#graduallywatermellon original post

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I was tearing up as I was reading the OP’s post (Love the handle, BTW). How can human beings just... be... so mean!? So cruel!? How can anyone non-ironically write “social justice warriors” and “male genocide” in their hashtags, practically next to each other!? 

I’ll be frank. I’m a cis white female. Most of those I hang out with are cis and white because rural communities kinda suck that way. However, I will also say that I have almost never really clicked with females. I just can’t get over the insane catty-like attitudes that birth such extremes as TERF, and I ran into those attitudes a LOT as a kid. 

Guys though? I’ve clicked with them almost instantly. About 90% of my friends are male. The cousin I connect with the most? male. The kids that left the biggest impact on my heart when I used to babysit and work at a daycare? male. I also have a 5yo nephew who is the cuddliest flippin’ kid. My 6yo godson has become the most protective and doting kid upon learning his mom is pregnant with his little sister, and he’s already ride-or-die for this sibling he’s never officially met. My father was the best friggen role model I could ask for, and I beam with pride whenever I think about how much I’m growing to be more and more like him. 

I’ll admit that I’ve been hella lucky to be a white female surrounded by men and almost always finding decent ones out of the bunch. My sister? Not so lucky. She has probably found every bastard there is out there. I’m just grateful that she hasn’t picked up this AMAB rhetoric.

But I promise you that “All men are bastards” is FAR from the truth, and it hurts me to think that my nephew and godson might grow up being told this. It stings to know my cousins are probably being told this. It breaks my heart that my father, if he were still alive, might be like that author of Rejected Princesses and doubt every good thing he’s done; weighing it to determine if it was all truly out of guilt for his manhood. It kicks my Mama Bear Mode into full-gear to think of my friends, some of the sweetest and greatest people I could surround myself with, are questioning their validity to LIVE because of bullshit like this.

I also spend most nights cradling my husband who routinely tells me how much he’s complete trash despite him being a magnificent teddy bear and (ironically?) MY emotional anchor and biggest supporter. I then wonder how much of his mindset is from his Rad Fem mother not realizing how much she was hurting her own son as she tried empowering her daughter.

Finally, I cry for any and all trans people who internalize transphobia because of this rhetoric. You are valid and beautiful and you are NOT a bastard. YOU DO NOT NEED TO JUSTIFY YOUR EXISTANCE. NO HUMAN BEING DOES.

The mind boggles at how cruel humans truly can be, and I hope I can be a voice against it. Especially since cruelty is LEARNED not innate.

Hey so "all men are trash" posts help terfs

I'll explain if one of you want