#even amoung my actual gender i think my experiences with this are very abnormal

[yammoba]

It is odd, because when i was coming of age, and becoming more aware of misogyny and how it might affect me, it was rare for me to experience the "loud" forms of it. Catcalling, unwanted advances from men, being talked down to (ok, maybe that happened but i dont think i was really aware/confident enough to pick up on it happening to me). Part of it is probably the area i grew up in and the way my family is. At the time i assumed it was because i was ugly. Which is nonsense, and I even knew it at the time, from reading about what other women experienced. It absolutly caused a kind of disconnect. Tho one i think was also caused by other things. Tbc: i dont wish i was sexually harrased, i consider myself extreamly lucky. But its this kind of thing that when i was an adolescent the retoric was "every woman gets harrased". And well. I guess i dont count anyways???