#divorceismyhumanright

[pajedi]

We are currently in the 19th Congress of the Philippines. The Divorce bill is about to reach the 2nd reading in both Senate and House of Reps. This is the perfect timing to show them HOW MANY are open-minded and especially waiting for the Divorce to pass into law. If it fails, then it could take another 3yrs or more to have the current achievement that it has reached today. Help us gather the number of those who always says that they are YES TO DIVORCE. Help us find for them the long-overdue freedom that they deserve. Be Counted! Back our campaign for the reinstitution of Divorce law in the Philippines for the Filipinos.

[jankris]

Help Us to be Heard! Let the Legislation see that we need this Law Now.

@DiborsyongPinoy

#PasstheDivorce #1Divorce4Rfreedom

[pajedi]

Non-divorced Catholics need to be careful of assumptions, to discard any trace of judgment toward the divorced. Since I have "been there, done that" when it comes to being judgmental, I can address this issue personally. It is too easy for those who have never experienced the desperation and sorrow of a failed marriage to believe that "they could have done something to save it." Let me assure you, the divorced Catholics I know (including myself) are spiritual, forgiving people who are committed to family and to the institution of marriage. And they did all they could to save their marriages. It is time for all of us in the Church to stop judging the divorced.

Seven Things Catholics Should Know about Divorce

Susan K. Rowland | June 2017, St. Anthony Messenger

[pajedi]

[jankris]

Why do I need Divorce in PH?

I got married in October 2013. Then after 3yrs of living together, my husband casted me out of his parent's property just because of a small argument. When he asked me to leave and even tried to tell my parents that I was the one at fault, I never asked anyone to hear my side of the story. I kept everything to myself. He even told me that I cannot gather my things alone. He will pack everything by himself and just let me know when I will be able to get them. and of course I didn't agree because it's mine. 4 mos after we separated, I went abroad for work and I hid it from everyone except my family and some close friends. After a year of working abroad and setting aside my past, a bomb of secrets just dropped in my inbox. A former co-worker of my husband messaged me and he slipped when he said that my husband had a long-time relationship with their female co-worker and they had a child. That was connected to the issue that came to us when we're still together but my husband strongly denied it and told me that the girl is going out with several different men and her live-in partner is wrongly accusing my husband of impregnating the girl. Also, I learned that they are spreading lies against me. That I was the one at fault in our marriage. Knowing that secret, got me a strong will to file an annulment. because at first, I didn't have a clue of what ground I will use in having my marriage annulled. Even though I have a choice of filing a criminal case against my husband and his mistress, I just chose to file for annulment to remove his disgusting surname to my name. Also, It was a promise I made to my father. Although at the back of my head, I wanted to get even. I wanted them to suffer. But it seems like God didn't want me to live with so much hatred, so he blessed me with a child. So after researching, I found a private lawyer while I'm abroad, and luckily that lawyer agreed to meet me in person during their family trip in the same country I'm currently working at that time. It was in June 2019 when the RTC accepted my petition. During that time, I found out that my husband and his mistress are cohabitating in the same house that we used to live in. Then in 3.5 years of several court orders, 5 hearings that were cancelled with unbelievable reasons, 6 hearings that were successfully done, my petition was denied by the judge. According to the decision, we have not presented deeper evidence that my estranged husband was truly psychologically incapacitated. We submitted a motion for reconsideration in the lower court and we were called in for a hearing for the acknowledgement of our motion. My lawyer cited several cases where the supreme court granted the annulment petition of those cases similar to mine. But still, the lower court denied my petition. I have no other choice but to continue what I Have started since I have gambled a lot already. If I stop, the 250k I have saved and spent for the proceedings will be put on to waste. So I agreed with my lawyer to make an appeal to the Court of Appeals. I had to excuse myself from my work for a day to personally file my appeal to the court of appeals. I am still full of hope that the Court of Appeals will grant my petition. But also, I am scared of the possibility of what if the CA denied my petition too. I'm running out of monetary means to appeal it with the Supreme Court. I'm also wondering what was the Lower court expecting from us who's asking for nullity of our marriages. Are they still hoping that couples can still get back together even for a fact that both parties have different lives already? including children from their new partners? What are they expecting from us after denied decisions? Do they want the children out of wedlock to remain that way for the rest of their lives? I thought they didn't want divorce for the children? So what will happen to the children whose parents cannot be freed from their failed marriages and have their other family? If I didn't have a new partner and a child after my separation, what does the justice system expect from me? To live like an old maid? Do they want me to just live alone and be haunted by the biggest mistake I have made in my life? I filed for annulment to bring back my father's name and also, to correct the biggest mistake I have made in my life. I was the one betrayed and yet I'm the one who's still suffering with the consequences.