#frogging

[ghw-archive]

Riding Ensemble • ca. 1820 • Silk • American • Philadelphia Museum of Art (1936-12-3a,b--e) .

[campgender]

from “Rethinking High Maintenance: The Queer Fat Femme Guide to Not Blaming It on the Fact That You Don’t Like High Femmes” by Bevin Branlandingham

published in Persistence: All Ways Butch & Femme, ed. Ivan E. Coyote & Zena Sharman (2011)

Backstage at a show I was hosting, burlesque legend World Famous *BOB* told me a story about how a (now former) beau had called her high maintenance.

“I called my drag mom and asked if she thought I was high maintenance. She said ‘Of course you are, but you maintain yourself. You’re like a classic car; if someone is going to drive a ’66 Caddy, they will. If they want a Honda, they should drive a Honda.’”

The rhetoric of what is considered “high maintenance” in our community is judgmental and unfairly targets femmes.

The definition of high maintenance I am working from is something, much like the aforementioned classic car, that takes a lot of work to keep in running order. This can be aesthetic work—makeup, hair care, attention to fashion—or emotional, physical, or intellectual expectations that need to be met in order for the person who is high maintenance to be running in top condition.

In the queer community, there seems to be a very negative value judgment on the so-called high-maintenance feminine aesthetic. There are hundreds of stories of femmes coming out of the closet only to be shamed into an androgynous or butch appearance because they wanted to fit into the lesbian or queer community, but femmephobic people called them not queer enough. There is nothing in my lipstick case that prevents me from being queer, and realizing that took an entirely separate coming-out process.

We should remove the value judgment from the phrase high maintenance, since it should have nothing to do with anyone other than the person being maintained. Everyone can be high maintenance in their own ways; it’s all just a matter of whether or not one person’s maintenance is compatible with another person’s.

[purplbear]

I have now paid this years knitting mistake tax.

I forgot the two most important rules when bringing knitting to a dimly lit bar.

1. It has to be ok if beer gets spilled on the knitwork.

2. You probably can’t see well so don’t bring anything complicated with lots of increases, decreases, lace, cables, etc that needs you to read the pattern.

I done messed up. Brought the ombré cable cardigan to singing at the bar and …. 24 ROWS LATER remembered that I needed to increase for the hip area!!! Ugh.

And no lifeline. Rip rip rip … then pickup like 300+ stitches that include cables and texture.

🐸 🐸 🐸 🐸 🐸

[patrokleos]

The most unrealistic thing in Miss Fisher's Murder Mysteries, hands down, bar none, is the time when Dot frogs an adult sweater and uses the yarn to make a child-sized sweater, all in about two days.

[hibernationfibres]

Frogging frogging frogging!

It’s tedious, but I’ll be happy about it later when I have yarn I can make into something I actually like!

[giddyaunt425]

Me when I have to frog a crochet/knitting project I've been working on for hours:

[milkweedman]

Ah, partially finished handspun sweater from at least 1 year ago that i will never finish, my beloathed

I frogged it. Idk how much yarn this is total (the spaghetti skeins were both just over 100 yards each)... so if the other skeins are the same size it's around 600 yards of yarn.

Not a lot you can do with that. I am gonna see if I can spin up these remaining rolags before they get even dustier (I did have the sweater panel covering the basket so that absorbed most of the dust I hope. I have been sneezing a lot and am grateful this isn't one of those dislocated jaw days). We'll see if the knees allow it. But that would maybe add another 100 yards.

I was vaguely considering weaving some squares with it to turn into a blanket ? The yardage would go further that way, but like...not that much further. I don't believe that I have any more of any of the fleeces I used on this. The brown is jacob but I've bought,processed, used/sold like 6 jacob fleeces at this point and they all vary in crimp, softness, staple length, you name it. The white I think is a bfl cross mixed with shetland. Pretty sure I used the remainder of the bfl for something else and the shetland I either used already or dyed pink. Can't remember...I have also gone thru a number of shetland fleeces at this point, and again, they all vary.

So....yeah idk. I mean adding another breed like I did with the jacob wouldn't be a terrible idea, but I'm not sure what. Ideas welcome. Yarn weight is heavy worsted to bulky.

[otherbombdotcom]

I had this machine knit scarf for a really long time but never used it even though I loved the colors and fiber content, so I decided to unravel it to use for something else. Great idea in theory lolololol. Yeah the fiber was painfully small so after I unraveled it I busted out my drop spindle and respun the threads into a more reasonable yarn size. I'm pretty happy with the finished results, James remains unimpressed, but he is a very two dimensional man.

Image Description:

Top right - A colorful orange, pink, yellow, and white striped knit scarf is laying on a wooden table in the process of being unraveled.

Top left - A drop spindle and the now fully disassembled scarf are laying on the wooden table. The colorful threads are arranged in small balls by shade.

Bottom right- A close up detail shot of some of the finished yarn. It is two different color strands spun together and variegated.

Bottom left- A white arm is extended out holding four finished hanks of the previously mentioned yarn. In the background a larger than life cutout of James Dean looks... unimpressed.

[crowwolf]

So I frogged Rolan's foot - not a euphemism, for non-knitters: it means to rip out stitches. Get it? Rip it rip it, which sounds like ribit ribit that a frog would say; frogged knitting. Anyways, so far, I'm preferring the new way I'm doing it with invisible increases. Wondering if I should use smaller needles tho for better stitching. Ah well, I'll see how it goes.

[neilsanders]

FUNKY FROGGINS

[stitching-spencer]

Spent majority of the evening tearing out the top row of this piece cause I miscounted. Then restarted with a new color only to find the pattern keeper version of the pattern is incorrect. More frogging in my future I guess. Hope everyone had a better Wednesday than me 😅

[ghw-archive]

[campgender]

conversation w myself just now like

Q: why do you feel ashamed at the thought of posting kink education excerpts when you don’t feel that way about any other topic, including non-educational quotes about sex?

A: oh damn. i guess probably because of that post i kept seeing everywhere i turned recently like “tumblr is the only place you get posts on bdsm aftercare by virgins.” i mean the majority of people who think virgin is a thing someone can be would not consider me one, but that’s not the point; it’s that (at least in the microculture that is the corners of queer internet i’m exposed to) i can’t go a day without seeing something that tells me to get off the phone & out of the house & have gay sex. the gay sex i am having is irrelevant to the systemic devaluation of both what i could broadly term shut-in knowledges + reading sex rather than (or prior to) doing it more generally.

Q: so am i interpreting correctly that you think such posts are discouraging kink education?

A: i’ve seen that post criticizing sharing aftercare tips more times than i’ve seen posts with aftercare tips. obviously i don’t have a problem with encouraging people to be cautious / skeptical about sources of information, but that’s not the effect here. instead i just feel like a loser every time i consider sharing aftercare tips – shit that i’ve never seen on a listicle before & really could’ve used years ago, personally.

Q: you know what i’m gonna say: are those the kind of people you want to be listening to?

A: no. fuck that. i think i have things to contribute to kink practitioners at large, but even if my experience is useful only for other sexually active shut-ins, we still exist & if they want to find this info it should be out there for them.

[knottybliss]

I thought perhaps I could fix this. I thought I could just drop-stitch my way down the spine, shift an extra yarn over in on one side where I’d missed it, and rescue-hook my way back up to the top.

I was wrong.

I don’t know how I managed this, so I don’t know how to fix it by any way but frogging. I might not have to frog the whole thing.

Then again, I might just for sheer spite.

[gornwen]

Just in! Frogging for illiteracy is out! Frogging for hubris is in!