#good there's a new Pam pic we can share

[littlequeenies]

1954 photo of Orange County Girl Scout Troup graduation ceremony. We can see little Pam popping her little head!! Very special thanks to R for sharing this pic you can find at Pamela Courson-She Dances In a Ring of Fire facebook page.

[rennyji]

60-90 old randomness

"In my situation, libel admits the notion of a hack/relay, is one of the charges. Let's say someone's mind was hacked. -",

"-Relaying everything rolling through the mind and interpreting everything as a thought, all on premise that people and only Americans are responsive to every, or what constitutes every thought for their biology. Ex. Feel hungry, Let me eat. Aroused, let me ask the girl out.-",

"-It becomes libel if a hacker relays what I wouldn‚t write, what wouldn‚t just go through one metaphorical ear and out the other.",

"Regarding kids and social TEXT, After writing everything in this tweet to myself, I‚m feeling stimulated from my content, an involuntary self adulation, maybe from a dopamine release‚-",

"-kids on their phones all day, from the white light of their phones, must be mentally jumping from one thing to another. It‚like impulsivity or succumbing to basic impulses is becoming a problem.-",

"-From the Wolf of Wall Street movie with Leonardo DiCaprio, he relies on cocaine when he needs to use his brain for his business. Then he relies on marijuana or alcohol or shots of alcohol to calm him before a meeting or to sleep. -",

"-Maybe we‚re not advancing quick enough mentally and physically with the standards of modern day life.-",

"-Why does a barber need a pack of cigarettes and two lattes to cut hair. If only DiCaprio‚character or people in general, could just will the desire to work and carry out the work. -",

"-If only people could will the desire to sleep instead of these ridiculously advocated sleep routines like no computer or no lights prior to sleep.-",

"-On a somewhat related note, this chemical reward for watching true crime series, sending pics of ur nudity to girl friends/boy friends, stealing someone‚sex tape like in the Pam and Tommy series on Hulu- true crime enthusiast? Settle 4 the news.  news should be titillating.-",

"-Trump has to stop making the news. Hunter Biden, heard it. What about a follow up on the Great Wall Trump promised. You turn on the news, and you hear about rigged systems and such. People have a need, a desire, they need places to satiate those needs and desires.-",

"-I think people need to step back, and understand what are food tendencies, what is society getting their dopamine fix, are some selling drugs because they don‚t get lunches from school anymore?-",

"-It‚kind of like file sharing era. People want ready access to TEXT. Streaming services provided a way for everyone to be happy. Spotify, HBO max, Hulu, Netflix, Apple TV‚-",

"-Understand what people need/want. Then provide outlets. Regarding tendency 2 leek sex tapes, become a serial killer, share nude pics, leak sex tapes‚what void is really being fulfilled? These actions aren‚t the illness, but symptoms of some void these people R trying 2 fill.",

"-I heard that an ex girl friend of the alleged Gilgo beach killer said he was bored with his life. His brain was getting a thrill or a dopamine fix to the otherwise dull nature or lack of activity in his life.-",

"-Rather than sedating the serial killer, for future purposes, give them an outlet.-",

"-Mind reading is happening. Mind control is happening. Give these bored people something promising like the Apple be headset where they can live out their fantasies.Is virtual or augmented reality harder than wireless mind control?-",

"-These people need to acknowledge their tendencies and find an equally rewarding outlet.-",

"-In NBC series Heroes, the villain Siler had 2 ways to reach the end goal of having other peoples super powers. He could attain it through murder or empathetic connections with an individual. In the series, he chooses to be a murderer, dissecting brains, but he made the choice.-",

"-People have all sorts of tendencies. Not all are good. You could bandage an entire hole or problem by sedating them or their impulses. -",

"- buts its the good and bad that makes us human. So, Or you can consciously acknowledge your tendencies, and make a mature choice toward a morally or ethically or legal route to satiating your tendency. Don‚t be a Siler. -",

"-Use your head, rather than letting the aggressive part of your mind run the show on autopilot. Whether it‚with driving or anything, psychiatrists say it‚ok to autopilot things. -",

"-In drivers ed, I heard lane change signaling should be a force of habit.I advise mindfulness. You shouldn‚t autopilot. I disagree with that American medical perspective.-",

"-An idle mind is the devils playground as I think I heard but may have mis phrases it.Kids resort to substance abuse in part because of boredom.-",

"-With augmented reality glasses or free internet or rewarding the creativity of American youth by giving them a paid outlet on YouTube or Netflix for a tv or movie they create, you can help everyone‚boredom. -",

"- YouTube sort of does this with short clips like Jenna Marbles. Why not a whole limited series? Kids go to work, get recognition from their peers, keeps them out of trouble, makes them popular-",

"-The DC comics hero, Wildcat is known to come from a troubled childhood and neighborhood. He finds an outlet for the negativity that results, though boxing. If it were today,psychiatry would sedate that useful energy that could‚ve been channeled for greatness.-",

"I want my word, my reality, to be all natural. I don't want people playing games or following someone's instructions. Chances are the \"instruction-giver/stalker\" is just that. The crazy thing is, in 11 years, I don't know them, speak to them, yet they still do what they do...",

"- chances are \"instruction-givers/stalkers\" are doing what's best for them, while giving the illusion its for me. Through hype, and time, people think they're worth believing. I feel I have everything I want in life, short of a girl friend, or a family/network of my own...",

"- if something were done on my behalf, I'd be OK losing a billion dollars, or even possible justice against deranged stalkers and UAlbany, which screwed me over in 2012, and is using me to build the reputation of their party school...",

"I have everything. Over 11 years, with the exception of:No matter how long, how sad/crazy, I value people, friend people, who tell me the truth of what's transpiring, or talk to me, Period. I can take it.",

"- Would U believe in the last 11 years,1 girl, met thru a random place, & a coworker in a recent place, are the only 1's who extended a hand out 2 me or were quality human beings W/kindness in them? How crazy is it that in 11 years, aside from family & these 2, talking is rare...",

"- Whatever I know is thru instinct/senses/intuition, patterns/evidence built thru 11 yrs- regarding my situation. No 1 has ever talked 2 me, done anything W/my consultation. Schools/Police let them roam. What they possibly put out is based on who they want me 2 be, not who I am.",

"- People do the most random things in this \"program/situation\", whatever the h*ll it is...stand in my presence & I think wait 4 me to do something, walk around with phones, nod, or...heaven knows what...",

"- to continue on the previous tweet, I think it's b/c such behavior is recommended by the \"instruction-givers/stalkers\" or \"program/situation\". Please remember that I don't know them or what I'm in...They don't know me. They never spoke to me. They do as they please, illegally.",

"- 2 continue on the previous tweet, they have the most random access 2 my life - would U believe the government, law, police allow this 2 an American citizen against his will/complaints/&11 yrs of suffering (despite public smiles/etc.) ... -",

"- (to continue on previous tweet) The government, law, police, allow what's known b/c government/police are hiding their secret project in the known thing. Ur not going 2 believe what that is. If U use ur head, to allow something like this for 11 yrs, clearly they have incentive.",

"-(to continue on the previous tweet)..probably starts W/a contract or project offered to UAlbany..I mean phD's..their nano engineering school..all get involved in projects in what they do...Y else do they want 2 get their hands in my reputation & a matter W/crazy kids? Incentive!",

"-While I can be silly/loose/funny, Im a serious guy. Short of talking, I don't know what any1's doing. I love networking/making friends/or a girl friend. Like any1, my dream girl is attractive, some1 I can talk 2/some1 who listens 2 me/takes what I say seriously/can extend a hand",

"- Regarding girl friends, in addition 2 the other things, I want a woman I can love, who will love me, who will be truthful 2 me, & who I can hold/hug - Some1 who will face obstacles/disasters with me, & together escape/reach new heights. Some1 2  go on any/all life's adventures.",

"- As no 1 talks to me in my situation, particularly women, I don't know what the \"situation\" tells them. But I'm trying to express me. Read these tweets, starting with the oldest one. After 11 yrs, I want the next adventure. Whatever is to be gained from this, not interested.-",

"-It's not their program or making what I do public that shines a light on me. It's my actions, my personality, my words. By living, getting something like a twitter, I can do what they do better. I'm a regular guy who's content with what he has in life. -",

"-While I have a decent job, I'm always on the lookout for better opportunities, more enjoyable opportunities, more financially rewarding opportunities. I'm a computer science graduate W/an MBA in Management Information Systems, seeking a good job to help make dreams come true.-",

"-Not seeking a program/situation. I'll make my millions through a great job. I'll meet people through my actions.  If I'm destined for fame, it will happen through a means that isn't illegal, that doesn't practically get me worked up, tortured to speak. -",

"- & 2 get justice 4 these 11 yrs...that shouldn't be an excuse or reason 2 not tell me the truth or speak to me. If I knew how something illegal is happening,  I could move on W/my life, & maybe even taking any/all necessary legal action. These people are not my friends/family.-",

"-When all craziness & reputation stomping started,  I was in my early 20's. These people destroyed a decade of my life, & possibly the best time in a persons life, while making it seem like - some crap - like Im afraid 2 go out or am embarrassed...remember, they don't know me. -",

"-and the crazy thing is, people believe these monsters. These instruction-givers/stalkers inflict variables in my life that are restricting and prevent me from living life to the fullest. Now I'm in my very early 30s, and I'm tired. Remember, 11 yrs. -",

"- I don't know if any1 sees this, I don't know if the instruction-givers/stalkers use tech 2 prevent people from seeing this..but this twitter is mine. If I want to vent, thats my right, not an excuse 4 a - remember - \"stranger\" 2 react to. I'm Regular guy \"minding his business.\"",

"-All I want, is my life to be as God intended & natural, With people doing what they feel like, whatever they originally would've done if this situation didn't exist. The only help I seek is the truth hidden from me for 11 yrs. It costs another person, a stranger even, nothing.",

"‚It takes a special person to do something, when everyone else is standing by..‚ - Lightning (from CW show, ‚ÄòBlack Lightning‚)In old neighborhood behind central ave, there was street racing on Thurs. night. Went on for yrs. Rather than speaking up, people put up w/it for yrs.‚",

"Letting my dad and brother borrow my car in the mid afternoons and evenings for a while...as I have the privilege of working from home...Hope remote work opportunities continue...",

"If you like the animated ‚Justice League‚ or ‚Justice League Unlimited‚ series, you‚re going to love ‚Invincible‚ series on Amazon Prime...great show, can‚t wait till the next few seasons come out...",

"Oh did u no what‚an awesome snack! Hokkaido cream rolls from cold food section at HMart or from wherever they keep snacks/breads in other Asian supermarkets. simple Japanese bun snack.-Chinese friend introduced them 2 me. yrs ago, I‚d eat them like 3-4 @ a time-simple but good!",

"In reference to my tweet 9 hrs ago (early morning), regarding the quote from Black Lightning show on the CW, it reminds me of something that happened in my freshman year at the college I was in, before I transferred to Albany-",

"When I was dorming in the dormitory referred to as CIW, a lot of the other freshman in the hall outside my dorm room, and my roommate, were talking about, checking out, and gathering around a website called ‚do not tell Ryan dot com‚ -",

"- through the commotion, I found out about it too. Ryan lived in a dorm on the same campus where it was suite style. He lived with 4-6 others with a common room and a single bathroom reserved for them all. The other 5 roommates got the brilliant idea of connecting a camera -",

"- to website in Ryan‚room and not telling him about. Ryan would go on doing his personal stuff-whatever that may be-thinking he was in the privacy of his space. People like animals got together to talk and check out the website. When walking by Ryan on campus, he might‚ve seen-",

"- giggles, whispers, or some sign of affirmation that something was up involving him. At the time, I was busy with classes and didn‚t have the interest to focus on the website. At that time and I guess age, without someone putting the idea to tell Ryan about it, I didn‚t give -",

"- being a friend to this guy or just a good human being to this guy, a second thought.  After the issue with Ryan wAs resolved with authority figures and some time passed and I had time to think, I wondered to myself why I didn‚t tell Ryan, even though he was no one to me-",

"-it may have come off random or him seeing me as an intrusive stranger, but I would have had the salvation of ‚helping someone, truly.‚ When I came to that realization, I got over my, ‚staying silent about problems ‚, and went to seek solutions. If something like Ryan were to-",

"- happen again, I‚d definitely go and tell the other person, especially if it‚a matter of human dignity and right and wrong, or because of random hype, I thought he/she (person ‚I‚m‚helping) is worthy of a friendship. I mean, it like the story of the woman baking cake, was it?-",

"- she asked her network or circle, 2-3 people, if they would help her make the cake. They all denied help and came up with excuses. When the cake was ready, those same people who wouldn‚t help ‚make‚ the cake, were ready to ‚eat‚ her solo hard work cake. -",

"- not willing to struggle with a person or do the hard thing when it counts, but ready to jump at the rewards? To be blunt and a little...I dunno the word...prideful, disgusting?...I mean if it were me, if I go out of my way and expense to put myself in a different world-",

"- (and different from my post college,post bar/party life, remote job life, or whatever else), and clarify points by talking to myself  or tweeting or facebooking or networking, and people do what someone else says to them...then well, sorry, I survived 11 years without you, -",

"- and in the years after, like the woman with the cake, I won‚t need you later. ‚Love one another as you love yourself.‚ It‚clear most people don‚t love themselves or can think beyond mechanical, established means of volunteering, community service, whatever. -",

"- read my tweets from the beginning, going backwards. There aren‚t that many. Don‚t just bookmark my page/link and peer, follow me on Twitter...let me know there are real genuine people, where I‚m not wasting my time.",

"-When 1 of my tweets tells a story or a point & it continues from 1 tweet to the next, they‚ll begin and/or end with ‚-‚ . It‚a sign of continuation. In such continuation cases, gotta go backward with tweets, past tweets with ‚-‚ ,& read from the beginning, scrolling bottom-up.",

"Imagine after an 11 year ordeal, someone wants to make you a role model...I mean are you f*king kidding me...I think some are so plugged into this, they forget the reality that this is crazy and cruel...11 yrs to make a hero/role model?! -",

"- ‚this is An impracticable situation, a cruel situation where they don‚t disclose what they do to make things happen, where u cannot feel or put urself in my shoes 2 empathize..-",

-I mean most are probably lost in details like me buying an espresso   https://t.co/ZW9V7MCaSm this? why relay it? I‚m kind of like a guy who just got a new house and is trying to fill it with things that fulfill the needs of the demands of his life. -

"- to be honest, I don‚t want to talk about things are make things part of my public identity. Normally you choose how people see you, not something from h*ll throwing details that are no ones business, when it has nothing to do with anything-",

"- I think Christ and Joe Biden are genuine role models. But religion puts people off and makes people think ur some kind of priest. So let‚talk joe Biden. A role model. Do you know what he bought or what he‚doing or thinking all throughout the way?  No. -",

"- what do you know of Joe Biden? President of the United States. Lost a wife, lost children. Conquered the emotional toll and picked up his life and moved on with the next adventure through another wife and kids. Him becoming president shows hard work, that he is a strong man-",

"- these are things that people can relate to in Joe Biden. ‚If you work hard, you can achieve anything, even be president of the United States.‚ When tragedy strikes, you get back on ur feet‚-",

"- Joe Biden‚life achievements were made known through contact with people-something Im encouraging.-",

"- Biden Is not a role model because he talks about everything he did, or something relays it, be it through Twitter, other social TEXT, or some other medium or platform. I mean it sounds like the definition of bragging and who likes a bragger-",

"- you know Joe Biden for what he says and the things he‚done, professionally, not in his personal life- such is the definition of a personal life...it‚personal, it‚private-",

"- you put the wrong or unnecessary things in peoples heads, it affects what opportunities come your way, what kind of people you meet...You put out what you want to get what you want/need.-",

"- beyond friends, In a natural setting, I think people get the impression I‚m not one to play games with. It‚been like that for years. Then all of sudden, people just started doing weird things, thinking I get it-",

"- remember what I said a few tweets ago? U let people know what u want them to know about I...friendships, relationships work that way..not everything is more comprehensive then a criminal background check for a job opportunity-& those things are privileged information by a few.-",

"- like I said people know what you want them to know...if you broadcast randomly how I am in one setting or with one individual, every1 expects that of you all the time. Is it practical to be the way u r with a relative/friend with somebody completely random or another context?-",

"- I keep saying this...people know what you want them to see or  know...you define you...sometimes people need to hear/read these things...And reminded about how they, themselves are...-",

"- let me tell you something you already know. Hundreds of thoughts go through a persons mind all day. Some are based on 1st instinct, based on something that happened in the moment (may change in the next moment), based on past information acting as a pair of glasses to see thru-",

"- but how any of those thoughts are actually you, what you want, what your belief or perception is, overall-",

"- ( maybe that‚when a sporadic impulsive thought ‚evolves‚- when it becomes a belief/ perception-perception/belief is something you ‚thought through‚ and not a biological/impulsive/mechanical thought your ‚thinking.‚)-",

"- what matters is what you ‚thought through‚ and not just ‚what ur imagined to be ‚thinking‚ for a ‚given moment in time.‚What you ‚say‚ to people, what you speak, what comes out of your mouth and not ur mind, is what matters-",

"- what I say is probably ‚thought though‚ and not just something I‚m ‚thinking impulsively, for a given moment in time, for one reason or another, as described earlier.‚ -",

"- I think we‚ve all been in situations where we wonder ‚ why did I say that)‚ or been accused of ‚talking out of our a*s‚...-",

"- when speech is that, it doesn‚t make sense to hold someone accountable for everything that comes out of their mouth in their non public lives-makes no sense to wonder why he/she said or did that, when it wasn‚t for you, to begin with. -",

"-imagine if people were 2 react 2, or judge U (judging can mean seeing U in 1 way) 4 a biological response of a sporadic/impulsive thought thatRoams thru consciousness, that ur probably focusing past, as U live ur life in reality, & interacting/taking part in elements of reality.",

May 21st tweets right side up:  https://t.co/9vNbSD3K1kMay 23rd tweets right side up:  https://t.co/eOvt1QxFpHMay 24th tweets right side up:  https://t.co/SYvJxqi3sw

"...ok, so if you post three links in one tweet, only the last link gets a preview...lets post each link separately...",

May 21st tweets right side up:  https://t.co/9vNbSD3K1k

May 23rd tweets right side up:  https://t.co/eOvt1QxFpH

May 24th tweets right side up:  https://t.co/SYvJxqi3sw

"All tweets up to now, right side up, grouped together accordingly, in the three links, in the below/last three tweets (right before this tweet). Enjoy your day.",

At least make sure it doesn‚t happen you:  https://t.co/9dqNjonE7w

"May 25th...",

"Years ago, I complained about slander against my reputation. When you realize ur publicly known, from my understanding, it evolves into libel. I wonder if these geniuses (orchestrators responsible), for 11 years, think they can evade the slander charge by relaying -",

"- whatever possible about me. Does that make sense after the May 24th tumblr post/tweets talking about speaking, thinking, doing? -",

"- I think what makes slander and libel so bad is that ‚people act on‚ false or inappropriate ideas/beliefs. Imagine treating someone as crazy, in every possible way, for 11 years, and restricting their life, when the orchestrators went into this without thinking of past,-",

"-without thinking type of Family,  background culture...all on the basis of kids & maybe even a girl that I wanted to go out with years ago, but didn‚t, and never was my girl friend or even knew me. -",

"-(Amidst pictures of me, God forbid I mention the name of the girl for three days somewhere in my quiet unknown reclusive life,-",

"-where being as thorough as I am, I explained away all the situations i saw her/bumped into her-the whole thing probably lost focus over a name... for anyone to care or even know what‚talked about, am I-",

"-or she, a public figure?, or residing or studying in the same place, even?!) , None of these people know me...these are the kinds of stalkers I‚m dealing with for 11 years...-",

"something else...",

"From what the I said on 5/24/2021 about Joe Biden being a role model, in life challenges, he acted admirably. Christ lived admirably. When ur afflicted with a problem people can‚t feel or relate to, for 11 yrs!,-",

"-and speaking/writing/complaining thru the routes you have, doesn‚t rescue you, then less admirable means of acting become justifiable. When less admirable is the way to go, ur wasting ur time on the role model thing...-",

"and another thing...",

"American psychology, touchy/feely ways of handling people, ways of thinking, having to tell people things they should already know or think, people robotically following instructions instead of using their heads...dealing with people who are not objective, who are not-",

"-pragmatic...makes you wonder...am I of the same culture as these people?... or do I need to find another place in the world to live...and that‚when ‚they‚(orchestrators responsible) want me to be a ‚role model‚ for them. If you act as a team against someone, how-",

"-am I symbol to you, or how do I represent you, or how do I model your beliefs? Chances are, I've come to not understand the people in my environment or their 11 year way of handling things. I mean if you were to pass on today, and ur asked about your role in this,-",

"-what will you say? I went with the flow? Everyone else was doing it? Do you know what its like? What were your last 11 yrs like? At least event filled? Anyone sending you signs instead of \"being direct\" and talking to you?",

"another thing floating through the mind...",

"Christ, being God, spent 40 days in the desert. Faced the devil himself and three temptations. I'm a guy who does yoga (Surya Namaskar, pranayama meditation, from Hinduism), but I was born, raised, and am and continue to be a Christian. -",

"- For those against religion, just sharing something from my belief system. Personally, I‚m open to all religions. But anyway, Christ faced off with the devil for 40 days. My ordeal is lasting 11 years+. -",

"-I am NOT God or a god. Christ faced 3 temptations. Everyday, peace of mind is taken from me. Christ faced the devil. I dunno if Satan returned to being the angel, Lucifer, & needed a replacement, or what..but someone or someones, who take this kind of initiative against their-",

"-fellow man, for this much time, while infecting the world like the group of demons - Legion - with their instructions...There is something worse than Satan and his demon following: Man or humans who possess the power of a god and can have a mass-",

"-following against one individual...Me? I'm just a regular guy amidst all this hype(happens naturally through 11 yrs), getting his life together. Where I buy my coffee or even me doing things like buying my coffee shouldn't challenge that perception. I work for quality, look to -",

"-attain quality. Thats my business. Point being, not even Satan challenged Christ with this kind of an ordeal...I guess this is where that saying comes in: \"What you did to the least of my brothers and sisters, you did to me...\" Being overpowered by the-",

"-world...that puts me in a lowly position...or how about \"Whoever perverts the innocence of one of these little ones, should tie a millstone around their neck and jump into a body of water\" As everything has to be explained, little ones doesn't have to mean-",

"-children. It could mean someone innocent, projecting NO ill will against another. Food for thought peepz. America, a Christian country? Bull sh*t. My a*s. American citizenship powerful? Bull. For 11 yrs, every illegal thing, impractical thing, continues...",

today's tweets right side up on this blog:  https://t.co/A753K5G4Om

"Huh...now the concern hits...In writing so much in one day, will people read? will they digest? will they process? will they get it?",

"May 26th tweets and tumblr post...",

"- Keeping high end projects secret or from those it involves, won‚t prevent it from happening to you or get laws enacted. Since when does silence do that? Hence protests, etc. In this case, look at the facts. 11 years someone is suffering. Does that make the authority-",

"- figure look credible? And they picked a brown kid in the same way the Nazis chose Jewish minorities for their eye color changing experiments. It‚never someone who‚white who‚picked for ridiculous things.-",

"- The American white orchestrators cannot bear the thought of a brown guy having a decent life. So let‚pick him to do this, amidst all the opportunities present in his life. Let‚rob him of all that, give him an unbelievable amount of stress and make him prematurely bald.-",

"-Just because this is America, does not mean the orchestrators will keep their word to you, the public, or give whatever incentive promised. I‚m an American citizen for 30+ years. I‚d say with it pride, but now it‚a source of humiliation. -",

"-That citizenship wasn‚t strong enough to prevent illegal activities. Don‚t be ignorant. With what‚happening and it‚way of happening, I can understand fear. What use are notions of the Holy Spirit in you or just plain human spirit,-",

"-if you cannot confront evil. If what‚happening to me happens to 10 more people, the only way to help yourself and them is to speak up and lend an ear ‚about‚ and ‚to‚ unusual activity. Staying silent is giving horrible people under worldly reputations and possessions the-",

"-freedom to abuse another human being. Since when do men in power keep their word? It is the job of the public to use their spoken word, our sword, to confront evil. Lay down the facts and look at what‚been done and for how long, not sweet sounding-",

"-voices/motives/gender/age. I bet the devil, when he tempts and torments someone toe to toe/head to head, he comes in the most appealing form to throw off his victim from suspecting anything. -",

"-Tally up what you can understand as done and destroyed, not what‚‚said‚ by a stranger to be done.",

"-There are 2 groups involved.From what I understand, theres group1 talking 2 every1, & probably explaining away &justifying their end (despite 11 yrs) in face of my tweets/tumblr post. Then theres group2 hiding behind group1's public distraction. That's the high end project.",

May 26th tweets right side up in blog link below...I think twitter even provides a preview...same as tweets from early morning (before 6 AM)...  https://t.co/9dqNjonE7w

"Looks like theNext instruction or twist onWhat I actuallySaid/wrote/tweeted made its way..just Why?..what is so hard about the ‚be natural‚ Concept-no skin off ur back..right, then the orchestrators (1‚responsible) have noPoint orJob. The Americans side with their own, clearly.",

"There is a Facebook, a Twitter, a tumble all directly from me. I‚m big on being direct with people. That‚interacting/talking with someone not through something acting like a celebrity‚agent...just a regular guy, the rest is hype-",

"What happens to the concepts of fate and destiny if you tell everyone where I‚m going all the time? But then if you didn‚t, once again, the pointless orchestrators would be jobless. When two people meet, normally it‚chance, luck...-",

"-kinda like the movie ‚The Adjustment Bureau‚ with Matt Damon‚and Emily Blunt. Not everyone is supposed to meet everyone. It‚ridiculous that a grown man has to deal with a program for a reputed particular party schools and teenagers...-",

"-they soil my reputation by perpetuating teenage concerns about bullying, ‚oh my gosh, is everyone looking at me‚, and other nonsense...",

"- I‚m out to score a wife, more money through business and jobs, and that‚when the American psychology fueled little kids program pursues me like psychopaths over the course of 11 years... hey orchestrators, know where ur not wanted, have some dignity, and find someone else.",

"Being 1st generation Indian American, born & brought up here, Ive had the usual problems...culturalClashes, aDoubleLofe w/family&friends, too much time w/their own community-it gets old, when just telling foreigners ur an American citizen leaves the impact of jealousy & wonder.",

"- growing up, kids (let‚not forget I‚m a grown man in his very early 30s who people hold accountable for every second/word of his life...imagine if it was you, anyway...)- growing up, kids like me are out to be as American as possible. We don‚t want the culture of our parents-",

"I went to Iona Prep high school, I‚ve left the Indian Orthodox Church (stricter form of Catholicism: hence, the word: Orthodox), to be around the larger culture and a variety of people through the Catholic Church I embrace as my own-",

"- there are Italians, Irish, Mexicansnd other Hispanics , Indians, brits, and so forth. I always seen myself traveling and being busy...a service is always available, any day, and it‚all over the world.-",

"- but despite all my attempts at embracing American culture and my natural born citizenship, in the end Americans and people of my background left me to rot and side with the orchestrators. Not one person of any background had my back in a time of need.-",

"I got so fed up when all this started over no one believing me/or everyone lying to me, I left my home state of New York to go to/live in the country of my background: India. Then these people, these orchestrators followed me there and messed up a chance at a fresh start-",

"- be it thru a new apartment of my own or a great IT job. I got tired of America and left,&their people followed me, to bring me back,&harass me for 11 years...I say ‚their people‚ because you‚ve all clearly indicated through a project/program, that ur on 1 side, &im onAnother.-",

"Here I am doing crazy things totalk to a girl or get a girlfriend, and my own network of people as a whole...but then, after all this, I gotta wonder...being an Indian American, I can go back and select any woman from a large selection to be my wife... I can pick a real woman-",

"- as I feel females in America tend to be more girly then womanly ... I mean I look like a grown man (I wouldn‚t go so far as a prime example or definition, but I‚m close, on any day, whether fat-sadly, currently-skinny, or muscular). I need a woman.-",

"I could skip a dozen steps&formalities of a girl friend 2wife,      by jumping 2 the chapter of a wife &family of my own, thru the concept of arranged marriage. At this point, I don‚t care about the American bit. Through my habits, personality, &the well known Indian work ethic,-",

"-through the stuff in the previous tweet, I feel I‚m more a typical Indian man, despite my lifelong efforts at being more American in the Indian American part of my identity.-",

"-The orchestrators making my family act against their culture, inflicting what they see as a normal life on me, and judging me for being me...everything you done is ample evidence of racism in practice/action, and the 2013 charge of a hate crime that I made to the idle police-",

"-, all while the orchestrators and the reputed party school hijacked my calls to the police, and even went so far as to tell me on the phone call to the police:‚stop calling.‚ At least try to ‚act ‚ like law enforcement...",

"And maybe now to return to normal tweets for the most part...",

"Was on my Peloton bike this morning and couldn‚t help but notice how these female trainers look like ‚women.‚ From the dancing on the bike to whatever, all have personality, all are lively...you don‚t see too many females that look like women over girls in real life...",

"Give what I say/write, that‚verified as from me (an example of being direct with me), like my Twitter, tumblr, or Facebook precedence, 1st preference, over what anyone else says, or what the indirect folk resort to.",

"RT @RennyJi: May 26th tweets right side up in blog link below...I think twitter even provides a preview...same as tweets from early morning

Already tweeted this @6AM after my pre 6AM tweets but posting this link again since its buried under myTweets from 10:15-11:15..&retweeted this 2..yeah umm U wouldn't believe the time/expense it takes to tackle the unknown...but here's the link again:  https://t.co/9dqNjonE7w

Tweeted before 6 AM today posted those tweets in a link twice and in a retweet Tweeted from 10:15-11:15 today posted those tweets right side up in the link below:  https://t.co/6NBwjXIOSt

"May 27th tweets...",

"The reputed party school wants to spend 11 years wondering why ‚I don‚t go out‚ in the sense of bars/partying. For their personalities or the kids they‚re used to, from the low grade requirements for their school(nothing against anyone for getting admission there), -",

"-I suppose it‚to be expected.With my grades at Iona Prep High School, I had scholarships with free laptops at some decent private schools. But I chose to go to the Harvard of the SUNY‚s: Binghamton University. -",

"-I transferred out, because I wanted a fresh start with a new major, late in my academic career, after an attempt at electricalEngineering. The only place that‚d take me is a reputed party school. Theyre probably like F* you in reading this, but being the truth, it‚undeniable.-",

"-And at that point in my academic career, I thought, what's in a name to a school or its reputation. But look what happens when you go to some places. Leaving Binghamton was the worst decision for so many normal/abnormal reasons. -",

"- i mean, for one thing, your grades reflect on the kind of person you are. it can say your hard working, or equally smart but just want to take it easy and do things like party and alcohol and drugs all day. but different story, moving on...-",

"-I used to spend a lot of time in computer science lounge and in the faculty department common room, at said party school. Despite me being there almost everyday, and at the Starbucks in Colonie, NY for networking, where this location is at the center of multiple Universities,-",

"-the professors who had a role in this, sided with random kids they don‚t see in that area often. I guess it‚because they partied and I studied. ‚Sided ‚in that they listened to random kids who don‚t know me, rather than talk to the guy in their vicinity on a daily basis. -",

"-Such is the reputed party school. While in the common area, I heard one of their professors say, they take as many kids from a local community college: Hudson Valley, to boost their graduation rates. -",

"-I guess they don‚t get the kids they need for that in normal admissions at a reputed party school. As I hear them talking sometimes, while making me look crazy for it, you should have heard their astonishment at the Binghamton common computer area in comparison to what they-",

"-have at their reputed party school. It says a lot about reputations. The orchestrators try to make it seem like, the way I am in a ridiculous situation(probably filmed or the equivalent all day), while living with my parents, is how I am. -",

"- They‚ve been doing this for 11 years, after robbing me of my opportunities for 11 years. I had a life before this, and I intend to continue to, after, with my own network, family, etc, away from these orchestrators and their craziness.-",

"- &another thing, regarding the party school, think im just saying things? check the books. and are their graduates or students going to get mad at me, despite the school's clear role and for calling the students equally smart, a number of tweets ago? well, oops, OK..moving on.-",

"moving onto addressing something else...-",

"-The orchestrators are always misusing people under the pretense that I‚m a picked on kid. I‚m a successful, grown man. -",

"-Not because I‚m conceited,  but from life experience, I wrote 11 yrs ago: ‚I‚m not the last person people harass, but I‚m also far from the first.‚ When it happens, with my image (while chubby, and not handsome now), I know somethings up. -",

"-Try me, and be direct about it, rather than do something ridiculous from afar. I don‚t waste time on idiots. -",

"-The orchestrators perpetuate and take part, and make official and global, a small rumor of a girl I don‚t know or knows me (or her misguided teenage friends who also don‚t know me nor do I know them-big theme in this, with all involved) from 11 years ago.-",

"-The only thing that ever harmed me, abused me, or robbed me of health and opportunities, is the orchestrators. -",

"-Teenage kids have no power. Whatever effect they have dies down. It takes something big or reputable (like adults of a particular standing) to give their ideology power. -",

"-These adults...I don‚t know them, they don‚t know me...I don‚t understand their 11 year project/vendetta/-whatever this massive lie is, against me. Maybe it started with just wanting to make money off of me and my life and my lifestyle. -",

"-In trying to address this 11 year problem, my true focus: my career, gets hidden, and you end up thinking I‚m taking part, or after the cr*p-ola of the orchestrators. I‚m big on what‚natural. -",

"-Anywho, I wrote this 1st in the ‚Notes app‚ on my iPhone yesterday, to publish on Twitter & tumbler today, in case I forgot. - in case todays posting was seen earlier...think it happens to emails sent to myself and other things...-",

"-Focus on what‚4 each day on Twitter &tumbler, despite what cannot be helped i.e. the random relaying of everything @ any time, since no 1 helps me stop it by talking 2 me. Imagine what would happen if you told me-the power to save myself...what a great thing you'd be doing...",

"about that party school? before things escalated, as soon as I noticed the potential for a problem behind a situation occurring without telling me, I went to their Conflict Resolution office at their school and told them about my concerns and what I noticed-",

"- the next day, the guy that spoke to me, walks in a different direction, from a small distance, forces a head turn, and gives me a retarded smile. -",

"-Despite my \"reporting things\" like one does to the police in the face of a problem, that school went crazy against me on the day of my 2012 finals. can you imagine a school allowed to go nuts on the day of a student's final exams? -",

"-once again, goes back to the talk about reputations from several tweets ago - this morning. Ur reputation is who you are and reflects in your actions...and here we're dealing with a reputed party school...while they slander my reputation by putting me in retarded predicaments.-",

"- so many bad experiences with students and faculty at that school...in the first dorm suite i lived in, 5 guys pushed me into my room for pushing them back alone, by myself, for telling them to pitch in cleaning-",

"-&one of them - a stupid fraternity idiot - rushed to tell on me, saying i punched him. in a part time job, i told  the guy i was working w/to teach me the trade or get the phone in my cubicle working in an area with no cell reception. he just responds nastily and it culminates-",

"- on another occassion, i locked myself out of my room in a different dorm suite, b4 going to my next part time job, which was in their down town. took the highway to get there. went to the faculty and told them my problem - that i had work, can't be late, need to get in my room-",

"-they tell me that i have to wait 2 hours b/c that's when their services are officially available. what if it was class & i needed my backpack? when they eventually agreed 2 help me, the woman i was speaking with, probably saw me going to my dorm building, -",

"-& she drives around &past me w/a nasty look to spite me 4asking them, when saying she'll go to my room and unlock it. when i think i went back to their office &told them about it, she claims she went to my building &waited, but i didn't show up. i saw her drive in a circle.",

"- and that second part time job...to prove myself useful when things weren't busy with a computer job, i would, alone, move big shelves, i think desks, &other furniture, down a floor or two. It was a gesture on my part after hearing them talk about no one clearing their office-",

"-after the things i did for them, i emailed them if they knew anything about this, &never a response. -",

"this is the party school now wondering about why i'm not out, socializing, getting laid all day/everyday, hitting the bars, or whatever. To the orchestrators: leave my life alone. They're so much proof to all this...i guess amidst everything else, maybe they can see memories...-",

"- i mean would it kill these people to go the conventional route and use a lie detector with all involved? It's so easy to clear this up. Based on what I truly want for my life, all of this is a mess.",

"- based on tech they use, in claiming 2 help me(when i need no help aside from telling me whats happening), they try to justify lies 2slander me or try to get me 2write all day. They perpetuate nonsense 2get me 2write, 2 I guess, see if they can predict it-to put it another way.",

"and going back to conflict resolution at the party school? there was one thing i forgot to mention. not only did he allow this to transpire without telling me. -",

"-on the day of my exams, when the sounds projected 2 me, made threats 2 a relative of mine, there, by saying \"maybe we should help him too\", I called Conflict Resolution @ party school several times. They wouldn't pick up. I think I left messages, but no call back. -",

"- in the face of harassment, threats, evolving to what it is today, under a false impression by people of power, such is the party school.",

"- U gotta wonder amidst yrs of this mental strain, especially at party school, where was cr*p flowery Amerian psychology/counseling system, what was the school's Conflict Resolution doing. -",

"-at that party school, failures all around..at the time I was there, academic departments were closing like i think their French department. but whatever. orchestrators are people in power, parading as those of quality, when they're not. 11 years of torture attest to that.",

"and one normal tweet for when we can move past this...-",

"love the @onepeloton (peloton). love #leannehainsby (cycling trainer) for her appearance, personality, and training.",

"leannehainsby",

May 27th tweets right side up in blog link...hope the length doesn't make people miss certain elements...  https://t.co/sMsllxDNy4

"May 28th tweets...",

"For 11 years, me and the word ‚girl‚ always end up translating to association with this one girl I don‚t know. Wanted to go out with her once, approached her at a bar, in the dining hall on campus, -",

"-but then she talks to some other guy in front of me, gives me an angry look all the time, disappears from the dining hall, or dances amongst other girls. You figure ur giving the wrong idea and then this randomness seems to start, -",

"-as you nicely move away from that. I left the idea of that girl by giving her a letter, explaining things, and ultimately leaving the ball in her court. That‚when random kids go on about the idea of someone for years after.",

"I mean I‚ve had the privilege of going out with this Muslim Pakistani girl (i totally respect what you consider haram) older than me and a genius Sikh Punjabi girl (to you Sikhinis, I share in you or love for one God and traditions) who drew my picture in that epic Facebook-",

"- and would distract me like h*ll while in class. Things didn‚t work out, I see this new girl, with one of the best first names on the show Friends: Rachel- possibly my favorite name. -",

"-I hope the mention of 1 of the most common 1st names, 11 yrs later, in this general fashion, doesn‚t cause problems 4me. But her &other women Ive come across lately might give U a glance, but also give the impression that if U return the look for 2long, theyll be creeped out.",

"W/everything, it boil down 2 \"what void\" ur trying 2 fill. Being human=ugly->a lot of good&bad w/in. Violent offenders should output aggression&resulting brain reward centers, by finding noble idea/value 2 fight 4. Disabling such obstacle fulfills inclinations thru powerOfChoice.",

"RT @RennyJi: - you‚re provided for, have a nice place to live, you‚re a prominent family, can go out and eat, have a healthy son, can buy t

"- so I tweeted that last retweet's clip, yesterday. On top of everything else, when a couple gets a divorce, usually, \"the male spouse\" loses half his income, and for some reason: the family house, to his wife, who then gives hourly weekend visitation rights...-",

"- divorces happen in America on something trivial. \"Oh the marriage lost its spark...I'm not attracted to him anymore...\" Nowadays you see on TV, friends becoming a marriage pastor online and wedding their male and female friends. Somethings lose their seriousness then.-",

"- But in the more formal Church practice, you say \"through sickness and health, to love and to cherish, 'till death' do us part...\" its part of a phenomena, nowadays, where no one says what they mean and don't speak with meaning.-",

"- when you say something as deep, as \"through sickness and health,\" in the form of a vow ('a promise'), in Church, in front of the God (who Americans abandon in favor of atheism or agnosticism or apathy), how can you even contemplate divorcing someone on something trivial?-",

"- \"in sickness and health\" could mean 10 years into your marriage, your spouse becomes paralyzed and you end up bathing them for the rest of both your lives. It could mean they cannot even kiss you, let alone have sex with you. But that's what you sign up for. -",

"- but nowadays, Americans are under belief that U live once. Reach 4 happiness at whatever cost. In places like India, they're not that innocent either. People in 3rd world countries may share a similar philosophy in form of, \"I've had it bad, and I'll do anything 4 happiness.\"-",

"- I remember talking on relationships, in passing, w/a doctor, & I remember him saying: there's nothing wrong w/asking 4 a prenuptial agreement (as mature people plan 4 it all & aren't blinded by emotion), & asking 4 bloodwork at onset of relationship 2 prevent unwanted diseases.",

"Everything in time seems 2 go through a cycle. People adhere 2 formalities in one season, then wonder Y across time, relax on those formalities, as 1 example. -",

"- An ex. of a past thing gaining prominence in present is ancient practice of Feng Shui, or what Indians call \"Vasthu Compass\", inviting people 2 build homes on non-toxic energy points in ground/earth. Toxic locations can bring unfortunate circumstances 2 the resider of a home. -",

"- I believe the History Channel's Ancient Aliens show alluded to Washington DC being laid out on positive energy lines. Washington's creators even planted an obelisk (the Washington Monument) as if to magnify energy. Maybe its all a coincidence.-",

"- people blame God 4 everything going wrong. When something good happens, no 1 says Thank You. Some say bad things happen b/c a child not walking & suddenly walking, is God's way 2 bring us down from  airy heads in a cloud/distractions &appreciate something as simple as walking.-",

"- a sciencey/maybe eve metaphysical? way of understanding a tsunami in Japan or an earthquake in Haiti, is people's choices contributing to negative energy accumulating in the earth, leading to an energetic push toward negative happenings.-",

"- now I mentioned 2 places in my last tweet. But we as a world are 1, like an individual's 1 body. Your mid region back pain or lower back pain could be because of a problem occurring in another region in ur body. The pain and the cause of the pain could be in different places.-",

"- a collected period of darkness in multiple places throughout the world might puss out like acne in the form of a tsunami or earthquake in another part of the world.",

"When Trump talked about his \"big beautiful wall\", I didn't get the pushback. What are you saying? You don't want effective border protection? -",

"- On something rooted in mixed feelings in just saying, when coal miners and people working with oil rigs complain about renewable energy sources, it's kind of like the issue with the wall. Are you saying you want to deplete the world's nonrenewable sources of energy?-",

"- I believe augmented reality glasses like what's reported as being called Apple Vision, along w/free internet, can provide people w/ways 2 spend  time. Regarding pharmaceutical industry, I believe  focus should be on cloud controlled nanotech to produce meds w/o sideEffects.-",

"- in the presence of big game changing things like that, going back 2 coal miners, U should train the workers of the coal mines and give them preference for jobs replacing the resource they worked with. New Tech like nanotech in place of conventional pills will result in losses.-",

"Though born a Christian, I see all religions as different languages to speak about one truth, and to one loving God. If I were to identify myself, I‚d prefer the label of a God-fearing individual, more than anything. Reminds me to say, I like to relate with people. -",

"-While these women of the past were of the Asian persuasion, I‚m open to all cultures and religions when it comes to a relationship.",

"I saw a very modern Bollywood movie a while back about 2 people at a club, &the girl asks the guy, ur place or my place. On the flip side or other extreme, I saw a humorous clip on Facebook recently, about this very attractive girl, 4some odd reason, nervously approaching a guy,-",

"-&telling him she‚interested and would like to go out. The TEXT and reality are very different. I think in reality, it always falls on the guy to initiate a conversation, while in tv and movies, it‚the opposite. Anywho, kindly, do me this favor. When I use the word ‚girl‚-",

"-in conversation or writing, please stop associating it with any women or the past. Past is past. Why random  kids think I‚m only capable of walking away from this one girl, and can only refer to this girl, is beyond me. To make any type of commotion, is she famous? -",

"-Does anyone, wherever in the world I go, even know this person? The word ‚girl‚ should not be associated with previous associations. I could be using the word generally or specifically about someone else. -",

"-Binghamton undergrad: I had my freshman days, sophomore days, etc, along with the full college experience. -",

"-In party school/ transfer college, I went as an adult - not a teenager- to finish my school as quickly as possible without distractions.-",

"-I had an apartment of my own, readily available/accessible food - thanks to my parents- all so that all I have to worry about is studying. Then the randomness from the orchestrators takes over, messing everything up.-",

"My Twitter username is @rennyjiThe orchestrators-possibly involving party school professors- perpetuated the rumors of a girl and kids and took advantage of a situation for the purpose of their government project, that the world is unknowingly helping in.",

May 28th tweets between 5:29 AM and 5:40 AM on blog link with words right side up unlike twitter which displays most recent tweet even if its a continuation of an account/detail/story through multiple tweets:  https://t.co/2gjosWayuf

"lonely Indian male seeking puertoriquena wanting esposo, or \"middle eastern i dream of jeanie\" wanting alzawj, or italiana wanting marito, or punjabi wanting pagdiwala, and so forth in every other culture and language...its an all points bulletin...",

May 29 tweets..@ this day&time there isn't much more 2 say about \the situation\ weird \past\(being past) or@present there isn't aNeed where every littleThing needs 2be explained even more..so 4now going 2switch 2normal tweets..note my tumblr page:  https://t.co/YBHaO5OLil

"I miss the days of long hair and bangs on the corners of my forehead, drooping onto my face... awesome feeling...to relive that...oh mannn...",

"-semi long hair with potion 9 leave in conditioner/gel...I wonder if they still have that stuff...",

"Years ago, like 11 years ago, I think I heard something along lines of ‚let‚or theyre bringing back the radio...‚ I also remember seeing a white page on some1‚laptop screen with a black square in the middle...the kind of square that goes black when there‚no visual input...-",

"- anything 2do with(w/) ‚the thing‚?!..who knows..I don‚t have a real/genuine friend who‚d tell me things during bad/hard times..its true whats said..U realize whos truly w/U when going gets tough...in my life, its just the good Lord...not a single empathetic/sincere human being.",

Pic from more than 10 years ago on twitter below and on tumblr:  https://t.co/adxFzcZ8fA

May 29th end of day summary of tweets...  https://t.co/m8iuxXeWuX

"May 30th tweets...-",

"- So, as some of U already no, amidst a problem for 11 years, Ive been frequently doing things likeDeleting &recreating facebook. 11 years ago, around that time, when all this started, when I started @ party school, I had 2facebooks. 1 registered 2 Binghamton, 1 to party school.-",

"- the one registered to Binghamton, I deleted my friends, put up a drawing of me as a picture, and wrote something random to put down a rumor and return to normalcy in the 2010 bare bones facebook. It was to tackle what I believed at the time to be the source of the problem.-",

"-As per the ultimate source of the problem, I could always be wrong, but I imTEXTtely got a reaction to the writing on that page by people in my surroundings, making me believe I was write about the first assumed source of the problem. -",

"-At the same time, like said previously, I had a facebook registered to party school. On it I had friends made at party school, people I met in the local area, and also my dorm/suite mates. This even had a picture of me, not a drawing. But the original orchestrators?-",

"-whoever they were, they focused on my \"test facebook\" to figure things out. sometimes you gotta put out random things in your environment to figure out an unknown situation, by observing for reactions...-",

"- amidst a drawing on the stalked facebook, 4 an otherwise uknown recluse like me 2 be in the \"awareness of strangers,\" it means there is a photo of you going around. Why jump to that? I saw friends of a random girl & other strangers take pictures of me from afar at Binghamton.-",

"- Despite my awareness that something's wrong for 11 years, \"the situation\" continues. Imagine the compounding stress...1years of stress from normalStuff like school or work,  2 instruction fueled parents or complete/total/illegal randomness...how do U deal with that all that?!",

"- moving on...",

"-My family and me, in my youth, never took a lot of pictures after 13/starting high school. Not for any reason, despite dads love for Nikon cameras. due to school or work, there was never the time. That and before my parents made it in their careers, -",

"-aside from family trips to India to see family, not a lot of vacationing to exotic places. college, and when I joined college, Facebook started for first time, never got to posting pictures. -",

"-On a different note, Facebook was nothing like it is today. Very simple in, I think 2006-my God, it‚202-but anyway, even my more notorious Facebook writing wasn‚t even in a modern ‚Note‚or whatever. It was in the ‚About Me‚ ‚section‚ of a very basic/simplistic Facebook-but -",

"-back to the point...I think it‚beyond random and weird that there may be total strangers with possible pictures of my youth...",

"Oh my gosh... Becky...look at her bu....no, what I mean is...oh...my...gosh...for 11 years, what if ur orthodox Christian-cultural clash-parents steered the direction of entertainment on your life...how would they do it...the orchestrators clearly want me to be crazy...-",

"-and the school, from their involvement is going to be in legal trouble...how are all these people painting me...regarding my strict parents, I can‚t do anything with a girl in the house I grew up in, not that as a grown adult that I care. I mean I was scared to ask -",

"-my culturally different parents to go to my high school prom. Didn‚t want to hear their No! My brother, on the other hand? About him, he‚also a grown adult, finishing his residency as a doctor and moving onto bigger and better things. My parents think the guy-",

"-who wasn‚t as focused on school as I was or who didn‚t please them all the time like me, is the ideal or better son. Me? Particularly after involvement with the orchestrators, my parents -",

"- just think I‚m out of my mind in everything I do. What did my brother, the ideal son, do, for his prom? The nuts on this one is ridiculous...he begged and got permission to go with a blonde girl at the prom at our all boys private college preparatory high school. -",

"-Then to make his secret girl friend happy, he tells my parents he‚going to sleep over at a friends place. What does he actually do? Him and the friend at the pretend sleep over take a train to Connecticut from New York to attend his blonde girl friend‚s-",

"-prom at her school there. They do what they do, return the next day, and my parents aren‚t any wiser. My parents praise my little brother. What do I get for a lifetime of obedience? Random obstacles, and getting yelled at or provoked, to get me to say things for entertainment. -",

"-I‚m in the shoes or boat of someone who just can‚t set things right in this praising of my brother vs. me...such is life...-",

"-As part of the nonsense that goes on to make what I‚m calling sick ‚entertainment,‚ happen, today my mother comes to me and says she wants to wax the floor of my bedroom/office/space in our family house-rent for nice apartments in good areas cost $1700-$2000. Staying in the -",

"-house saves me money and allows me to use that money for other things. But anyway. She tells me she also wants to vacuum. I‚m like Ok. Then, as usual, the random dialogue starts. It randomly escalates. -",

"-It‚one of those ‚but you said...now ur saying this...it doesn‚t make sense...what are you even talking about...‚ situations. -",

"-Usually In this ‚show‚, randomness like that occurs, where my mother makes faces at me, slams a hammer or walks to another room while I‚m talking, or says something condescending. This I believe is to get me to say things at a point of aggravation.-",

"-Keep provoking until you get a show. This is what all of you witness and allow to continue by never telling me anything. It then fills the mind with distracting, resulting anger/frustration, the resulting thoughts, and the mind of lack of focus that fails to get things done. -",

"-Such is 11 yrs of life. If the provocation is to get me to go out, there‚only so many places I can go, so much money I can spend, while simultaneously no one says nothing to me. So what is the point of all this?! What happens with the room waxing/vacuuming?-",

"-Well mom has me like all my things onto bed &other places where things shouldn‚t be so that the wooden floors are clear. Then after provoking me, she makes it seem something that didn‚t happen or she thinks happened is my fault. She walks out without her completing her desire -",

"-2 wax &vacuum, &now leaves me w/the burden of having 2fix my room up, so that my bed is clear to sleep on, all after I finish a personal-but actually 2 person- project Ive been putting off, &showering. I guess this morning(W/respect to yesterday, that is-forgot to clarify that)-",

"-is the only relaxation I get...and like that, with a constantly aggravated or busy mind, I have to finish work for my job and get other things done...you look to things like a massage at places, but that‚90 minutes, and the weird life thing is all day amidst 11 years...-",

"The even with dear Ma happened yesterday, and clearly not at 6:14 AM. forgot to clarify that. will make the correction when it goes into my tumblr link...",

"Moving onto normal stuff -",

"- Did any of you know that dark roast coffee contains less caffeine than light roast. I think everyone shares in my misconception that dark roast is stronger, but its written as not, online. Google it...",

"I said it before, I‚ll say it again, peace of mind is priceless. I hope I end up with woman who fuels that, rather than more drama.",

May 30th early morning tweets in a blog link:  https://t.co/e8ypLigR11Might tweet later in the day and post another blog link at the end of the day with all of that...Enjoy your day...

"You know, some people get a nose job cuz they‚re not happy with their noses, or something else from like, I think a plastic surgeon. On that note, I learned something from my younger brother, from when he was little.-",

"- every time he did something that got him in trouble, he‚d just give the cutest smile. By default, I have a serious kinda looking face.-",

"-Like I remember seeing the infamous girl to my story and one thing I learned-as you learn things from seeing and hearing things  from progressing in life-is that some people have the perfect facial configuration that contributes to a great smile.-",

"-Whoever or whichever woman I end up with, I decided for future purposes,has to have a great smile. Has to be pretty, has to be a shoulder to lean on, someone I can talk to, and be a day of sunshine through an amazing smile.-",

"- and going back to people changing things and the unrelated tale of my brother- for all those random, unpredictable, awkward situations in life, if I could have a way, I‚d get the perfect smile, to smile right through those situations...",

"Moving on, but on the idea of facial features-not cuz Im conceited, arrogant, or full of myself, but growing up and through my college years-I used to be the notably and recognized handsome man or young man in my Church, family, school, a social gathering, or whatever it may be.-",

"- people would always comment and it was a part of me. Have you ever had random strangers on the street comment on you being a ‚good looking man‚ or on a separate occasion, hitting on you, while waiting for a bus?I‚ve had that privilege.",

"In my Indian community, there is a handsome actor named Hrithik Roshan. In my prime, people would tease or comment me as him in their presence. After the turmoil of Albany, I lost a chunk of my overly thick black hair. I took a beating all around from stress.-",

"- I had to face the reality I‚m not the guy I grew up as. Looking like me was a core part of my identity. It‚like when the character, ‚Lightning‚, on the show ‚Black Lightning‚ had her molecules and atoms rearranged and got a new face that wasn‚t what she was used to.-",

"-that‚when this retarded program is advertising you as ‚handsome‚ and a bunch of other nonsense. Without ur long hair and stress beaten, you face and accept facts, even take the American route of shaving what‚left off and having a clean shaven head.-",

"- ur down about not being you, your world being fake because of a nonsensical program, and they‚re trying to show off you...parents think there‚something wrong with me cuz I shave my head. In India, only literally crazy people shave their heads. Once again, a cultural clash...-",

"- you lose interest for a period in ur hobbies like working out, and some things you need to work out through time and life experience-no matter how seemingly inane or childish or stupid. Different things matter to different people.-",

"-The normal person doesn‚t have an anal retentive set of orchestrators and program trying to seemingly get you broadcasted for good, when really they‚re just trying to evade legal trouble...I mean the program and then the mental harassment...it‚unprecedented...",

"-In sharing a bit about me, amidst orchestrators creating random hype, gotta let you know, ‚I‚m a tell it like it is‚ guy. Please don‚t compliment or filter me, based on the past. I am what I am, today, whatever that may be. Past is past.-",

"-This ‚thing‚ just violates all psychological boundaries in what they say/do and how they do it.",

"- on that note, I guess I can understand my parents shoes. Having a son who‚always complimented, who‚among the top 10 of his class of 200 at an all boys college preparatory school with a weighted GPA of 4.2 out of 4.0...or being the exemplary altar server at his Church...-",

"-when this ‚thing from h*ll‚  comes into my family‚and my life, I stopped going to their Church and found my own, I was shaving my head, they were being instructed to be mean to me by the orchestrators...as irritated as I am with my parents for these 11 years, I guess maybe -",

"- their psychology must have been warped by the orchestrators and they missed being the mom and dad of star in their community...but, after 11 years of having no one but God Almighty, I realize I gotta do, what I gotta do, for me, first and foremost...",

"ud be surprised how different people look with and without hair. Really makes em look like a different individual. Something so simple, ud think people would have a solution, rather than a $20,000-$35,000 hair transplant, where hair isn‚t as thick and full as it once was...-",

"- I mean..lets think about this..if u can ‚do everything U can do 2 me, in how ur doing it to me‚, how is it u can‚t restore hair..in comparison, when u think of the simplicity of the idea of restoring hair, its ridiculous..but I guess w/ hair, theres no government/military gain.",

"On a lighter and different note,-",

"While I love my younger brother to death, I also wish I had a sister. There‚something nice and special to having that female in the family. As per sister type material, I see myself talking and hanging out with, I guess my younger cousin Nicole. But then she‚in Texas now.-",

"-The orchestrators want a moving, bustling show, but then at the same time, they gotta realize that they keep people away from me, while the rest of my family is miles away, in different cities, states, and countries...-",

"- but to original point: a realSister wouldve been nice, especially during these weirdTimes. Stuff like that has added a 2 my desire 2 have @ least 1 boy & 1 girl, for children, whenever I have them, after orchestrators leave, women talk 2me again,&I get a girl friend,& married.-",

"- it makes you think of women as a whole. Youve heard of, I think it‚called the human element or human touch. But a woman seems 2 have that kind of positive impact times a 100. A woman is something naturally beautiful in creation..as corny as it sounds..like a rose or a flower-",

"- to brighten a mood or environment, you need women. Thank God for female baristas, cashiers, Doctors, nurses, etc. they add to the daily beauty of a day and scenery with their voices, and for the most part, their faces.-",

"- I guess that thought was spurred on by a sketchers go walk 5 commercial. It makes you think of fitness wear and yoga clothes, and how they enhance the beauty of women. The creators of these outfits had some clear insight and have got to be geniuses...",

wrote a lot today-in early MORNING&early AFTERNOON. Theyre stories about past (not usual nonsense)/ideas/etc. After earlyMorning tweets posted them right side up on tumblr&tweeted link. Now tweeting here another tumblr link containing afternoon tweets:  https://t.co/HI0haqUVL3

"May 31st tweets...after yesterday's morning and afternoon tweets, which were posted in two separate links, yesterday...",

"I value meaning not cultural violations, ‚every‚ random tradition. That‚one of the reasons I switched over to Catholicism from Orthodox Christianity, where I used to be an Altar server in 4 hour services while fasting. -",

"-The service, being the Indian Orthodox Church, is not in English, but highly advanced Church version of the Indian dialect I normally would speak to my parents. For four hours, I have no idea what‚being said and then there‚the random guilt of your mind wandering -",

"-while singing transliterated words (another languages words written in English script) throughout the service. It‚long, only on Sundays, has only one flavor of people, and other things I can‚t presently call to mind. I‚ve been going to Catholic school since the sixth grade. -",

"-I remember the first time seeing Sacred Heart Church. The aesthetics alone amazed me. The service and responses were in English and the service was short to fit in your schedule and available at multiple times, almost every day, making it easy to fit in a-",

"-schedule. It has people from all over the world and is always in the vernacular, or language of the people. It is a a Church with diverse community, it‚own good school system, and available throughout the world. It‚hard to miss Church. -",

"-The services being short are a good thing not out of laziness. But when something is long like a four hour service, it becomes hard to maintain focus and enthusiasm. -",

"-My reasons for switching to Catholicism is because it fits who I am as an individual and I found meaning there, just like, before this situation, I found meaning in New York as my residence through the power of the American citizenship, which unfortunately is lost. -",

"-A life of meaning is my reason for wanting to marry into another one of India‚many cultures, or another people/culture as a whole from anywhere in the world. I just feel there are more-",

"-similarities, more things to talk about, as I‚m more of the black sheep where I‚m from in what and how I talk, or regarding beliefs and goals.",

"hmmm...what else...",

"First 18 years of life, living under my strict Orthodox Christian Indian parents &being sent to all boys schools, what kept me going was the dream, after watching my 1stBollywood movie, that 1 day/someday, Ill find a girl as pretty, full of personality, -",

"-like the women in their film industry. That said, interests have expanded beyond Bollywood-like women.",

"On another note, 2 be blunt...and crude?!...In the language of the cool, \"Im a face & nice smile man in women,\" not so much a big t*t/a*s man. I want a face I can look at all day & never get tired. The other stuff, great, as Im not gay, but face comes first. Just being open.",

"Throughout ‚this situation‚, every person, male, female, catholic, orthodox,Indian, non Indian, left me to suffer this alone. That too for 11 years. You thinks it cute, but thats not what transpires internally and externally. You‚re likely seeing a filtered version, -",

"-cuz I have a hard time digesting that people react 2 something like this, this way, &that too, world saving Americans? Acting like nazis experimenting &killing Jews? But back 2the point..whether it be the people of my background or not, ur loyalty has been 2the ‚orchestrators.‚-",

"-In expanding my community/network/\"my peepz\":my parents need to understand that the people of my background and not of, all held their loyalty to the orchestrators, not me.-",

"-If it‚for something good promised to me, my Christian Indian brethren, Christ says believe and you can move mountains. If you believe and love me like yourself, we can get the same benefits of this program and relieve me of my 11 year indignity. -",

"-Christ also has another saying. When I was hungry, you didn‚t give me food. When I was without clothes, you didn‚t clothe me. What you did to the least of my brethren, you did to me. I don‚t know you, he says. These are the values of my God.-",

"-His Kingdom is open 2all peoples/all faiths, be it a decent humanBeing whos an atheist, or a devoutChristian. Despite this h*ll of a situation or b4 it, I used 2think of heaven 2be likeAmerica-a place open 2all peoples. But on evidence&proof of 11 yrs, this has proven 2be h*ll.-",

"-Now I am the least of my Lord‚brethren, because of my 11 year situation, where I am truly alone, despite the world observing me.-",

"-Nodding at me means nothing. It‚just more drama. Talk to me and talk to me about ‚the situation‚...are you their puppet, or my friend? Were you helping your God, when His followers were in need?",

"-But the point of all this, to my parents/my old Church/whoever: my relationships, friends,community, neighborhood, city will be with all peoples, cultures, and faiths or the lack of, not simply a mechanical attachment to the people of my background.-",

"-My values are Indian, but my interests are American. -",

"-Regarding the people I want to encompass in my world or my network, especially the woman who will be mine, I need someone and things and community that I can hold a conversation with. I can‚t just talk about tradition, Church, and such things like some of my family members.",

"and moving on...",

"About Cr*p about going out, amidst environment being fake and no one interacting.-",

"I mentioned in the past about a double life among us Indian American first generationers. The orchestrators go on and on about ‚going out‚ but if they could see my memories, Indian parents like to keep their kids home.-",

"-You are restricting me from my other life and keeping me as a good Indian kid. They‚re constantly in our business. You say even as an adult‚going out‚ , they‚ll want specifics and a time of return. It‚annoying,  and arguing becomes a source of a fight. -",

"-You stay home, to gain the opportunity to spend ur money elsewhere, instead of $2000, for the rent of a decent apartment like The Print House in New Rochelle. You gotta go off TO or STAY IN college as long as possible, far from home, to escape this.-",

"-But sometimes you gotta ask if it‚worth it. So the orchestrators have no outdoor events, family in far off locations...but these stubborn f*, cannot come to the conclusion, after 11 years of failure, that you cannot and do not have a show.",

"and a few normal tweets...",

"If U use a sinus rinse in morning like NeilMeds or Alkalol, I think Navage is littleBetter. As salt can dry ur nose, 2lubricate it, so as 2avoid irritated nostrils w/possible sounds when either inhaling/exhaling, look into/invest in \"Nasya Oil.\" Its from aScience called Ayurveda.",

"If U want a closeShave thats possibly quicker&cleaner than a wetShave w/a typicalRazor, checkOut the Panasonic Electric Shaver. I think its the Arc model. Expensive, but good for a dry shave. Irritated skin? Amazon's \"Freelette\" Cream for pre/after shave is good w/Braun shaver.-",

"Today, going to try the Kiehls Shave \"Lotion\" with my Panasonic Razor, as skin got sensitive from shaving everyday. Hope it works...their aftershave takes care of the sensitivity in like a day...you can get it at Macys...",

"If you get into time and mood to see shaving as an art, the \"Feather\" razor is a quality purchase. I believe its Japanese, and its a straight razor that folds.",

"If anyone is actually nodding in a way of approval or acknowledgment or whatever, through the unbelievable methodology of the corner of my eye, I don‚t know what that means, or why you cannot do that face to face, and tell me why you‚re doing it to begin with.",

"Some great stuff if ur into yoga and meditation: kulae yoga mat (machine washable and pvc free unlike conventional mats), alexia meditation seat (if sitting cross legged for a period is hard), meditation stool to aid in sitting in the position known in yoga as vajrasana.",

"RT @shakira: Get 150 extra entries to join us in Barcelona when you enter with promo code KIND150 by February 18 at 11:59pm PT. And make a

"- I retweeted that, because of how @shakira always looks amazing...wanted that on my profile page...",

May 31st tales and normal tweets from early morning (before 7 AM) right side up (unlike twitter) in blog (tumblr) link below:  https://t.co/uqO1soqH1v

"Its June already...another month in \"the situation\"...June 1st tweets...",

"You know, with the exception of one or two cousins, most of my family, maybe because of ‚the situation‚?! Is more loyal (for lack of a better word) to my parents, than me. Such is my revelation over the last 11 years. One cousin I lived close to, in India for a while, -",

"-he‚around my age, and should be a brother I can tell secrets to, or ‚hooks me up.‚Otherwise, he‚a very sincere/caring individual who is a real asset to our family. ‚Hook up‚ as in connect me -",

"- with my kind of women from his multicultural work establishment at TechnoPark or take me to a ‚todi shop‚ , where you get special kind of alcohol and spiced beef in this part of India, so that I can get different taste of life, make a memory, and have life experience. -",

"-He‚attending to my parents desire of keeping me as an individual who prays all day who needs to talk to someone, when that‚one side or nonexistent side to a guy who‚image is facing life‚obstacles in a leather jacket. -",

"-At this age and in my freakin‚ 20‚s, he chooses to be like a parent or uncle worried about what my parents think, or doing what my parents want for me, instead of thinking of what I as an individual need. All instead of being a brother or friend, understanding of me. -",

"-I think he‚d try to talk to me or ask me questions to get information for my parents and this undignified ‚thing‚ of a situation-very brotherly.-",

"-On a different note, I mean, he spends a lot of time knowing his kids, but my parents, no offense to them, don‚t listen to me when I speak because they‚re in a rush to speak or defend, and they don‚t know my likes/interests/hobbies.-",

"-Until recently, my mother didn‚t know my favorite color. She‚stubborn to the point where she won‚t try to learn either.They may have recently found out about such things like likes/interests/hobbies through the eavesdropping/stalking situation. -",

"-I mean, for the sake of a point, while in my very early 30s, it‚only now that I even shared with my mom, and not my dad, that I had two girl friends while in college. Some things like that, you cannot share with Indian parents until things get serious -",

"-and you want to move to the next chapter/adventure. I love my mom and dad, and would die for them and care for them in old age, but they don‚t know much about me. My memories of my mom, for instance, are of her cooking, cleaning, buying me clothes,-",

"-taking me to doctor appointments when sick, and used to paying tuition, and a lot of yelling - actual big things but nothing that requires a heart, it‚a parents duty. I tried telling her that, but no patience. She‚too busy taking it as an insult. -",

"-When Ive had any kind of problem in life outside of getting me a tutor for school or whatever when struggling, I‚ve been on my own. Never helped me with a problem. It‚culturally not allowed to talk to her about problems with a girl friend, fears you may be struggling with,-",

"-or the cherry on top: talking about ‚this situation‚ and its origins. It‚a hard sad d**che bag thing to say, but if I manage to get my own maid, there wouldn‚t be much to reminisce over my mom. -",

"-My dad is too busy philosophizing about family ideals &preaching. I mean he couldn‚t dream of making the religious points I do, or no offense, pray ‚heart fueled‚ prayers in the mind over ‚out-loud‚ mechanical singing/praying out of thinking that makes him a solid human being. -",

"-Both my parents need to listen more and talk less. When I share something I like or about myself with my mom, she‚ll be like, why are you telling me or will hammer @ something while I‚m talking, literally. I mean I tried correcting things with my mom by talking to her about it,-",

"-but you never get through, although forgivable on both sides as and when needed. On a side note, quality of life in India is understood as how religious you are and your spending power. Me using potential rent money on fitness equipment-",

"-and massage guns makes it seem like I have nothing to complain about. It‚adds to my family being unable to admit to problems, when I mention things to do with a life of meaning. Stuff like that gives life experience and teaches you what you want. -",

"-In my girl friend/wife, I need a woman who‚patient, listens, comprehends, and so forth...but back to the point about the cousin...-",

"-I mean, after a certain age, you want friends in ur family. In India, amongst my family, if a relative does a favor like sit with you for a day in mostly silence, at someone else‚suggestion, that means ur best friends.-",

"-All these random formalities and awkwardness arises with genuinely good, sincere people. My best friends are people who ‚do stuff with me or for me‚ and that I can ‚confide in.‚But I guess that‚where you gotta go out and meet people. -",

"-Family can‚t always be as you desire or expect, as life is complicated in its own respective way for everyone, be it through difficult personalities or cultural formalities.People need to find their kinda people to be friends and family. I‚ve heard:-",

"-‚Friends are the brothers and sisters God forgot to give us.‚",

"what else, what else....",

"I don‚t understand how the orchestrators overpower or left me under my parents. For that, do they meet all the criteria for their entertainment? Did anyone do psychological background checks on everyone involved for something as massive as this? -",

"-This could take a toll on my parents when they have to betray their son. This could take a toll on the orchestrators after 11 years of failure and lies. I mean parents‚ culture restricts them from letting me live the normal American life required of the ‚show.‚-",

"-For them, it‚religion all day/everyday(Christian that is). While they‚ve been in the country for 11  years & dealt with non Indian people, do they understand things or see things the way I have the potential of doing? Did they understand the depth & severity of this project?-",

"-&like a lot of minority parents, or parents from elsewhere,or who haven‚t been in America's love dovy way of handling things for generations, despite myParent‚undeniable love4me &willingness 2give me everything b4 this, theyd beat me as a child if I misbehaved/got a badGrade.-",

"-There were instances where my dad, who I don‚t see any less &just doing his job cuz of what Im used to, beat me w/a hanger till my legs turn red. But when American entertainment officials come along yrs later, does this kind of history check out w/ ur possible background check?-",

"-Did the orchestrators do their homework at all? Its amidst this kind of setting, that Ill punch a wall once or throw things twice in 11 years after days of provocation. In our normal lives, do the orchestrators think any of this matters or at least 2 us, as people, as a family?-",

"-For taking eleven years of my life, when I was at my prime, when friends have mine have become lawyers with beautiful couples and children, if I can take that kind of beating and what you did to me through these years along-",

"-with personal hardships and growth, wait till you see what I do to you, one by mine. Riches and glamour can‚t replace 11 years of torment. -",

"-Life is great, but between the orchestrators and me, it‚kind of like Jefferson Pierce in final few episodes of Black Lightning against Tobias Whale for killing his father and tormenting his family. Jefferson has a life with super powers. But when he loses them, -",

"-he faces Tobias in a showdown, where he accepts the possibility of death. I am willing to lose everything and end up on the street to see the orchestrators rot in jail for persisting, carelessly, in what is, my life.-",

"-You messed up my youth, my family, my chance at a 4.0 gpa education, the resulting career opportunities, my health, social opportunities, putting me through the indignity of having my world basically on team on speaking terms against me who they never talk to...-",

"- all for an America that I once compared to heaven because of its potential for altruism and representation from all over. Do the orchestrators realize what they set up today I had already without them years ago? Way to steal my life on \"multiple levels.\"-",

"-Enjoy the rest of our time together, orchestrators. U, the orchestrators, cowards, hide behind high end tech &possible authority figures or government contracts, but when we‚re face 2face, provoke me in person, I dare you, as urself, &me as me, not you doing ur weird mind cr*p.-",

"-Let‚see if the orchestrators have the b*lls, before one of us undeniably is guaranteed to go down, whoever it is.",

"moving on ... what else ...",

"I‚m honestly talking about my family and the situation, because after 11 years, through observations and the situation not ending, I‚m convinced no one is actually being honest about me.  (I used the word ‚observations‚ in the last sentence.-",

"-Problem with using that word is that the orchestrators will forge the next setting with things for me to pick up on cuz they‚re psychotic and refuse to restore the natural setting and normalcy of my life-natural setting is what I‚ve been after for 11 years...)-",

"-I mean what comes to mind in seeing me without any of this in ur head, while not denying/hiding/ what‚happened to me over these 11+ years?! - THATS THE NATURAL SETTING. ONE directive, ONE instruction...and if taking care of what I‚m after was ur goal, this is it, ur done. -",

"-Doesn‚t require resources or effort on anyone‚part. It‚just people being themselves- natural.-mentioned/repeated multiple times in old complaints.) -",

"so now some normal tweets before I get on with my day...",

"So apparently, a massage gun isn‚t a substitute for foam rolling or stretching...",

"‚Tea tree hair and body moisturizer‚ leave in conditioner is, I think, the greatest hair gel ever. When my hair was thick and long, I used to use tea tree styling wax, topped off with Sebastian potion 9 leave in conditioner...but I really love the tea tree moisturizer...-",

"-the tea tree moisturizer...you can use it on ur hair and skin...wish this stuff existed ages ago...",

"-The kiehls blue eagle shave cream provides a smoother shave 4‚me‚ than their lotion...they have another version that I just want to try: the white eagle version-$7 more...I put ‚me‚ in quotes, cuz it might work for others...i think different men have different kinds of stubble.-",

"-There‚this one guy working at a coffee shop I go to, who‚got to be having the smoothest cleanest shave. You see no stubble. But I mean the concept of shave lotions are nice cuz you can just wipe off when done. -",

"With Shave creams, you gotta wash off, and washing ur face and neck in the sink just gets water everywhere.",

"‚Yogibo Support‚ is good for reading or looking at your phone on your bed. Google it.",

"I‚ve talked about punjabis and pagdiwalas, but that being said, if there are any Guju‚like Ameesha Patel, hit me up.",

"Best combination of an idea: get the DoorDash dash pass free trial for a month and if you have around a $150 rewards from ur credit card, transfer it to DoorDash gift card. It‚ll get you 2 weeks of outside food or restaurant food for breakfast, lunch, dinner. -",

"-Credit card rewards! Take advantage. Nice to use card with benefits-quite an incentive over cash. That‚how I‚ve been ordering food, if that too is part of the ‚entertainment‚, not cuz I‚m loaded. Just a regular guy under 11 years of hype. -",

"-Be natural. React in what comes to mind on seeing me, minus pre-exisitng cr*p in ur head, without hiding/denying the existence of that cr*p.",

June 1st accounts of family friends enemies desire for things to be natural and normal tweets - all right side up on tumblr blog link below:  https://t.co/386AQbxvzB

[jodybouchard9]

Easy Hacks to Turn Home Improvement Castoffs Into Awesome New Projects

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Whether you are doing a complete renovation or have taken on a small home improvement project, chances are you might have a few items left over once the work is complete. Rather than chucking those castoffs, leftovers, and scraps, what if you could repurpose them into something really cool?

We have you covered! Here are a few clever ideas to get you started on upcycling your home improvement extras so you can enjoy the ripple effect of one improvement begetting another.

For extra crown molding

If you have extra crown molding lying around after you’ve fully decked out your house, take a tip from Eugenia Lung of Geniabeme and repurpose them as the ultimate shoe rack. Saw off the pieces of molding to fit on the inside of your closet door or other wall, paint them an eye-catching color, then glue them in place (see pic below). Any shoe with a heel will hang perfectly on the molding (and just think of how much near your once-shoe-strewed floor will look now).

A whole new way to use crown moulding.

geniabeme.com

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For extra PVC pipe

If you’ve recently completed a plumbing project and found yourself with extra PVC pipe, use it to make this inexpensive bed canopy.

Blogger Nancy Rector at Our Peaceful Planet came up with this clever alternative use for piping when she wanted to make over her bedroom on the cheap. The result: a cheap yet elegant oasis.

Sleep like royalty draped in luxury and a little piping.

ourpeacefulplanet.com

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For old sheets of plywood

If your doors are flat and lacking in personality, maybe you’ve considered switching to a paneled model. Well, guess what? You can actually create a paneled door out of old sheets of plywood.

Jenna Diermann of Jenna Sue Designs shared this project on Remodelaholic and noted that it cost her less than $15 and an afternoon’s worth of work to give this door a significant face-lift.

Make your doors like rich and sophisticated for just $12.

remodelaholic.com

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For old sawhorses

If you’re massively into DIY projects, chances are you have a couple of sawhorses standing around taking up space. Why not put them to good use by transforming them into a funky and functional $50 desk?

Whitney Gainer of Shanty2Chic did just that. After finding the perfect desk for $600, she just knew she could make one for a fraction of the price. Stain the wood to match your decor, and you’ve got one workhorse of a workspace.

From sawhorse to workhorse in a few easy steps!

shanty-2-chic

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For old pallets and chairs

Mary Moore of Raising Dick & Jane had a few extra pallets in her garage, so she decided to repurpose them and create a country-chic bench.

If you have extra wood and chairs that could use a new lease on life, this is an easy project that leaves you with extra seating and less debris in your garage or basement.

As Moore says, “Just because something is old, it does not mean it is useless.”

Resurrect those old chairs with the help of wood from a leftover pallet.

raisingdickandjane.com

For countertop scraps

Want a classy cutting board that doesn’t cost a fortune? Amy Sarah of Cheap and Wise wanted a pastry board but didn’t want to pay a lot for it. Her solution? She visited a local shop that makes custom marble and granite countertops and was able to get a small piece of marble that was cut from a larger slab to create a sink hole.

Attach adhesive rubber feet to the bottom to protect your table.

cheapwise.blogspot.com

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For old pipes

Can’t decide if you prefer an industrial or rustic look? Thanks to these pipe shelves you no longer have to choose.

Pam Dana of the decor and lifestyle blog Over the Big Moon put old pieces of pipe to work as the brackets for rustic-looking shelving—and couldn’t be happier with the results. Get caps for the pipes to finish them off, and spray-paint them to complement your decor.

Old wood and pipes get a new lease on life as rustic shelving.

overthebigmoon.com

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Watch: Do You Need to Remodel Before You Sell?

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[tsghuntsvillealabama]

The Gas and the Brakes—Meet the Team Behind Interiors By Consign

Welcome to our regular feature where we introduce you to the local people who bring great living and inspiration to Huntsville!

These gals—Jennifer Mullin and Pam Birkholz absolutely dominate the upscale furniture consignment market in North Alabama! And this completely lovely dynamic duo behind Interiors By Consign had a lot to share with us about their business and themselves. 

TSG:  How many years have you been in (this) business?

Jennifer:  Our Interiors By Consign Huntsville store is 26 years old, and we have owned it almost 6 years now.

TSG:  What inspired you to start your own business?

Jennifer:  We love good quality furniture and accessories too! We want to help everyone create the home of their dreams and also provide a much needed way for those moving, downsizing or redecorating to repurpose their upscale, brand name furniture locally.

TSG:  How did the two of you meet and eventually decide to go into business together? I have heard you have been friends for a long time?

Jennifer:  Yes. Pam and I have been friends for over 20 years. When I was home raising my kids I started a business doing events and some interior decorating. At that time, Pam worked in admin for a couple of companies in Guntersville. For many years, Pam helped me with weddings and some corporate parties when she could. As our kids grew up and went to college we both ended up working very part time for the previous owner of Interiors By Consign. We had been looking and frankly praying for something to do together when the owner of the store asked me if I was interested in buying it.  It was a total God thing. I had wanted a store for as long as I can remember.  I asked Pam to join me and we are now 6 years into this adventure. Almost 2 years ago we opened a 2nd location in Madison. No plans to stop –  we are full steam ahead.  We feel blessed and incredibly thankful to have the opportunity  to take an already good store and make it something truly unique. We like to say we are gas and brakes. I have endless ideas and ability to jump right in, and Pam has a lot of admin experience and calm to slow the train when needed.  It just works!

TSG:  What is unique about your business?

Jennifer:  We are the only Upscale Furniture Consignment Store in North Alabama. We are very picky about what we consign and sell. We specialize in Upscale, Brand Name, Like New Consignment Furniture, lamps, mirrors and art. We also have locally themed HSV pillows, towels, and candles that we have designed and sourced.

TSG:  When you're not working, you are both...

Jennifer:  I am trying to hike to all the waterfalls in North Alabama, and Pam is playing with her beautiful Schnauzer - Pfeffer.

TSG:  What is your favorite thing about Huntsville?

Jennifer:  The small town feel in an ever growing environment. We love that there are so many concerts, movies and events where you can still see your neighbors and also meet new people. ..and really where else can you listen to music, and eat German food under a rocket?

TSG:  Give us some words to live by.

Jennifer:  Comparison is the thief of Joy!  We really believe in rowing our own boat and celebrating all the other local business in our area too! To this end we have begun a 1st Friday Business Spotlight where we feature another small business on our Facebook page on the 1st Friday of every month in 2020. Let’s celebrate shopping small and support each other!

TSG:  What's on your desk right now?

Jennifer:  A blog post I am writing about repurposing furniture in a sustainable way in 2020.

TSG:  What do you never leave home without?

Jennifer:  Phone and Fitbit—I want credit for all the steps I can get!

TSG:  Is there anything else you want us to know/share?

Jennifer:  We work hard to keep our website current and update almost daily. We post pics of all of our furniture in both locations, Huntsville & Madison, on our new arrivals tabs on the homepage.  You can see our current inventory in both stores anytime. We also post on Facebook and Instagram but our website is the only place to see it all! Under our Tips & Advice tab  you can read our blog on 10 Things to Know When Downsizing, see our 1st Friday Videos and more.

Interiors By Consign has been Promoting Reuse for over 26 Years! 

Thank you ladies!

[joneswilliam72]

"I believe in having no regrets in life..." - Meet Stormi Maya and David Vaughn of the satirical sex robots tale 2050

Technology is a double-edged sword. It was designed to improve humanity's lot by making our lives easier, and in many ways it has – just look at advances in medical technology or even your smart phone, how many devices did it replace all in one mini computer in your pocket?

Yet, technology also has enabled the worst drives of humanity. Tragedies like the Holocaust and devices like the Atomic Bomb are unequivocal proof of that. Still with certain other types of technology, we are not yet sure of the scope of the impact on humanity as a whole. For instance, we simply do not know enough yet – scientifically speaking – to say how damaging social media really can be or whether too much screen time will always turn people into head cases. We’re getting closer to understanding, but the science is anything but settled.

Still, the questions entailed in looking at this issue are also quintessentially existential. Director Princeton Holt's thoughtful, romantic, sci-fi, satire 2050 tackles these issues from that very human direction. In it, Dean Cain plays Maxwell, a purveyor of perfectly obedient and submissive sex robots who gets his claws into struggling family man Michael Greene (played by 2050 producer and co-writer David Vaughn).

Michael was seduced by Maxwell's sex robot parlor precisely because of what is being offered: perfect obedience without him having to put forth any effort of his own. All of the upside, seemingly none of the down. But is a relationship with one of Maxwell's robots – specifically Quin, played by creative force of nature, artist, musician, emcee, model, actress, producer, writer, and director Stormi Maya (She's Gotta Have It Season 2) – enough to displace anything human? What does that question and its implications have to say about the human condition and our growing technological dependencies?

2050 probes all these questions in a smart, thought-provoking, and elegant way – while not mincing on the satirical side of its essence as a film. Check out the film's website here for release information as it makes its way on the theater circuit this spring. Also, enjoy the separate interviews below with Stormi Maya and David Vaughn.

David Vaughn as Michael Greene in this still from 2050.

Stormi Maya as Quin in this still from 2050.

Stormi Maya

Hello Stormi and welcome to The 405! To start things off, what initially attracted you to 2050?

When I saw the casting the concept instantly intrigued me. To play a robot was something I'd never thought I play and it was a challenge that excited me. I am always attracted to super unique and creative things.

You did it very well, 2050 was intriguing to watch in no small part because of your contribution. What was it like getting into the head space of Quin?

It was crazy to play Quin because in acting you're supposed to have emotion and be relatable. Quin is not human so I had to have no emotions and act extremely non-human.

That's interesting and actually gets into a related question I had: what were the other challenges like?

It was interesting to go into a state of no emotion and to act like I didn't understand certain human problems and emotions. It was fun though.

That's fantastic. Any funny or memorable moments that stick out from the process of filming?

The sex scenes were very new to everyone – it was the director's first one and for myself and the other actor, so it was a little awkward and new, but everyone was extremely professional and respectful. Also our lunches and breaks were amazing: it was full of laughter, jokes and great stories. We really bonded.

Interesting. Those scenes do arguably form a lot of the core of what 2050's story is, with its tremendous social commentary on technology, dependence, and relationships. What do you hope audiences will take away with them from the film?

The film is a satire of how we are so dependent on technology that we are losing human connections and I hope people grasp that.

Me too. The message is very timely with all the new findings science has on the effects of technologies like social media on humanity.

Stormi Maya. Pic courtesy of Stormi Maya.

Switching gears a bit, to a question I put to most everybody: what films, directors, actors and/or performances have shaped you as an artist?

I love Pam Grier because she’s a strong black woman who embraces her sexuality and sexual power… I am inspired by Eartha Kitt – she was extremely intelligent, knowing multiple languages and holding many talents. I also admire her energy, she was sassy, strong and someone you could not push over.

Pam Grier and Eartha Kitt are fantastic. I loved Grier especially in Tarantino’s Jackie Brown and, of course, her earlier work like Foxy Brown. She has a presence about her, an x factor, which you also have Stormi. You are insanely multi-talented: model, actress, writer, director, musician, a theatre background. Any advice for people out there? How do you balance all those things so well?

I believe in having no regrets in life, I want to do everything my heart desires and everyone should try doing that in life at least once before dying. The key to balancing many things is to do them stress free, have moments where you focus all your energy on one skill and build on it; also, truly love and enjoy what you do and it will not feel like work . My talents and skills over all are all related – it's art. That's why it's easy for me to transition back and forth. If your various careers are related or similar you can easily work on them simultaneously.

I have great respect for people with the boldness and ability to do that. Speaking of art, what artists and works of any discipline or media have really influenced you?

Spike Lee is a huge influence – his talent, dedication and drive. I was blessed to work with him on SGHI2. I'm also a huge fan of Frida Kahlo; I love her feminism, her rebellious spirit and her rawness.

Spike is great – so is Frida, I'm a big fan of the symbolism and surrealism of her work.

Stormi Maya. Pic courtesy of Stormi Maya.

It saddens me BlacKkKlansman didn't get Best Picture when it clearly deserved it. Not just because of its message either – it was great entertainment, a compellingly-told good versus evil story with Sgt. Stallworth versus the Klan, I thought. Those are things that to me define a truly great film – it has to be entertaining and suck you in.

Which naturally leads to our next question, what makes a great film?

Rawness. The art being valued over the commercial. I like films that make me feel like I'm truly there. Draw me in.

Me too. If I can't suspend my disbelief and forget I'm watching a movie, I'm done. Might as well turn it off. With 2050 I had no trouble getting lost in the film because the story, acting, and satirical value were all strong.

Our last question Stormi, what's next for you? Will we be seeing more directing and writing from you? Cattle: The Cult was interesting to say the least, but it felt like it's an idea that needs more exploring in perhaps a feature film.

I am a rapper /emcee so I’m focusing a lot on my music now and going on tour soon, performing all over the world. She's Gotta Have It season two is coming in the summer and you'll see me on the Netflix screen as Yennifer Clemente. I'm always filming and you'll definitely see more movies of mine soon.

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Stormi's socials can all be found at the links here: Instagram, Twitter, music YouTube channel, other YouTube channel, Facebook. Head over to her website here to see the full version of her short film Cattle: The Cult after checking out the trailer below along with the music video to her song "STFU" in her Instagram post embedded below.

CATTLE: THE CULT (2018) trailer.

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Still from 2050.

David Vaughn

Hello David and welcome to The 405! To start things off, what attracted you to 2050 and initially inspired you on the project? I know you are one of the credited writers and a producer in addition to lead actor.

What initially sparked this project was simply a need to produce a genre movie that was marketable. The idea itself came from an article that Princeton [Holt] read and subsequently sent to Brian [Ackley] and myself. It made the claim that by the year 2050 humans and robots would be in fully functioning romantic relationships.

Interesting.

All we had to do then was imagine what that world would look like. While it was a collaborative effort in creating the story, Brian did a fantastic job of actually writing the script. For me the biggest attraction to 2050 was the opportunity to not only be a lead on the project but to also produce at the same time. My inspiration came from my love of the genre, and Princeton's continuous enthusiasm for pushing creative limits on a budget. I wouldn't have been able to do what I did without his constant reminder that we are in this to create and not to settle.

Love that ethos, "low budget high concept." What was your individual and the collective creative process like as the film was being written?

It was a very collaborative effort. We would brainstorm about the story, characters, relationships, etc then Brian would put it into writing. After he had a draft ready, we would all read it, and start the process over again until we had a story that we all agreed was ready to produce. It wasn't easy. The three of us have very different tastes and styles, so I believe that what we ended up with is the most universal version that we could have made.

Awesome when those things click. What were the other challenges like?

Like all indie movies, we had many challenges to overcome. There were time constraints, budgetary deficits, locations falling through at the last minute, talent pulling out at the last minute – if it could go wrong it did. Murphy's Law was in full effect.

That sucks David. But yeah these things do tend to happen with film generally.

On the other hand we had amazing friends and support staff who worked their asses off to make sure that we would always land on our feet. Princeton and I would always be up until 2 or 3 AM after shooting trying to lock down locations for the following day, or finding an actor, or reworking a scene, or going over dailies. It was like being in a pressure cooker and trying to stay in character at the same time.

I love hearing about that kind of perseverance. What was it like getting in that head space of Michael Greene?

Becoming Michael Greene was easy. He and I are very similar. The challenge was staying in that head space and producing at the same time. There were a lot of days when I was literally running back and forth between takes because we didn't have an art department or costume department, or a script supervisor, so I was wearing a lot of hats at the same time.

Wow, yeah, I bet. Not too often I get to talk to someone wearing as many hats as you did.

Still from 2050.

Any funny or memorable moments which stick out from behind the scenes during filming?

There are, but you'll have to wait and hear them on the director's cut with commentary. I give all the secrets away!

[Laughs] fair enough. What do you hope people will take from 2050?

It was – I thought – very funny with some pointed observations about relationships but sad at the same time as we see the effects of the robots. The other thing that really stuck out for me was the music, too.

The music was perfect. It really accented the existential nature of the story while juxtaposing it with the artificial nature of 2050's technology.

Classical seemed to perfectly punctuate it and also serve as a nice juxtaposition with the action happening on screen. At any rate, quite a few existential questions were posed and answered eloquently. Well, the eMates didn't affect everyone negatively. That's the takeaway. I want people to see that happiness is different for everyone. The process to find what that happiness looks like can be painful, but it's necessary. To me the eMates are a metaphor for whatever it is that brings you happiness. I hope people's minds are opened a little, and they see that just because they believe something is right, it doesn't mean it's right for everyone.

GREAT takeaway. Switching gears to a question I ask everybody: what films, directors, actors, and/or particular performances have shaped and molded you as an artist?

Stanley Kubrick, David Lynch, Wes Anderson, P.T. Anderson, Lars von Trier, the Coen brothers, Tony Kaye, Darren Aronofsky, Martin Scorsese, to name a few directors. De Niro in Taxi Driver, Hoffman in The Graduate and Midnight Cowboy, Nicholson in The Shining, Hopkins in everything he's ever done… the actor list could go on forever. As for films that have influenced me, there's a litany of them.

Yeah, it's a big question by nature. What makes a great film?

A story that moves people, filmed in a way that keeps them interested, by a team that cares about making the best possible work.

I like that. Great, succinct, to the point.

Dean Cain as Maxwell in this still from 2050.

Our last question, will we be seeing more from you as a director and writer? What’s next for you?

Absolutely you will be seeing more of me as a writer/director. Currently I'm working on a movie franchise. I've written the first screenplay and have the next four in development.

Follow David Vaughn on Twitter here.

2050 (2018) trailer.

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[chillswisher]

*EXTERIOR PIERCE HOME* Ryan closes the door on his 2015 Silverado. Home for the first time in 13 days after working an extended trip for the railroad. Some days he regrets buying the Silverado new and wishes he’d bought used instead. But today he’s glad to have the working A/C and the radio antenna that doesn’t drop out across the plateau. He enters his marital home to a surprising silence. “Might as well not ruin a good thing,” he thinks as he quietly slinks through the foyer into the family room. There awaits him his favorite chair and an unoccupied tv. Score. He puts on the MNF pregame coverage just in time for C’MON MAN. “Ha, idiots.” For the first time he hears some movement upstairs. “Caty must have fallen asleep in the baby’s nursery. Maybe she’s coming down to gobble on this penis,” he wonders to himself as a huge grin crosses his lips. That grin, however, would soon disappear as Caty emerges from the dark holding his iPad in her right hand and shot puts it into his face from 12 feet away. “What the hell,” he says in a hushed tone as to not disturb the baby. “What the hell? You have some nerve, you sonuvabitch.” Now bewildered, he realizes that she had pulled something up on his iPad before launching it at him. His heart sunk as he saw the iMessage chat between he and his best friend Clint. Clint was a fairly simple man who worked the railroad with Ryan. They had been together on this recent trip and bonded over some cold beers telling old war stories from high school. Easier days. His attention snaps back to the issue at hand. “Baby, I swear Clint just sent these to me. You know there’s no way I’d ask for them.” “Oh I read aaaalll the messages, you asshole. How could you say she looked ‘nice’ and ‘hot’. You pig.” The pictures in question were of Clint’s wife, Pam. In all fairness, Clint did send the picture with the caption, “hey, check jt out. We got the rest of Pams tatto colored in 😜” In the picture you can see Pam clearly in a public restroom taking a mirror selfie of her newly finished tattoo...and her exposed bosom. And not exactly subtlety either. “Baby, I really am sorry but I can’t control everything that my friend sends me. And I didn’t want to be rude.” “Rude? Seriously, rude? All you have to say is, ‘Clint, I love my wife. I don’t need to see yours.’” “Baby, this is just how guys are now. I can’t help it but it might offend him if I tell him to stop or he’ll tell all our coworkers I’m a puff.” “I can not believe you. While I’m here taking care of our son you’re out running around with your railroad buddies doing god knows what and trading pictu-........have you ever sent any of your friends pictures of me!?” For the first time in a long time Ryan physically felt his penis turtle all the way up inside his body. He loved his wife very much and still ultimately found her attractive even with the 15 pounds of baby fat. So proud of her attractiveness that yes, he had shared her photos but only once or twice and only with Clint...he thinks. “Honey, no way. You know I’m too good of a Christian man to do that sort of thing. I’m not like all these other guys.” “Let me see your phone.” It was at this point Ryan turned a sickly white. He knew that he’d been gone for 13 days. He knew that he’d gotten drunk and definitely shared pics with all 6 guys on the trip and there’s no way he’d deleted his messages. “Caty, I need to be a better husband-“ “Get your shit and go stay with your Dad for a few days. I can’t even look at you,” she said as she walked away and simultaneously pulled up the Facebook app on her phone. *INTERIOR RYAN’S DAD’S TRAILER, COUCH* Ryan had called his dad and told him he screwed up. His dad of course couldn’t turn away his boy. Ryan texted Clint as he lay there in the dark to tell him about the crazy night he just had. *BUZZ* “That sucks man lol I guess we all need to lay low for a while 😅” - - - *BUZZ* “But since you’re already in the doghouse, here’s one for the road, you old bastard” Ryan scrolled down to see a tasteful, tight shot of Pam’s asshole. At the very top of the frame he could see the lower portion of her PROPERTY OF CLINT tattoo. He let out a long sigh as he stared deeply into his friend’s wife’s asshole and thought about his life. He then proceeded to masturbate to the photo, finishing in his left sock. Soon after he fell asleep silently weeping thinking about his transgressions while the music video for Mötley Crüe’s “Home Sweet Home” played on VH1 classic on his dad’s 28” TV.

[dudence-blog]

Dear Dudence for 28 November 2017

The first leg of the holiday marathon is complete.  Leftovers are diminishing in anticipation of making room for the next major hurdle.  A Westveltern 12 was enjoyed and the arm glow of that deliciousness carries me through to now.  So, let’s go ahead and get back into the swing of things.

My fiancé and I are both gay but he was married very briefly, 25 years ago, to “Pam.” They had two girls, and they stayed a part of each other’s lives after the divorce. Pam was even the biological mother for the son he had with his next partner. They’ve shared every holiday, vacation, and family event, even after the kids grew up and left the house. My fiancé lost his partner several years before we met.

Dear Out of the Way, you certainly have the right to draw a border between your future marriage and your fiance’s relationship with his ex-wife.  I’m going to venture though that this is a fucking emotional minefield you’re setting to go through on a pogo-stick.  This isn’t your run-of-the-mill ex, she birthed a child for your fiance and his deceased husband (on an unrelated note, don’t say “lost”, say what you mean.  Dude died.) and they have maintained an exceptionally emotionally connected relationship for a quarter century.  It’s never a bad idea to have a conversation with your life-partner-to-be about boundaries and your life together, but you might want to be prepared for some answers you don’t want to receive.

I recently asked a friend out after she’d broken up with her boyfriend. It was a hard pass on her part: no gray areas, definitely not going to happen. I’m not going to lie, that was not the best five minutes I’ve ever had. We’re still friends with no hard feelings, except … I still like her. If she ever said, “Hey! I was wrong about you being completely sexually unattractive to me! Let’s go dance and make out like bunnies,” I would be there. If she never feels that way, that’s grand too. She’s fun to be around. She didn’t say I was completely sexually unattractive to her, but that was the gist I got, just phrased nicely.

Dear Not-a-Creeper Primer, maybe this is a tautology, but the best way to not be a creeper is to not be a creeper.  An opportunity presented itself, you took it, and it didn’t work out.  I applaud you taking the chance; speaking as a fellow chance-taker good on you.  As long as your Bad Five Minutes didn’t involve a boom box or a soliloquy about how you two are really soul mates it’s probably recoverable.  Asking her out after the break-up was probably a bit too soon, but, as Wayne Gretsky said, you miss all the shots you don’t take.  Accept that she’s not interested in you in that way, will not be, and move on accordingly.  If, through the course of events she changes her mind, great.  But don’t deny you your own happiness holding out hope that she comes around.  There’s three and a half billion women on this planet, some other one will be very, very eager to bang you, maybe even not for money!

My father received an inquiry from a woman claiming to be the “love child” of my late uncle. (We have verified her claim.) She wants to know more about the family and has requested to connect via social media, but a quick glance at her Facebook reveals a torrent of conservative posts and borderline-racist comments. Is it OK to gracefully decline but still provide health information and family linkages?

Dear Ancestry Question, let me get this straight, because this woman has bad thoughts you don’t want to share information about her biological family’s history, but you’d be willing to do so had she expressed the currently-correct thoughts?  Because you know you don’t need to connect to her on Facebook to share that information right?  You didn’t need to be connected to New Pru to ask her this question afterall, or her to you to answer it.  So, yes, it is okay to decline her friend request while still providing the answers to questions she asks.

I can’t tell if I’m hanging onto a grudge, overly insecure, or justified: Recently, my husband confessed to having an emotional affair with a young woman who worked with him. It happened 10 years ago. We were, I thought, happily married when they became close. He tried to kiss her, and she rebuffed him. They continued working together and he felt she “understood” him while he was feeling lost; six months later they briefly made out, then pulled back physically, but continued to have a “special, close” relationship until they stopped working together several years later. He claims that he always loved me, they never had any kind of sex, and anyway, I wasn’t meeting his needs at the time. He’s apologized profusely since telling me, and I believe that he’s sorry.

Dear Long Ago and Far Away, your husband is a moron and I dislike him intensely.  For whatever reason the knowledge he was unfaithful to you, and you didn’t know it, was bothering him so much that he needed to unburden himself to you.  Let me take him at his word that he only connected with her emotionally rather than penisly.  This is a very selfish act on his part, he’s trying to make himself feel better by sharing information you were ignorant of, were not going to discover, and was not going to improve your relationship.  He then competes for the Silver Medal in the Dumb Move Olympics sponsored by Bad Idea Jeans by trying to blame you for why he felt the need to sext his underling.  In case you’re curious the Gold Medal will be if he really did bang her and he tried to do this modified, limited hangout because he wanted to soften the blow.  Believe it or not there are choices between “I’m really not feeling emotionally supported by my wife whom I love, I’m going to suffer on in silence,” and “Hey employee, I’m horny and my wife doesn’t understand me, send me a tit pic!”.  It’s too fresh to be a grudge, I can see “insecure” as a feeling this would inspire, but you are wholly justified in being upset and hurt by this.

I don’t know who to ask without sounding like a braggart, so I’m hoping you can help. After years of living paycheck to paycheck, my spouse was unexpectedly promoted. The pay is excellent and right in time for the holidays! I should be celebrating—but I don’t know how. I don’t remember a time when I didn’t have to stretch a penny, even in childhood. I excitedly picked out some cheap but beautiful holiday decorations the other day but returned them before I could even get to the register. Less than $30 worth of stuff that made my and my children’s eyes light up, but I could not do it! How do I get past this mindset?

Dear No Longer Struggling, far be it for me to harsh your high but taking some time to settle into this boon is not a bad idea.  Also, “My wage-slave husband got a promotion that came with a pay raise,” is not exactly the most impressive of brags.  Finally, I’m changing the name of this to “Dead Grinchence”.  Viewing a $30 gift to your family as something beyond the pale might be a bit much, and if they’re durable decorations which you can use for a couple Christmases it’s a completely reasonable splurge.  So, please, take that as permission to go back to Walmart and buy the 3ft inflatable penguin; it’s adorable.

I’m 54 years old. I’ve been divorced for 11 years and haven’t dated since—until last month, when I started dating an acquaintance. I really enjoy his company. He’s made a few passes at me and I wonder if he’s wanting sex. Nowadays, is there an appropriate period to wait before taking the plunge?

Dear When to Start, to answer your first question: Yes, he wants sex.  To answer your second question: No, there is no “appropriate” waiting period.  It’s banging, not buying a gun.  You wait as long as it takes for you to feel comfortable saying “yes”.  Preferably don’t be black-out drunk when you get that comfortable.

[ozsaill]

The power of the tribe

It’s barely 24 hours since I returned to Totem, rocking at anchor in Grenada. For nearly two weeks I was stateside, away from Jamie and the kids for what’s popularly known as “the Annapolis Boat Show.” The US Sailboat Show draws boaters from all over, and owns a reputation as THE show in north America. Two main roles filled my time at the event: for the first four days of the show, supporting legendary circumnavigator Lin Pardey in her booth, promoting the books she’s published (including Voyaging With Kids). Then, for four days I gave seminars at Cruisers U, working to inspire and educate gonna-go cruisers at the Naval Academy’s elegant Officers Club. Tucked between: a seminar and panel for Cruising World magazine.

Cruising World panel: Dave Gillespie, Wally Moran, Brittany Meyers, Diana Emmanuelli, and moi

Not gonna lie: this was series of long days without a break, a schedule that takes momentum to carry through. By necessity, my personal energy switch was flipped to “on” for the duration, from morning starts through evening events after the show closed for the day. On my feet most of the time, whether it was in the booth or in front of a classroom, there are a host of reasons this should have been exhausting. I dialed back on evening fun in the interest of self-preservation so I could hit the next day running: I worried about being able to get through on a high note.

As it turned out, there was a positive feedback loop at the show that kept me running. It feels so good to be among the tribe of people who “get it” – the fellow sailors who are, have, or aspire to take off and explore the world afloat. In fact, there was SO MUCH positive energy in this event that the only thing physically exhausted in its wake are my cheeks, which ache from so much smiling. Sharing my enthusiasm for cruising, passing that to others, feeds my soul.

Smiles and hugs booth

Lin’s booth was an all-star team of mostly-estrogen-powered fun. The open smile from past/future cruiser Nica Waters, my very good friend (and fellow admin at Women Who Sail), and open arms of The Boat Galley’s awesome Carolyn Shearlock got us dubbed the “smiles and hugs” booth thanks to the warm reception to visitors stopping by. We simply could not resist! All cruising questions answered, to the best of our breadth and depth.

Lin, Nica, me and Carolyn

Local sailor Craig was our rock, the guy who ducked back after hours to protect books when rain threatened (and knew exactly which pub to go for dinner nearby, and where to find Real Coffee). Together we made an indefatigable team.

What a joy to see the reactions and expressions people who have read Lin’s tales of her multi-circumnavigations over the years finally meet their hero. Meeting up with readers of the Sailing Totem blog and families who have been inspired by Voyaging With Kids gave me tremendous pleasure as well. It’s invigorating to share my enthusiasm for what we’ve done with people who may feel that their path towards cruising is ponderous or distant…to revive their conviction that all the planning, all the anticipation, are worth the time and effort…or those who just need a nudge of positive reinforcement.

And then there were the awesome humans like the Flora family, who came by with their three kids to talk about bluewater plans – and seeing how busy things were, came back to hand us lunch. Laurie & Alex, you are the  reason we ate on Friday afternoon, thank you!

Over the top were the Sailing Totem readers who showed up flying the colors: wearing our crew t-shirts at the show! I cannot tell you how very happy it made me to see them popping up around the show (one wearer, John from SV Last Chance, laughed with me saying “people keep asking me if I’m Jamie!”).

(These shirts are awesomely soft, comfy organic cotton—order them online here and send us a pic!)

Connecting with the show’s importance

In the stretch leading up to this journey I wasn’t the best partner or parent. Glued to my laptop preparing or refining presentations, making sure I was ready for the various seminars and panels where I’d speak, I didn’t have a lot of time for my family. In the middle of this stretch of work, one of our coaching clients wanted to know: is it worthwhile to attend the show? I couched my response in terms of the pros/cons: outlay to attend, vs value derived – a cold look at the tradeoffs, as we try to offer a balanced view with all coaching questions. Possibly due to the weight of prep, I was less positive than I might have been. That was wrong (sorry Jason, sorry Terry!).

In the wake of a stimulating trip comes fresh appreciation for the true value of the show, for two reasons. First, it is communing with the cruising tribe. I AM ACCUSTOMED to the company of cruisers. Of course, right? But I remember all too well how the years leading up to our departure were most challenging when we felt disconnected from this particular band of humans. Staying in touch with the mutual love we have blended from wanderlust and water affinity that prompts us to set sail. It’s important to nurture, when you have a wait until you can cast off. In Annapolis, you are surrounded by your people, and at the US Sailboat show, the energy of this tribe boosts dreams into plans and realities.

With the unstoppable Pam Wall: my partner in the two-day Cruising Women seminar

Second, the opportunity to access tremendous expertise. Friend and longtime maritime world denizen, Bill Parlatore, asked recently (paraphrasing): why are people willing to ask important questions online, and then accept bad advice in responses from total strangers? (This, by the way, is a major reason why we offer coaching services to help people go cruising!). The Annapolis boat show, and seminar series in particular, is an excellent place to learn from people with real, relevant experience. People who have been there / done that and aren’t just hiding behind a screen, feeding a psychological need to be heard instead of actually being useful. They include subject matter experts, and range from legends like Jimmy Cornell and Nigel Calder to champions of the voyaging future like 59 North’s Andy & Mia. (Pinch me, I still can’t believe I’m on that roster?!).

Yes, it’s costly to go when you’re not local and have to book flights and accommodations on top of entry fees, and that has to be weighed. But the quality of information to be gleaned must be counted in addition to the intangible value in connecting with the tribe of fellow boaters WHO GET IT is tremendous.

THIS is why the trip did not flatten me: the cruising community’s cultural bias towards mutual support. The positivity in this knowledge sharing to promote a lifestyle that I believe—in my heart of hearts—makes the world a better place, well…it’s uplifting, and a boost instead of a drain.

Catching up with friends

On the edge of the show schedule were many happy reunions. The crews of FIVE boats–and even some of the boats!–that we knew mainly from Southeast Asia were in Annapolis: the happy chance to reconnect some years after we last shared an anchorage (besos to Rutea, Solstice, Kite, Camomile, and Hokule’a!). A memorable evening with one of our readers-turned-friends-turned-found family (John, I am so grateful to have you in our lives.). Catching up on life over the best pork ribs ever with local sailors we met last year. In what has become an annual event, my dear friend Cindy and her family—cruisers and long time Annapolis liveaboards—hosted an evening at their marina, feeding and watering and sharing friendship among this yearly circle of sailors. Another two-years-running-let’s-call-it-annual pizza night with couples and families Jamie and I work with as cruising coaches, put real humans to the Skype/Facetime relationships.

It is a great feeling helping people make their cruising dreams a reality!

The admin team for Women Who Sail is TIGHT. We back each other up and mind-meld while moderating a group of about 13,000 women boaters. Having three of us together in one place? Priceless. Meeting dozens of other WWS members on the roof of Pussers? Unforgettable and heck yeah we’ll keep doing that every year!

With fellow admins Anne and Nica – I love these women! – and a host of WWS members

Yes, I’ve been waiting a long time to meet awesome captain / ASA instructor Angie Wilson.

Some of the old friends were actually first time in-person meets. Michael Robertson, one of my two co-authors for Voyaging With Kids, who I met for the very first time (I still need to meet Sara!). That’s right– I HAD NEVER MET MY CO-AUTHORS. We wrote that book entirely though email and Dropbox! And then– despite years of contact, and connection as fellow boat mamas, the show was the first time meeting Brittany Meyers (Windtraveler). We had an “almost meet” in Thailand a few years ago with Tasha Hacker (Chase the Story), who like Brittany was just so good to put hands on, and look in the eyes, and… shriek and laugh and generally revel in finally meeting up!

It’s the sum of so much kindness of friends old and new. Booth delivery of the obligatory Painkiller (Mary Marie, would you believe that’s the only one I had the whole time?!) and gifts to bring back for our kids (you know who you are – xoxo!), and… well, ….this. Jamie posted to our Facebook page that he’d purchased a new top-loading washing machine in my absence (in shiny white, replacing the deteriorating blue model)…these fantastic readers couldn’t resist showing up at the booth with an improved plunger, designed specifically for agitating bucket laundry. Cracked me right up! The kids thank you!

Homeward bound

I gave myself a break on the way home. There was probably a faster way, but sleeping in and spending a gentle morning with the very special “found family” I have on SV Majestic… then flying to Florida for another night with two girlfriends in Miami… well. This was the restorative, high-energy-optional respite I needed to come down from the high of the show. As much as I thrive on sharing my enthusiasm, the break to relax in the company of friends who let me be my sometimes messy self was the necessary balm.

Casualty of an overfull mind, I left my Kindle behind in Miami. I thought I’d save this book (kindly inscribed by the author at the show) until back aboard Totem. Instead, Jean-du-Sud and the Magick Byrd, Yves Gelinas’ page turner—a memoir in the vein of Moitessier —carried me over the Caribbean sea, lost in the story of his southern ocean travails while he completed a solo circumnavigation. (Finally available in English, it’s just been published by 59 North: find it on their website, or get a Kindle edition from Amazon)

I read on the plane, watching the familiar shapes of Bahamian islands drift below, letting the many positive experiences of the trip sink in. For all the reasons above, and for many other little joys in the everyday that come from shifting our scenery and rhythm. Like the awesome Lyft driver, Edmund, who made such good company the first day I finagled to book him the rest of my stay. The maternal West Indian woman who fed me vegetables from her in-flight meal (mine didn’t look nutritious enough) will telling stories of her scattered family. The unexpected meet with future cruisers in what were otherwise cold over-chilled empty spaces in the airport lounge.

At some point I wondered if we’d be making it back to future shows but with fresh hindsight, I can’t imagine missing now. Jamie and I are already working out where we’ll be and which airport to fly from and can’t wait to be back next year.

In Miami with Kerry (ThumbsUp International) and Patty (Voyage into Healing)

You know you’re with your tribe when they pick you up in a dinghy

Two oceans of friendship, and counting

“As seen” at the boat show

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Maybe it was the physical act of changing locations or psychologically knowing that I’m officially away from the daily grind, but I haven’t been this calm in quite some time.

My plane got in at 5:00 am (Iceland’s time zone) and let’s just start with how amazing their airport is!  First stop is currency exchange and I’m thinking I have a lot of money to start with.  No ma’am Pam.  It’s hella expensive in Iceland and I’m not talking about airport goodies.  The entire country is on inflation.  And let me tell you, to my shock and delight, there are black and hispanic people living in Iceland.  Moving along.

Peep the sunrise as I take the shuttle into Reykjavic.  Stellar!!

Sunrise In Iceland

I chose to stay at Kex Hostel based off some quick but thorough research.  I wanted to be surrounded by people that were friendly but minded their business.  That’s what I got.  The atmosphere was extra cozy, filled with food, drinks, music and books.  The endless chatter from the guests wasn’t obnoxious at all.  It felt like the best of a local book shop as you sip tea (or coffee if you’re into that) while you catch up on the Sunday news or browse a new book.  I ate breakfast of porridge with muesli, lemon mint tea, and a spicy pate with ground wheat crackers, tomatoes and cucumbers.�� AH-mazing!!

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Check-in wasn’t until 2 pm and I had hours to kill.  I booked the tour for Golden Circle Day Tour which would take a drive around the countryside with stops at the Litli Geyser and the Secret Lagoon.  I wanted to go to the Blue Lagoon but I wasn’t aware of how packed that place gets and that I needed to book it well in advance of coming.  Lesson learned.  I can’t just wing it all the time.  But I have no regrets about the Secret Lagoon.  More on that later.

Of the things I forgot to pack up, my converter and adapter for my electronics.  I stowed my bag away and headed into town.  I got what I needed at the local convenience store, grabbed a quick snack at the local bakery and toured for a bit.  Maybe it was due to the fact that their tourism has exploded in the past few years.  Some 2-3 million visitors a year with a population size of less than 400K.  I was the lone black person and not even a eye was blinked.  Everyone, EVERYONE, spoke English just as fluently as they spoke their native language.  A woman did comment how she loved the color of my braids but it was in such a way that she saw braids before and the particular colors I used was nice.  Nor did she give me the inkling that she was about to make a grab for them like I was a new teacup poodle.

Seeing familiar sights of restaurants like Dominoes and Subway.

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Comforts from home

Subway’s a safe bet

A dedicated museum/gallery dedicated to dicks (or phallics, whatever is pc for you).

Suitable dick pic? The Icelandic Phallological Museum

On tour, there was so much to see and take in.  The serenity of Iceland is indescribable.  Now, I have a serious disdain for horses, but these horses, Icelandic horses (don’t call them ponies) didn’t smell (maybe it’s because of the Icelandic air), were friendly, small and understood multiple languages (or so the tour guide bragged).  I allowed myself to pet them.  Their fur was so soft and incredible.  Have one of them playfully bump in my chest was funny.  He thought I had food for him and I had to quickly let him know that I was broke and times were hard.

We stopped by the Sprungna fissure, which is an awesome and overwhelming experience.  As told by the tour guide, we were in the valley created by the tectonic plates between the North American and European continents.  I was seriously sending out prayers that the Earth did not decide to show off it’s power and move the earth while I was inside of it.  Dying on the first day of my trip from being swallowed by the earth is not on my itinerary.  With that being said, we bus stopped over the bridge so I actually go to stand in the space where two continental shelves meet.  Can you wrap your head around that?

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We stopped by the Litli Geyser.  I was able to eat some great, albeit expensive, food.  I walked along the geysers.  One geyser in the distance erupted and I got to see it from a ways back but the one closest to me, punked me.  It looked like was about to erupt, but, after 15 mins, all it did was steam, sputter and cough.  Oh well.  Moving along.

    Our next stop was the Secret Lagoon hot springs.  One of the most incredible experiences of my life, thus far.  I can’t compare it to any other hot spring since I’ve never tried one, but I’m in love with this one and want to make this an annual health vacation for myself.  Having to strip down in cold weather, walk out in to the cold in a wet body, QUICKLY get my ass from cold rock to heated water.  That’s a shock to the body.  But, man, that water was amazing.  Filled with all these minerals, I felt toxins leave my body (no exaggeration).  Every bit of stress that I had built up in my body over the last few years was leached out.  I braved the cold one more time for a glass (plastic though) of wine and floated around.  I played some Bachata threw my phone (Prince Royce),  I rubbed my toes all through the heated black rocks at the bottom of the springs (insta-massage).  The water was so clear!!!  The rocks lining the pool was heated so the water at the edges was hotter than the center.  I don’t know if there is a heaven, but this is that experience where you think that this must be that.  My level of relaxation went from 0 to 100.  I was a mushy mess leaving.  All the dead skin on my body was gone and my skin was smooth and hydrated.  Not that I was dirty (you have to thoroughly wash before going in) but, like I said, the toxins just came out of me.  I didn’t even want to walk anymore, cursing the universe for not let me be able to float like I wanted.

I slept on the drive back.  It wasn’t even a choice.  We arrived back at the hostel and I grabbed some wine, tea and food (expensive as heck) and regret nothing.  To top off the night, Kex Hostel has a nightly Jazz session.  It was good music, too.  I’ve heard better Jazz but coupled with the trip, the fresh, clean air, the hot springs, and a full belly of good organic food, this would be the best Jazz session I’ve ever attended.  I curled up on the couch, sipped my tea and zoned out with the rest of the guest.

       What’s a great description of my interaction with everyone?  PERSONAL SPACE.  I had all I wanted, but I didn’t feel invisible.

My overall feeling of Iceland is one of peace and simplicity.  Knowing that there are PoC living there made me think that this place could be a viable option to move to.  That’s one of the goals of this trip.  I’m long over living in the US.  Everyone was chill, friendly and interesting. I must note that I finally saw another black woman later that night at Kex as well as this gorgeous Pakistani woman that was dorm mates with me.  We chatted it up over tea and wine.  Sharing stories with another woman from Germany who was on a similar journey as me.

I never did get to see those Northern Lights.  Considering that I spent a lot for the day trip, limited funds for 6 weeks of travel, I just couldn’t swing shelling out more for a 3 hour night trip to see lights that may or may not happen.  Next time, though.

A few things that would stop me.  It’s cold there.  I know, you’re thinking “No shit, Sherlock”.  Hear me out.  It’s not a slap you in the face cold like upstate NY, but an insidious cold that creeps in on the cellular level and it was only October.  The natives clothing choice is built for necessity.  If I never wanted to go out again or needed witness protection, this would be the place to escape to.  I would have to make peace with letting go of material possession as their culture promotes interaction with their environment.  They are truly outdoorsy people and I find it so cool.  For now, it’s a consideration for my next move.

Another note, don’t let these cheap flight to Iceland distract you from the fact that it’s crazy expensive to live here.  Carry on…

Twenty-four hours later, I’m up in the air.  I had a total of 4 hours of sleep in a 2 day period but I left much more calm and collected, serene, than I’ve ever felt in my life.  Maybe, it’s worth giving up all I know, if this is a feeling I can always have.

Next stop, Amsterdam.

#PassportsUp

Day 2: Icelandic Magic – Serenity Maybe it was the physical act of changing locations or psychologically knowing that I'm officially away from the daily grind, but I haven't been this calm in quite some time.

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How to Network at a Conference: 101 Tips From Marketing’s Best

Editor’s note: You may have missed an earlier version of this article when CMI published it last year. We’ve updated it this year for your fall conference season.

Conferences are not for the faint of heart. Whether you’re an introvert or extrovert … getting the most out of any conference is a challenge. It’s one thing to go home with a stack of notes and takeaways; it’s another beast entirely to leave with fresh relationships and meaningful connections.

Yes, the magic of conferences is in the people.

What’s a marketer to do when people are exactly what leave your head spinning: “Who should I talk to? What should I say? Where should I go? How should I follow up?”

To answer those questions, I went to the source: you and your cohorts.

That’s right. I asked one question to as many people as I could at Content Marketing World 2016 and in advance of CMWorld 2017: “What’s your single best networking tip at a conference?” For a behind-the-scenes look at how this all came together, check out How to Attend a Conference and Take It Over (Even If You’re Not a Speaker).

What follows are 101 responses from keynoters, speakers, staff, and (above all) you, conference attendees. However, before we jump into the tips and infographic, let’s look at the big picture.

5 eternal networking truths

1. Everybody’s afraid.

You are not alone in your fear, your trepidation, or your anxiety. No matter how much you feel like an outsider, we’re all in the same big, uncomfortable, sweaty boat. This applies as much to seasoned professionals as it does to first-time attendees. 

Breathe deep, jump in, and don’t feel bad if you need some time to yourself – I know I always do.

2. Everybody’s human.

Whether the person you’re walking up to is another attendee, a breakout speaker, or even a headliner, at the end of the day, they’re flesh and blood just like you. Our shared humanity reinforces the first eternal truth.

Compliments, curiosity, and smiles go a long way.

3. Everybody’s nice.

OK, so maybe that’s not universally true, but it’s true of the people who are worth meeting. The goal of a conference is to learn, grow, and connect. If you’re a part of that process, you’ll be welcomed with open arms.

Anyone who doesn’t greet you in kind, that’s on them … the jerks. Brush it off and get back out there. 

4. Everybody’s valuable.

The truth is, you never know to whom you’re speaking. While there’s something to be said for making a list of speakers and attendees you want to prioritize, the best connections are often spontaneous. This point shows up over and over in the tips.

Ask questions, be interested – not “interesting” – and treat the person in front of you like they’re the only one in the room.

5. Everybody’s social.

Social media is ubiquitous, especially at conferences. Most events don’t just use hashtags, but they host Facebook and LinkedIn groups as well as official apps. Get sharing. Take selfies. Tag your new friends. Post your favorite quotes and lessons.

Get sharing. Take selfies. Tag new friends. Post fav quotes & lessons, says @iconicontent. #conference #tip Click To Tweet

This social media activity helps during the conference and creates a digital record for you.

On that note, we’ve formatted each tip in a tweetable length, along with the author’s Twitter handle and shareable images throughout. This way, you can post your favorites easily – or even load up all 101 of them – to get a massive jump-start on your networking. Enjoy.

Images via Venngage.

101 networking tips

Note: The quotes in the text are designed for you to easily tweet. The infographic contains the full quote from each person.

Simon Geisler: “Make yourself recognizable. Use a silly hat. And if you’re really a smart guy, use the company’s branding.” @simon_geisler #CMWorld

Anna W. Yunker: “To meet someone you follow, wait for a natural break and have a few topics you know they’re interested in.” @annawyunker #CMWorld 

Elaine Ball: “When you’re in the main sessions and breakouts, don’t just look down at your tech. Turn around and say, ‘Hi.’” @eballball #CMWorld

Andy Crestodina: “After you meet someone, immediately look them up on LinkedIn. You’ll always find some contacts in common.” @crestodina #CMWorld 

Berrak Sarikaya: “Keep the momentum going … I took it a step beyond just email and created a Slack community to keep the networking alive.” @berrakbiz #CMWorld

Bill Cushard: “When you see someone, and you’re in a group … look at them, reach out, say hi, and have them join your group.” @billcush #CMWorld

Loes van Dokkum: “Go to the FRONT row for the most communicative people! That’s where the action is.” @loesvandokkum #CMWorld

Dominik Grau: “Start a running group. Day 1: 8 a.m. Day 2: 6 a.m. Day 3: 5 a.m. That’ll help you connect on a human level.” @dominikgrau #CMWorld

Ann Handley: “Come over. Say hi. Have a nice conversation. We’ll be besties.” @annhandley #CMWorld

Rob Haber: “Don’t focus too much on work, otherwise it’ll start feeling stressful.” @robbyhaber #CMWorld

Jason Schemmel: “Keep in mind that everyone around you is there for the same reasons: to learn and connect.” @JasonSchemmel #CMWorld

Pam Didner: “Plan back-up sessions in case the first session is not what you expect it. Pace yourself and have FUN!” @PamDidner #CMWorld

Rand Fishkin: “Create something that makes people want to come to you so that you don’t have to go and network.” @randfish #CMWorld

Nicci Micco: “Be real. Be genuinely psyched to hear about the other person’s passions. Curiosity sparks collaboration.” @niccimicco #CMWorld

Randy Bernard: “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” @Rpfloydian #CMWorld

Michele Linn: “Look for empty spots at tables during meals and just jump in!” @michelelinn #CMWorld

Roger C. Parker: “After the event, introduce yourself to speakers with a specific reason you like their blog, book, or presentation.” @Rogercparker #CMWorld

Jay Acunzo: “Don’t treat it like networking. Ask more questions than they do and be interested not interesting.” @jayacunzo #CMWorld

Ehsan Khodarahmi: “Don’t try to inspire. Let everyone know who inspires you.” ‪@eksays #CMWorld

Shannon Waldschmidt: “Walk around alone. Don’t stay in your comfortable clique.” @debusiness #CMWorld

Lisa Dougherty: “Make a statement. Wear some flair. It gives people an opportunity to come up and talk to you.” @brandlovellc #CMWorld

Joe Lazauskas: “Everyone is as scared as you are. When people are scared they drink … so drink.” @joelazauskas #CMWorld

Paula Monroy: “Use the conference app to not only connect with speakers but attendees as well … especially on LinkedIn.” @paulamonroy #CMWorld

Becky Brooks: “Smile so much that you feel a little awkward about it. It comes across as welcoming … not scary.” @beckyws #CMWorld

Mike Meyers: “Use the app from the conference, not just general social media. This adds to the feeling of being an insider.” @mikemyers614 #CMWorld

Amanda Subler: “Make eye contact, smile, and you’re in.” @amandasubler #CMWorld 

Michael Brenner: “Ask people if they need a drink. SUPER easy opener – and nice.” @brennermichael #CMWorld

Lisa Loeffler: “Make plans to connect with the people you want to see there before you go. Set a date and time.” @lisamloeffler #CMWorld

Kelly Hungerford: “Create Dropbox folders ahead of time by session. Auto upload your pics for quicker redistribution to social channels via a laptop or tablet.” @kdhungerford #CMWorld

Keegan Vance Forte: “Ask everybody about themselves first – not just to be a good person, but to qualify them before you pitch.” @keeganforte #CMWorld

Zarina Stanik: “Go for compliments and eye contact … and do it over food or coffee. Make it natural.” @zarinas1 #CMWorld

Derric Haynie: “When you really want a speaker’s attention, be the last person to talk to them.” @sixpeppers #CMWorld

Tyler Logtenberg: “At the end of every evening, email the people you met that day. It will help cement you in their minds.” @tylerlogtenberg #CMWorld

C. D. Houston: “Walk up and just make an observation … the first thing that comes to mind. It’s OK to be authentically odd: oddthentic!” @cd_houston #CMWorld

Kirk Manley: “Sit next to somebody during everything. Find and fill empty seats instead of going to the back of the room.” @kirkmanley #CMWorld

David Reimherr: “Always go to the parties, esp. the late-night parties. People open up after a martini … or three.” @davidreimherr #CMWorld

Justin Shellenberger: “Share what might sound trivial via the app and hashtags. It starts conversations; that’s what we’re going for.” @jshellenberger #CMWorld

Kyle Akerman: “Reach out to someone alone and intro them to someone else, a good friend or just someone you happened to meet.” @kyleakerman #CMWorld

Kate Volman: “Follow people before the conference, check out their content, and start building a relationship. Then connect face to face.” @katevolman #CMWorld

Amanda Gant: “Repeat people’s names once you meet them.” @orbiteers #CMWorld

Ashley Stryker: “Get a mini Sharpie so you can write notes on business cards. It’s who you talk to and connect with after.” @writerstryker #CMWorld

Susan Moeller: “Always think of what you can offer someone else. Offer them an opportunity … not another request.” @SusanCMoeller #CMWorld

Carmen Hill: “Don’t be shy. Talk to people you don’t know even if they don’t talk to you first. Not always easy. Always worth it.” @carmenhill #CMWorld 

David Anthony: “Take a pic of business cards right then. Can’t count how many times I lost or laundered cards.” @crosslinc #CMWorld

Erika Heald: “Look up people on Twitter. See who you have in common. Chat prior to the event so it feels more like a new friend.” @sferika #CMWorld

Billy Connolly: “Find out something about the person you’re going to talk to and use that instead of their day job … surprise them.” @billconnolly #CMWorld 

Mari Smith: “Make sure you check out people’s bios. Find one thing you can connect with. Talk to them. Tweet to them. Whoohoo!” @marismith #CMWorld

Marlene Oliveira: “I like to show up to sessions early and find a seat next to someone who looks receptive to conversation.” @mo_flow #CMWorld 

Maureen Jann: “Networking can feel like a sea of gimme, gimme, GIMME! Approach people from the perspective of how you can help.” @maureenonpoint #CMWorld 

Ben H. Rome: “Use your unique personality as your bridge to connecting with others; you might find something cool in common.” @bhrome #CMWorld

Jeremy Bednarski: “Pretty much everyone you’re looking to talk to is probably looking to talk to somebody too. Make the first move.” @jeremybednarski #CMWorld

Kevin Christie: “On the conference app I asked, ‘Anyone in the corporate-wellness space? Let me know.’ And they did.’” @drkchristie #CMWorld 

Gretta van Riel: “Your energy is more memorable than your words.” @grettavanriel #CMWorld

Jay Bear: “Be mindful of conversation length. Ask a question and get an answer.” @jaybaer #CMWorld

Jeremy Miller: “Be enthusiastic and passionate. People follow passion. Do not be Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh.” @jjeremymiller #CMWorld

Christoph Trappe: “Never stop tweeting from sessions and then connect offline with those who engage online. Don’t leave things up to luck.” @Ctrappe #CMWorld

Silkhe Fuenmayor: “Show your opinion and pose some challenges. This adds value to discussions.” @silkhefuenmayor #CMWorld

Andrew Davis: “With speakers, consume their stuff, comment, and tell them you’re there. I’ll make time for anyone.” @DrewDavisHere #CMWorld

Bhupinder Nayyar: “Be genuinely curious and creative about speakers’ presentations or sessions. And offer them ice cream.” @xdbhupinder #CMWorld

Brittany Berger: “I always ask what someone’s big goal for attending the conference is: ‘What are you mainly here for?’” @thatbberg #CMWorld

Robert Rose: “No keynoter should think you’re being bothersome by approaching them. If they do, that’s their issue, not yours.” @Robert_Rose #CMWorld

Shayla Price: “Use an app to record bite-sized, shareable audio from conference speakers, recurring attendees, and newbies.” @shaylaprice #CMWorld 

Nathan Chan: “Always finish the conversion with please let me know if there is anything I can do to help.” @Nathanhchan #CMWorld

Kristina Halvorson: “Be confident, be candid, and be brief!” @halvorson #CMWorld

Rachel Pedersen: “You never know who you’re speaking with … so give each person your full attention!” @TheMrsPedersen #CMWorld

John Hall: “Everybody wants to ask a favor when in reality you can stand out just by being helpful.” #givefirsttakelater @johnhall #CMWorld

Jenifer Walsh: “Tie your question to a speaker’s presentation. Ask to connect. Humor helps.” @JLansky #CMWorld

Marcus Sheridan: “As a speaker, I feel honored to be ‘bothered’ by attendees.” @TheSalesLion #CMWorld

Johannes Ceh: “The Bavarian sausage and sweet mustard miracle: bring delicacies from your home country.” @johannesceh #CMWorld

Bill Widmer: “More people will be interested in five minutes by (you) being interested in them … than in five years by talking about yourself.” @TheBillWidmer #CMWorld

Pawan Deshpande: “Research and mention a unique fact about a speaker you’d like to meet (without being too creepy).” @TweetsFromPawan #CMWorld

Jacqueline Jensen: “Starting with where you can add value to a person’s life goes a long way in building trust.” @JackieMJensen #CMWorld

Justin Levy: “My best tip is to not be scared about approaching presenters. You’re not bothering them and won’t be weird.” @justinlevy #CMWorld

Claire Trévien: “I love a personalized LinkedIn message saying: Hello, I see we’re both attending X conference.” @CTrevien #CMWorld

Mordecai Holtz: “Take a picture with every person you meet, write a blog post about them and the lessons you learned. VERY Personal!” @mordecaiholtz #CMWorld 

Ryan Foland: “Start a #tweetnado by tweeting the entire event: use hashtags, Twitter handles, quotes, takeaways, images … everything!” @ryanfoland #CMWorld

Joe Griffin: “I never plan my days too fully because that restricts me from exploring new possibilities and relationships.” @joegriffin #CMWorld

Lee Odden: “Approach speakers with advanced warning, courtesy, even gifts of bacon.” @leeodden #CMWorld

Hans van Gent: “All hail emoji. Be a facilitator, organize an exclusive event, research your audience and make the introductions.” @jcvangent #CMWorld

Maneesh Sethi: “Make a splash before the event. Send greeting cards or make personalized hello videos for EVERYONE you want to meet.” @maneesh #CMWorld

Nathaniel Schooler: “Quality over quantity is always best, it’s not about who they are and what they do, but who they know.” @NatSchooler #CMWorld

Heidi Cohen: “Take the time to thank the speakers that helped you and give them the reviews they deserve!” @heidicohen #CMWorld

Karla Campos: “When #networking with a buddy, split up at times because people will tend to associate you as the same business.” @SocialMediaSass #CMWorld

Les Dossey: “Mute the world and tune into the person you are talking with. Ask great questions to learn from their unique genius.” @lesdossey #CMWorld

Manu Goswami: “Go after the people who don’t have big lines. They’re more likely to engage and have time to provide value to you.” @goswish #CMWorld

Gigi Rodgers: “When someone asks, ‘What do you do?’ respond, ‘Pass. What made you happy this week?’” @rodgersgigi #CMWorld

Bobby Umar: “Always ask ‘How can I help you?’ Even better is ‘How can I help you make a difference?’” @raehanbobby #CMWorld 

Mike Alton: “Be open to unexpected conversations and opportunities, not just with the folks you targeted ahead of time.” @Mike_Allton #CMWorld

Jeff Higgins: “Remember that networking and marketing are two completely different things: friends not leads.” @ItsJeffHiggins #CMWorld

Leonard Kim: “If you prebuild a strong personal brand for yourself, all people will want to do is network with you at conferences.” @Mrleonardkim #CMWorld

Brentt Berhoff: “Talk 20% of the time, and listen 80% of the time.” @BrettBerhoff #CMWorld

Stanley Nnoromele: “Everyone has got an interesting story you can learn from, you wouldn’t know until you ask. Just ask and listen!” @AmaraGod #CMWorld

Matthias Riedl: “I love bringing my ukulele! Singing songs from people’s home countries together is the perfect #GrowthHack!” @MazeRiedl #CMWorld

Irene Koehler: “Create Twitter lists of attendees and speakers, share w/ event hashtag … easy way to connect during and after an event.” @IreneKoehler #CMWorld

Ivan Kreimer: “Compliment people you already know to other people. You’ll look as good as the person you are complimenting.” @ivankreimer #CMWorld

Daniel Kingsley Daines-Hutt: “Stay near the food and the conversation comes to you; plus, it’s far more natural.” @InboundAscend #CMWorld

Larry Minsky: “In large, public spaces: go to the back of the room … people near the entrance are distracted.” @LaurenceMinsky #CMWorld

Casandra Campbell: “Don’t stress about meeting everyone. Take time to make meaningful connections and develop lasting relationships.” @casandra_camp #CMWorld

Aaron Orendorff: “Go in asking what can I give, not what can I get? That change takes the pressure off you to meet the ‘right’ people.” @iconiContent #CMWorld 

Nadya Khoja: “Ask people if they’re going to the parties. If they say no, get their drink tickets. You just made two friends.” @nadyakhoja #CMWorld

Joe Pulizzi: “Follow the conference hashtag and answer people’s questions honestly and humanly and you’re gonna be a rock star.” @joepulizzi #CMWorld 

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How to Network at a Conference: 101 Tips From Marketing’s Best

Editor’s note: You may have missed an earlier version of this article when CMI published it last year. We’ve updated it this year for your fall conference season.

Conferences are not for the faint of heart. Whether you’re an introvert or extrovert … getting the most out of any conference is a challenge. It’s one thing to go home with a stack of notes and takeaways; it’s another beast entirely to leave with fresh relationships and meaningful connections.

Yes, the magic of conferences is in the people.

What’s a marketer to do when people are exactly what leave your head spinning: “Who should I talk to? What should I say? Where should I go? How should I follow up?”

To answer those questions, I went to the source: you and your cohorts.

That’s right. I asked one question to as many people as I could at Content Marketing World 2016 and in advance of CMWorld 2017: “What’s your single best networking tip at a conference?” For a behind-the-scenes look at how this all came together, check out How to Attend a Conference and Take It Over (Even If You’re Not a Speaker).

What follows are 101 responses from keynoters, speakers, staff, and (above all) you, conference attendees. However, before we jump into the tips and infographic, let’s look at the big picture.

5 eternal networking truths

1. Everybody’s afraid.

You are not alone in your fear, your trepidation, or your anxiety. No matter how much you feel like an outsider, we’re all in the same big, uncomfortable, sweaty boat. This applies as much to seasoned professionals as it does to first-time attendees. 

Breathe deep, jump in, and don’t feel bad if you need some time to yourself – I know I always do.

2. Everybody’s human.

Whether the person you’re walking up to is another attendee, a breakout speaker, or even a headliner, at the end of the day, they’re flesh and blood just like you. Our shared humanity reinforces the first eternal truth.

Compliments, curiosity, and smiles go a long way.

3. Everybody’s nice.

OK, so maybe that’s not universally true, but it’s true of the people who are worth meeting. The goal of a conference is to learn, grow, and connect. If you’re a part of that process, you’ll be welcomed with open arms.

Anyone who doesn’t greet you in kind, that’s on them … the jerks. Brush it off and get back out there. 

4. Everybody’s valuable.

The truth is, you never know to whom you’re speaking. While there’s something to be said for making a list of speakers and attendees you want to prioritize, the best connections are often spontaneous. This point shows up over and over in the tips.

Ask questions, be interested – not “interesting” – and treat the person in front of you like they’re the only one in the room.

5. Everybody’s social.

Social media is ubiquitous, especially at conferences. Most events don’t just use hashtags, but they host Facebook and LinkedIn groups as well as official apps. Get sharing. Take selfies. Tag your new friends. Post your favorite quotes and lessons.

Get sharing. Take selfies. Tag new friends. Post fav quotes & lessons, says @iconicontent. #conference #tip Click To Tweet

This social media activity helps during the conference and creates a digital record for you.

On that note, we’ve formatted each tip in a tweetable length, along with the author’s Twitter handle and shareable images throughout. This way, you can post your favorites easily – or even load up all 101 of them – to get a massive jump-start on your networking. Enjoy.

Images via Venngage.

101 networking tips

Note: The quotes in the text are designed for you to easily tweet. The infographic contains the full quote from each person.

Simon Geisler: “Make yourself recognizable. Use a silly hat. And if you’re really a smart guy, use the company’s branding.” @simon_geisler #CMWorld

Anna W. Yunker: “To meet someone you follow, wait for a natural break and have a few topics you know they’re interested in.” @annawyunker #CMWorld 

Elaine Ball: “When you’re in the main sessions and breakouts, don’t just look down at your tech. Turn around and say, ‘Hi.’” @eballball #CMWorld

Andy Crestodina: “After you meet someone, immediately look them up on LinkedIn. You’ll always find some contacts in common.” @crestodina #CMWorld 

Berrak Sarikaya: “Keep the momentum going … I took it a step beyond just email and created a Slack community to keep the networking alive.” @berrakbiz #CMWorld

Bill Cushard: “When you see someone, and you’re in a group … look at them, reach out, say hi, and have them join your group.” @billcush #CMWorld

Loes van Dokkum: “Go to the FRONT row for the most communicative people! That’s where the action is.” @loesvandokkum #CMWorld

Dominik Grau: “Start a running group. Day 1: 8 a.m. Day 2: 6 a.m. Day 3: 5 a.m. That’ll help you connect on a human level.” @dominikgrau #CMWorld

Ann Handley: “Come over. Say hi. Have a nice conversation. We’ll be besties.” @annhandley #CMWorld

Rob Haber: “Don’t focus too much on work, otherwise it’ll start feeling stressful.” @robbyhaber #CMWorld

Jason Schemmel: “Keep in mind that everyone around you is there for the same reasons: to learn and connect.” @JasonSchemmel #CMWorld

Pam Didner: “Plan back-up sessions in case the first session is not what you expect it. Pace yourself and have FUN!” @PamDidner #CMWorld

Rand Fishkin: “Create something that makes people want to come to you so that you don’t have to go and network.” @randfish #CMWorld

Nicci Micco: “Be real. Be genuinely psyched to hear about the other person’s passions. Curiosity sparks collaboration.” @niccimicco #CMWorld

Randy Bernard: “People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” @Rpfloydian #CMWorld

Michele Linn: “Look for empty spots at tables during meals and just jump in!” @michelelinn #CMWorld

Roger C. Parker: “After the event, introduce yourself to speakers with a specific reason you like their blog, book, or presentation.” @Rogercparker #CMWorld

Jay Acunzo: “Don’t treat it like networking. Ask more questions than they do and be interested not interesting.” @jayacunzo #CMWorld

Ehsan Khodarahmi: “Don’t try to inspire. Let everyone know who inspires you.” ‪@eksays #CMWorld

Shannon Waldschmidt: “Walk around alone. Don’t stay in your comfortable clique.” @debusiness #CMWorld

Lisa Dougherty: “Make a statement. Wear some flair. It gives people an opportunity to come up and talk to you.” @brandlovellc #CMWorld

Joe Lazauskas: “Everyone is as scared as you are. When people are scared they drink … so drink.” @joelazauskas #CMWorld

Paula Monroy: “Use the conference app to not only connect with speakers but attendees as well … especially on LinkedIn.” @paulamonroy #CMWorld

Becky Brooks: “Smile so much that you feel a little awkward about it. It comes across as welcoming … not scary.” @beckyws #CMWorld

Mike Meyers: “Use the app from the conference, not just general social media. This adds to the feeling of being an insider.” @mikemyers614 #CMWorld

Amanda Subler: “Make eye contact, smile, and you’re in.” @amandasubler #CMWorld 

Michael Brenner: “Ask people if they need a drink. SUPER easy opener – and nice.” @brennermichael #CMWorld

Lisa Loeffler: “Make plans to connect with the people you want to see there before you go. Set a date and time.” @lisamloeffler #CMWorld

Kelly Hungerford: “Create Dropbox folders ahead of time by session. Auto upload your pics for quicker redistribution to social channels via a laptop or tablet.” @kdhungerford #CMWorld

Keegan Vance Forte: “Ask everybody about themselves first – not just to be a good person, but to qualify them before you pitch.” @keeganforte #CMWorld

Zarina Stanik: “Go for compliments and eye contact … and do it over food or coffee. Make it natural.” @zarinas1 #CMWorld

Derric Haynie: “When you really want a speaker’s attention, be the last person to talk to them.” @sixpeppers #CMWorld

Tyler Logtenberg: “At the end of every evening, email the people you met that day. It will help cement you in their minds.” @tylerlogtenberg #CMWorld

C. D. Houston: “Walk up and just make an observation … the first thing that comes to mind. It’s OK to be authentically odd: oddthentic!” @cd_houston #CMWorld

Kirk Manley: “Sit next to somebody during everything. Find and fill empty seats instead of going to the back of the room.” @kirkmanley #CMWorld

David Reimherr: “Always go to the parties, esp. the late-night parties. People open up after a martini … or three.” @davidreimherr #CMWorld

Justin Shellenberger: “Share what might sound trivial via the app and hashtags. It starts conversations; that’s what we’re going for.” @jshellenberger #CMWorld

Kyle Akerman: “Reach out to someone alone and intro them to someone else, a good friend or just someone you happened to meet.” @kyleakerman #CMWorld

Kate Volman: “Follow people before the conference, check out their content, and start building a relationship. Then connect face to face.” @katevolman #CMWorld

Amanda Gant: “Repeat people’s names once you meet them.” @orbiteers #CMWorld

Ashley Stryker: “Get a mini Sharpie so you can write notes on business cards. It’s who you talk to and connect with after.” @writerstryker #CMWorld

Susan Moeller: “Always think of what you can offer someone else. Offer them an opportunity … not another request.” @SusanCMoeller #CMWorld

Carmen Hill: “Don’t be shy. Talk to people you don’t know even if they don’t talk to you first. Not always easy. Always worth it.” @carmenhill #CMWorld 

David Anthony: “Take a pic of business cards right then. Can’t count how many times I lost or laundered cards.” @crosslinc #CMWorld

Erika Heald: “Look up people on Twitter. See who you have in common. Chat prior to the event so it feels more like a new friend.” @sferika #CMWorld

Billy Connolly: “Find out something about the person you’re going to talk to and use that instead of their day job … surprise them.” @billconnolly #CMWorld 

Mari Smith: “Make sure you check out people’s bios. Find one thing you can connect with. Talk to them. Tweet to them. Whoohoo!” @marismith #CMWorld

Marlene Oliveira: “I like to show up to sessions early and find a seat next to someone who looks receptive to conversation.” @mo_flow #CMWorld 

Maureen Jann: “Networking can feel like a sea of gimme, gimme, GIMME! Approach people from the perspective of how you can help.” @maureenonpoint #CMWorld 

Ben H. Rome: “Use your unique personality as your bridge to connecting with others; you might find something cool in common.” @bhrome #CMWorld

Jeremy Bednarski: “Pretty much everyone you’re looking to talk to is probably looking to talk to somebody too. Make the first move.” @jeremybednarski #CMWorld

Kevin Christie: “On the conference app I asked, ‘Anyone in the corporate-wellness space? Let me know.’ And they did.’” @drkchristie #CMWorld 

Gretta van Riel: “Your energy is more memorable than your words.” @grettavanriel #CMWorld

Jay Bear: “Be mindful of conversation length. Ask a question and get an answer.” @jaybaer #CMWorld

Jeremy Miller: “Be enthusiastic and passionate. People follow passion. Do not be Eeyore from Winnie the Pooh.” @jjeremymiller #CMWorld

Christoph Trappe: “Never stop tweeting from sessions and then connect offline with those who engage online. Don’t leave things up to luck.” @Ctrappe #CMWorld

Silkhe Fuenmayor: “Show your opinion and pose some challenges. This adds value to discussions.” @silkhefuenmayor #CMWorld

Andrew Davis: “With speakers, consume their stuff, comment, and tell them you’re there. I’ll make time for anyone.” @DrewDavisHere #CMWorld

Bhupinder Nayyar: “Be genuinely curious and creative about speakers’ presentations or sessions. And offer them ice cream.” @xdbhupinder #CMWorld

Brittany Berger: “I always ask what someone’s big goal for attending the conference is: ‘What are you mainly here for?’” @thatbberg #CMWorld

Robert Rose: “No keynoter should think you’re being bothersome by approaching them. If they do, that’s their issue, not yours.” @Robert_Rose #CMWorld

Shayla Price: “Use an app to record bite-sized, shareable audio from conference speakers, recurring attendees, and newbies.” @shaylaprice #CMWorld 

Nathan Chan: “Always finish the conversion with please let me know if there is anything I can do to help.” @Nathanhchan #CMWorld

Kristina Halvorson: “Be confident, be candid, and be brief!” @halvorson #CMWorld

Rachel Pedersen: “You never know who you’re speaking with … so give each person your full attention!” @TheMrsPedersen #CMWorld

John Hall: “Everybody wants to ask a favor when in reality you can stand out just by being helpful.” #givefirsttakelater @johnhall #CMWorld

Jenifer Walsh: “Tie your question to a speaker’s presentation. Ask to connect. Humor helps.” @JLansky #CMWorld

Marcus Sheridan: “As a speaker, I feel honored to be ‘bothered’ by attendees.” @TheSalesLion #CMWorld

Johannes Ceh: “The Bavarian sausage and sweet mustard miracle: bring delicacies from your home country.” @johannesceh #CMWorld

Bill Widmer: “More people will be interested in five minutes by (you) being interested in them … than in five years by talking about yourself.” @TheBillWidmer #CMWorld

Pawan Deshpande: “Research and mention a unique fact about a speaker you’d like to meet (without being too creepy).” @TweetsFromPawan #CMWorld

Jacqueline Jensen: “Starting with where you can add value to a person’s life goes a long way in building trust.” @JackieMJensen #CMWorld

Justin Levy: “My best tip is to not be scared about approaching presenters. You’re not bothering them and won’t be weird.” @justinlevy #CMWorld

Claire Trévien: “I love a personalized LinkedIn message saying: Hello, I see we’re both attending X conference.” @CTrevien #CMWorld

Mordecai Holtz: “Take a picture with every person you meet, write a blog post about them and the lessons you learned. VERY Personal!” @mordecaiholtz #CMWorld 

Ryan Foland: “Start a #tweetnado by tweeting the entire event: use hashtags, Twitter handles, quotes, takeaways, images … everything!” @ryanfoland #CMWorld

Joe Griffin: “I never plan my days too fully because that restricts me from exploring new possibilities and relationships.” @joegriffin #CMWorld

Lee Odden: “Approach speakers with advanced warning, courtesy, even gifts of bacon.” @leeodden #CMWorld

Hans van Gent: “All hail emoji. Be a facilitator, organize an exclusive event, research your audience and make the introductions.” @jcvangent #CMWorld

Maneesh Sethi: “Make a splash before the event. Send greeting cards or make personalized hello videos for EVERYONE you want to meet.” @maneesh #CMWorld

Nathaniel Schooler: “Quality over quantity is always best, it’s not about who they are and what they do, but who they know.” @NatSchooler #CMWorld

Heidi Cohen: “Take the time to thank the speakers that helped you and give them the reviews they deserve!” @heidicohen #CMWorld

Karla Campos: “When #networking with a buddy, split up at times because people will tend to associate you as the same business.” @SocialMediaSass #CMWorld

Les Dossey: “Mute the world and tune into the person you are talking with. Ask great questions to learn from their unique genius.” @lesdossey #CMWorld

Manu Goswami: “Go after the people who don’t have big lines. They’re more likely to engage and have time to provide value to you.” @goswish #CMWorld

Gigi Rodgers: “When someone asks, ‘What do you do?’ respond, ‘Pass. What made you happy this week?’” @rodgersgigi #CMWorld

Bobby Umar: “Always ask ‘How can I help you?’ Even better is ‘How can I help you make a difference?’” @raehanbobby #CMWorld 

Mike Alton: “Be open to unexpected conversations and opportunities, not just with the folks you targeted ahead of time.” @Mike_Allton #CMWorld

Jeff Higgins: “Remember that networking and marketing are two completely different things: friends not leads.” @ItsJeffHiggins #CMWorld

Leonard Kim: “If you prebuild a strong personal brand for yourself, all people will want to do is network with you at conferences.” @Mrleonardkim #CMWorld

Brentt Berhoff: “Talk 20% of the time, and listen 80% of the time.” @BrettBerhoff #CMWorld

Stanley Nnoromele: “Everyone has got an interesting story you can learn from, you wouldn’t know until you ask. Just ask and listen!” @AmaraGod #CMWorld

Matthias Riedl: “I love bringing my ukulele! Singing songs from people’s home countries together is the perfect #GrowthHack!” @MazeRiedl #CMWorld

Irene Koehler: “Create Twitter lists of attendees and speakers, share w/ event hashtag … easy way to connect during and after an event.” @IreneKoehler #CMWorld

Ivan Kreimer: “Compliment people you already know to other people. You’ll look as good as the person you are complimenting.” @ivankreimer #CMWorld

Daniel Kingsley Daines-Hutt: “Stay near the food and the conversation comes to you; plus, it’s far more natural.” @InboundAscend #CMWorld

Larry Minsky: “In large, public spaces: go to the back of the room … people near the entrance are distracted.” @LaurenceMinsky #CMWorld

Casandra Campbell: “Don’t stress about meeting everyone. Take time to make meaningful connections and develop lasting relationships.” @casandra_camp #CMWorld

Aaron Orendorff: “Go in asking what can I give, not what can I get? That change takes the pressure off you to meet the ‘right’ people.” @iconiContent #CMWorld 

Nadya Khoja: “Ask people if they’re going to the parties. If they say no, get their drink tickets. You just made two friends.” @nadyakhoja #CMWorld

Joe Pulizzi: “Follow the conference hashtag and answer people’s questions honestly and humanly and you’re gonna be a rock star.” @joepulizzi #CMWorld 

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Ah, the wonderful world of modern romance.

These days, the journey to find love can be quite a struggle.With dating apps, a whole lot of swiping, stalking, messaging and frustration takes place before you decide whether someone is worthy of an in-person date.

Since more and more people are turning to the digital world of Tinder and Bumble in hopes of finding their special someone, we figured dating apps could use some much-needed improvements.

SEE ALSO: Bumble enlightens male user on how to speak to women

Below are 14 features we wish dating apps had that would surely make our experiences much more enjoyable and far less stressful.

1.Dick pic recognition and censoring

Think Snapchat facial recognition... but with dicks. The ideal dating app would recognize dick pics before they are successfully delivered, censor them and give users the option to reveal them if they so choose.

2. First date suggestions

One might think dating apps make life more simple, but in reality, they're a lot of freaking work. Between the constant pressure to come up with perfect responses and the finger cramps you get from swiping, the last thing users want to do is actually come up with a magical date idea.

Maybe if apps offered first date suggestions, like "Classic Date: Dinner and Movie" or "Spontaneous Date: Arcade and Karaoke," we would feel less pressure.Plus, if the date suggestion is super lame at least you'll have something to talk about.

3. The option to see if people have been blocked by others

Why should you have to waste your time going through the painful steps of trying to get to know a stranger only to find out that they're block-worthy? If dating apps alerted you straight up when a person has already been blocked (especially by more than one person), well then that just saves you a step.

4. Random messages of encouragement

Sometimes dating apps, people and the pursuit of love can be kind of the worst. Wouldn't it be nice for our apps to remind us every once in a while that we're doing great and will not be forever alone? Is that too much to ask? No.

5. The option to immediately undo your accidental swipe before any sort of notification is sent out

We're talking an option to undo your swipe that doesn't suck. There should be no limits to how many times per day you can un-swipe, and definitely no cost for wanting to un-match with a person. Sometimes people change their minds. Newsflash: that's totally okay.

6.Testimonies from friends

We want to hear what people who actually know our potential matches think of them. If they don't have one friend that's willing to write them a testimony in order to help them find love, yikes.

7. The option to see how many matches your match chatting with

You may think you have found "the one," but "the one" might be chatting with 18 other potential baes.

8. The option to "buzz" someone when you are not pleased with their actions

Every dating app should come with some sort of buzzer. Lame introduction? *buzzz* Insulting comment? *buzzzzz* Never ending narcissism? *buzzzzzzz* Calling people out on their fails would be much more enjoyable with a good old-fashioned buzzer.

9. The ability to choose your own font

Font preference says a great deal about a person. Before you pursue a relationship with someone, wouldn't you like to see if their ideal profile would feature classy Helvetica, traditional Times New Roman or a brightly-colored mess ofComic Sans that resembles your middle school AIM away message?

10. The opportunity to edit your messages once they've been sent

WE KNOW THATS NOT THE CORRECT USE OF THEIR, OKAY?! ITS 1AM AND IT WAS A HORRIBLE MISTAKE, PLEASE LET US FIX IT.

11. A section in your bio to list "favorite couples"

It would be helpful if dating apps required users to list at least three of their favorite couples. Whether you list your favorite celebrity couples, fictional couples or even your mom and dad the couples you admire will give people a great sense of who you are and your overall romantic aspirations.

If you see someone shippingJim and Pam or Ross and Rachel, they're probably great. But if their idea of great romance is Rory and Dean or Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries, you know to definitely think twice before swiping.

12. The chance to see people's food, literature, television and movie preferences

Knowing your potential match's music preferences is extremely important, but there are other major interests that need to be factored in as well. How about revealing some restaurant check-ins from Yelp? Favorite books from Litsy? And of course, the true compatibility test Netflix history.

13. A song lyrics keyboard

Emoji and GIFs are great, but sometimes you just need to express yourself with song lyrics. The ideal dating app would feature a nifty song lyrics keyboard with a library of lyrics from all your favorite artists.

Just type in the name of an artist and their most famous lyrics will show up on your screen easily ready to copy and paste. Next time you need to bust out some Beyonc, think of all the typing and web browsing you'll save.

14.Reminders to take a break and enjoy real life

Are you still swiping?If so, that means you've officially been using this app for two hours and should probably take a break and immediately and go socialize with some humans in person.

Have something to add to this story? Share it in the comments.

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Poised for the Bahamas

“I hear you’re putting Totem on the hard.” “Will you go out again?” In fact, we have no plans to park Totem for an extended stay on land (or in the water), and have never considered remaining in the US. But given the dearth of information in this space about what 2017 holds I can understand the speculation. We are on the cusp of departure and thrilled to be heading out for more adventures afloat.

Cascading events prolonged our departure, but the boat’s been humming, and legged out timing has shaped our direction. Routing clarity comes slowly after many shuffles on how we’ll fill the gaps between now (in Fort Lauderdale, Florida) and a year from now  (Pacific Ocean, via Panama Canal). It still has a lot of squiggles and question marks, but the bigger picture should stick.

For many months, that year-long view was literally nothing more than get out of the US and back to the islands, spend a couple of months in Cuba, and explore Panama’s Guna Yala. (Remember that Plan is a four-letter word for cruisers! Corollary: Thar Be No Schedules)

Bahamas Baby

We’d written the Bahamas off, but they’re now solidly ON, and their late arrival means I’m scrambling for information. Friday I got our Waterway Guide’s Bahamas, Turks & Caicos book. IT’S GORGEOUS. The last years of Western Pacific / Indian Ocean / Southern Atlantic sailing had poor guides, if any, and it put me off. What did exist covered too wide an area to be useful, so I stuck to travel guides instead and started thinking cruising guides weren’t important. You know what? They’re incredibly useful, I’d just been too long without an example of what a good guide offers. So with 2017 Bahamas edition in hand, instead of helping Jamie and the girls scrub the hull that morning, I did this:

I did also buy a traveler’s guidebook for the Bahamas. I’m probably going to leave it behind, because the Waterway book is better, and has everything I need: the travel guide insights (cultural orientation,  things to bring, cool places to visit) AND annually updated cruising data (what to bring and where to provision, details for moorings and choice anchorages, the latest marina info– even updates on impacts from last fall’s hurricane, and recommendations for things islanders might need that we can ferry over).

That schedule thing

Although schedules are the bane of cruising, I’ve happily added a fixed Must Be There date by signing on to present at the US Boat Show in Annapolis in April. Pam Wall and I will lead a 2-day Cruising Women seminar, and I’m giving a few additional presentations as part of the show’s Cruisers University. I’m very excited about this, especially the Cruising Women program. Jamie seems to have been born with saltwater in his veins; before we went cruising, it was important to me to seek information and skills. Women-only courses provided the shared perspective and camaraderie that best supported my goals.  If you sign up, tell me! I’d love to anticipate meetups.

Places and people

It feels very good to be poised for Bahamas takeoff in Fort Lauderdale, but first we had to get south from Jacksonville to Miami for my friend Lynne Rey’s birthday. Schedules again? Maybe, but no way would I miss this since we could be there! Along the way, there wasn’t  a lot of wind, but some beautiful sunny days and mellow seas that meant Niall could combine studying with watchkeeping in the cockpit.

Along the way we spent a couple of evenings hanging out with Kirk McGeorge. He’s done a couple of circumnavigations on a sistership, Gallivanter, and now does some crazy cool work building underwater submersibles with an outfit in Fort Pierce (he was a Navy diver, and drove Alvin- THE Alvin- on Titanic, way back when). The last time we saw Kirk was Australia, nearly five years ago! Cruising friendships like his are GOLD – you pick up right where you left off, despite intervening years.

In Miami, Lynne, her husband Tony (we sailed together in college) and their kids hosted us at the Coral Reef Yacht Club. This made fun birthday celebrations, late nights in the cockpit, kids learning and playing together, and a lot of good times very easy.

It also made it much easier for a visit from Kerry (the impressive endurance athlete / sailor / quadriplegic I sailed with last month). She gave our family and the Reys a preview of a powerful documentary she’s a part of that I hope will be ready to share publicly soon. Some tissues required after viewing before we could pose for a pic together, our thumbs in the air for Kerry’s nonprofit, ThumbsUp International. ThumbsUp connects people of all abilities to tackle athletic challenges, in particular by teaming able and disabled athletes.

Please check out the Facebook page for ThumbsUp International and give it a like to show your support! Kerry would really like to nudge it over the 2,000 like hurdle: can we do it?! Follow and share!

More friends visited: we first knew Tiffany and Greg as “the Coast Guard Couple” when we met them in Mexico eight (!) years ago; we last caught up in Australia. They’ve traveled a loop around the world since then, by sea across the Pacific and by land from SE Asia to the UK. Both are Coast Guard Academy graduates, both are hard core professional seafarers, and they had great advice on college and maritime licensing for Niall. Just the folks to help toss the lines when it was time to head to the anchorage, right?

Projects projects projects

And then, there was maintenance and repair. Lots of it. Because that’s one definition of the cruising life.

To give you an inkling of that everyday fun on Totem, and a peek into what’s kept Jamie busy here in Florida:

Outboard: FINALLY FIXED. It’s been sick for five months. Diagnosis by mechanic in Jacksonville: failed CDI unit, but we replaced that and still no spark. Option two: bad coil. Ding ding ding ding! Wires from the coil had both broken…photo above. They were crimped by a strain relief device, but the break was hidden inside of a plastic sleeve. Great 11th hour help from our new friend Conor, who borrowed a flywheel puller from a Miami auto shop to get it done.

Sundowners on Totem later, time to talk story with Conor (former cruising kid, now physicist) and his dad

Aft cabin: I went to a road trip to Miami with my friend Patty, and Jamie broke the aft cabin. He’s since rebuilt my workspace, relocated the solar and wind charge controllers to a newly-constructed locker, and cleaned up a bunch of wiring spaghetti. Few words for a LOT of work.

Dodger: As a sailmaker, Jamie knows his way around a sewing machine. But canvas work is “fiddly” (his description) and he hoped to outsource Totem’s new dodger sides. But after weeks of no joy or no action from service providers in northern Florida, he took our friends on Shanthi up on the offer to borrow their SailRite and made it himself. Templating with Tyvek from the hardware store, then constructing the final from Sunbrella, Strataglass, and Tenara thread…on the dock, until it rained, with child labor…as you do. It IS fiddly, but he does great work, and saving the expense is a great bonus.

Before he could get to the canvas, the whole hard top was shifted forward: this meant changing the frame (it’s more vertical on the forward face now) and building new supports.

Deck hardware: fully reinstalled the repaired stanchion base that broke on our unpleasant passage from Bermuda to Connecticut.

Engine: Fixed pesky drip from fuel filters after troubleshooting. Replaced barbs with correct size, replaced 3-way valve fitting, and O-rings. Hopefully this saves the $250 racor replacement kit!

Electrical: We use a rugged Panasonic Toughbook for our nav computer. Both plug connections for the nine-year-old 12v charger had failed; solder now leads directly to the board. All good.

Plumbing: Replaced failing cockpit drain hoses (shared with galley sink drain: presumed grease buildup). Fixed flaw in primary water tank that prevents proper venting with a few holes (and finally found out the actual capacity, two years later- 73 gallons!). Discovered (and replaced) leaking outlet fitting in tank. Aft head required an unclogging adventure, then replacing seals and hose and other work that I’d rather not know too much about. Thanks to my sweetie for being The One That Deals with the Head on board.

…and that’s just what he did on Totem! On friend’s boats, Jamie helped install a solar panel, did a few (three? four? five? I lost track) rig evaluations, and helped get one tuned properly.

I married well.

Much more than fixing stuff

One of the more significant preoccupations outside of prepping Totem is working with coaching clients. We thoroughly enjoy helping people make the leap to successful cruising! More recently, the kids have gotten into a few of our Skype sessions, too: prospective cruising kids want to hear the real scoop directly from them. Sitting around the iPad, this is a pretty typical scene.

We closed our our Miami stay by anchoring in Marine Stadium, a sweet little spot with near 360° protection and a killer view of the downtown Miami. Backlit by twinkling lights from the skyline at night, we could detect dolphins circling Totem only by loud huffs of their breath. An idyllic spot to raft up and make some great memories with the pretty Huckins, Cortado (which is for sale, by the way), and her crew.

Totem is now in Fort Lauderdale, on our final countdown to departure for the Bahamas. We don’t know when we’ll be back in the USA, but it’s probably some years. I’ve got an insane list, and it includes major items like, oh, battery bank replacement. Full watermaker servicing. Diesel mechanic services. Provisioning for 3 months in islands with limited stores, and high costs. Supplies for Bahamian communities still impacted by hurricane Mathew last fall. Then there are the incidentals “but we won’t be in the USA for how long?” that inflate our list. Here in the mainland, we have access to better breadth of goods, at a better quality, and a better value, than we will likely encounter for a long time.

It’s been blowing for days, but Totem is in a protected anchorage. There is access to supplies. Anchorage neighbors stopping by to chat from their kayaks. Visits from shoreside dwellers, arriving with friendship, the gift of papaya, and lessons in art (thank you, Jim!).

Life is beautiful. I’m grateful every day for the choices we have and our freedom as a family, and can’t wait to extend our adventures…starting soon in the Bahamas!

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