#dumb shit defined to include (but not exclusive to:) bad faith arguments. arguing with shit i didnt say. derailing the post. dismissing the

[toytulini]

if the puritan assholes trying to control you started having tons of sex, it would not necessarily make them stop trying to control you. I know you think its fun and cathartic to joke about, but like, youre just reviving a stupid ridiculous stigma, that shouldnt be revived, at the expense of a different marginalized group, instead of making any sort of actual point. plenty of the people calling ppl pedophiles for being kinky at pride, and trying to pass laws to have people arrested for being visibly queer in public, have had sex. are not "virgins". the problem is not that they havent had sex, its that theyre close minded fascist assholes trying to genocide queer ppl, and they dont actually give a shit if youre having sex or not. they see any deviation from the white abled perisex cis hetero patriarchal christian norm as being fundamentally disgusting. they shame you for not being virgins, but i promise, dont worry, they shame us too, for not becoming fucking tradwives for them. they wouldnt suddenly be fine with your lesbian relationship if it was ~pure and chaste~ with no sex or kissing. they see the entirety of queerness as disgusting, and any rejection of their norm where men and women are 2 strictly distinct categories with no overlap that grow up and get married and have joyless awful sex for the sole purpose of creating more perfect little white christian babies, anything that isnt that, they hate it. they hate lesbians for being queer, they hate bisexuals for being queer, theyre REALLY focused rn on how fucking much they despise any kind of trans person, for being queer, they hate aces for being queer.

For a long time, aces had the mixed bag of invisibility, where, we didnt get a lot of super vitriolic hate bc no one fucking knew what we were, but often when ppl found out ? they sure did fucking hate us and want us oppressed. but bc we were so invisible, stupid fucking online discourses decided that meant that they love us, for some reason? bc they internalized way too much of what their oppressors told them. i promise, the people who treated you like shit wouldn't have actually treated you better for being ace, and even if they did? it would be conditional at best, bc anyone doing that clearly has a very narrow view of what sort of deviations from their percieved norm are okay. and as soon as you stray from that, it would be no longer okay w them that you were ace. and now, it seems like our level of visibility is starting to shift, fuckers on right wing "news" stations are talking about us, and i cant stress this enough,

theyre saying the same fucking bullshit all you stupid fucking exclusie ass discoursers said about us. they sound exactly like you. you sound the same. word for word i have already seen each and every god damn thing these right wing fashy news grifters are saying, right here on tumblr dot fucking com, first.

anyway

I am so fucking tired. please come up with a better joke than to call people virgins as an insult. you can do better than that. There is nothing wrong being a virgin, and there is nothing wrong with not being a virgin. its fine. both are fine. stop bringing back stigma that makes you sound like a caricature of a fucking high school bully. chill out about other people's sex lives (including!!!! other ppls lack thereof)

listen im ace and im pro kink at pride and whatever, but the way some of yall are wording your posts in response to the backlash against it is uh. really taking me back to the ace shitcourse era.

yall know theres nothing wrong with being a "virgin", right? that its not inherently shameful to have not had sex, to never have sex, even if youre not ace, even if you do want to have sex someday, like, its fine that you haven't had sex?

maybe if your problem is that theyre trying to police your behavior and shame you for expressing your sexuality, you can say that? instead of resorting to "haha stupid virgin gets no bitches" like my god. do you not hear how fucking regressive that attitude is? i know, i know, youre "joking".

get a better joke