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🎉🎊🥳🎊🎁🍾After moving back down south to Mississippi to finish my undergrad and hopefully start my master’s program in the next year and a half, I’ve come to realize something about the South: it’s a constant celebration. The party culture here is something else—people are always going out, and there’s a birthday party, announcement, or event happening every single week, usually at a local club or pub. What I truly love about Black people in the South is their incredible ability to celebrate life. They find joy in every little thing, and it’s inspiring to see such vibrant expressions of happiness and togetherness.

🎉🥳🎈🎊🍾🎁At the same time, I wish some of that energy and focus could also go toward education, community-building, and fostering deeper understanding between people. The South is still highly segregated in many ways. For instance, this is the first time in years I’ve gone to clubs where the spaces are so divided—white clubs are almost entirely white, and Black clubs are entirely Black. It’s striking. I can’t help but think how much richer the cultural experience could be if these spaces blended more, like in bigger cities. Exploring each other’s cultures and sharing those experiences would make the social scene so much more dynamic and less repetitive—it wouldn’t feel like the same people and situations every time you go out.

🎉🥳🎈🎊🎁🍾🍾That being said, it truly is a joy to witness people celebrating life with so much passion. There’s something beautiful about the way communities here cherish even the smallest of moments, and it’s a reminder to find joy in the everyday.

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Personal Blog – January 18, 2025

Today, I realized profoundly about life, parenting, and personal growth.

First, I’ve come to understand that no matter how much we try to forget our childhood, any unresolved trauma will eventually surface. These issues don’t just disappear—they linger and can manifest in ways we least expect, especially as we approach adulthood and maturity. They demand to be addressed.

I’ve also realized that being a “better” parent, having more resources, or being more progressive and open with your children doesn’t guarantee protection from the challenges they might face. If mental health issues are genetic or systemic, there’s only so much we can control. Life will throw unexpected challenges our way, and we must navigate through them. This journey requires spiritual guidance—whether through faith, family, friends, or therapy—and self-compassion. Forgiving yourself and allowing room for recovery is essential.

One of the most profound lessons I’ve learned is that you can have mediocre parents and grow into an extraordinary person—or have amazing parents and still struggle in life. Ultimately, every individual faces moments of decision that can alter their trajectory, sometimes permanently, sometimes temporarily. Countless factors—choices, circumstances, environments—determine outcomes.

I’ve also come to accept that intelligence is insufficient, no matter how sharp. Emotional intelligence and the ability to self-regulate are equally, if not more, critical. Intellectual brilliance means little if paired with self-defeating behaviors. And when surrounded by ignorance or unhealthy belief systems, breaking free becomes even more challenging. I’ve learned to accept that my thought patterns differ from many of my family members. While they may be my family, they are not necessarily my tribe—and that’s okay. It’s up to me to find my tribe and embrace them.

I’ve reflected on how my younger self judged people harshly. The “unattractive” or “unpopular” high school peers might grow up to be brilliant, kind, or resilient—or, in some cases, face struggles like addiction. Similarly, the “popular kids” might succeed or struggle in their ways. Life is unpredictable. I thought I knew it all back then, but at 63, I see just how much I still have to learn.

Looking back, I realize how procrastination held me back. If I had stopped procrastinating 30 years ago—if I had prioritized my mental, physical, and spiritual health, gone to therapy earlier, and focused on my education instead of seeking validation from men—I could have saved myself from so much unnecessary pain. I needed to love myself deeply, protect my brilliance, and nurture my emotional and intellectual growth. Instead, I relied on others to help me self-regulate.

As I move into 2025, I’m committed to forgiving myself daily and embracing the mantra: Do it now. Whatever is on my list, I need to tackle it urgently while still making time for family friends and enjoying life.

Here are my top goals:

1. Mind, Body, and Spirit Alignment

I want to focus on becoming my healthiest and most spiritually grounded version. This includes prioritizing fitness, wellness, and daily practices that nurture my soul.

2. Connection and Love

I will work on not judging others so harshly and spending more meaningful time with family, friends, and loved ones. I want to give my children a mother they can be proud of and find time to love myself fully while being open to sharing my life with someone special.

3. Financial Freedom and Vision Realization

I’m determined to turn my business visions into reality, from opening multiple wellness centers to creating passive income and homeownership and developing projects that support me, my children, grandchildren, and the community. I especially want to inspire and guide young Black women and people as they navigate life without clear guidance. Let me be that guide.

Reflecting, I remind myself: I don’t chase; I attract. What is meant for me will come to me. What belongs to me will find me. I release all fear and worry. I am a magnet for abundance and love.

Lastly, I hold close the Four Agreements:

1. Be impeccable with your word.

2. Don’t make assumptions.

3. Don’t take anything personally.

4. Always do your best.

These principles will guide me as I continue to grow, evolve, and build a life of purpose and fulfillment.

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