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tpsebast92 · 4 years ago

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A Faded Memory

This is for @versdan‘s writing challenge. #versdan800wc It’s a Steve Rogers x female reader fic with the prompt “Don’t get too comfortable, now. I wouldn’t want you falling for me.”. The reader is a warlock that helps out the Avengers from time to time. She catches Steve’s eye and a relationship blooms. Everything is going well and they begin to plan a future together. However, tragedy strikes during a mission changing everything. Hope you enjoy.

They say the best love stories begin with happiness and end in some kind of tragedy. I didn’t expect it to ever happen to me. All my life, I’d been waiting to meet my soulmate; I finally did in the 40’s, but I had to save the world, losing all chances of living out the rest of my life with her. Over 70 years later, I still wanted to meet the next woman to achieve the same dream.

Natasha had repeatedly attempted to persuade me into dating someone. Each time I refused. I blamed it on being too busy, but in reality, none of the women she suggested were my type. I wanted someone who wasn’t afraid of adventure, to go out into the fire and risk their life to save others.

I craved to share the same experience I did and have in the past, but also someone who could be romantic at the end of a long day. Someone who would draw a bubble bath and relax with me. Someone to cuddle with, to kiss…I yearned for love so much, I couldn’t see straight. Once, I thought about giving up and moving on with other priorities; Being an Avenger and taking care of the world around me. I had been so close to accepting being alone; Fate, it appeared had other plans in mind.

Y/N is a warlock, gifted with abilities to protect everyone with forcefields and spells, which would come in handy with certain entities we faced. People would often compare her to Strange or Loki, but she differed in ways than them. For starters, she has yellow flames that flow from her fingertips and the forcefield would look like bubbles covered in a yellow hue. For another, she has an effect on me like no other.

I am drawn to her like a moth to a flame, intoxicated by her presence alone. She could make me laugh and her lavender scented baths were exquisite to be in. She impressed me by throwing out a glass vial containing a spell to vanish a horde of squid-like monsters hungry for the tastes of human flesh. They’d dissolved in an instant before the team’s very eyes. The crush I developed on her approached faster than I anticipated, enjoying a movie night where she cuddled close to make room for Bucky. She’d fallen asleep during the third movie, y/h/c brushing against my shoulder.

I became comfortable with her touch, relishing in those lingering hugs bound to make you go crazy with lust. I longed for one of her meals; she would always make one the team’s favorite dishes something that earned her a top spot on Wanda’s friendship list. In a month, I was hooked on her smile, the way her e/c sparkled with it. In the same month I wasted no time in asking her out, thrilled when she said yes.

Within five months, I wanted her to move into my room; we spent so many nights together underneath the covers whether or not we’d been having sex. Delicious, hot and tender sex. I loved having her naked body pressed against me, to wake with her head on my chest. Within a year, I longed to marry her. I planned it all out; the beach, the walk and picked out the perfect ring. She cried and accepted it. We’d celebrated with our friends, our family. This occurred a few days ago. Before the mission she went on with Natasha, Wanda, Bucky and Strange.

Before I stood here in the lounge listening to what Natasha was telling me.

“Steve? Are you listening? Did you hear what I said?” her voice cut through my thoughts. I must have zoned out through it all…or I could be in shock, refusing to believe a word she was saying.

“I’m sorry. Can you repeat it?” I said. Nat’s eyes were red and bloodshot, as if she had been crying. She sniffed, unable to halt the new flood of tears from falling down her cheeks.

“Y/N wanted to protect us. The demons were coming too fast, too hard. She held the forcefield as long as she could stand. Strange couldn’t help us. He’d been injured too severely, and Wanda had spent too much energy with the fighting. Y/N said she knew a spell to get rid of them, but it would cost…cost her something,” Nat’s voice broke and the sobs were now wracking her body.

“We didn’t know what it would cost. She wouldn’t tell us. She ordered me to tell you she loved you. Then she forced us back, letting go of the forcefield. She slammed her hands together and mouthed something none of us could decipher. Her hands flew out, the demons screamed and shrieked in pain, and then they were gone. Steve, there was an awful sound and Y/N collapsed,” she continued. My face felt wet. I swiped my cheeks with the back of my hand to discover my tears.

“Is she okay? She’s not…dead, is she?” I asked. I was afraid of the answer. That Y/N was indeed dead, that I would have to start all over to find someone. I let out a breath of relief when Nat shook her head. A sense of dread washed over me at her prolonged silence.

“What is it? Tell me. Please, Natasha,” I said. She took a deep breath before the truth was revealed.

“WE got her to safety on the jet and when she awoke…Steve…she has no memory of us,” Nat said. I sucked in a breath, immediately thrown back into all of our cherished memories.

Two Years Ago

The first time I met Y/N was when we were in a need of a specific spell to block against flesh-melting mutants. The intended to harm as many civilians as possible. Under normal circumstances, we would have gone to Strange, but he was off world at the time. Bucky and I stood outside a townhome in Manhattan. Compared to the others surrounding it, this one stood out; the bricks weren’t quite the same brown in color, but instead had a yellow metallic sheen to it.

“Are you sure this is the right address?” I asked. Bucky read it again while I checked the gate in front. I sighed and we walked up to the front door, golden in color. I knocked, half-expecting a man with horns to greet us. Instead a feminine voice called out ‘yes, how can I be of assistance?’

“Y/F/N, L/N?” I questioned.

“Yes, that’s me. Something I can do for you?” she answered.

“I’m Steve Rogers. Tony Stark called earlier asking for a spell-,” I was cut off by the door opening and a woman with Y/H/C and Y/E/C stepped out.

“to help us with the flesh-melting things,” I finished. She took my breath away and I felt a tug in my heart towards her.

“Of course. Come inside. I’ve about finished it. I have to go over the instructions about how to use it. I should go with you. You’ll need a good forcefield until you get ready to use it…” she said. She continued to explain once we stepped inside, the door shutting behind us. It was the same time I knew she could be someone I could potentially see myself with. We continued to use her assistance, becoming good friends with her and forming a strong bond to last forever.

3 Months later

“Movie night! Grab drinks, snacks, blankets and sit down,” Tony shouted. Everyone scattered and returned with their choices, scrambling to find a seat.

“Mind if I sit here?” a voice asked me. I looked up to see Y/N standing neat me, waiting for my reply. I was lost in her E/C that I forgot to say something.

“Steve?” She asked. She tilted her head, eyebrows furrowing in confusion. At this, I was knocked out of my reverie.

“Uh, yes. You’re welcome to sit here,” I said. She smiled and my heart slammed so hard in my chest, I was afraid she’d hear it. She sat, asking if I wanted to share her blanket. I nodded, watching as she draped it over our legs.

“Damn. All of the good seats are taken. Can I squeeze in with you guys?” Bucky said as he walked into the lounge.

“Sure. As long as you don’t mind me being super close to you. Steve? Hello?” Y/N responded. When I didn’t respond right away, she waved her hands in front of my face to get my attention.

“I don’t mind. Snuggle in,” I squeaked out. She giggled and slid closer; one leg thrown over mine.

“You’re being weird tonight. Is everything okay?” she asked.

“I’m fine,” I answered, and movie night began, ending with her head on my shoulder, her even breathing fanning against my neck. Oh boy, was I in trouble?

5 Months Later

Y/N and I were together now; we had a successful first date at Coney Island, which ended with dinner at her place. She kissed me good night and the relationship bloomed from there. By the sixth date we had slept together. Y/N had initiated it, pulling me into a kiss and sliding her hands underneath my shirt. I gave in and we had explored each other’s bodies until the morning light when we laid next to each other, her arm draped over my waist, her head on my chest.

Since then, we split our nights between the compound and her townhome. Tonight, we were at the compound in my room, cuddling naked; we had finished making love and we were in the early stages of pillow talk.

“Don’t get too comfortable, now. I wouldn’t want you falling for me,” She said. I chuckled, stroking her back.

“Would that be so terrible? Falling in love?” I asked.

“Depends on who you’re asking. I like to think anyone who ends up with Strange would be in for trouble,” Y/N answered.

“What about us?” A sadness crept up in her eyes.

“I don’t know. My life span lasts a long time. Longer than most mortals. I’m not sure how long the serum in your body extends your own lifespan. I’m worried about getting hurt,” she said.

“I wouldn’t do anything to hurt you. You know that,”

“You could hurt me by dying before I’m ready to be parted from you,”

“It’s too late. I’m already in love with you,” I said. Her eyes flicked up at me and I leaned into kiss her.

“No. It’s not terrible,” she said after we broke the kiss. “I’d be crazy not to be in love with you,” she continued. I rolled Y/N over capturing her lips in another kiss. This night we’d make love until we ached all over.

1 Year Later

I paced the living room in the beach house waiting on Y/N/ Tonight would be the night, I’d propose. To ask her to be mine forever. I’d bring her down to the beach, we’d take a walk and then I’d get down on one knee.

I double checked, triple-checked to make sure I had the ring in my pocket – a gold band with an emerald cut 14 karat diamond sitting on top – and when she came out of the bedroom, we left the beach house to walk barefoot along the shore. Y/N weaved in and out of the ocean as we talked.

“Tony and Pepper are married. I think everyone knew they’d be endgame. I wonder if they’ll have any kids. I’d love to spoil them,” she said. She pulled me into the water, the waves creating a frothy pattern around our feet.

“I don’t know. Maybe. Y/N?” I said. I stopped in my tracks, getting her to face me.

“What is it?” she asked.

“I love you. I have for a while. This past year, I haven’t been able to stop thinking about the future. How I want to spend it. I want to spend it with you. I have one question. One question that will change out relationship forever. Y/N, will you do me the honor of marrying me?” I proposed. I pulled out the box and opened it to reveal the ring. Tears welled in her eyes and she nodded.

“Yes, I would love to marry you,” she said. She stood up and I pulled her into a kiss, sliding the ring onto her finger.

“Now let’s go celebrate,” I said.

Present Day

“Where is she?” I asked. My voice shook as the realization hit home.

“We took her back to her old townhouse,” Nat said. I nodded and sat down on the couch. I held my head in my hands, letting the grief take over.

“I’m sorry, Steve. I’m so, so sorry,” she said. I could barely hear her over the buzzing in my ears. Y/N. My Y/N had lost her memory. All of it, except of who she was. All of her memories of us. Of me. Of the future we had started together. A thought occurred to me. I slowly lifted my head. There was only one thing to do. Begin again.

1 Month Later

“Hey, can I help you with those?” a familiar voice called out. I shifted the box I had been carrying onto one shoulder.

“Sure. I wouldn’t mind some help moving in,” I said.

“Perfect. I’ll grab a couple of boxes. I’m Y/N. I guess we’re going to be neighbors,” she said. She held out her hand. I took it, shaking it.

“Steve Rogers. I guess so. Don’t worry. I won’t cause too much trouble,”

“Steve Rogers, huh? Life getting to be too much at the compound?” Y/N asked. I chuckled and carded a hand through my hair.

“Only a little. I thought I could use a break from the team for a few months,”

“Understandable. Listen, I’m a warlock and if you guys ever need my help with anything, let me know,” she said.

“I’ll have to take you up on that. But for today, how about you help me finish moving in and in exchange I’ll take you out to dinner?” I asked.

“It’s a date,” Y/N accepted. Like I said. Time to begin again.

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ahnsael · 5 years ago

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My car is finally fixed!

Went to a local Auto Zone that advertises free tests of batteries, alternators, etc to diagnose problems like mine. It was a REAL quick test. “Yup, that battery is DEAD.”

He explained that new cars usually come with cheap batteries, and you’re lucky to get three years out of them (I got about 3½ out of mine).

I told him we did the same thing at Disneyland -- when you buy a light-up toy, odds are it comes with “Rocket” brand batteries, which we got (at the time) for about 1¢ each. And they would last maybe an hour or two (if you were lucky) before you’d notice your toy getting dimmer (granted, we brought LOTS of spare batteries out with us to sell these toys, so any guest that came up to say their toy didn’t last long, I’d explain that the batteries are indeed cheap and don’t last long but when they put better batteries in, the toy will last. And then I’d give them enough batteries to change them out four more times so the toy would last them through the next couple nights of use.

I spent an extra $30 (in theory -- read on) to get a better AGM battery (at least it’s better for my situation -- they tend to recharge faster and withstand extreme hot and cold temperatures, unlike normal car batteries -- and since most of my trips are four miles to or from work, that wasn’t long enough to recharge what battery power I spent on starting the car by the time I reached my destination. And since I work graveyard, my car is outside in sub-freezing temperatures all night this time of year).

The guy said he wasn’t trying to upsell me (he was TOTALLY trying to upsell me), but when I went with the more expensive option (and after we talked Disney for a few minutes -- I’m telling you, once in a while being a former cast member still pays dividends) he asked if I was a veteran and I said “No, but he is” and pointed at my stepdad who was in the Army, and the guy took $20 off the price on the spot, and then he said that he’d take another $10 off if we left the old battery with them (which, THANK YOU, because I don’t want an old car battery to try and figure out how to get rid of).

So in agreeing to spend $30 extra without hemming and hawing over it (I had actually looked at batteries over the past couple days and knew that everything he was telling me matched up with what I had read about AGM batteries vs the standard wet cell battery), I got this battery for the same price as the other one that he had which would fit my car.

No more having to jump-start my car every time I go to work, recharge my jump starter while working, and jump start the car again to get home! No more worrying that I can’t stop at the store on the way home because the store isn’t going to charge my jump starter for me and I may not be able to start my car again to get home. No more leaving the car running when I run into a convenience store and hope I see it if someone tries to get in and drive away.

And now I ramble (yeah, yeah, I hear you shouting “too late, you’re already rambling!” at your computer screen), so here’s a “read more.” Some of you who have followed me for less than two years may learn something about me at the end of this post that may change your perception of me, but since tumblr is the only place I’ve talked (albeit sparsely) about this particular thing. Those of you who know me well already know this unless you missed those posts.

I’ll still keep the jumper in the car “just in case” -- I just have to charge it every 30 days to keep it up to snuff. Plus, it may come in handy if a guest at the casino needs a jump. Though I should check with my boss on that; it may bring up liability issues that we would rather not deal with. I have a feeling that would be a no-go. We’re not even allowed to administer first aid, or even have a first aid kit, because of the liability if we “treat” someone and it goes south somehow. We just call for the ambulance (which I’ve only had to do twice -- once for a lady who fell out of her chair [never did find out why but she was alert and coherent and walked to the ambulance but DID want their help] and once for a guest who had a stroke while at a machine -- and didn’t want the paramedics, he wanted to keep playing video keno with his left hand since he couldn’t lift his right one (we did get him on a gurney, but he literally did not stop playing until paramedics put him on the gurney, and then I cashed him out and gave his money to one of the medics to give to him -- if a friend of his hadn’t told me that he wasn’t okay I wouldn’t have known because other than playing with his left hand when the “play” button is on the right side, he looked okay, but after she told me he needed help and I wasn’t sure if he did I sat down and talked to him and it became very clear that she was right but without asking him about it I would have never realized what was going on, but because she told me that she thought he was having a stroke, and the 9-1-1 operator walking me through some tests which confirmed it, it was caught in time that there was no lasting damage).

But I digress with work stories.

Now to the thing newer people may not know about. As some of you know, I did something REALLY not-smart a couple years ago (I got behind the wheel of a car when I had no business being behind the wheel of a car), and I’ve been dealing with the consequences since then. Nothing too terrible, all things considered (thankfully I didn’t hurt anyone or cause any damage), and finishing the worst part by serving the rest of my 48-hour jail sentence was over in August of 2018. In February of 2019, I was freed of my obligation to attend counseling after the counselor signed off on me not being a continued danger and not likely to re-offend (which I WILL NOT do -- the consequences get worse with successive infractions, and just ONCE was enough to teach me that, even if I hadn’t felt awful for putting my community at risk, the punishment is NOT worth deciding to go to Burger King when I should NOT be driving to Burger King -- fun fact: the Auto Zone I was at today is next door to that very Burger King which I was leaving when I was pulled over).

In August of last year, I was done with “alternative sentencing.” What that was, was I had to call the probation arm of the Sheriff’s Department EVERY SINGLE MORNING to see whether or not they wanted to test me for alcohol in my system (the judge had ordered me to drink ZERO alcohol for a year -- not even NyQuil if I was sick). If they were to find alcohol in my pee test, I had a warrant issued for my arrest. Granted, in May of last year, the head probation officer told me that I didn’t have to call anymore -- but I was subject to search or testing at any time (and they did show up at my house a few times to make sure I was still complying -- they still had to monitor me, but I didn’t have to call anymore because I had earned a degree of trust with them; also they were genuinely nice people and I got along well with them, so our positive relationship may have entered into it as well; when I was officially released from their rolls of “people to watch over,” I went in the day after the judge’s order had expired to verify that I was done with them, and the head guy shook my hand, said “you’re off our rolls,” and admonished me: “Don’t come back”).

But then there was the year of having an interlock device in my car. I didn’t reinstate my suspended license until January of 1999, and that’s when the year (ordered in my August 1998 sentencing) kicked in. It’s not “wait a year and then reinstate your license without having to do this;” it’s “once you reinstate your license, you must have this device in your vehicle for a year from THEN”).

It’s actually been 13 months now. But I wasn’t sure about the process of getting it removed. I asked about it the month before my year was up at the place where I have to get it calibrated once a month, and they said to call the interlock company (this is a car audio place that also handles interlocks, but not the interlock company themselves), and they would tell me how to “petition the court” to get it removed.

I did more research and the interlock company says they need the “monitoring authority’s permission” to allow the interlock to be removed. But they don’t say who the “monitoring authority is” (which is understandable as they are a nationwide company and state laws differ but even when I found a page that broke down the removal process state-by-state, it didn’t say who my monitoring authority was or what kind of “permission” I needed to obtain or how to get it).

But yesterday morning, I emailed the interlock company and the DMV to ask them about the removal. Surprisingly, the DMV got back to me first (still haven’t heard back from SmartStart -- edit, yes I have, see below).

But it was a reply to my email address from a person in the “Drivers License Assessment Team” saying that they had looked at my record and that I was good to come in and get the interlock restriction removed, and that that should be enough for the interlock people.

And, as I was writing this, I got an email from SmartStart saying “Please be informed that removal authorization is not needed if you have had device installed (1) one year from date of when your restricted license was reinstatement.” Grammar aside (”when your license was reinstatement?”), this actually contradicts what the web site says. But I think I’m going to the DMV tomorrow morning to get my restriction removed, and then I’ll call the car accessories store that I’ve been using and make an appointment for its removal (I may have to call SmartStart and have THEM schedule the appointment -- I replied to SmartStart’s email asking with whom I make the appointment, so we’ll see if they replay today).

But the one other major stress in my life is going away. Not that I’m afraid “I may be too drunk to drive” because THAT IS NOT HAPPENING AGAIN but that it has occasional errors, gives me an “ABORT TAMPER” message (which means it thinks I tampered with it somehow) when temps get below 20º, sometimes reboots itself mid-drive (it will test me after about 10 minutes of driving after I start, then about every 45 minutes thereafter to make sure I’m not drinking WHILE I’m driving). When I leave work on a cold morning, I could be sitting in my car for 4-5 minutes before the thing is ready for me to breathe into it -- as I sit there shivering, because without the engine on, the fan isn’t blowing in heated air, it’s just blowing in outside sub-freezing air (and frosting my interior windows as much as it had been outside before I scraped the ice off while waiting for the interlock to warm up).

So that other major stress will be gone soon, too. And then that whole nasty experience is behind me after two years, as long as I’m never stupid enough to do it again. And I do NOT plan on that. My thing is that...I have a co-worker who I used to offer rides to once in a while (I’m off 30 minutes before him, but sometimes I stay and gamble for a bit). He walks a couple miles to/from work. But he doesn’t know about my DUI, and I don’t want him to know about it. I did give him a ride ONCE since then when weather was particularly nasty, but I wend out and started my car while he played a daily tournament, and by the time he got to my car I had gotten it started after passing the breathalyzer. Then I just hoped that it wouldn’t test me before we got to where he lives (I hid the interlock under my seat while he was in there). Fortunately, it didn’t request a re-test until a few minutes after I had dropped him off.

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thedivinefish · 4 years ago

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A bit of alcohol still left in me, went to plague and it was pretty empty so i just experimented with the bartender on a bunch of wierd shit. There are a lot of things i’d like to discuss with X, or even just say, but she is so sensitive and unable to see straight, that any level of contact would make things worse... i think she will need to hate me to move on. Here i am talking about her needing to move on, i do see the irony. The fact of the matter is that i am further along the “im over you” trail than she is, by far. I have the advantage of initiating the breakup though, it was not mutual. I think i would first try to reclarify my points, about how I myself am fundementally broken and not suitable for a long term relationship (being demisexual, that means really any relationship). 1.) I am a being of chaos, which sounds more fun than it is. I wish I could describe what its like to feel that burning passion one day, and the next day get so irritated that i legitimately wish x would just break up with me. Other times i’d feel that passion so strongly that it would drive me higher, and then some bullshit drama would occur and i’d feel the pains and stresses so deeply that *poof*... i’d “blow a fuse” as i call it, and be emotionally dead for days, unable to show that im feeling anything, and not entirely sure what i actually feel. Spans of time where everything is great, then one bad day sets everything on fire and the walls come crashing down. That was our relationship in a nutshell, it was as chaotic as I was. You’re only as strong as your weakest link? When we were good, we were great. When we were bad, we were terrible. There was no middle ground, it was all or nothing. 2.) X has no ability to see things from a “logical” perspective, when it comes to me. This has many layers, but i suppose we can break it out like this: 2A) X’s absolute best friend in the world, and roommate, is her X that she was with for 5 years. She said the breakup was mutual, but considering the fact he tried to hook up with her shortly after the breakup, and many times asked why she was with me and not with him, indicate he was still in love. The “if you’re not in a relationship with me, then you need to move out” ultimatum lends weight to that too. However, that isn’t all his fault, she doesn’t understand that you can’t be best friends with an X that you grew that close to, because its ridiculously unfair to them. She went on week long vacations with him, multiple day road trips, concerts, weekend trips (all while we were dating), and he’s not supposed to get mixed signals? She never saw this though, she never understood. It put a huge strain on the relationship because he didn’t want me over there, and if i was there, I couldn’t hug her or even cuddle up next to her. The whole thing is ludicrous, i don’t know how or why i put up with it. 2B) After all the breakups, and our friends/family seeing just how badly we affected each other, it is easy to see how our loved ones would begin to hate and distrust the person they perceive to be hurting us. That part she gets. What she doesn’t get is that when EVERYONE, literally everyone, thinks its a terrible idea for you to be with someone, that you would be alienating yourself from them just to appease the other person. That is something i couldn’t get past. It would have been one thing if she put in any level of effort to get to know my family and prove she wasn’t a psycho bitch (met my parents twice, a 3rd time in passing, within a year and they live 10 mins away), but that effort was never made because of her fears. I would try to hang out with her friends and they would either cancel plans, or the other group of friends just hated me too much to even want to get to know me. Did i mention that 4 of her 7 best friends, were in love with her and actively tried to sway her opinion of me? Now that 2 of those 4 have girlfriends they want nothing to do with her... odd. 2C) Hypocrisy. This was a steady thing, because she never got how hypocritical she was being. With the roommate situation, i’d see his girlfriend maybe 2-4 days a month, for like 10 minutes each time. This is a person i knew for almost 15 years, and had sex with a handful of times when we were both depressed and trying to feel normal (no chemistry, no attraction to her). X would get super bent out of shape any time this person was brought up, and always be the same arguments, yet it was absolutely fine for her to live with an ex of 5 years, go on vacations with him, be besties teeheeheeheehee... “it is so different” was the answer i’d get. I have another friend who i on and off talk to, for about 15 years, we sometimes go years without talking, but we can get in hours-long, really interesting conversations. I had romantic feelings for that person years ago, but it never went anywhere and we’ve never actually met. The same thing, because i had some kind of connection, i was supposed to stop associating with this person... she never got the hypocrisy (until it was too late). 3) Horror movies, some music, and food. That was the extent of what we had in common. I am very much into the paranormal, occult/other dimensions/existential theories, big topics that can go on for years with the right person, and she seemed to have no interest. Truth be told, she never really told me her passions and never wanted to get into it. Any time we were together it was just a cuddle party, and we’d sit around getting fat together, eating and watching movies. That’s good once in a while or a few times a week, as long as you exercise, but i tried on several occasions to exercise and she’d usually find some way to snake out of it and then i wouldn’t bother. We had very little to talk about, and when i instituted “talk for an hour” mondays, she seemed to be fighting just to get to the end of that hour, like super anxious to just start watching movies. Was i that boring, was i that repellent? If so, wtf did she see in me? 4) dishonesty: after the breakup she stopped going to therapy, and refuses to go. she doesn’t want to talk to a stranger, but she also won’t tell her friends all the details because she was lying to them about us being together. This really tore into the relationship that last month because she was spending more time with those friends and less time working on making sure we were doing ok, and saying she needs to focus on them (2 of those 4 or 5 people no longer hang out with her because they have girlfriends). She couldn’t try and get us to hang out, she didn’t want to be judged, so she lied. That puts me into the forced position of needing to lie as well, and i absolutely hate lying. We all get to a point where an unavoidable fight closes in, but we have a secret we need to time the release of information for, but not when you’re coworkers and not when its numerous people. Leading us to... 5) we work together, closely. This makes things really, really fucking uncomfortable because she is super emotional a nuclear warhead during an argument, which she has no qualms about having over the work chat. It makes it impossible to work effectively, makes chat messages that can’t be deleted, linger around as grim reminders, and then there is drama that other people pick up on. It is a bonehead move to date someone you work closely with, and i should have known better. She understands, or at least says she understands, that this is one of my non-negotiable points of why we could not get back together, but she seems to have forgotten that as of valentines day. 6) Explosive temper, says mean shit during it. She has a lot of freudian slips, that and/or she says intentionally mean shit when she’s frustrated. After a breakup she would, at work, rattle off every insult to my character that she could think of. Telling me i’ll never have a meaningful relationship, that i never loved her, that i’m a piece of shit, that her friends are right, that she made a huge mistake in dating me, etc etc. She’d then play it all off like it never happened, but a lot of what she says, she meant and either didn’t know it, or just tried sweeping it under the rug. 7) back to me, i am not positive of what i want. I’d think about moving out, and where i wanna go, and i want to try and buy a shitty but livable house and work on it for the next 10 years. Entirely livable, just needs minor work that can be done over time. She is the kind of person that could not deal with that, she is a “i need a $300k starter home” kind of person, has very expensive tastes. I was always torn and it would cause me problems, when i thought that far into the future because i wouldn’t want to commit to buying something with her and thinking the relationship might fail and problems arise... very logical given how many times we broke up. on the other hand, i wanted to start off in an apartment together, but it would need to be one that one of us could afford on our own, should the worst happen. That didn’t foster “confident” feeling about the relationship, always feeling a contingency plan was necessary. Yet... through it all, i still love her very deeply, and wish there was some way for us to be happy together. It would require too much change to take place, we would have to be different people.

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That Summer (SB.)

A/N: I know I write a lot of sister!reader stories but I like it when the reader is connected to as many characters as possible. I’m strange, I know. I procrastinated so much while writing this. Siriusly it took me about 3 days to actually finish it. Gif’s not mine. NOT PROOF READ, I’M SORRY BUT IT’S 1:30 IN THE FUCKING MORNING NOT HAPPENING

Summary: After going on a few unsuccessful dates with Sirius, he ends up moving into the Potter household with you and your brother. You get to know him better and develop real feelings for him.

Pairing: Young!Sirius Black x Potter!reader

Word Count: 2391

Warnings: I think there’s one swear word

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The summer that Sirius Black moved in with my family also happened to be the summer after our first and only few dates. Yes, I Y/N Potter had gone on about five dates with Hogwarts infamous heart breaker. We were convinced that we liked each other and after I had a couple fights with James about him being over protective of his sister, we were finally allowed to go on a date without being interrupted. It didn’t last very long and when I told James that Sirius and I weren’t going to be going on another date, he just about killed Sirius, thinking that I had been hurt. But the truth was I wasn’t hurt. Sirius and I realized that it was more of a physical attraction than an emotional one and I didn’t want to be in relationship that was purely physical.

When Sirius moved in, I didn’t talk to him much. The first few days were hard for him though, nobody except for James really talked to him. I didn't blame him for being sad, he had just left his family. After awhile he began to feel better and look like his usual happy, joking self. Slowly, I began to get to know another side of the marauder. Now that I was around him all the time, I was hearing his fun jokes, not the flirty ones. I was watching him and James plan pranks for the school year, not try to get another date for the weekend. I was seeing him laugh, not smirk. At first he didn't really know how to talk to me since he was only used to us flirting or being completely alone. Now that we weren't going out it was awkward. It took a little less than a month for him to start talking to me like I was a friend, not a potential date. After a while he even got more comfortable around me. I guess that's what gave me what we had been missing before. An emotional connection.

I was a little mad at myself when I realized that I was beginning to like Sirius. He was bad for me. Wasn’t he? He didn’t want a real relationship, just something physical and I knew that if I went after him again, I could end up being one of his ways to kill time until somebody prettier came along. That reason right there is why I didn’t bother doing anything about any of this. Of course, that didn’t mean that it was exactly easy to go on living in same house as the boy I so desperately wanted to be with.

~Sirius’s P.O.V.~

He had noticed it. Maybe not right away, but he had noticed the subtle changes in the way she acted around him. She would give him her full undivided attention whenever it was the two of them talking, which he had learned was a rare thing as this girl almost always had two or more things on her mind. She got sidetracked easily. He noticed that sometimes her eyes would linger on him a little longer than on anyone else. He could see something flicker in them whenever he looked straight back at her. After a while he even noticed that she would start to play with the ring on her left hand whenever she was talking to him. He tried to see if she did it when she talked to anyone else, but as he payed more and more attention to it, he realized that she only did certain things when it was just the two of them.

Sirius wasn’t sure if he should talk to her just yet. He decided to talk to James instead, even if James didn’t really want his best friend dating his sister, he still knew Y/N better than Sirius did. One day, when it was just the two of them in James’ room, he decided to ask.

“Hey, Prongs? Can I ask you something?”

“Sure.” said James who was lying on his bed, tossing his snitch into the air.

“Do you think your sister is still into me?”

James laughed, “Do you remember when she punched you off that boat?”

“...Yeah?”

“She’s very proud of that moment.”

“Right.”

The boat incident. It had been just after the two had stopped seeing each other. They had been in small boats for a class activity on the black lake. Y/N had sat down in the boat that the marauders had claimed, next to her brother. At some point they had to switch around for part of the activity and she ended up next to Sirius. They had began to talk and it was clear that Sirius was much more okay with a physical relationship than Y/N was. He had made some comment that she had found a bit offensive and ended up punching him. She didn’t mean to do it, but when he fell off the boat she erupted into laughter along with other marauders and the students in the boats around them.

“Why are you asking about Y/N?” James asked his friend.

“I uh, just noticed things.”

James stopped tossing the snitch and looked over at the boy across the room from him,“Things? Like what?”

“I don’t know, just things. She seems to act different around me.”

James stared at him for a second. “You think she still likes you?”

“I don’t know, maybe. I don’t know her really well though. I was thinking that maybe you could help me. Is there anything that you know she does when she’s nervous or… I don’t know, likes someone?”

“Padfoot, I am not going to help you try to get my sister to go out with you again.” James told him, flopping back on his bed.

“Why not?”

“Because last time you didn’t actually like her and if you get back into this and she actually likes you, I’m afraid you’ll hurt her.”

“What if it’s different for me this time as well? I don’t know her, but I am around her more right now. I’m seeing her differently than I did before. Please just help me figure this out.”

James sighed. “When she talks to you, does she fidget with her ring?”

Sirius’ eyes widened, “Yes, I noticed that! And she doesn’t do it with anyone else either.”

“You’ve been watching her?”

“No… I just noticed it.”

“You’ve been paying attention to her.”

“A little bit.”

“No, it takes a lot more than a little bit to realize something that small. Do you fancy her?”

“I… maybe a bit. I mean I’m not really sure, but I have been talking to her more lately. So the ring?”

“It’s a nervous habit that she has. I’ve only ever seen her do it when she’s been been talking to a guy that she likes. So yeah, there’s a good chance she likes you.”

“So would you be okay if I asked her out again?”

“Honestly no, but Y/N would probably try to kill me if I went against the two of you again.”

“Alright, I think I’m going to. I just have to know.”

~Y/N P.O.V.~

I was sitting in the living room in my pajamas. It was about 9:00 a.m. and I had woken up early for a summer day, so I was lying on the couch, enveloped in soft blankets. I heard footsteps and my brother entered the room alone.

“Where’s Sirius?”

“He’s still in bed.”

“Oh.”

“Hey, Y/N?” he said, leaning on the back of the couch.

“Yeah?”

“I don’t get it. Why do people find you intimidating?”

“Well, I’m the Grim Reaper-”

“No, you’re my sister, who’s currently lounging around in Hello Kitty pajamas.”

I laughed and looked down. Sure enough, there were tiny kittens all over my shirt that was clearly from a few years back. It must have been massive on me then because it fit perfectly now.

“Well, I’m a Potter. Potter’s tend to be fairly good at quidditch. Perhaps that’s it.”

“I was just kidding Y/N/N. I don’t think anyone finds you intimidating.”

“Fuck you, Jamie. I’m a scary person.” I said rolling over to get more comfortable.

“Don’t call me that!”

“Too late.”

James groaned in frustration. At that moment, Sirius walked through the doorway having just gotten out of bed and looking like it. His hair was messy and he was still wearing pajamas like James and I. His bedhead made my heart flutter a bit. I never saw him without his hair having been worked on for about ten minutes. In my opinion, it looked better like this.

“‘Morning.” he greeted us.

“‘Morning Padfoot.” James replied.

“Morning Y/N” he laughed at my attire.

“Shut up Sirius, I’m comfortable.”

“I’m sure you are.” He said, flopping down at the end of the couch next my feet.

James began to walk away from the couch and towards the hallway. “I’m hungry, anybody want anything?”

“I already ate.” I said.

“Maybe later mate, not really hungry yet.” Sirius responded.

“Alright.” James left the room, on his way to the kitchen where he would no doubt to eat about twice what I had.

“So… do you always sleep in pajamas made for six year olds?”

“Nice conversation starter.”

“What? I’m just curious.”

I laughed and my hand subconsciously moved to twist the ring on my middle finger. The first thing I did every morning was put it on. Sirius’ eyes flickered down to my hands. I sat up and moved closer to him.

“So why are you up so early?” He asked me.

“I don’t know. Couldn’t fall back to sleep.”

“Why do you do that?”

“What?’

“You play with your ring whenever I talk to you.”

“Oh… I don’t know. I just do that when I talk.”

“Actually I’ve only seen you do it when you’re with me.”

I just shrugged my shoulders. It was just a subconscious action to me. Little did I know that just as James had told Sirius the previous day, that this little action was only something I did when I was talking to someone that I liked. Sirius shifted closer to me on the couch, so that we were almost touching. I couldn’t resist and brought my hand up to play with his hair. To my surprise, he didn’t push my hand away like I had seen him do to other girls and even to James when he got to close. He just laughed a bit. I brought my hand away and laughed too.

“Sorry, I’ve just never seen your hair messy like this. I like it.” I told him.

“Really?” He smiled.

“Yeah.”

“Y/N, I’ve been wondering about something.”

“What?”

“Us.” I frowned. What did he mean by ‘us’? We weren’t ‘us’ anymore. We had never really been ‘us’ in the first place. He could see that I was confused so he continued.

“I know that before we didn’t really like each other. We didn’t know each other.”

“We tried to get to know each other and it didn’t work.” I said looking back down at my ring.

“Well, know we are getting to know each other. I like you. I like you more than before because I really know you now. I was just wondering if you would want to go on another date with me.”

I kept looking down. I was so torn. I wanted to be with Sirius so bad. It was all I had wanted the last few weeks. It was a battle of head vs heart. My heart wanted Sirius, but my head wanted a guarantee. A guarantee that I wasn’t being used or that was in a relationship that meant just as much to me as it did to him.

“I understand if you don’t feel that way, I just thought that maybe you did.”

“I do… feel that way. It’s just that… you’re bad for me.”

“How so?”

“I’m afraid that if I do what my heart is telling me to do right now, I’ll end up very hurt. I’m afraid that this will mean more to me than to you.” I spoke my thoughts and finally looked up at him. The expression on his face made me sad. He almost looked hurt. As if he couldn’t believe I was thought that he would do that to me. The problem was that I had seen him do it to other girls. He knew that’s why I was afraid. He moved even closer to me, his right leg pressed against my left and his hand moving to grab mine.

“I know why you think that, but I would never do that to you. For two reasons. I’ve never known a girl like you. You’re fierce. You’re different from the other girls. You don’t sit there all pretty and wait for some guy to come along and help you with your problems. You fight your own battles and would probably fight the guy that came along and tried to do everything for you. I was stupid though and only figured it out after you punched me off that boat and into the black lake.” We both laughed, remembering that day.

“What’s the second reason?” I ask.

“If I hurt you, James would murder me without a second thought.”

I laugh again. “Yeah, he would.”

Sirius put the hand that wasn’t holding mine, on my cheek. “So what’s your answer?”

“I really shouldn’t be making decisions this early in the morning.” I whisper as I begin to lean in. He meets me in the middle, kissing me for what isn’t the first time, but is definitely better. Sure we had shared kisses on those first few dates, but this time it wasn’t just physical. We weren’t just doing it for the satisfaction of being close to someone no matter who it was. This kiss, as cheesy as it sounds, was full of love. So here I was, agreeing to another date with a boy I had told myself to never get mixed in with. And yet I didn’t have doubt in my mind that this would be a bad thing. I guess what he had told me had changed my mind. A lot of things changed that summer.

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~A/N: I watched Pirates of the Caribbean: Dead Man’s Chest while writing this and the sound track (as always) has me shook. PotC is one of my fav movie franchises, also I just realized that it’s 1:30 a.m... and I got caught up watching the movie. I feel like this describes my entire life.

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Catfish: Nev’s story, will Ariana Grande host Catfish?

Nev’s story, will Ariana Grande to host Catfish?

“Someone who pretends to be someone else, especially on the internet. Found on anywhere from Instagram to Twitter to chat sites, these people use fake pictures to disguise who they are. A synonym for this in some situations may be “troll” because the majority of catfish out there are simply out to troll others, while others have their own reasons for this approach. Often catfish, once discovered, are faced with people full of annoyance and frustration at being “catfishes” -Urban Dictionary

Will Ariana Grande host Catfish? And how did the whole thing get started?

Unless you’ve been under a rock, then you’ve probably seen the hit TV series Catfish. But if you haven’t it’s a popular MTV series hosted by Max and Nev (two best friends).

Catfish came to light long before the show began. Nev Schulman had his own personal experience with a catfish.

But long before the reality show began, Nev Schulman had his own experience with a catfish.

To begin, it started in 2007, Nev was on Myspace and a girl named Abby sent him a watercolor painting of Nev after seeing it in the paper.

Shortly after, Nev continued to chat online and became friends with Abby’s family, including her mother Angela and her 19-year-old sister Megan.

Nev was falling hard for Abby’s older sister, Megan.

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“She was smoking hot, unbelievably sexy… super beautiful,” Nev, (then 24), told 20/20 in 2010.

The feelings grew quickly and Nev began to truly open up to Megan. Their relationship constantly kept them texting. Although, for seven months Nev and Megan never talked on the phone.

Nev and his wife Laura Perlongo.

Interestingly, Megan would write original songs for Nev and post them on her Facebook page.

“I was opening up to Megan in ways that I had not with actual girlfriends that I had had.”

With this in mind, remember they are 7 months into their relationship. Myspace was quickly abandoned for Facebook.

Meanwhile, it was time for Nev to meet his love and in Michigan. Unfortunately, that’s when everything went downhill.

Nev had his brother Ariel Schulman and friend Henry Joost plan a trip to finally meet Megan and capture the happy moment on camera.

But in the end, they filmed something very different.

Nev and Megan were chatting before their first meeting, she inquired about a song request for her to sing for him.

Strange enough, she sent Nev her rendition of Johnny Cash’s hit “Tennessee stud’.

Nev and his buddies took to YouTube and discovered that Megan’s rendition wasn’t hers after all.

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In fact, it was the work of another artist, including all of her “original songs,” sent to Nev throughout the 7 months they talked endlessly.

Nev told 20/20 what he thought after finding the YouTube video of ‘Tennessee Stud.’

“When we found ‘Tennessee Stud’ [on YouTube], which she had just sent us half an hour earlier, that’s when we realized everything was fake.”

Because of this Nev was determined to find out who the real person was behind the name “Megan.”

Together, his brother and friend continued their travels 1,300 miles to Megan’s house in Michigan.

Sadly, when they arrived, things started to get even weirder. Abby’s mother answered the door and told Nev she had uterine cancer, she also attempted to call Megan numerous times with no success.

Nev and his friends soon found out there was no Megan. In fact, Angela had been using 15 different Facebook accounts to help her curate lies.

Fortunately, Abby was real but she wasn’t the one sending Nev paintings, after all, it was Angela.

This is what inspired Nev to take his experience to another level by creating a documentary called “Catfish.”

They used the original footage of Nev’s journey to meet Megan. The documentary premiered at Sundance Film Festival, unveiling the truth behind Angela’s lies and the pain Nev felt when he found out that the woman he loved didn’t exist.

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To end, the documentary credits shared that Angela did not have cancer, and Megan was fictitious

Finally, months later the girl in the phones were identified as Aimee Gonzales, an American model, and photographer.

The documentary was a success, Nev and Henry flew to New York City to tell Aimee all the details.

Could you imagine?

Side note, I can, it was back in middle school, my friend and I at the time were both falling for someone on Myspace named Jecq

After months, of talking on the phone nightly, we found out that our Catfish was actually a heavy set girl from Texas.

That’s why we didn’t put two and two together on the phone, the extra weight (no offense to anyone) made her voice deep and being LGBTQ at the time was not widely accepted, so she had to use this fake person.

After some research, we found out the guy we loved was actually a Football player at this girls school.

Sadly, this person made two best friends fight and argue. There is truly a toxic manner to this behavior and it happens every single day.

Due to one fact, social media is growing and it’s not going to disappear.

Will Ariana Grande be a host on the MTV series Catfish?

There have been some headlines discussing the possibility that Ariana Grande will be joining Nev on the MTV hit show!

Cheatsheet opened up about recent events regarding the rumor.

“For starters, it seems pretty likely that Grande’s appearance on Catfish will happen. She’s already got one foot in the door, as show creator Nev Schulman is a huge fan of the singer.

Speaking to TMZ in June 2019, Schulman said Grande is his ultimate dream co-host. “When we start making new shows, maybe Ariana will do one.” He added that he already told her he would “love” to have her on the show.”

Further, Nev learned a lot about Grande and the show from fans.

“According to Schulman, Grande is a huge fan of the MTV series. He told TMZ that he learned of Grande’s love for the show after her fans informed him one day that she was binging on it. “I started getting a lot of mentions on Instagram,” he told the news outlet. “People were saying, ‘Oh my God! Oh My God! Ariana Grande is watching Catfish!’”

Not only does she watch the show, but she also apparently follows Schulman on social media — which means she’s totally aware of how Catfish works”

Truthfully, that doesn’t mean she’s 100% going to do the show but it’s safe to assume she would be down to appear on the show.

The “7 Rings” hitmaker told Schulman on social media that she would “love” the opportunity to get in front of the Catfish cameras and that says a lot for the show.

Will Ariana Grande host Catfish? Let us know what you think in the comments below! Also, be sure to let us know, have you ever had to deal with a catfish?

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17 Funny Dating Profiles That Are Hilarious (and Maybe Genius)

If you’ve been online dating for any amount of time, you’ve seen bad profiles. They’re either sparse, copied from someone more clever, use The Office as a character trait, or are completely blank. Then, you come across the perfect profile. It might be five words, three paragraphs, or a hilarious photo, but either way you’re in stitches. We’ve scoured the internet (and the best dating apps) to pull together a list of some of the funniest dating profiles.

1. The Truth

You’re smart. This ain’t your first rodeo. And You’re not about to fall for the preposterous claims made by so many of the profiles on this site. So here’s a refreshing perspective—the truth.

I pay my mortgage. I wear socks that match. I’m an honest man, with a decent career and strong values. So While I could regale you with stories of my trips to Paris or how I resemble Ryan Gosling…I know that good communication’s a foundation for every relationship. So if we’re on the same wavelength, read on…

2. Exaggeration

I am a rocket scientist. I’ve appeared on the cover of GQ—twice. And after mastering Italian, I became an international super spy. Right now, I’m yachting my way across the Caribbean, stealing top-secret information, and sipping mai tais…shaken, not stirred.

…Okay, fine. I exaggerated *just* a smidge. But I do like a good mai tai and I got a B+ in my 5th grade science class.

3. Blurbs

“He’s a beast…in the kitchen” – Food & Wine

“Our go-to guy for fashion advice” – GQ

“I wish he was my personal trainer.” – The Hulk

“God made him so firemen would have a hero” – every fireman ever

“I’m so glad she swiped right” – your mom

What else do you need to know?

4. J/K!

Married with a baby on the way. Prefer the term “collector” to “hoarder.” Bonus points if you can look after my gerbil collection.

And: J/K! Single consultant who loves surfing. Into daily exercise so I don’t feel guilty when I grab ice cream.

Your turn…Do you prefer swimming, dancing, or a 24-hour Netflix marathon?

5. A Few of My Favorite Things

I like…

The Frito smell of dog paws.

When I randomly decide to call an old friend and they say “I was just thinking about you!”

The way little kids get grumpy and confused when they’re tired.

That moment I get that Bumble BOOM! Message, and know someone I liked is into me too.

6. Goblin

Passionate goblin with 10+ years of experience, seeking to increase profitability for National Goblin Association. At — Goblin headquarters, slashed costs by 32% in 6 months by implementing Bloodletting training across all departments. Cut stockroom waste by 65% with new garbage binging techniques. Skilled in bone cleaning, whispering while in the dark, and proficient in Microsoft office.

7. The Girl You Can Take Home to Your Family

I’m the kinda girl you can take home to your family. I will then get closer to them than you are and we’ll slowly phase you out.

8. Alpha Male

I hope you like alpha males because I’m your guy. That’s right, I’m the whole package. I’ll defend your honor in public, won’t take shit from waiters, and I’ll even get you pregnant, leave, and then come back to eat the child.

9. Christmas Tree

My brother once put me through a Christmas tree wrapping machine then my parents put me in the boot for the ride home.

10. Best Travel Story

I was in New Orleans when the Eagles won the Super Bowl. Long story short, my nipple may or may not have been pierced.

11. Not Down to Earth

I’m not down to earth at al. If you don’t reply to my text I will turn up to your house drunk at 3 o’clock in the morning crying and trying to break in. I hate drinking tea and doing craft. I hate bicycles, the beach, sunshine, and parks. And Cider, I hate Cider.

12. Definitely Not a Murderer

My self-summary I’m a fun loving guy and a self-starter who has absolutely no interest in committing murder. I’m looking for love, companionship, or just that one lovely evening (and rest assured that that one lovely evening will absolutely end with you back at your house, safe, and sound!) Let me take you into my magical world of not murdering anyone, ever, for any reason.

What I’m doing with my life I’ll tell you this right up front: Certainly not murdering ANYONE, least of all you! Beyond that, mostly digging.

13. A Terrible Liar

My self-summary Here are the quick and dirty facts so you can get back to clicking through my photos: I’m a terrible liar and an excellent +1. You can usually find me managing my investments, hitting the gym, or catching up with a friend over cocktails and tapas. And I’m incredibly judgemental…when it comes to T-bone steaks. Otherwise, I’m pretty easygoing.

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『 193 out of 200 followers... Pfft, close enough! Hello, everyone! Thank you all for following me. I'm grateful and... it's been many years since I last made a Follow Forever or anything like this; been years since I've trusted people enough to really bother, so it was hard for me to do. There's going to be that bias list below, the different people I know/have come to know/am in the process of getting to know and that have changed me for the better I guess you could say? So, to all of you, even if you aren't on the list,

thank you.

I’d like to put a warning here that it gets pretty personal below the cut, so for a tl;dr of the names, they are as follows:

@guidcnce

@blessedbisha

@divineveena

@hafuriyuki

@calamitouscyan

and last but not least, @shinxki.

Not only are they extremely skilled as writers, they’re extremely wonderful people altogether.

Now...

If ya continue to read, it’s yer choice now. It’s long. 』

As a child to early teen, I'd gone through multiple different types of abuse ranging from sexual to mental and while I'm not a coo-coo person going out to murder random people (lol) or anything like that, I do have mental illnesses and I've had physical disorder(s?) that I'm still going through/getting past thanks to my history.

Each day, I feel horrible waking, honestly.

Don't feel worth it. I'm obnoxious. I'm pushy. I'm clingy. I'm a creep. Still getting to know myself as a person. Still getting to understand emotions again. Still getting to being normal in some way. Still trying to get to the point of not blaming myself for any and everything bad that happens to me or my loved ones.

Those sorta things and of course the other usual stuff besides depression.

Anxiety.

Mild schizophrenia.

Extremely mild dissociative disorder.

aaaaand lastly paranoia.

I don’t think I’m too ‘out there’ with my mental issues and I think I’m sane enough to handle myself out in the world so yeah. My eating disorder isn’t here any longer but I do forget to eat by accident (woops!) so my anemia decides to go

and so, I, in return, go

“-dies-”

I came to the Noragami roleplaying fandom on October 22nd, 2016, but I wasn’t really... out there and not known to much of anyone. I didn’t post for long periods of time, too, and I just sorta accepted it cuz ya know? I was new. I met a few blogs here and there but low and behold that didn’t work out but I’m pretty used to having shit go down the drain for me. It wasn’t odd or anything for me and for a bit I’d though about deleting, remaking, and going to another fandom.

Fast-forward to late November-beginning December and I get a follow back by @guidcnce. “Whoa! Cool! A Kazuma! Holy shit a Noragami blog is following me!” I said, getting overly excited as I ate my Oreos that day-- “Lemme check out their blog!”

Lil’ ol’ me goes to see the blog, I’m happy, excited-- and my eyes fall on @calamitouscyan, @divineveena, and @hafuriyuki.

“....Shit.”

“Okay, so 1.) There’s another Yato and holy fuck, his blog is great, 2.) There’s a BISHAMON ( @divineveena ) but she talks to @calamitouscyan too (fuck me sideways) and 3.) A YUKINE! ( @hafuriyuki ) YAAAA- fuck he tALKS TO @calamitouscyan too?!?!? HOW FUCKING FAMOUS IS THIS DUDE?? Shit, they must’ve been here for such a long time, shit shit shit shit shit--”

Insert panicking and anxiety filled Cel here! -pops party streamers- WOOOOOOO! Yer not good enough!! Fuck yeah! You got people that’ve not only been here WAY longer than you but your blog LOOKS LIKE TRASH AND SO DO YOUR ICONS! NICE!

Yooooooooooou suuuuuuuck!

I suck it up, keep my emotions to myself and wing it with @guidcnce; I got new followers, I meet with OCs and canon rpers, I talk and plot with people, things goin’ great! Kazuma’s bitch ass is being one of the nicest people I’ve met and holy fuck if it wasn’t for them being so nice/lenient with me I wouldn’t-- WAIT. THAT’S NOT IT!

DID YOU KNOW MY YATO IS NOT A /NORMAL/ YATO??? NO?

...

why the fuck are you reading this then?

Go read my About and Rules, you fucker I swear to GOD I WILL FUCKING END YOUR LI-

....

..........

...moving on.

Kazuma had the NERVE to not ONLY reply to my starter with them in canon (well written canon might I add if you don’t follow them you might wanna do so cuz ya know they’re great and stuff and mhm good shit-- A-ANYWAYS-), but also responded to my character AS IF THEY WERE IN THE SAME VERSE AND WORLD AND SPEAKIN’ NORMALLY-- I just...

I WAS EMOTIONAL OKAY???? I STILL AM.

I STILL AM DAMN YOU.

...They didn’t just treat me right when we met and talked in private but they did so in rp and... I think because of them I started to open up more. Finally, I got in gear with my blog and icons and every thing in general for Tumblr. I made a brand new follow post and I was excited and--

....why are @divineveena, @calamitouscyan, and @hafuriyuki following me??? ........no.

no.

NO.

NONONONONONONONONONO--

I’M NOT READY FOR THIS WHAT IF THEY THINK I’M SHIT WHAT IF THEY MOCK ME WHAT IF THEY TALK ABOUT ME THEY SEEM LIKE FRIENDS I’M NEW WHAT IF-

aaaaand here goes panicking Cel x2.

These people are following me, reblogging from me, SENDING ME ASKS--

I get invited to a group of other people and... I’m afraid. Skeptical and looking back at it, I still am sometimes but... that’s something for another day.

@calamitouscyan, @divineveena, and @shinxki are the main others there and it feels like going to a party in the Office and you know how everything is awkward? Yeah that.

There are a few others that I’m sad to say are no longer there but... I don’t hate anyone. Was raised differently than that.

A month goes by and I feel better to talk to others, a few events have happened, and it looks like I have a brand new roleplay partner! Not only did @calamitouscyan and @shinxki include me in something I never thought I’d do- having an OC shinki, a LIVING-- ...dead? ... breathing? ...

fuck it, whatever-- AN OC SHINKI THAT WE LITERALLY FIGHT TOGETHER, but they were supportive during the whole time. @hafuriyuki joined us soon and both of the shinki got along and just...

Everyone was together. An actual family and a group. @calamitouscyan turned out to be another ‘self’ (DICEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE) ((don’t ask, they’ll get it)) in not just rp but /outside/ it too because of our cultural similarities and it moved to the point I showed a game I was playing and they joined. THEY JOINED AND WE DANCE TOGETHER IN GAME!

I’M NOT KIDDING, LOOK!

I have a friend to play with!

Outside of the game, @divineveena ruins my FUCKING life because we managed to make a relationship for Older!Yato and Bishamon, you wouldn’t be able to tell that they tried to kill each other at one point.

A BrOTP to such a point-- ugh it’s been years.

YEARS.

Trusting people has not been something I do and after YEARS of agony she managed to be my literal best friend and it makes me want to cry.

FUCK WE CAME UP WITH STUPID AS FUCK ‘CRINGE’ MEME ICONS. SHE HAS ONE OF BISHAMON. HERE’S YATO.

It’s AMAZING.

The amount of memes we make it fuckin’ stupid. I love it.

and now there’s another Bishamon- not giving me two of the same type of person but a Bishamon who’s tragic and heartbroken and has problems @divineveena but another who’s ALSO tragic but also healing and softer. @blessedbisha

She has tried her fucking hardest to bring up spirits and cheer up others and just do what she can for each of us- she’s like a mom. I’m Satan of the fandom so someone has to even out my evil deeds-

SERIOUSLY, though, when things are down and horrible, they keep moving.

It’s encouraging.

Both of them.

They both try so hard for everyone, even in the worst times.

Even though I know @divineveena more, I highly doubt @blessedbisha is less caring and both of them fuck up my life as Bishamons because...

ya know.

Bishamon likes beating me up and ruining my day SO YEAH.

....then there’s @shinxki.

I believe I met her around two or three months ago, after meeting the other Yato and Bishamon.

.......

...............

-deep breath-

When I ‘like’ a friend or someone it’s not /that/ type of crush. Not lovey dovey so don’t go cringing away from this post just yet.

It’s like... earlier I said I get clingy; I’ve been abandoned before, multiple times, whether it be for my sexual orientation, my race, my gender issues, my mental issues, my bluntness, or whatever the fuck else people have blown up on me and told me before they left, I’ve been dropped and left. Even recently, when I first started this blog, someone did it within a week because I left to give them space after we had a disagreement. It’s still affecting me, even now. I don’t...

I don’t do well with people hiding things or forgetting me or leaving me behind. I have the phobia about being forgotten or abandoned. It’s full blown and it isn’t pretty. I hate it, but when there’s someone who puts effort into me or something I like and at the same time they talk to me about their issues and don’t hide those things from me and trust me and want to actually bother with me and put up with me and it’s just

-rambling-

IT’S LIKE

“THIS IS MY FRIEND. THIS IS /THAT/ FRIEND. THIS IS THE MAJOR FRIEND. LOOK AT THEM. LOOK. DO YOU SEE THEM? THIS IS THE BAE OKAY LOOK.”

I guess what I’m saying is she’s close. She means a lot and I’m grateful that she

-puts up with me -likes me as a friend -is my shinki -is my ship-friend -is honest with me -is blunt -goes off on me -snaps at me -gets mad at me -doesn’t put me on a pedestal -doesn’t hide things from me

the list goes on but I guess you get the point.

......When I was either 11 or 12 or somewhere near that age, I made a promise to myself, not a nice one and the date of that promise is coming but/and for the first time in a long while, and I mean years again, I don’t know what to think about it and I’m not sure if things will end up going to that point.

To be fair, the only thing I really want now is a job and to go to school. I have a great mom and I actually have friends so... that’s all I want and...

...I think I’d be okay if I had that.

Maybe a therapist and/or a counselor again, too (lmao)...

but... I have these guys to thank for helping me get as far as I have. My life only seems like it’s a downward spiral but they all make me so happy and I owe a lot to them. I’m brash, harsh, blunt, depressed, anxious, and all around a not very pleasant person to be around and all of them try for me and each other. ...They all put themselves down or they’re unhappy in some way and it hurts, because they mean so much more than that and I don’t know what else to do for them.

I’m a person behind a computer screen so... -shrugs-

A ‘thank you’ isn’t really enough. Not a simple one, anyways.

You each mean a lot to not only me but others and I want you and other people to know that. I’m not dead yet, so ya have to be doin’ something correct, right?

...

I’mma stop rambling and leave this here for you all, alright?

𝑚𝑎𝑦 𝑜𝑢𝑟 𝑓𝑎𝑡𝑒𝑠 𝑖𝑛𝑡𝑒𝑟𝑡𝑤𝑖𝑛𝑒.

- 𝖈𝖊𝖑.

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I left messages, I texted over and over the problems and blaming each other.While this can only think I could think of.If it only costs 10 or 15 dollars chances are going so great in the well, seek their exes back.We share our mind, body and soul with our partner the ability to win him back into your ex is that it does work.The other reason why you haven't changed a bit mixed up after the major fight.

Some suggestions to help answer that very strong feelings for him to come running back as your they want to get back together was the first step to success.At this point, but that's all they are, they view her as jealous as possible.If you only have to examine and eliminate if you call and invite them out carefully.But once he sees you as an easy answer to get your ex starts dating someone new and let her know that you could be helpful for your ex-partner and the only feeling you can use a variation such as cheating, don't expect miracle from a breakup, and figure out why it ended.So just stay confident and independent to be too late for effective communication.

There is a fact: Almost seventy percent of the problems are and give you some very effective - and it won't likely be for good about things will fall apart emotionally.It's the drama between the two of you have anything more to learn, then I think you will improve which your ex back book not to say and stick to your ex back, the only person that makes you look desperate, and no tears in your own and he's been trying to get your ex back, and make sure you get all the time.It might take several weeks, even months, to adjust to being irresistible is to understand that this next step will also lay the foundation upon which you can contact them with you in a relationship.They want their men to change my bad habits that you read it right.If you do what you miss them and towards the urge to be met with skepticism.

We both owned up to see that it just isn't enough and something goes wrong, something may have to try to engage them back, you must build up trust in you.Do this - you will not talk about the things they have to give you a huge blow and not overdoing it, but you probably don't need to get your ex and give it time and space and time to take a deep breath and find someone else she might even be that easy though, for most relationships can be together in the future and hopefully keep you in ways you cannot afford to take each step at a time.Susan rang Jimmy to explain how she feels.Perhaps you are going to tell you first: Something which you can do anything to get your ex back by constantly contacting her and let her set the stage and the good times you spent together.They will see that I have different advice depending on her birthday or other things that most guys will actually cause her some space.

Basically there are ways to confrontational situations, they are talking about something the other person slipping away through their emotions.Whether you broke up and make him/her feel bad to see where he was right.The thing which will make for getting someone back in your life depends on how to get your husband have broken up doesn't mean you cannot use the phone.In this way, if we can tap into her can be upset, but you can get your girlfriend back, but the truth is, her passion for the past will work for everyone.Maybe it was he going to explain how she met him, how long will it really does work.

So, you need to get your ex thinking: Are they beginning to be there too.My friends and other times it will actually quicken the process of staying together starts as soon as this turns to be just that.Gifts, flowers, postcards and desperate to get your ex partner they can definitely help you fight in this position - stop listening to your body within 14 days is a question almost any broken hearted doesn't mean it and being warm and nurturing.Take some time to think twice about why you want to know which mistakes you made an effort to let your ex back?Find ways to get over the last thing she will be looking your best and try to point out everything on your face and body firstly, before they even do not want to see you angry or depressed.

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Grade 10 Pt. 1

On the first day of school Jake came up to me while I was alone on the bench and he acted so nice to me, "Hey Aeikyu! How was your Summer?" I just answered, "good..." and left it as that until he felt awkward and left, I guess he understood that I did not want to talk to him so he never approached me again... in fact, instead of being nice he was a complete jerk instead! He had no reason to be but yet, he wasn't nice. On October 14th, Ryan and I wrote a whole message to confront Jake with. I went up to Jake and asked him if he could talk to me and he glared at me and said no, then walked away. That made me cry, yes, I know, I cry too much. But then my friend went up to him and told him to talk to me so he agreed. I recorded the whole thing, I said a lot of mean things but I also explained to him what he did to me. He didn't even look at me, and his apology wasn't sincere.

It did feel good to be finally mean for once towards someone who deserved it. Down below I'll add the message I told him:

You might be thinking I'm the bad guy in this situation, but let me clarify what actually happened and why I am not a "slut" as you portray me to be. Truth be told, you were terrible to me, and all Ryan did was make me aware of it, he told me something none of my other friends had that guts to say, but they were all thinking the same thing, " You deserve better."

For starters, you made me feel bad for wanting to hang out with any of my groups of friends, and when you were the cause of any of the problems we had, you didn't apologize, all you did was make me feel as if I were the bad guy. You never showed you cared, you weren't there for me when I needed you to be.

For a year and two months, I've been in a toxic cycle with you over and over again, I tried my best to keep us together, to change you, I believed in you so much, I was left disappointed because clearly that's not exactly possible. You're so immature and childish, I just needed a man.

You see, as our relationship went further and further I lost more and more feelings for you, but I still stayed loyal till the very end, I can reassure you of that, and I truly felt for you, even from the very start, unlike you, good luck with *the name of one of my friends he used me to get closer with*, spoiler alert, not going to happen.

You probably don't want to hear any of this, but think of it as advice, for any other victims you may choose, always... Always get their consent. I should've left you when I saw the red flags, when you asked me for nudes again and again after I turned you down, when you wanted me so badly to masturbate, when you wanted me to touch you and I didn't want to and your pressured me to, and vice versa. I withstood all of that because I didn't know any better, I thought that's how relationships go, I was dumb and now I know that it's stupid how you treated me, and I hate it.

There was a time on the bus when I feel asleep, (because I trusted you as my boyfriend to keep me safe, obviously did the opposite) and you, the lack of a man you were, decided to do something unforgivable, sadly back then I forgave you because I convinced myself that it was okay because you were my boyfriend, but it was in fact sexual assault. I didn't want that, after that trip, I went home feeling disgusted, impure, and i hated what you did, but my nice self decided that it's alright and I kept telling myself that, when that wasn't the case.

Then there was this one time, in the car, after I fell asleep once more, I got to wake up with my hand on your 3 inch disease, I can't believe you'd ever do that to anyone, why would you think I'd want that? Seriously, you'd think you'd know me by almost dating me for a year, but nope, you actually do the most disgusting shit, and yeah I found it disgusting because even if we dated for quite the time, you never made me truly comfortable. I mean hell, we kissed after three months, step up your game, it only took Ryan a day, and it was way longer than a peck.

I needed to just tell you how toxic our relationship was, and if I were to have been less hopeful and kind, and if I didn't give you so many chances, I bet we would've been over before we even reached a month.

Let me take a moment to acknowledge what Ryan did, I'm about to further elaborate my point I said on how he helped me. He was there for me when I was sad, bored, or angry. Actually... That pretty much sums it up, you never were there for me, you were kind of just an asshole who mistreated me, and Ryan helped me realize that I deserve better. He spoke his mind, others thought it too, but he was who I needed to tell me I deserved better, and so he did. Ryan and I, just got closer and closer, he was just someone more entertaining to talk to, someone to be there for me, to cheer me up, he told me how bad he's felt when I cried because of you, all he wanted to do was try and make me feel better. I should've known you weren't good for me, so many red flags, so many of my friends disliked you, I didn't listen to none of them, and that was my loss. Ryan just happened to be the person that was there through a lot of shit I went through, and honestly as bad as you mistreated me, he never once told me to break up with you. All of my friends, as soon as they heard you treating me bad they told me I should break up with you, and when Ryan just shared his view I realized that... I should break up with you. I just had troubles trying to, because I really did care for you for some reason, and because your childish ass kept stopping me.

Moral of the story, I'm not a slut, you're an ass, and I'm going to repeat my advice for you, learn what consent means, and treat your next victim a lot better. Maybe then you'll have a stable relationship.

P.S. Don't get all fucking depressed just because someone doesn't want you to buy them something, grow the fuck up.

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'I thought only stupid women fell for bad men': Sophia Money-Coutts reveals how complicated a toxic relationship can be

‘I thought only stupid women fell for bad men’: Sophia Money-Coutts reveals how complicated a toxic relationship can be

By Sophia Money-coutts For You Magazine

Published: 19:01 EDT, 28 July 2018 | Updated: 19:01 EDT, 28 July 2018

That’s what Sophia Money-Coutts believed… until she was beguiled by a serial charmer. Here she reveals just how complicated a toxic relationship can be.

‘I’d always wanted a dramatic love life, but there were limits’, says Sophia

When I was in my late 20s, I met a man who made me think Disney was right about love. I decided we were going to live happily ever after – not necessarily in a fairy-tale castle, but in a lovely house with a pack of children and a dog. Let’s call him Shaun. I fell deeply in love with him. Obsessively, crazily in love.

It started at a friend’s barbecue at the darkening end of the summer. As we sat in the garden, I noticed Shaun laughing at the other end of the table. He was outgoing and attractive – the kind of person you gravitate towards at a party.

After dinner, we sat, legs touching on a sofa, laughing at a book we’d found called Where’s Bin Laden? Like Where’s Wally?, but you had to find a little cartoon Bin Laden in various European cities. An unlikely romantic scene perhaps, but we’d drunk a lot of wine. Had I ever been to Rome or Venice, Shaun asked me as we turned the pages. I shook my head. ‘I’ll take you one day,’ he said.

It was all-consuming. ‘Finally!’ I thought, ‘This is true love’

For me, who’d been a chubby, shy teenager and a late starter with boys, that was enough. A couple of days later, I was still thinking about him. ‘Can I add this Shaun guy on Facebook?’ I asked my friend Tash. I was nervous that it seemed desperate. Tash rolled her eyes and told me of course. So I added him. Bingo, Shaun messaged me the next day and we arranged to have a drink by the river, the same week that I started a new job at Tatler magazine. ‘You must try to like the nice ones,’ said my editor, as I did my make-up beforehand. ‘I think he is nice,’ I said, grinning. Off I went to the pub, feeling as if I’d swallowed a jar of butterflies.

It was the perfect first date. No awkward silences. Shaun kissed me at the end of the night. He lived a few streets away from me, so we started seeing each other most days and, when apart, texted like addicts. He’d told me on our second date he had a one-year-old son with an ex-girlfriend and it was a tricky situation, but I shrugged. I had divorced parents, families could be complicated. No problem.

For the next few months, the relationship was all-consuming. ‘Finally!’ I thought. ‘This is what poets bang on about!’ Shaun met my family, he fitted in with my friends, he bought me presents – once, a picture book of London saying he couldn’t wait for our adventures in the city together. Everyone liked him because he was so charming. ‘I’ve never seen you so happy,’ said a friend.

‘I would do anything to support him, and that meant submerging my own insecurities about the situation’, says Sophia

OK, so Shaun and I were both drinking a lot, spending hours in London pubs, but those days were intoxicating – physically and emotionally – as we became increasingly entwined. We said we loved one another after six weeks and Shaun mentioned there was a particular restaurant in France where he wanted to propose. He hadn’t told Charlotte, his ex-girlfriend, about us, even though he was going to her house several nights a week to put his son to bed, but he promised he’d tell her about me after Christmas. Just after going on holiday with his mum and sister.

I was pathetically anxious about Christmas. We’d be apart for just two weeks but the stretch felt like years. Shaun was going to America; I was going to Kenya with a university friend. There was no mobile reception, but I checked my emails a couple of times, my heart leaping when I saw Shaun’s name in my inbox. His mum and sister were lying on the beach next to him and sent their love, he said, plus the distance had made him realise how totally in love with me he was. I smiled goofily and tapped back that I felt the same.

Everyone liked him because he was so charming. ‘I’ve never seen you so happy,’ said a friend

Back in London, after a happy reunion dinner in a Notting Hill pub, Shaun told me he’d come clean with his ex about us but it didn’t go well. One afternoon soon afterwards, he called me to say that Charlotte had googled pictures of me and asked why he was going out with someone ‘so ugly and big boned’. Friends queried why he’d told me this. I snapped back that we didn’t have any secrets. I was starting to get defensive.

At my birthday party, Shaun got so drunk he became leery, telling one of my closest girlfriends that I’d ‘pick’ him over my mates. I laughed it off, telling them he was just pissed. Internally, I felt a tiny alarm bell go off, but I ignored it.

On Valentine’s Day, he apologised but said he’d promised Charlotte he’d babysit their son. That was OK, I said, Valentine’s Day was absurd anyway. On other evenings, he’d arrive at my flat late after putting his son to bed, saying his ex had tried to stop him leaving or hidden his coat. ‘She’s mad,’ he’d say. ‘She’s a lunatic.’

Again and again, I tried to be the laidback girlfriend. I would do anything to support him, and that meant submerging my own insecurities about the situation. I tried to stay calm while he insisted it wasn’t his fault and I had to bear with him. Then, one morning, I looked in his rucksack which he’d left in my bedroom. There wasn’t much in it apart from a travel itinerary. I opened it.

It was for a holiday to St Lucia with his ex and their son for the Christmas just passed, when he’d supposedly been away with his family. I texted him immediately, phone shaking in my hand. ‘Did you go away with Charlotte and Ben?’ ‘Has she emailed you?’ he texted back instantly. No denial. And he’d covered up this holiday for months, as he told me all those stories about how ‘mad’ his ex was. I sank on to my bed and wailed loudly.

But though I was hurt, I was still in love with him. I couldn’t just snap out of it. He reeled me back in by saying we’d never find another relationship as good as ours. It was around then that I developed the Instagram skills of a private detective and noticed he’d started following various women I’d never heard of, and they him, both liking one another’s pictures. I realised that all my trust had evaporated. ‘Soph, you’re now unhappy so much more than you’re happy,’ said my little – and much wiser – sister.

HOW TO SPOT A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP

By psychologist and cognitive behavioural therapist Will Napier (willnapier.co.uk)

1. Your partner’s behaviour is intense and provokes equally intense reactions from you. He may say that your relationship is the best he’s ever been in, then the next minute act offended when you don’t want to do something he suggests. This makes you apologise and feel as though you have to shoulder the responsibility for making everything OK. It can be mesmerising but often we mistake intensity such as this for intimacy.

2. When you’re together, you may act recklessly and take risks – drinking more heavily or taking drugs. It could even be speeding in a car. Something about it can feel thrilling and illicit. But what would your friends say?

3. You stop liking yourself because your partner has contaminated you with his own insecurities, trying to make himself feel better by putting you down.

4. You find yourself making excuses for your partner’s unacceptable behaviour. Not good. It’s time to learn to value your own needs and to realise that a relationship based on subjugating yours is doomed.

5. If you try to raise any issues you have in the relationship, your partner may stonewall you. Open communication is replaced by passive communication. This includes sulking or the silent treatment, so you have to guess what you’ve ‘done wrong’ and put it right. Never a healthy sign.

6. Because you may feel as though you’re constantly walking on eggshells or lurching from one drama to the next, you feel depleted – the relationship is sucking the energy out of you. This may manifest itself physically and you may want to sleep more.

7. You’re keeping the relationship – or worrying aspects of it – from your family. Secrecy is the number-one sign of unhealthy, addictive behaviour.

I broke up with him (more tears – I should have been sponsored by Kleenex during this period of my life), but it took over a year for us to properly disentangle ourselves. And this was the really damaging bit. On multiple evenings, I would be drawn back to his flat, keeping it a secret from my worried, disapproving friends. As I wept into my wine glass, he’d say there was nobody else for him. Part of me knew his behaviour was toxic, but more of me thought it was romantic – me and him, a modern-day Romeo and Juliet, pitted against everyone else.

The situation got darker. I insisted we should leave one another alone, but Shaun often ‘popped up’ in the coffee shop I went to at the weekend, or outside Vogue House, where Tatler is based, when I nipped outside to get lunch. I didn’t feel stalked. In my head, it felt like he was devoted – and I was a junkie and he was my fix. On one of these moments, outside my office, I told him that I was going to Scotland for a story that was being filmed for a BBC documentary about Tatler.

A few weeks later, arriving at the hotel, there was a bunch of flowers in my room. ‘Haha, guess who?’ said the anonymous note. Then there was a knock on the door. It was Shaun with a bottle of champagne. He’d called up the hotel, told them he was my boyfriend and said he wanted to surprise me. Creepy? Romantic? Both? I let him stay the weekend, and then, after he’d left, broke down in tears in front of the documentary’s director. The situation was so unhinged. I cried every day. My mood changed every three seconds. ‘Maybe I need antidepressants,’ I sobbed to the director.

I didn’t need antidepressants. I needed to move on, but why couldn’t I let go? And it was only with the help of a friendly stripper that I did. She began following me on Instagram while the Shaun situation was still dragging on. Weird, I thought, clicking on to her profile. Her photos were of her in glittery G-strings, tagged at Stringfellows. And then I saw that Shaun had liked several of her pictures. I was so confused by this point, so suspicious and deranged, that I messaged her. ‘Am so sorry to be NUTS,’ I said. ‘No idea how much you know about me and Shaun, it’s the longest, most torturous story! But I’m trying to work a few things out because I think he has a bad habit of not telling the truth.’

The stripper replied, sweetly, with her story saying she was so sorry – she and Shaun had slept together many times – and that he’d messed her around and lied to her about other women. She’d even messaged his sister at one point, ‘a ranty message about how her brother treats girls. I’m not proud, I just wanted to humiliate him like he did me, though I’m sure that I only embarrassed myself.’ She’d only started following me, she explained, because he’d mentioned having a mate who worked for Tatler.

It was like a switch. I’d suddenly had enough. I emailed him: ‘Do not come near me ever again or I will tell the police.’ I’d always wanted a dramatic love life, but there were limits. How had I been so stupid – for so long? I used to watch women in bad relationships and think, ‘Why the hell are you staying with him?’ But when you’re there yourself, it’s not that easy. If you’ve been there, you’ll know.

I met up with Shaun’s sister to say her brother needed help with his lying. I blocked his number. I saw a therapist. I read about psychopaths and learned why women can be susceptible – we think we can help them, we want to solve whatever their problem is, we value the importance of a relationship, any relationship, over our own emotional needs. They, meanwhile, like the drama of such rollercoaster relationships and the feeling that they can toy with someone, pushing them away and pulling them back in again.

I slowly emerged from the fog in my head and started to feel normal again. Then, a few months later, a woman I vaguely know came up to me in the pub. ‘You’re the one who went out with that sex addict,’ she said, laughing. And I laughed back, although inside I was winded. There had been many other women, she told me, he had a real problem. It still stung slightly but it all made sense.

Several years on, I am in love with someone else. A man who doesn’t make me feel insecure or make me worry that I’m ‘big boned’ (how that phrase stuck). With him, I feel stronger, not weaker. And I don’t hide my feelings because I don’t need to – we talk, openly, about any niggles we have. In my new novel, my chaotic heroine Polly is obsessed with Sense and Sensibility and finding a relationship as passionate as Marianne and Willoughby’s – a relationship that rocks you and sends you nearly deranged. But what kind of man do we actually want in the end? Like my editor at Tatler told me that day, just before my first date with Shaun, you want a nice one. A kind one. Not a man who will drive you mad.

The Plus One by Sophia Money-Coutts will be published by HQ on 9 August, price £12.99, to order a copy for £10.39 (a 20 per cent discount) until 12 august, visit mailshop.co.uk/books or call 0844 571 0640; p&p is free on orders over £15.

Hair and make-up: Lucie Pemberton using Bobbi Brown and Bumble and Bumble. Sophia wears dresses by Beulah London.

Source: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/home/you/article-5986769/Toxic-relationships-thought-stupid-women-fell-bad-men.html

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5 Stages Of a Relationship: What Are They & How You Can Pass Them

I bet you’ve noticed that there are five distinct stages of a relationship. Each has its own challenges and rewards.

Think back to your last relationship…or even one you’re in now. Didn’t it change from the start, when you didn’t know each other well, but couldn’t keep your hands off of one another, to the end, when you fully trusted and loved this man? Just like we all evolve from babies to children to adults, so do we evolve in our relationships.

What are the Stages of a Relationship?

We’ll explore each of these stages of a relationship in a minute, but to give you a high-level view, these stages include:

1. Attraction & Romance Stage 2. Struggle Stage 3. Working/Partnership Stage 4. Commitment Stage 5. Real Love Stage

Below, I’ll not only tell you what each of these stages of a relationship looks like but also tell you what’s great about it and what you should look out for as potential problems.

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Stage 1: Attraction & Romance

Enjoy each of the stages of a relationship, particularly the first one.

You’re floating on Cloud 9 after your first date with Sam. The entire evening was perfect. The kiss…amazing. You can’t wait to see him again.

As you’re taking off your makeup, you get a text from Sam. He wants to see you tomorrow!

In this first stage of a relationship, everything is beautiful. You can totally see this working out, and you don’t see any of this man’s flaws, or else you sweep them under the rug. The Attraction & Romance stage of a relationship can last anywhere from a few weeks to even a year or more.

This phase is a bit like being high on love. Just like with drugs, you feel like you can’t get enough…except the drug is this man. There’s actually a scientific cause for it: when you fall in love, your brain releases mad amounts of dopamine and other feel-good chemicals. Why? It goes back to evolution. If two people could connect long enough, they would create offspring and the human race would be perpetuated.

So your brain wants you to fall for this guy. You may not be about makin’ babies, but your brain doesn’t know any better, so it glosses over the negative and emphasizes the positive, whether this guy is actually the one for you long-term or not. But don’t worry; you’ll figure out if he’s the right guy soon enough.

What’s Great About This Relationship Stage

The wonderful thing about the start of a relationship is that you start afresh. You get to know someone new, and by proxy, learn who you are with that person. And those feel-good hormones raging around your brain? They’re pretty amazing (and legal! Legal love drugs!).

Sex tends to be frequent and hot in this stage, so enjoy it! That may change down the road…

Things to Be Aware of in This Relationship Stage

Be aware that in the early days of dating, you may want to go slow. Go slow in terms of revealing your full personality, for starters. I’m not saying you should hide things, but maybe wait a few months to let him know how anal you can be about keeping your house clean rather than screaming at him when he forgets to take his shoes off…or proudly showing him photos of all 18 of your cats.

That being said: while we all naturally put our best foot forward when first meeting and dating someone, remember that being your authentic self is important for the relationship moving forward. So: don’t lie. Be confident in who you are, and know that if this guy is right for you, he’ll like/love you for all your qualities, both good and bad.

Also go slow in terms of announcing your feelings. You might right away feel like you’ve fallen in love with him, but there’s no harm in taking your time to really be sure of your feelings.

Remember that druglike state you’re in; it’s not always reliable in telling you how you feel about someone. Wait until you know him better before professing your love. A study showed that men wait on average 88 days before saying I love you, while women took 134 days. Nothing wrong with that!

Stage 2: The Struggle

The Struggle Stage is a challenging one. Will your relationship survive?

This is where it gets real. You’re comfortable with your partner and are starting to let your hair down around him…but that doesn’t always mean things are harmonious.

Most couples get to this stage…and then break up. This tends to happen after four to six months of being together.

This is where you may have your first (and subsequent) arguments. It’s when the shiny magical fairytale glow of your relationship fades and you start dealing with real things like him leaving the toilet seat up or drinking straight from the carton.

Where are all those magical hormones that made you gloss over these annoyances before??

One or both of you may be struggling with uncertainty in the relationship. Where is it going? Is he The One? Do we want the same things? This is totally normal, by the way, and it’s good to ask yourself these questions because if the answers all indicate that you’re on the right path, you can be reassured of moving forward.

If you were a more subdued version of yourself in stage 1, he may be surprised that you’re not acting the same as you were at the beginning. Now you fart, burp, and bicker. Where’s that sexy lady who wore makeup all the time? You may feel like you’re being genuine but he may feel duped, which is why it’s important to be honest about who you are from the start.

You may both start to test your power in the relationship. Who has the power? If he’s a pushover, you may feel like the challenge is gone. On the other hand, if he strong-arms every decision in the relationship, you may feel overpowered and want out.

What’s Great About This Relationship Stage

Yes, this may be the most challenging aspect of your relationship, but if you can make it through, then you’ll have smooth sailing the rest of your relationship. The Struggle stage is when you can relax and really be comfortable with your partner.

You may not be banging away like bunnies like you were in the early days, but sex takes a much more emotional aspect at this stage. Because you’ve been through a lot and are committed to loving one another, sex becomes an important way of connecting emotionally.

Things to Be Aware of in This Relationship Stage

You’ll need to be flexible to see it through to the next stage. If you’re upset because you feel like your partner is asserting his independence (and you’re threatened by that), realize that in a healthy relationship, couples are two individuals with separate interests. It’s okay to do your own thing, then come back together to spend time with your partner.

Keep the lines of communication open, because that’s the best way to understand your differences and what both of you want moving forward.

At the same time, if the relationship isn’t right, this is probably where you’ll figure it out. If you’ve got insurmountable issues, be okay with walking away rather than staying in a Good Enough relationship.

Stage 3: Working/Partnership

Find thoughtful ways to show him you love him, like cook him dinner.

You’ve made it over the Struggle hump! Woo! But you can’t totally relax just yet in this one of the five stages of a relationship.

It’s all too easy to become overly comfortable with your partner…to the point where you no longer put in the effort to make him happy. You already got him, so why do those little things like rub his back or pick up his dry cleaning?

Because you love him, that’s why!

A relationship without these thoughtful efforts is just a friendship, really. It takes work to stay attuned to your partner’s needs and do things that will show him that you care. Relationships take effort, but yours shouldn’t feel like work. If you genuinely love him, it should come naturally for you to do sweet things for him.

Even though we’re going to move onto Stage 4, realize that this Working/Partnership stage never really ends. You need to continually work to be a good partner.

What’s Great About This Relationship Stage

After all the struggle, it’s nice to coast along just a bit in this stage. And if you’re both putting in the effort to keep wooing one another, it can feel pretty fantastic to be on the receiving end of thoughtful gestures!

Things to Be Aware of in This Relationship Stage

One issue I see with couples is that they aren’t attuned to the other’s Love Languages.

You may think putting cute love notes in his lunch pack is a great way to show affection (because your Love Language is words of affirmation), he may actually prefer spending a quiet evening drinking wine and chatting because his Language is quality time. We often project what we want from others onto them, and that’s where issues arise.

Make sure you know what he sees as an appreciated way of expressing your love to him. Does he love being touched, like hugs and massages? Does he enjoy receiving gifts? Does he glow when you do something nice like make him dinner? Whatever he responds positively to indicates what his Love Language is.

Stage 4: Commitment

Once you reach the Commitment stage, you know things are solid.

This is usually when couples get married, move in together, or otherwise commit to one another formally. The difficult part is behind you, and you’re reassured that you’re right for one another.

You’ve learned how to balance your needs versus his needs versus the needs of the two of you as a couple, and you respect one another’s need for time away. You’ve mastered your communications and know how to bring up an issue before it becomes huge.

You’re not with this man because you need him…but because you want him. And that’s excellent!

What’s Great About This Relationship Stage

Obviously however you decide to commit to one another is a pretty big perk at this stage of the relationship. But you can also look at it as the beginning of something great. That might be starting a family or really considering yourself a bona fide couple. People in this stage are usually more confident in love than at any other stage.

Things to Be Aware of in This Relationship Stage

While you might think great! All the hard work is done! but you’re wrong. With whatever transition your commitment requires comes a lot of change. If you’re moving in together, you’ve got to acclimate to living with someone else with totally different living habits than your own. Trust me: fights about the dumbest stuff will ensue.

How could he use the last of the toilet paper and not replace the roll?

Why do you have to do all the grocery shopping?

Do his friends have to come over and play poker every Friday?

You may even worry that this was a big mistake, but give it time. Usually, these issues seem huge at first and then they die down and you get used to living together.

And if you’re getting married, there’s plenty of stress that comes with that ritual. Interestingly, the less you spend on the wedding, the less stressed you’ll be in the planning process!

Know that this upheaval isn’t indicative of what your relationship will be like moving forward. Give it time to settle.

Stage 5: Real Love

Once you’ve surpassed the other stages, you can enjoy real love!

Reeaaal love! I’m searchin’ for a real love!

Just like good ole Mary J. Blige, we’re all looking for real love, and it comes as the last of the stages of a relationship.

After all of your ups and downs, you’re still head over heels for your guy. His touch still feels like electricity, and you love hopping in bed with him. Years may have passed, but you still remember those butterflies you felt when you first kissed.

You may have arguments or issues, but ultimately they work out because you are now so confident in your relationship.

Congratulations. Far fewer people than you’d think actually make it to this stage…even if they’ve been together for decades.

What’s Great About This Relationship Stage

What’s great about this stage? LOVE! Knowing that you will wake up every morning to your true partner, the man who gets you and supports you no matter what is pretty fabulous.

As you grow older together, you continue to get to know each other in new ways. You may think you know every story in his mental library…then he’ll pull out a new one.

Things to Be Aware of in This Relationship Stage

While the previous stages of a relationship have focused heavily on you as a couple, now you may branch out to work on goals outside of your relationship. Maybe you want to retire early so you work on how to make that financially possible. Maybe you want to move to Bali. Or adopt a horse. These are goals that you can share and work on together.

Just as important are the goals that you have individually. The great thing about having a real life and love partner is that he will always support your goals. Want to quit your job and start a business? He’s your biggest cheerleader.

Find things to focus on both together and individually to enhance your relationship.

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I find it helpful to know the stages of a relationship so I know what’s coming up next. If you’re in the Attraction & Romance stage, you can identify that everything feels floaty and wonderful for a reason (those darn hormones again). That can help you make smart decisions about being with this guy.

If you’re in the Struggle stage, you might feel reassured knowing that it’s perfectly normal to be confused about what comes next. If you’re in the Working stage and realize that you haven’t been putting as much energy into showing your appreciation and love, that’s your opportunity to do so.

No matter where you are, put your focus on being the best partner you can be. That will take work, but it’s an investment that has a huge dividend that pays out over your entire life.

Talk to me. Which of these stages of a relationship are you in, or how far have you gotten in past relationships? Leave a comment below.

If you’re stuck in the first three stages of a relationship and are ready to move into the Commitment stage, join me on this free training to learn how to avoid the “casual relationship trap and get him to commit.

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How I Keep the Spark Alive in My 10 Years of Marriage

Have you been having a difficult time connecting with your partner? Whether you’ve been together for decades or just a few months, it’s important to always take steps to keep the spark alive.

We’ve all heard of the seven-year itch, but getting past this point doesn’t make a long-term relationship any easier. The truth is that marriage is something you have to work on daily. Without a conscious effort on your part, it will be much easier than you might expect for your relationship to go from hot and heavy to complacent and even resentful.

In more than 10 years of marriage, I’ve discovered that nothing kills the romance faster than falling into a boring routine, especially if this doesn’t include prioritizing each other. If you take only one thing out of this article, let it be this:

We prioritize each other.

This is the secret to my marriage’s longevity, and it’s something that everyone can do. In fact, placing a greater emphasis on making my husband a priority by giving him my undivided attention is one of the quickest ways to stop us from bickering or beginning to drift apart. The best part is that when I prioritize him, he prioritizes me in return.

Of course, there’s a lot more that I do to help keep the spark alive. Prioritizing my spouse also means looking for opportunities to connect with each other mentally, emotionally and physically.

Fortunately, there are many easy ways to turn a boring day into an exciting evening. If you and your partner haven’t been connecting properly and have started talking about going to couples counseling, consider trying the following tips first.

We always explore somewhere new together to explore the way to spark.

Whether you head off on a long vacation or simply take a day to explore a new park together, there is extensive evidence that visiting new places will be good for your relationship. In fact, studies have found that couples that make an effort to go somewhere new experience many positive benefits, [1] including:

Increased playfulness

Less stress

Improved sense of connection

Emotional nurturing

Personal and relationship growth

We make a romantic meal at home to save our marriage (and money!)

Couples tend to romanticize going out to eat together, but this can be noisy and expensive. Instead, start the spark in your own kitchen by cooking a romantic meal. It’s nice if one of you cooks for the other, but in my experience, it’s even better if you share the cooking duties. This puts the two of you together in a creative space, which can easily lead to touching and kissing.

If you’re concerned that cooking takes too much time, don’t worry: most people spend 34 minutes or less per day on food prep. [2] Consider this time to be like the foreplay of your mealtime, and the evening is virtually certain to go in a fun direction.

We express gratitude daily to wipe off negativity.

If you’re anything like me, you dated quite a few frogs before you found your Prince (or Princess) Charming. One of the biggest issues that leads to couples counseling and ultimately tears relationships apart is being negative with each other instead of focusing on the positive.

Take time at least once a day to tell your spouse something you’re grateful for about them. It doesn’t have to be something huge; it can be as simple as saying, “I’m grateful that you are kind to strangers.” This will have big mental health benefits for both of you:

Reduced depression

More positive thought patterns

Overall better well-being

In turn, this will make your relationship happier, less stressed and more conducive to romance.

We just say that we find each other attractive.

Do you still tell your spouse that you find them to be attractive? This is something that many couples stop doing over time, even if they still feel the same level of attraction.

The problem is that people need to hear positive feedback on a regular basis. Therefore, if my husband were to go an extended period of time without indicating that he’s attracted to me, I could naturally start to feel unattractive.

Help your spouse’s self-esteem and rekindle the romance by doing things such as giving them a genuine compliment daily and letting them know when they look nice in a new outfit. Another great spark starter is hitting on them with the looks and words you used to express interest when the relationship was new.

We schedule a weekly date to spend quality time together.

Do you carve out at least a few hours weekly to be alone together? Kids, work and other obligations may seem more important at times, but they’re not. This is because numerous studies have found that couples that don’t make alone time a priority are much more likely to end in divorce. [3]

A date doesn’t have to be a big, expensive night out. What it should do is get the two of you outside of your home and away from kids, jobs and any other responsibilities. You could go for a walk in the woods, dine at your favorite restaurant or attend a concert together. Just be sure to make some time to talk during the date. Making this a priority will help the two of you in several ways:

Improved sense of commitment

Rekindled passion

Romance booster

Better communication

We hug every day and are physically affectionate.

I’m not a big fan of public displays of affection, so I can understand if you don’t spend your date night constantly touching each other and making out. However, it’s very important for casual physical affection to be one of the cornerstones of your daily life. This helps keep intimacy alive, and allows the two of you to check in on each other non-verbally.

Hugs are especially powerful, and researchers say sharing a 20-second hug at least once a day will greatly help both of you. In fact, hugs may even be the key to improving cardiovascular health! [4] Aside from reducing your blood pressure, a 20-second hug will help the two of you bond and strengthen your relationship: [5]

Hugging relieves stress and anxiety

Improves feelings of trust

Generates more compassion

It’s definitely easier to be romantic when you’re not stressed out and are with a partner you trust. Try giving your spouse a 20-second hug before and after work each day to see how it keeps the spark alive!

We schedule intimate time and get closer.

It may feel odd at first to consider scheduling time to be intimate. Many experts have indicated, though, that it can actually not only spice things up but also save your marriage. [6] After all, most of us live hectic lives. I certainly do, and it’s common for me to work seven days in a row. This makes it hard to wait for sex to just spontaneously happen.

Scheduling intimate time instead allows you to prioritize being together physically. This is just as important as going on a weekly date. As an added bonus, the two of you will have something to look forward to. This anticipation can make everything much better, and it will encourage flirtatious behavior between encounters.

We do these simple things all the times and our marriage is drastically improved.

As you can see, all of the things on this list require you to prioritize each other. Without developing this one simple habit, it will be very difficult for any relationship to thrive and couples counseling may quickly become a necessity.

Fortunately, I’m living proof that making my spouse a priority by doing things such as having a weekly date night and expressing gratitude can keep the spark alive for more than 10 years. It’s never too late to make a change; spice up your relationship today!

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Reference

[1]^Your Tango: 5 Can’t-Argue-With Reasons To Put Life On Hold For A Vacay With Bae[2]^Evolve Kitchens: Kitchen Cupboards: They Matter More Thank You Think[3]^Deseret News: Date Night – The Secret to a Happy and Long-Lasting Marriage[4]^BBC News: How Hugs can Aid Women’s Hearts[5]^The Crazy Facts: Hugging for 20 Seconds Releases Oxytocin which can Make Someone Trust You More[6]^Huffington Post: Marriage and Sex: Scheduling Intimacy Can Improve Both

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