#cw: biphobia

[ninadove]

Really love how people can still reblog my posts from users I’ve blocked, and add to the mille-feuilles of stupidity.

@staff — something for you to work on in future updates!

[piperslovebot]

Ross Geller is definitely one to buy into the stereotype about bisexuals being “cheaters”

[what-yadoking-likes]

My mom's drinking.

How do I know?

I have 2 PMs from her saying how she misses me, & have been tagged in several posts on Fae-s'buk.

I have been in the same country as her since June last year & can recall that she has only called me four/five times (4 of those times because she needed me to do something), & seen me about 6 times.

BUt yAdo wHY dON't YoU MeSsaGe heR

Because she exacerbates my anxiety. Because she is deliberately negative & overly critical whenever she is with me. She judges my every decision whether small & insignificant or life-changing. When I call her out she automatically reverts to being mean or saying how her childhood was bad (true, but it's always irrelevant to the topic at hand). She has consistently chosen men over her kids time after time. She has allowed her kids to live under the same roof as dangerous men. Her current boyfriend is racist, controlling & sexist. She makes no effort to understand me or my experiences. She only wants to know why my partner left HK abruptly because she is nosy. She tells us men can't change but hers has.

She has NEVER accepted my bisexuality. Hates how I go to others for help/support/comfort because she taught me I was "too sensitive" or "overreacting" or that she had it worse as a kid when I went to her. Hates how I have anxiety because she doesn't think I do. Depression the same. And she doesn't know about the PTSD but the math wouldn't be math'in if I said I thought she'd accept that. She thinks my sister's celiac disease & my lactose intolerance is put on & an awful inconvenience for her.

I might be her daughter, but I am not responsible for healing her. And I don't have to pursue a relationship with someone who contributed to & perpetuated my mental ill health. And I don't need to justify that to anyone, but sometimes it's cathartic to write it down and hit 'Post' because maybe, maybe someone out there feels the same & they deserve to feel less alone.

[professorcalculusstanaccount]

Unsurprisingly, one kiss in an alleyway behind some bins doesn't fix your problems. Previous part is here, I skipped Castafiore's introduction because I animated it here!

This is part of my story, The House of Glass. Poor Chang is going through it in this one.

[badaziraphaletakes]

These are very good thoughts, thank you!

While that probably does happen sometimes, I would VASTLY have preferred they show how hard it usually is to get free from an ab*sive partner.

I hate how that storyline just sort of got dropped.

I don’t have a fully fleshed-out post about this yet, but I’ve been thinking a lot about the way GO, especially GOS2, treats ab*se and ab*se victims. There were a lot of things about this aspect of the show and the way it was written that haven’t felt right to me all along.

Now I know why.

[nothingtoseehere00-00]

Just imagine Steve figuring out he's bisexual and realizing that when he dates a girl, at a certain point into dating them, he's gonna have to tell them that he's also into men. Of course since it's the 80s, the chances of them being okay with that is probably slim. They might think he's disgusting or that he's just gay playing straight.

So he tries dating guys instead, thinking that's safer. And he ends up meeting a great guy named John at a gay bar who he really likes. Things are going strong until they started talking about past crushes and first loves. Steve casually mentions celebrity crushes on women and having loved Nancy. And thus Steve gets his first ever experience of the rampant biphobia in queer spaces. John accuses Steve of being confused and trying to hold onto his "straightness". Steve tries to explain himself by saying that, no, he really does like women, but that only makes things worse. John now believes that Steve is just going to eventually leave him for a woman, if he hasn't already been cheating on him. John ends up storming out leaving Steve devastated.

He goes crying to Robin and explains what happened. He's horrified to realize that no matter who he dates, there's always going to be the risk of them not accepting him, guy or girl. But he can't hide that part of himself, it's too big. It's who he is. Robin is there to reassure him that if someone can't accept him being bi than they don't deserve him. It's able to cheer him up a little, but the damage has been done.

Steve is now very reluctant to date anyone. And if he does manage to bring himself to go on one, he gets complaints of being very emotionally distant or having a fear of commitment.

When Steve inevitably falls for Eddie, he's scared out of his mind. It's clear that Eddie is gay based on his hanky, but, again, that doesn't mean he'll accept Steve's bisexuality. One night, while the two get so high in Eddie's trailer that Steve has to stay over, they argue about sleeping arrangements. Eddie keeps insisting that Steve would probably be more comfortable with Eddie sleeping in another room for some cryptic reason and Steve, who gets incredibly clingy while high, keeps shooting back with them sharing a bed being fine. When Steve keeps asking why they can't over and over again, Eddie blurts out that it's because he's gay. Without hesitation, Steve's says he knows and points at the hanky on the dresser by the bed. Staring at Steve for a moment, Eddie then asks how he knows about the hanky code. This time Steve hesitates. For awhile. It honestly scares Eddie for a moment, thinking he's been vecnad. If Steve hadn't been high, he maybe would have been able to think of an excuse, some way to get out of this conversation, but he can't. So he admits that he likes guys.

Eddie very excitedly starts asking a bunch of questions and talking about how they finally found something they have in common, who knew? When he notices the tears in Steve's eyes, he stops, confused, and asks what's wrong. So Steve tells him. He's not like Eddie. He's bisexual. And he braces himself for the backlash. For loosing his best friend and crush.

But then he feels a hand grab his. Eddie tells him that they still have something in common because he's also bi. Steve points out that he said he was gay, though. Eddie asks if he has ever told anyone that he was bi before, specifically gay men. Steve nods. Then he asks if it went well. Steve shakes his head. Eddie tells him that's why he said that. He's explains how tiring it is to have to explain his existence to people who won't get it and/or react badly to it. So he just tells guys that he's also gay. It just makes things easier. And Steve gets it. By God, does he get it. They spend the whole night exchanging stories and experiences, for the first time able to talk freely about their love life.

And by the end of the night, they stumble over each other trying to ask the other out. They laugh and both say yes.

[anendtopursuit]

certain corners of the jayvik shipping community erasing jayce's love for mel and insisting it was never real is frustrating for various reasons

the first (and imo most concerning) is the casual disregarding of mel's character and relationship (a black woman as a primary love interest! something that is unfortunately not as common as it should be!), falling not only into the incredibly common misogynistic fandom tendency to dismiss/demonise women who "get in the way" of mlm ships, but also into the misogynoir of the "disposable black girl" trope - something i implore you to research and consider not only when interacting in fandom spaces but also when critiquing the show itself and its treatment of mel/sky. similar sort of issues come with people dismissing mel's affection for him as manipulation when she's arguably far less manipulative than viktor (gestures @ the whole "he was the person who set jayce on this path the entire time" bombshell), their relationship was always mutually beneficial, and we're shown her perspective multiple times without their relationship ever being portrayed as insincere. how is it not manipulative for jayce to use mel's influence to become a councillor and push heimerdinger out etc, but it's manipulative for mel to make suggestions about the usage of hextech? would you think the same way about these actions if it were viktor doing them?

second of all: insisting that jayce's love for his literal girlfriend must be fake because he's in love with a man feels so oddly strict and binary for such a queer fandom/ship. if paralleling viktor and mel's scenes leads you to interpret his relationship with viktor as romantic, then surely his relationship with mel must still be romantic too for that comparison to make sense? bisexual erasure is especially prevalent when it comes to men and male characters (due to biphobic and misogynistic beliefs about bisexuality being "a women's sexuality" caused by "female promiscuity" or some archaic bullshit like that). insisting that he can only love one and not the other, and then dismissing his affections for mel if you decide he loves viktor, also just reeks to me of the "pick a side" mentality and, again, is weirdly monogamous for such a queer fandom. i realise this may sound like a reach to some people since jayce isn't explicitly canonically bi, but i still think it's a good idea to be cautious about how you have these discussions and any implications they may have, especially if it impacts a real life community that already regularly faces erasure

tl;dr you can be a jayvik liker and also be normal about mel medarda and meljay. please for the love of god be normal about mel medarda and meljay.

[lelianasbong]

it's too early for playersexual discourse it's too early for playersexual discourse- THEY'RE PANSEXUAL. THEY'RE EXPLICITLY PANSEXUAL ASFHFHSHSHS

"it's clear they wrote them with specific orientations in mind" yes. pansexuality

i need to stay off reddit

[nqueso-emergency]

Nice to know biphobic posts are alive and well... *gags*

[screamlet]

118 daily drabble (day 32; drive)

@118dailydrabble

notes: broken up bucktommy; continuation of #blow up that chopper (118dailydrabble).

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Robert's sports coat bothers Buck. A lot. 

He leans over Tommy's hospital bed and examines him like a detective. "I hope you never know this. Your child's out in the world but you don't know what they look like anymore."

He sighs and sits on Tommy's other side. "You're a firefighter, too. Why?"

Buck hooks a thumb under his suspenders. "I drove around a lot and tried different jobs. Firefighter feels right."

Robert looks bemused. "That's what he said, too. Always doing what feels right, not what is right. How'd your parents take the gay thing?"

A beat. "Bisexual. They support me. Everyone does."

He laughs. "They do now. Bisexual's good, though. There's still a chance for you."

[shapelytimber]

Hiii, I just wanted to know if ppl are allowed to headcanon Boba, Lando, Leia, Luke, Obi-Wan and Padme from your sapphic AU as lesbians? I really love the story and the designs so I don't wanna make my own, but I also really don't like straights in my queer media and I noticed those 6 aren't fully queer in ur AU ^_^' I saw u answered an ask abt this already but I promise I'm not biphobic, I just have trauma from men and don't rly wanna be around people who like them cuz it's kinda danger by proxy y'know

No. Fuck you. Sorry about your trauma but that's not an excuse to be a biphobic little bitch

Also why do I have the feeling you are soooo normal about trans people ?

[ninadove]

Way to prove my point. Thank you 🌈✨🐝

The fact that some people started celebrating “the end of Bumbleby” minutes after the news came out really goes to show how much work still needs to be done regarding queer representation

[lizardsfromspace]

Sometimes you wonder how far Very Online discourse can go before it becomes total gibberish; a melange of au courant buzzwords & misapplied theory so inscrutable it turns into utter raving lunacy, so untethered to any reality not even people on the same "side" can process it

Then you see someone on Twitter having a prolonged fight about how "bisexuals are the Israel of sexualities" and you're like. That's it. That's the edge

[galedekarios]

ngl i'm so very tired of ppl trying to justify biphobia in fandom spaces at this point

[punkeropercyjackson]

If you hate Annabeth for abusing Percy but ship Percy with Luke and/or the gods,you're 100% just a misogynist and also a racist who hates moc seeing as you claim Luke is gay-coded but completely ignore how he hated every moc he ever interacted with(Chris,Ethan and Beckendorf).Annabeth's treatment of Percy may not be excusable but Luke and the gods were the ones who brought on her behavior by raising her and Percy has more reason to want 'revenge' on them way more than she does her and that's not a pronouns typo because Percy is extremely transfem-coded and deserves to live as a trans woman instead of for her groomers who's grooming of her you want to escalate into the more known definition and call it gay representation when it's stereotyping and tfem erasure.Hold the men accountable too cupcakes

[professorcalculusstanaccount]

hi! loving your art. I was watching your awesome stories/gifs and I was wondering: how did Chang develop his feelings for Tintin? Did he discover them before or after him? How did he react and why? (English is not my first language so if you see a grammatical mistake, I'm sorry. Also, sorry if so many questions made you feel like you were in a philosophy exam)

Thank you so much! As a contrast to the rest of the Marlinspike team I'm writing Chang as someone who makes friends and develops crushes pretty easily!

I imagine he's had a crush on Tintin for some time, possibly from when they first met. He's been at the mercy of his circumstances for most of his life until that point - Tintin basically makes him feel capable of doing stuff.

He's pretty heartbroken after the Blue Lotus. Tintin doesn't contact him for years. Chang is struggling to adjust to his new family and is failing at school, having missed out on a good education for a few years prior. Until Tibet he feels pretty hopeless, he will never live up to the time when he took down a drug ring.

His near death experience in Tibet shakes him out of this rut. He starts to travel and take up hobbies like dance and photography. Didi trains him in some basic martial arts. Tintin makes an effort to actually stay in touch this time. Chang has some abandonment issues as he's frequently lost people throughout his life, so he's someone who's willing to give people second chances, even if they've hurt him badly. Chang thinks he's well over his crush on Tintin when he comes around to Belgium for his studies, but falls for him again very quickly!

Unlike Tintin, Chang is a lot more comfortable with who he is. He's used to being the odd one out and has generally low expectations for himself, so just goes with the flow.

Below I talk a little with how I'm going about writing him and the historical context surrounding this, cw for mentions of racism (sinophobia) and queerphobia:

I'm writing Chang as bi, I thought it would be interesting to explore as Asian men were perceived differently in the 30s compared to today. While Asian men in the West are currently heavily desexualised in the early 20th century they were stereotyped as predatory and deviant. In London a lot of Chinese immigrants were male dockworkers, so when they married white women there was a lot of fearmongering about predatory and disloyal Chinese men.

A lot of depictions of Asian men in Western media reflected these stereotypes (and often used queercoding to push the idea of Asian men being animalistic seducers - General Henry Chang in Shanghai Express (1932) was written to be bisexual while posing as a threat to the white leads). Some examples off the top of my head include Hishuru Tori from The Cheat (1915) and The Mask of Fu Manchu (1932). Novels frequently depicted Chinese drug lords with borderline supernatural powers in manipulation.

On the other hand I've noticed how fans frequently depict Chang as someone who's submissive, demure and soft, which ignores how ridiculously brave and proactive he is in canon (stealing documents from police officers, charging into a man immediately after getting shot at by a machine gun, I could go on!). It's a common example of Fandom Racism (not accusing anyone specifically, it's just a trend I've noticed.)

When writing Chang I'm kinda reckoning with two different eras. From a contemporary angle I'm writing him as a love interest, which as an Asian guy I rarely see in media today. I also gotta consider his own time and context, how he would navigate being a queer Chinese guy, and how that would affect his relationship with others and himself.