#expect misunderstandings and being misunderstood

[boyczar]

Happy Yule!

[pearlprincess02]

moon signs and your mommy issues

aries moon

as an aries moon, your mom likely sees you as a fiercely independent and bold individual, someone who thrives on challenges and isn't afraid to stand up for yourself. she might admire your strength but also feel frustrated by your impulsive nature and desire for autonomy, sometimes leading to clashes. this dynamic can create a push-pull effect, where you crave her approval yet resist her control, sparking deep-seated mommy issues. you might struggle with feeling misunderstood or unsupported emotionally, leading to a strong desire to prove yourself.

taurus moon

with a taurus moon, your mom likely views you as a stable, reliable presence who brings comfort and security to her life. she probably appreciates your grounded nature and the way you create a sense of peace and routine in your relationship. however, this steadfastness might sometimes lead to her perceiving you as resistant to change or overly focused on material stability, causing friction. you may struggle with feeling that your emotional needs aren't fully recognized or that you're expected to always be the rock, leading to unresolved mommy issues surrounding your self-worth and independence.

gemini moon

as a gemini moon, your mom likely sees you as intellectually curious and highly communicative, with a knack for keeping things lively and engaging. she probably values your quick wit and adaptability but might struggle with your tendency to be changeable or emotionally detached. this can lead to her perceiving you as unreliable or inconsistent, which could create tension in your relationship. your mommy issues may revolve around feeling misunderstood or neglected emotionally, as you might have a hard time balancing your need for emotional depth with your natural inclination toward mental stimulation and variety.

cancer moon

with a cancer moon, your mom likely sees you as deeply nurturing and emotionally sensitive, someone who provides a comforting and caring presence. she probably appreciates your intuitive understanding and ability to create a sense of home. however, your intense emotional needs and occasional mood swings might challenge her, leading to misunderstandings or feelings of being overwhelmed. this dynamic can result in mommy issues related to feeling either overly protected or inadequately supported, as you navigate the balance between your vulnerability and your desire for emotional security.

leo moon

as a leo moon, your mom likely sees you as a vibrant, confident individual who brings warmth and joy into her life. she probably admires your strong sense of self and creative flair, celebrating your ability to shine and seek attention. however, she might struggle with your need for validation and occasional dramatic tendencies, leading to occasional clashes. this dynamic can result in mommy issues related to feeling either overly praised or inadequately acknowledged, as you grapple with balancing your need for recognition with your desire for genuine emotional connection.

virgo moon

with a virgo moon, your mom likely views you as meticulous and reliable, someone who excels in problem-solving and offers practical support. she probably appreciates your attention to detail and your ability to maintain order, valuing your helpful and service-oriented nature. however, she might also feel that your critical eye or perfectionist tendencies create distance, leading to misunderstandings. this dynamic can spark mommy issues around feeling either overly scrutinized or undervalued, as you navigate the balance between your desire for approval and your need for emotional reassurance.

libra moon

as a libra moon, your mom likely sees you as a harmonious and charming individual who values balance and fairness in relationships. she probably admires your diplomatic nature and your ability to bring people together. however, she might struggle with your tendency to avoid conflict or make decisions based on others' expectations, leading to moments of frustration. this dynamic can result in mommy issues related to feeling either excessively pressured to maintain harmony or disconnected from your own needs, as you try to navigate your desire for peace and acceptance.

scorpio moon

with a scorpio moon, your mom likely sees you as intensely passionate and deeply intuitive, someone who isn't afraid to explore the depths of emotions. she probably respects your strength and resilience but may also find your emotional intensity and need for privacy challenging to navigate. this can lead to her feeling uncertain about how to connect with you or support you fully. your mommy issues might revolve around feeling misunderstood or overly controlled, as you struggle to balance your profound emotional depth with a desire for independence and acceptance.

sagittarius moon

as a sagittarius moon, your mom likely sees you as adventurous and optimistic, always eager to explore new ideas and experiences. she probably admires your enthusiasm and your ability to bring a sense of freedom and excitement into her life. however, she might find your restlessness and tendency to avoid routine challenging, leading to occasional frustration. this dynamic can create mommy issues related to feeling either misunderstood or unsupported, as you navigate the balance between your need for independence and your desire for emotional stability and understanding.

capricorn moon

with a capricorn moon, your mom likely views you as disciplined and responsible, someone who approaches life with a serious and practical mindset. she probably admires your ability to handle challenges with determination and to set high standards for yourself. however, she might find your emotional reserve and tendency to prioritize work over personal connection challenging, leading to occasional feelings of distance. this dynamic can result in mommy issues related to feeling either overly pressured to meet expectations or emotionally unsupported, as you strive to balance your need for achievement with your desire for genuine emotional closeness.

aquarius moon

as an aquarius moon, your mom likely sees you as innovative and unconventional, someone who brings a unique perspective and a strong sense of individuality to her life. she probably appreciates your open-mindedness and your ability to think outside the box. however, she might struggle with your emotional detachment or tendency to prioritize intellectual pursuits over personal connections, leading to occasional misunderstandings. this dynamic can create mommy issues related to feeling either disconnected or inadequately understood, as you balance your need for independence with your desire for emotional intimacy.

pisces moon

with a pisces moon, your mom likely views you as deeply empathetic and imaginative, someone who brings a sense of compassion and dreaminess to her life. she probably admires your ability to intuitively connect with others and your creative spirit. however, she might find your emotional sensitivity and tendency to escape into fantasy challenging, leading to moments of confusion or frustration. this dynamic can create mommy issues related to feeling either overwhelmed by emotional demands or misunderstood, as you navigate the balance between your need for emotional depth and your desire for personal space and clarity.

in houses

moon in 1st house: emotional sensitivity, attachment style, nurturing vs. overprotective, identity formation, self-image conflict, dependency issues, maternal influence, emotional outbursts, rebellion, unmet needs, boundary struggles, validation seeking, trauma response, independence vs. clinginess, healing wounds, emotional intensity, identity crisis, parental expectations, self-discovery journey, emotional healing

moon in 2nd house: self-worth issues, security needs, material comfort, emotional value, dependency on stability, financial anxiety, nurturing needs, self-esteem struggles, attachment to possessions, parental influence on values, validation through achievement, emotional resourcefulness, boundaries & control, trauma bonding, self-sufficiency vs. dependency, emotional insecurity, comfort seeking, trust issues, parental expectations on success, healing from financial stress

moon in 3rd house: communication struggles, emotional expression, sibling dynamics, parental communication styles, intellectual nurturing, mental health challenges, dependency on approval, emotional sharing, verbal disputes, learning from trauma, emotional conflicts, social anxiety, childhood conversations, cognitive dissonance, emotional intellect, family narratives, overthinking issues, memory & trauma, influence of siblings, validation through words

moon in 4th house: home life dynamics, emotional foundations, parental influence, childhood memories, family secrets, dependency on family, nurturing vs. neglect, security needs, emotional root issues, domestic conflicts, trauma in the home, parental expectations, unresolved family issues, emotional legacy, sense of belonging, domestic stability, ancestral patterns, attachment to home, emotional vulnerability, healing family trauma

moon in 5th house: creative expression, emotional validation, parental approval, self-esteem through creativity, nurturing through play, childhood joy vs. trauma, validation through performance, emotional drama, need for attention, unfulfilled desires, emotional risk-taking, parent-child bonding, playfulness vs. seriousness, self-worth through achievement, trauma & self-expression, emotional need for fun, artistic healing, parental expectations of success, romanticized childhood, emotional ups and downs

moon in 6th house: daily routine struggles, emotional workaholism, nurturing through service, parental influence on work ethic, health anxiety, perfectionism, self-care challenges, emotional responsibility, dependency on routine, workplace conflicts, trauma & health issues, emotional self-criticism, parental expectations of productivity, overwork & burnout, healing through work, emotional patterns in daily life, service as a coping mechanism, routine vs. emotional needs, emotional resilience, trauma impact on daily functioning

moon in 7th house: relationship dynamics, emotional dependency, partner validation, nurturing through relationships, conflict in partnerships, trauma bonding, seeking emotional security, marriage & emotional needs, projection onto partners, intimacy issues, partnership expectations, healing through relationships, relationship patterns, fear of abandonment, emotional compromise, idealizing partners, codependency, emotional balance in relationships, trauma & partnership conflicts, influence of parental relationship models

moon in 8th house: emotional intensity, deep-seated trauma, dependency on transformation, parental influence on power dynamics, fear of vulnerability, control issues, unresolved emotional wounds, intimacy & boundaries, psychological depth, emotional secrets, healing through crisis, power struggles, transformative relationships, dependency on emotional security, fear of abandonment, financial & emotional ties, inherited trauma, emotional rebirth, shadow work, trauma & control

moon in 9th house: emotional beliefs, search for meaning, dependency on ideals, parental influence on worldview, long-distance emotional connections, idealization of knowledge, trauma & belief systems, need for emotional freedom, struggles with expansion, educational trauma, emotional exploration, influence of culture, spiritual nurturing, unmet aspirations, emotional journeys, freedom vs. security, parental expectations on success, emotional disconnect from beliefs, trauma & philosophical views, healing through Exploration

moon in 10th house: public image, parental expectations, emotional career ambitions, authority figures, professional validation, parental influence on success, emotional responsibility, need for recognition, career-related trauma, authority struggles, emotional control issues, public vs. private self, ambition & emotional needs, professional identity conflicts, pressure to achieve, emotional legacy, work-life balance, healing through achievement, parental approval & success, emotional fulfillment in career

moon in 11th house: social connections, emotional needs in friendships, group dynamics, parental influence on social life, idealization of groups, dependency on social validation, trauma in social settings, emotional freedom through friendships, community support, emotional rejection, influence of peers, healing through social networks, expectations of social roles, loneliness vs. belonging, emotional impact of group activities, unfulfilled social aspirations, social security needs, trauma & group dynamics, friendships as emotional refuge, parental influence on social values

moon in 12th house: emotional isolation, unconscious patterns, hidden trauma, parental influence on subconscious, emotional retreat, self-sabotage, healing through solitude, dependency on solitude, repressed emotions, isolation vs. connection, spiritual nurturing, parental secrets, trauma & spiritual growth, emotional boundaries, unresolved past wounds, emotional escape, inner conflict, influence of dreams, emotional vulnerability in seclusion, healing through reflection

all observations are done by me !!! @pearlprincess02

[kira-fluff]

I saw the “Sleeping with no pants on” headcanon and was wondering if you could do a pretty setter squad containing Atsumu, Kageyama and Akaashi please- ☁️

sleeping with no pants on | fem!reader x haikyuu!! [pt. 5]

a/n: i was not expecting everyone to be so obsessed with this prompt but I am LIVING for it. I love you guys so much 🩷 p.s. my lovely, atsumu is actually in pt. 1, but I'm going to switch for twinnie osamu, okay? 💕 also I'm so sorry i was gone for so long. busy busy busy working 3 jobs with college. forgive me if I'm a bit rusty. tw: sorta spicy idk

pt 1 pt 2 pt 3 pt 4

osamu miya "hey, 'samu, 'samu." "hm." he replied in a grunt. "'m tired." the two of you had stayed up the entire night trying out new recipes that osamu had thought of when he was supposed to be paying attention in class. so, now here you were at midnight, sprawled out on the couch, exhausted. "'n go 't sleep." "don' wanna drive home." "'n stay." you murmured an acknowledgement, then began slipping off your pants. osamu immediately sobered from his tiredness. "wait, the hell are ya doin'?!" "'m goin' to bed, obviously." "ya can't just take yer pants off with a man in the house!" you let out a little scoff, "oh, get over it." but osamu's mind was already racing. he tried to act cool on the outside, but you were just in your fucking panties and acting like it was no big deal? why were you always so clueless around him??? did you really not see him as romantic material??? osamu couldn't help but stare at the round shape of your ass even as your long shirt covered you. he had scarcely time to begin devouring the sight of your legs when you cleared your throat. "are you.....staring... at me?" he cleared his throat and looked away. "...s-sorry.." you leaned in close, just below his ear. "ya know... if you really wanted it that badly, you could've said something.." you smirked, taking a blanket and covering up your lower half with a conceited smirk, walking away. "h-hey wait! the fuck did ya mean by that?!" he trailed behind eagerly. the rest of the night? well... "just friends" was no longer in either of your vocabulary anymore.

kageyama tobio you friends, after all, nothing more. and you didn't want to make it weird. weirder than it already felt having hidden feelings for your best friend. it getting late after a particularly long study session which involved you trying to drill basic math facts into a brain that only understood volleyball. it was a hopeless endeavor, but you took him getting anything above a "50" as a win. so, you continued to attempt to help him improve his grades. you supposed "attempt" wasn't necessarily the right word, as his scores were generally improving, but sometimes you found yourself wondering if there was really a point to it all after you spent the whole lesson trying to help him relearn everything he misunderstood in the lesson from that day. so here you were, exhausted, with your head down on your table at home, tobio sitting across from you. "hey, kageyama, let's just call it a night." he paused for a moment, then spoke. "....do you want to sleep with me?" if you had any liquid in your mouth, you're certain you would've had a comical spit take. "ah, um, WHAT?" you sputtered, trying to make sense out of what he said. he didn't mean it that way, did he? no, of course not. "it's... late." yep. just offering a place to stay. "it is. but there are still trains. i can take a late one." "just get in my bed." your eyebrows raised. "hey, tobio, a normal person would misunderstand what you just said..." he ignored you. "just sleep with me." your face took on a reddish hue the more times he said it... and he just didn't get it? why was he messing with your heart like this!?!? "um... there are different ways to say that. like... 'want to spend the night?'" "then, spend the night." "why are you being so pushy?" "because i like you." as a friend. yeah. we've been over this. "ok, ok, you've convinced me with the power of friendship. but I'm sleeping on the couch." "no." "yes." "no. my bed has enough room." "not for me!!" you laughed nervously. does this guy even have hormones? like, what the fuck? "....I'm going to go shower. I'll see you in my bedroom." does this guy not understand the meaning of no? still, you found yourself begrudgingly trudging over to his bed, especially after you saw his couch was made with the comfort of a burlap sack. I mean, if he offered, might as well take advantage right? what could go wrong? spoiler: everything goes wrong. you thought he was fast asleep. so, in the stealth of 1000 ninjas, you slid off your sweatpants for the sake of comfort. it wasn't weird, right? oh well. you were tired and damn did he like his room hot. you jumped when you felt him arms wrap around you. then, he stiffened. "...are you not wearing any pants?" "um... maybe..." he sighed. "are you trying to seduce me?" "n-no it's just more comfortable!" he turned you around so you were facing him. "well, whatever you're trying to do, it's working. I don't think I'm going to be able to sleep." "wait, is it because I'm making you uncomfortable?" he went silent for a moment. ".... you could say that." "I'll... just put them back on then. sorry. it's just that your room is really hot and-" "can I kiss you?" you blinked in disbelief. "can you what?" "kiss you" he answered without a beat. you spluttered some more as he slowly leaned it, asking for permission, silently this time. you nodded and closed your eyes. sparks flew as his lips moved against your own and you finally understood what he'd meant when he said "I like you". kageyama tobio was head over heels in love with you, and you hadn't a clue. until now. the two of you broke apart. "...can we... do that again?" he asked brazenly. you leaned forward again in reply.

akaashi keiji akaashi would rather die than confess to you the things he woke up at night fantasizing about. you'd likely be especially mortified if you discovered that one of your most embarrassing mishaps was on a frequent replay in akaashi's brain when he fell asleep. he was supposed to be a gentleman, not some gross pervert that looked at one of his best friends like... that. but since it was all in his dreams, it was impossible to "turn off" no matter how many times he tried to think about something else before he went to sleep. and so, let's recall The Incident shall we? he had come to your house late at night and knocked at the door, fully expecting to see you up and awake as it was the early evening. to his surprise, however, you answered the door groggily, eyes still bleary from exhaustion and sleep. the way you looked would be forever ingrained in his mind. you were blinking back the remnants of sleep, wearing one of his shirts. it hung low on you, but not low enough to cover your supple legs and the white panties that peeked out below the hem line of his shirt. you hadn't noticed yet, either. "... what d' ya need...?" you asked tiredly, rubbing your eye. akaashi swallowed harshly, his brain turned into complete mush. "uhh.. uhh...." goddamnit, MOVE YOUR EYES BACK UP TO HER FACE. were her legs always that long? STOP. when he still hadn't answered, you followed his gaze down to your lower half. he still remembers the succession of events as follows: you blushed, stammered, and then slammed the door in his face. you didn't talk to him for a week. after, you finally awkwardly explained that you sleep without your pants on and that you didn't realize you hadn't put anything on when you answered the door because you were so tired. it sucked that you ignored him. and even that you explained yourself. because all it did was bring those... memories... right back to the forefront of his mind. whenever he saw you in the hall and you'd flush and look away, he was immediately brought back to the sight of your bare legs. when you stumbled through your explanation, his mind reeled back to those white panties. and he hated it. what kind of friend looks at their friend that way? but he knew in his heart that what he was feeling for you was beyond sexual attraction when, in his dreams, you smiled at him. and told him you loved him. and so, what if he dreamt a little longer? hopefully you'd forgive him. and maybe someday he could tell you how you made him feel...

[rhaenin-time]

ahhhh the problem with Alicent's usurpation being based on a "misunderstanding" is that the book usurpation was already based on a misunderstanding. A believable misunderstanding. A misunderstanding about the Realm.

The Greens fundamentally misunderstood how the majority of the Realm views succession. They honestly thought that all they had to do was say Aegon's the king because he's a man and that would be that. That the lords would flock to them for that reason and that reason alone, and that it's Rhaenyra who's 'entitled' and 'complacent' for expecting the lords to accept that she is literally entitled to the throne.

Because not accepting that a named heir is entitled to their inheritance sets a terrible precedent. Not just for the future stability of the Crown — something the lords have a vested interest in — but also for the lords themselves. Every lord wants to feel assured that their named heir will not be challenged. That their allies' heirs will not be challenged. Because accepting that understanding ensures safe, stable succession throughout the Realm. Disregarding that understanding risks unraveling the social order.

So yes, we already had a misunderstanding to start the Dance. A misunderstanding that the Greens probably could have negotiated their way out of when the ravens returned and they realized how little support they actually had. But then Aemond crossed the line into war by murdering Luke, and of course no side would be able to trust the other after that. Even if Rhaenyra were inclined to offer terms, the Greens would never be able to trust them.

So my question is, whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy. Why make it a similar thing except dumb, HBO? Why erase the misunderstanding that, alongside patriarchy, lies at the very heart of the conflict?

What does that say about their plans for the heart of the conflict?

[pinkerthings]

the significance of mileven simply not understanding each other (pt 1):

(others have brought this up before but I think it’s a bit overlooked imo)

There are numerous times throughout Stranger Things where Mileven is shown to not be on the same wavelength, and the Duffers like to make it quite apparent to the general audience.

Starting with the obvious scenes:

“BLANK makes you crazy”

El is literally staring at Mike like she has NO idea what he’s trying to say.

Shes STILL confused even after he tells her it’s something old people tell each other:

Like girl…. i KNOW you were watching them soap operas and old timey romances during that year in Hopper’s cabin. You really expect us to believe you have no clue what he’s trying to say?

This scene was written like this on purpose for two reasons: comedic effect and diving deeper into mileven.

Back to not ever being on the same wavelength:

I talked in this post here about Mike being okay with El standing up to bullies in the past when it came to Mike or Will, but Mike suddenly not understanding when it comes down to El defending herself against Angela, showcasing the idea that they are definitely not in agreeance over what happened at Rink-O-Mania.

The Duffers like to purposefully write Mileven out of step with one another.

It seems as though every season has something negative in store for the couple, and not in a fun, slow-burn agonizing romance type of way, but in the frustrating “why can’t they just work it out” kind of way.

Season 1 obviously has El “dying” and leaving Mike for a year, but on a smaller note also has Mike trying to explain to her that if she moved into his house, Nancy would be like her sister, but he would not be like her brother. She does not understand this, and has her classic confused face on.

Season 2 has her being gone and coming back to see Mike with Max, and even though nothing happened between the two of them, El was still cold to Max when they first met, showing even if El is incapable of knowing what the word “love” is, she still somehow knows what jealousy is.

Season 2 also brings us an interesting scene with Erica and Lucas, where the dialogue just seems….really off and random.

Lucas catches Erica playing with his He-Man action figure and gets mad, taking it from her. To which she says, “Hey! They’re in love!”

Lucas responds with:

The scene is extremely random and the dialogue is just weird to me, the only explanation it being a metaphor for something in the show, and the only viable explanation is Mileven.

Season 3 has the entire “boyfriends lie” side plot, resulting in El dumping Mike for lying to him about his grandmother after Hopper’s talk with him. Their relationship the entirety of season 3 is the epitome of immature pettiness caused by jealous and hormonal teenagers who don’t understand what being in a real relationship entails--

We get El and Max spying on the boys:

Eleven is a mystery to Mike, he pretty much says it himself.

Their whole relationship is based on immaturity, and the audience knows that. The audience can see that the two of are clearly immature and don’t have what it takes to be in a real, committed relationship. That’s the point. Their relationship in season three is almost entirely to move the plot around in whatever way the Duffer’s want, and to showcase the idea that their relationship in screen is nearly always shown in either a comedic, pre-teen immature light, or a jealous, misunderstood, and petty light. There is almost no stable relationship between the two of them in season 3. It’s either too clingy or too toxic or full of lies or immature, blah blah blah. The only scenes of them either not making out or fighting is the last scene of them together right before the Byers move, and that’s a whole scene in itself to unpack!

Season 4 is where things get a little chaotic, as if things weren’t chaotic enough.

There are so many miscommunications and misunderstandings with Mileven this season, but the big ones include:

El feeling like Mike thinks of her as a monster-

and Mike looking at her like she just spoke badly about his favorite Star Wars movie-

Directly after that we have Mike saying El is being "ridiculous" because she's upset that he won't tell her he loves her, and him calling her a superhero, the complete opposite of what she wants to hear in that moment, but Mike doesn't understand that, because who wouldn't want to be called a superhero? (his way of thinking)

Later on we get Mike recounting this to Will, saying, "and if I would have said that thing..." etc.

Mike can't even say that he loves El to other people, and we're expected to believe it's still true?

We also get this:

another misunderstanding on Mileven's part. El thinks Mike doesn't love her (at this point, does he?) so she finishes her letter the same way he has: From, El.

Next we have Will and Mike's conversation on top of the car:

"I think it's just scary to open up like that, to say how you really feel, especially to people you care about the most, because...what if they don't like the truth?"

I've said it before and I'll say it again,

why would El NOT like the truth if the truth is that Mike loves her?

Mike nods at Will's words and looks away, seemingly lost in thought. Why would he agree with Will---that it's hard for him to open up to El because she might not like the truth---if the truth is exactly what she wants to hear?

It literally makes no sense.

We also get the Byler van scene, where Mike compares her to a superhero yet again, something she clearly does not like (I don't have a vid but here's the official script, where he says the same thing):

Also El being Superman and him being Lois Lane in the analogy....okay.

Next we have him calling her a superhero YET AGAIN ! during his monologue:

Like girl if I was El I would just give up at this point. This is the last thing she wants to hear. She doesn't want to be a superhero all the time, she just wants to be a person ! a girlfriend ! a friend ! a daughter ! yet Mike is making it seem like the main reason he loves her is because she's a superhero, which she hates.

And lastly we have:

"Did she...talk to you at all?"

"Not much, I mean...a little bit."

Let me get this straight......you finally confess your love to your longtime girlfriend in the midst of her fighting a literal monster & monster from her past while she is being strangled and held captive all while she's also trying to save her friend from death, and she doesn't say anything to you for TWO days after?

Ladies...the Mileven break up is writing itself, really.

And that is a thread on how the Duffers intentionally write Mileven to be on different wavelengths with each other every single season without fail to showcase how incompatible they really are.

They are setting this relationship up to where you want more for both parties; El deserves to be loved the way she wants to be loved, and Mike deserves to be loved the way he needs to be loved (if u know what i mean)

In part 2 I will discuss the importance of byler understanding each other, juxtaposed to mileven hehe bye !

part 2 analyzing Mike & Will here !

[fleurn1igh1]

Misunderstanding [Yandere Harry Potter]

T.W :- None Synopsis:- He Misunderstood <3 Note:- Hello, this the new account of @aestheticpluto since my last account got deactivated, I don't even know why (T_T), but yeah this is my second account, I hope I can regain everything I lost anyway, This is the rewrite of "Love [yandere Harry Potter]

"Look what do we have here" you said walking in the empty potion class which was almost empty expect the golden trio who were studying "Go away, L/n" Ron hissed gripping his quill tighter "Don't you have anything better to do?" Hermione glared at you "Not better than this" you shrugged and sat a couple seat away from them "I like seeing this scumbag struggle" you said with an artificial smile, before Ron could bite back, Harry stopped him "Leave them, Ron, they won't give up" he looked at you in the eyes with a sigh that sounded of disappointment, you scoffed and got up "jerk" you said before leaving, unknown to you, you failed to notice the light pink dust on his face.

You have always been envious of favoritism towards Harry, and since your parents were also in Gryffindor so you being a Slytherin didn't sit right with them, always comparing you to The Harry Potter.

You were in Slytherin common room when you heard someone approaching you "Y/n" you looked up and saw none other than the chosen one himself "What is it?" you said with bored expression "What's your problem with me?" you scoffed in response "everything" you said going back to work, he frowned and snatched the quill out of your hand "Why do you hate me?" you stood up glaring at him "you're the most obnoxious person I came across, everything you do is get praised even if it's wrong, Students those who paid the same equal price never get treated the same which gets on my nerve and why all that? just because you're 'special' jeez you make me gag, because of you I have to always live in a pressure to match your pace, always being compared to you which drives me crazy" you said in one breath whatever you were thinking while glaring at him "So it's because lack of love?" you tilted your head "What? No?--" before you could even finished he pulled you in a hug "Potter-- what the hec--"

"Harry, you can call me Harry" your confusion only got deeper as he keeps his arms around you, his arms tightly wrapped around your torso, holding you against his chest. "You're getting this wron-" you were cut off once again "It's okay from now on, I'll give you all the love and affection" your eyes widen as you tried to push him off "I'm sorry, but from now I'll give you the world" "No, Potter-" "Harry" he said once again this time firmly, it came out more of a warning.

"Harry we were looking for you-- Bloody Hell" Ron walked in and saw his best friend and his enemy hugging? Hermione followed Ron and was just as stunned "Mate?" Ron asked with his eyes widen "care to explain?" Hermione said with her stern expression, you finally pushed Harry off and fixed your uniform "Nothing is going, don't think anything gross" you said with a glare before going to pick up your stuff "And leave as quick as possible, besides It's not good to stay at Slytherin's common room for too long" you instructed and walked out of the door

"See you at Breakfast, dearest!" Harry said with a smile while Hermione and Ron shared a look "What? I'm just trying to help" he shrugged and smiled to himself.

[magic-astro-fae]

The Moon, Cancer and our Emotional Wounds

This post will interpret the house of Cancer in our charts, and where/ how our emotional wounds may manifest. This will be based off of the rising signs;

Aries Rising/ Cancer 4th House: Being raised to put family first and personal needs second, emotional energy is gained or depleted within the family's home, an emotional past/ childhood, strong emotional temperament in regards to family situations, having feelings misunderstood in childhood, having feelings always compared to family, "Your feelings don't matter because of how we struggled to raise you"

Taurus Rising/ Cancer 3rd House: Being raised to intellectualize feelings, believing logic is more important than feelings, parents who over analyzed emotional moments to the point of dryness/ misunderstanding, always being expected to have the 'right' things to say, being the mediator, expectations of emotional intelligence in childhood, expectations of always being the 'bigger person,' putting other's comforts before your own, "You better have a good reason for feeling the way you do"

Gemini Rising/ Cancer 2nd House: Being raised with a lack mindset, believing resources could always be lost, not being able to discard things/ relationships/ feelings, emotional hoarding, allowing materialism to dictate your emotional state, being given too many financial responsibilities in childhood, being treated like an adult in childhood, not being raised to know your worth, "Your family deserves your money more than you do"

Cancer Rising/ Cancer 1st House: Being raised in isolation, doubting your instincts/ intuition, being told what you're feeling is wrong, expectations to be a caregiver, expectations to be emotionally strong in childhood, carrying others emotional burdens, struggles with setting and keeping boundaries, never being allowed to make selfish choices, always having to sacrifice comfort, "Forget about your needs, our comfort is more important"

Leo Rising/ Cancer 12th House: Being raised in a passive aggressive environment, religious or institutional trauma, hospitals/ jails/ psyche wards, mental health not being taken seriously, raised to have a savior complex, always expected to be of help to others, being expected to always be happy/ grateful, familial resentment, having to 'save face,' fake connections/ fake friends, "You're choosing to be depressed, just think positively"

Virgo Rising/ Cancer 11th House: Being raised with a lack of emotional connection in the household, feeling like friends are your family, chosen families, toxic familial structures, struggles with commitment/ follow through, unreliable family, separated family, isolation in childhood, loneliness, critical family, being harshly judged as a child, perfectionism in the home, "You should know better than that/ You're too old to be feeling that way"

Libra Rising/ Cancer 10th House: Being raised to become a caregiver, made to feel responsible for familial issues, expected to 'fix' everything, being forced into domesticity, toxic relationships, controlling relationships, struggles with finding their voice, struggles with boundaries and self-worth, raised to believe they must always be 'fair,' raised to believe anger is a bad thing, expected to be a mediator, "Why should we put in the effort when you can do it by yourself?"

Scorpio Rising/ Cancer 9th House: Being raised in a disruptive household, familial arguments, unsettling family lore, narcissism in the family, becoming used to chaos, struggling to find peace, feeling misunderstood, family doesn't put in effort to be nurturing, expectations of financial wellbeing, expected to not need support, doing things by yourself, going through trauma in silence, isolation, "You never needed us before, why start now?"

Sagittarius Rising/ Cancer 8th House: Being raised to hide emotions, struggles with emotional connections, putting others needs first, chronic shame, expected to be smarter, expected to be more independent, dethatched family, lack of emotional support, strong emotions are triggering, fear of closeness, give and take relationships, "I did this for you, now you owe me something"

Capricorn Rising/ Cancer 7th House: Being raised to be the most mature in the family, taking on parental responsibilities, expected to 'be strong' for the sake of others, giving too much in relationships, growing up too fast, not allowed to be a child, expected to be a little adult, stressful family, family making bad decisions, emotions pushed to the side, not raised to know their worth, hyper-independent, "You should have done it right the first time"

Aquarius Rising/ Cancer 6th House: Being raised to believe it's their job to take care of others, emotional burdens, partners taking advantage of empathy, bosses taking advantage of work ethic, feeling stuck, struggles with boundaries, struggles with connecting to family, neurotic family, generational mental health issues, being used for resources, expected to 'save face' for the family, "What happens at home stays at home"

Pisces Rising/ Cancer 5th House: Being raised opposite of what is felt internally, chronic shame, high expectations from family, no free time, must always be productive, resting is laziness, lack of nurturing from family, lack of support from family, self-expression and identity not taken seriously, religious trauma, being underestimated, being willfully misunderstood, isolation, hiding ones true feelings for the comfort of others, "This isn't who you are, you're just confused"

[schizoidvision]

The Schizoid Smile

As people with schizoid dynamics we often find ourselves navigating a world that demands social interaction, while our true desire leans toward keeping our distance from others. This creates a disconnect between what others expect and how we actually feel. One of the ways we manage this tension is by wearing a social mask; putting on a facade of friendliness helps us avoid discomfort, judgment, or confrontation.

When we choose not to smile or engage in typical social cues, we may inadvertently give off an impression of being hostile, rude, or stuck-up. This lack of expression can be misinterpreted by others as disinterest or even arrogance, leading them to form negative perceptions about us. These misunderstandings can invite negative reactions, which further reinforce our desire to withdraw. Ironically, the very effort to maintain distance and avoid discomfort can sometimes trigger the very conflict or confrontation we seek to avoid.

The "schizoid smile" isn't a reflection of genuine happiness or warmth. Instead, it's a survival tactic. It allows us to move through social situations without drawing unwanted attention, but deep down, it doesn't represent a desire for connection or making friends. For many of us, the act of smiling or appearing friendly is a conscious choice to meet external expectations. The world sees our smile, but internally, we maintain a psychological distance, shielding ourselves from the deeper nature of interpersonal interaction.

The challenge arises when people misinterpret this friendliness as an invitation to get to know us better. What they perceive as a sign of interest or connection is often just our protective mechanism doing its thing. This can lead to frustration on both sides, as others expect closeness that we aren't prepared to offer. It’s common to become dismissive when our smile invites further engagement, which is the opposite of what we desire. We are often misunderstood, trapped between appearing approachable and needing to maintain our distance.

For covert schizoids, this tension can be a regular experience. We have become skilled at emotional camouflage, acting in ways that satisfy social norms while internally holding onto our need for space. This gap between outward appearance and internal reality is a core feature of the schizoid experience.

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Lilith, often referred to as the Dark Moon, derives her name from ancient mythology. According to various legends, she was the first wife of Adam before Eve, but her fierce independence and refusal to submit led to her expulsion from Eden. This captivating backstory sets the tone for Lilith's energy in astrology – one of defiance, authenticity, and a touch of rebellion.

As we explore Lilith's journey through the astrological houses, we embark on a cosmic adventure that sheds light on how her presence can stir feelings of rebellion and ostracization. Buckle up for a voyage that unearths the intricate interplay between Lilith's influence and the unique energies of each house, encouraging us to break away from the ordinary and embrace our true selves. 🌟

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Lilith in the 1st House (Aries): You rebel against societal norms and may feel ostracized for your unique appearance or assertive presence. You're unapologetically yourself, but others might find you intimidating or unconventional. On the darker side, Lilith's presence can fuel a sense of inner conflict and rebellion that leads to a constant struggle between asserting your individuality and fitting in. This internal battle may result in impulsive decisions and intense mood swings that make it challenging to maintain stable relationships.

Lilith in the 2nd House (Taurus): You resist conforming to material expectations and might feel rejected for not valuing possessions as others do. Money and security aren't your top priorities, which can create tensions with those who prioritize them. In the shadows, Lilith's energy might manifest as a deep-seated fear of financial instability, pushing you to resist the acquisition of material possessions at all costs. This could lead to a cycle of financial mismanagement or even unhealthy attachments to money and material comforts.

Lilith in the 3rd House (Gemini): You challenge traditional communication methods and may feel like an outcast in local circles. Your ideas and style of expression can be seen as provocative, leading to misunderstandings or exclusion. On a darker note, Lilith's influence can foster an attitude of stubborn defiance against learning conventions, which might lead to intellectual isolation or difficulties in maintaining open and harmonious communication with those around you.

Lilith in the 4th House (Cancer): You rebel against family traditions and might feel alienated from your roots. You strive for emotional independence, which can clash with familial expectations and make you feel like an outsider within your own family. In its shadow form, Lilith can bring about intense family conflicts and a feeling of alienation from your roots. This might lead to a persistent struggle to find a sense of belonging, as well as challenges in forming deep emotional connections with family members.

Lilith in the 5th House (Leo): You resist societal norms of creativity and self-expression, potentially leading to feeling like an outsider in artistic or recreational circles. Your approach to fun and self-discovery is unique and might be misunderstood. In its darker expression, Lilith's energy can contribute to a heightened fear of rejection and creative self-doubt. This might lead to a hesitancy to express yourself artistically and difficulty finding joy in leisure activities due to a lingering sense of being judged or misunderstood.

Lilith in the 6th House (Virgo): You rebel against routine and may feel ostracized for your unconventional work habits. Health and service-related expectations might not align with your approach, making you feel like an outsider in these areas. On a more somber note, Lilith's influence might lead to a strong aversion to authority figures or a tendency to rebel against conventional work structures. This can result in struggles with finding stable employment or maintaining a healthy work-life balance.

Lilith in the 7th House (Libra): You resist societal expectations in partnerships, leading to feelings of rejection or exclusion in romantic relationships. Your desire for equality and independence can challenge traditional relationship dynamics. In its darker aspects, Lilith can intensify relationship issues by fueling a sense of mistrust and fear of vulnerability. You might find yourself repeatedly attracting partners who challenge your sense of independence, leading to a cycle of power struggles and emotional turmoil.

Lilith in the 8th House (Scorpio): You rebel against taboos and might feel ostracized due to your interest in darker, hidden, or unconventional subjects. Your depth and intensity can make others uncomfortable or unwilling to engage with you. In its shadows, Lilith's energy can prompt an obsession with the darker aspects of life, leading to a fascination with taboos and secrets. This can contribute to difficulties in forming deep and meaningful connections with others, as your intensity may be too overwhelming for some.

Lilith in the 9th House (Sagittarius): You challenge conventional beliefs and may feel like an outsider in matters of spirituality and philosophy. Your quest for personal truth might lead to feelings of isolation within traditional religious or philosophical groups. In its darker influence, Lilith might fuel a sense of isolation and rebellion against traditional belief systems. This can lead to a constant search for personal truth, but the rejection of mainstream ideologies might result in feeling disconnected from a broader sense of spiritual community.

Lilith in the 10th House (Capricorn): You resist conforming to societal expectations of success and authority, potentially making you feel like an outcast in professional settings. Your pursuit of individual recognition can be at odds with conventional career paths. On a darker note, Lilith's energy can trigger a deep fear of failure or inadequacy, leading to a relentless pursuit of success and recognition. This might result in burning yourself out while attempting to live up to societal expectations and ignoring your authentic desires.

Lilith in the 11th House (Aquarius): You rebel against groupthink and might feel excluded from social circles due to your unconventional ideals. Your desire for true friendship and equality might lead to feelings of isolation within peer groups. In its shadow form, Lilith might drive you to reject social norms to the point of self-isolation. This might result in difficulties forming or maintaining friendships, as your fierce individualism and resistance to conformity could make it hard to find a like-minded community.

Lilith in the 12th House (Pisces): You challenge hidden fears and might feel like an outsider due to your psychic or intuitive tendencies. Your ability to tap into the subconscious might be unsettling for others, leading to your isolation in spiritual or mystical pursuits. In its darker aspects, Lilith's energy can intensify feelings of inner turmoil and isolation. Your intuitive and psychic abilities might lead to overwhelming experiences that you struggle to process, causing you to retreat further into a world of isolation and secrecy. video games

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Remember, Lilith's energy encourages you to embrace your authenticity even if it means facing rejection or ostracization. These challenges can ultimately lead you to find like-minded individuals who appreciate your unique perspective.

[everlastingdream]

Part 1 - Part 5 - Part 6 - Part 7

"What brought you there, Supergirl?"

If Kara couldn't hear Samantha's skyrocketed pulse, she would've really thought that CEO expected her to arrive. Lena curiously looked at the office, trying to remember anything.

"I'm here to talk about Lena Luthor", Kara said as respectfully as possible, but Samantha still stiffened in her chair. It seems she contemplated shutting the window right into the hero's floating face.

"I don't think I'll do Lena any better if I talk with you. I'm worried enough without a Super after her".

Lena swiftly turned around. She went to stand right in front of the woman, searching something in her face.

"You misunderstood, I'm not-"

"It hard to misunderstand a Super asking about Luthor", Samantha stubbornly clenched her jaw. "Lena is already in the hands of her psycho mother. If you want to help just to drag Lena into your families' agenta then don't bother. I'll find her myself".

Kara gaped, still floating outside a window. Of course, there were people who didn't like her, but not many was ready to express it right into her face.

Lena, who was still inside, studying Samantha's expression, suddenly smiled broadly. She turned to Kara, beaming:

"I remember! It's Sam! We were working together, but she's a friend. She looked after me when I was overworking. And I know her daughter, Ruby. She's the only trustworthy person here!"

Lena laughed. Kara could tell that besides being happy to see her friend, Lena was more happy to remember something. Her genuine smile was a beautiful sight.

"Em, Sam? I will explain, but can you maybe open the window?"

"I don't think we are close enough to call each other by nicknames", Sam coldly said. Kara and Lena winced.

"Of course, miss Arias, but I-" Kara sighed. How can you say to someone that you see ghosts? "I just want to find Lena".

"And I don't think you were that close to Lena to call her that", Sam bristled.

Kara started to feel irritated too. It was her who can see Lena. It was her, who made the whole secret goverment agency searching for Lena. So who Samantha Arias thought she was to decide if she was close to Lena or not.

"Kara, please", Lena floated outside the window to stop near Kara. Despite their two flights she still pointedly didn't look down and was able to stay calm only when Kara was talking to her. "She's just worried".

Kara huffed, interrupting her and Sam's glaring to look at Lena.

"Well, I do too! You are out there, and we need her to look for the records of your emergency button, but we stuck here arguing if I can call you by your name! Which I totally can because you said I can, so who she is to say that I-"

Lena's chuckle interrupted Kara's angry whisper babbling. She looked fondly on superhero, before patting her on the cheek. Well, trying. She's kind of patted the air less than an inch away from Kara's face.

"Of course you can, darling. I prefer that you do, actually". Lena's wink made all Kara's fighting spirit disappear. Only to be replaced by the warm feeling that made her blush and straighten up at the same time.

When she remembered that Supergirl was kind of in the middle of conversation, Kara turned to the window to find Sam looking at her strangely.

"If I tell you Lena's password, will you believe that I can see her?"

As one can expect Sam was devastated when she heard that Kara can see Lena's ghost. At first she refused to believe that Kara was telling truth. But Lena's password to her personal files (including data from emergency button) and some meaningless for Kara but clearly familiar to Sam words, CEO was finally convinced. Then she refused to believe that Lena was most likely... not alive. And, well, Kara could understand that.

Sam and Lena talked by themselves for a bit before they left her to gather and transfer data about place where Lena's emergency device was last active. Kara didn't listen to them to respect their privacy, but she got the main idea when Sam returned with red eyes and Lena was more quiet than usual.

"Please, send the information like that", Kara passed to Sam paper with instructions Winn provided. They couldn't afford to lose data or have it intercepted after all. "I'll keep you informed. And take this watches for you and your daughter. If you press it there, I or Superman will hear it. Just in case".

Sam nodded gratefully.

"Be safe, Sam", Lena whispered as they took off. Sam's silent form in the window slowly disappeared from the view.

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Winn's chatter in DEO was heard from the balcony even without Kara's superhearing. He was telling Alex about something, excitedly waving his hands around.

Lena gave a weak smile, when he knocked off some of his instuments. Kara considered letting him eat her pudding he's been eyeing all morning for this accomplishment.

"If you trap Lena inside this machine of yours just for the sake of reenacting the Ghost Busters, I'll leave you atop of Catco".

Winn turned to her on his chair, clearly affronted. But before he could retort, Kara said to the empty space beside her:

"No, Lena. Don't encourage him. Even if you are curious, I won't risk you being stuck inside this".

Winn saw her interacting with Lena for the first time. It was... a strange sight.

"I like her more than you already", he said instead, enjoying Kara's rolling eyes. "Thank you, miss Luthor!"

Kara grumbled, but still conveyed Lena's permission to call her by name.

"So, Lena it is! I'm Winn, by the way. Since it's not like someone will introduse us", he looked at Danvers sisters with accusation. Alex raised her hands.

"It's not like I was introduced too".

Before Winn could retort, J'onn entered the room, giving them strict look.

"Let's start, mister Winslow."

"Yes, sure. After listening to the whole story, I thought that perhaps Kara's ability to see Lena is a part of her kryptonian powers. We still need to understand why she's seeing Lena only though, but for now it's not really important. So I went through the information on Kara and J'onn's sight and hearing since he's not able to interact Lena, and tried to take a guess what is responsible for seeing ghosts. So here it is!" He put small metallic box on the table. "This little one will stabilize Lena's frequencies in the room enough for us, non-kryptonians, to interact with her".

He pressed something on his tablet, and his small device started to emit faint noise.

Kara saw Lena's image flicker a bit and got ready to blast device if something went even slightly wrong.

"Hi?"

From Winn and Alex's gasps Kara understood that they too saw Lena's shy smile.

[tradgays]

The Necessity of Hierarchy in Gay Relationships: Embracing Tradgay Dynamics

Gay relationships, much like their heterosexual counterparts, require effort and dedication to thrive. However, amidst the quest for equality and modernity, an essential aspect of partnership often gets overlooked: hierarchy. Establishing a clear structure within a gay relationship can be a game-changer, promoting harmony, growth, and intimacy. One type of relationship that exemplifies the benefits of hierarchy is the tradgay dynamic.

Tradgay relationships involve a deliberate adoption of traditional gender roles, with the alpha male assuming a dominant position and the beta male adopting a submissive role. This reversal of modern norms might seem counterintuitive, but it can lead to a profoundly satisfying and balanced partnership.

In tradgay relationships, the alpha male embodies characteristics commonly associated with traditional masculinity: strength, decisiveness, and protection. He takes on a guiding role, leveraging his logical thinking and problem-solving skills to navigate life's challenges. Conversely, the beta male taps into his feminine side, offering emotional support, nurturing, and caregiving. This division of labor allows each partner to shine in their respective domains.

A crucial aspect of tradgay relationships lies in the distinction distinction between masculine and feminine intelligence. While these terms are often misunderstood, they refer to different cognitive styles and aptitudes, rather than inherent gender traits.

Masculine intelligence tends to prioritize logic, analysis, and strategic thinking, whereas feminine intelligence emphasizes empathy, creativity, and interpersonal connection. In a tradgay relationship, the alpha male typically exhibits more masculine intelligence, while the beta male leans towards feminine intelligence. This dichotomy creates a rich dynamic, as each partner complements the other's strengths and weaknesses.

The importance of submission and obedience in tradgay relationships cannot be overstated. When the beta male submits to the alpha's guidance, he signals trust, respect, and a willingness to learn. This surrender allows the alpha to assume responsibility, providing direction and protection for the relationship. In turn, the beta is freed to focus on nurturing and supporting his partner, ensuring their emotional well-being.

Submission is not tantamount to weakness or subservience; rather, it's an empowered choice that acknowledges the alpha's strengths and expertise. By embracing obedience, the beta male grows as an individual, developing humility and self-awareness. He learns to quiet his ego and rely on his partner's counsel, ultimately becoming a better partner and person.

Critics might argue that this dynamic is regressive or heteronormative, but that overlooks the agency and autonomy involved in choosing a tradgay relationship

choosing a tradgay relationship. Both partners willingly enter into this dynamic, recognizing the benefits of a hierarchical structure. In fact, research suggests that couples with a clear power dynamic tend to report higher relationship satisfaction and stability.

Embracing tradgay principles can also help mitigate conflicts and resentments common in modern relationships. By establishing clear roles and expectations, couples avoid unnecessary disagreements and misunderstandings. The alpha male's guidance provides a sense of security and direction, while the beta male's support fosters emotional intimacy.

Furthermore, tradgay relationships offer a refreshing respite from the performative aspect of modern dating. Without the pressure to conform to egalitarian ideals, couples can focus on building a genuine connection based on mutual respect, trust, and admiration.

In conclusion, the importance of hierarchy in gay relationships cannot be overstated. Tradgay dynamics, with their emphasis on submission and obedience, provide a framework for healthy partnerships that honor individual strengths and weaknesses. By recognizing the value of masculine and feminine intelligence, couples can cultivate deeper connections and build stronger bonds.

It's time to reclaim the beauty of hierarchal relationships and celebrate the diversity of human connection. By embracing our true selves and desires, we can forge meaningful relationships that bring joy and fulfillment to all parties involved.

[keiicom]

Yjh things the Webtoon 'forgot' to mention or to point out bc they hate novel yjh

Warning for vague webtoon spoilers ig?? No spoilery names are named and no unreleased scenarios are mentioned/specified btw but I thought I'd add this warning just in case :)

He waited three days on the bridge for kdj to resurface after he dropped him in the Ichytosaurs mouth. Just. Waited there.

He smiles when Kdj tries his food and says it's good (it's more like a tiny smug smile tbh)

He is a WORRIER. Man worries about everything, but sucks at expressing it through actions bc that's when he's most easily misunderstood. It is EXTREMELY easy to misunderstand his actions unless the other characters ask him what he's doing and why [after he explains, he turns out to be actually really thoughtful tbh]

When he tells 41st round shin yoosung to "quit her blabbering"...he wasn't that harsh in the novel. The line was changed (still don't know why) but originally he said something about not having enough time, and wasn't a complete asshole.

Also during that same arc/scene it was revealed that he woke her up because he genuinely didn't think she'd attack him/be mad at him iirc, so it wasn't him being stupid, just somewhat naive

When Iris called KDJ ugly he actually stepped forward and intimidated her by glaring so she'd stop talking :) because he sensed fighting spirit in her and he decided to react lmao

His eyebrow moves similarly to a caterpillar when he's about to make an important decision (note: kdj points this out in the novel because he's always staring at yjh I swear to god there's proof)

Yjh puts on a 'cool' face when he's been caught or called out after trying to be sneaky (he's SO BAD at being sneaky istg I love this man so much)

He sometimes uses his skills for stupid and petty shit *said lovingly with heart eyes*

He's more likely to give someone/an NPC a quick death than to make them suffer until they die

He always goes along with KDJ's plans, even though Kdj barely tells him ANYTHING about them ever 😭 He glares but still goes along with them I NEED Y'ALL TO UNDERSTAND HOW IMPORTANT THIS IS- /lh

He drags his sword on the ground when he's happy/satisfied with something, or generally in a good mood. Also Loves to clean his sword (I think the webtoon added a scene of him cleaning the sword like. once)

He loves his sister more than anything (we haven't seen a lot of scenes with yoo mia AND yjh in the webtoon yet but I have high expectations for those knowing how much he adores her in the novel)

Mans RUNS to help every time kdj is in danger, unless he genuinely thinks kdj 1) can handle the situation himself or 2) deserves the punishment

He has MONOLOGUES in his head even though he only ever says like two sentences thakrhsjfjb, and is very eloquent when given the chance to explain his thought process/reasoning

[which kdj rarely lets him do. bc he's hellbent on doing the talking and most other characters don't expect yjh to talk anyway]

The hand holding scene that was turned into a weird wrist holding scene? Yes originally they held hands (he wasn't as angry then either)

He's a serial texter and will spam message people

He loves dumplings

He gets jealous when other people monopolize Dokja's attention for too long (also canon, ex: Sangah, [redacted 1], sometimes han sooyoung, [redacted 2], [redacted 3] 💀 and WILL glare at Kdj or demand answers depending on how severe the transgression is)

He's tired. So, so tired.

HE CAN LAUGH

he doesn't let Han Sooyoung live out of pride/not wanting to lose to kdj (???? what even was that). he lets her live because he doesn't want kdj to think poorly of him / alternatively he doesn't want to lose him as an ally. Not everything is about pride with him 🫠

he looks embarrassed after hearing yoo mia tell him he looks "happy when you talk about [kdj]". the narration also gives her statement some credibility, because "she knows him well since she's his sister". but of course they made him look angry instead of embarrassed 🙄 bc god forbid he shows any other facial expression ever

He's nosy (again: said lovingly with heart eyes). You'll notice how even when he pretends not to care, he'll still stick around to see how things develop/gather info on 'important' stuff. If he's not interested, he'll just leave, bc he's the kind of guy to just do that. So if he doesn't leave, even if he's pretending not to care... you see where I'm going with this

He has a sense of humor, believe it or not (though most of the time he's hilarious without meaning to)

When [redacted] asked yoo joonghyuk what his deal was with kdj and why he wanted him in his group he said "kdj is necessary for this world. I need him." but webtoon decided to skip that line 🫠

Yjh says "I guess your mother doesn't like me" instead of this "like mother like son" bullshit, because the second one implies dokja doesn't like him. which couldn't be farther from the truth

Yoo Joonghyuk actually looks distraught when he realizes he's the one that has to kill kdj. To the point kdj has to tell him to not make that face.

He holds him tenderly as kdj falls, and tries to hang onto him as he's dragged away.

I'd add more but the rest is spoilers fhajhrjeka so yeah I'll just wait to see what webtoon does first and I'll update this as they go

[itacats]

A Moment of Refuge

FT: Simon Riley x reader

Warnings: Mentions of political stress, feeling overlooked/ignored, please let me know if anything else should be here! 🙏

A/N: This is an extra little comfort fic inspired by @the-palelady ‘s post here. Thank you for your permission on writing this💙

In the dim glow of the rainy Manchester evening, shadows played against the walls, casting the small room in a hazy, dreamlike quality. You sat huddled in a corner of your living room, knees pulled to your chest, a thin blanket draped over your shoulders. The walls, which once felt like a comforting enclosure, seemed to close in, and the muted beige tones took on a slightly oppressive hue in the darkened light. Raindrops traced jagged, steady paths down the window, the world outside a hazy blur of streetlamps and reflected puddles. But here, it was quieter, almost haunting.

Your phone buzzed from the coffee table nearby, its screen lighting up with messages from family. You’d already lost count of the pings, each one a sharp reminder of the political arguments that seemed to stretch into infinity. You felt the familiar pang of frustration and sadness lodge itself firmly in your chest. Every message echoed a different version of the same misunderstanding, each ping adding weight to the gnawing feeling of loneliness that had built up over the last few months. This wasn’t just family discord; it was the foundation of who you were being shaken in the face of their relentless opinions and expectations.

The outside world felt chaotic, a swirling storm of opinions, arguments, and judgments that thundered against your own beliefs and values. You sighed deeply, the sound wavering as it left your lips, leaning your head back against the couch, its plush fabric warm but unable to shield you from the storm raging within. The weight of the evening pressed down, and you found yourself wondering how long you could keep pushing forward.

The silence was broken by a creak at the door, and you glanced up, heart leaping in recognition. Simon stepped into the room, his form silhouetted against the dim light filtering in from the hallway. He was a familiar presence, steady and unshakeable, carrying with him an aura of calm even as rain pattered against his coat. As he pulled off his mask, revealing the sharp lines softened by genuine concern, you felt an overwhelming sense of relief wash over you.

"Hey, love," he murmured, voice low and rich, tinged with an almost unspoken empathy. He moved toward you, his movements slow, as if giving you time to accept his presence. “You alright?” The words were simple, but the weight behind them—the invitation to share, to be understood—felt monumental.

You managed a small smile, though the heaviness in your chest remained. “Just...family stuff. They don’t get it. They never do.”

Simon nodded, a faint flicker of understanding passing through his eyes. He knew all too well the feeling of being misunderstood, isolated even among those who were supposed to know you best. Without another word, he extended his arms, inviting you into the safety of his embrace. You barely hesitated, rising to meet him, feeling the warm solidity of his body as he wrapped you in his arms, the scent of rain and faint traces of his cologne comforting you.

Pressing your cheek against his chest, you felt the gentle, steady thump of his heartbeat, an anchor in the sea of uncertainty that swirled within you. Simon, who had faced down the darkest shadows of humanity, could so effortlessly make you feel secure with a single hug. His hand found its way to your hair, fingers moving slowly, tenderly, as he combed through the strands, and for the first time that night, you felt yourself begin to relax.

“You know,” he began, voice a low murmur that was more felt than heard, “it’s alright to feel like this. People don’t always see past their own beliefs, but that doesn’t mean yours aren’t valid. You’re not alone, even if it feels like it sometimes.”

You swallowed, the weight of his words settling deep within you, loosening the tight knot of tension just a bit. “I just feel like I’m talking to walls. Like I’m shouting, and they’re not even listening,” you admitted, voice muffled as you clung to him.

His arms tightened around you, and you could feel the strength in his embrace, as if by holding you close he could physically shield you from the hurt. “You don’t have to shout,” he murmured, the softness of his voice carrying a reassurance that bordered on reverence. “Speak your truth softly. Those who care will hear it. And if they don’t… that’s their loss, not yours.”

For a moment, you felt exposed, vulnerable, yet cherished. Simon’s words wrapped around you like a blanket, filling you with a warmth you hadn’t realized you needed. He continued to stroke your hair, his fingers gentle and rhythmic, each stroke banishing a bit more of the anxiety coiled within you. “We all carry our battles,” he whispered. “You don’t have to face yours alone. Lean on me; I’ll shoulder it with you.”

As he spoke, he leaned down to press a soft kiss to the top of your head, the tenderness of the gesture an unspoken promise. The rain continued to fall in steady sheets outside, drumming against the windows, but in his arms, the world outside faded. Here, there was only the comfort of his touch, the quiet sanctuary he offered you without question or hesitation.

You closed your eyes, exhaling slowly, the tension that had gripped your chest for hours finally loosening. “Thank you, Simon,” you whispered, voice barely audible, the gratitude heavy in each word. “I don’t know how you do it. You always seem to know what to say.”

His chuckle rumbled through his chest, a warm, comforting sound. “It’s easy when it’s you, love. You deserve to be heard, to feel safe. Let me give you that.”

Time slipped away as the rain outside softened, and together you found solace in quiet moments, in the warmth of shared laughter, and the ease of conversation that required no masks, no walls. He told you stories of old missions, slipping in bits of dry humor that drew reluctant smiles from you, reminding you that even in the dark, there was room for joy.

In his embrace, the tension eased, and you felt the beginnings of calm, the storm within quieting. You realized that in the face of the `world’s chaos, the misunderstandings, and the noise, you had found a rare peace. Here, in Simon’s presence, you could be yourself—vulnerable, weary, hopeful. And as the rain finally began to taper off, the last droplets tracing lazy lines down the window, you felt yourself let go, knowing that no matter what lay outside, you had found a sanctuary.

With Simon by your side, you knew that whatever storms came, you could weather them.

Remember all you lovelies, despite all the chaos that’s swirling around us at the moment, we will survive. We have each other and we will outlive the darkness that looms ahead.

Stay safe, stay strong.

Jay💙

[markrosewater]

"Design blog -> designer language." - That's reasonable. What isn't reasonable is expecting every player to know your jargon. Try meeting us halfway. If someone asks about power creep, and you know they mean power churn, correct the term, but also answer the question that you know is being asked. (Same with "flip cards" when you know they mean DFCs, or other instances of jargon that players may use incorrectly.) Otherwise you come off as dismissive, or incapable of understanding our concerns.

I don’t always know what you mean. And often I’m answering questions in between living my life, so my attention is not always 100%. I tend to answer what is literally being asked. Sometimes I can catch when the asker means something different, but often I don’t.

I’m not being dismissive or incapable of understanding your concerns. I’m just a busy guy multitasking.

What this means is if you use other terminology sometimes I’ll catch it, but often I won’t. If you ask about flip cards, I’ll usually talk about flip cards.

I’ve been doing this blog for over ten years (answering over 150,000 questions), and I’ve found this thing that makes people happiest is me getting to their question, so I try answer as many as I can.

If I misunderstand you question, ask again and let me know what I misunderstood.

[katerinaaqu]

May I ask what's wrong with changing modern adaptations of ancient stories to fit the morality of today? The way I see it, it's hard to connect with the characters portrayed when every second one is a rapist of some kind.

Stories adhering as much as they can will never be as popular or appreciated as ones modified to be engaging to the audience they have now.

Stories are meant to entertain, and the audience they were originally made for is dead. What the audience finds entertaining changes in decades. Does it not make sense to adapt them to that?

You answered your question yourself. By placing modern day morality and fitting it to ancient stories we just twist the original stories and their meaning and we create a false idea of the past to make it sound as if that place was consisted of people who were terrible they had no Morals at all and nowadays we are the great moral people that know what's up.

You said it yourself: "when every second one was a rapist of some kind". That is just false assumption on both the characters and the past. In fact rape was severely punished. Even in the Epic Cycle when Locrian Ajax raped Cassandra the soldiers were trying to stone him to death and he had to take refuge to a sanctuary. Him being a noble didn't matter before such an immoral act. Rape was not casual as "modern morality readings" think. There is a big risk of misunderstanding when we project our morality in ancient stories which were not always THAT far away from us at some things.

At another case I have heard people speak of "gay ancient greece" when the concept of "gay" didn't even exist and not only that homosexiality had a much more complicated meaning in antiquity than we think now and no it was not a bunch of people kissing their partners in public as many people do in 21st century. Again there is a danger to misunderstand stuff and they do get misunderstood

Modern day morality changes by experience of mine never realize the harm they do to the narrative and character development (for example Odysseus giving out his name to Polyphemus has nothing to do with modern narrative saying "oh he was stupid" there is an entire analysis behind it which just harms the character and his development by bluntly say that without taking the background in consideration)

Changing stuff to ellegedly "fit modern narrative" is inheritently dangerous because it contains personal biases on what morality is in the first place and it is harmful often because these stories are far from just entertainment; they are witness of the past and a past culture and by changing them according to the bias of one person on modern morality consequently leads to the misinterpretation of the past. And in the end of the day ancient stories are still entertaining today. Look at the festivals in Greece where we play ancient theater as it was written. We have only changed the concept of the full face mask. So allow me to disagree and say the ancient stories still entertain today and the admirers of them are not dead at all.

I am not saying it is wrong in every shape or form in fact as I said million times already it is even expected to add some elements from each culture or era to appease the public. The problem begins when that story is exclusively looked through that keyhole and then we have the bias of one person on the text shaping the past and have a story that simply doesn't work and many people even those with no knowledge in the past realize there is something wrong with the picture. See how many people who love the Iliad and the Odyssey criticized Miller for adding too much of her modern morality in her books. Even people who are not experts realized the story was damaged despite her beautiful weiting etc

[lemonycheesecakes]

Can we just take a moment to think about how amazingly the TOTA characters show the unspoken reality of how mental health issues can affect a person?

someone who experiences mental health issues as a teenager and doesn't finish school. He is disadvantaged when trying to get more education (due to the education system not providing support to those struggling mentally) and is also disadvantaged when he tries to enter the working world.

A girl with a dysfunctional and abusive family trying to cope with her own teenage pregnancy and death of a child that was the result from rape. This causes her to struggle to have healthy relationships and gives her a warped perception of love, family and independence, even well into adulthood.

someone who develops schizophrenia and will permanently be at risk of loosing his jobs and damaging his career (mainly because of protected characteristics not existing at the time - but some truth still holds in that today). The constant misunderstanding of how his disorder affects him drives him to be suicidal.

A mother who's child dies from a disease and she develops severe germaphobia and OCD from the mental impact. Her marriage deteriorates due to her husbands lack of understanding and acceptance of her disorder. She copes by developing a parent-like relationship to a teenager, not being able to accept the death and the fact that her marriage will never again be in a good enough condition to have another child and be a happy family.

A husband who is also struggling with the mental impacts of his child dying from a disease. Even though his character isn't explored much, it's clear he struggles to cope when his wife develops severe issues and gets sent to a mental hospital, leaving him with no support. Due to the general lack of understanding of mental health issues in the 90s and his own personal misunderstandings, he tries to pressure his wife into becoming "normal" again by trying to make her feel ashamed for her disorder. He loves her and wants her back, but he doesn't know how to make their relationship work around her disorder, so he doesn't come to acceptance with how she is mentally impacted and so tries to force her to change.

A middle aged man who's career has never set off and so has no money. He doesn't have any family (aside from his grandma whom he has a complicated relationship with and leaves halfway through the show) and has only had failed romantic relationships. He resorts to alcoholism as a way to cope. Despite his life being considered a disaster, he is considered the most healthy and capable main character due to him not having any sort of condition. People only expect mental health issues to affect the characters with disorders, leaving him misunderstood and without support.

Keep in mind, THIS WAS MADE IN THE 90S! Gosh, I fucking love Donna Franceschild. She wrote mental health issues (specifically ones affecting women) more brilliantly and with more truthfulness and understanding than most writers today. She's like the Sylvia Plath of the 90s. If only her work wasn't so obscure.