#free love honne

[acrosstheujiverse]

dynamics of an introverted couple

【🔎】 description: scenarios you have with your introverted boyfriend, woozi, as an introvert yourself. 【🖇️】 pairing: introvert!woozi x introvert!reader. 【💿】 genre: FLUFF!! 【🧺】 tags: butterflies in your stomach, x1000 cute.

📬 — author’s note！my first official post! haha. it MAY take a while for me to actually have the courage and confidence to post my aus, but i hope you will be patient with me ^-^

thank you ♡ enjoy reading this.

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your love story wouldn’t be one of love at first sight. no. instead, it would go under the slow-burn genre of romance. a friends-to-lovers slow burn.

in the few instances where jihoon would be outside and hang out with his small circle of close friends, he would be introduced to you. by courtesy of seungcheol.

you and jihoon’s first meeting was somewhat formal, with a few jokes and questions to break the ice, courtesy of soonyoung. it would take the two of you more hangout sessions to actually feel comfortable in each other’s presence.

jihoon would be the first to fall; he wouldn’t admit it to you, but he started to be interested with everything you said, and he would care about you. more than in a friendly way.

when hit with the growing feeling of being in love with you, jihoon would try to keep it to himself. he would be too shy to confess his feelings.

as the two of you walked after having finished yet another hangout session with your friends, you would be the one who confessed to him. in the many hangouts you had, you knew jihoon already; he was not the type to actually express his feelings. he wouldn’t be the one confessing, and he wouldn’t have the courage to actually risk your friendship.

you and jihoon wouldn’t have many fights.

when you two DO have fights, it’s because of a lack of communication. you suppress your feelings, whereas jihoon expresses himself with harsh words, pushing people away and isolating himself in his studio. (it’s due to his hectic work schedule and lack of sleep that he struggles to manage his stress.)

you both learned the hard way why communication—communicating your feelings—is an important part of any relationship.

both of you have slowly become vulnerable to each other. through face-to-face conversations or through text, whichever makes you both comfortable.

“not everyone is comfortable talking about their emotions and vulnerabilities, and that’s okay. but please don’t push people out without first telling them how you feel about the topic (that you’re uncomfortable and would like to not talk about it). if they’re truly concerned about you, they would understand the boundary you just put up and drop the topic.”

this relationship would be LOWKEY—i mean on the down DOWN-low. to the point where the only time you publicly show your guy’s relationship would be after like 5+ years of dating. (it’s THAT lowkey.)

it wouldn’t be surprising to many if you both decided to announce your relationship once you were both engaged.

even though he doesn’t have that much dating experience… jihoon would be the romantic type. he doesn’t show it, but he has seen different types of media—from shows to animes—to KNOW how to be romantic towards his partner. he wouldn’t be the over-the-top kind of romantic, but he would surprise you in the simplest but sweetest of ways. like randomly giving you flowers (if you’re allergic, it’s fake flowers) out of nowhere just because he felt like it, or (leaning to something more of his forte) dedicating a song he’s been writing to you—a melodic and nostalgic feeling to it.

for you and jihoon, it’s the little things that count. simple but never boring.

both you and jihoon liked the privacy and intimacy of your relationship.

you two are liberated from the social convention of broadcasting your guy’s relationship to the public. you two can be in love without the prying eyes of the public.

sleeping in on weekends would be the norm for both of you because you’re both sleep-deprived.

groggily waking up to sight of jihoon’s cute sleeping face, you honestly can’t be more grateful for his existence and presence in your life.

you can’t help but lightly pinch at the sight of jihoon’s squishy cheeks. he would slowly and slightly open his eyes, his nose scrunching from the sensation. he gives you a lazy smile and a soft peck at the tip of your nose.

“g’morning love.”

[it was in fact the afternoon, but who could correct this fatigued guy?]

although your love for each other may not be as obvious as most relationships are, it is the kind of love that you’re glad to be going home to.

a quiet love that speaks languages that only you two understand.

— fin.

[penroseparticle]

Songs that make your heart bigger, go thumpthump, make you hug whoever’s closest

Hey. Thanks for this. This playlist was a lot of fun to work on.

SUNBURST

These songs all make me feel. Big. Somehow. Idk man. I feel love most ardently or what have you.

I hope these songs also give you that Peridot feeling.

Loser- Jagwar Twin

something will happen- berlioz

Girl In The Orchestra- HONNE

Preach- Keiynan Lonsdale

Will You Love Me Tomorrow/Head Over Feet- Glee Cast

I Got You- whatever mike

Closer- POWERS

Vienna- Billy Joel

Make It Better- Anderson .Paak ft. Smokey Robinson

The Gambler- fun.

How Deep Is Your Love- PJ Morton ft. Yebba

I Really Love You- Gibbz

Stupid Shit- Girlicious

Almost (Sweet Music)- Hozier

Fisherman's Horizon- Final Fantasy VIII

Ghost of Chicago- Noah Floersch

Pink + White- Frank Ocean

Pink Pony Club- Chappell Roan

It RUns Through Me- Tom Misch ft. De La Soul

Cupid (Twin Version)- FIFTY FIFTY

fake.guitars- lost spaces

King Of My Heart- Sub-Radio

Good Bye- Victoria Monet

Downtown- Macklemore & Ryan Lewis ft. Melle Mel, Grandmaster Caz, Kool Moe Dee and Eric Nally

Must Have Done Something Right- Relient K

Build a Boat- Colton Dixon

Lite Weight- Anderson .Paak ft. The Free Nationals United Fellowship Choir

Remember Summer Days (Night Tempo Showa Groove Mix)- Anri, Night Tempo

Special- Lizzo

Mama Say- Betty Who

This playlist is one that's gonna grow, I can feel it. Thanks for planting something special.

[songbirdseung]

PLAYLISTS / EN- HYUNGLINE

synopsis: the enhypen members making playlists for you.

HEESEUNG 이희승 ~

Off My Face - Justin Bieber

Adore You - Harry Styles

Free Love - HONNE

Hold Me Tight - Loco, Crush

Die For You - The Weeknd

As Heeseung prepares for his upcoming tour, there's a mix of excitement and bittersweet anticipation in the air. Knowing that he'll be away for a while, he decides to leave you with something special – a playlist of songs he's curated just for you.

On a quiet evening, Heeseung invites you to sit with him, a warm smile on his face. The room is filled with the soft strumming of a guitar from one of his favorite tracks. "I made something for you, YN."

He hands you a beautifully decorated envelope. As you open it, a handwritten note greets you, expressing his feelings and the significance of each song on the playlist. "What's this?"

"A playlist. I thought it could be something for you to listen to while I'm on tour. Each song means something to me, to us."

He takes out his phone and hands it to you, the playlist ready to play. As the first song begins, you realize it's a mix of tracks that capture different moments of your relationship, from the lighthearted to the more intimate.

You share a smile, the memories flooding back as the playlist progresses. Heeseung's eyes never leave yours as the music becomes a soundtrack to your time together.

As the last song plays, Heeseung gently takes the phone from you and places it on the table. He then reaches for your hand, his gaze filled with sincerity.

"I'll miss you, YN. But no matter where I am, these songs will remind me of you, and I hope they do the same for you."

JAY 박종성 ~

About Us Part.1 - Jason Ray

Because Of You - Neyo

Heaven - Pink Sweats

Isn't She Lovely - Stevie Wonder

R U Mine? - Artic Monkeys

The soft glow from Jay's phone illuminates the otherwise dim room as he sits on the edge of the bed, earphones plugged in, immersed in his own world. Unbeknownst to him, you stir in your sleep, vaguely aware of the soft melodies playing in the background.

Curiosity gets the best of you, and you crack open an eye, catching Jay with his phone in hand and a determined look on his face. As you listen more closely, you realize he's creating a playlist, his fingers dancing across the screen with a practiced ease.

"Jay, what are you doing?" Jay startles, turning to you with wide eyes, guilty as charged.

"Oh, hey. Sorry, did I wake you?" You sit up, rubbing the sleep from your eyes, and look at him with a mix of amusement and confusion. "What's going on? It's 2 am."

Jay grins, his cheeks slightly flushed. "I couldn't sleep, and I was feeling a bit… lovesick, I guess. So, I thought I'd make a playlist for you." You can't help but smile at his honesty and the unexpected sweetness of the gesture.

"A playlist at 2 in the morning? Really?" "Well, you know, inspiration strikes at the oddest hours. And you were sleeping so peacefully; I didn't want to disturb you." As you listen to the playlist he's crafting, you realize it's a compilation of songs that hold special meaning for both of you. It's evident that Jay is pouring his heart into this late-night project, choosing each track with care.

"You're such a hopeless romantic, Jay." Jay chuckles, running a hand through his hair. "Guilty as charged. But hey, I wanted it to be a surprise."

JAKE 심재윤 ~

Intentions - Justin Bieber

Angel Baby - Troye SIvan

Love Me Like That - Sam Kim

Double Take - Dhruv

Sunflower - Post Malone

The air is filled with a mix of anticipation and nerves as Jake arrives at your house for what seems like a regular friend hangout. Unknown to you, he's been contemplating a confession, and today he's decided to take that leap.

You greet Jake at the door, oblivious to the internal turmoil he's experiencing. The atmosphere is casual as you settle in the living room, discussing movies, music, and the latest happenings in your lives.

As the conversation flows, Jake clears his throat, a subtle hint of nervousness betraying his usual composed demeanor. "Hey, there's something I wanted to show you."

He reaches into his bag and pulls out a small envelope. You raise an eyebrow, curious about the mysterious contents. "What's this?"

"Just something I put together. It's kind of like a playlist, but, well, different." Jake takes a deep breath, his gaze meeting yours with a newfound intensity. "I wanted to show you, not just tell you, how much you mean to me."

There's a pause, the weight of the confession hanging in the air. You look at Jake, the realization sinking in, and a warm smile spreads across your face. "Jake, I appreciate your honesty. I… feel the same way." Relief washes over Jake, and he can't help but return your smile. "Really?"

You nod, and the tension in the room lifts as a new understanding settles between you.

SUNGHOON 박성훈 ~

8 Letters - Why Don't We

Like I Need U - Keshi

What Are You Doing New Year's Eve? - Ella Fitzgerald

다시 사랑한다면 - Do Won Kyeong

Spring Day - BTS

He can't shake the unsettling feeling that the relationship between him and you have hit a rough patch. The thought of a potential breakup weighs heavy on his mind, prompting him to express his feelings through the medium of music.

Meanwhile, you find yourself cleaning the room, hoping to bring a sense of order to the emotional chaos that seems to have permeated the space. As you move around, you notice Sunghoon's laptop open on the desk, the playlist title catching your eye – "Unsaid Words."

Intrigued, you click on it and are greeted by a collection of songs that span a range of emotions. The lyrics seem to reflect the unspoken tensions that have been building between you and Sunghoon. Each song tells a story of love, loss, and the fear of things slipping away.

Sunghoon enters the room, a slightly startled expression crossing his face as he realizes you've found the playlist. "Oh, you weren't supposed to see that." You turn to him, the weight of the moment palpable in the air. "What's this, Sunghoon?"

Sunghoon takes a deep breath, his eyes searching yours. "It's just… I've been feeling like we're drifting apart, and I didn't know how to say it. So, I made this playlist to express what I've been feeling."

Your heart sinks as you listen to his words, the gravity of the situation becoming clearer. You sit down, and Sunghoon joins you, the playlist serving as an emotional backdrop to the difficult conversation ahead.

[koizumicchi]

可愛くなれたらいいのに (HoneyWorks feat. Capi) English Translation

可愛くなれたらいいのに Kawaiku Naretara Ii No Ni I Wish I Could Become Cute

HoneyWorks feat. Capi Lyrics: shito & Gom Composer: shito

Listen here. German TL by kido.

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T/N: Keep in mind that Japanese and English aren’t my first language. I never claim my translation (attempts) to be error-free. As always, if you’re going to use or reference my translations, please do not claim it as your own and credit me.

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可愛くなれたらいいのに 恋したのに 好きとか言っちゃうのに ばか。

Kawaiku naretara ii no ni Koi shita no ni Suki toka icchau no ni Baka.

I wish I could become cute If only I fell in love If only I could say I love it Such a fool I am.

断れない性格で 嫌なことも口に出せない 大人の言いなりだった 人間が嫌いだった

Kotowarenai seikaku de Iya na koto mo kuchi ni dasenai Otona no ii nari datta Ningen ga kirai datta

With a personality that cannot refuse I cannot even say the things I don’t like I did what the adults told me to do I hated humans

ストーリーで本音と愚痴書いて 恋なんてできるはずない 陰キャなんだ

Sutōrī de honne to guchi kaite Koi nante dekiru hazu nai Inkya nanda

Writing down my complaints and my true feelings in a story It is highly unlikely for me to fall in love I am an introvert

可愛くなれたらいいのに 恋したのに 好きとか言っちゃうのに 可愛くなれたらいいのに 夢見たのに きっとぶりっ子したのに ばか。

Kawaiku naretara ii no ni Koi shita no ni Suki toka icchau no ni Kawaiku naretara ii no ni Yumemita no ni Kitto burikko shita no ni Baka.

I wish I could become cute If only I fell in love If only I could say I love it I wish I could become cute Although I dreamed to be I am sure I was only acting coy Such a fool I am.

諦めは必要で 運命は信じていない 友達は見せかけばかり 人間が嫌いだった

Akirame wa hitsuyō de Unmei wa shinjite inai Tomodachi wa misekake bakari Ningen ga kirai datta

Giving up is necessary I don’t believe in fate Friends are merely for show I hated humans

私抜きのLINEグループとか 入れてとか言えるはずない 言いたくない

Watashi nuki no LINE gurūpu toka Irete toka ieru hazu nai Iitakunai

A LINE group chat not including me I cannot just say add me to it I do not want to say it

可愛くなれたらいいのに 好かれたのに 嫌だとか言えちゃうのに 可愛くなれたらいいのに 嫌わないのに きっと強くなれたのに ばか。

Kawaiku naretara ii no ni Sukareta no ni Iyada toka iechau no ni Kawaiku naretara ī no ni Kirawanai no ni Kitto tsuyoku nareta no ni Baka.

I wish I could become cute Although I’d love to be If only I could say no I wish I could become cute If only I am not hated I am sure I could have become stronger Such a fool I am.

君と出会えて世界が 真逆に動いた 人生は単純 間違ってた

Kimi to deaete sekai ga Magyaku ni ugoita Jinsei wa tanjun Machigatteta

When I met you, my world Turned upside down Life is simple. I was wrong.

可愛くなるんだなるんだ 言わせるんだ 好きとか困るくらい 愛して愛して愛して 可愛がって ずっと裏切らないように LOVE

Kawaiku narun da narun da Iwaserun da Suki toka komaru kurai Aishite aishite aishite Kawaigatte Zutto uragiranai yō ni LOVE

I will be cute, I will be cute I will make them say it I will love so much that others will be at a loss Love me, love me, love me Cherish me May I won’t ever be betrayed by anyone LOVE

本当の私は可愛いんだ Hontō no watashi wa kawaiin da The real me is delightful.

[aurilvs]

mornings with dream

i made this little series ab mornings with dream and divided them in the two types of mornings slow and hectic just based on what fitted their vibes best hope you enjoy

slow

마크<3 9:32 am

edge of desire- john mayer

slow mornings with mark usually included some guitar playing and whispered conversations

"that's my favorite song" "that song reminds me of you

런쥔<3 10:16 am

that's okay- d.o

you should really marry renjun you have a lot of reasons but his amazing coffee is in the top 3

"I should marry you" "because I make good coffee?"

천러<3 8:17

sweet- cigarettes after sex

you wouldn't change slow mornings with your boyfriend for anything slow kisses sleepy cuddles and daegal is the best combo at 8 am

"look its the prettiest girl ever"

지성<3 9:44 am

eyes off you- pretty much

jisung couldn't resist you looked so ethereal in the morning shine he couldn't take his eyes off you

"you look pretty"

hectic

제노<3 10:43 am

free love- honne

your boyfriend is a gym rat and you realized that just now as he is begging for you to tag along to a gym session. the gym wasn't your space but you cant resist those puppy eyes, you are so going to regret this

"infinite kisses for my pretty girl"

동혁<3 9:43

late night talking- harry styles

one thing that was a ritual for the both of you was skincare but with hyuck it could get slightly messy he cant contain his teasing he just thinks you are the cutest when mad

"y/n you are so cute what am I going to do with you?"

재민<3 11:14

tfw- enhypen

jaemin was running late as per usual, he usually forgot about a lot of stuff but today he just forgot about this and he might be mistaken

" I meant this but thanks"

[okenki]

✨me_and_my_girlies✨

"for when you and your girlies have to party 'til it's early or if you have never set a foot in a club ever in your whole entire life and vaporize to the thoughts of partying and your girlies are a bunch of weird ocs (mostly dudes, or not, we love everyone here) in your head and you go to bed before 11PM everyday. i love you."

Tracklist:

"Perfect Night" - LE SSERAFIM

"Saturday Drip" NCT DREAM

"Dress Up" - JONGHYUN

"Just Dance" - HONNE

"Party All Night" - FEMM

"Saturday Night" - KEY

"My Party (bo en remix)" - Kero Kero Bonito

"Where Did The Party Go" - Fall Out Boy

"Queen Of The Party" - WENDY

"Selfish High Heels" - MACROSS 82-99 x YUNG BAE Total Runtime: 33:47

Unlisted on Youtube

little babbling under the cut

In memory of 8tracks that I learned just now had a revival some years ago? Whoah. If the playlist ends with a taste of unfinished, it's because the party hasn't even started yet!

Might make more in the future, because, unfortunately for everyone, I have music to share… 😔

Feel free to share or revive the trend of doing goofy playlist covers with yours ocs! Maybe it never died down, I sometimes saw screenshot of spotify, but I don't have it. : (

[arcanablogbcimissthem]

college kickin my ass rn but i came up with some songs that i really think resonate with some of the love interests 🥹🥹🥹 with these songs, i bring them with me in my heart wherever i go.. (NOT CLICKBAIT) (GONE CORNY)

Asra

🔮Two Birds by Regina Spektor (SPECIFICALLY THINKING THIS IS THE THEME FOR WHEN ASRA ARGUES WITH MC ABOUT LEAVING VESUVIA HAHAHAHAHAA *shrivels up and dies from angst*)

🔮Once More To See You by Mitski (this is the theme for the years when Asra was planning to bring back MC MWAAHAHHA)

🔮Mr. Loverman by Ricky Montgomery (nother song rec for that specific period in Asra’s route ^^^ LOOOOL im going fru it fr 💔💔💔🤸🤸🤸)

🔮Ultimately by khai dreams (post-MC-resurrection.. 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺 if this song was any longer i would be INCONSOLABLE FOR WEEKS /hj WHY ARE ALL MY ASRA SONG RECS SO ANGSTYYYY)

🔮Funky At Heart (general theme for Asra’s route..🥺🥺🥺 specifically the “couples with hot drinks welcome us like we are one of them now” ugh this is fucking me up /pos)

Nadia

💖Who Is In Your Heart Now by Studio Killers (THE WAY I CRIED WHEN I HEARD THE LINE “have you ever found something that you didnt even know youre looking for? an answer though you didnt hear the question” PLEASE THAT DESCRIBES NADIA’S ROUTE PERFECTLY IT GIVES ME SHIVERS…. ever since she saw MC at the tower.. I MISS MY WIFE IM GONNA THROW UP)

Julian

♠️Tongues & Teeth by The Crane Wives (when Julian was trying to push MC away at the start of his route 🥺🥺🥺)

♠️I Wanna Get Better by The Bleachers (UEEEE UPRIGHT ENDING VIBESSSS i love him so much im gonna shave his head)

In general

🔅Let’s Get Married cover by Mitski

🔅free love by HONNE (dream edit)

🔅Evening Star by Cannons

🔅Share Your Address by Ben Platt

UMM😅😅😅😅😅😅 IM SO SORRY THIS SONG REC LIST IS SO UNBALANCED HAHAHAHA if yall have any song recs please mention them in the replies 🥺🥺🥺 and if any of these resonate with u please lemme know too!! 🫶🫶🫶🤸🤸🤸

[wintfleur]

which songs remind u of stella and rut the most ? 🤍

Here is the love song version !

ᡣ𐭩 Treacherous, Taylor swift

ᡣ𐭩 Free love, HONNE

ᡣ𐭩 Lovesong, Adele

ᡣ𐭩 About you, 1975

ᡣ𐭩 Say yes to Heaven, Lana Del Rey

ᡣ𐭩 Enter Galactic (Love Connection Pt. I), Kid Cudi

[greenhappyseed]

Honne is more about expressing one's ugly feelings to family and close ones rather than one's true self and as Pikahlua pointed out feelings can be complicated and messy. I don't see Toga getting involved at least not on panel because Dabi has been saved but it's also just the very start just like how Shoto being saved by Deku was only the start but then he had to go on a long journey. This is Dabi's start line but he has a long journey in front of him and yes Toga will be apart of that but not in a way where she magically changes his mind but more in a way like how others such as Shoto's friends were apart of his own journey as much as his family was.

Honne isn’t just negative feelings or emotions too “ugly” to show to polite society. Honne is what someone feels free to express among family/friends instead of what they feel they must repress due to societal pressure. Honne is a person’s true feelings and desires, regardless of the content of those desires. For kind, harmonious, polite characters, honne could well be “ugly” feelings. But when the character is a villain? Let’s look at some panels.

Is this Toya’s honne or tatemae? Telling people they’re useless, garbage, kindling, etc? Is this something he feels free to express?

How about this, when he’s with his family? Are these feelings he feels free to express?

Now, how about this? Does Toya feel free to express this? Notice how much here is dismissed as “he’s lost his mind!” and how the rest is seemingly inside Toya’s head.

Which brings us to this panel in 390. Toya is telling his whole family, to their faces, that he wants to die and take them with him. I don’t doubt for one second that this is what Toya wants. But is it REALLY the #1 thing he wants? Based on the panels above, I think it’s clear that his true desire is for his family to see him, listen to him, and be proud of him — you know, like the eldest son of a functional family! He just thinks it’s too late to have that, so he’s going for plan B instead. He’s getting the attention he wants one way or another (more on that in a bit).

Fatalism and inflexibility are perfectly on brand for Toya, so yes, he needs his family to show him it’s NOT too late. But I think he might need something more to truly heal, just like Shoto did. Until the match with Izuku at the Sports Festival, Shoto was determined to deny his father by never using his fire in battle. Afterwards, Shoto kept his determination to be different from his father, but he became much more flexible in how to use his power and how to view his relationship with Endeavor. Someone needs to play the Izuku role for Toya, and given Ochako’s lingering regret about not saving Bakugo, I was guessing that Ochako might intervene to bring Himiko Toga to Toya. If having fun imagining what-ifs for MHA bothers you, then you don’t have to read or interact. There are lots of great MHA blogs on this hellsite!

But I do hope you can see through these panels how rudeness and anger aren’t always indicative of honne. For a character like Bakugo, his rudeness and delinquent posturing are just that. They hide his true heroic honne. For a character like Toya, his rudeness and his desire to harm his family are how he actually feels (honne), but they are ALSO a form of posturing (tatemae). He knows he is playing the role of villain and is determined to do so in dramatic fashion. Toya wants to burn everything to “leave a mark on this world,” which sounds like honne — but that’s only because Toya hasn’t gotten his family to see him, hear him, and love him, which is what he really wants. I’m not sure when he will feel free to express that sentiment, but I do hope it’s soon.

[seiwas]

hi sel!! i am just popping by to share one of my most special comfort songs when i write for gojo…it is the one i listen to the most whenever i think about him and reader in the fushigojo series bcs it’s just so so soft 🥺

time after time - phillip larue & the wildwoods

also i saw your ask!! may or may not be writing something for it hehe

augustine 🥺 i always get so giddy when i see u in my messages !!!! 🥺 and that song!! oh god!!! i think i listen to a diff ver of it but it’s such a classic that every version hits softly in different ways 🥺 a warmth that aches!!! smth like nostalgia 🥹

i am snifflin rn thinkin bout it 🤧 thank u for sending this to me augustine!!! i will forever keep this in the fushigojo playlist in my heart 🤧

time after time - phillip larue and the wildwoods

i actually have a song that reminds me of the fushigojos too!! (it kinda overlaps w col tool!!! but for a future release 🤭):

free love - honne

and my ask omg 😳 i might CRY i have too many feelings abt that augustine omfG 😭😭😭😭

hope u have the bestest day augustine!! 🥹💕

[pinkbabyblossom]

Free Love- (HONNE) cover behind the scenes

[hugaldho]

Imagine a place where we can be free...

[swuid]

i was tagged by @1kari to shuffle spotify’s on repeat playlist and list the first 10 songs !! TYSMMMM <33

Hallelujah - Leonard Cohen

Listen to Your Heart (Hardbounze Single Edit) - DHT, Edmee

free love - HONNE

Countdown - Beyoncé

Turn it Up - Rico Nasty

Loving You Is a Mountain - Isaia Huron

Cemetery - COIN

Dance Me to the End of Love - Leonard Cohen

Pirouette - Chiiild

Breezeblocks - alt-J

I’ll tag @hxh @swancrystal @fagsex @ev @t00l @fruitpochette & feel free to say I tagged u for anyone else who wants to do it ^_^

[sandytree1]

The Fallacy of the Stereotypical Asian woman

While writing about patriarchy and gender roles in Blue Eye Samurai, I ended up going on a tangent about Asian women as I know them. I've extracted this piece of the text and moved it here, since just didn't seem to fit in the discussion of the show.

I'm going to be a little bit vague in this section for privacy reasons, but I find it surprising how I often experience that people online assume that I'm male whenever I'm anonymous lol.

🚧🚧🚧

The text is still under construction! Therefore it just appears like a loose collection of notes and tidbits. Text in cursive are notes to myself about topics to write about.

The Fallacy of the Stereotypical Asian woman

Asian women are sometimes mistakenly perceived as doormats, so here I'll take a look on stuff that counters this.

Oshin - Resilience and endurance.

Asian women as firecrackers. There's a reason why the stereotype of Tiger Mom even came to be, because Asian women and people in general are not submissive, although their loving acts of service and patient politeness are often mistaken as them being doormats. Among Asians it is not common to straight out say I love you between parent and children; You just know, and you express it through other ways, such as when your parents come into your room and cleans it without warning or leaves you a bowl of cut fruit when you're busy. In China when you say it too much or act too politely, people may get upset by how distant you're acting, as if you're not family / friends. (Honne and tatemae in Japan)

Yamato Nadeshiko - A feminine ideal in Japan

Go Ahead as an example of nurturing fathers.

Breast cancer - the husband was asked instead of the wife, in a matter about her body.

The entrepreneurial mindset of Asian women

It's hard to identify with the women in Blue Eye Samurai, since the women in my life aren't nearly as submissive and oppressed as shown in the show. So here's some examples of Asian women's agency.

In Japan, there's a tradition known as Husband Allowance (Kozukai, 小遣い). Every month, the husband will hand over their salaries to their wives, who in return will hand out an allowance to him, which he can spend on booze and cigarettes among other things. Here it is the women who handles the finances. And it's not uncommon to see Asian women spend this kind of money to open up their own family businesses from their own homes, which they handle while their husbands go to work for strangers.

The parents of a family friend of mine used to send money back home to her grandmother, so that she could use it as living expenses. However, her grandmother instead saved up this money and spent it to open up and run a boarding house as a landlady, similar to Rumiko Takahashi's Maison Ikkoku (1980-87). That said, my friend's parents felt betrayed once they figured out that's what she spent the money on, and wanted to decrease the amount they usually sent her, however my father tried to convince them to let her continue her business.

Another example from my own life is this lady whose father and husband were shot and killed during World War II, leaving her with over ten children in a foreign land. Yet despite this, she managed to work herself up into becoming the matriarch of an expanding hotel business, which her children took the reins of once she passed. She is perhaps the wealthiest person I've ever visited, and I still wonder how she did it.

Another example of this entrepreneurial mindset can be seen in the Chinese drama A Dream of Splendor (2022), featuring three women starting and running a popular tea shop in the capital of the Northern Song Dynasty. Here it is the protagonist, Zhao Pan'er, who financially supports her boyfriend for three years, while he struggles to pass the imperial exam.

You can watch A Dream of Splendor for free on the official WeTV Youtube account: Here's episode 1. Speaking of entrepreneurial women, I came across this interesting article that mentioned the Caizi Jiaren genre, which both Maison Ikkoku and A Dream of Splendor might fit: The Subtle Sinophilia of Maison Ikkoku.

Sexualization and Fetishization of Asian women

Mixed gender bathing, Kusatsu Onsen

Kebaya and batik sarong - attitudes towards nudity, influences and soft power from the West (Americanization / coca-colonization). Decolonising power (Ansari).

"Why dating as an Asian-American woman can mean hyper-sexualisation and fetishisation, reducing people to objects" (Objectification, Western/Eurocentric oppression).

Kawanoji (Sleeping like a river), waking up with the family, when a child sleeps protectively between their parents, in contrast to the West where the child will be removed and placed in its own bedroom to sleep independently as soon as possible. A guy in my class claimed people who sleep in the same bed as their parents were retards, when doing so is common in several Asian countries.

Massages viewed as something sexual/horny in the West, in contrast to an act of service you do for family members and elderly people you care about. Attitudes around seniority and speaking up against authority (filial piety).

The Feminist movement for Asians

The Me Too movement

The Western suffragette movement of the Western world. Suffragette Emily Davison throws herself under the King's horse at Epsom in a horse riding competition, and died 4 days after the incident.

Anti-suffragette cartoons and propaganda. Misogyny and cruelty.

Women are just larger children; Both are meant to be seen but not heard, according to the Victorians. Legacy/inheritance of the Enlightenment period. Divorce and women's rights before the Enlightenment. Artemisia Gentilleschi, the women painter whose work was attributed to her male counterparts for a long time.

Stay at home mother vs career woman. Omiai and the marriage market, impromptu markets popping up in Chinese parks. Birth rate decline.

Gender roles in Genderbender

Kaze Hikaru

Ryou

Gender fluidity has been the norm throughout most of history. Torikaebaya Monogatari, where a brother and sister in the Heian period is gender mixed at birth, to fulfil gender roles they're more "suited" for according to societal expectations. Another Heian period text about a guy who crossdresses as a woman to get close to a woman he has a crush on.

Acolyte stories of love between buddhist monks and their chigo were popular. Also Wakashudō. Pederasty in Ancient Greco-Roman world. Rumors of pederasty between Julius Caesar and Augustus/Octavian.

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currently thinking about: why was I stupid enough to let myself be voluntold for the new hotline program 😖

current favorite song: crying over you (feat. RM & BEKA) - HONNE

currently reading: still crabgrass frontier :)

“Myriads of inmates of the squalid, distressing tenement-houses, in which morality is as impossible as is happiness, would not give them up, despite their horrors, for clean, orderly, wholesome habitations in the suburbs, could they be transplanted there and back free of charge. They are in some unaccountable way terribly in love with their own wretchedness”

currently watching: the bear and lovestruck in the city (I started watching j-hope in the box yesterday but it’ll be like a week before the family leaves me enough space to finish it)

current favorite character: Tina from the bear. It’s kinda funny bc I didn’t like her character the first few episodes and my best friend told me that she would grow on me. Season 2 is going so well for her (hopefully it stays that way?) and the way she lights up when she does something 🥰🥰🥰

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Hey hey, i was wondering what kinda songs you'd relate to my placements

Virgo Sun 28' in 3rd house🧍(once saw in a astro blog that us Virgo guys be looking like this emoji 🧍and I've been using it ever since😂)

Saggitarius Moon 16' at the 6th house (menace by nature)🦹🖤

Cancer rising 12' 🌛🏋️

Also I've got some songs for ya to listen to hopefully you haven't already heard them 💆😤

eaJ x Seori - it just is. (Feat. Keshi strat)

Wasia Project - Petals on The Moon

Clairo - Bambi

d4vd - Sleep well

Some - Steve Lacy

The 1975 - About you (the bridge in this is just soo ethereal to listen to)

HONNE - free love

Cigarettes after sex - Sweet

Hozier - Work Song

Seems i went a bit overboard 💀

It's been literally ages since i last recommended someone something, hope you listen nd like em and also the other audiences if they happen to be reading this lmao🤣

helloo!🩷 first of all, thanks for all the song recs, i really need to explore more music. i'm familar with most of the singers, but i only know about you by the 1975 and i love it!! seems like you have good taste

Songs that remind me of you:

1. breakfast at tiffany's by deep blue something

2. bubbly by colbie caillat

3. doesn't matter by benee

+2 extra songs for you for being so sweet

4. dorothea by taylor swift

5. happy & sad by kacey musgraves