#gotta limit myself to improve my qol

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Sims Tag

I was tagged by my awesome friend @deathpoke1qa, Thanks!

1. What’s your favourite sims death?

Hard to say, removing pool ladder is a classic everyone loves, but I really loved Mummy Curse Death from TS3 World Adventures, as it has to be one of the most forboding and ominous.

2. Alpha CC or Maxis Match?

I go with a mix of both, don't really care.

3. Do you cheat when your sims gain weight?

My sims rarely gain weight.

4. Do you use move objects?

Of course I do, everybody does!

5. Favorite mod?

Deaderpool's MC Command Center is a must. I'm also a big fan of Coolspear's and Sacrificial's work, and lately I fell in love with new custom skills by JaneSimsten.

6. First expansion/game/stuff pack you got?

That's gotta be Hot Date for Sims 1. Yeah, I'm that old.

7. Do you pronounce “live mode” like aLIVE or LIVing?

Since English isn't my native language, I tend to alternate between those, but I usually go with Live, as in LIVing.

8. Who’s your favorite sim that you’ve made?

Oh, that has to be Lord Professor Ebenezer Vincent Ignatius Laurence von Charlatain III, the gentleman you see in my avatar.

9. Have you made a simself?

Yes, it was for a contest at Sims of History Discord, where you had to make a sim of yourself in historical setting. So, I made myself into an early 18th century Mercenary:

10. What sim traits do you give yourself?

Genius, Lazy, Geek.

11. Which is your favorite EA hair color?

It has to be the brown and gray one, I just love the contrast.

12. Favorite EA hair?

The wavy long hair from Cats and Dogs EP.

13. Favorite life stage?

Yound Adults to Elders.

14. Are you a builder or are you in it for the gameplay?

I mostly spend time in CaS. But I also like building.

15. Are you a CC creator?

Kinda? More like cc Editor, but if you're interested I've got some stuff for download at my Simblr.

16. Do you have any simblr friends/a sim squad?

Everyone from Sims of History, especially @javitrulovesims, @simstomaggie, @simverses.

17. What’s your favorite game? (1, 2, 3, or 4)

Let's see: Sims 1 was awesome, but now is really dated, and build mode is limited and obnoxious to use. Sims 2 is a fantastic game but it's so buggy and prone to save corruption. Sims 3 Would be the best, due to the open world and so many fun lifestates, if you didn't had to wait an eternity and a half for it to load. Also, Twilight sparkly vampires. Ew. I kinda like Sims 4 the best, not only it has the best versions of lifestates (maybe except the furry-ass werewolves), but also the Best QoL improvements to CAS and Build mode. Give it some time, and I think it will be the best sims game ever.

18. Do you have any sims merch?

Sadly, no.

19. Do you have a YouTube for sims?

Nope.

20. How has your “sim style” changed throughout your years of playing?

It really didn't change much, except I rarely now deliberately kill my sims, as I get attached to my pixel dolls. Back in my TS1 days I would torture my sims in the most fun ways.

21. What’s your Origin ID?

Sir_Eggyslav

22. Who’s your favorite CC creator?

So many good cc creators, my all time favourites are @natalia-auditore, and my good friend @strangestorytellersims but I also really miss @acanthus-sims.

23. How long have you had a simblr?

I can't honestly remember, and too lazy to check, but about 2016?

24. How do you edit your pictures?

I don't. I don't have the skills and I'm too lazy to learn.

25. What expansion/game/stuff pack do you want next?

Any pack that would bring back Cars, Genie lamps and Pool tables.

25. What expansion/game/stuff pack is your favorite so far?

Vampires, Jungle Adventures and University.

I'm tagging anyone who would like to join he fun.

[maligatorthealligator]

Yeah it's belittling isn't it?

To act like either your mental illness requires a herculean effort to overcome and is therefore impossible or it isn't that bad so you must not be ill. How does that help anyone?

It doesn't.

It pushes people into this place where they don't believe that it can get better because they've had to perform so long to "prove" that they're disabled. To other disabled people! Not just to people who aren't! Like it's coming from people who should understand!

Which

I don't get. At all.

And obviously someone is going to come back with "but there ARE mental illnesses that literally preven-" and I'm just gonna go ahead and tell those people:

Stop. Just, stop. I know this is not about that and YOU know this is not about that. No one is saying that someone who is completely nonverbal and can't hold a thought in their head for long enough to walk from one room to the next to even BEGIN a task should be cleaning their living space. Are we talking about that??? No. That person is at a very different step in symptom management. They may never progress enough to live on their own. That's not what this is about. We're not talking about extremes. There is no pissing on the poor here, so don't start.

I cannot agree more that this whole culture of "if you say that someone can do better and should find a way to do that you're ableist and should die or shut up" needs to end. It's detrimental to EVERYONE. Saying that someone is a living creature who had magic needs that should be met and that they need to get better at meeting them is NOT the equivalent of telling them to "pull themselves up by their bootstraps" and you're right that there's been this really hard shift lately (last like 10ish years maybe?) that treats those things as the same thing when they aren't.

It's like a massive overcorrection to society practically not believing in mental illness at all and I think it's almost just as bad. So, since your disability must be "x" amount bad to count and that's, like, Peak Disabled it breeds this idea of: week you must not be able to get better then, just gotta love with it now cause you're Disabled.

As if we don't have a TON of ways to help people with a variety of mental illnesses manage their symptoms so they can be functional human beings who can take care of themselves like the adults they are and WANT to be.

It's extremely disheartening and it's along the same vein as suicide jokes making your life outlook worse. There's a difference between acknowledging a limit and perpetuating an idea that is going to keep you stuck. Like I might not do the dishes every day. There will be days where it's more difficult to get my brain to make the task feel like a manageable activity and so I don't do it. I DON'T tell myself that I CAN'T do the dishes. Even on those days where it would be really difficult to collect my mind enough to do them. I COULD do them. Even on those days. I have strategies that I could use to get myself to do them and I'm not going to put myself down by saying that I can't because of my executive dysfunction issues.

I choose not to on those days because I acknowledge that I need a break.

So, I get it. I've had two little cookie sheets that I straight up threw away because I knew I wasn't going to clean them while I was still building myself up to getting better management strategies specifically because I refused to allow it to get to the point where it was a hazard. I've struggled with things like this. I understand that it's fucking hard and I so agree and absolutely hate when people act like there's no help in the world that could improve their QOL.

There is. It's out there. Go find it.

Be kind to yourself and others while you're seeking it, but, my god, go find it. I promise it exists and it's not gonna happen overnight and it'll be hard. You'll probably have to struggle some to get yourself moving, but it IS out there. You're not uniquely broken. You're just a person like all the other people who have had a hard time and you can be helped (and if you're thinking I'm pissing on the poor here then I beg you to go read further up the post again because you've very much missed an utterly crucial paragraph).

It's definitely a problem OP. You're so right and it's not gonna get better until people start actually having these conversations and stop jumping down other people's throats over fabricated/perceived insults. You've got my condolences on that post getting so much traction.

All the people clowning on that post are ridiculous.

You are not wrong. You are absolutely correct. Living with actual health hazards (there is rotting food on the floor and mildewing clothes) is very different than "I have a mountain of clean clothes that aren't put away cause my depression has been really bad the last few weeks so my room is messy or I can't sit on the left side of the couch". If you can go to work then you can take a day or a half-day off once a month and clean up after yourself for the betterment of yourself and your symptoms. Part of getting better and improving your situation and health (both physical and mental) is doing the work (which YES is hard) to actually care for your body and lived environment.

We talk about other people enabling us to continue bad habits and harmful behaviors but we don't talk enough about the things we do to ourselves. Which are just as if not MORE important. So thank you for saying that! It matters and people need to hear uncomfortable truths!

And anyone who read that post and took personal issue with it because they actually live like that and it made them immensely uncomfortable because of their own shame around it which you literally (and I can't stress this enough) have nothing to do with needs to reevaluate their situation and accept that they can't live without a caretaker because they're at a point in their life where they can't adequately meet their own basic needs. If someone can't legally do it to a child (providing only unclean clothing, biohazard-filled living space, spoiled food, unclean dishes to eat it with, etc.) without it being abused/neglect, then they are not meeting their own needs and I understand that it might hurt to hear that, but it's the truth and it's a disservice to everyone to not say it. If people aren't saying it, then no one knows where the line is that says "if you cross this you need help and you need it NOW".

So, thank you for making that post even though people are losing their minds over it. I'm sure it's hard to hear that you're not doing a good enough job, but sometimes that needs to be said and, yes, they might not be doing a good enough job BECAUSE of a disability or other issues but that changes literally nothing. It's still not good enough and it can be improved only by them intentionally trying to improve it. Dancing around stuff like this and trying to say nothing that will upset/bother/hurt anyone is genuinely a disservice.

10/10 post. Hope you're getting reasonable breaks from the ridiculousness that everyone is throwing at you ❤️ sorry everyone is taking it in SUCH bad faith

^^^ thank you for being the first person who knows how to read

It's. Frustrating. It's so frustrating how absolutely no one wants to take responsibility for themselves the moment it gets hard. The moment it gets uncomfortable they shut down and scream that you're being ableist for asking an adult to take responsibility for themselves even if they have a mental illness.

The thing is, life IS harder when you have a disability, mental or otherwise. But guess what? That is never going to change. The world will not stop for you just because it's unfair. There is no point in kicking your feet and pouting that it's unfair that you have to do more work than that neurotypical person to keep yourself clean and healthy because nobody did that TO you, it just is. And like, life is unfair to everybody. That is the one universal thing we all experience. Sorry I guess?

I also just like, can not stand how people flip their absolute shit the moment I stop talking to them like little kids. I didn't baby them or coo and go "uwu it's okay if you have mold in your house!" so they immediately took me saying "youre an adult, you need to act like one. Idgaf if you're depressed there are still responsibilities you have towards yourself now" as me denying their mental illness and on par with "have you tried not being sad?"

And like dude, if you can't even handle that from some guy online, I shudder to think of how developmentally behind they are from no ones fault but their own. They talk about mental illness like it makes them forever children unable to ever take any responsibility for themselves, and anyone who points out that no, you're still an adult whether you're sick or not and adulthood comes with certain responsibilities as an attack against them. So they attack back even though nobody swung at them, or even said anything they accused me of saying or implying.

And it's infuriating to those of us who actually made the effort. It's infuriating as someone who fought through all the bs that mental illness comes with in order to get better. It doesn't mean I don't struggle, or that I'm somehow cured, and I never once said that cleaning your room would cure your depression btw, but there is a fine line between struggling with your symptoms and letting them win.

And im so fucking sick of anti-recovery rhetoric. How often do you see someone get dog piled with "WHY ARE YOU CLASSIST YOU SHITTY WEALTH HOARDER YOU SAID THAT MEDICATION AND THERAPY HELPS BUT IM POOR YOU THINK IM A BAD PERSON FOR NOT BEING ABLE TO AFFORD IT"

[jojosaur]

just a little doodle (will be back to making more art soon)