#fuckyeaholiwija

[legit-writing-tips]

Do you think an unhealthy relationship can become a healthy relationship true the people involved changing and evolving? Or are they doomd to be unhealthy with each other because it started that way and they can't become better together?

Of course. It happens in real life all the time. But it’s not just something that magically happens, or even something that happens just because people “grow up” or evolve, though that certainly does play a role. 

For unhealthy relationships to become healthy, couples need to work together - not only to uncover the source(s) of their unhappiness, but to come up with tools that they can use to foster a better, healthier connection with one another. Another thing to bear in mind is that for a relationship to become healthy again, the couple is going to need to deal with the hurt and resentment that accrued during the “unhealthy” time. 

In a fictional context, trying to show a bad relationship becoming “healthy” through the power of love is just plain wrong. (See: 50 Shades of Grey). Trying to place all the blame on a single partner is damaging too. I suggest anybody interesting in portraying this kind of relationship to do some research on couples therapy type stuff in order to get it right. 

[bigbadbloodymess]

I was tagged by: skurfiez (sorry I did this so late, I saw this just now heh) Name: Miriam

Nickname: Yuuki (or Sam- but that's mostly one person, Dean, who calls me that. we met in those cosplays and it just...stuck. and she's my bro, so) Birthday: 11 of July. 

Gender : I don’t know. Something. I'm a girl physically, but I dress, act, and generally am more like a guy. I'm not entirely gender-fluid, but I think that's the closest definition of what I am. idk.

Sexuality: Like a strange sort of pansexual? I'm straight, but I'm fairly uninterested in sex. Not for, ever, I just think that'll come when I actually find someone I like? IDK. Something.

Height: 172-something cm

Time zone: CET

What time and date is it there?: 15:25, 20 December.

Average hours of sleep each night: Heh, yeah, about that...it ranges from 4-7 hours. I don't have insomnia, I just tend to get...distracted. And since I'm more of a night-person, I often stay up too late when I have to go up early. oops. 

The last thing I googled was: "time zone stockholm". Yes, I suck.  My most used phrase on Tumblr: I don’t know? Probably something like "THE FEELS OH GOD WHY". 

First word that comes to mind: Flabbergasted. 

What I last said to a family member: ....probably something along the lines of "thanks for breakfast". I am home for the holidays, and hey, who doesn't love having your parents take care of you?

One place that makes me happy and why: I have many, but, one is those times at night where everything is quiet (except for the token party-goers), and you're going somewhere –maybe on a bus home after a good night hanging out friends, the city lights are all around and beautiful, you're listening to music, and everything is just...perfect. I know this isn't a specific place, but those times are something that makes me happy, so.

How many blankets I sleep under:  One. I can't sleep if I'm too warm. I do, however have two pillows. Wow, I'm just so interesting, aren't I. 

Favourite beverage: Some kind of tie between Earl Grey tea with sugar and milk, and Coca Cola. I'm trying to cut back on the cola however, but, well.

The last movie I watched in the cinema: The Hunger Games: Mockingjay part 1. Deer (I did just spell deer instead of dear, yes, because I have a terrible sense of humour) lord the feels. The acting. The perfection. sigh.

Three things I can’t live without: My incredible friends (and fuck, there's so many of them, me from 6 years ago wouldn't have believed me if I told her), my family and my computer. 

Something I plan on learning: I've always wanted to learn martial arts. It's so flippin' cool, and -unfortunately- also useful, in this violent world we live in. Also, Archery. So cool.

A piece of advice for all my followers: Do what you want to do with your life, be who you want to be. This life is too short to waste on society's crap standards. Find what (or who) makes you happy in life, and go for it. I'd also like to add that you are all incredible, beautiful people. Some of you I might not ever meet, but I know this. You are all great, and don't let anybody put you down. You are amazing. You were meant to be.  I tag:  rawaria, epke, saltstainedplaid, kyskhet, fuckyeaholiwija. Do it if you feel like it, lovelies. 

[wordsinswedish]

The world in swedish for the girls tattoo is correct.

Thanks :) Someone else gave me different translations so I’m not sure what to think lol