#furthermore i cant speak for non-US hospitals but in US hospitals weapons arent allowed and there is security on site

[missbaphomet]

Hi I'm at work so I can't give a full response but medical trauma is not an excuse to neglect your health. In fact, you should be healing from your trauma, not just avoiding it. I was groomed and sexually assaulted when I was younger and it took a lot of hard work to overcome that trauma but it has been so, so worth it.

You have the right to change providers, and you absolutely should if you feel your care is inadequate. I've posted resources regarding medical self-advocacy before that I regretfully cannot spend the time digging up right now. I've said it once and I'll say it again, if you feel your doctor is not giving you proper treatment, listening to you, makes you uncomfortable, or any other reason you SHOULD seek out a different physician. Only you can advocate for yourself in this regard, so if you refuse to speak up or look into a different doctor then there is no one to blame but yourself.

I live in the 2nd reddest state in the US. The absolute last thing you need to preach to me about is LGBT care. Again, advocate for yourself. If a doctor or nurse or anyone misgenders you in a clinical setting, correct them loudly and unashamedly. If they persist, you are capable of filing a complaint. Report medical practicioners that disrespect you. If you don't, you are part of the problem. Furthermore (as someone who has worked in clinical settings before) they should be using your name to call you back to the offices, not any honorifics like mister or miss. I have been called back by my first name or by my last name, but NEVER by Miss [name]. Maybe this varies from state to state but it is still something only you have the power to correct.

I'm not speaking as a "cis person", I'm speaking as a bisexual woman who has also faced medical discrimination and knows what to do about it. I don't have to be transgender to understand what this is like, because it's my lived experience as well. I'm not really the one missing nuance here. I'm speaking as someone with a passionate love for humanity who is an advocate for sexual and reproductive rights with many, many trans friends who also has faced medical discrimination and is encouraging people who may face sex specific conditions to seek care for their own sake because it is better to be misgendered than dead, and so many trans people will agree with this. Get sex specific healthcare because it can very literally be a matter of life and death.

Before I get into this post I want to make it abundantly clear that I fullheartedly support trans people. Trans women are women and trans men are men, so don't get it fucking twisted.

But we need to abolish this idea that biological sex doesn't matter because there are very valid reasons where your birth sex is incredibly important. There are X and Y linked disorders that favor or are exclusive to each sex. No amount of hormones in the world will cure things like hemophilia A, Hunter Syndrome, Turner Syndrome, or Duchenne muscular dystrophy. If you are a trans man, you are at risk for things like ovarian cancer or cervical cancer, and trans women have to worry about prostate cancer and testicular cancer. Fortunately, most of these worries can be abetted with gender affirming care, but this isn't accessible to everyone, especially in the United States. I deeply sympathize with anyone who experiences gender dysphoria but you need to take care of your health. Better to face temporary discomfort in the waiting room of your doctor's office than to die prematurely.

If it helps, HIPAA means that your physician cannot give anyone your medical history without consent. As long as you don't say anything, no one there will know you're trans or that you're there for sex specific healthcare. As far as anyone knows, the trans man sitting in the waiting room of an OBGYN is merely an expecting father or a relative of someone getting care. Either way, it's none of their goddamn business.