#edit: i changed my url since this is about me the op

[snowisflesh-blog123]

CALLOUT POST FOR @//snake-titties

now i’m not usually one for “”cancel culture” but this NEEDS to be said, this man is dangerous and i want people to be safe so please block him, click the read more for why

1. HE MAINS SCOUT IN TF2. this is super cringe, and he’s almost completely useless to his team because he only uses the boston basher despite having terrible aim. now i don’t fully understand kinning but if there’s a kinning(lite) he kinda did that with scout tf2

2. HE COLLECTS MINION MEMES. i shouldn’t have to explain this one, photo proof:

3. WHAT KIND OF NAME IS WOLFGANG? like is he named after a gang of wolves or something? leave some wolves for the rest of us, he could’ve just named himself wolf but he had to be selfish and take MUTLIPLE wolves.

420. HE THINKS RANDALL BOGGS IS HOT. randall literally k*dnaps children and is a capitalist pig in the monsters inc canon, he SAYS he’s an anarchist but can we really believe that when he’s willing to say that a lizard like randall is attractive?? plus his username talks about ‘snake t*tties’ and snakes don’t even HAVE booby muscles. this man seriously won’t shut up about titties and catboys what is WRONG with him

5. ONE OF HIS CATS IS AN AQ//UARIUS. if he’s willing to support and care for an aq//uari/us i think it’s pretty clear what kind of person he’s willing to hang around, plus he HIMSELF is a scorpio (i don’t know what any of the star signs mean but that’s bad right??)

69. HES PREJUDICE AGAINST PEOPLE WHO GET LOST IN IKEA. ‘there’s literally maps everywhere’ he says, ‘they give you hand held maps and there’s big maps that say YOU ARE HERE and there’s arrows on the fucking floor how do you get LOST, like i get that there’s no windows or clocks so it’s kinda confusing like a casino or something but there’s arrows. on. the. floor.’

10. HATES DOLPHINS. back in the day where he had an assassination classroom blog (2017 i think??) that he doesn’t want to talk about because he was an awful little man when he ran it, there was discourse about dolphins and he said they’re awful, here’s some of the memes used in the discourse, he made the karma one:

[mostlysignssomeportents]

20 years a blogger

It's been twenty years, to the day, since I published my first blog-post.

I'm a blogger.

Blogging - publicly breaking down the things that seem significant, then synthesizing them in longer pieces - is the defining activity of my days.

https://boingboing.net/2001/01/13/hey-mark-made-me-a.html

Over the years, I've been lauded, threatened, sued (more than once). I've met many people who read my work and have made connections with many more whose work  I wrote about. Combing through my old posts every morning is a journey through my intellectual development.

It's been almost exactly a year I left Boing Boing, after 19 years. It wasn't planned, and it wasn't fun, but it was definitely time. I still own a chunk of the business and wish them well. But after 19 years, it was time for a change.

A few weeks after I quit Boing Boing, I started a solo project. It's called Pluralistic: it's a blog that is published simultaneously on Twitter, Mastodon, Tumblr, a newsletter and the web. It's got no tracking or ads. Here's the very first edition:

https://pluralistic.net/2020/02/19/pluralist-19-feb-2020/

I don't often do "process posts" but this merits it. Here's how I built Pluralistic and here's how it works today, after nearly a year.

I get up at 5AM and make coffee. Then I sit down on the sofa and open a huge tab-group, and scroll through my RSS feeds using Newsblur.

I spend the next 1-2 hours winnowing through all the stuff that seems important. I have a chronic pain problem and I really shouldn't sit on the sofa for more than 10 minutes, so I use a timer and get up every 10 minutes and do one minute of physio.

After a couple hours, I'm left with 3-4 tabs that I want to write articles about that day. When I started writing Pluralistic, I had a text file on my desktop with some blank HTML I'd tinkered with to generate a layout; now I have an XML file (more on that later).

First I go through these tabs and think up metadata tags I want to use for each; I type these into the template using my text-editor (gedit), like this:

   <xtags>

process, blogging, pluralistic, recursion, navel-gazing

   </xtags>

Each post has its own little template. It needs an anchor tag (for this post, that's "hfbd"), a title ("20 years a blogger") and a slug ("Reflections on a lifetime of reflecting"). I fill these in for each post.

Then I come up with a graphic for each post: I've got a giant folder of public domain clip-art, and I'm good at using all the search tools for open-licensed art: the Library of Congress, Wikimedia, Creative Commons, Flickr Commons, and, ofc, Google Image Search.

I am neither an artist nor a shooper, but I've been editing clip art since I created pixel-art versions of the Frankie Goes to Hollywood glyphs using Bannermaker for the Apple //c in 1985 and printed them out on enough fan-fold paper to form a border around my bedroom.

As I create the graphics, I pre-compose Creative Commons attribution strings to go in the post; there's two versions, one for the blog/newsletter and one for Mastodon/Twitter/Tumblr. I compose these manually.

Here's a recent one:

Blog/Newsletter:

(<i>Image: <a href="https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:QAnon_in_red_shirt_(48555421111).jpg">Marc Nozell</a>, <a href="https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0/deed.en">CC BY</a>, modified</i>)

Twitter/Masto/Tumblr:

Image: Marc Nozell (modified)

https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:QAnon_in_red_shirt_(48555421111).jpg

CC BY

https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/2.0/deed.en

This is purely manual work, but I've been composing these CC attribution strings since CC launched in 2003, and they're just muscle-memory now. Reflex.

These attribution strings, as well as anything else I'll need to go from Twitter to the web (for example, the names of people whose Twitter handles I use in posts, or images I drop in, go into the text file). Here's how the post looks at this point in the composition.

<hr>

<a name="hfbd"></a>

<img src="https://craphound.com/images/20yrs.jpg">

<h1>20 years a blogger</h1><xtagline>Reflections on a lifetime of reflecting.</xtagline>

<img src="https://craphound.com/images/frnklogo.jpg">

See that <img> tag in there for frnklogo.jpg? I snuck that in while I was composing this in Twitter. When I locate an image on the web I want to use in a post, I save it to a dir on my desktop that syncs every 60 seconds to the /images/ dir on my webserver.

As I save it, I copy the filename to my clipboard, flip over to gedit, and type in the <img> tag, pasting the filename. I've typed <img src="https://craphound.com/images/ CTRL-V"> tens of thousands of times - muscle memory.

Once the thread is complete, I copy each tweet back into gedit, tabbing back and forth, replacing Twitter handles and hashtags with non-Twitter versions, changing the ALL CAPS EMPHASIS to the extra-character-consuming *asterisk-bracketed emphasis*.

My composition is greatly aided both 20 years' worth of mnemonic slurry of semi-remembered posts and the ability to search memex.craphound.com (the site where I've mirrored all my Boing Boing posts) easily.

A huge, searchable database of decades of thoughts really simplifies the process of synthesis.

Next I port the posts to other media. I copy the headline and paste it into a new Tumblr compose tab, then import the image and tag the post "pluralistic."

Then I paste the text of the post into Tumblr and manually select, cut, and re-paste every URL in the post (because Tumblr's automatic URL-to-clickable-link tool's been broken for 10+ months).

Next I past the whole post into a Mastodon compose field. Working by trial and error, I cut it down to <500 characters, breaking at a para-break and putting the rest on my clipboard. I post, reply, and add the next item in the thread until it's all done.

*Then* I hit publish on my Twitter thread. Composing in Twitter is the most unforgiving medium I've ever worked in. You have to keep each stanza below 280 chars. You can't save a thread as a draft, so as you edit it, you have to pray your browser doesn't crash.

And once you hit publish, you can't edit it. Forever. So you want to publish Twitter threads LAST, because the process of mirroring them to Tumblr and Mastodon reveals typos and mistakes (but there's no way to save the thread while you work!).

Now I create a draft Wordpress post on pluralistic.net, and create a custom slug for the page (today's is "two-decades"). Saving the draft generates the URL for the page, which I add to the XML file.

Once all the day's posts are done, I make sure to credit all my sources in another part of that master XML file, and then I flip to the command line and run a bunch of python scripts that do MAGIC: formatting the master file as a newsletter, a blog post, and a master thread.

Those python scripts saved my ASS. For the first two months of Pluralistic, i did all the reformatting by hand. It was a lot of search-replace (I used a checklist) and I ALWAYS screwed it up and had to debug, sometimes taking hours.

Then, out of the blue, a reader - Loren Kohnfelder - wrote to me to point out bugs in the site's RSS. He offered to help with text automation and we embarked on a month of intensive back-and-forth as he wrote a custom suite for me.

Those programs take my XML file and spit out all the files I need to publish my site, newsletter and master thread (which I pin to my profile). They've saved me more time than I can say. I probably couldn't kept this up without Loren's generous help (thank you, Loren!).

I open up the output from the scripts in gedit. I paste the blog post into the Wordpress draft and copy-paste the metadata tags into WP's "tags" field. I preview the post, tweak as necessary, and publish.

(And now I write this, I realize I forgot to mention that while I'm doing the graphics, I also create a square header image that makes a grid-collage out of the day's post images, using the Gimp's "alignment" tool)

(because I'm composing this in Twitter, it would be a LOT of work to insert that information further up in the post, where it would make sense to have it - see what I mean about an unforgiving medium?)

(While I'm on the subject: putting the "add tweet to thread" and "publish the whole thread" buttons next to each other is a cruel joke that has caused me to repeatedly publish before I was done, and deleting a thread after you publish it is a nightmare)

Now I paste the newsletter file into a new mail message, address it to my Mailman server, and create a custom subject for the day, send it, open the Mailman admin interface in a browser, and approve the message.

Now it's time to create that anthology post you can see pinned to my Mastodon and Twitter accounts. Loren's script uses a template to produce all the tweets for the day, but it's not easy to get that pre-written thread into Twitter and Mastodon.

Part of the problem is that each day's Twitter master thread has a tweet with a link to the day's Mastodon master thread ("Are you trying to wean yourself off Big Tech? Follow these threads on the #fediverse at @pluralistic@mamot.fr. Here's today's edition: LINK").

So the first order of business is to create the Mastodon thread, pin it, copy the link to it, and paste it into the template for the Twitter thread, then create and pin the Twitter thread.

Now it's time to get ready for tomorrow. I open up the master XML template file and overwrite my daily working file with its contents. I edit the file's header with tomorrow's date, trim away any "Upcoming appearances" that have gone by, etc.

Then I compose tomorrow's retrospective links. I open tabs for this day a year ago, 5 years ago, 10 years ago, 15 years ago, and (now) 20 years ago:

http://memex.craphound.com/2020/01/14

http://memex.craphound.com/2016/01/14

http://memex.craphound.com/2011/01/14

http://memex.craphound.com/2006/01/14

http://memex.craphound.com/2001/01/14

I go through each day, and open anything I want to republish in its own tab, then open the OP link in the next tab (finding it in the @internetarchive if necessary). Then I copy my original headline and the link to the article into tomorrow's XML file, like so:

#10yrsago Disney World’s awful Tiki Room catches fire <a href="https://thedisneyblog.com/2011/01/12/fire-reported-at-magic-kingdom-tiki-room/">https://thedisneyblog.com/2011/01/12/fire-reported-at-magic-kingdom-tiki-room/</a>

And NOW my day is done.

So, why do I do all this?

First and foremost, I do it for ME. The memex I've created by thinking about and then describing every interesting thing I've encountered is hugely important for how I understand the world. It's the raw material of every novel, article, story and speech I write.

And I do it for the causes I believe in. There's stuff in this world I want to change for the better. Explaining what I think is wrong, and how it can be improved, is the best way I know for nudging it in a direction I want to see it move.

The more people I reach, the more it moves.

When I left Boing Boing, I lost access to a freestanding way of communicating. Though I had popular Twitter and Tumblr accounts, they are at the mercy of giant companies with itchy banhammers and arbitrary moderation policies.

I'd long been a fan of the POSSE - Post Own Site, Share Everywhere - ethic, the idea that your work lives on platforms you control, but that it travels to meet your readers wherever they are.

Pluralistic posts start out as Twitter threads because that's the most constrained medium I work in, but their permalinks (each with multiple hidden messages in their slugs) are anchored to a server I control.

When my threads get popular, I make a point of appending the pluralistic.net permalink to them.

When I started blogging, 20 years ago, blogger.com had few amenities. None of the familiar utilities of today's media came with the package.

Back then, I'd manually create my headlines with <h2> tags. I'd manually create discussion links for each post on Quicktopic. I'd manually paste each post into a Yahoo Groups email. All the guff I do today to publish Pluralistic is, in some way, nothing new.

20 years in, blogging is still a curious mix of both technical, literary and graphic bodgery, with each day's work demanding the kind of technical minutuae we were told would disappear with WYSIWYG desktop publishing.

I grew up in the back-rooms of print shops where my dad and his friends published radical newspapers, laying out editions with a razor-blade and rubber cement on a light table. Today, I spend hours slicing up ASCII with a cursor.

I go through my old posts every day. I know that much - most? - of them are not for the ages. But some of them are good. Some, I think, are great. They define who I am. They're my outboard brain.

[sou-ver-2-0]

Oh hey! I feel like this is something you'd be interested in, but new info about the main cast's age ranges came out recently. Hoping the edited url comes through ok: yourturntodie(.)fandom(.)com(/)f/p/4400000000000472351

Aaahh! Funnily enough, another YTTD fan already messaged me privately about this url, so I was aware of this updated information. I even shared the link here with the news under the tag “ages.” However, I didn’t bother putting that post in the main tags, since tumblr hates links. 

HOWEVER, I am extremely happy that you also thought to come to me with this news, because it is exactly the sort of thing I’m interested in!! Learning that this is how Nankidai envisions the characters has influenced my own perceptions of them! :) Thank you for thinking of me, Anon! 

The url works fine for me when I edit out the parentheses. Since you included the link in your ask, I’ll go ahead and share the important information here. I should also say that OP warned that this information is “subject to change,” since it isn’t “officially released information,” though they believe that is unlikely.

MAIN CAST AGES

Gin: 12

Sara: 17

Joe: 17

Kanna: 14(?) (The (?) Is by Nankidai)

Q-taro: Early twenties ("Surprisingly young!")

Sou: Early twenties (21~22)

Keiji: Late twenties

Alice: Mid-twenties

Kai: Late twenties

Reko: 23

Nao: 19

Mishima: Nankidai wrote late twenties, but then also said 30~ through DMs

FLOORMASTER AGES (revealed before Midori appeared)

Miley: 30

Safalin: Late twenties

Ranger: "He's a doll so around 3 maybe"

Gashu: Around 50

[childeapologist]

tagged by @naruzumake and @fyodcrs thank youu!!!

why did you choose your url? because I like stars and galaxy aesthetic and Steven Starphase was my Kekkai Sensen crush

any side-blogs? The only active sideblog of mine currently is my Dr. Stone blog @senkus-lab-partner  I have an art blog that’s dead bc I procrastinate forever on starting fanarts and make edits instead @sstarphase--art  I also have a gaming blog that I still intend to set up and start reblogging/posting original content to @sketchydainsleif

how long have you been on tumblr? I made my blog in 2010 I been here since the era of like socially awkward penguin memes and philosoraptor. I was an emo/bandom blog that spammed Green Day posts. I went through a SuperWhoLock phase. I’ve seen too much. 

do you have a queue tag? i’m one of those annoying people with the long ass queue tags.  My current one is: queue: off doing science experiments with Senku \(★ω★)/ Before that I had a Great Pretender one: queue: living an honest life with edamame  Before that I had: queue: having tea with Levi (but I changed this one bc It was similar to another users with a lot of the same mutuals and I didn’t want it to be confusing) 

why did you start your blog in the first place? I was in high school and I’ve always been a bit of an internet gremlin and my friend told me she discovered this great new social media and that i had to make an account and try it because it’s really great. I am still thankful for that. Tumblr is great for the fandom subcultures I love to immerse myself in (i’ve gotten better at avoiding the bad parts of fandom as Ive gotten older though)

why did you choose your icon/pfp? AS SOON AS I SAW DAIN FOR THE FIRST TIME I WAS IN LOVE. DAIN IS EVERYTHING WHEN WILL HE BECOME PLAYABLE AAHHHH

why did you choose your header? Senku is the best and the art in the second OP goes so hard. 

what’s your post with the most notes? an old ass gif i made of kaneki cracking his finger. think its like 11-12k notes?

how many people do you follow? 1,131, lot of inactive blogs there though. the inactive checker from xkit hasn’t been working for me shfd;ghsgs

have you ever made a shitpost? I’m still proud of my Evangelion shitpost that got over 1k notes 

how often do you use tumblr? I get on every day nowadays. And when I’m active i am usually very active. But I’ve taken several long hiatuses in all the years I’ve been on here, otherwise I feel my blog would have grown so much more by now. 

did you have a fight/argument with a blog once? I used to engage in discourse way more often so shgdghlslhs yeah

how do you feel about ‘you need to reblog this post’? it’s fine I guess especially on pressing issues. but idk sometimes it makes me feel stubborn like now I dont want to reblog it just because of that LOL i am mature

do you like tag games? yess but I get bad executive dysfunction and then I feel bad when I don’t do a bunch in a row then it feels like it’s been long enough for it to be weird and i’m like ;ogj;ghslfgsdhdfghd

do you like ask games? yes!! 

which of your mutuals do you think is tumblr famous? I follow a many people that have been amazing creators since I could barely color a gif and I feel so honored to have become mutuals with some of them recently and s;hgghslighesfdg

do you have a crush on a mutual? Unfortunately I only have crushes on 2D characters

i will tag: @rorronoa @tokoyammi @prince-rivailles @ackernen @eremikas

[aromoji]

Update (2/19/2020)

So this blog doesn’t have much of a theme anymore since I started here almost 2 years ago, but I’ve decided that I’m gonna make more of a resource/positivity blog centered around some of my identities that are important to me (but unfortunately come under fire in this hellsites worst discourses 🙄. I’m tired y’all.)

What this doesn’t mean:

I’m abandoning this blog

I’m deactivating (if I ever do I was hacked)

I’m changing my url again (for now 🤪)

I’ve stopped vehemently hating aspec/pan/non-binary exclus, trumeds, anti-antis, terfs (and other transmisogynists), and the like

What this does mean:

I’m going through my tags and deleting any discourse posts that lack any resources/links (or ill just make my own post about it because I don’t wanna platform the op)

I’ll tag posts about things I’m frequently asked under #faq

I’m gonna rb a lot more positivity edits/posts

I might unfollow blogs who post a lot of acecourse, not because I’m no longer an inclus, but at this point it’s not worth it to argue back in forth with people who straight up hate aspec people, and instead of wasting time and energy arguing over if we’re “queer” enough, I wanna focus on resources and activism in our own spaces.

I’m working on moving some of my things to separate blogs (which are listed on my carrd, btw 😜) so people who follow for exclusively that content can follow those blogs instead, since some topics discussed on this blog can be rather upsetting at times. I’ll queue a reminder every week.

Im revamping my carrd. Again lol. Same dni applies tho.

[aqours-remade]

Thoughts on Pillowfort so far.

I’ll do more posts when the site finally stops crapping all over the bed and works but here’s my analysis so far.

I won’t lie, I discovered tumblr when I was 18 specifically for RPing, so that does to an extent make up a big aspect of my thoughts, and I want to share it with both people who intend to be regular users and roleplayers in general.

Good aspects of pillowfort:

Community system is a feature not given by tumblr or twitter, and in an era where forums are becoming more of a niche if this takes off you’ll be able to experience forum-based interaction in addition to everything else.

Community system also gives a place to users who don’t like interacting with people heavily and so publicly like twitter and tumblr a place to use the site even if their blog itself is relatively untouched.

When you delete an OP post it deletes it from everyone else’s blog too. So if something goes bad with a post or you get embarrassed, blam! Its gone everywhere. Of course, this also means we might lose some good posts now and then...

Able to make reblogs and stuff private like on twitter.

Pillowfort’s TOS protects your intellectual property as an artist.

Built-in blocklist.

You can export your blog to your new pillowfort account.

ToS regarding harassing, callouts, mob mentality and the like specifically exists to oppress kinblr for the most part is very fair and reasonable and is specifically designed to keep the site relatively drama-free and actively punishing those who create lots of problems. People who do not like the drama associated with this website or the feeling of screwing up will be relieved by that.

When it works, the actual system for styling your post basically already has absolutely everything you could already want:

Bad aspects of pillowfort:

THE SITE DOESN’T FUCKING WORK YET YOU CAN’T USE THE WEBSITE IN ITS CURRENT STATE WITHOUT IT CRAPPING OUT EVERY 10 SECONDS.

I’m not saying that to be sarcastic or anything I genuinely cannot recommend the site in its current state until pillowfort’s team can stabilize the servers. As it is I can only recommend it if you’re determined to snag a good canon url now. It has a small anime community (rn its mostly Marvel) and not too much of a gaming community yet so... if it does take off now’s your chance to snag one-word name urls and just kinda bide your time until its actually functioning, that’s certainly an idea. I’m very happy I was able to get the dream url there that I wasn’t able to get here... but with the site Error 500ing me so much I can’t really use it.

We‘re still not 100% what the NSFW situation actually is, as the TOS is vague and there are conflicting beliefs about what .io’s policy on NSFW actually is. If you’re coming SPECIFICALLY because of the NSFW ban that’s going to be implemented I would encourage you to wait until we have 100% confirmation. Personally I like it already enough even if tumblr were to reverse the situation I think I’d use this place. I think Pillowfort really needs to come clear about this very soon, because if they don’t and people learn that “oh we can’t host NSFW after all,” despite claiming it a lot of people are gonna want their money back or at least wait until its free to use. The general belief is that as long as you don’t post NSFW in tags that doesn’t belong (like porn in #gardening) then it should be fine... so they say. We really need pillowfort to address people’s concerns, even though I think it’ll be fine, as this is a major reason why people are considering the move. The staff of pillowfort have said on twitter that they are in the process of finding a new domain. As such, as of this moment, pillowfort does not allow for nsfw. However, it will in the future. The best thing to do is be patient until then, I think the goods outweight hte bads.

Even though it’ll go away in 2019 you kinda. Gotta pay to use it right now. That’s kind of a thing.

No sideblog feature nor do I believe its planned, but I do believe the pillowfort team wants a system like the twitter app to quickly switch between full blogs.

While some people might consider this a plus, being able to add onto a post with text or photos has been a staple of both tumblr and twitter since the beginning. I see this changing as a major factor of whether or not people make the big move.

MCU, Detroit Become Human, Supernatural, and apparently hockey (and maybe Overwatch?) are the only big fandoms right now. While that already appeals to a lot of people, those of us into anime and the like have relatively few blogs from what we’ve seen. While this might change as time goes on, at least for the time being, anime and video game bloggers aren’t gonna have a lot for us. On the other hand, though? This also gives you the opportunity to make your claim as a fandom content creator.

Inability to make Communities private (right now) leaves that at potential risks of being raided.

(Minor) No custom themes it looks like, but that might be fore the better in the same vain? In your blog desc you can still link to other sites so now might be a good time to get used to listography instead of relying on custom links. To an extent you can control the colors of your blog though. Some people who hate eye-strainy themes on here or autodirect themes might actually find this a plus.

(Minor/Niche) Blogs themselves are bad for RPing if you’re into that. The forums however seem to provide an adequate place for forum-based RPing. But this would also make forum administrators responsible for upholding standards like “not jumping into other people’s RPs” and basic RP etiquette we have here. And forum-based rping would make finding RP partners outside of tags like #anime rp, #indie rp, etc to find people’s promos easier, depending on which becomes more popular. Even if you can add onto posts if you can’t trim the posts like we can on here (ty x-kit) it’d result in extremely long threads that would clog the dashboard significantly. I personally HIGHLY doubt the ability to edit other people’s posts or cut out replies will ever be a thing, so chances are RPing on pillowfort are gonna be Community-oriented and not on dash. At most people will make IC posts meant to be replied to and the like and headcanon memes while keeping actually threading in Communities, which will very well rely on the Community itself to be Not Shit.

Lacks instant messaging in its current state.

Despite the fact the bad really outweighs the good... I liked what little I could do. It genuinely feels like the only “true” tumblr alternative out there, even though its in beta. I just can’t really say much until the servers stabilize. This website is still in beta, so of course it has a lot of issues to work out, and of course it doesn’t have all the features this 11+ year old website has. I’m just stating these so people who are making the move who used this as their main website are aware of that.

I’m very excited to see this website grow, though!

[jezebelgoldstone]

okay i NEVER go on rants, like I hardly ever post anything personal at all, but I am Upset y’all

so I reblogged this post, right. it was like “[bad guys] hurt x group!” and it’s something I feel really really strongly about, so I reblogged and I was like “yeah! [bad guys] hurt y group and z group and x group!!!” and then I saw in my notifications that op reblogged and was like “I appreciate the sentiment but this is specifically about x group” and I was like oh shit they’re right. i know better than this. Jez you ass.

So I edited my reblog so it only said “x group.” then I thought, when I see something hurtful like esp on my own post it stresses me the hell out, so since op 1) OBVIOUSLY noticed, and 2) took the time to draw attention to it, I shouldn’t let them stew, I should message them and let them know I changed it. Without like a whole song and dance trying to excuse myself or anything. So I messaged them “Understood; I apologize. I updated it” but the message won’t send.

so. turns out they blocked me. and like. on the one hand, we all know that I am a huuuuge proponent of the block button. you are responsible for curating your own experience, so you curate the hell out of it. you use that block button. you don’t need some grand excuse or explanation or something. but on the other hand, I was like, I made this person feel bad and there is literally no way for me to apologize. and like, I was already having a bad day in re: stress and health, so now I’m spiralling even though I shouldn’t be and I just

I think what I’m thinking is like. If you haven’t interacted with someone, or if they’re clearly beyond hearing what anyone says (slurs in their url or whatever), then yeah sure block immediately and move on. but like. if you’re hurt by something and you draw attention to it and you interact with the person who did it, maybe leave them the opportunity to apologize? and like, all this happened while I was online. it’s not like op reblogged last week and I just noticed or something.

So on the one hand: obviously op owes me nothing, there’s no time max or min on when you can block someone, and I definitely understand getting so fed up with a particular behavior that for your own health and wellbeing you decide on a no-strikes policy. But on the other hand, I just, I really wish I could send this person just one message.