#did I just reblog a cute TL gifset?

[regardstosoulandromance]

me hearing the s4 announcement

[lacrimosathedark]

I have a “call out post” for hellosandersfanders, since they’ve been so goddamn “kind” going around and “correcting” people~  I actually have them blocked so honestly it’s more of a vent and an informational post for people who are yet to block them. I’m also not tagging anyone so as to not bother them, but I use their full usernames you’ll still know what I’m talking about.

If you want a TL;DR, I essentially repeat this multiple times: PEOPLE ARE ALLOWED TO ENJOY THINGS. LET OTHERS ENJOY THINGS. YOU DON’T HAVE TO LIKE IT BUT DON’T BE A DICK ABOUT IT.

I’ll start off with the preface that most of their “call-outs” aren���t tagged appropriately. Specifically, they tag thomas sanders as well as the original basic ships. So these could just pop up when you’re looking for some Patton and Logan snuggles or some Roman and Virgil banter or anything else. Which is really fucking shitty, especially when they gripe about people tagging incorrectly. You’ll see.

In their bio and later in a post they talk about how they are saying what everyone else is too scared to say and denying that they’re a hate blog. Actually, this is their bio: “THIS IS NOT A HATE BLOG. This is a blog that calls out blogs and people that need to be called out. I'm taking it upon myself to make sure that everyone's blog experience is trouble free by setting bloggers straight.” But when you go after people, not even critiquing but full on criticizing and attacking them, that’s not a call-out, that’s hate. And here’s another thing. You can be the smartest dick in the room, but if you’re still a dick no one wants to listen to you. 

Their first post is “Call out posts to fanders who draw fusions that include Deceit: that counts as a Deceit ship and it won’t hurt you to tag it as such. Stop being disrespectful and tag your stuff appropriately.”  Saying a fusion counts as a ship isn’t necessarily the case, for one. And then says it’s disrespectful to not tag them as a Deceit ship. I know a lot of the time reblogs don’t get appropriately tagged, but if you go back to the original work, all of them are tagged for Deceit in some way, and often have said fusion in the tags (Loceit, Moceit, Princeit, Anxceit). I have never seen a fusion where the original artist didn’t tag the fusion components. And it’s well known that some people don’t like Deceit or are triggered by him in some way, so most fanders make an active effort to tag him. So that’s bullshit point one.

The next rude post they criticized cattonsanders for not tagging food and eating warnings for their compilation of the Sanders Sides characters not eating properly. But here’s the thing, while it wasn’t tagged, they said right in the post what it was, and the first frames are literally a title card saying “nobody in sanders sides knows how to eat”. And they didn’t say “hey, can you try to tag food and eating in the future?”, they said “ this is cute but you should’ve put a tag warning for food and/or eating. next time be mindful of other people.” like they have the right to scold and demand. 

Next was them commenting on people commenting on a gif: “is it really necessary to add your comments on gifsets? why couldn’t you add it on the tags?” Why shouldn’t people talk in reblogs? You aren’t obligated to be part of the conversation or say anything, you can even go back to the original post without commentary and people enjoying themselves and reblog the original post. What is so goddamn tedious about seeing people talking and having fun over content they mutually enjoy? Fuck off with your fun-sucking bullshit.

They have made a handful of comments on randomslasher/LJ’s posts as well as a call-out so I’ll summarize: They think “LJ is everywhere” is and overdone joke and finds it “grating” that people still enjoy it, they think LJ is a hypocrite for understanding people don’t like Deceit while also sharing Deceit content, they say LJ doesn’t stand for anything and is a people-pleaser, and they said people shouldn’t “worship” them because they don’t stand for anything. So, to hit all of those points, as follows; You aren’t required to like a joke but as long as it doesn’t harm anyone just let people enjoy things. You don’t have to like something for it to be good. Next, people are allowed to like Deceit. The same way people can like Moriarty or the Joker or Deadpool or any character of poor or ambiguous morality. You can like a character that’s not a great person. Being aware that he upsets people just means you tag the content appropriately, not that you have to stop liking or sharing it because it makes other people uncomfortable. LJ isn’t a hypocrite for still sharing Deceit content if they like Deceit so long as they tag appropriately, jegus fuck. And I don’t know much about LJ, but do they really have to “stand for something”? It’s their blog, not yours, and it’s for fun, it doesn’t have to have a deeper purpose. And people don’t worship LJ, but they are admired for their content and personality. But they, and many other bigger blogs in this fandom, are constantly reminding their followers that they too are just people and just Fanders. It’s not fair to dislike them just for being well-liked. That’s just petty. They then whined when LJ blocked them, essentially calling them a coward. But I’ve seen LJ discuss things with people of less than like minds, and they aren’t perfect but they’re pretty respectful. They blocked you because you’re a whiny bitch, not because you disagree with them.

Next they went after princelogical. They said Marin is just imitating Logan in how he “speaks” and it’s “annoying and fake”. That rubs me the wrong way because I have been told I type like Logan talks at times, but y’know what? I’ve been told before ever hearing the name Thomas Sanders that my writing seems cold and distant and intelligent and precise. That is how I learned to write and express myself. It’s possible, even likely, that Marin is similar, that he is similar to Logan in that way and were prior to Logan existing. And people who mimic or pretend to be the characters that they criticize, so fucking what? People aren’t allowed to explore the characters or themselves, or practice writing or getting into character like that? They also say: “He’s also very in your face about being christian, which is very offensive to people of other religion like myself.” News flash, buddy, they say right in their bio that they’re Christian. Don’t like it, don’t follow him. And here’s a thing, I hate organized religion with a burning passion. But his religiousness never does more than poke at a nerve. And he uses it as a way to spread positivity instead of hate like a lot of Christians do nowadays. And hey, that someone is personally another religion and shares it on their personal blog is not an offense to someone of a different religion, be fucking mature.

They next attacked organizeddiscord, and I don’t really know Sam so I’m gonna argue more with their points, if I make a wrong assumption about her I apologise. For context, I don’t know if she does this so imma put the first part of their comment for you to judge rather than piece it apart: “Does nothing but complain about her content not being reblogged then constantly makes posts that guilt trip people into reblogging her content, starts unnecessary drama,  and  acts mean and horrible towards Deceit fans. I don’t like Deceit too but I never act the way she does.” After that they go on to say how she is “forcing” the Virgil/Thomas ship on the fandom and how it’s disrespectful to Thomas. Look, I hate that ship too, it weirds me out, but no one is forced to read any of what she posts about it (blocked tags and tumblr savior exist for a reason) and anyone is allowed to create anything they want, that’s not forcing it on anyone. And I don’t see how it’s disrespectful to Thomas. Sanders Sides Thomas is a characters, Shorts Thomas is a character, they aren’t real. Thomas knows abut ships, he has said he thinks they’re cute. He makes jokes about the concept of sleep essentially being his wild boyfriend, and there was a joke about him sharing his bed with his anxiety, which is essentially Shorts verse version of Virgil. And guess what? You don’t have to like it for her to be able to enjoy it. She’s allowed to enjoy it. They later said she was plagiarizing when she took a text post that has been circling around, and also sourced it, and made it a Sanders Sides essentially fake quote. And they demanded she take it down. Buddy...that’s not how things work. It’s not plagiarism if you say it’s not yours. And she did the right thing in sourcing it too. But this happens all the time, are you going to attack every “fake quotes” thing ever, even just in this fandom? Because honey even you don’t have the time for that.

They then go after theonlyjelly-iwillput-inmybelly and boy did I feel like a cat with their hairs on end when I saw them be a dick to Cole. They don’t like Cole’s shitposty humor. It’s not for everyone but a lot of people think he’s funny. And some of his crazy shenanigans come from medications or even from just being bilingual and keeping words right. The “childish talk” I find funny, and it’s not like it’s baby talk, and it can also be rather insightful. Plus even if you think he sounds stupid, here’s the thing: most people sound smarter in their native language. Cole isn’t from an English-speaking country. He is allowed to not use every word like it came out of your goddamn English textbook or some stupid novel or whatever. And the bear thing is because his username and icon are a reference to Crofter’s whose mascot is a bear. If you aren’t gonna bitch at Thomas for making so many Crofter’s jokes, then leave Cole the fuck alone for it.

They then made a call-out for what-even-is-thiss and...sadly I agree with them on this one, though I hate how rudely they worded it, so I’m just gonna copy what they said. ““Roman” if that’s even his real name, has no regards to other people’s feelings and just says whatever the hell enters that brain of his. He is so bad that other blogs have called him out. And yet he acts as if nothing has happened. No remorse or anything.” I will say one thing though; Roman, to my recollection, is a trans guy and chose his name. He’s allowed to choose any name he fucking wants. And even if that’s not his real name? It’s the fucking internet didn’t you guardian teach you not to give out personal information on the internet?

They then called out anxietys-room for not being helpful and for passing it off to followers to give advice. Here’s the thing; they aren’t professionals. They are normal people who want to help people struggling and can only do so much. And I’ve seen a number of times them pushing help lines for people who desperately need that. How shitty do you have to be to attack something so well-intentioned?

They then yelled at insanelycoolish for not putting their story under a “Keep Reading”, which they used later for their taglist. It’s a fair thing to say, long posts you don’t care to read are obnoxious. However, they didn’t ask if Finn could fix it or do something else next time. They said this: “would it kill you both to add all of these under a read more?” “you both” presumably is referring to the-pastel-peach, whom Finn was conversing with because she enjoyed his fic. But she can’t do anything, it’s not her post. Ugh I’m so sick of this dude...

This is all that’s on their account for now, but let’s circle back to their bio. No one needs to be called out for having a different sense of humor than you or liking things you don’t like. You aren’t making the fandom trouble-free, you’re causing trouble and pain and anger by attacking our friends. Maybe that’s your real intent. But either way, you have made yourself our enemy.

You have no right to consider yourself a Fander, so I hope you don’t. Thomas preaches caring and acceptance, and asking nicely for things you need. He would be ashamed of you.

[poipoi1912]

What does it take to be acknowledged by you, mentioned by you, followed by you, tagged by you (just once)? (This is an honest question. Come on, you're a lawyer, all about rational answers and blunt facts. I'd really like to know, so I can see what I could improve on.) - Sincerely, NotInterestingEnoughIGuess

I am a lawyer, so I don’t know about these “facts” you speak of, but here’s an unnecessarily detailed and long-winded answer which may or may not make sense :D (that’s what lawyers do lol)

What it takes to be acknowledged by me: Send me an ask :D But I imagine you mean getting a like or a reblog? You’d need to post a cute gifset of Sonny or Barba, or something about Barisi, or some thoughts about SVU (ranging from the hilarious to the serious). Caveat: I’d also need to be on tumblr to see your post, which is kind of a crapshoot these days. Sometimes I can't muster up the energy to scroll through my dash (or to get online at all), so I just go outside (walking always helps me) or I listen to music or I write. I'm here when I can, I see what I see, and I like or reblog whatever I happen to see that day.

What it takes to be followed by me: Blunt facts? At this point, you’d need to be a Deckerstar blog. I do adore and appreciate my SVU mutuals (half of whom don’t even post about SVU anymore, lol), because they keep me informed, but these days I mostly rely on the tags to find SVU content (i.e. cute pictures of Sonny/Peter). In my view, SVU has been declining in quality, and it’s not much fun anymore, so I don’t feel like seeing it on my dash any more than I already do (omg harsh) (but true). (except for terrible-slash-hilarious pics of Peter making weird faces or wearing denim-on-denim-on-denim. Do you post that? @ me! I’ll follow you asap.)

Seriously though, I'm very happy to see that there are quite a few new Sonny blogs around and I’m pretty sure I’ve reblogged something from all of them (who are you, anon, lol?). omg disclaimer, if you’re a Barba blog I probably won’t follow you! Most of my mutuals may not love SVU anymore but they sure love Barba, because they have good taste, so my dash is like 30% Raul on any given day, which is how I like it :D. Basically, my dash right how has all the SVU content I need (i.e. “a small amount” lol). All the “new” blogs I’ve followed, say, in the last 6-ish months, are either about Lucifer/Deckerstar or about writing prompts. Because I want to enjoy my dash. So, if you want me to follow you, I’d suggest getting into Lucifer. You’ll thank me later :)

What it takes to be tagged by me:Honestly, prior interactions. I don’t tag people all that often, but when I do it’s because I appreciate their humor or their thoughts. Or when I want to thank them for posting something, or when I want to comment on one of their posts, etc. I’m not the most interactive blog, lol. I keep to myself most of the time, unless someone tags me first. My main interactions with you all are usually though asks (which I try to respond to in a sort-of timely manner, but which sometimes get away from me). So if you’d like to know what I think about something specific, about one of your theories or ideas, shoot me an ask.

Now, I’ve made several posts about my current life situation (death and illness and pain), and unfortunately I don’t have enough time to be on tumblr and participate in the fandom as much as I would like (or as much as I did last year, before my situation got even worse). That’s just not a priority for me, not out of choice but out of necessity. Fandom is a lovely distraction, and I value all of you (and your humor and your creativity and your kindness), and on some days a tumblr post will be the only reason I smile, but my main focus is on my family and real life obligations. I miss out on a lot of the fun, but there’s not much I can do. I don’t even have time to read fic anymore. I have to “schedule” my tumblr time.

That said, when I am here, I do still check the tags, and I love seeing what people thought about an episode (lol), and I love writing down my own episode thoughts, and reading people’s reactions, and saving Sonny and Barba and Dodds Sr. gifs. And I also adore to speculate on spoilers, and discuss the characters. Most of that happens through your asks, actually, which is why I enjoy it so much. It’s my favorite way to interact with you all. Problem is, that can only happen when the show gives us something to work with. And they haven’t been doin’ that lately 👀

Bottom line, I feel that my main contribution to this fandom is my fic, and I focus my energy on that, sometimes, instead of participating more. I do feel bad about that, and I do think it’s a little selfish of me, because on occasion I like to use fic to work through some of my own issues (with grief or apathy or loss). Meanwhile, I might go “off the grid” and “ignore” you all (read: I might go for weeks without checking tumblr at all, either because I'm having a tough time and I can't be my usual peppy self :D, or because I'm too busy to breathe). Then again, that’s kind of the point of writing, isn’t it? Isolating yourself a little, and creating something? :)

Writing helps me mentally and psychologically, especially now. And, to be blunt, tumblr doesn’t always help with that, as I’m sure most of us know :D (how can I focus on writing when Raul is out there wearing fabulous suits and glasses? GLASSES? like, gimme a break, guy!)

tl;dr

What you can do to improve your blog, anon, as well as your entire life, is to start watching Lucifer (which comes back THIS MONDAY OMGGGGGG). Make a Chloe Decker-exclusive blog and I will follow you immediately. (I will also follow Veep blogs, for the record. Are there any Richard T. Splett blogs out there??).

Another thing which would improve your life, and mine, would be if we both stopped watching SVU, but I suspect we’re in too deep :D

[ashescroissant]

did you just reblog a gifset of kara looking/smiling at Con-hell, cause thats what that post looked like, even if his face isn't really shown in them. i could be wrong but thats what it looked like all the scenes had in common. and the op is a karasmell shipper.

I did reblog that, mainly so I had some evidence on my side of a few things that I’ve been meaning to point out in a more thought out post about the differences between Karolsen and Karahell in Melissa’s acting alone in the scenes with them. (I like having gifs on hand to reference when I’m trying to make a point about something. I will credit the original creator of said gifs if I end up using them.)

Despite him being involved in the scenes I still think Kara is cute/pretty in them and I enjoy seeing her adorable face. (It’s become a bit of a reflex to reblog anything I see of her really.) 

Also, let it be known, I do not hate people who ship the thing, that’s not my place nor my right, or anyone’s. I do have to question your judgement as a person if you ship it, and I in no way support the idea of that ships existence. (I would like to point out that the ship and it’s supporters would exist regardless of the show making it canon.),but I don’t hate you for it. 

There are plenty of people who would have legitimate grounds for calling me gross, problematic, etc. for primarily being a SuperCat shipper (I’ve even wrote a few fics and made videos, I’m quite invested in them, and they are not the first pairing of that type that I’ve shipped.) 

tl;dr Don’t worry, I’m not slipping to the dark side, I still hate the ship with the fiery burning passion of a thousand red suns, but Kara is a cutie regardless.