#fandom problem 5387

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Fandom Problem #5387:

There's a bit of a catch-22, if you're open about something you're "shoving it in everyone's face", and if you're private about something you're being sneaky because you know deep down that it's shameful and wrong.

I think part of it has to do with how the internet and social media blurs the line between what is a "public" space and a "private" space. If I have a particular kink, and I make a separate side blog dedicated to that kink, it's because I know that there are a lot of people who follow my main who do not want to see that, so I have a place to also discuss it where they don't have to see it. It's not because I know it's actually immoral to have a kink so I'm actively trying to trick people into thinking I don't. Also, because some people tend to view someone's blog as their entire LIFE, if I have a blog where I put all my kink stuff to keep it separate from my regular SFW content, then they must think I go around in my real life talking to everyone only about kink stuff all the time. Instead of like, a regular person who has a public life and a private life. That if you break into my house, rummage through all my stuff, and happen to find a vibrator buried in the sock drawer, that it's no different than if I ran naked through the streets waving dildos around.

The problem is that they don't understand the concept of "certain things are inappropriate at certain times or places", instead they think if something may be inappropriate in SOME contexts then it shouldn't be allowed in ANY context.

Don't make adult content, A CHILD could see it, doesn't matter that it's on an 18+ site.

Don't make anything with potentially triggering subject matter, in case someone with specific types of trauma sees it, it doesn't matter if you put content warnings on it.

Don't put sex scenes in movies and shows, what if someone wants to watch it with their family and it'd be soooo awkward? It's not like movies and shows come with a rating on them and tell you exactly what got it that rating. Or you could just, you know, suck it up and deal with the awkward for a minute or two.

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"I ain't reading all of that" My brother in christ, then why are you on a submission based vent blog?

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Ten bucks says they won't even see your reply because they were just that removed from this blog. They were a drive-by asshole and nothing more lol. x)

No, but I actually wanted to point out, since people using the anonymous feature on this blog was kinda scrutinized recently...One of the benefits to using anon to contribute and share opinions (like I'm doing now!) on this blog is that you're way more immune to harassment, and randos picking fights with you, if your ask, reblog, etc breaches containment. The attacks don't feel as personal. And if you're on anon, you don't have a target on your back and the takes you make won't follow you around.

Actually, that's another benefit: you won't be continually defined by takes you made but no longer agree with, or by takes that may be cool and honorable, but petty losers try to warp for drama! Fandom's pretty rife with chronically grass-deprived people who try to fabricate excitement in their lives by stirring up drama where there is none...And as someone who's been targeted once before (and go figure, it was in the last year due to all the new purity culture crap, after like 15 years of pure bliss), it's just way easier to be on anon.

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5387 All of this, yes! But this also reminds me how I went to see a movie with my boyfriend in theatres one time. We were at the theatre and we just decided to hop in and see if anything was playing, and I suggested, hey, this sounds interesting. I was expecting a few small moments of discomfort because it was an R-rated movie, but lol, that "R-rated movie" happened to be "A Dangerous Method". I was beet red the whole time.

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