#combined w the fact that i DID lie to her a lot mostly to protect myself

[moodr1ng]

like prev post is one example i happen to be talking about for once but ig what i mean is like. every little small inconsequential thing that my mind could turn into "you look suspicious right now", that i could possibly suspect means someone thinks poorly of me (w no evidence of that whatsoever), that i can possibly twist into somehow being about how Everyone Secretly Hates Me And Thinks Im A Liar And A Fraud, i will. the most minor things. every day of my life. i am plagued by a constant fear that everyone thinks im always lying, that everyone is always suspecting me of Something, all the time.

every time i go to the pharmacy to pick up my completely normal mental health medications i think "the pharmacist thinks im a malingerer whos faking mental illness to try and get drugs". when they ask "thats two boxes right?" im terrified of saying "yes", even though yeah, my prescription is for two boxes of these meds, bc if i say "yes, give me two boxes and not one", its gonna be confirmation that im a liar whos just trying to get more meds. even though thats. literally just what im prescribed.

its like that about everything. i have to overperform truthfulness at all times, because just knowing im telling the truth isnt enough, i also have to convince everyone else that im telling the truth, all the time, because Everyone Always Thinks Im A Liar in my mind. if i, like, tell a friend on discord "going to bed now!" and then while getting ready for bed i make one last post on tumblr like 5 minutes later i think "my friend is gonna see this and think i lied about going to bed and that i was trying to avoid them on purpose because im a bad friend". if i tell someone about a condition i have i assume they doubt i actually have it and think im lying for attention. if i tell people im bigender and they react with total acceptance i think "theyre actually thinking im obviously just a binary man who is lying about being bigender so i can intrude upon women in some way, but they cant say it bc they dont want to look transphobic". if i tell people about abuse i suffered as a child and they react with horror and compassion i think "theyre thinking im making it up or exaggerating so i can get pity, theyre just forced to pretend they believe me to not be rude". if im having a mental health episode and someone is concerned about my well being i think "they think im doing this on purpose and putting on a show to force them to take care of me". and if i try to tell my therapist about symptoms im experiencing i think "he thinks literally everything i say about my mental health is a lie i tell so i can get on disability and get meds, so i have to hide part of my symptoms from him because the less i tell the less suspicious i am". i literally cant discuss this very belief w my therapist because i am convinced that if i told him "im constantly terrified that everyone, including you, thinks im lying about everything so i can get attention or some other benefit" he would think "ah, my liar patient is claiming that hes afraid of being seen as a liar to throw me off his scent. this is actually more proof that hes lying, hes laying down the precedent that hes not a liar in order to cover further lies".

all the time. all the time. and i cant make it stop. and i cant talk about it because i think anyone i tell about this is going to think "ah, yes, The Liar is insisting shes not a liar, which only a liar would do". i literally think anyone reading this very post is going to think "youre talking about this too much, youre trying too hard to come off as truthful, obviously youre trying to cover up your lies, in fact this very post proves you do lie about being mentally ill and abused and you lie to your therapist to get drugs and you probably stole that girls bonnet too, everything you say you didnt do is just a preemptive cover for having done it".

but well. if i keep refusing to talk about it im only feeding it. because the more i avoid talking about it to not trigger it, the more i reinforce the idea that "if i talk about it, everyone will turn against me" as legitimate. so, whatever, i guess. im just very tired, you know. i wish it would stop sometimes. i wish i could trust that anyone regards me in good faith. i think it also sucks of me to assume the worst out of everyone like this - to just think everyone is out to get me or always regarding me in the worst possible light. idk. i just wish i could make it stop. ill make an effort to finally tell my therapist tomorrow. but idk if ill have the guts yet.

[thelmabeaver]

How To Help Your Baby Sleep Longer At Night

What is more profound than watching a baby sleep? The peace and tranquility in its face can lift up the spirits of parents and help forget all the hard work and exhaustion experienced through the day.

At start,  parents think that welcoming a baby is a joyous experience. After all you have been waiting for that moment of your life when you would hold the little bundle of joy in your arms and be proud of your parenthood. But little did you expect that all the joy will soon be transformed into panic, frustration and exhaustion especially if you are a first-time parent. Parenthood brings in a lot of responsibility and a sense of nurturing.

One common question that every parent have in mind is “When do babies start sleeping longer?”. Most young parents may wish to know how long their infants can sleep to sustain a healthy growth. A baby’s sleep pattern is different from that of an adult because most of the baby’s growth and development occur in her sleep in the initial stages. Hence, it is important for her to sleep longer than others. Within six months, most babies can sleep through the night. While others may not sleep despite being 12 months old. Some are capable of sleeping 12 hours or more without needing to wake up for feeding. It is different with each baby. But we can all follow a few tips explained later in this document to bring in a standard routine.

Babies usually experience REM (Rapid Eye Moment) sleep in the initial phases of their growth. A REM sleep is not a continuous deep sleep but rather a small stage of the sleep period. This pattern of sleep is known to be essential for mental development. Babies experience REM sleep in their initial growth phase which is responsible for aiding their mental development as they grow. They may wake up to be frequently fed. This phase may be hard to some young parents and make them feel this is a never ending task for them, and the unpredictability can leave you sleep deprived. Hence, you may need a lot of patience and dedication to tread past this phase.

It is undeniably an uphill task to getting your baby adapted to the regular sleeping pattern. A new-born sleeps for 16-18 hours in a day but wakes up every 2 hours for a feed irrespective of day or night. As and when they grow the duration of sleep increases and the number of feeds decreases. By the end of 6 months they must be able to sleep for at least 5 hours at a stretch. The sleep pattern changes as rapidly as their growth. In the initial days they wake up for a feed and then need to be comforted or caressed to go back to sleep. But the key here is to allow them to soothe back to sleep on their own as this will give them an opportunity to discover themselves. For this the mother should be extremely patient and understanding as this will only help both parents and the child.

If you are having a hard time putting your baby to sleep then you are not the only one. If the baby isn’t sleeping well, then you are sleeping well enough and the sleep deprivation cascades into next day, compounded with the daily issues, can only make your life more miserable. In fact, about one quarter of kids under 5 have sleeping issues. They refuse to go to bed, walk at nights or do both together. This is when you wonder how to get your baby to sleep through the night?

Below are a few tips on how to train your baby to sleep longer and soothe itself to sleep if awake at night times:

Understand The Sleep Requirements Of Your Baby

During the initial 3 months, a new-born’s needs to feed and sleep well as the growth happens mostly during sleep. A baby sleeps 16 to 18 hours per day, feeding every 2 hours in between. This is because a baby doesn’t know the difference between day & night. Hence he sleeps regardless of day or night. This literally means that a baby’s awake time might be between 1 AM and 5 AM. But as day progresses they tend to sleep slightly longer.

Understanding Signs Of Sleep

Experts suggest, observing and looking out for the signs that the baby gives indicating the need to sleep can help her sleep better. Babies usually indicate the need to sleep by yawning, tugging body parts, rubbing eyes and crying. Hence, it is better to put her to sleep when she is drowsy. This method trains her to sleep herself without needing the parent to help her soothe back to sleep.

Have A Proper Bedtime Routine

Research shows that babies following a proper nightly bedtime schedule can sleep easier, better & cry less at midnight. Few parents begin their little one’s bedtime schedule as early as six to eight weeks old. Experts suggest creating your baby’s sleep schedule with a combination of activities slowly leading to bed is a great way of hinting the baby that it is bedtime. But be sure you carefully choose the routine which is peaceful and soothing and not playing any games or exposing the child to visitors or any other new stimuli. You could probably give her a warm shower, dress her comfortably, feed sufficiently, give her a comforter (a toy, cloth, pillow etc) and then dim down the lights of the room to slowly go to sleep. The important aspect of the bedtime routine is being consistent every single day. This helps the baby understand the routine better and train itself accordingly. This will greatly help the baby to distinguish between the night and day times.

Early Bedtime

Thought this is self-explanatory but you would not believe how parents push their kid’s bedtime, with a hope that they could sleep longer next morning. Early bedtime is between 7 and 8:30 PM & not later than 9 PM. Obviously, you don’t want your little one to be overtired, else he or she will fight for going to sleep. On the other hand, you might not want your baby to provide a late doze thinking that he or she could stay awake longer. But this often backfires. You are better giving fewer naps. This gives more and better nighttime sleep.

Cuddle Your Baby

Yet another nice way to put your baby sleep peacefully through the night is by cuddling. Believe it or not, this trick greatly works. Comfort your baby so that he or she knows it is time to sleep. Lie down together & cuddle, pretend as if you are sleeping, firmly making her know it is bedtime.

Tune Into Your Baby’s Basic Needs

During daytime, you can make your baby feel 100% protected by carrying him or her in the sling. However, if your baby wakes up at night, consider working out why. Check the nappy. Is it full? Your baby is suffering a cold? Are the nightclothes comfortable? Check every possible thing you can.

Make Your Baby’s Daytime Feeds Lively & Social

It is very important to do this. Daytime meals – lively & social while nighttime feeds got to be calm & quiet. This helps your baby learn the difference between day & night.

What if My Baby Wakes Up In The Night? 

Wait & See If Your Baby Settles On Its Own : 

If your baby is 4 or 5 months old, just wait to see if he or she settles on her own. For some reasons, if your baby keeps on crying and doesn’t seem to stop even after putting him or her down, try patting gently. Tell that everything’s fine and it is time to sleep. Leave the bedroom & wait for few minutes to check again. Now, even after the 3rd or 4th try, you feel your baby is still getting distressed, pick him or her up gently to see if he or she is all right. Repeat the procedure if everything is fine.

Slight Body Movements Are Normal : It is normal to witness a baby smiling, twitching, and jerking in her sleep. These are the typical response when a baby is in deep sleep. Albeit, it is important to pay attention to her if she cries longer. It could be an indication of a discomfort she could be experiencing. A child crying during the sleep could refer to feeling cold, hungry or an illness. Hence, you are required to investigate and confirm the health of your child.

Wait Before Getting In : 

If the baby gets up at night, don’t just instantly go in. Wait for some time prior getting insider her room. Often parents run inside as soon as their babies cry. Yes, of course, as a parent, you cannot stop yourself from going near your baby but this will create a habit. The next time when you don’t appear, he or she will start making fuss & whine longer. If you run to them more quickly, you are robbing the chance of settling themselves on their own. Wait for a few moments to see if your baby is crying in the sleep or have momentarily woken up to seek attention. If she settles down after a while then you don’t need to attend to her. But if it continues for more than a few minutes than it is time to have a look. 

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[michellegputz]

How To Help Your Baby Sleep Longer At Night

What is more profound than watching a baby sleep? The peace and tranquility in its face can lift up the spirits of parents and help forget all the hard work and exhaustion experienced through the day.

At start,  parents think that welcoming a baby is a joyous experience. After all you have been waiting for that moment of your life when you would hold the little bundle of joy in your arms and be proud of your parenthood. But little did you expect that all the joy will soon be transformed into panic, frustration and exhaustion especially if you are a first-time parent. Parenthood brings in a lot of responsibility and a sense of nurturing.

One common question that every parent have in mind is “When do babies start sleeping longer?”. Most young parents may wish to know how long their infants can sleep to sustain a healthy growth. A baby’s sleep pattern is different from that of an adult because most of the baby’s growth and development occur in her sleep in the initial stages. Hence, it is important for her to sleep longer than others. Within six months, most babies can sleep through the night. While others may not sleep despite being 12 months old. Some are capable of sleeping 12 hours or more without needing to wake up for feeding. It is different with each baby. But we can all follow a few tips explained later in this document to bring in a standard routine.

Babies usually experience REM (Rapid Eye Moment) sleep in the initial phases of their growth. A REM sleep is not a continuous deep sleep but rather a small stage of the sleep period. This pattern of sleep is known to be essential for mental development. Babies experience REM sleep in their initial growth phase which is responsible for aiding their mental development as they grow. They may wake up to be frequently fed. This phase may be hard to some young parents and make them feel this is a never ending task for them, and the unpredictability can leave you sleep deprived. Hence, you may need a lot of patience and dedication to tread past this phase.

It is undeniably an uphill task to getting your baby adapted to the regular sleeping pattern. A new-born sleeps for 16-18 hours in a day but wakes up every 2 hours for a feed irrespective of day or night. As and when they grow the duration of sleep increases and the number of feeds decreases. By the end of 6 months they must be able to sleep for at least 5 hours at a stretch. The sleep pattern changes as rapidly as their growth. In the initial days they wake up for a feed and then need to be comforted or caressed to go back to sleep. But the key here is to allow them to soothe back to sleep on their own as this will give them an opportunity to discover themselves. For this the mother should be extremely patient and understanding as this will only help both parents and the child.

If you are having a hard time putting your baby to sleep then you are not the only one. If the baby isn’t sleeping well, then you are sleeping well enough and the sleep deprivation cascades into next day, compounded with the daily issues, can only make your life more miserable. In fact, about one quarter of kids under 5 have sleeping issues. They refuse to go to bed, walk at nights or do both together. This is when you wonder how to get your baby to sleep through the night?

Below are a few tips on how to train your baby to sleep longer and soothe itself to sleep if awake at night times:

Understand The Sleep Requirements Of Your Baby

During the initial 3 months, a new-born’s needs to feed and sleep well as the growth happens mostly during sleep. A baby sleeps 16 to 18 hours per day, feeding every 2 hours in between. This is because a baby doesn’t know the difference between day & night. Hence he sleeps regardless of day or night. This literally means that a baby’s awake time might be between 1 AM and 5 AM. But as day progresses they tend to sleep slightly longer.

Understanding Signs Of Sleep

Experts suggest, observing and looking out for the signs that the baby gives indicating the need to sleep can help her sleep better. Babies usually indicate the need to sleep by yawning, tugging body parts, rubbing eyes and crying. Hence, it is better to put her to sleep when she is drowsy. This method trains her to sleep herself without needing the parent to help her soothe back to sleep.

Have A Proper Bedtime Routine

Research shows that babies following a proper nightly bedtime schedule can sleep easier, better & cry less at midnight. Few parents begin their little one’s bedtime schedule as early as six to eight weeks old. Experts suggest creating your baby’s sleep schedule with a combination of activities slowly leading to bed is a great way of hinting the baby that it is bedtime. But be sure you carefully choose the routine which is peaceful and soothing and not playing any games or exposing the child to visitors or any other new stimuli. You could probably give her a warm shower, dress her comfortably, feed sufficiently, give her a comforter (a toy, cloth, pillow etc) and then dim down the lights of the room to slowly go to sleep. The important aspect of the bedtime routine is being consistent every single day. This helps the baby understand the routine better and train itself accordingly. This will greatly help the baby to distinguish between the night and day times.

Early Bedtime

Thought this is self-explanatory but you would not believe how parents push their kid’s bedtime, with a hope that they could sleep longer next morning. Early bedtime is between 7 and 8:30 PM & not later than 9 PM. Obviously, you don’t want your little one to be overtired, else he or she will fight for going to sleep. On the other hand, you might not want your baby to provide a late doze thinking that he or she could stay awake longer. But this often backfires. You are better giving fewer naps. This gives more and better nighttime sleep.

Cuddle Your Baby

Yet another nice way to put your baby sleep peacefully through the night is by cuddling. Believe it or not, this trick greatly works. Comfort your baby so that he or she knows it is time to sleep. Lie down together & cuddle, pretend as if you are sleeping, firmly making her know it is bedtime.

Tune Into Your Baby’s Basic Needs

During daytime, you can make your baby feel 100% protected by carrying him or her in the sling. However, if your baby wakes up at night, consider working out why. Check the nappy. Is it full? Your baby is suffering a cold? Are the nightclothes comfortable? Check every possible thing you can.

Make Your Baby’s Daytime Feeds Lively & Social

It is very important to do this. Daytime meals – lively & social while nighttime feeds got to be calm & quiet. This helps your baby learn the difference between day & night.

What if My Baby Wakes Up In The Night? 

Wait & See If Your Baby Settles On Its Own : 

If your baby is 4 or 5 months old, just wait to see if he or she settles on her own. For some reasons, if your baby keeps on crying and doesn’t seem to stop even after putting him or her down, try patting gently. Tell that everything’s fine and it is time to sleep. Leave the bedroom & wait for few minutes to check again. Now, even after the 3rd or 4th try, you feel your baby is still getting distressed, pick him or her up gently to see if he or she is all right. Repeat the procedure if everything is fine.

Slight Body Movements Are Normal : It is normal to witness a baby smiling, twitching, and jerking in her sleep. These are the typical response when a baby is in deep sleep. Albeit, it is important to pay attention to her if she cries longer. It could be an indication of a discomfort she could be experiencing. A child crying during the sleep could refer to feeling cold, hungry or an illness. Hence, you are required to investigate and confirm the health of your child.

Wait Before Getting In : 

If the baby gets up at night, don’t just instantly go in. Wait for some time prior getting insider her room. Often parents run inside as soon as their babies cry. Yes, of course, as a parent, you cannot stop yourself from going near your baby but this will create a habit. The next time when you don’t appear, he or she will start making fuss & whine longer. If you run to them more quickly, you are robbing the chance of settling themselves on their own. Wait for a few moments to see if your baby is crying in the sleep or have momentarily woken up to seek attention. If she settles down after a while then you don’t need to attend to her. But if it continues for more than a few minutes than it is time to have a look. 

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