#did dnd stuff. listened to new music (WINONA FIGHTER AND RACCOON TOUR BABEY!)

[transmogrified-in-the-void]

How did you move on from your relationships so fast? Its been a hot minute since my break up and im still over here struggling

My first one is complicated, since it technically ended in October when he found his current gf, and our friendship fully ended in february/march. That one was the one I had to come to terms with the fact I was being abused the entire time, so by the time march hit I was done.

My second one I got over because we both pretty much came to the conclusion we aren't ready for a committed relationship with anyone as we are now. Them for personal reasons, mine because of trauma reasons. We actually went to a BBQ and got to joke about it too, which was funny.

So I'm not really the person to ask. The relationship that took me months to get over was the one where I got over it by realizing I was abused, and the second one ended on such good terms I couldn't really dwell on those emotions too long.

Although, some advice. Getting out of a relationship sucks. If you feel like you're still holding on to that grief (bc it is grief, you're grieving), spend time with friends. Go outside. Find a new band. Write bad poetry. Throw cheap paint on a rock. Go to a concert. Sing loudly to your music. Read a book from your childhood. Eat your favorite ice cream. And during or between that, think about what you had, why you lost it, and that it's okay. You're here, living (even if you have to make yourself), and no other relationship matters more than the one with yourself.

And remember that someone there loves you.

Or, if love isn't your thing, deeply appreciates you.

ALSO! That feeling? It's grief. Let yourself have space to grieve sometimes. Mourn a bit. And with every mourning and grieving, let a little more go. It's not forever, but it also doesn't have to be nonexistent.

Tl;dr I'm not the most qualified to speak on this, but at the end of it all just live every day and do things that make you smile