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The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse are four negative behaviors that can be destructive to a relationship and are often predictors of divorce: 

Criticism: Attacks a person's character rather than focusing on a specific behavior  

Contempt: A spouse views themselves as better than their partner, and can include sarcasm, name-calling, or eye-rolling  

Defensiveness: A negative behavior that can occur in a relationship  

Stonewalling: A behavior that can occur when a couple feels overwhelmed by emotion  

According to Gottman, healthy relationships don't use these behaviors as often and are better at repairing them when they do occur. The first step to eliminating these behaviors is to identify them in conflict discussions.