#especially when you're kind of embarrassed about the things in question. i'd like some privacy!! this is a tender thing for me!!! ugh anyway

[skrunksthatwunk]

let it be known that this started as what if i became a doll collector and the answer is still that im unemployed

what if i became a figure collector (<- unemployed)

[winreyplace]

This is probably a silly question but I'm not sure where else to ask.

Soulbonding comes naturally to me. I can reach out to any 'character' and forge a connection to them especially ones that are made by me with ease.

The problem is... the difficulty that comes with sustaining that connection. I haven't talked to any of them for years now, and I'm scared to reach out to new 'characters' I feel drawn to, out of embarrassment.

See, whenever I soulbonded (I didn't even know such a thing existed at the time) when I was younger it was out of good fun. Nowadays it feels like I only reach out to them during my time of need, such as needing someone to fulfil the role of a safe figure I never had growing up. An older brother specifically. I'm scared to reach out to him because I feel this deep familial need for him that only he can fulfil.

My question is— is it okay? Is it okay to reach out to this person telepathically just to tell them "Hey, this might be an invasion of privacy, but I feel a sibling-y connection with you. Can you be my older brother?"

(I answered this to the anon originally on their post in the r/plural subreddit, but copy-pasting here for other potential soulbonders and those curious)

Hey, hey, fellow soulbonder/munbonder! Let me try to give some specific advice from personal experience, since I had and do have a bond that is like a brother figure for me.

To start, you have to ask yourself, would this character that you want to reach out to be amicable to the idea of being like a brother to you, does his personality serve that type of relationship, and if he doesn't currently (as depicted in his canon), could he potentially be if you're willing to be patient and give him a space of stability, kindness, acceptance, and caring that could allow him to then could become a better version of himself? It is absolutely not ridiculously or wrong for you to want a living character to become your brother, but you have to think about more than just your own desires, but also about what he could potentially want or be okay with and also expect and know that that type of relationship won't always happen over night, you have to put effort into it.

After you have asked yourself some of the hard questions about your feelings and logicking out if it could be a good fit and that you are willing to put in the work towards a relationship to someone who will see you as a complete stranger at the beginning, and you feel settled on the answers and you're okay with however it may work out, then you can reach out to him and ask.

Definitely start with explaining who you are and why you admire who he is and feel drawn to him first, then explain why you are reaching out and ask him that, after you two get to know each other, if he could see you like a little sibling eventually. Be prepared for any answer you might get, but I'd say, if you truly know his character and answered the questions I suggested above, the most likely answer will be, "possibly, I'd have to meet you first." or "No... I don't know, but we can still meet and become friends." and the best possible one, "Sure I can, kid."

Good luck, I hope no matter what happens, you get a bond that fits perfectly with you!