#gaaaaaaaaaay so fucking gay

[dajadoesdumbstuff]

waaaaaaah omg my gf just stopped watching her show to go and hug me 😭😭😭 (plus she had to wait longer to eat her chocolate)

such a big sacrifice I love her so muuuuuuch 😭😭😭

[welcometothejianghu]

Welcome to another round of W2 Tells You What You Should See, where W2 (me) tries to sell you (you) on something you should be watching reading. Today's choice: 死亡万花筒 / Kaleidoscope of Death.

Kaleidoscope of Death is a 2018 Chinese webnovel about two young men who fall in love while basically playing a whole bunch of horror-themed escape rooms that can for-real kill you.

This novel was gripping. I could not put it down. It started out fun and ended up ripping out my heart several times. It does a good job getting the ball rolling with a series of adventures in weird worlds, then turns into a meditation about grief and loss and what it means to have something to lose in the first place.

This is the first time I've ever done a book rec! I'm doing it in conjunction with a rec post for the Spirealm, and originally I was just going to do this as a bonus section for that post. However, I felt they both deserve whole different posts, because they both have very different things to recommend them. I also think Kaleidoscope of Death a 100% necessary read if you've seen the show, because it provides some context that the show simply cannot include -- but it's not a necessary read before you see the show.

Therefore, I'm going to give you five reasons I think you should sit down with this one, and not a single one of these reasons is going to assume you've watched the Spirealm! The book is great and deserves to be read on its own merits, and then if you then start watching the drama afterwards, so much the better.

1. All the Cross-Dressing

(Yeah, I'm going to punctuate this one with screencaps from the Spirealm, because otherwise it's just a wall of text.)

I'm not going to tell you why the male characters frequently dress and pass as women, since the book explains the practicality of it better than I could. You just need to know that they often do, and it's never not kinda hot when it happens.

When you first meet Ruan Nanzhu, it is as Ruan Baijie, a stunningly beautiful and noticeably tall woman. Lin Qiushi, our POV character who is extremely confused for a number of reasons, spends the first whole arc talking and thinking about Baijie like she's a girl. In fact, one of the cutest things about sweet, earnest Qiushi is that he clocks Baijie several times, and every time he's just like, oh, she's so flat-chested, how unusual for a girl, anyway...

And this isn't even just dressing up! Stepping into the door worlds changes you physically based on your clothing and cosmetics. Nobody inside looks the same as they do outside, and nobody looks the same inside as they did last time they were inside. The rules that govern these transformations aren't even clear to the characters themselves! So, you know, have fun with that.

I'm going to say it's not an out-and-out trans thing, in that we're not dealing with an AMAB egg who will crack someday. Ruan Nanzhu is a very male-identified, penis-having man! He's just also pretty entertainingly comfortable with performing whatever gender makes him the most fuckable person in any given room. Lin Qiushi is not so inherently genderfluid, however, which means that when his gremlin sort-of-boyfriend makes him pretend to be a girl, it's a completely different kink.

Therefore: If you like it in any way when boys dress up like girls, you owe it to yourself to pick up this one. And if you like a fandom that likes it when boys dress up like girls, baby, welcome to the world inside the doors.

2. Those boys GAY

This is a textual romance. Lin Qiushi and Ruan Nanzhu are in love. This is a danmei novel about how they fall in love. There is kissing and there are fade-to-black scenes that explicitly acknowledge that the two of them have sex with one another. We even know that Ruan Nanzhu (usually) tops. This s not just me pointing at them and saying gaaaaaaaaaay. This is actual gay.

And it is gay that takes its fucking time. They do not actually hook up until well over halfway through the book, but they are physically affectionate from almost the get-go. Ruan Nanzhu is such a trickster and a liar that Lin Quishi finds it hard to believe that anything he does is sincere, which leads to nearly lesbian levels of wondering if it means anything when a guy demands you kiss him on the mouth when he's pretending to be your girlfriend. Meanwhile, Ruan Nanzhu is over here being the Kate Beaton comic about sitting here consumed with lust all evening.

Even once they both acknowledge what they're feeling for one another, they don't get together right away. After all, they're playing a game of life and death where they lose friends left and right. Every time someone goes inside the door, there's a real chance they won't come out again. Is giving your heart to someone worth how much it will destroy your entire life when you lose them?

(Yes, says the book. Yes, it is worth it.)

The slow burn of their relationship is delicious, in part because the physical (though not sexual) aspects of it predate the romantic ones. It also has the fun hot-and-cold aspect where Ruan Nanzhu is incredibly affectionate inside the doors, then icy outside of them. Poor completely inexperienced, never-been-kissed Lin Qiushi does not know what to make of any of this. He can barely manage parenting a cat. He does not know how to handle a boyfriend who is also a girlfriend who is also (spiritually) a cat.

I also find it charming how much the gay part of it both is and isn't an issue. It's not that Lin Qiushi has a problem being in love with a man; however, the fact that Ruan Nanzhu is a man does mean the heteronormally indoctrinated and relationship-inexperienced Lin Qiushi takes much longer to realize what exactly those feelings he's having are. The book's world is one where heterosexuality is the assumed default, while queerness is unexpected but everybody's still pretty cool with it. Besides, no one's going to judge Lin Qiushi's gay yearnings, because who doesn't want to fuck Ruan Nanzhu?

3. HAKO ONNA HAKO ONNA HAKO ONNA

So as I was reading through @zintranslations' earlier chapters, I kept seeing translators' notes down at the bottom about being so excited to finally get to the Hako Onna arc. Okay, I thought, this is a lot of hype; I hope it doesn't disappoint.

Friends, it does not. This is the arc I was reading while screaming into a pillow. It's thirteen chapters long, tied for the longest arc in the book with the first door. It is a fucking nail-biter. It does the clever thing of taking all the things you've learned about what can happen inside the doors and combining them for a worst-case scenario.

The setup is pretty simple: There's a bunch of boxes. One has the exit. Most are empty. Some have things that help you. Some have things that hurt you. The more things you find that hurt you, the more things there are to hurt you. And you have to open the boxes.

All the door arcs are pretty well-written, so that you can more or less play along with their various adventures. Hako Onna, however, is exceptional. It's so complicated, but you can actually follow it. And you need to be able to follow it, because the multiple emotional gut-punches that happen in this arc all depend on understanding how the rules of the game have just been leveraged to fuck someone over.

Now I really want to play the board game -- which I was pleased to discover is a real board game! And speaking of board games...

sidebar: Betrayal at House on the Hill

I know this isn't technically related to the novel at all, but if you like board games, horror, and being incredibly dramatic, you owe it to yourself to try out Betrayal at House on the Hill.

It goes like this: You and several other horror-movie archetypes wander through a mansion, "building" it as you explore it, so the game layout is different every time. At some point (and it's based on so many random factors that you never know when it'll be) someone triggers a condition, and the haunting begins. All the players then get the rules of haunting explained to them -- except for one player, the one picked to do the titular betrayal, who gets a different set of instructions and becomes the antagonist. From that point on, the game is about either surviving or completing the haunting, depending on which side you're on.

I have played this game before with normal board game people, and they were like, eh, this is fine. I have also played this game before with theatre kids who RP and LARP, and we all had a fucking blast. So I'm going to warn you that you have to choose your crowd carefully. This is a game for people who do improv and voices.

4. The art of losing isn't hard to master

The book has a high body count -- higher than the show's, in fact, though that's related to how the book also has more characters than the show does. When you meet someone who can go into the doors, be careful how much money you'd lay on their survival.

Death after the doors comes so quickly, too. There's barely any time to say goodbye, if there's even any time at all. Often there's just a phone call telling our main characters that one of their friends or allies or enemies is gone.

Everyone who gets the chance to go through the door worlds is only able to do so because they're dying already. The more doors they pass, the more they get to kick that death further down the road -- but the more doors they enter, the more chances they take that they might die inside one. So really, none of the players can be that resentful of being forced to play a game that can kill them, since they're already playing it on borrowed time.

I will say, somewhat cryptically, that the book has a positive ending that leaves open the possibility for other positive things. The path to that positive ending, though, leads through some pretty wrenching takes on living through grief. It's not even all rah-rah and it-gets-better, either -- the text acknowledges many times over what it means to have someone that life isn't worth living without.

And that's maybe not what you expected from a BL horror adventure webnovel, but it's what you're gonna get! Ha ha!

5. What He Is

Which is the title of the first extra chapter, which is not extra at all, but is in fact a necessary explanatory piece that whacks you upside the head like a two-by-four and recontextualizes the entire story.

...Yeah, that's all you're going to get from me about that. You'll understand when you get there.

Have you put it on your reading list yet?

The way you have to read it is a little convoluted: @zintranslations has chapters 1-17 and 63-end + extras. Taida Translations has chapters 1-62. So no matter where you start reading, you're going to have to switch sites at least once.

There are also apparently Portuguese, Indonesian, Russian, and Spanish translations too? And the original Chinese webnovel, of course. And some audio dramas and subs linked to from this Carrd, which helpfully has other information, like content warnings for specific chapters, in case the horror aspect of the story gives you pause.

Anyway, once you're done reading it -- or even before you're done! -- you should absolutely go watch the Spirealm. I think it's clear from both rec posts that I definitely like the book better, but I appreciate having the drama to bring so many scenes to life, and I think the casting is great. Also, I don't think reading the book makes you like the drama less! Rather, I think reading the book gives you insight into the awkward and sometimes terrible choices the drama had to make to survive -- which in turn gives you the ability to see through those choices, on to what the show always wanted in its heart to be.

I do find it funny how "Kaleidoscope of Death" and "Death's Kaleidoscope" technically mean the same thing, but they sure read different, don't they?

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#5

My favorite thing so far in Three Hopes: they scaled the heights more accurately.

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127 notes - Posted June 9, 2022

#4

Dear folks in the UK and Australia,

Yes, we Americans realize you tightened gun laws after mass shootings. That's wonderful. I fully support this - there, and here in the US. I have been an advocate for gun control for as long as I can remember.

One of the first of this modern school shootings happened in the city where I live.

Please - please - realize bringing up your own laws and control measures and what preceded them every time this happens... does not help. Really. We know. We know, and we either grit our teeth because we've been trying our damndest to do similar here for years, and you bringing it up is nothing but salt in endess wounds, or... it's the people who aren't going to care, any more than they care about children getting gunned down in their own classrooms, who are rolling their eyes every time it's mentioned.

All you're doing at this point is coming across as having a smug superiority complex. It isn't bringing back any of those killed. It isn't going to magically change US laws to remind us. Again.

And again.

And again.

We know.

You aren't helping.

If you want to help:

218 notes - Posted May 26, 2022

#3

Gay

Gay

Gaaaaaaaaaay

Gay

Gay

Gay

GAY

246 notes - Posted March 11, 2022

#2

This may be the first year I wished I watched the Oscars. The queers and Will Smith are having none of it.

502 notes - Posted March 27, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

*sigh*

Fuck you, Disney.

1,105 notes - Posted August 1, 2022

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[fuckingunicornlegend]

*gaynes intensifies*

MARGOT ROBBIE IS SUCH A BADASS

[skywalkerbootleg]

me: god I'm so fucking gay

terf: but aren't you trans? aren't you just fetishizing mlm people?

me: I SAID I'M FUCKING GAAAAAAAAAAY

[thestangossip]

@anxious-paranoid-extraordinaire, the story is true. I have screenshots I can share with Belle to prove it. Pedro siding with that YT feminist is frustrating because he KNOWS and UNDERSTANDS intersectionality but evidently not when its about black women, only yt gay men. Our mutual friend reposted his status that said this

Shared by my friend Pedro Pascal:

“What is so incredibly frustrating to me in the recent coverage of Buttigieg, is that so-called allies and liberals are taking the horseshit, inherently conservative approach in their criticisms by ignoring intersectionality. The entire point of intersectionality is that you cannot lop off and look at facets of a person’s identity discretely. Buttigieg is always gay. He was born gay, wakes up gay, eats gay, goes to sleep gay, breathes gay, and walks around gay. GAAAAAAAAAAY.

And yes, he is also always white and always a dude. There is no question that he is privileged - provided unearned societal benefits due to membership in certain categories - in those (and other facets) of his identity.

But by focusing almost exclusively on his race and sex, critics are erasing his status as a gay person to highlight his privileges as a white man. This is heterosexist, queer erasure.” 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾

No wonder Pedro was impressed with SM's white savior 'activism'. Hes the same type of activist who only shows up when it's convenient or affects him. Pedro didn't do anything to stop Trump in 2016, only tweeted about oppression during Trumps presidency, and now that Trump isn't in office, he hasn't given a shit about ongoing injustices. Attending two protests doesn't make him an activst. He's not an ally. He's pearl clutching bandwagon liberal who talks a good game and fails to prove it with action. He should be ASHAMED of himself for upholding misogynoir and ableism.

I wasn’t going to post this and this isn’t the screenshot. But another blog already posted it and since Pedro won’t stop posting shit…

I can confirm Pedro did write this and I do have a screenshot proving this. And this is an incredibly shitty fucked up post.

[kmp78]

But suuuure keep on believing Mr. Liberace II over there has been fiddling the same 🐱 as JL… 🙄🤭 - not the same. But the source is the same: PR parties and PR girls. 😎👉🏻👌🏻

And what exactly is wrong with her attending hoity toity industry shindigs...???

Like you wouldn't wanna get dolled up in fancy designer gowns (given for free btw!!!) and swan around glitzy parties... 🙄

This is what models do! Stop acting like she is somehow the Jezebel of the century for it! 🙄

And btw once again for the ssssssllloooooow specimens in the back row:

The reason why all models and celeb chickies act so lovey-dovey towards EM, and the reason why they all show up as "his dates" on red carpets and events is precisely BEEEECAAAAUSSSEE HEEEEE IIIIIIIIS GAAAAAAAAAAY.

For a young, good-looking model chick, what better company to keep than a harmless rich gay dude who poses no threat whatsoever (you know what I mean) and who won't be getting any ideas about what has to happen after hours after their date (you know what I mean) and who won't be causing any unnecessary and embarrassing dating rumor headlines BEEEEECAAAAAUSSSEEEEE EVERYOOOOONNNEEEEE KNOOOOOWS AND CAAAAAAAAN SEEEEEEE that he is as gay as a fucking flock of geese. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Oh except the echepsychos in our midst who need for VK to get some Miz dick because heaven forbid she stays loyal to her boyfriend and thus gets more and more threatening to their daydreams. 😭

Embarrassing, to say the least. 🙄

[musikfurfreiheit]

Charlotte: What are your plans for the weekend? Merel: Cuddle you

[phoenixyfriend]

Voltron S7E3 Liveblog

Aaaaaaaaaaaaand it’s off to the races, folks!

...they’re just napping.

Zethrid’s eye, aaaaaaaah.

Put that lip back where you found it or so help me.

He’s about to slam face-first into a wall, isn’t he?

(Also, I notice that Krolia and Coran are conspicuously missing. I’m guessing that Coran wasn’t found since he ended up in a random cargo room during that that last episode, and Krolia’s sneaky enough to hide?)

(PARENTS TO THE RESCUE.)

Close enough, and that TRULY is a pain face.

Oh, Krolia IS there.

Still no Coran, though!

Like mother like son, I guess.

Pidge, don’t be mean.

He’s very sprightly for a man his age.

Maybe Humble means something different in Altean.

Is he going to narrate this entire adventure? Please no.

That is a fucking lie, Coran, don’t even try.

That’s another one.

Yet another.

(Coran and Lance have a lot in common but it’s so much more awkward on a man his age.)

Every time Coran wants to take care of something, the mice beat him to it, and I’m not sure if I’m upset or not with that. Let him have some good moments! He’s old! He’s gotta be useful for something!

...so, just to be sure, I’m not getting the definition of teabagging wrong, right?

He got to dress up as a real space pirate! Finally, after all the space mall nonsense.

There are so many people going gay for Zethrid right now, I’m sure of it.

So like, is she worried or hopeful?

Worried.

GAAAAAAAAAAY. Also Zethrid’s accent sounds different?

This isn’t just me, right? They’re gay for each other? Basically married?

This entire scene is just lesbians.

You know... sometimes... she’s so soft... that I almost forget she’s a sadist.

And then she pulls this shit.

aweyirgfahs[eiopfagpsdyafhu;

Okay, this episode just has a bunch of Space Mall callbacks.

I feel like rubbing my temples. Coran, no.

...nobody’s buying it. I’m getting secondhand embarrassment. Coran, no.

.......I’d have gone with the fact that he isn’t purple but hey, I guess your bosses being half-Galra and Not Purple probably means you learn to stop giving a shit pretty quickly.

Coran keeps trying to bluff his way through this conversation and he keeps rolling like... a 3.

I‘M GAY

Also our gals are apparently not all on the same side anymore. That’s sad.

Once again: I’m gay.

Also yes, she was, but that was a long time ago, Coran, even without the possible timey-wimey nonsense.

Saaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaadist.

Lance are you sure saying that’s a good idea.

Oh, no, the entire Garrison Trio is gonna skip the common sense of shutting up today.

Bad call.

So many people are keen on forgetting she’s a sadist.

Yeah, definitely some timey-wimey shit.

Acxa... Acxa, honey, no.

Her outfit kinda looks like Sven’s.

I, for one, would love some fucking answers.

Wow, that’s cold.

“The Gals deserve a redemption arc more than Lotor does!” Are you sure about that.

Are you.

Okay so the fact that Lance IMMEDIATELY jumps to Pidge’s defense, even though he gets his ass kicked with ease because Ezor’s a badass, just warms my heart.

God, Zethrid is such a bitch and I love it.

OH SHIT THAT’S A THING SHE CAN DO.

Acxa is such a badass.

I have spent.

TWO FUCKING YEARS.

THINKING THAT CORAN COULDN’T SHAPESHIFT.

FUCK.

Also that’s not going to help much when your hair is still BLATANTLY orange, my dude.

So yeah if anyone tries to fight me on whether Altean shapeshifting has hard limits of Size and Skin Color then I will point to this because it would have been REALLY useful if Coran could do more than just that.

This seems like a bad idea.

Yep.

*cups hands around mouth* ACXA HAS A CROPPED JACKET

Hey, same species as Ezor! And using the head tail thing for a scarf!

This isn’t torture, Ezor. I know this is a kids’ show but come on. You’re better than this. If you’re going to be a villain then act like one.

Cute pout, though.

This is far from the first time the mice have saved your asses.

Coran... Coran no.

Pidge’s lil’ shit-eating grin.

Acxa to her old posse: Surprise, bitch. Bet you thought you’d seen the last of me.

I WOULD LIKE SOME ANSWERS, PLEASE.

............no comment.

Coran. No. Why.

Oh shit, bruh.

DID HE JUST FUCKING SUMMON HIS BAYARD FROM ACROSS THE ROOM.

Hm. Kinda wondering why Lance and not Krolia or Shiro. I mean, I know Lance is the right hand, but... logically...

You know, I was really hoping for the siblings angle but someone told me that this is actually a romance arc and I’m like... okay, I guess? I liked the Acxa&Keith siblings theory. It was cool.

Those are some shitty space suits.They’re so ugly. Good.

Hnnnnnnnnnnnnnng.

Wow, Zethrid and Ezor are really leaning on those playground insults.

I agree with Keith on this one.

God, the Gals+Keith fight scene is amazing.

Holy shit Zethrid.

Explosion time. I hope Zethrid and Ezor aren’t dead. They make for some great villains.

YEP.

(Okay, so maybe the reason they’re shipping Keith outside the team is because he aged fast and then skipped years so he’s on par with the rest of the universe while everyone else is behind, except Coran and Allura but they don’t count.)

It’s been three fucking years.

She’s so freaking pretty.

No shit. I’ve been saying that since I saw S6.

Okay, some of the Acxa crush stuff feels a liiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiittle forced.

“Sought only power is bullshit” and I’m just internally going “It’s your own fault for not thinking that fight through, you fucks.”

[sihayadesigns]

Natalie Morales and “queer.”

Rambly thoughts on a Saturday afternoon. I was reading a popular gossip site today when I came across an article about Natalie Morales coming out as queer.  The reaction was... not what I thought it would be. I didn’t see as much of the “queer is a slur!” crowd showing up. But I did see a lot of eye-rolling, as though “queer” were some kind of safe, straight-approved term that was a cop-out to calling herself bi/pan/whateverthefuck they thought she should have called herself.  It got stuck in my craw.  Let me just say this clearly: I think the pushback on “queer” has a lot to do with moving goalposts for people in the community who aren't unambiguously lesbian or gay. Before I continue, let me just tell you my take on three of the most common arguments against “queer” that come from within the LGBT+ community. Let’s just get them out of the way right quick before someone feels like bringing them up is Brand New Information ™ . * “BUT QUEER IS A SLUR!” Uh. Yeah, straight people have used it as a slur. But you know I grew up hearing? “Johnny is gaaaaaaaaaay, haha!” I heard “gay” used derogatorily on the regular. And yet we don’t magically expect gay men to stop calling themselves gay. HUNH. *sips tea* * “PEOPLE SHOULDN’T BE CALLED QUEER IF THEY DON’T ID THAT WAY!” Roger that. If you tell me you don’t want to personally be called queer, I won’t call you that as a personal label. You have the right to your own personal label, and to have that label respected.  But “queer” as an umbrella term and has a deep history, in part because of its ties to LGBT+ activism (”queer as in fuck you” anyone?). And then there’s the decades-old academic use. “Queer theory.” “Queer studies.” Etc. You’ll pry “queer” as an umbrella term out of my cold, dead hands. * “BUT KINKY STRAIGHT PEOPLE USE QUEER! IT’S MEANINGLESS NOW!” Look, if we ceded the use of every term that straight people tried to appropriate, we wouldn’t have any fucking terms left. Yeah, that happens sometimes, and it fucking sucks when it does. But I feel like it’s a relative rarity to the point where it’s practically a smokescreen in these conversations. Yeah, some straight people are shitheads. This is not news. But I have a fucking backbone. I’m not going to cave in and cede my history and culture because a few straight kinksters want to feel edgy. End of story.

ANYWAY. I came out in the 1999/2000 in Baltimore, and I used bi and queer interchangeably, because a lot of people in the community (L's, B's G's, and T's) used it AND their own term depending on context, etc. As I mentioned above, “queer” has deep roots, as both a personal and an umbrella term, and particularly in LGBT+ activism. And then there's the biphobia aspect. I definitely started ID'ing more strongly as queer at some point mid-2000's because calling myself bi got the "you just don't know you're a lesbian yet" from people in the community and "you're just doing it for attention / you're greedy / you'll cheat" bullshit from the straights. So, fast-forward to now, when I've done a lot of grappling and decided "fuck you, nobody will ever say bi if we refuse to use it.” But now I'm ALSO seeing oddly familiar pushback on “queer,” which a lot of bi & pan people (not to mention non-binary people) use because of various types of phobias directed at us. I've definitely made a point to use “bi” more since "pan" came into the queer lexion and a lot of pan folks used lies/ignorance to say that bi = binary and therefore excludes non-binary people. Those people need to be loudly pushed back against and educated on facts. (Bi has verifiably meant "attraction to two or more genders" since the first national bi advocacy groups were founded in the 70's. We have receipts.) But “queer” is a part of my identity, and I use the term, too. I realize all of the totally valid reasons why someone else might choose it as a personal label, as well. Maybe they want to tap into the activist history of the word within the community. Maybe they're figuring things out and haven't settled on another term. Maybe they feel more fluid and using "queer" means that they won't confuse people by changing terms every few years. Maybe lots of other reasons I haven't thought of yet. But in public discourse, it's like a lose-lose situation. Use “bi” and get shit on. Get comfortable with another term and you're using “queer” to be "safe." It all just seems like a game of moving goalposts to shit on people in the middle of the Kinsey scale and make us feel second class. Same shit, different decade.  And a lot of bi people buy into the criticism of “queer” because they just want to be SEEN.  I get that, I do. But ultimately, it’s self-defeating. It’s not a victory for us if it’s at someone else’s expense-- not to mention so many of us already use both terms. It’s shitty. Stop doing that. Anyway, this is all to say, “good for Natalie.” She should use what term works for her, and ignore every last person who criticizes her for it.  That criticism is coming from a lot of places: ignorance of history, personal grappling with terminology, control issues, frustration at how Hollywood perpetuates biphobia. None of that is her fault or personal responsibility, so directing it at her is not a good look. I'm not going to sit here and assume this woman (who is quite private and I don't know personally) is using the term out of fear or bi-erasure or whatever, and by and large, I feel like making those assumptions about people says more about the person making the assumption than the person calling themselves queer.  I'm also not going to expect her to use bi or pan because that's what someone else feels she should be using instead. I remember how shitty it felt for people to invalidate my label out of their own shitty assumptions, and there's no way I'm going to turn that crappy feeling around on someone else. She doesn't owe me shit. She doesn’t owe you shit, either. TL;DR: We’re here, we’re queer, get fucking used to it. Identity policing and infighting is vicious, unbecoming, and self-defeating. Let’s all put on our adult pants and be better than that.

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My favourite thing in the world is people seeing someone they're attracted to and being like, "I'm just so fucking gAY." So basically your tags are my very favourite tags on this godforsaken website, and I hope truly hope you find your very own Hoechlin someday.

but l i s t e n,,,,,, sometimes i can’t say anything but “I’M GAY” because just ?????? some people are just sO BEAUTIFUL it’s unreal and i’m just gaaaaaaaaaay

also i hope there aren’t 2 tyler hoechlin’s on this earth bc lbr we would probably all spontaneously combust :p