#do not respond to this post if ur going to misgender people lol

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Trans Intracommunity Issues 

The trans community isn’t some monolith and we aren’t bonded by any polticial ideas, but our general existence so please take this with a grain of salt. These are my experiences as a trans person and what I’ve noticed from extremes in the community over several years.

Animosity Between Trans Men and Trans Women Because our experiences are a bit different and our histories are not as intertwined in some cases, there is definitely at times a dissonance between us. I’ve seen many transmisogynistic trans men and many and transphobic trans women for various reasons. But there is no reason why this can’t be mended. Solidarity is much more important than our slight differences.

‘Anyone Can Be Trans’ Rhetoric I think it’s very disastrous to everyone in the long term to insinuate that anyone is trans if they are uncomfortable with gender roles or their body or if they ‘choose’ to. We’ll soon have a wave of people who detransition or realize they were using a transgender identity to hide behind. This happens with lots of identities too (i.e trans people first thinking they are gay, a lesbian IDing as ace before realizing internalized lesbophobia). It’s important to think critically about why you feel the way you do and not stick to a label at the slightest discomfort with gender roles/presentation.

’Transmedical’ Rhetoric On the other extreme, I feel like transmed/truscum/whatever title ideology goes too far. Trans people can be just as gnc as a cis person. We do not exist to uphold gender roles and presentation and we do not have to follow cis standards of presentation and can create our own while still being critical of our identity. Medical transition is also not something that is necessary to be trans and can even be a negative thing for some people, especially those who later detransition. It is very expensive and for some things, not effective. Trans people should be allowed to medically transition as much or as little as we please.

Not Acknowledging Same Sex Attraction This is a recently touchy subject and I feel that our opinions on this are all across the board (like most things, but you get my point). There are many cis gay or straight people that are attracted to us based on gender alone, but there are also cis gay and straight people attracted to us based on sex. If a lesbian is dating a trans man and he is comfortable with that, they can do as they please just as a cis straight man dating a trans woman should be able to. There are some of us that do not feel comfortable dating people attracted to us on a genitalia basis, but some of us are okay with it. (I personally am not.) People, both cis and trans, can acknowledge all of this  without disrespect or shaming people into changing their gender or sexual identity. 

Or Same Sex Oppression I feel like many times we gloss over same sex oppression because we are trying to be as respectful as possible and not misgender anyone. But gendered and sex oppression are complicated things to apply to trans people. DFAB people are oppressed specifically for being born female unlike DMAB people, but trans women still face gendered oppression for being women and transgender. Gendered and sex based oppression or privilege is hard to realize how vastly differently it can effect us based on how well we pass, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. Or that you can’t realize this without respecting trans people and our identity.

Desperate to Scientifically Prove Ourselves We’ve all seen the disproven brain sex articles, and I understand why we were so ecstatic about them in the beginning. But fact is, we don’t need some gene or brain anomaly to prove that we are real. Even if this is caused mainly by social factors, it is not an inherently bad or misogynistic identity. I know it can be so relieving to have a scientific reason for why we are the way we are, but it is so much more important to love yourself and deconstruct your identity to understand it yourself. You deserve to exist.

Not Respecting GNC Trans People This is common within transmedical ideas and heavily ties into that, but the simple fact is that a trans man dress ‘feminine’ and a trans woman can dress ‘masculine’ and that makes them no less trans or their gender for it.

Or GNC Cis People or Detransitioned People There is a pretty large divide between trans people and cis people of all kinds, but I think that it’s depressing for gnc cis people, detransitioned people, and trans people to get along so poorly or be hostile towards each other. Our identities and narratives do not cancel each other out. Some of us have very similar experiences but take different avenues to realize our true selves. Some of us are pressured into the wrong option first like detransitioned people or trans people who are forced out of transitioning. We have more in common than our extremes let us know, and we need to stick up for each other.

Or Non-binary Genders  I am still on the fence and not the best person to talk on this because I do not quite grasp some NB identities myself. But I do think that nb genders can be good ways of understanding yourself and your gender and can have cultural or religious importance. Just because a masculine presenting DMAB NB may not experience as much transphobia, does not take away that identity. Just because you do not understand something doesn’t mean you can’t respect it.

New Gender Terms I do however, have an issue with the exponential growth of NB terms as of late. As I said above, there is nothing inherently bad about being NB, but I do think there are some ways that it is being used as a way to hide internalized transphobia/homophobia/misogyny/etc. which is a possibility in trying to understand yourself. It’s best to be critical of these terms and really think about what is causing your discomfort/dysphoria and if you are using an identity to hide your true one. I know many of these new terms are from young teens online and I mean no disrespect to you guys, but it is something to look into from time to time.

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!! Remembered I can make a pinned post!!!

27, they/them, trans, butch

DNI: most men*, if you’re bio says something like “32 | Male | Location” then just DNI, pls?

DNI anyone who doesn’t actively support and protect trans women (honestly I’m going to be suspicious of most people who aren’t transfem and/or dont have content about loving and caring for transfem ppl) and uhhhh idk probably lots of other people.

Posts that are tagged ​❗️MEN DNI❗️are from an OP with men listed in their DNI. It always indicates men should DNI; but lack of it does not equate to permission because I will miss some posts.

Feel free to state in your DNIs if your comfy with nonbinary people interacting or not :3

*men can interact but if a post says men DNI then DNI etc etc; asshole men DNI obv; men who lgbtqaetcetc are welcome-r than men who aren’t; if ur a man and ur genuinely, kindly, respectfully concerned about me being bothered by you interacting, then 99% chance ur okay to be here <3 if ur nice about it u can always ask and I’ll, idk, vibecheck u or something lol

I like to respect DNIs so if I fit your criteria, I am very content to be informed or blocked or whatever you like. I try to err on the side of caution but I dont always know how to interpret DNIs that I partially fit into. I try not to interact if it says "DNI if you aren't attracted to men" because Im not super into men but like... my sexuality doesn't exclude men, it's just fickle and whimsical lol. Same for blogs that say "DNI if you're not wlw" cos I am nonbinary and I'm not w but I'm lw and I don't feel misgendered if wlw think IM hot so like maybe I am functionally somewhat w or at least on the fringes of wlw (and I do ID as butch, but it's in a very nonbinary way) so like, idk. I don't know what exact gender or sexuality I am lol. I just work here. But I do try to calculate my position in relation to a DNI, and if I get the wrong answer, its okay to tell me. I will simply respond with "oh, my apologies. Thank you for communicating your boundaries, I will use this information to respect them better." Or u can block me, i don't mind at all and I likely will not notice.

💜TAGS💜 the tag for my content is pppyprrs which is supposed to be read as puppy purrs but idk lol I don’t know what I’m doing. Videos are pppyv. Photos are pppyp. Non thirsty talk is usually tagged pppyrambles :3 audio idk yet

You have my permission to send me: any kind of message ;3 anons should be on, also DMs are welcome. Asks only pls :3 no DMs for now :3 non-sexual messages only. "Hey I have a toy recommendation" is okay; "Hey I'd love to use this toy on you" is not.

I'm! oupy. Previously stone butch, melted by my femme, but I’ll always have rocks in my heart and an extra soft spot for other stones. Furry, queer, into women, into nonbinary genders, occasionally into men (or sometimes just really enamored with transmen's bodies bc i have a similar body and sometimes its less of a "you fit into my sexuality" and more of a "goddamn i would be content to see those features on myself" especially tdicks oh my god they're so 😳 ....anyways)

Uhhh I forgot if I had more to say about because I thought about dick :3 so that is all I suppose :3

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