good proses will be lost in translation later down the line. But the first two lines were very thought provoking for me, though slight disclaimer cuz I am struggling to literate in both languages lol. I'm sure the translator did their best with the translation because it is very difficult to translate into Vietnamese, and it is already incredible that I have something like this to read.

PS: Another thing also love how the Vietnamese translation is the title is Một Thoáng Ta Rực Rỡ Ở Nhân Gian, because it translates "Earth" not as the planet or the ground, but it to nhân gian (which comes from the Chinese word 人间), which means "the space of man", the space of our existence and livelihood. It's a smashing translation that captures the essence of the title in my opinion.

[pallastrology]

FAQ: interceptions and duplications

hello loves, tonight we're talking about interceptions and duplications in astrology. what are they, what do they mean, how do we interpret them? the specifics of each intercepted/duplicated sign and such will be up in a future post! i'll be using my own chart for examples here, and if you have questions about interceptions or duplications in your own chart, i'm always down to try and help via asks :-)

interceptions are an astrological concept that indicates an imbalance somewhere. there are a few ways they can be interpreted, but generally it points to either a lack of guidance or opportunity to express the qualities of the intercepted sign in early life. this leads to insecurities, negative beliefs and problematic behaviours later in life, often manifesting in the way of the opposite sign to the first interception. an intercepted sign will always have its sister intercepted too, so you can kind of see that it has a polarising effect. duplications are often where and how we find our path towards healing from these difficult patterns. duplications show us where we received a lot of guidance or opportunity, where we were shown the right way to express the energy of the sign involved, and where we have a lot of those traits. although there is still an imbalance, utilising our duplications helps us grow and develop the intercepted signs and consciously bring their energies into our daily lives.

when it comes to interceptions, we're looking for a sign that is fully contained within a house, and doesn't rule any houses, and for duplications, we're looking for one sign ruling two concurrent houses. for example, i have sagittarius and gemini intercepted in the fourth and tenth houses (purple highlight), and virgo and pisces duplicated in the first and second/seventh and eighth houses (pink highlight).

time for a personal example: as a child, i was very isolated. i never traveled and had very little contact with my grandparents, teachers or other adult role models. i was taken out of school at a young age to be homeschooled and had undiagnosed ADHD, so didn't take to it very well. in a lot of ways, i had a very unconventional upbringing and was often told i was very clever, but i was taught (not explicitly, but through the actions of the adults around me and the at-the-time unnoticed ADHD) that i was stupid, lazy, careless etc., and that my thoughts and writing weren't good enough. as an adult, i carry those beliefs with me, and until very recently have behaved as if i was stupid, lazy, thoughtless... i would not apply for things, not work hard due to the fear of not shaping up, and would unconsciously sabotage myself, even to the point of deleting projects, ghosting people and opportunities. i think this is very sagittarian, but you can see bits that reflect gemini too. it's pretty bad, and i'm embarrassed to admit it, but after a lot of work... i still hold those beliefs, and the fear of failure, and the worry that people will see i'm stupid and will reject me. but for the last couple of years i have returned to this blog and continue to write, i got my high school education and a counselling certificate, and am now at university studying an academic subject. i even have hopes of writing a book in the near future. what helped me was therapy, psychoanalysis to be specific, and meaningful relationships with good, safe people. over time i became aware that these beliefs weren't normal or right, and that awareness and curiosity about myself is what started the process. i slowly started to be able to put my hectic brain to use and start gathering more practical knowledge. my relationships are what keep me grounded and connected to the world, and my loved ones are quick to reassure me when i need it, or talk things through with me, for which i will forever be grateful. i think it's pretty self-explanatory that these are very virgoan and piscean concepts, lol. in a nutshell, the traits and experiences of the duplicated signs help you to rebuild the qualities of the intercepted signs in a healthier way, and bring balance back into your chart.

are they bad? i would say that interceptions are a challenge. they are painful, and can be hard to deal with. they take time to master; i'm nowhere near done with my own interception 'journey', and i've been at it for years. but a birth chart is a blueprint, a list of potentials, and we have all the tools in that list to rise to these challenges. learning to heal interceptions makes for a fuller experience of life and accessing more of our own potentials. that being said, some things just suck for no reason at all, and interceptions definitely fit that bill. it's okay to mope about them from time to time.

a note on house systems: not all charts or house systems will show interceptions. if you were born very close to the equator, your houses will most likely be very even, and systems like equal houses or whole signs cannot express interceptions. i work mostly in placidus, and so this post is geared towards that house system, but it's always a fun learning experience to look at your chart through different house systems and note down the differences and what that might mean to you :-)

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CHARACTER BASICS:

Carmen Hernandez picked up their key from the front desk three months ago. The twenty six year old uses she/her pronouns and is a Stewardess on the Catalina from Los Angelas, California. According to their apartment application, people have told them they look a lot like Cierra Ramirez, and the character they identify with most is Maeve Wiley from Sex Education. Santa Moneda gives you a warm welcome, and we hope you enjoy your stay. (e, 23, she/her, gmt +1, n/a)

CHARACTER SUMMARY:

What was your character’s relationship like with their family growing up? Any siblings? Were they raised by their biological parents? Another family member? Were they adopted? How did this make them feel?

Carmen's birth marked the intersection of two young lives that had just begun. Her parents were high school sweethearts, still in the fledgling stages of adulthood when they learned they would become parents. This revelation brought with it a wave of uncertainty and responsibility that neither was prepared for.

Carmen's arrival presented her parents with the challenge of balancing the demands of parenthood with the aspirations they had for their own futures. It was a daunting task for a couple who were just emerging from their teenage years.

When Carmen was only a child, her mother made the decision to step away from the responsibilities of motherhood, leaving Carmen in the care of her father. It was a heart-wrenching choice, one that weighed heavily on her mother, but she believed it was the best decision for Carmen's well-being at the time.

Carmen's father, though unprepared, decided to take on the role of single parenthood. He entrusted Carmen's care to her grandparents, believing that it would be a temporary arrangement, allowing him to navigate the difficult transition into parenthood. 

Carmen's stay with her grandparents was intended to be temporary, a way to give her father the time he needed to adjust to the demands of raising a child. Her grandparents, who had already traveled and lived a life of adventure, offered a stable and loving environment for Carmen.

Was there a major incident in your muse’s life that altered their personality? What was it? What were they like before? What were they like after?

TW: DEATH

Carmen's upbringing was deeply influenced by her grandparents, who were her primary caregivers. They regaled her with tales of their youthful travels, filling her childhood with captivating stories of far off destinations and adventures. Carmen's personality was defined by their influence – she was an outgoing, fearless, and adventurous soul, always eager to embrace new experiences and explore the unknown.

As the years went by, Carmen's beloved grandparents began to show signs of aging and declining health. Losing the two people in life that gave her stability and everything that they possibly could hit her hard. They were more than just caretakers; they were her storytellers, mentors, and guiding stars. Their influence was profound, as they shared the enchanting tales of their youthful travels. These captivating stories filled Carmen's early years with a sense of wonder and wanderlust.

Carmen's grandparents regaled her with stories of far-off destinations and extraordinary adventures. These tales were like magic carpets that transported her to places she'd never seen, filled with fascinating cultures, picturesque landscapes, and daring escapades. The stories ignited her imagination and sowed the seeds of curiosity within her.

Losing these pillars of her life hit Carmen hard, leaving her with a sense of emptiness and grief. Their absence left a void that was difficult to fill. The loss became a turning point in her life, marking a transition from the security and guidance of her grandparents to a world where she needed to navigate her adventures and challenges on her own

What was your character’s biggest dream growing up? Did they achieve or are they on the road to? How does that make them feel? Were they unable to attain it? What happened? How did it make them feel?

Carmen's grandparents were the architects of her wanderlust, weaving tapestries of adventure with their captivating stories of youthful travels. Their narratives ignited a fervent desire within Carmen, a desire to not only hear about the beauty of the world but to witness it with her own eyes. She longed to follow in their adventurous footsteps, visiting far-off destinations, immersing herself in different cultures, and collecting her own stories along the way.

While she has made significant progress toward her dream, there is still much to discover, experience, and learn. Carmen's dream is ongoing. The pursuit of her dream brings her a deep sense of purpose and meaning following such great losses.

What brought them to Valparaíso? Were they running away from something? Found a good opportunity they couldn’t pass up? Are they reluctant to be here? What do they hope to get out of there time here?

Setting out on her adventure, with the summer sun as her companion, only to find herself drawn to Valparaíso's enchanting shores. In Valparaíso, the enchantment of her grandparents' stories met reality. The city's vibrant energy, its colorful streets, and the embrace of the sea enveloped her. And she, in turn, embraced it with all her heart. Her journey, guided by memories of her grandparents, led her to the jewel of the pacific, where she felt more at home than ever before.

There was, however, a twist in her story – a long-distance love waiting back home for her. Though her heart ached with the affection they shared, Carmen found herself unable to leave Valparaíso behind. With no definite time of return he couldn’t bring himself to wait around for her to return home.

CONNECTIONS:

Short-Lived Romances: passionate and whirlwind romances that followed her long-term relationship. These passionate flings, marked by their dizzying fun and intensity, provided Carmen with a chance to break free from her past and embrace the thrill of the moment.

Reunions and Reconnections: These are the people with whom she shared days of exploration and spontaneous road trips, and nights filled with excitement and dancing until the sun came up. Whether passing through the coastal city or having chosen it as their new home, these reunions bring a sense of nostalgia and familiarity. Carmen and her fellow travellers can reminisce about their shared adventures.

The Catelina: give her all the work besties. The people that she gossips and vents to while they shine the champagne glasses or set the table for dinner service. When they are between guests they hang out on deck once all their duties are taken care of whether they are diving in for a swim or soaking up some sun. give her some people she might bother as well. Because what do you mean the captain won’t let her steer the boat for a little? Rude. hanging around in the kitchen between courses to talk the ear off the kitchen staff. 

Nighttime Explorers: some friends that she can explore the city’s vibrant nightlife with. dancing the night away and discovering the local bars. Their nights after often spontaneous, whether it’s a text with the location of Catch me if you can for that night or showing up at the other’s door to drag them out to see what the night has in store for them.

Roommate: she has only been here for three months, she wasn't meant to stick around for this long so they might be wondering what the hell she is still doing here. whether they have been living in the city longer than her or even a native who has been showing her around. also think it would be kind of fun if they are a newcomer either and they have been discovering what the city has to offer with each other. but as long as you are alright with the stray dog she brough home with her that's all that matters

The Ex: this would just make me laugh more than anything. maybe he followed her out here or somehow managed to show up in the same city. she went travelling though and was meant to return home but she didn't and even though they broke up i'm sure he still wants some answers.

Found Family: a group of friends for her please! the people that made her want to stay in valparaíso that little bit longer. these are her people and she doesn't know how she went her whole life without them.

[crypticarchivist]

Unironically a pretty good example of cultural Christianity. Even if you yourself were raised secular that doesn’t mean your parents and your grandparents and your great grandparents didn’t pass down non secular ideas and value judgements to you like “pleasure is bad” because one of your great great grandparents was raised in a christian household that thought like that for non secular reasons.

Same is true for sex negativity, body negativity, assumed gender roles, ideas regarding the personhood of children and their right to disagree with you, perceptions of the homeless, ideas about what is or isn’t a fair amount of work just to make a living, and perceptions of the concept of race.

All of the above attitudes could come about due to a variety of reasons like Christian upbringing, poverty, abusive parents or relationships, government intervention, etc, and even after the causes of those attitudes they can continue to be passed down from parent to child for generations even if the parents stop being christian, or consciously racist, or homeless, or the government that enforced those behaviors isn’t around anymore.

This is why people have an inherent responsibility, a categorical imperative, if they want to change the status quo, to investigate the history of their own families and the country that they directly live in, and see how the status quo of multiple generations has marked them, otherwise they just end up perpetuating this same harmful ideas for different reasons.

i love when people say “dopamine addiction” to refer to anything that makes you feel good ever

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Cherished Moments: The Beauty of Gifting Baptism Gifts

Baptisms are significant milestones in many families, symbolizing faith, new beginnings, and the joy of welcoming a child into the spiritual community. This special occasion calls for thoughtful gestures that honor the meaning of the day. One of the most heartfelt ways to express love and support is through baptism gifts. In this blog post, we will explore who can gift, to whom, and the perfect occasions for these gifts. We will also delve into the goodness of the products offered at Aladean, showcasing various baptism gift options and providing guidance on where and how to buy them.

Who Can Gift Baptism Gifts?

Baptism gifts can come from a variety of people, each holding a unique place in the child's life. Here are some common givers and their significance:

1. Godparents

Significance: The primary role of godparents is to support the child's spiritual upbringing. Their gifts often carry deep emotional meaning and are intended to nurture the child's faith.

Gift Ideas: Personalized prayer books, engraved jewelry, or religious figurines.

2. Family Members

Significance: Parents, grandparents, and extended family members often choose baptism gifts to celebrate the child’s entry into the faith community.

Gift Ideas: Custom-made quilts, baptismal gowns, or framed family trees.

3. Friends

Significance: Friends of the family, especially those who share in the child’s faith journey, often present gifts as a way of showing their support and joy.

Gift Ideas: Inspirational books, decorative cross wall art, or memory boxes.

4. Religious Leaders

Significance: Priests or ministers may also offer gifts to the baptized child, representing the community’s commitment to support the child’s spiritual journey.

Gift Ideas: Blessing certificates, religious texts, or sacred symbols.

5. Community Members

Significance: Members of the community who attend the baptism may also wish to express their congratulations and support.

Gift Ideas: Gift cards to local stores, homemade gifts, or contributions to a charity in the child's name.

Key Occasions for Gifting Baptism Gifts

While baptism is the primary occasion for these gifts, there are other moments when gifting can be appropriate:

1. Baby Showers

Details: If a baptism is anticipated shortly after a baby is born, gifts can be given during the baby shower. This shows early support for the child's spiritual journey.

Gift Ideas: Baptism outfits or keepsakes can make wonderful early gifts.

2. First Communions

Details: As a child continues their spiritual path, first communion can be another significant occasion to give meaningful baptism-related gifts.

Gift Ideas: Jewelry or religious books that relate to both baptism and first communion.

3. Anniversaries of Baptism

Details: Celebrating the anniversary of a child’s baptism can be a beautiful tradition. Family members can express their ongoing love and commitment to the child’s faith.

Gift Ideas: Customized items reflecting the day of baptism or engraved items that commemorate the occasion.

The Goodness of Aladean's Baptism Gifts

At Aladean, we believe that every gift should not only be beautiful but also carry a profound message of love and faith. Our baptism gifts are carefully selected to ensure that they reflect the significance of the occasion while providing lasting value.

Quality and Craftsmanship

Each product in our collection is crafted with attention to detail, ensuring high quality and durability. We understand that baptism gifts are often treasured for years, serving as reminders of this sacred day.

Thoughtful Selection

Our team at Aladean has curated a selection of gifts that cater to various preferences and budgets. From traditional to modern, you will find something that resonates with your taste.

Personalization Options

Personalized gifts add a unique touch, making them even more special. Many items in our collection can be customized with names, dates, or heartfelt messages. This added detail transforms an ordinary gift into a cherished keepsake. 💖

Explore Our Top Baptism Gifts

Here are some beautiful options from Aladean’s baptism gifts collection that you might consider:

1. Engraved Silver Cross Pendant

Description: A stunning silver cross pendant that can be personalized with the child’s name and baptism date.

Why It’s Special: This timeless piece serves as a constant reminder of the child’s faith journey.

Where to Buy: Engraved Silver Cross Pendant

2. Personalized Baptism Photo Frame

Description: A beautifully crafted photo frame designed to hold a cherished baptism photo, personalized with the child’s name.

Why It’s Special: It captures a moment in time, making it a perfect addition to any nursery or family home.

Where to Buy: Personalized Baptism Photo Frame

3. Custom Baby Blanket

Description: A soft, luxurious baby blanket embroidered with the child’s name and baptism date.

Why It’s Special: This gift combines comfort with sentiment, perfect for keeping the little one warm during their faith journey.

Where to Buy: Custom Baby Blanket

4. Baptism Keepsake Box

Description: A beautiful wooden keepsake box to store mementos from the baptism day, personalized with a meaningful inscription.

Why It’s Special: This box can hold letters, photos, and other treasures, preserving the memories of this special occasion.

Where to Buy: Baptism Keepsake Box

5. Religious Storybook

Description: An illustrated storybook that introduces children to faith-based tales and teachings.

Why It’s Special: This gift encourages a love for reading while nurturing the child's understanding of their faith.

Where to Buy: Religious Storybook

How to Buy the Perfect Baptism Gift

1. Explore Online

Aladean provides a user-friendly online platform to browse our extensive baptism gift collection. You can filter your search based on preferences, price range, and personalization options.

2. Consider the Recipient

Think about the child and their family. Personalizing gifts can add an emotional touch that reflects your relationship and shared values.

3. Budget Wisely

While it’s the thought that counts, it’s also important to consider your budget. Aladean offers gifts at various price points, ensuring you can find something meaningful without breaking the bank.

4. Read Reviews

Checking customer reviews can help gauge the quality and emotional resonance of gifts. At Aladean, we pride ourselves on providing excellent customer satisfaction.

5. Plan Ahead

If you wish to personalize a gift, allow extra time for customization. Ordering well in advance ensures that you receive your gift in time for the special day.

Final Thoughts

Baptism gifts serve as beautiful tokens of love, faith, and support. They remind us of the importance of community and the cherished bonds we form as we celebrate these special moments in life. At Aladean, our collection is designed to offer meaningful, high-quality gifts that resonate with both the giver and the recipient. 💖

As you consider the perfect baptism gift for your loved ones, remember that the thought and care behind the gift will always shine through. We invite you to explore our selection and find something that speaks to your heart.

Thank you for joining us on this journey through the world of baptism gifts. We hope you find the perfect expression of love and faith to celebrate this significant occasion. May your chosen gifts bring joy and warmth to your loved ones and foster a lasting connection to their faith. 🙏

Explore our baptism gifts collection today! Baptism Gifts Collection

With heartfelt wishes and gratitude,

The Aladean Team

[storiesfabled]

Name: Charlotte Madeline Buckley-Diaz FaceClaim: Sabrina Carpenter Birthday: March 17th Nicknames: Charlie Parents: Eddie Diaz, Evan Buckley Siblings: Annabelle Buckley-Moore (half-sister); Christopher Diaz Grandparents: Bobby Nash; Athena Grant; Ramon Diaz; Helena Diaz Aunts: Maddie Buckley; Sophia Diaz; May Grant; Harper Nash; Adriana Diaz Uncles: Harry Grant; Howard Han; Theo Ruiz Cousins: Jee-Yun Buckley-Han

When Buck and Eddie finally pulled their heads out of their behinds and realized they were in love with each other, it didn't take long for them to move through the phases of their relationship. Within a year they were engaged, six months later they were having a small wedding, and a few months after that, Buck was proposing the idea of expanding their family.

While he did - and always would - love Christopher as his own son, he also wanted a chance to raise a child from birth. He had been nervous bringing it up to Eddie but was relieved when Eddie agreed and the two began the process of looking into surrogacy. They agreed that Buck would be the biological father and the duo eventually found a surrogate they liked and trusted and who was more than happy to help a gay couple realize their dream of becoming parents.

After nine long months of waiting, Charlotte came into the world on her due date, making a spectacular and healthy appearance. Upon arriving home, Charlie was immediately doted on by her dads and older brother, as well as being spoiled crazy by her grandparents and all her aunts and uncles. Still, she grew up grounded and with a very humble upbringing.

Every birthday she had was spectacular, and she truly embodied the notion of being a daddy's girl - with both of her fathers. Buck was definitely more of the fun parent, a role he would continue to embrace as his daughter got older; and a role Eddie was not fond of Buck having, as it usually left Eddie as the one who had to be responsible and lay down the law.

Charlotte's first day of school was made into a celebration, because the 118 was just finishing up a call at the time, so she ended up being dropped off in the fire engine, which immediately gained her several friends who were hoping to get a ride sometime as well. This would lead to friendships that would continue throughout her school career.

Early in her schooling, it was easy to see that Charlotte was having a difficult time, which was making her dislike school. When multiple people at the school brought up their concerns, Buck and Eddie had some tests done and it was determined that Charlie had dyslexia. With this diagnosis in hand, she was able to get the help she needed to make school less difficult, though she'd been labeled as stupid by some of her meaner classmates.

Charlie's teen years proved to be a real challenge for her parents. While they had been through the moody, angsty, rebellious stage with Christopher, it turned out to be a million times different - and more difficult - when it came to raising a teenage girl. She would go from happy to sad to angry and back again so fast, her dads were sure they would get whiplash from it. Not to mention having to deal with her going through puberty and wanting to start dating. That was when Buck's less playful, and more protective, side really made itself known.

Now, Charlie is sixteen, learning how to drive, and has her first real boyfriend (a fact her dads are way too eager to ignore) and she is doing her best in school because she wants to go to college after high school and study to be a social worker who specializes in helping children with special needs - a tribute to her older brother Christopher who she has always admired and looked up to.

[biographygen]

Selena Gomez Biography, Net Worth, Early Life, Career, Age, Relationship, Husband,

Net Worth$800 MillionFull NameSelena Marie GomezDate Of Birth22 July 1992Age32 yearsGenderFemaleHeight5 Feet 5 Inches

Selena Gomez Biography

A biography of Selena Gomez would be incomplete without including her work as an American singer and actress. Born on July 22, 1992, Selena Gomez is an American singer, actor, and producer with multiple talents. Her role in the Disney Channel sitcom "Wizards of Waverly Place" brought her initial notoriety, and she went on to become a worldwide pop success with hits like "Stars Dance" and "Revival." Acting prowess has also been demonstrated by Selena Gomez in movies such as "Spring Breakers" and "The Fundamentals of Caring." She is well-known for her advocacy efforts outside of the entertainment industry, especially with regard to mental health awareness and other philanthropic issues. The journey of Selena Gomez from a young actress to a successful pop vocalist is incredibly motivating.

Selena Gomez Net Worth

Selena Gomez has a $800 million fortune. Her net worth has been the subject of much discussion, particularly in light of her prosperous career. Selena Gomez's remarkable net worth has increased significantly from $95 million in 2022, primarily because to the popularity of her makeup company, Rare Beauty. Her revenues from the several movies and TV shows she has produced, acted in, and authored are included in her net worth. She has also produced a number of music CDs. Gomez also makes a good living from her entrepreneurial endeavors, such as Rare Beauty Cosmetics.

Selena Gomez Age

Selena Gomez was born in Grand Prairie, Texas, on July 22, 1992, and is currently 32 years old. Given her achievements at a comparatively young age, Selena Gomez's age is a matter of interest for many. Selena Gomez has accomplished amazing success in both her acting and singing talents, even at such a young age. Selena Gomez's age, then, highlights her remarkable accomplishments in the entertainment business.

Selena Gomez Height

Fans frequently point out that Selena Gomez stands 5 feet and 5 inches tall. Selena Gomez is a small woman, but it doesn't take away from her enormous impact in the entertainment business.

Selena Gomez Early Life

When Selena Gomez was five years old, her parents got divorced, and she moved in with her mother. Growing up, Gomez was close to her grandparents, who claimed to have "raised her" until she achieved fame in show business. She participated in a number of pageants as a child.

Selena Gomez Career

Image Credit- Hellorayo.co.uk Gomez may have begun her career at the age of 15 as an actor starring in a Disney Channel sitcom, but as she piled up hit singles and chart-topping albums, she soon demonstrated that her musical abilities were possibly even stronger. Her initial break as a cast member on the children's television program Barney and Friends came from her upbringing in Texas. Although Gomez received small roles in a number of other TV shows, her acting career was formally launched in 2004 when she was found by the Disney Channel, which conducted a nationwide talent hunt. Gomez started balancing her work on The Wizards of Waverly Place with other endeavors, such as acting parts and a developing singing career. November 2010 saw the premiere of the final season of The Wizards of Waverly Place. Following this, Gomez returned to her band, which recorded and released its third album, When the Sun Goes Down, in 2011. After that, she took a hiatus from singing to concentrate more on acting. Her 2013 comeback to the music scene with her fourth album, which was also her first as a solo artist and had elements of dubstep, R&B, and EDM, also demonstrated some stretching. When Stars Dancing was released in July 2013, it ranked first on the Billboard 200. In late 2014, a farewell Hollywood album named For You—a hits collection that fulfilled contracts—was published, featuring the platinum single "The Heart Wants What It Wants," which was written by the artist herself. Gomez made a cameo on Zedd's popular EDM song "I Want You to Know" at the beginning of 2015. Following that breakthrough, she released her own single, "Good for You," which was co-written by rapper A$AP Rocky and produced by Sir Nolan and Nick Monson. The song was on her debut Interscope album, Revival, released in 2015. The album had a large number of collaborators, including Mattman & Robin, Hit-Boy, and Benny Blanco in addition to Charli XCX, Julia Michaels, and Chloe Angelides on songwriting. Nonetheless, Gomez co-wrote and executive produced six songs. After making a comeback at the end of 2016, she was quickly featured on two tracks by electronic dance musicians Marshmello ("Wolves") and Kygo ("It Ain't Me"), both of which peaked in the Top 20 of the Billboard Hot 100 in 2017. She also released the solo singles "Fetish," with rapper Gucci Mane, and "Bad Liar." She contributed the song "Back to You" to the soundtrack of 13 Reasons Why: Season 2 in 2018.

Selena Gomez Relationship

Image Credit- People.com many reasons to be hopeful about Selena Gomez finding love. The singer-actress has been candid about her past heartbreaks, and the public knew a lot about her turbulent relationship with Justin Bieber and their sad breakup in 2018. Though there were a number of dating rumors about Gomez in 2023, including those involving Zayn Malik and Drew Taggart of The Chainsmokers, they were all unfounded, as the founder of Rare Beauty often confirmed her single status on social media with humorous tweets. That is, until the arrival of Benny Blanco. Gomez found that the music producer—who had previously been connected to model Elsie Hewitt—was the real deal. He began by working with the singer of "Lose You to Love Me, engineered songs for artists such as Ed Sheeran, Midway through 2023, the unexpected couple began dating in secret. They waited several months to make their relationship public before stepping out of the public eye. Since then, the two celebrities haven't held back when it comes to posting adorable pictures of one another on social media and expressing their love with personalized items. The two share a passion for cooking in addition to pop music; Gomez hosts Max's Selena + Chef series, and Blanco will release his own cookbook, Open Wide, in April 2024. Full NameSelena Marie GomezDate of BirthJul 22, 1992Birth PlaceTexas, United StatesProfessionSinger, Actress, Producer, Businesswoman, Voice Actor, Model And DancerEducation High School Diploma Through In May 2010, GraduatedNationalityAmericanFather NameRicardo Joel GomezMother NameMandy TeefeyBrotherMarcus GomezSisterGracie Elliot TeefeyReligionChristianityWeight55 kgHeight5 Feet 5 InchesNet Worth$800 millionHoroscopeCancer Read the full article

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In traditional Japanese culture, marriage and family are central to the continuation of lineage and heritage. Historically, marriages were often arranged (omiai), ensuring compatibility and the merging of families with similar social standing. While modern Japan has seen a shift towards love marriages, the emphasis on family continuity remains strong. Children are highly valued, and there is a cultural expectation for couples to have offspring to carry on the family name and honor ancestral spirits

The Japanese family historically functioned as an economic unit, particularly in rural areas where agriculture was predominant. Extended families often lived together or near each other, sharing resources and responsibilities. Today, while the nuclear family has become more common, especially in urban areas, the economic interdependence remains significant. Elderly parents frequently receive financial support from their adult children, and in return, they often help with childcare and household duties.

The family is the primary agent of socialization in Japan. From a young age, children are taught important cultural values such as respect for elders, harmony (wa), and group solidarity. These values are reinforced through everyday interactions and through participation in cultural and religious practices such as New Year's celebrations (Oshogatsu) and festivals (matsuri). The family environment instills discipline and a strong work ethic, which are crucial for success in Japanese society.

Language acquisition is a fundamental part of the family’s role. Parents and grandparents teach children the Japanese language, along with regional dialects and expressions, ensuring the preservation of linguistic heritage. Family also plays a critical role in identity formation, providing children with a sense of belonging and continuity. Family crests (kamon) and genealogies are cherished, linking individuals to their ancestry and regional heritage. The traditional Japanese family structure is deeply embedded within the community and shaped by the broader cultural worldview. Communities in Japan are characterized by a strong sense of mutual obligation and support, known as "giri" and "on." This sense of duty extends beyond the immediate family to the wider community, reinforcing collectivist values. The family, therefore, acts as a bridge between the individual and society, fostering community cohesion and shared cultural norms.

Child-rearing in Japan emphasizes obedience, respect, and academic achievement. Mothers, in particular, play a central role in nurturing and educating young children, often giving up careers to focus on their upbringing. Fathers traditionally have been seen as providers, although modern dynamics are shifting towards more balanced roles. Children are taught to prioritize group harmony over individual desires, preparing them for Japan’s group-oriented society.

Globalization and migration have significantly impacted Japanese family structures over the past 10-15 years. Urbanization has led to smaller nuclear families, and the aging population has increased the number of elderly living alone or in care facilities. Additionally, exposure to Western cultural values has influenced younger generations, leading to evolving gender roles and attitudes towards marriage and family life. Despite these changes, the core values of respect for elders, communal harmony, and family loyalty continue to endure.

References 

Sugimoto, Yoshio. (2014). An Introduction to Japanese Society. Cambridge University Press.

Hendry, Joy. (2012). Understanding Japanese Society. Routledge.

Nakane, Chie. (1970). Japanese Society. University of California Press.

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