#don’t even get me started on quadrobics

[stargore]

breaking my silence: therians are cool as hell. like my dude, i too feel the absence of wings on my shoulderblades like two brutally amputated limbs. i too wanna play in the creek.

therians aren’t bothering anyone they’re cool as hell if you’re a therian follow me cause i’ll follow you back cause i love you

[therianhelp]

help how do i talk to people online. (context, i found a therian buddy in my area on tiktok and im trying to strike up a friendship. I know there a minor and close to my age, so no worries for groomers/pedos and such, only about three years apart.Ive had friends in this range so its not much a worry for me. We've started chatting through discord and im trying to keep up conversation but ive always had diffulculty keeping conversation in private dms.)

thanks for the Ask! it sounds like you struggle to keep in contact even when you want to - by no means do I have it all figured out, but as an Autistic person I can relate, so maybe I can offer some advice:

1. It might help maintain the relationship through periods of low or no contact if you explain to them ahead of time that you tend to do that due to [whatever reason it may be - Autism, depression, life circumstances, etc] but that you do in fact wanna stay friends even if you can’t talk for a while

2. assuming you’ve established some level of friendship, and especially if you’ve explained the above, it’s okay to message them out of the blue after a few days, a week, or even multiple weeks of silence. for me, it feels less and less possible to restart communication the more time goes on, but if you both wanna be friends they’ll just be glad to hear from you

3. you don’t have to have a good reason to message them - while a life update like “I aced my test last friday” is perfectly valid, you don’t need to wait for something like that to happen to text about. just send them memes/tiktoks/etc, even out of context, or with a “thought you’d like this” or something. you can also ask them how they’re doing, especially if you can remember something specific to ask about (like “how was your trip to the zoo?”), or even just say “hey I’d like to talk but I’ve been having a really hard time getting myself to send this, is there anything you wanna talk about?”

4. you also don’t have to apologise every time you message for not having messaged sooner. I know it feels bad to not be able to keep up frequent communication, but ime it’s less harmful to the relationship if you kinda just pick up where you left off like no time has passed

I do feel obligated to be the boring nagging adult for a second though: please do be careful with trusting people based on assumptions, eg. “they’re my age, so they can’t be a pedo.” of course it’s perfectly possible (arguably even most likely) that they are just a normal therian kid tryna make friends, but especially if you haven’t seen them in live video, they could also be a grown perv just telling you they’re your age to lower your defences. plus, kids your age can be dangerous too, especially if you meet up in person (since you said they’re in your area); they could turn out to be a not-great person or come with an adult who has bad intentions. I’m just saying, keep an eye out for red flags regardless of categories (like, just because someone’s female, for example, doesn’t mean they’re safe to meet alone). practice standard safety things like telling trusted people in your life about this person, and especially if you do meet up irl, tell people where you’re going and when you’ll be back, only meet in very public places, etc

but hopefully (and odds are that) they’re just another kid you can share cool quadrobics videos with. wishing you the best of luck in making and keeping good friends!

[snekkythegreat]

Ok guys so I just got back from a youth retreat with my church youth group and oh boy do I have tea/an update on things

First of all this was the most fun I’ve had in a freaking **while**. We were in the mountains (somewhere in the Appalachians, won’t get more specific than that for location privacy even though I don’t actually live near the mountains) at a Christian summer camp place. They’re technically open year round for camps and church groups and retreats and stuff but they also have their own summer camp which I hope to volunteer at during the summer of my senior year. But anyway!!

Saturday afternoon some middle schoolers and my friend’s mom and I went on a hike. We found a really interesting lithic scatter that looks like the foundation of a house or maybe a barn. The others in my group went back, but three of the high school boys and a bunch of the preppy middle school girls were also hiking in their own group. Very loud, wearing bright colors, easy to track. I went after them, cutting through the woods since the trail system isn’t very well defined, and I scared the crap out of them multiple times. At one point I caught the high school boys roleplaying Monty Python and the Holy Grail, and I was just standing in the trail about 200ft away, staring at them. One of them got a photo and I look like Michael Myers in it. After that I just hopped off the trail and doubled back while they continued on, thinking I was ahead of them. I came up behind them and scared the crap out of them again. Then I just picked a random direction off into the woods and walked that way before going back because I heard the high school boys say that the camp was in the complete opposite direction and it was getting dark and none of them had flashlights. So I got them all to properly respect and fear me.

Then, Saturday night, we played manhunt. For those of you who don’t know, manhunt is like hide and seek tag + infection + at night + outside. The more space to hide the better, and we had a giant open field with woods around it plus a lake. I hadn’t known the game was called manhunt until last year when I went on this retreat for the first time, I’d always just called it hide and shrek for reasons, but that’s besides the point. The point is that I got to be seeker and I was low key stalking the other high schoolers and middle schoolers through the woods. I opted to not have a flashlight because it was a full moon and I could see just fine, but a lot of them did have flashlights which made them easy to see. Not to mention this is kind of in a valley so I could hear everything from across the field. And besides, people don’t realize how easy it is to see people in the dark if you know what to look for. Symmetrical shapes, dark blobs that aren’t patterned like the background. I can hear you breathing, you’re not fooling anyone. I. Freaking. Loved it.

The first round I was hiding and no one was finding me because they were all looking on one side of the lake so I started barking and howling like a dog at them and it took them fifteen minutes to find me even though I was standing at the edge of the lake and waving my arms. Later on after I had voluntarily given myself up to the seekers, I ran on all fours at some of the middle school girls I’d saved the lives of earlier and barked at them. Not a therian, but I’m learning quadrobics because it seems fun. Also it’s just kind of fun to bark at people to scare them.

Long story short my youth group fears me and most of them probably know I’m a furry. This same day I also did a few karate forms as part of the talent show. The night before I’d had to pull one of the 6th grade boys out of the firepit because he was climbing on an actively burning log. Inside the firepit. In crocs. Bro come on.

[wxlfbites]

Would like to piggyback off your addition here if you don’t mind.

You also end up with insecure people who just started on their path of realizing they're nonhuman, thinking they have to do x or they're not actually a wolf or whatever, and that's a problem.

This is similar to my point about the “TikTok Therian Trend” being ableist. You’re gonna get people from ALL OVER THE WORLD, with ALL KINDS of different bodies, in ALL AGE GROUPS, being exposed to therianthropy for the first time through this specific trend and they’re going to think that even though the may actually identify as nonhuman or maybe not and connect with animals instead, that they can not use the therian label or any label associated with Therianthropy because the vast majority of the online community, which overshadows the information they’d need to correct their misconception, is young, skinny, able bodied kids doing quadrobics.

Now, before I someone twists my words again, Im not saying kids are forbidden to do quadrobics. I’m not using the “well because people in wheelchairs exist, stairs as a whole need to stop existing and everything should be a ramp” argument. I’m saying that the reason it’s harder to find easily accessible information that would make someone feel like they can identify using the therian label even if they are disabled and can’t do quadrobics is because of the sheer volume and frequency in which the quad videos get uploaded and go semi-viral on all platforms. Algorithms are already being shot to shit and then you got the TT Therians posting thousands of videos promoting this one singular corner of the community, literally nothing else gets passed them.

“If you want the informational posts, just make them yourself”. Why? So I can spend hours collecting data and research to formulate a good, solid post that’s just gonna get lost at sea among the quadrobics videos? Been there, done that. Not worth it anymore to me.

Point being, TikTok Therians are a menace and if you can’t see passed the surface level “making fun of kids” narrative of the entitled “I can use this word if I want to and you can’t stop me, nananabooboo” idjits to consider the fact that there is merit to a good majority of adults who have been in the therian community before TikTok was even created disliking the TikTok Therians…. Then you are part of the problem.

screw therian gatekeepers I’m proud to be a silly little dog who dresses weird and has too many kintypes and barks to communicate with my partner. haters can stay mad I experience joy and wonder and love my identity and don’t feel the need to prove my experiences are real in a 10 paragraph long essay about why I consider myself nonhuman. I’m so happy there are kids on tiktok who feel comfortable enough to post videos of them running around on all fours to share with their friends or make friends with other young therians. I’m happy I see the theta delta in twitter bios so often and that more people are unapologetically their weird selves and have a community where they feel comfortable actually being themselves and expressing that without any internalized self hatred or strictness about how you’re allowed to identify or how you’re allowed to treat your identity. I’m glad everyone is different and some people can enjoy writing essays about their alterhumanity without looking down on the people who don’t. I’m glad there are nonhumans who aren’t comfortable wearing kin gear but don’t put down the people who dress obviously kin on the daily and it affects every aspect of them as people. I’m glad we’re growing out of elitism and that bitchy gatekeepers are leaving the community because “”therianthropy isn’t what it used to be””. fuck you, we didn’t want your grumpy boomer ass here anyway. we don’t have space for toxicity and self hatred anymore.