#even Betty and Sinclair are moving faster than is healthy

[smilingformoney]

Millie, help me. I need relationship advice and you're my girl. Honestly, from the love you write about in your fics, I have so much faith in you.

I started working in an office building maybe... 2 or 3 months ago? Over the first 2 months, I kept running into the building's operational manager. He will be referred to as HIM. It was always, "good morning," or "have a good weekend," and that's it. He's a pleasant man. Just a few weeks ago, my office invited HIM to have lunch with the staff for Valentine's day. I sat next to him and we got to talking. We exchanged names and chatted.

I've had the biggest crush on him ever since.

I keep seeing HIM everywhere. Literally everywhere. It's still "good morning, good afternoon," except now, I can't speak a word without falling to bits. We've chatted here and there again, mostly work, sometimes not, but he always waves to me through a glass door when he's on his way out at the end of the day and I am shattered. I work reception, so every time I see movement in the hallway, my eyes jerk to see if it's him and I've caught myself so many times and feel terribly silly.

He's somewhere in his forties, maybe fifties, and I'm 21 and I know it's a stupid crush but it kills me. Tell me thirsting over older celebs has gotten to my head. Do you have a similar experience? Please say yes. Much love, xoxoxo

Ok first of all I am 29 years old and single, my last relationship ended almost two years ago with me changing my mind about a five-year relationship three months before the wedding because he deserves someone more emotionally available and I am still not emotionally available enough for a relationship so don’t trust what I write about to be an accurate reflection of my mindset 😀

HOWEVER this isn’t relationship advice, this is crush advice and I can tell you that pursuing this man is a bad idea for several reasons:

Dating colleagues is a recipe for disaster

It’s totally normal for you to fancy an older man but if a man in his 40s/50s is interested in a 21 year old then there is something very wrong with him and you don’t want that kind of mess

He’s a manager so presumably he’s a superior to you and that is a power imbalance right there

Also is he married? If not, why is he not married at his age? sus

Like you said it’s a silly crush and it’s totally normal but it will pass! But don’t do something you’ll regret that will get you in trouble bc you’re worth more than that!!