#considering that I am older than most on this hellsite

[chipen]

SHIPPING  INFO.  answer  the  following  for  your  muse(s)  so  people  know  how  shipping  works  on  your  blog.

What’s  your  OTP  for  your  Muse(s)?

for  hawks  :  dabihawks  /  for  gojo  :  satosugu  /  for  izuku  :  bakdeku  /  tododeku for  my  all  my  muses  i'm  honestly  pretty  open  to  shipping.  i  think  outside  the  main  ones  up  there,  i'm  a  huge  fan  of  inuokko,  sukume,  itafushi,  tojikuna,  choyuki,  and  nobamaki.  on  the  mha  spectrum  -  shigadabi,  erasermight,  monoshin,  and  kiribaku.  as  for  bsd  i'm  a  fyolai,  soukoku,  and  suegiku  truther.  honorable  mentions  include  hs:r's  renheng,  mozeqiu,  and  whatever  the  fuck  the  polycule  between  moze,  feixiao,  and  jiaoqiu  is  called.

i  love  shipping  okay?

What  are  you  willing  to  RP  when  it  comes  to  shipping?

i  think  the  easier  question  is  what  i'm  NOT  willing  to  rp  when  it  comes  to  shipping.  no  adult  x  minor  shit.  i  won't  do  nsfw  with  my  minor  muses.  i  do  think  cuddling,  hand  holding,  and  kissing  is  perfectly  acceptable  but  i'm  not  about  to  write  the  dirty  with  them.  no  non-con  and  no  cheating  (this  can  be...  like.  discussed  as  something  of  plot  point.  it's  more  grey).  not  an  encompassing  list  obviously  but  MOST  things,  within  reason,  are  fair  game  for  me.  i  also  am  perfectly  willing  to  write  smut,  i  even  enjoy  it,  but  it's  totally  chill  if  it's  not  for  you.

How  large  does  the  age  gap  have  to  be  to  make  it  uncomfortable?

hadn't  really...  thought  long  and  hard  about  this  but.  minors  and  minors  and  adults  with  adults  obviously.  this  is  such  a  nuanced  question  though.  like  realistically  i'd  want  the  bnha  kiddos  at  15  dating  no  one  older  than  17  (obviously).  a  character  like  gojo  though,  who  is  almost  30  years  old...  idk  dude  you  go  fuck  that  1000  year  old  king  of  curses,  good  for  you.

just...  yknow.  don't  be  weird?

Are  you  selective  when  shipping?

kinda!  i  mean  i  need  to  vibe  with  the  writer  and  their  portrayal  -  and  if  we've  never  shipped  before  definitely  some  plotting  is  required.  but  then  there  are  people  like  ven  and  ira  where  the  ships  sail  before  the  boats  even  hit  the  water.  i  definitely  have  main  shipping  partners  and  while  i  try  not  to  practice  ship  exclusively,  their  muses  for  me  are  a  main  and  number  one.

How  far  do  steamy  moments  have  to  go  before  they’re  considered  NSFW?

i  usually  define  it  as  when  the  clothes  start  coming  off!  the  goods  out  and  about?  bam,  read  more.  but  usually  i  follow  my  partner's  lead.

Who  are  other  muses  you  ship  your  muse  with?

please  refer  to  question  one.

Does  one  have  to  ask  to  ship  with  you?

well.  sort  of.  i  hate  assuming  shit.  it  makes  me  feel  like  an  asshole  if  i  do  and  if  i  get  it  wrong  i  want  to  crawl  into  a  hole  AND  DIE.  but  usually  i  can  read  the  room.  i  also  recognize  that  a  lot  of  folks  on  this  hellsite  are  shy  so  i  tend  to  just...  ask  for  us  both.  you're  welcome.

Are  you  multiship?

i  sure  am.  i  tend  to  have  a  strong  stance  on  this  but  it  has  a  lot  of  grey  area.  as  stated  previously  -  while  i  don't  tend  to  do  ship  exclusivity  and  will  write  and  ship  with  variations  of  other  muses,  i  do  have  some  partners  that  are  simply  my  main  portrayals  and  i  will  tend  to  use  those  threads  for  my  personal  character  development,  if  that  makes  sense.

Are  you  ship  obsessed  or  ship  more-or-less?

obsessed  is  a  strong  word...  i  am,  character  development  obsessed??  and  i  think  shipping  can  be  a  big  part  of  that.  it's  fun  to  write  and  plot!

What  is  your  favorite  ship  in  your  current  fandom?

dabihawks  and  satosugu  have  me  by  the  fucking  throat.  bkdk  too,  i  fear.

Finally,  how  does  one  ship  with  you?

tell  me  which  muses  you  want  to  kiss  and  the  answer  is  pretty  much  a  guaranteed  yes.  or  even  throw  me  a  prompt.  tell  me  via  carrier  pigeon.  send  smoke  signals.  keep  stabbing  me.  i  want  ships,  i  just  hate  to  needle  about  them!

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[internetgiraffekid1673]

Hi I'm Lauren I'm new to this app, I'm just trying to make some friends. Can i be your friend?

Hello! Welcome to the Hellsite! I'd love to be your friend! I'm flattered you seem to think I'm cool enough to consider me friend material! You can call me Giraffe or Anne. Not my real name, but close enough.

I'm pretty new to this place myself, but I've been here long enough to know it is a constant state of beautiful and incomprehensible mayhem. It's fantastic.

Ummmm. Introduction things! I'm a college student who goes to school in the middle of nowhere Mountain West and lives on the East Coast. I don't have a major yet because I don't know what I'm doing and am only pretending I know how to adult. I was a military brat, so I've lived in quite a few places and want to live in more. I have 3 older brothers and a person who could be considered my older sister. I was in the BSA (yes, I'm a girl, they let girls in, they have for a while now) and am a proud Eagle Scout. I'm also aroace and a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (commonly shortened to LDS or mormon, but we're not really supposed to do that anymore because it cuts out Jesus from the name, which is kind of the most important part. Everyone on tumblr still uses those though, and it doesn't bother me, so use mormon or LDS or Latter Day Saint or whatever you want).

I like to draw, but I don't think I'm very good at it. I write a lot, but I almost never finish anything, and I post things even less freqently, cuz I'm a coward. I play the cello and the guitar, and I wish I had people who would randomly play bluegrass with me.

I love books, but I haven't had much time to read in the past year. I normally hit 20+ books a year easily, but college is great at murdering your free time. I almost exclusively read YA and middle grade fiction, especially fantasy and sci-fi, but I do branch out every once in a while. Most current book obsession is Percy Jackson, but I have so many super random middle grade novels that I love to death and could ramble about.

I don't enjoy the experience of watching movies, even if I like the movie itself, and thus, I have not seen a lot of movies. The rule is, if it is not an animated Disney film, assume I haven't seen it, and you will be correct about 65% of the time. I am a proud non-viewer of many popular movies, most notably the ENTIRE MCU. I have watched the moon knight TV show, seen some scattered clips from Spiderman: No Way Home, and seen the Spiderverse movies. These are the only marvel properties I have seen, and probably the only ones I intend on seeing.

I like comic books, mostly cuz they're both a lot cooler and a lot sillier than people expect, but I've only read scattered Robin, Batgirl, Spiderman, and Moon Knight comics. I wanna read Squirrel Girl, though. That'd be cool. My favorite Marvel hero is Moon Knight, and my favorite DC hero is Robin. Not Batman, Robin. All the robins, too. Anyone who has been Robin shares the favorite spot. This includes the We Are Robin kids, Stephanie Brown, and Carrie Kelley.

I am obsessed with a number of shows, and the obsessions fade in and out. Currently? I love the Owl House, Gravity Falls, My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic, and Avatar (Legend of Korra and Last Airbender). I'm also obsessed with Miraculous Ladybug, but I have an unfortunate love-hate (mostly hate) relationship with the show that is shared by most of the fandom. Like, almost the whole fandom will tell you not to watch it, it's bad and disappointing, and we wish we weren't too invested to quit.

I think that's mostly it. I'm so glad to have a new friend here! Tell me all about you too, either on your blog or in my askbox. I'm excited to be your friend, Lauren!

[dizzydancingdreamer]

Cast your mutuals Greek Goddess edition 😌 (finally Dizzy’s expensive semesters are paying off)

@imdreamingwiththestars

Lottie you’re Hecate— you’re so many things all at once that picking any other goddess just wouldn’t make sense at all. Maiden, Mother, Crone— beautiful, protective, wise. The goddess of magic, goddess of the moon, of witchcraft, necromancy, and ghosts. Of crossroads. We became friends when I was at this weird place in my life— I was going through so many things and you were this constant. Thank you. Hecate is worshiped in the entrance of homes to protect from evil forces— I can’t think of a more protective person. She was called upon to put the dead to rest because her vengeance was worse than the dead’s. Yeah— that’s you lol. She’s dark, she’s dangerous, she’s powerful, and yet she protects humans. She doesn’t have to but she does. Thank you.

@hellotvshowtrash

You are my Aphrodite, Ash. Aphrodite is one of my deities so I don’t give this title lightly. I often find myself talking to her when I need someone to listen, someone who will remind me of all the things that I forget I am. In the same way I turn to you. Aphrodite is the goddess of beauty and love. She was so beautiful she caused wars among the gods— most importantly Ares, the literal god of war. Aphrodite brought the toughest god to his knees— I think that says a lot about what I think of you. She’s depicted as soft in appearance— she’s the goddess of beauty and yet she goes against all beauty standards. You don’t have to fit into the harsh standards of today— Aphrodite didn’t and she was worshipped more than any other goddess. Standards are for the people who will fight over you, all you need to do is love yourself. Troy will fall for you, I guarantee it.

@elijahs-wife

You are Selene and I’ll die on this hill, Tay. I always say you’re a goddess and I’m never lying. Selene is the goddess of the moon, otherwise known as ‘the mother of vampires’. Yeah, that fits lol. She appears in the sky when and how she pleases. Chthonic in nature and origin, she is raw energy and passion. Selene is not just a Hellenistic goddess, she exists through every mythology because of how important she is. She was the sibling of Helios, the sun, and she balanced his fire. You’re like the glue of this group, you balance us. Selene is known to have cults to this day of followers, though it’s partially hidden. People were and are drawn to her. She merges with Artemis at times to become the goddess of the hunt as well but she will always first and foremost be the moon goddess.

@imaginearyparties

I was going to give you Athena because she’s one of my highest revered goddesses and you deserve that title but I can’t bring myself to do it knowing that Calliope exists and that you are the embodiment of her. The muses are overlooked as goddesses— kind of how like you’re one of my favourite authors on this hellsite and are overlooked— and it’s a shame considering at one point in history they were called upon to bless every story and meal and event. They were the most powerful, the daughters of Zeus, revered. Calliope is the must of epic poetry— the wisest of all the muses. She was called upon by Zeus to govern disputes between other goddesses because her opinion and judgment was so clear. You are a wonderful writer, an amazing friend, and I would go to you for guidance before a lot of other people. Calliope is overlooked but I see you. You are poetry embodied, remember that.

@thatweirdoleigh

Clotho. Leigh you are Clotho. In Greek mythology the notion fate is one of the most important things and at the helm of fate there are three sister goddesses— Clotho is the youngest of them. The metaphor used was of cloth— one would spin, one would measure, one would cut. Clotho spun the cloth— she was in charge of spinning the life of humans— every little detail decided by her to her will and precise detail. She was the one to decide which gods and mortals were to be saved and which were to die. Even the likes of the biggest gods and goddesses could not disarm her— she chose destiny, the other gods only enforced it. I like to think of you as her because I think you’ve touched all our stories in one way or another— your thoughts are always welcome and insightful. You’re a leader.

@dumble-daddy

Eris. Without a doubt in my mind Al you would be Eris. She’s the goddess of chaos and discord. I think that gets taken badly sometimes— the word chaos has so many negative connotations and it shouldn’t. Chaos isn’t inherently bad— it’s wonderful and beautiful and without it where would the fun be? You bring the fun, Al. Eris doesn’t strive to hurt people but she’s not going to sit back and take it now is she? She is the true reason that Troy fell— not Helen. The gods refused to treat her with respect so she made Hera, Athena, and Aphrodite fight over an apple— a damn Apple! And she laughed as Troy fell because the fairest goddesses couldn’t share. And they call her bad. What a joke. Chaos is beautiful— remember that.

@xxwritemeastoryxx

Dom you’re Nyx and nothing could sway me in this decision. I’ve been saving her in my back pocket because she’s special— I couldn’t just use her freely. Nyx is the goddess of night. Note— not darkness. That was her husband. Darkness and night are not the same— night is persistent, steadfast, reliable. With or without darkness, the night is inevitable. She’s a primordial goddess— she was there before the beginning and will be there long after the end. She’s older than Zeus— she’s the only goddess that he fears. She’s the reason he gave the chthonic deities respect— the older, earthier, passionate, destructive deities. Nyx isn’t a central figure but she’s present in every tale whether acknowledged or not. You’re always present, and I hope you know that I respect you immensely.

[iampikachuhearmeroar]

okay i’m going to go off about celebs again…. but like…. does anyone remember the gross asf vitriol that went around in 2011-2013 about justin bieber where the joke was “more like justINE bieber am i right??? 😂😂😅😅” from the “haters” of him. i, myself, actually joined in on this; considering that i thought that liking all the emo shit i was into made me “more mature than belibers” or some other absolutely batshit backwards bullshit that i would’ve spat out at the time to sound “edgy” and “NoT LiKe OtHeR GiRlS 👩🏻‍🎤👩🏻‍🎤”….. when in my group at catholic school, i had two girls in my group that were belibers themselves lol. i honestly made zilch sense.

but like to rest on this a bit, what the actual fuck was up with this joke???? why the fuck did the whole world just gang up on this teenage boy, who through no fault of his own, was still going through puberty…. so of course his voice was still going to be high??? and then the weird fucking speculation some fucking gross ass literal grown up adult people had back then of “when do you/we think his balls are going drop, so that we wont be call to be able to call him justine bieber anymore 😅😭??? just let us have our fun??!!” like what the FUCK??? why did everyone think that this was their business??? it wasn’t his fault in a sense that he stumbled into usher and got signed.

like….. no wonder justin’s had several breakdowns over the years. i would too. because how the fuck would you deal with this???? people just throwing out so casually this horrible fucking vitriol that they think you’re a girl OR think that you should get a sex change because it’s obviously a lie that he’s a boy/man OR think that you’re not “just a butch lesbian disguised as a 16yo boy” (these were legit other arguments at the time). like he was a KID for fucks sake. who the fuck asks to go through puberty in the fucking spotlight???? fucking N O O N E thats fucking who. like obviously he’s had a myriad of meltdowns and bad publicity over the years since. but this bullshit would’ve been so fucking horrible to take during the shitty years of puberty and high school to boot. obviously, in the years since, he’s done roast battles with jokes about this, so it’s good that he was able deal with it and joke about it, albeit eventually.

but i would’ve absolutely fucking hated to have all my pubescent behaviour and changes being fucking aired and speculated on in public view, for completely random people, famous or not, to comment on and make fun of. like i’ve talked before about the trouble i had with my period in my teens. i would’ve LOATHED to have that shit aired as it happened, on a red carpet for example. or as im accepting an award or just let alone performing at a show. just mid speech or mid performance. i would’ve bled (leaked) onto an expensive costume or provided expensive designer dress (or my own clothes/outfit) because my flow for a particular month/week was uber heavy. or god forbid, i wouldve thrown up mid-press-junket-interview on air or almost fucking passed out as well, depending on how my cycle/ovaries/hormones were feeling during a particular month/week.

like this is besides my point in a sense, but still. i would’ve had this aired and speculated on if i’d been catapulted to fame at the same time as bieber (and keep in mind, he is literally only a year older than me). but my period struggles would have been spun as “are you SURE this GIRL isn’t a BOY who knows nothing about period products??? does she know ANYTHING about pads & tampons so she WON’T bleed onto her dress or the like??? what a lazy, disgusting “girl”!” or “does she KNOW just how WEAK she is for NOT controlling her period pain??? how dare she pass out mid-show??? does she know she’s FAKING IT??? what a weak person, just GET UP and PERFORM, MONKEY because PERIODS ARENT THAT BAD!!! just think like a MAN and your period pain will go away!” or some other bizarre speculative bullshit that has absolutely nothing to do with anyone else.

when unbeknownst to anyone, i would’ve had about 5 advil tablets to both deal with my utterly unbearable period pain and unfathomably blinding and mind-numbing hormonal period headache, right before the said event or interview or whatever the fuck celeb duty i was carrying out. i would’ve had heat pads on, i would have been dizzy when arriving to and leaving from sets, etc etc etc. and finally, i would’ve been incredibly tired during all of this…… because of how much my periods fucked me around as a teen, to the point that some nights i couldn’t even fucking sleep properly. or the only reprieve i would get from the pain would be the aforementioned 5 advil tablets and an all day nap. on top of all this, i probably would’ve had to BEG (all because video call interviews weren’t particularly popular back then) for some like video call interview type thing from my bedroom or home studio or whatever, just to avoid going into an actual studio & set so i could just lay in bed or sit somewhere comfortable for the whole interview. and again etc etc etc because of all the other problems i had with my periods in my teens til my early fucking 20s, that i’ve mentioned several times on/in various posts on this hellsite over the years.

and the same goes for female stars like sasha pieterse from PLL when she opened up about her struggle with PCOS, and halsey with sharing her struggle with endometriosis. i would’ve hated to go through those medical conditions in the spotlight. i feel for them. it’s also the same thing with boobs: where the most famous example in recent years is ariel winter from modern family….. with how she needed a breast reduction because her boobs were giving her back problems and stuff, because she was like an F cup or something. and she also hated the creepy ass comments she was getting from gross dudes about how nice her boobs were or whatever the fuck, even while she was still a teen on the show.

anyway. back to bieber. i only say this because literally like last year or in 2019, the bieber joke appeared in my feed again in the first time in YEARS and i ended up tagging one of my old catholic school friends like “how the fuck do people still think this is funny?? it’s so 2011. and come to think of it, it was never funny in the first place anyway”. like both the media and the public had absolutely no right to speculate this shit and invade a young teen boy’s privacy like this??? it was so fucked up. idk why i didn’t make a post about it at the time…. but it also came into my mind just now because i commented on a post about justin bieber the other night about how he’s had fans stalk him to his nyc apartment again. like when the actual fuck will people fucking learn to let celebs have their goddamned privacy lmao.

[calibratemehard]

I have gotta stop being self-indulgent and only drawing Shepard. Anywho. Still learning, but I think I found a painting method that works for me. I also don't think I'm a lineart person anymore. I've done a lot of watercolor in the past ~ 5 years so my style has trended to doing the painting and then going back in to add details with a pen. Kind of weird when I consider the digital art I used to make.

(holy shit i looked for my deviantart just for shits and giggles and it is still there!!! it's probably older than most of the people on this hellsite - it has a link to my LIVEJOURNAL. I am ancient.)

I think one of the things I appreciate more about my art process is that with watercolor you have to say, "okay, enough is enough. If I keep going it's just going to get worse." Because, you know, it's permanent (mostly). So now I can just get to a point and say, "that's enough" and just drop it. No more obsessing over a piece. It's nice.

[janiedean]

OKAY GUYS *ALMOST* LAST THING ON THE DAMNED YA DISCOURSE POST

now: the fact that it took twenty minutes to have one person actually come at me in the askbox calmly and telling me ‘hey I get that op of that post sounds reasonable but they’re actually of the fandom moms are embarrassing corner and I know because I remember them from discourse etc’ without jumping at me for having reblogged a post that was worded fairly neutrally about a genre I always said I didn’t read and assuming that I somehow a) knew op b) supported op c) had read the comments d) agreed with the comments kind of says a lot about this entire situation and honestly in the future actually not jumping at people would be a preferred course of action, and I’d like to again remind everyone that I’m not omniscent and idk everyone on this hellsite but other than that

guys

I thought there was no need to specify this but whatever

I personally don’t give a single damn about what people like, I am worried about the way they engage with the content in question 

now, if a 14 yo watches voltron and a 30 yo watches voltron and they both enjoy it and the 14 yo buys merch and the 30 yo writes fic about it and they both enjoy it and they both cosplay keith at the local comicon no one cares and good for them, if the thirty-year old sends death threats to other fans both minors and not because they ship sh/eith or to the creators/the actors because they don’t think sh/eith was the worst that’s a goddamned fucking problem and that adult is overreacting to a goddamned cartoon for kids who should only be a thing you enjoy consuming, not discourse that badly about

or, people can read hp at whatever age they like, but the moment every single franchise’s gray characters end up compared to sn/ape because apparently there is no other grey char in existence I can go like ‘god I wish people didn’t consider snape the alfa and omega of grey characters’

or worse, again three days ago I had to read ‘we need to stop teenage girls from reading the vampire diaries because IT’S ABOUT PREDATORY CENTENARIES PREYING ON TEENAGERS SO IT’S PROBLEMATIC’ which is basically applying adult lenses to a fucking harmless ya book/tv shows about falling in love with hot vampires who LOOK TWENTY and like this entire point ends up up actually assuming teenage girls must be protected from stuff aimed at them that’s made to cater to their interests and even I, a person who never was into it, know that the hot vampire romance is a thing 14yo girls might be into for obvious reasons, and like come the fuck on it’s not that deep

and at contrary, then I have to read people idk talking about asoiaf like they’d talk about a young adult book when asoiaf is not the same goddamned target and is not aimed at the same audience and is not even that

and that happens because some people who are older than 18 ie the oldest ya target can’t apparently engage with media that’s not ya or kids’ shows and treat everything like it should do what ya is supposed to do ie being catered to teenagers which is not the point, and at the same time viciously tear each other apart over the damned shows for kids, and that’s why steven/universe is by general opinion the most toxic fandom in existence when it’s like a cartoon for kids which from what I gather just wants people they should be nice to each other and give others second chances which is apparently a message its own fans don’t get or they wouldn’t drive people to attempting suicide which happened forreal

and like if you’re an adult you absolutely can and should enjoy ya and kids’ media but you can’t honestly presume to behave like they’re worth sending people death threats or presume that all the rest of the media in existence has to cater to their tastes/the audience that ya is catered to, which is why I would sincerely like it if more adults on this website didn’t seem to live for disney movies discourse finding whatever the fuck is problematic in frozen when their 12 yo cousins at whom frozen is aimed most likely enjoy it without overthinking that shit and instead engaged with at least more than one type of content possibly also content aimed at their age range because the current situation where everything that would be problematic in ya books is apparently problematic in each piece of fiction ever really has run its course fo me

that doesn’t mean I don’t think people can’t read or enjoy ya at the ripe age of 60 if that’s what they like because everyone can like whatever the hell they like, I didn’t suddenly become ageist, I think people can write fic at 80 if they want to, no one should be shamed for their fictional preferences and they can enjoy/write whatever the fuck they want

but I also would like to peacefully be able to say I dislike something without people assuming I’m judging their tastes, thank you and I hope we’re done with this discussion because I have the got anniversary fic to update and I honestly can’t believe I have spent half an hour on this discourse, thank you and good night

[what-are-even-humans]

((Still ace anon)) I hadn't meant to dismiss that stuff, I more meant well, my bf has explicitly said that a good chunk of why we're a thing is because I'm ace. The rest is me working really hard to keep it a relationship of equals. So its *less* creepy but can still be really creepy if people aren't willing to do the work to keep it from being so. If that makes sense?

(This is Re: This Post)

Listen nonny, idk your relationship. For all I know it might be the healthiest relationship in the world, but to me when someone says “ the age dif is much less creepy if the older party is ace“ what I hear is “ a massive age difference in a relationship is primarily bad because of sex” which is the stalest take I’ve seen all week, which says a lot considering how much time I spend on this hellsite. I’m not talking about your relationship specifically because I don’t know you and I don’t know your bf. What I am saying is that relationships with large age differences are bad, in part because of the massive difference in life experience. That’s part of why I’m not commenting on your relationship outside of the generals. You’ve said you’ve got a 7 year age difference, but I’ve no idea how old you are. You might be 27, or you might be 47. If you’re 47 and your bf 40, you’ve got 29 and 22 years to define yourselves as adults. You’ve got time to decide who you are without each other. A 20 year old is still new to the whole adulting thing. A 20 year old does not have a lot of life experience, and has only had two years to define themselves as an independent adult at most. A 27 year old has had 9 years at most. Meaning the 20 year old is at a massive disadvantage. Some times that’s more noticeable than other, but it’s still there, and I wholly believe it’s better to be vary of people who consistently date younger, more inexperienced people, than to ignore it. The older person being ace has no bearing on that.

[c-is-for-circinate]

A brief about-this-blog

You may have noticed, I rarely or never post current events/social justice stuff here!  And with the recent influx of followers and the CR community in general, I have two comments about that:

--I’ve been realizing recently that it’s maybe a little bit nervous-making, discovering the blog of someone you think might be cool, but they never post about certain things, and what if they’re secretly awful and you just haven’t backread far enough to realize?  I don’t want to be that person, so: 

I myself am cis and white and female and queer and neurodivergent and probably older than you and still younger than most people who think they’re real adults, so take from that what you will.

Trans women are women, trans men are men, gender is a social construct, and you should take people at their word for what they say they are, whatever they say they are.  This is basic human decency.  Don’t be an asshole.

Asexuality is a thing and I want to see it represented in all of the circles, particularly queer ones.  (I live in a weird, fuzzy intersection of a-spec and bi that I often think I’m far too old to’ve not pinned down further, but it is what it is and it’s okay, and whatever it is it’s sure as goddamn anything not straight.  People are confusing even when they’re yourself.  More people should get the chance to try more labels and then leave them behind.)

Anti-semitism is an actual thing that exists in the world, and I am aware that this is a true fact, and I think it’s bullshit and terrible.  I believe you when you say something was anti-semitic.

Racism is sure as shit an actual thing that exists in the world, and I am aware that this is a true fact, and I am so white, guys.  I’ve got my own institutionalized privilege that I work through on my own time.  Best thing I can do is try to listen, learn, and not add more noise to the tumblr echo chamber when I don’t know what the fuck I’m talking about.

I’m an actualfacts environmental educator and trained ecologist in real life, so I know exactly how fucked we are--and also how fucked we aren’t.  The future will be neither as okay nor as impossible as most people think it is.  World ain’t ending, folks, it’s just changing a whole hell of a lot.  Corporate greed is The Worst but avoid the plastic straws anyway.

--This will never be an SJW or current events blog.  I will never reblog your angry post, or your scared post, or probably even your calm informative PSA post.  That’s not what this blog is for and it’s not what I want to do.

This is my fandom space.  I’m old, in internet terms, friends--old enough to remember surfing endless webrings and the days when Livejournal required a special invite token.  The world was always wanky, but there used to be more separation between the collapse of the outside world, and this place we came to tell stories and dissect fiction.  I’m not saying it’s wrong that everything is more smushed together these days, I’m just saying that the fandom and internet experience that I want (and that I offer) is a lot more fandom and a lot less, also, your real-life president in the actual world where you live right now would prefer you to die.

This is my day job.  No, I’m not a front-line activist, but I am neck deep in thinking about and working with conservation issues and urban ecology, and how environmental inequality disproportionately affects communities of color, and what happens to the Chicago River every single time I use my dishwasher when it rains, and how I’m a white suburban-raised apartment-renter in a gentrifying neighborhood because I can’t afford to live anywhere else, all the time.  It’s a lot.  It’s exhausting, and it’s complicated, and that’s not what I’m here to keep doing.

This is a noisy, noisy website, and if there’s anything I’ve ever learned as a teacher, the way to guide and inform people is never add more noise to an already noisy place.  If I have anything wise to say or to add to any discourse on this hellsite, it’s that the world is so nuanced, and it takes nuance to understand its problems and address them.  The more everything is signal-boosted, the louder this whole internet world gets  around us, and the more the details and the shades of gray are lost.  I’m glad people are out there spreading information about things, but I don’t actually think my adding more volume to the discussion helps.

This is a real big anxiety button for me on every level.  One of those levels is the very simple, “wait, if I reblog THIS one but not THAT one, am I picking sides?  am I making a statement about what I do and don’t consider important?” sort of terror.  And no, it’s not particularly logical or particularly rational, but I’m not, always.  I’m a person and sometimes my brain tries to kill me.  So I take actions in my real life that I think stand a chance of mattering, and when I’m online, I appease my own inner gremlins of indecision by choosing to just not, ever.

I will sometimes make posts about my own lived experience, with mental health, or queerness, or gender, or economics, or being an aging millennial in this strange world of ours.  Sometimes I’ll reblog posts because they speak specifically to my lived experience, and they resonate on a ‘oh shit, this is me’ level.  I think there’s value to that, and also, this is my blog and I can use it to reflect myself out into the world if I want to.  There’s always going to be the rare exception to whatever I usually do.

But anyway, yeah.  I’ve picked up SO MANY FOLLOWERS in the past couple of months.  I figured it was fair to tell you a bit about what you signed up for.  Hopefully you stick around anyway.

[thephantomporg84]

I suppose the next thing to ask, as porg is being lonely and handling it in the worst way possible- what advice do you have for people who are feeling lonely that is genuinely healthy and useful?

(Ahdsjjfejddbd I AM SO SORRY I’M AN IDIOT THAT NEVER HIT POST)

First of all: you’re already doing a good job by recognizing that letting loneliness and isolation fester into rage is unhealthy. Granted, I think it’s a lot harder when you’re the person in question and you’re not just an observer, but still — a lot of people completely miss that.

I’m not therapist or anything close to it , but from my own experiences + seeing the experiences of friends:

This is cheesy but I do mean it: know that you’re not alone and you’re not the only person that feels lonely. It sounds silly, but it’s really easy to get it in your head that only you feel lonely and become really bitter toward everyone else when that’s not the case. I’m not immune from it nor is anyone else, and there’s always someone to talk to - whether it’s Anons on blogs here or actual text services or other social media.

Loneliness is a feeling and not a fact. When you are feeling lonely, it is because something has triggered a memory of that feeling, not because you are in fact, isolated and alone. Brains pay attention to pain and danger by design, and that includes painful and scary feelings like loneliness. The downside to that, though, is that your brain is gonna try to logic that loneliness the same way it would try to logic why your finger hurts after burning it or something (and why you shouldn’t do it again). So it’s easy to fall into a line of thinking like: “Why am I feeling this way? Is it because nobody loves me? Am I an awful person? Are they just awful people?” So, that said, it’s important to realize you are lonely but that’s it, and not over react. Know that it’s also okay to feel lonely regardless of your situation.

Reach out. Loneliness is painful and can confuse you into thinking that you are an outcast when you aren’t. Try not to withdraw into yourself — the healthiest thing you can do is reach out. I know places like tumblr get laughed at for being hellsites, but you’d be surprised how many blogs will genuinely listen to you (including me) if you’re in a bad place.

Try to catch and not play into your self depreciating thoughts when they try to weasel their way in, especially if this is a long term problem. Kids will often assume something is wrong with them if they aren’t happy, and it’s easy, as children, to assume other people don’t like them when this is rarely the case. That shit doesn’t go away as you get older, either, and absolutely carries into adulthood. That means that, as an adult, if you are looking for evidence that the world sucks, you’ll be able to find it much more frequently and easily.

Make a plan to fight the mental and emotional habits of loneliness. If you know your loneliness stems from something like a bad habit (e.g. quick to anger and using extremely problematic language over nothing important), work on finding a way to deal with it. As a solution to that example, work on learning to drop the subject and talk about something else or have a group of people you can reach out to that feel the same way and would be willing to listen. Fandoms are considered good for mental health for a reason.

Don’t become completely selfless, but try to focus on the needs and feelings of others, sometimes. It can take your thoughts off your own loneliness, and it doesn’t even have to be direct or something other people would recognize. Like, you’d be surprised how much of a mood boost it can be to do something small like silently wishing people good luck and good fortune when walking in a crowd or before test versus walking with your head down and/or internally brooding. Again, I realize it sounds ridiculous, but it helps when you realize that loneliness is a temporary mindset you’re fighting, not some permanent defect you have.

Be curious, don’t assume groups (like, say, fandoms) won’t accept you if you don’t have the exact same tastes, but don’t expect your personal opinions to be hailed either. If you make yourself present and express curiosity and interest people in these groups and their opinions, you give them attention, and you will, in return, more than likely gain attention and inquiries about yourself back. Expressing curiosity in other people, especially ones who enjoy the same things as you, also takes away your attention from your own loneliness and negative feelings.

Probably the most important thing I can think of: kindness goes such a long way. You have the power to offer kindness to everyone you come into contact with. It isn’t instinctual to be kind to strangers or people who intimidate you (or even annoy you!). But the alternative, being awful to those you don’t know for no real reason/because you feel awful, has a tendency to backfire tremendously (👀). And it’s really just is a good feeling. I could, for example, be an elitist and refuse to answer half (or all) the Anons I get about certain games (particularly Metal Gear) on my main account. But it feels nice to answer questions and encourage curiosity about something I very much enjoy (and, in turn, get more Anons to answer), and I find myself having a great time breaking down things for people.

[dukeofriven]

Let Boys Love Girl Things

For a deeply depressed, angry, and vitriolic bisexual 20-something who stumbled out of a toxic 2-year intensive college program confused as fuck about his gender and hurting everyone around him, it is with no exaggeration that I say My Little Pony: Friendship Is Magic’s low-key stakes, warmth, humour, kindness, and utter lack of cynical irony was my first step on the road not only to recovery but coming even sort of close to having an accord with my identity. So I quite frankly I am exhausted that I have spent nine years being judged on the behaviour of a fandom group from 4chan. Nine years ago there was a gross perpetuation of toxic masculinity where men were ridiculed en-masse for liking a “girl’s show,” a campaign of derision that only intensified as the worst elements of 4chan gave everyone the evidence they seemed to want to justify their snap-judgement that boys liking girls shows was fundamentally weird, gross, and worthy of censure. We like to clap ourselves on the back for how woke we are now. There’s no discourse that says it is “skeevy” that men enjoy She-Ra, and petulant MRAs on Reddit getting upset about the show’s new ‘feminist’ agenda is considered to be representative of nothing other than petulant MRAs on Reddit, not the She-Ra fandom as a whole. Steven Universe is triumphed everywhere as a victory for better masculinity - without anyone ever noting that Steven would love every single moment of My Little Pony: FiM. He’d cry at the wedding, and he’d weep at the destruction of the library, and he’d think the Storm King was an effective villain while Connie rolled her eyes and tried and failed to point-out the weak characterization. Steven would cheer and cry every time a villain was redeemed through the power of love and friendship. Because he’s Steven, and he loves schmaltz, and it’s okay for a boy to like schmaltz. If we truly believe that, as we say we do, it’s time let the habit of shaming boys who liked a cartoon show go. It’s been a decade. Yes: MLP: FiM had a disgusting contingent of its fandom. You know what other franchise has that problem? A little film series you might have heard of called Star Wars. A contingent of Star Wars fandom was so racist it drove actors of colour off of twitter because it piled hate upon them. It was so misogynistic that somebody out there recut the entirety of The Last Jedi so that men save the day and all the women get reduced to bit parts. And yet if I see a Star Wars avatar my first assumption generally isn’t “oh you like Star Wars, so you must therefore be a misogynistic racist.” Because statistically speaking, you aren’t - just like, statistically speaking, the men who liked My Little Pony weren’t 4chan users. Not that most people bothered to find that out, because - shockingly - the worst elements had loud voices and got all the press, and the standard we applied to them was so entrenched in patriarchy that none of us wanted to accept that men could like the girls show without it being some gross violation of the proper order. I’m tired of that. The show’s been on nine years - long enough that kids who grew up watching it are old enough to start entering “The Discourse Space,” and what kind of example do we want to set for them that a show that might have meant so much to them growing up is given a defacto label of deviancy? ”Adult males like this show about the little kiddie ponies - that’s so creepy.” There’s a point I want to make here that I think really needs to be said so I am going to make it large

My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic is a show for children; it is not a show about children.

What do I mean by this? Adventure Time is the story of Finn, a 12-year-old. Steven Universe is a show about Steven Universe, a 12-year-old. Ok K.O. is a show about K.O. a 6-11 year-old. Avatar: The Last Airbender is about a group of kids aged 11-14. She-Ra is a show about Adora who is… 16-ish? 17? And so on.

MLP:FiM is a show about 20-somethings. It’s a show about a grad student, a small business owner, a baker, a farmer, an environmental technician, a… trust fund baby?*... and, later, a former dictator. Yes, there are some kid characters, but the primary cast are all young adults who’ve reached adulthood and found themselves having to learn over and over again all sorts of shit they really ought to have known by now but don’t. It is, in short, a story about Millennials: an entire generation who reached adulthood not knowing what that meant or how to cope. Every time you laugh at the characters and go “how do they not know this [obvious thing that is obvious to adults]” you do so while watching a children’s cartoon rather than paying your taxes because you’re still not sure how to do that properly and are just low-key freaking out about it and hoping the problem goes away on its own. I speak from experience. The list in endless: we might ridicule the ponies ignorance at social graces, but i’ve been on this hellsite long enough that I’m pretty sure most of you are social-anxious neurotics who cock-up just as often and just as spectacularly as any pony on the show.

I’ve grown up in-sync with these characters. I’ve seen them go from floundering at 20 to sorta getting their act together and coming to grips with adult life as they reach 30. I’ve seen them become successful, get new jobs, start new careers. There have been episodes about how to deal with parents who embarrass you, how to get your parents to understand that you’re an adult now and want to be treated that way. There str stories about how to handle deadbeat older brothers who won’t stop mooching off your emotional labour, and how to mourn parents who’ve died. There are also stories about the byzantine nature of school regulation. (If next season is all about Twilight Sparkle reforming the Equestrian tax code it will be entirely in keeping with the adult-life-trend the show has been on for a while.)

My point with all this is that the “liking the kid’s show” narrative is disingenuous in the way it frames fans as creepy. To get tu quoque about it all I could raise my hand and point at all you adults gushing about all these kid protagonists in your favourite cartoon shows and go “Isn’t that CREEPY and GROSS you DEVIANTS” and on and on and on.

But I won’t.

Because it was never really about that, was it? It’s never been about that.

It was, at first, about what it was and wasn’t okay for boys - for men - to like. As a kid who’d been mercilessly bullied for being even the tiniest bit effeminate, openly embracing the fact that I liked this show about the colourful cartoon ponies felt like painting a target on my back. As for the boys younger than me - the boys still in high school in 2010 and 2011 who openly embraced this show? Braver than any US marine. When this all started it was about policing what was ‘appropriate’ for boys - nobody gave the adult Transformers fandom the same kind of shit, I assure you. It was about patriarchy - and how unwilling we all were to let go of it, no matter how progressive we told ourselves we were. Just like any moral panic, it developed a far more disturbing tone of disapprobation because if a handful of fans on 4chan were creepy than surely all the fandom was creepy. I’ve had plenty of fun mail in my inbox as people with cartoon avatars told me my opinion was invalid because I had an avatar from a different cartoon show. If I had an MP avatar that made me a “brony,” which made me a creepy MRA edgelord. Never mind that I don’t even use the term, and haven’t since… well, since the grossest elements of 4chan got it tattooed on their phalluses and trumpeted it to the heavens as the calling card of their misogyny.

There was a moment, I think, back in the halcyon days of 2010 and 2011 where we could have taken this another way. Where, socially, the rise of boys watching ‘the girl’s show’ was treated as a breakthrough, as a paradigm shift, as something to be celebrated and nurtured instead of something to revile like an anti-homosexual PSA from the 1950s. “Can’t let the adult men near that children’s show, who knows what might happen. They might repeat the trends that all fandoms have done for decades upon decades - the horror!”

We could have been better - but we weren’t. We mocked, and clutched our pearls, and looked appalled, and in doing so we fed the trolls all the ammunition they’d ever need to turn themselves into The Poor Oppressed Babies who just wanted to be left alone to watch their ponies and belittle women in peace. So the gender-questioning bi boy trying to feel good about himself got rounded-up with the usual 4chan suspects because we both enjoyed the same television program.

Patriarchy is not an external force with its boot upon our necks: it is a collaborative social effort, reinforced both consciously and sub-consciously every day. The internet of the early 2010s was a very different place, and the decisions we made then still live with us today. If we want to stop the perpetuation of toxic masculinity, we have to ourselves cease to perpetuate it. There’s an entire generation of queer boys and non-binary boys and non-bro cis-boys - the kind who cry and care and give a shit about kindness - who have grown up on Steven Universe and Adventure Time and yes, My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic. These are boys who deserve to have a better place prepared for them than I had, one that isn’t still littered by the baggage of all the dumb stupid crap from 2010 and 2011.

It’s time to let the ghost of Toxic 4chan Fandoms Past go already, and let this show about cartoon ponies be free to entertain and delight without incurring a moral inquisition. Life is so bad right now, the news is so dire. Curl up with My Little pony: Friendship is Magic and let all its goodness, and kindness, and laughter, and caring carry you away and remind you that we can still tell stories about worlds in which those virtues are treasured. Let the show stand on its actual merits, and not the cultural lodestones of long-gone reprobates. And stop granting the phantoms of 4chan the power to say anything meaningful in 2019.

_________________ *Serious question: what does Fluttershy do for a living? Like, as her job? For most of the series? She’s the only one who doesn’t have a meaningful career, and after meeting her enabling parents you just know she’s been living off pre-existing savings for years (she’s thrifty like that).

[Note: this post was originally posted in this thread. It has since been re-edited and slightly modified.]

[tartareus]

No offense, but maybe you should pick a younger fc for your Misha.You keep acting like she's going to be the next Hannibal, but she's not. Stop trying so hard, she's just his little sister.

+ Again, I’m not trying to be mean. Just saying, you’d be better off focusing on her character instead of turning her into your oc

i’m…i’m not even sure how to reply to this ??? you clearly haven’t been around here for long, have you, mate ???

i, being the pragmatic bitch that i am, will tackle these asks in topics, one by one, according to the things that bothered me…this is the first ( and last ) time i will bother answering asks like this so buckle up, pay attention bc  i’ll try to be as civil as i can…

“” no offense but - “”

uhh, you do realise that by starting like that chances are that i will be offended ? right ?? bc guess what ? this cursed phrase is used, most of the times, to ease down something offensive that follows soon after ? so, no. full offense taken here .

“ maybe you should pick a younger fc ”

ah, there it is. sorry, bruv. forgot that face claims that are older 30 are forbidden here on this hellsite ! how could i forget ?? pfft, pls, harold, if you wanna complain about face claim choices so much, you go to ofconfession’s fc wank tag, not here. and take your ageist crap with you while you’re there, i accept none of that in MY blog.i am led to believe that you have no idea whatsoever of the book canon, so it’s safe to assume you’re probably one of the new kids who only knows the series canon… nothing wrong with that ( i myself loved the series ) but…. my mischa is and always will be primarily book based !! she just happens to fit in both universes of the movies and series, but the books are the main influence here. period.those who have read the books might remember that harris wrote that hannibal ( i think this is in the prologue of hannibal rising, correct me if im wrong ) altered dates to confound the authorities and his biographers or something like that.  if i well recall, hannibal was around 8 to 9 y/o at the time their family was attacked, and mischa was 4 y/o. which….is not much of a big difference here, if you ask me… but then again, who is to say any of thatis true ? or false ?  as far as i can see, hannibal could be lying about pretty much everything and we wouldn’t even know. which is why i took the liberty to pick a face claim i felt most comfortable with ( not that i have to explain myself to anyone, mind you ) and that was able to fit various universes of the franchise easily. not to mention, i took in consideration the fact that most of the hannibal fandom here is deeply involved with the series, and mads is danish —— i was mindful to pick a dane fc to keep it somewhat plausible, even if it is an underused fc with little to no resources.as of now, when i’m writing this reply, mads mikkelsen is 53 y/o while my fc for mischa, sidse babett knudsen, is 50 y/o. it is a smaller gap than the book canon, but still is far more plausible story/plot wise than picking a 20 smth y/o to be his sister… at least to me, it is.

“ you keep acting like she’s going to be the next Hannibal, but she’s not ” \ “you’d be better off focusing on her character instead of turning her into your oc”

you damn right, shes not ! please, tell me where did i say on my blog that i wanted her to be a female version of hannibal ???? i never said any of that, honey. i’m sorry if you havent got the idea right, but the mischa you find on MY blog is MY version of thomas harris character that was so underdeveloped that the fandomTM thought it was okay to paint her as an innocent little doe should she have survived. i’m sorry if triggers you the fact that i piss on hive minded headcanons. i have said this countless times, i do not agree with this idea. i have also said countless times that my blog is NOT A PLACE FOR MINORS/KIDS. TRIGGERING SHIT WILL BE PRESENT HERE, if you’re not okay with that please leave…? MY mischa is a problematic person, yes. she is toxic and potentially dangerous to other characters and, whilst she is not devoid of feelings and emotions, her empathy is pretty damn low. i do not write her as a serial killer per se, although she has killed more than once these times were isolated cases && she used completely different methods. i have yet to write the complete headcanon on her mental health to give more details… but one thing is certain, she is not a cannibal. she does not even eat meat !also…what the hell is wrong with ocs ???? i love them. mischa’s ‘character’ as you put here was so terribly underdeveloped that the little about her that we know is nothing, certainly not enough to write her. i had to fill her bio with AU headcanons, considering that she belongs to a book au where she survived.  all we know of her from the books was that she loved the colour purple, called hannibal “ anniba! ” and liked bubbles…all that you can still find on my portrayal so….i dont see your point here ???? people should be free to write a character how they please, regardless of the fandom’s idea/opinion.

[iampikachuhearmeroar]

y’know i love memes as much as anyone else on this hellsite and the internet in general. but one meme i can’t stand now, as well as a joke used by older comedians about ~kids today!!!! am i right???~ that i can’t stand now, is the one that’s like “all 10 year olds want today is an iphone or an ipad or a macbook for their birthday or christmas! all i got for my 10th birthday/christmas as a kid was a tennis racquet and a tether ball that hit me in the face! kids are so spoilt today! you better get an i-job to i-pay for your spoilt mac-ass!”

because like.... do you not understand that in today’s increasingly over-connected world, ipads and macbooks or other tablets/laptops are pretty much required school equipment now, if your 10yo kid’s primary/elementary etc school has a ~bring your own device~ policy for kids in years 4-6??? like obviously yes, some schools will provide students with laptop/tablet trolleys and stuff.... or also the government might have a program to roll out laptops/tablets to schools (like australia did under rudd and gillard).... that some schools will literally put “parents must get a reliable tablet computer or laptop computer for their child to use for assignments”. when it comes to high school, i imagine that they’ll need their own laptop/tablet the whole way through their time there, if there is no longer any school provided or limited school provided laptops/desktop computers/tablets.

that’s besides the point that laptops etc are even more so required now than ever before, after everyone was forced to do homeschooling because of covid??? so. practically. a kid asking for a macbook/ipad or other tablets/laptops for their birthday or christmas, isn’t such a bad idea for a present??? even if yeah. apple is overrated and overpriced to the max. but suck it up and pay for your child’s future education??? even it means getting a cheaper laptop or tablet for your kid.

all i can say on the above point is that yes. the idea of ~bring your own device~ policies does set many families back- especially those in/from lower income areas/backgrounds or single parent families... considering that a decent tablet will set you back at least $500 and a decent mini laptop is around the same.... but bigger and better laptops are around $1000 on sale (windows) or idek like $1,200 on an apple education pricing deal. like yeah. it’s a demarcation thing and also setting some people up to fail. and again, this has been made increasingly obvious during covid due to different families acces to buying laptops/tablets or other internet connection means. i also understand that these big ticket item purchases of tablets/laptops hits the hip pockets of everyone harder during the pandemic, especially if you’re struggling with debt like mortgage repayments or whatever while being made redundant or are being paid less while working from home.

okay. not to sound like a spoilt brat of a kid, but i got my first laptop, an i-book G4 for my 10th birthday in 2005. then almost 10 years later, i got a macbook for my 18th birthday (and for my HSC/end of high school exams) in 2013. yes, this is the macbook that i promptly fucked up two years later in 2015, by trying to encrypt the hard drive, since i was taking it to uni and it had all my internet passwords remembered on it along with my banking details. the same goes for my other windows laptop... where the hard drive just decided to fry itself like 4 months into me using it, along with the trackpad. and that was a $1,200 ASUS laptop (bought on sale) that i was using for uni. and then finally my little HP stream laptop’s keyboard shorted out halfway through a creative writing class (that was $500 and it only has a 28gb hard drive so it’s very light and good for transport).

but my point is, me having my own laptop (as opposed to using the family computer only) helped me immensely in my studies..... and they were literally fucking essential to me both in business college and uni. but they were also helpful in late high school, considering that 90% of my assignment work was expected to be typed out in microsoft word or powerpoint or excel (for maths and science). or for more creative projects, i was expected to use adobe photoshop and video editing software like imovie or adobe premiere pro (art/computer tech/drama/that weird year 7 subject i did called INTEL) and garageband/sibelius (for music). how on earth was i supposed to keep doing work on adobe photoshop or word etc at home if i didn’t have my own laptop to continue the work???

because as a final point, for me, literally by year 10 in 2011, NOT ONE of my assignments was expected to be handwritten (bar my actual exams or in class tests; also state tests/exams etc; or if it was a poster or visual art). if you dared to turn in something handwritten, the teacher and student interaction would be like the following example:

teacher to a kid whose handed in a handwritten assignment: did you not read the assessment outline? it said WORD PROCESSED WITH WORD! what is this handwritten thing? okay fine. i’ll take it this time. but read the outline next time, timothy!

timothy: *stammers out* s-sorry miss/s-sorry sir *stalks away from the teacher’s desk in embarrassment and shame*

the teacher, probs thinking to themself: weird that a kid thinks they can hand in something handwritten. silly, really.

the above scenario was the same for me in years 11 & 12. also, by year 9/2010, we were using the education management system moodle (and maybe early stage presi for online presentations) for both of our HSIE subjects (history and geography) and i think a couple of other subjects, during most lessons and especially for class work that involved group work/class discussions, via online discussion boards function. my year group was actually was actually one of the test year groups for the early models of moodle. so by the time i was in uni, i was a native to using moodle; so i could skip the “moodle help tutorial” subject portions on it in every class.

hell, for today, i wouldn’t be surprised if foreign language subject faculties in high schools are now using school subscription class accounts or something for duolingo or babbel. and today, kids are learning coding from like year 4 onwards, i think, on apps at school as part of their science & tech studies lesson portion of the day. how on fucking earth are kids meant to keep up with their class work progression on coding apps or whatever, at home, if they don’t have their own laptop/tablet??? ridiculous. how would kids fare today without their own laptop/tablet, if all of their classwork for homeschooling is on like google drive/cloud or whatever other open source drive/open source cloud software their school uses?? or any other apps that their school might use??? obviously we are seeing this play out in real time during the pandemic, world over, where if a child is in a single parent family or if their two parents don’t have adequate enough resources/have been fired or let go from their jobs/juggling working from home and homeschooling; then it’s hurting these kids likelihood of doing well with distance learning.

but yeah. my point is that if your kid is asking you for a laptop or a tablet (regardless of brand) for their birthday or christmas, maybe buy them one?? because you never know. it may be the very thing at the top of their student resource list for the following school year. and also. do you know what stops kids fighting over their access to the family computer/tablet to do their assessments etc??? buying them their own personal laptops or tablets. even if they do cost an arm and a fucking leg. get your heads out of your asses and help your own goddamned kids (or relatives if it’s a nephew/niece etc asking for one) like you’re supposed to.

okay. for phones. i’ll admit i wouldn’t like a 10 year old having their own phone, because of social media being so easy to access on them. but if you don’t allow them to use the app store and don’t allow them to download instagram/facebook et al..... and give them the phone solely for safety reasons, i think that’s fine?

i’ve had a phone since i was 10 years old. also not to sound awfully clichè, but i turned out okay??? i had to have a phone back in year 4/2005 due to safety and also family issues. do you know what my teachers did with it? locked it away in their desk til the end of the day. obvs they had to remind me to take it home sometimes (bc i did leave it behind at school in the desk a few times lmao) but yeah. i was alright. if a kid wants a phone..... maybe make a compromise and get the classic nokia 3310 or something?? like i obvs agree that kids as young as 10 defs don’t need a smartphone like an iphone or a samsung galaxy. but a rock solid and basic nokia 3310 or whatever with no wifi access??? that’s good enough imo.

[ghostea]

I was tagged by the fantastic @lobsterquadriille  thanks!

The Last: 1. Drink: Hot cocoa 2. Phone Call: My dad 3. Text Message: My best friend Ray 4. Song You Listened To: Mr. Fear - Siames 5. Time You Cried: Thursday last week, it was results day

Have You: 6. Dated Someone Twice: No 7. Kissed Someone And Regretted It: Nope 8. Been Cheated On: Yes 9. Lost Someone Special: Yes 10. Been Depressed: Yes 11. Gotten Drunk And Thrown Up: No

List 3 Favourite Colours: Purple Green Blue

In The Last Year, Have You: 15. Made New Friends: Yes (on this hellsite in fact) 16. Fallen Out Of Love: No 17. Laughed Until You Cried: Yep (my uncle showed me a vine that for some reason I was in hysterics over) 18. Found Out Someone Was Talking About You: Well other than my family being pretty gossipy my 'friends' are known for doing that, so yes 19. Met Someone Who Changed You: No 20. Kissed Someone On Your FB List: No

General: 21. How Many Facebook Friends Do You Know In Real Life: All but one and I haven't used it since around Christmas time 22. Do You Have Any Pets: I have two cats! Sir Jelly of Bean and Tortoise! 23. Do You Want To Change Your Name: Not legally I don't think so, but I have another name I wouldn't mind a few people I know using considering a few things I've figured out 24. What Did You Do For Your Last Birthday?: (funnily enough '24' is the day of my birthday) I bunked off school with my mum and went ice skating and then we had lunch together at wagamamas 25. What Time Did You Get Up: 10am (had a movie night with ray so we were passed tf out) 26. What Were You Doing At Midnight Last Night: Infodumping about DC as I practically forced Ray to watch Lego Batman (I LOVE THIS FILM) and Suicide Squad (not a huge fan) with me 27. Name Something You Can't Wait For: Death!! Joking, uhhh,,,, having fans of my work when I finally get it published! 28. When Was The Last Time You Saw Your Mum: like half an hour ago 29. What Is The One Thing You Wish You Could Change In Your Life: I wish I had had a happy school life which meant I wouldn't have the bs issues I have now 30. What Are You Listening To Right Now: Some trap and bass trip-hop... thing 31. Have You Ever Talked To A Person Named Tom: Yeah, Tom is a popular name here 32. Something That Is Getting On Your Nerves: My. Very. Loud. Neighbours. 33. Most Visited Website: Google docs 34. Mole/s: I have one right above my right hip on my front and one on the left side of my neck 35. Mark/s: I have some scars on my wrists (I was a twat and broke it and it caused some scarring), I have a birthmark that looks kind of like a slight distorted Iceland above my bellybutton, and a lot of freckles. 36. Childhood Dream: To be a marine biologist (basically I wanted to get on a boat and go far away from here) 37. Hair Colour: Naturally; ginger. Currently; 'mermaid' (blues, purples, greens and pinks). 38. Long Or Short Hair: Long. I need to get it trimmed again. 39. Do You Have A Crush On Someone: Other than Wonder Woman and Poison Ivy?? Not particularly 40. What Do You Like About Yourself: My eyes looks great, especially when I put mascara on 41. Piercings: both lobes and a cartilage on my left ear 42. Blood Type: Tasty! (vampire and werewolf community please interact) 43. Nicknames: Other than affectionate ones my family give me my best friend calls me bromeo 44. Relationship Status: Single 45. Zodiac: Western; Taurus. Eastern; Rabbit. 46. Pronouns: Confused atm so she/her and they/them please 47. Favourite TV Show/s: Gotham (even if it can be pretty trash I can still enjoy it, tho tbh I've only just finished season 2), BTAS (who doesn't love cartoons?), Dirk Gently's Holistic Detective Agency, and Stranger Things 48. Tattoos: None 49. Right Or Left Handed: Left 50. Surgery: None 51. Hair Dyed A Different Colour: 'Mermaid' 52. Sports: None that I do but I enjoy watching figure skating, ice hockey and snow boarding, oh! And I love surfing! 53. Vacation: Lapland, France, Spain, Germany and Belgium 54. Shoes: I have three pairs of shoes. Running, canvas and boots. 55. Eating: I could kill for some spicy rice crackers rn 56. Drinking: coke, hot cocoa, orange juice or lemonade (or I mix in the orange juice and lemonade together which is nice) 57. I'm About To: Hopefully start my first year at uni! 58. Waiting For: To feel confident enough to try and get my work published 59. Want: a god damn job please 60. Get Married: If I met the right person I don't think I would mind but that's to think about when I'm in my 30's or something I guess 61. Career: I am a writer and a comic book creator!

Which Is Better: 62: Hugs Or Kisses: Hugs 63. Lips Or Eyes: Eyes 64. Shorter Or Taller: Taller means I get to be the short person for the hugs :D 65. Older Or Younger: Bc none of these have context I'm getting a little confused 66. Nice Arms Or Nice Stomach: Arms, if they are strong they can pick me up and launch me out of a window 67. Sensitive Or Loud: I think this means person and I am the sensitive one and most of my friends are loud which stresses me tf out a lot so sensitive?? idk 68. Hook Up Or Relationship: Friendship! 69. Troublemaker Or Hesitant: I am hesitant so maybe a dash of troublemaker would be good

Have You Ever: 70. Kissed A Stranger: No 71. Drank Hard Liquor: No 72. Lost Glasses/Contact Lenses: Don't wear them 73. Turned Someone Down: Yep 74. Sex On The First Date: Not for me thanks 75. Broken Someone's Heart: idk?? I think so?? 76. Have You Had Your Heart Broken: Yes 77. Been Arrested: Nope 78. Fallen For A Friend: Yep

Do You Believe In: 80. Yourself: It's a love-hate relationship so sometimes 81. Miracles: Maybe 82. Love At First Sight: No 83. Father Christmas: Not really 84. Kiss On The First Date: Depends I guess?? I like to really know a person before I think about kissing them

Other: 85. Current Best Friend: His name is Ray 86. Eye Colour: Blue/Grey depending 87. Favourite Movie: Currently it's Lego Batman

I tag @spider-streak @fetacheeseandsoup @riddlcr and @scxrecrows

[kari-izumi]

That qualifies as one major exception--I'm pretty sure I can guess the fandom and given the time frame you mentioned, there was a lot of... naivety about the dangers of glorification, the effects of which have become a part of everyday life now (*sigh*) Not that it's any excuse. :|

With that said, the vast majority of fandom toxicity usually revolves around shipping or cults of personality surrounding a given character. Even in Yu-Gi-Oh, which is hands down the most mellow fandom I've ever been apart of, even during it's peak of popularity, fandom is to this day split over whether Kaiba is a truly good guy or not or how much his trauma as a child should be used to forgive his sins and it's about the only think that brings claws out.

On that end, no, I don't think anyone is obligated to defend or acknowledge their faves or their flaws day in and day out to people who have made up their minds about said character/ship. Because it *does* get tiring and 90 percent of the time it's futile. The only obligation is tagging for triggers and anyone looking to be offended at that point deserves what they get.

As was mentioned above, we as a collective fandom should speak up against fans being attacked for no reason, but there's nothing inherently wrong with staying out if, like so many people I've met since coming onto this platform, such discourse does cause legitimate stress.

I started a discourse blog not to become a pro-shipper voice in the void (which sorta happened by design) but because I had more than one mutural who told me seeing anti posts about how they're dirty sinners triggered them as former church goers. Should they be expected to speak up at the expense of their mental health?

As I found out the more time I spent on this hellsite, I found my muturals were far from unique. This site is full of CSA survivors; those with DID; those who grew up with abuse of other kinds who may use fandom as their escape and man not want to constantly explain to entitlement brats that a teenager who is clearly well past puberty having a unrequited crush is not anywhere near the realm of abuse. Neither is a short underdeveloped teen/adult dating a guy their own age considered pedophilic. I mean, I grew up with garden variety mom manipulation and being her designated therapist cuz Oldest Daughter(tm) and I'm tired for them.

I am 100 percent behind your sentiment here, BTW. I'm a fandom old who's pretty battle worn and who's done her fair share of fandom bullying at the encouragement of other, older fans, which is exactly why I speak out against the anti movement and the way people on this site toss around terms like "pedo" around as though they're beads at Mardi Gras.

But I know not everyone has my endurance, and that's okay. I take breaks, as I've often had to do from the news in general over the last two years. I'm black, but I don't repost and reblog every video of black injustice for that very reason. Because it's tiresome. And while I know this wasn't your intention, I'm sick of all the onus being on us to teach people to be decent human beings instead of people taking some initialrive to realize why their behavior is trash. Such as the example you mentioned. Even in 2009, we should've been known cosplaying as Nazis at a Holocaust memorial was not okay or acceptable.

“We as a fandom have to talk about-” No. No we don’t. You can talk about it if you want to. That’s fine, if that’s how you fandom then go for it. I hope it works out for you because I want you to enjoy your fandom experience. But if I’m in fandom for reasons that’s counter to, then I have no obligation to talk about it. I don’t have to talk about anything except what I want to.

“Okay but you have to talk about your fave’s flaws-” No! No I don’t! I have to be able to acknowledge those flaws when they come up. I have to be able to admit that my character has flaws, and accept when others talk about those flaws. But I don’t have to talk about them if I don’t want to. If I want to only focus on the better aspects of my fave, even if that means just shallowly talking about how hot they are, I can. That’s my choice, that’s how I’ve decided to enjoy them.

Fandom is meant to be fun. Fandom is meant to be a hobby. I don’t have to talk about any aspect of my favorite story or ship or character or writer or anything if I don’t want to. You know what’s not fun? Having to talk about the ways my favorite thing is bad every time I want to talk about it. Having to point out my favorite thing’s flaws instead of the things that makes me enjoy it. Having to disclaim before I get to sing something’s praises because “yeah I know it’s shit BUT”. No. I can know something is bad without needing to talk about it.

[redvelvetnerd]

ALL!! or at least as many as you feel like answering

1. You woke up naked next to the last person you texted, what would you say?

I would scream in horror.

2. What’s going on between you and the last person you kissed?

We’re cool. A lot has happened between us but now we are Good Friends.

3. If your boyfriend or girlfriend was into drugs, would you care?

Given my personal history, absolutely.

4. Is your last name longer than six letters?

Fam, I have a Polish last name. Of course it is.

5. Was your last kiss drunk or sober?

Sober 100%

6. Have you ever wanted to have someone but you messed it up?

Nope!

7. What does your last received text say?

“I knew you would”

8. How many times have you kissed the last person you kissed?

Many times.

9. Where was your last kiss at?

In front of the dude’s car.

10. When is the last time you saw your sister?

She’s in the room with me right now.

11. What do you drink in the morning?

Water

12. Where did you sleep last night?

My bed.

13. Do you think relationships are hard?

Not necessarily hard, but if you think they’re effortless, you’re doing it wrong.

14. If you could go back and change something in the past 5 months, would you?

Without a doubt.

15. You’re locked in a room with the last person you kissed, any problems?

None!

16. Would you rather it be sunny or rainy?

Sunny! I love the sunshine.

17. Do you know anyone with the same middle name as you?

I have two middle names. I’ve met one person with one of them.

18. Are you wearing jeans,sweatpants,or pajama pants?

Jeans currently.

19. Do you think you will be in a relationship 3 years from now?

I hope so…

20. Does anyone like you?

Yep. Multiple people actually.

21. Have you ever kissed someone with a name that starts with an S?

Nope.

22. Is the last person you kissed gay?

Nope.

23. Is there a person you CANNOT stand?

Oh yes. A few.

24. Have you ever considered getting a tattoo?

Yes but I don’t have the pain tolerance for it.

25. In the past week have you cried?

Well earlier today I got teary-eyed at a video, does that count?

26. What breed was the last dog you saw?

IT WAS A SHIBA THAT CAME IN THE DRIVETHRU AT WORK OMG

27. Do you dry off in the shower or out of the shower?

In the shower I believe.

28. Have you ever kissed a football player?

Nope!

29. Do you think you’re old?

It sure does feel like it sometimes but I know I’m not.

30. Do you like text messaging?

Yes but I prefer face-to-face.

31. What type of day are you having?

A lazy one. Cleaned a bit, filled out scholarship applications, but other than that, not too much lmao.

32. Have you ever thought about getting your nose pierced?

Nope.

33. Do you prefer warm or cold weather?

Warm weather because I do not cold well.

34. Is there a person of the opposite sex who means a lot to you?

Yeahhhh.

35. Would you prefer a relationship or a fling?

I’d like a relationship. I need some type of commitment at some point.

36. Are you a simple or complicated person?

SO COMPLICATED.

37. What song are you listening to?

Nothing

38. When you say you’re sorry do you mean it?

I never say it unless I mean it.

39. Is there a girl that knows everything or almost everything about you?

Quite a few actually.

40. What made you start liking the person you like now?

His kindness definitely.

41. When did you last receive a text message?

10 minutes ago from my cousin.

42. What is wrong with you right now?

mANY THINGS FRIENDO WHERE SHOULD I START

43. How well do you know the last female you texted?

Pretty well, I’d say. One of my best friends

44. Does anyone disgust you?

No one comes to mind

45. Would you date someone right now if they asked?

Depends. Who is it?

46. Are you in a good mood right now?

I’d say so.

47. Who was the last person you talked to in person?

Does my cat count? If not, my sister, as I complained about the cat.

48. What color shirt are you wearing?

White

49. Has someone recently told you something you didn’t want to hear?

Recently? no.51. Do you hate the person you fell hardest for?

I don’t really hate anyone anymore so no.53. Do you like rain?

For a lazy day when I have nothing to do, sure.

54. Do you care if your boyfriend/girlfriend drinks?

Casually, no, but if it became a problem of course I would.

55. Have you ever liked somebody and never told them?

Oh absolutely.

56. Do you like to cuddle?

Every once in a while but not all the time.

57. Are you shy?

hell freakin yeah.

58. Do you get along with girls?

Yep! Some of my best friends are girls.

59. Have you dated the person you texted last?

HELL NAH I’M NOT TRYNA DATE MY COUSIN

60. What do you carry with you at all times?

My phone, debit card, and college ID card.

61. If you were paid 1 million dollars to spend the night in a supposed haunted house, would you?

Of course! I’m a broke college kid, I’d do most anything for a million dollars.

62. Do you think you can last in a relationship for five months?

I’d like to think so.

63. Think back to October, were you in a relationship?

Nah lmao

64. The person you like kisses you on the forehead, do you find this cute?

Of course!!

65. Did anything “cute” happen in the last week?

My kitten happened. He’s pretty cute, though quite the troublemaker.

66. How old are the last three people you kissed?

I have kissed a whopping one person and he is 21.

67. Would you rather pay to get your nails done or do them yourself?

Pay someone because Lord knows they’ll do a better job than me.   68. Which do you like better- Zebra print or leopard print?   

I hate both tbh.

69. Do you have any stickers on your car?

I’d need a car for that.

70. Would you rather listen to Luke Bryan or Lil Wayne?   

Not a big fan of rap unless it’s ITH or Hamilton so Luke Bryan

71. Blackberry, Anroid, or iPhone?

iPhone all the way man.   72. When’s the last time you had pizza from Pizza Hut? 

I can’t even remember. I live in New York man. I don’t need no stinkin Pizza Hut.  73. Do you like diet soda?   

Hell nah. It tastes weird and is worse for you than regular soda.

74. What color are the walls in your room?   

Teal. My sister picked it out.

75. Are you 16 or older?   

I am 18

76. Do you watch Pretty Little Liars?  

I do not. 77. Do you have a job? 

I work at Chick-fil-A   78. What are your initials?   

KMJP

79. Did you ever have braces?   

Nope!

80. Are you from the south?   

South shore of Long Island lmao

81. What does your last status on facebook say?   

Something about my kitten seeing himself on camera and swatting at it.

82. Do you still talk to the first person you ever kissed?   

Yep! Was just talking to him before.

83. Are you closer to your mom or your dad?   

My mom, considering my dad is not alive.

84. Have you ever done cheerleading or gymnastics?   

Gymnastics when I was like 6 but I didn’t like it.

85. What’s the last movie you saw in theaters?   

Lmaoooo I don’t even remember. I hardly go to the movies.

86. Do you smoke?   

Hell no. Do I look like I want cancer?

87. Would you rather wear heels or flip flops?   

Flip flops because I am super clumsy and can’t walk in heels.

88. Is your phone touch screen?   

Whose isn’t at this point?

89. Do you normally wear your hair straight or curly?   

I wear it naturally which is somewhere in between.

90. Have you ever snuck out of your house?   

Nope.

91. Would you rather swim in a river, lake, or pool?    

YES.

92. Have you ever made out in a car?   

Nope.

93. …Had sex in a car?   

No and I’ve heard it’s not a good experience.

94. Are you single or in a relationship?   

Single pringle

95. What were you doing last night at midnight?   

Probably scrolling through this blue hellsite.

96. When’s the last time you saw fireworks?   

Last week when it turned 2017! Some people down the block set them off.

97. Do you like the camera on your phone?    

I do! I think it’s a good one.

99. Have you ever passed out from drinking?

Nope!      102. Name your favorite Kesha song:

Don’t have one.   103. Do you have any tan lines right now?   

Nah it’s January. Six months ago, sure.

104. Would you ever wear cowboy boots with shorts?   

NAH. Why would I own cowboy boots?

That took a LONG ASS TIME but there you go.

[tartareus]

RULES

the blog:

here you will find my rules; please make sure you read them. should any doubts arise, don’t hesitate to hmu and ask about them.

I.  this is an independent multifandom multimuse roleplaying blog for various muses from many franchises. as stated pretty much everywhere in this blog, my interpretation of my muses is mine alone; although i try to keep it as close to the canon source material as i possibly can, there will be cases in which i will diverge from it &&  take a whole new turn with the characters, hence why it is mandatory that you read each file.

     I.I.  please, do not reblog my headcanons/solos/metas. as much as i love seeing how people might like them, they are not for public use.      I.II.  i simply love duplicates ! i try to consider them as friends, however i will never push an interaction with someone; that being said, if you are a duplicate of any of my characters, let me know if you are down to interact with my version of the character, the possibilities are endless and i cannot wait to interact with you.

II. the standard roleplaying etiquette applies to this blog — basically? don’t be a jerk. hate, godmodding, forced ships, ooc drama and other shit like that are highly frowned upon here. 

    II.I. i acknowledge that i may write dark/toxic topics every now and then, and i try my best to do so as respectfully as i can. please, if something ( anything ) on my blog triggers you/disgusts you/annoys you/makes you uncomfortable let me know and i will create a special tag so you can easily block it.     II.II. i have received hate for writing fictional things that are deemed as dark and i will not stand for it any longer. i am extremely shy but  i will always  prefer to talk in private rather than vague post about someone, it is only fair i receive the same courtesy.

the mun: 

you can call me nox, short for noxtromun. i used to go by another pen name that i no longer feel it suits me. although i was born ( and usually identify myself as ) female, i prefer they/them pronouns. i have been roleplaying for over 7 years and as of now i am in my early 20s and live on the countryside of brazil. that being said, if you are a fellow brazilian/portuguese speaker and want to write in portuguese with me, hmu --- i will be delighted.

III.  be aware that  usually do not interact too much oocly  — i’m a mun with social anxiety and it’s really hard for me to connect with people, no matter how much i want to, both irl and online. if, for whatever reason you might have, you want to know more about the queer behind this blog, please check my author’s note page.

   III.I. also, for personal reasons that i’d rather not say, certain plots i will only roleplay with close friends of mine; people i trust and that i care for. the point is, all you need to know about me, check the mun page.

IV. i try to tag everything — really. triggering themes WILL be found here and shall be tagges as “ tw; triggering example” and nsfw will be tagged as “ nsfw ” so you can easily blacklist these tags and not see them. if you’d like me to tag smth for you, feel free to approach me via IMs or ASK.

V. unless asked otherwise, all asks will be published. if you’re messaging me for plots, i encourage you to do so via IMs.

shipping && smut: 

as most people here, i too enjoy some shipping and, occasionally, smut. if you are interested in shipping with me please, respect these rules and be honest, contrary to most people i do not mind if someone approaches me for  a ship; just keep in mind some character development will be necessary.

VI.  i am a ship hoarder— HONESTLY ! but that doesn’t mean this blog focuses only on that. chemistry is your best friend.     VI. I. most of my muses are either bi or pan  — ‘boundaries’ of gender are nothing here       VI. I.II.  however, when a charater is listed as gay/lesbian or straight, please respect that. do not push a ship on me.        VI. I.III. although most muses are of age, some are not and therefore shipping will most likely to happen in their older verses — that are in fact my default ones so yeah.   VI. II. if you want to ship our muses, please, don’t hesitate to ask. i probably want too.       VI. II.I.  feel free to send me a shippy meme — even if we haven’t written before. i love memes, do send them. 

VII. if you feel uncomfortable/troubled with fictional  incestuous /  consanguinamory / toxic and/or unhealthy ships then this might not the right blog for you.    VII. I. i acknowledge that by writing such relationships i may trigger some people, so here’s your warning. LET IT BE KNOWN that i, by NO MEANS condone such things irl  — i just am an adult that is very capable of separating fiction from reality.     VII. I.II.  as a general rule of this blog, i encourage you to unfollow/block me if whatever fictional work here offends you; basically, IF YOU DON’T LIKE A CERTAIN CONTENT, DO NOT CONSUME IT. 

VIII. it should go without saying but no, NO SMUT WILL BE ROLEPLAYED WITH MUNS / MUSES THAT ARE UNDERAGE. pls, don’t lie about your age, i’ll be mad af.   VIII. I. no, there are NO exceptions of this rule.

interactions, formatting edits && speed:

as most of you, i have a life outside this hellsite. that being said, do not expect me to be around everyday,all day, 24/7. roleplay is a hobbie, not a job or an obligation, keep this in mind.

IX. i am SUPER friendly — honestly. i’m just too shy. please, don’t ever feel anxious before approaching me ( ic or ooc ) interacting with me is easy ; i’m here to have fuN.   IX. I.  yes, if you’re an oc i’ll rp with you, i love ocs / mumus / female muses. come @ me and lemme love you ; but only if you provide enough information about your muse/s.   IX. II.   i don’t care much about formatting - all i do is lowercase, small font and icons i made - but if you do, fine! as long as i can read it, i’m cool with anything.

X. i am an extremely SLOW REPLIER; i’m sorry, but i promise i’ll be on as much as i can. i’ll never pressure you to reply and expect you to return the favour. if i ever need to drop a thread, i’ll IM you. every now and then, i like to make edits and sometimes i am not in the mood for writing.

extras:

i make my own icons, using the lovely psds of @kingsleigh and border. some of my edits are ok to reblog, others are not, i will always let you know if thats the case.