#doesn't mean i'm not interested either they're just on the bottom of priorities

[agendratum]

list of other dragon age media i would like to potentially check out before veilguard made for mine and only mine convenience

novels:

Dragon Age: The Stolen Throne (ferelden lore; maric, loghain, rowan; 2009) 👑

Dragon Age: The Calling (more ferelden lore; tie-in to awakening; maric, duncan, the architect, fiona; 2009) 👑

(?) Dragon Age: Asunder (mage-templar war; cole, fiona, leliana, wynne; 2011)

Dragon Age: The Masked Empire (orlais and dreadwolf(?) lore; briala, celene, felassan; 2014) 🐺

Dragon Age: Last Flight (grey wardens lore; griffons!!; 2014) 🦅

Dragon Age: Tevinter Nights (everything lore; pre-veilguard details, factions, characters introductions; neve, lucanis, viago de riva, charter, solas; 2020) 🐺

comics:

(?) Dragon Age: The Silent Grove (ferelden/theirin lore?; alistair, isabela, varric, maric, yavana; 2012)

(?) Dragon Age: Those Who Speak (ferelden/theirin and isabela(?) lore; alistair, isabela, varric, sten; 2012)

(?) Dragon Age: Until We Sleep (varric lore; alistair, isabela, varric, sten, bianca, maric; 2013)

Dragon Age: Magekiller (venatori lore; before and during dai; calpernia; 2015) 🩸

Dragon Age: Knight Errant (post-trespasser stuff; relevant for tevinter nights; vaea, varric; 2017) 🔪

Dragon Age: Deception (tevinter lore; vaea, dorian, viago de riva, gaius; 2018) 🔪

Dragon Age: Blue Wraith (fenris lore; fenris, vaea; 2020) 🔪

Dragon Age: Dark Fortress (more fenris lore; fenris, vaea, solas; 2021) 🔪

Dragon Age: The Missing (dreadwolf lore; very closely pre-veilguard; varric, harding, viago de riva, neve; 2023) 🐺

web-series:

Dragon Age: Absolution (tevinter lore; it looks fun; not sure the relevancy to anything; someone's dnd party, cassandra, leliana; 2022)

[gabessquishytum]

New feral idea just dropped: Dream training Hob to take his cock.

Now, Hob has spent his entire life, all 600+ years, as a top. And he's good at it. And he enjoys it. He's fucked all manner of creatures, human or otherwise and he's confident in his assessment that men are just as good as women. However, he's never bottomed, and it's not exactly because he's not interested in it. In 1389, he met the only person he's ever wanted to top him (its Dream, obviously.) 600+ years, and Hob has never met another person that he wants to fuck him.

So, cut to 2022. Dream comes back, gives an apology, his name, what he is. All this information. They're friends and it's good. But... Hob wants to bend over for his dearest and oldest friend so badly that it's slowly driving him mad. He even uses various vibrators and dildos, but he's never gone that big because he never thought Dream would be that big since the rest of him is relatively small.

When he and Dream finally go from friends to lovers, Hob is startled to realize Dream is huge. Like... bigger than any dildo or vibrator he's ever seen? How does a cock that big fit in those tight ass jeans??? Hob is not deterred, and obviously Dream isn't either. If Hob can not take him, he will learn.

Cue Dream making Hob increasingly bigger dildos, plugs, and vibrators to train his hole in order to take Dream's cock.

He makes them out of dreamstuff himself so he can control them 😉

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I'm ALWAYS up for talking about hole training.

I think Dream has a tendency to be a little mean dom sometimes. He expects only the best from his partner, and he's happy to practice under they get it right. His pleasure is a priority - and thankfully, Hob agrees.

He's so ashamed when his tight little hole can't even begin to take Dream’s massive cock! He's had literally 600 years to work up to this moment, and he's failed! He blushes and even cries a bit, but Dream soon hushes him. Its not the end of the world by any means. Hob just needs to get training. Dream will be with him every step of the way.

They start a rigorous regime of training. Dildos and vibrators in Hob’s hole 24/7. Inflating toys that force him to stretch. Egg shaped plugs that force his walls to their absolute limit. Hob might start his day empty, but part of the way through Dream will inevitably appear and stuff a toy into him. Or even just make a dreamstuff dildo appear in his hole with absolutely no warning at all! Hob makes some pretty embarrassing squeaky sounds as Dream bends him over and inspects him.

Even after Hob’s hole is worthy of the most well-trained slut, Dream keeps up the routine of stuffing him with something thick. Whether that be his own cock, or some absolutely insane sized toy. He doesn't want Hob’s hole to reset, after all the time they've put into their little project!

(He does ask Dream how he fits his cock in those jeans, by the way. Dream’s eyes sparkle and he tells Hob that he'd better mind his manners, or he might just decide to make it even bigger.

Don't threaten Hob with a good time 😉)

[kindacreepy-kindaugly]

I guess maybe cause we have a lot of the same issues & he was around recently before I started fronting, but I think about Loki a lot sometimes, n how drastically he changed during the time he was co-host.

How desperate for connection n approval he is, when like me he's also just. On a different wavelength than most people around us. Never could figure out the problem but he used to be so much more likely than the rest of us to try n take interest in other people's interests, to go out of his way to do things for em, but somehow just mostly got it wrong n was met with criticism instead. Or ignored, but that's also what happened when he (at least as far as we could tell) got it right. I'd get it if it caused more work for the people instead of being helpful, but it was always useless at worst?

Like idk maybe him pointing out the things came off as him...expecting praise for some very basic or low effort things he did or something? But it was never about that, he just wanted to be seen. He was just as if not more content seeing people even a little bit happy about it than he was being thanked. He just wanted the connection.

He burnt out n stopped trying pretty fast. He doesn't do things for others anymore. He might, if he's directly asked to n given enough info that he trusts he won't fuck it up somehow, but it goes to the absolute bottom of his priorities. He doesn't try to strike up conversation, definitely not about things he's not into but the other person at least was at some point. Just...doesn't try to connect. His life's on a parallel line to anyone else's n sometimes there might be a brief, coincidental overlap but it doesn't mean much anymore.

I more or less started out from that point. Maybe that's partially where this constant fucking feeling of isolation came from. I don't like being asked to do anything. I'm hyperaware of being ignored n what kinda topics that happens with. I face everything n everyone with the assumption they don't care about anythin I have to say unless it's in (the right kinda) response to what they're saying, though even then I need to learn to cut it off at one or two sentences. It's supposed to be a reply, not a conversation. That when people speak to me they want to talk to me, not with me. Acknowledge it to show you're listening n invested but don't take up time. Which...funnily enough is exactly what Val's always told me. I kinda hate how my ADHD tendency to ramble still gets out of hand all the damn time n I only catch it when it's too late, n how my natural way of processing things is by talkin about em.

I mean. I'm assuming there's gotta be somethin that I'm reading wrong in the situations. Somethin that makes what I say or do weird n I guess off-putting. It's not a new problem, it's (part of) why we never had that many friends n when we did they usually got sick of us after a couple of years. But no one will tell us what it is n after over 20 years of tryin to crack it we're just fucking tired. I know it's some kinda personality disorder + neurotype + trauma combo but it just doesn't feel worth it try anymore when it takes so fucking much energy to try n get it right just for the Russian roulette of havin either a genuine interaction or a new step in my downward spiral. I just got no way to know which one it's gonna be til it happens n a lot of the time I end up wishing I didn't take the risk. I'm too fucking fragile for it.

[arizonaconservativegal]

First of all, thanks for replying. And thanks to the people in the notes who followed up, as well. In terms of interests, while I would love someone who shares a lot of them, I really only have one that's necessary. As an aspiring game developer, games are my art form, especially the world building and the mechanics and systems in place. I want someone who shares this love, who I can bond over with. Anything else would just be icing on the cake. In terms of appearance, I'd prefer if she were shorter than me by a good amount, ideally at or below 5' 6" but I'm fine as long as she's not above like 5' 10". I'm not the leanest person myself, I've got a little belly, but I'm working on it and slowly losing weight. I don't mind if she's a little chubby either, but if she's really fat I just can't go with that. I'm probably a little hypocritical here as I'd obviously prefer someone who's in shape, but I can find some heavier women attractive as long as they're short and feminine. I dislike body modifications, and would prefer someone without any, but I could deal with a few small tattoos and a few piercings, as long as they're not gauges or septum piercings. And obviously she needs to want kids (but not have any), needs to be not a full-on leftist (I'm fine with a centrist, conservative, or ideally a libertarian), and just have a nice personality that gels with mine. I tend to be a pretty low-key, somewhat boring person, and have trouble dealing with people who have "big" personalities. I find that at my age, it's hard to find someone who wants kids but doesn't have any, and who likes games but isn't butch or seriously fat or really punk or whatever. Those are pretty much my lines in the sand, appearance and personality-wise. Do I have too many of them? Are there things I should care less about? As I said, I've never been in a relationship, so I really don't know what's important and what's not. I'm just basing what I want on what I personally prefer.

And I know what I need to do to become more attractive, myself. Lose some weight, get a better job, move out. Is there anything else I need to do, and what should I prioritize? Right now I'm thinking about trying for a raise at work, but I'm also worried it'll put me over the pay limit for subsidized healthcare, and I've got a lot of health problems that are out of my control. I'd need to jump to a job with actual benefits to make it really worth it, so it'll be hard just moving up gradually.

And finally, just because I'm spilling everything out here anyway, there's a girl at work who recently broke up with her boyfriend of 5 years who I've been becoming quite friendly with. She's always enjoyable to talk to, and she seems to like me at least as a friend. However she's not got a lot in common with me. There's a guy who clearly likes her, and she has a friend that's probably into her, and I knew her ex and they all have a similar look that's very different to me. I think she also tends to go for "bad boys" and I'm definitely not one of them. She recently asked about my interests and stuff kind of probing more deeply, but since I basically haven't had any friends for years I don't know if that's just what's normal or if she's actually a little bit interested in me. Honestly I'm not sure what to do or if I should even do anything. She's basically a normie and I'm borderline autistic. I'm not used to anyone actually being interested in anything about me and I don't know how to tell one kind of "interest" from another. And considering she's a coworker and I enjoy her company, I don't want to fuck anything up. What do I do?

Ok there's a lot to unpack here...

First of all, I'm not going to be that person who tells you looks don't matter because let's all be honest here for a second, they do and anyone who says otherwise is lying for internet morality points. Obviously if you're going to date someone, you need to not be repulsed by their physical appearance.

But. Looks are not the most important thing and they're also not permanent. Plus in my experience, the more you get to know someone, the more attractive they become to you because you just see people differently when you love them. So don't worry so much about finding the most beautiful girl you've ever seen, or being the most handsome guy she's ever seen. When it's right, that stuff will handle itself.

(Also, I'm not saying you did this, but if you put all that in your online dating profile, please delete it immediately because it will scare women off if it's public and even if it's just for the algorithm, you're probably losing a lot of potentially good matches by being too specific)

I would think a little more about personality. It can be a lot harder to define that than appearance, but that's the part of her that you're going to really fall for. What does "big" personality mean to you? Does that mean just being loud, or is it a certain kind of humor, or just being extroverted or outgoing? Think a little about the people you enjoy spending time with and figure out what it is about them that makes you want to be around them. Interests are a good starting point, but try to think about what drives those interests and how they express them.

And think about you too. How would you describe yourself? I'd guess with your interest in game development, you probably have a big imagination and attention to detail, yeah? Do you have a dry sense of humor, maybe? Are you a patient person? Do you prefer to be busy or to take it easy? When you get stressed out, what calms you down? What are your values in life?

Think about what kind of person complements all that. Remember you're looking for a partner, someone to build a life with. That means the two of you have to make a good team. You'll bring out the best in each other and compensate for each other's weaknesses.

As for the changes you think you need to make, I'm going to let you in a little secret about women: there is nothing sexier to us than a guy who has his shit together. And that doesn't mean you need a fancy law degree and a six figure office job and a mortgage. It means knowing who you are and what you want and be working a clear, realistic plan to get there.

So yes, everything you mentioned is probably a good idea because it sounds like that will help you have more confidence and get on more solid ground with your life and future. But as for what you should do first, just focus on what is best for you, not for some hypothetical future wife you haven't met yet. It sounds to me like you've still got some healing to do and that needs to be your priority.

But when you're ready, the only thing to do is start talking to people and go on lots of dates that will mostly go nowhere. That's okay. The point is to meet girls and see if there's enough there for a second date, then maybe a third, and so on. You're not looking for something that's perfect right away. You're just looking for a starting point to build something more from.

In your case, yes, you probably do need to find a girl who at least has some interest in video games. It's going to be too much of your life for her to not at least be willing to indulge you when you want to talk about the game you're working on. I would guess that there are a lot of girls in "nerd" category who maybe don't know much about video games but would be interested if someone they cared about wanted to show them. Or if you really want to start off with just a pool of people who are as interested in game development as you, I'd hazard a guess that there are conventions or online forums on the subject. Maybe check out some of those and just start talking to people. Maybe it goes nowhere. Maybe you make a new friend. Maybe more. Who knows?

As for the girl at work, I think you're setting yourself up to get hurt. Girls who go for bad boys don't usually change their habits easily. She may be interested in you because you're not like her ex and she's trying to try something different, but that doesn't usually last. It isn't that you're doing anything wrong, it really is just how girls like that are. And it doesn't make any sense but it's how it is.

In general though, if you're getting to know a girl and you're not sure if she's looking for a friend or a boyfriend, it's okay to ask. Don't be creepy about it or anything, but it's okay to say something like "I just want to make sure I'm not reading too much into this." And be prepared to drop it if she says she just wants to be friends.

(Also my rule for dating coworkers is this: if it's a job you plan to stay at long term and you work closely together, the answer is no. If it's more of a temporary thing or you really only pass her in the hall once a week, that's probably okay as long as your company doesn't have some policy against it)

Bottom line, you're overthinking this. Love isn't logical. You can make all the plans and checklists in the world and none of them matter because that's just not how it works. Trust me, if it was, I'd be married by now too.

All you can really do is be the best version of yourself for you, meet a bunch of people, probably get your heart broken a couple of times along the way, and eventually you'll find someone who makes it all worth it.

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As a side note, are you in a good church? If you're a person of faith at all (and I'm an atheist, so no judgement if you're not), I think having a community like that around you would be good for you right now.