#chat with filipinas

[filipinos2meetapp]

How to Chat with Filipinas: Tips for Building Genuine Connections on Filipino2Meet

Are you interested in connecting with Filipinas and finding meaningful relationships online? With the rise of dating websites, meeting new people has never been easier. However, knowing how to chat with Filipinas in a respectful and engaging way can make a huge difference. Filipino2Meet is a popular dating website in the Philippines that can help you meet and connect with Filipinas. This guide will provide you with tips and strategies to make the most out of your online conversations.

Understand the Cultural Context

Respect and Politeness: Filipinas value respect and politeness in conversations. Begin your chats with a friendly and courteous tone. Avoid making overly personal or inappropriate comments early on.

Family-Oriented Values: Filipinas often place a strong emphasis on family. Show genuine interest in their family values and traditions. Asking about their family can be a good conversation starter.

Cultural Sensitivity: Familiarize yourself with Filipino culture and traditions. Understanding local customs and practices can help you avoid misunderstandings and build a stronger connection.

Start with a Warm Introduction

Personal Greeting: Start your chat with a warm and friendly greeting. A simple "Hello" or "Hi" followed by a compliment can set a positive tone for the conversation.

Share About Yourself: Briefly introduce yourself and share some interesting facts about your life. This can help the other person get to know you better and feel more comfortable opening up.

Ask Open-Ended Questions: Encourage conversation by asking open-ended questions. Instead of yes-or-no questions, ask about their hobbies, interests, and favorite activities.

Be Genuine and Authentic

Show Real Interest: Be genuinely interested in getting to know the person. Avoid using generic lines or copying and pasting messages. Tailor your conversation to what you’ve learned about them.

Be Honest: Honesty is key in any relationship. Be truthful about your intentions and what you’re looking for. Misleading someone can lead to disappointment and mistrust.

Share Your Feelings: Don’t be afraid to express your emotions and feelings. Being open and honest about how you feel can help build a deeper connection.

Engage in Meaningful Conversations

Discuss Shared Interests: Find common interests and build conversations around them. If you both enjoy similar activities or hobbies, use this as a basis for deeper discussions.

Talk About Future Goals: Discussing future aspirations and goals can help you understand each other’s values and long-term plans. It also shows that you are serious about getting to know them better.

Avoid Negative Topics: Stay away from negative or controversial subjects early in the conversation. Focus on positive and uplifting topics to create a pleasant chat experience.

Be Patient and Respectful

Give Space: Don’t rush the conversation or push for personal information too quickly. Give the other person space to open up at their own pace.

Respect Boundaries: Respect their personal boundaries and comfort levels. If they seem uncomfortable with a topic, steer the conversation in a different direction.

Be Understanding: Cultural differences may lead to varying communication styles. Be understanding and patient as you navigate these differences.

Utilize Filipino2Meet Features

Profile Insights: Take advantage of the profile information available on Filipino2Meet. Use the details provided to tailor your conversations and show that you’ve taken the time to learn about them.

Messaging Tools: Use the messaging features on Filipino2Meet effectively. Whether it’s chat, video calls, or voice messages, choose the format that works best for fostering a connection.

Follow Up: If you have a great conversation, don’t be afraid to follow up. Express your enjoyment of the chat and suggest continuing the conversation at a later time.

Stay Safe and Secure

Protect Personal Information: Avoid sharing sensitive personal information early in the conversation. Maintain your privacy and only share details you’re comfortable with.

Report Issues: If you encounter any issues or suspicious behavior, report it to the dating website’s support team. Your safety is a priority, and dating websites like Filipino2Meet often have measures in place to protect users.

Trust Your Instincts: Trust your instincts and be cautious if something feels off. If you feel uncomfortable or uneasy, it’s okay to step back from the conversation.

Conclusion

Chatting with Filipinas can be a rewarding experience if approached with respect, authenticity, and patience. By following these tips and utilizing Filipino2Meet effectively, you can build genuine connections and potentially find meaningful relationships. Remember to be yourself, show genuine interest, and respect cultural differences. With these strategies, you'll be well on your way to having successful and enjoyable conversations with Filipinas.

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[scrunkalicious]

HEYO!! GUYZ IM REDOING THIS SHHHH

I'm Marly/Scrunkly/K-9!!

♦️ My pronouns She/Her, I'm a Filipino artist, selfshipper, writer, musician, and more!! I'm Proud Pinoy Pansexual,, hello world!! I often use capital letterz a lot so errmm beware,,,,,

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[empress-simps]

hi po, pleaseeee do a harry x filipina!reader fic bc i am so deprived of writing like that

Hi darling! Thank you for your request🥰I’ve wanted to write something about a reader being filipina but I haven’t really got anything in mind yet. I made this more of like snippets/head canon type? I just think it’ll really highlight the filipina! Reader better. I hope you don’t mind, Enjoy! (It’s a bit crack-ish hihi)

Harry Potter with a Filipina! Reader

“My gosh, ang lamig dito.” (it’s so cold here)

You shivered, walking towards the great hall with your fellow Filipino students, staring at the interior and overall admiring the place. It was completely different from the Philippine Wizarding School, from the uniforms, infrastructure, ambience, and down to the weather. The uniform you had did little to protect you from the harsh air of the Highlands of Scotland.

You were sent by your school from the Philippines to Hogwarts to be a part of an exchange student program for a year. Hogwarts also sent selected students to the Philippine Wizarding School to learn different techniques in spell casting, potion making, and how the different the countries are in terms of culture.

Scanning the great hall, you saw a bunch of students with curious glances, you felt yourself get a bit self-conscious. “Beh, look!” Your friend whispered to your ear, tugging your uniform before pointing in a certain direction with her lips discreetly.

“Ay shet, ang gwapo.” (Oh shit, he’s handsome)

You blushed as your eyes wandered in the Gryffindor table, looking at an oblivious Harry who was talking to Ron and Hermione. Glaring at your friend playfully, you pinched her side, making her wince. “Aray!” (Ouch!)

Hermione was sent to be your guide in your first day and luck seemed to be on your side as Harry tagged along with her to help

“Hello, my name is Hermione! Professor Mcgonagall assigned me to tour you around Hogwarts.” She smiles, holding out her hand. You took it and shakes her hand. “Nice to meet you, Hermione. I’m Y/n.”

“I hope you don’t mind, but my friend was insisting to come along with me.” She had a knowing smile on her face as she points to Harry beside her. You felt your cheeks heat up, it was the guy earlier. “Ah it’s no problem.” You smiled at him.

“I’m Harry.” He held out his hand, you took it, beaming at him. “Hi Harry, I’m Y/n. Nice to meet you.”

Harry wouldn’t admit it, but Ron and Hermione know he developed a small crush on you as time went by.

It took Harry several months (much to Hermione and Ron’s dismay) to ask you out on a date.

“Y/n! Wait!” Harry ran, as he tried to catch up with you as your friend chats with you, walking to the great hall to grab lunch. Both of you turned, “Uy, Harry!” You smiled as your friend shot you a teasing smile.

“Would you like to go to Hogsmeade with me this weekend?” Excuse me? Did you hear that right? “Like, as a date?” The words fell out of your lips before you can even stop it, making your friend snort. “Ang landi, ha.”

Harry blushed, scratching the back of his neck as he looked away. “Y-yeah…”

“Of course, I’d love to.”

Harry was the one who confessed he likes you first. Of course you were happy but if he wants to be with you, he has to do it the Filipino way.

After a month of dates, he decided to confess his feelings to you.

“Y/n, gusto kita.” He blurts out on a random study date you guys are having. Your eyes widened as you blushed. Harry, speaking tagalog? Since when?

“H-how…?”

“You could say that I’ve been secretly practicing…” He chuckles nervously, your heart filled with warmth.

“Gusto rin kita, Harry.” She grins, seeing his eyes light up. It was definitely worth it talking to other Filipino students to practice his pronunciation when he saw the look on your face.

“But you need to court me first. It’s a Filipino thing.” You giggled, seeing confusion wash over his face.

When you go back to Philippines for a vacation, best believe he will tag along with you.

Your parents love him, and he quickly became part of the family.

“Aba, so handsome naman! Come inside, anak!” Your mom ushered him inside your house as your dad carried both of your luggage. Shaking your head, you laughed at Harry’s reaction.

 You mostly spent your vacation touring with him around your province, taking him to beaches, making him ride a jeep, trycicle, and playing with your little cousins.

Your uncles also made him sing on the karaoke, and he was shocked when all your family are great singers. (Harry wouldn’t like to sing in front of your family again thank you very much)

Your family will dote on him, making him try various filipino foods and making him tons of what he liked.

“Harry, anak! Come here, try this! It’s called chicken adobo.” Your mom beckons him over in the kitchen, wanting him to try what she cooked. Since Harry isn’t used to the hot climate of the Philippines, you can always see him sporting a white sando and shorts, a handheld mini electric fan always in his hand, his hair a bit messy, and cheeks quite rosy due to the heat.

Safe to say adobo, sinigang, and lumpia quickly became his favorites. He will beg you to make them when you’re back in Hogwarts, since you decided to transfer. They also managed to convince him to try balut and dinuguan (although that will be the first and last)

You made him try some Filipino snacks too like Piattos, Clover, Pancit Canton (his favorite), Chicharron, as well as kikiam, fish ball, and tokneneng. Harry bought a bunch of snacks for your friends to try when you get back to Hogwarts.

Blushes when you call him nicknames like gwapo/pogi/mahal

“Pssst! Pogi!” You whisper, trying to catch his attention during a class, Harry blushed as he turns to you. “Ano nanaman?” (What is it again?) He rolls his eyes playfully, trying not to show you the effect you had on him.

“What’s the answer for number 5?”

“Amortentia Potion, may kiss ako maya ha?” He grins cheekily. (I get a kiss later, okay?)

“Sige na nga.” (Fine)

Both of you were hit in the head by Professor Snape.

He learns Filipino just for you; but most of his knowledge are just from hearing you swear.

“Mahal, why do you always say Put-“

“Harry, no-“

Will be absolutely floored when you hand Malfoy his ass back to him.

“Dami mong alam, Malfoy!” (You know a lot, Malfoy)” You scoffed, Draco was being a git to Harry again. Draco raised a brow in surprise.

“Huh?”

“Hatdog.” (Hot Dog (filipino inside joke ig))

He frowns, face turning red. “You making fun of me, L/n? Speaking gibberish again, I bet.” He tries to make fun of you, awaiting your reaction.

“Tanga tanga ka kasi kaya ‘di mo alam.” (You’re dumb that’s why you don’t know (it))

Draco was about to hex you, but you were faster.

Ron gawked as you punched Draco, other Filipinos who transferred hyping you up. “Eyyyy! Y/n lang malakas!”

"Merlin, I'm so glad she's in our side." Ron blanched,Harry visibly winced as you landed a solid punch. You scoffed, seeing him and his goons run away before turning to others.

“Why do you even tolerate his poor excuse of bullying?” She frowns, looking at Harry.

“You guys won’t survive Philippine schools.” “Just what exactly happens when there’s a fight in your school?”

“You don’t wanna know.”

[hinaypod]

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[pharmafelon]

I also have a dad that chose a filipina. They are always predators. My mother caught him chatting to a 14 year old online. Ever since she left he's been with filipinas. He's since knocked one up out of wedlock and has been homeless for 15+ years. They're some of the worst men. :\

[initiallytasteless]

Crow and TF141 Headcanons: First Time Meeting

This is just random headcanons/scenarios with Crow and TF141 if what it was like meeting you and/or getting used to you after.

Extra: Crow was ( kinda is ) supposed self insert with a backstory ( of how she became who she is ), but just decided last minute to be a (y/n).

Info: She/her pronouns, afab!reader, filipina ( gotta rep us man )

DOES ANYONE KNOW THEIR AGES??? I NEED TO KNOW

➥ You were the newest addition and let’s say you scared the shit out of Gaz when you first met, you were walking with Price and ( magically ) lost him

➥ Price and the rest of 141 found you towering over Gaz who just had a heart attack on the floor you apologized by panicking internally

➥ The first few weeks for you were hell; you desperately wanted to go home or switch to another teams, they freaked the shit out at you bcs of how massive they were

➥ You didn’t speak much just a few short phrases and you’d scurry off to your quarters or training grounds, you were just scared of them

➥ Over the next few months you got used to them and started chatting with them; it lead to some playful arguments and pranks

➥ TF141 get so intrigued when you start speaking in your mother tongue, you speak unintentionally since you grew up speaking (Bisaya/Tagalog) with your family

➥ Your accent still lingers, you can loose your accent when you want to, but your accent comes back on when you forget your American accent

➥ Soap and you teaching each other phrases you laugh sometimes because his accent is so heavy when he pronounces words and with you, you just can’t understand nothing he says to you

➥ Your good at sniping and hand to hand combat and you train with Ghost— which you both enjoy each others company ; you both tend to choose each other for training or coincidentally get paired up

➥ After being with them for months, you grew to love them and they mean so much to you

➥ You are extremely hospitable or have motherly vibe; they wanted something, you got it. Want some food, you got. Need a shoulder to cry in, you’re there. Need someone to train with, you’re ready.

➥ If you are older than them, they tend to mess around and call you grandma and Price grandpa, but you told them to call you lola

➥ If you are younger however, they keep an eye on you— you can take care of yourself very well, they just love you sm— and will beat the shit out of anyone

➥ Your love language are quality time and touch— with a hint of acts of service

➥ You and Gaz listen to music together and talk about favorites artist, Soap and you joke around playing pranks and what not, you teach Ghost how to cook some food from your culture, you help Price with his work in his office

➥ When you and Alejandro met, he was about on his toes with you, though TF141 tells them not to worry you were good

➥ You both hit it off so well, you understand each other a little bit, so language barrier wasn’t too much of a problem

➥ You and Ale cooked together— sometimes had a cook offs it bake offs and make Rudy the judge along with the task force

➥ You ask Rudy to teach you more Spanish so you can be ✨ trilingual ✨

[tyhardaway]

S-s-s-something from the txts

(h/t Steve)

Reno, July 2021

Steve Baker and I were on a break working this event and exploring. We were eating Mexican food and maybe day drinking a little bit because we had menial, thoughtless prep work ahead of us and into that evening

When we got to this restaurant, the table with the dude in the hat/green shirt was already there: two old ass white dudes maybe in their 70s, two early 30-something Filipinas, and like a 7-year-old girl

The table in the foreground was empty

Weird vibes for sure as the men were exclusively talking to each other at length like they were from small times. The women were texting and giggling in a manner where it was clear they were texting each other; text-giggle, text-giggle, etc. The kid was just chillin' as kids growing up in awkward circumstances can and do

We were all, WTF? because we noticed that shit at table 1 and that shit was weird as f

Then, a family -- dad, mom, and kid maybe the same age as the other -- sat down at the table in the foreground and they were talking among themselves; mostly mom and pop chatting. They ordered and received their drinks when their kid loudly blurted, "What's a sugar daddy?!" to which the mom immediately whisked the kid away to "go to the bathroom" -- just...like whoosh!

Steve and I still laugh at that one

What's a sugar daddy indeed

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#Missing Mikachacha

(SANA MAHANAP NYO SIYA PLEASE PAKI CHAT SI @mikaleialt para paalam Niya sa Kapatid Niya at sa aken)[Filipina only]

I hope you find this girl on pic please chat only @mikaleialt so because she always missing the girl on the pic I mean [English only]

[stonegoldsxcrxt]

Hello (there)! Same anon who sent you the super long ask the other day! I meant to send this much earlier (obviously before the new episode is supposed to air—oops), but I got preoccupied with other things. Anywho.....first of all, I wanted to say I am glad I didn’t come across as being rude to you. And I appreciate you responding so politely as well!!

I feel like I dumped most of my thoughts on you already, but I also don’t mind chatting a bit more about this—if you are open to it too, of course!

I’m glad to see we also agree on some points. And about Headland specifically: tbh I really don’t know how to address that 😭 cause while I think she has some interesting takes on the story and how she wants it to be viewed or where she wants it to go—I very much get where you are coming from. Because as I mentioned in my previous ask, I am not a fan of reylo or kylo (and especially those fans) at all. So while I obviously see where people are drawing the parallels from, it was quite conflicting for me to see Leslye Headland talk about it so much herself. Actually, I was cringing anytime her or the interviewer brought up reylo or any similarities to it 💀 Although I am still glad (I know I already mentioned this) that Headland pointed out that Osha wasn’t going to be all “I know there’s still good in you” or whatever to Qimir and not trying to redeem him.

And I completely understand where you’re coming from when you say you hate seeing young women being treated terribly in a story (I’m a girl too so of course I can relate lol). I mean, if I’m being honest I very typically and wholeheartedly dislike the enemies to lovers dynamic. I think everything regarding said trope can be pretty damn annoying and often times it’s not at all well-written. And I usually hate it regardless of the fandom, the characters, or even the characters’ genders (but the m/f ships are almost always the ones that have a very weird and uncomfortable power imbalance).

And, idk....I’m a little on the fence about the fiction affecting reality thing. I mean, tbh a few years ago I might’ve completely, 100% agreed with you. Especially cause, as I said, I very much was (and still am) very anti reylo and kylo. So I know from experience that some people can be very.....strange and delusional (for lack of a better term) when it comes to liking or shipping toxic things in media. But I’ve also been in and interacted with plenty of other fandoms, and have liked other things besides star wars. As you said, there’s nothing wrong with liking fictional villains.....and as I mentioned, I honestly think it’s quite hypocritical for some fans to now suddenly be up in arms over people liking Qimir or the Osha/Qimir dynamic. Especially since for years fans have joked about characters like Anakin or Maul or Thrawn (and more recently Kylo) being in the right or whatever. I mean, really I’ve never thought about it much since usually it seems to be just jokes and sometimes I, too, get a kick out of those jokes. But like I said to me, especially as a Filipina, it does not sit right with me that a lot of people seem to be mad that some fans are simping for the non-white villain???? And I get that some people—imo mostly straight white women—seem to be lenient towards the hot white male villains. And again, one of my biggest issues with reylo and kylo stans was how they treated John Boyega, and just hurled a bunch of (often extremely racist) insults at him. But unfortunately, even now, when I am essentially on the other side of the fandom—I still feel these underlying hints of racism.....which has been a problem in this fandom since its inception tbh.

So when it comes to the whole ‘fiction affecting/influencing reality’ thing.....I have to say I honestly don’t think there is actually a good or “right” answer to that one??? Idk, I think some people genuinely struggle with it and buy into certain delusions, but in my opinion most star wars fans who like the villainous characters or problematic ships aren’t excusing that kind of thing irl and it doesn’t have any actual bearing on their irl morals.

Also, I appreciate what you’ve said. As for this certain person I have seen on twitter who has especially been spewing hate towards Leslye Headland and Manny Jacinto, I honestly didn’t think you agreed with those views despite them ss and pinning your post (it was the post you made recently about the way fandom is with villains in general) lol. And yeah.....again, even despite somewhat being on the other side of the fandom now I have seen a lot of people criticizing Headland especially and questioning her sexuality. Essentially saying “even as a ‘lesbian’ she has backtracked on lesbian representation” or a few people making fun of Manny Jacinto’s looks (and sometimes his acting).

Like I said, I didn’t believe you were being prejudiced or spewing dumb hate—and I hope you don’t think I was trying to accuse you specifically of that. Tbh I should not even be surprised about some of the vile things I’ve seen people saying (regarding Headland, Stenberg, Jacinto, essentially the whole cast and crew since even before the show dropped). As I mentioned, bigotry has unfortunately been a huge staple of this fandom since the beginning of the franchise, but I fear it’s gotten much worse.....🫤🫤🫤

hey!! so sorry it took so long for me to get to this, I had a lot going on in my life and still do so I'm sorry, this response probably isn't going to be as long! it's not because I'm mad at you or anything like that!! I'm a person too, and I haven't published a LOT of the shit in my inbox I've been getting for these posts but trust me, it's happening. I answer you because I can tell you're respectful and open to discussion!! and I appreciate that!!

1: Personally I will always believe that fiction does affect reality but I think it's obviously very nuanced. It's not as straightforward as "you like a villain so you must be a bad person." I don't think that it's as simple as if you like a villain that you're a bad person, or you condone those events. Villains and antagonists are often written to be empathetic towards the audience to create a sense of conflict, but the audience should be able to recognize that. More simply put, I guess I believe that fictional scenarios can affect your perception of real life events.

To give a pretty extreme example, if only to describe what I mean (I am NOT saying what the acolyte has done is a 1:1 comparison, I am using an example as a learning opportunity), we can talk about the book Lolita, which is infamously about an adult male character who is sexually obsessed with a young girl. The author frequently subtly tries to force the audience to empathize with this man. Ultimately, Lolita is about how abusers can still be charming people if you look on the surface, but underneath it all, they are still looking to take advantage of others. Eventually, the reader should understand this, after realizing that empathizing with someone doesn't absolve them of their crimes. However, there are people who don't; there are people who read that novel and actually walk away with the idea that the book is a love story, and that the young girl who was victimized was actually to blame for the story's events.

In real life, there is an actual phenomenon based off this interpretation of the book that has come to be known as the Lolita Effect, or, the idea that young women or girls should shoulder the blame for the abuse they endear. Quite literally, though perhaps unintentionally, the novel Lolita has contributed to the perpetration of victim-blaming young women and girls. So there's one example of fiction affecting reality and stuff like that is why I believe it does (though obviously far more extreme).

while I don't think anything Star Wars has done with the acolyte even approaches this level (obviously), my argument about the acolyte is that it's important to learn to recognize subtleties in the way that people who might stand to gain something from your allegiance to them might act around you. Headland saying "Qimir did not manipulate Osha" completely undermines what her writers have shown us. It undercuts those subtleties and replaces them with the perspective that this is okay behavior, when, instead, I deadass would not have a problem with this element of the acolyte had Headland simply acknowledged the way Qimir treats Osha is purposeful so that he gains her allyship and affection (I think we agree on this element).

Honestly, I think Headland wanted to tell a story of two people who perceive themselves as having been "wronged" by the Jedi or who may even have real legitimate reasons to be mad at the Jedi independently, coming together and becoming a powerful duo. That's fine, I think that's interesting potential, but what she unintentionally created instead was a woman who was good and honest being emotionally manipulated by a man who is cunning and deliberately aggravates her to get what he wants. It sends two different messages, because it's two different stories.

The way that I worry about this affecting real people's perspectives irl is that Headland has stripped her audience of the ability to recognize those subtleties because she insists they are not there, even though they are. This can then, of course, be extrapolated to real life. Of course, maybe someone is smart enough to recognize it irl... or maybe they aren't. Honestly, that ends up being up to someone's personal capabilities, it's just that sometimes being given examples of things in fiction helps you recognize it later.

2: I'm not going to lie to you, I don't particularly care who the fandom finds attractive. I'm not going to police who you do or don't want to get with on the basis of the character's morality. To be truthful, the people saying "I wanna fuck Qimir" do not bother me. The people saying "I wanna fuck Anakin" do not bother me. The people saying "I wanna fuck Thrawn" do not bother me. I think a lot of people think that I'm offended by it because of this post I made, but truthfully, that post is about being unable to recognize that someone is being manipulative because you are too busy being attracted to them so you excuse all of their shitty behavior, hence the phrase "all the audience saw was a hot guy," meaning, they did not also see that he is being evil while simultaneously being hot. There's nuance to this situation. The problem (for me) isn't people saying "I wanna fuck Qimir," the problem (for me) is people saying "I wanna fuck Qimir and for that reason I think he's absolutely right about everything, the Jedi got what was coming to them, etc," which are all takes I've seen. And the acolyte is far from the only media with this problem. Star Wars as a whole is far from the only media with this problem (ie I've never read or watched shadow and bone but there's a lot of people on that post talking about it.)

Honestly, my criticism of the fandom and media is usually not rooted in how people feel towards characters on a personal level unless it's to the point where 1. it's a pattern and 2. it's disrupting the actual interpretation of the show, particularly when it's disrupting a female character's story. Which is why I made the post I linked above, it's a majorrrrrr pattern in all fandom but I correctly predicted that Qimir was quickly all anyone would talk about, and I was right. I saw no less than ten posts about "where's Qimir" after episode seven. Hello?? Isn't this show about Osha? Is it not her story? Or do you just not care about her anymore? It makes me sad and it happens over and over and over; ie, the sequels quickly became the Kylo Ren movies and little else seemed to matter.

I'm very sorry if you have seen a lot of the fandom saying things that are rooted in racism towards Manny Jacinto. That has not been, and will never be my stance. I seriously don't care who they cast in this role as Qimir, my response would have been the same, because my beef is with this style of story being presented the way it has been, not with the looks of the actor. I highly suggest blocking people who are hating on him for those reasons. Actually, I suggest blocking anyone hating on Manny for this at all, because wtf, he's doing a great job and doesn't deserve that.

What's unfortunate for me is that I really liked episodes 1-5 of the acolyte a lot, and 6-8 completely lost me. I'm very used to tuning out (which I recognize is partially privilege given that I am white) the bigoted chatter from people that seems to erupt from certain recesses of the 'fandom' whenever something new from Lucasfilm comes out because it happens every. single. time. and it's exhausting. I'm super sorry that it feels like literally every time something new and exciting comes out, people who are assholes to be assholes come out of the woodwork and start spewing hatred. But I want to be clear how much I am not condoning nor participating in that aspect of it; even if you see people on twitter spreading screenshots of my posts around while they do, trust me, I literally don't even know them and they certainly never reached out to me to ask if they could share my tumblr post there. I'm not on twitter and I do not condone using my posts to spread hatred for the sake of hatred.

I have a lot of problems with the acolyte, even more now after the last few episodes. What I do is talk about narrative decisions and story decisions and character decisions, because those are the things that I think matter and should be up for conversation and debate. Because quite simply, I think how you tell a story, and what story you're telling, matters. It's safe to say I am ultimately disappointed in this show. I don't think it stuck the landing, and there are lots of other problems re: Sol's character too, that I will probably never get into, because I'm really ready to let this show go. Perhaps on a deeper level, for me, this type of story is never going to land if not only the fandom but also the director/showrunner won't acknowledge it for what it is, either....

Anon you are always welcome in my inbox! I can tell you're genuinely open to conversation and I like that!

[ma1dita]

hi, i'm the problem, it's me <3

my name's jo, and i'm currently on a journey back to falling in love with writing :) i'm getting comfortable with picking up my pen again and i'm happy to have you join me! i'd love to hear your feedback, or just chat with you about fictional characters!

here's some things about me:

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-the angst monster lives within me. it's what i'm most comfortable writing, but i'd love to write any genre you ask me to!

-i used to run a doctor who, marvel, sherlock fan account on mf Instagram when I was 14...check my guidelines to see the fandoms I'm currently in and write for

-i usually post in the dead of night....sleep is hard fics are easier

-i am a words of affirmation girlie so please feel free to affirm me in comments and send some requests or ask to join my taglist ;)

have a lovely day!

xoxo, jo

[purplesimmer455]

Meanwhile, at the Hecking-Feldman-Chen-Liao household, Luna’s college friend Madeleine, her wife Chesa, their two kids Finley and Malaya, and Chesa's sister Marianna came over. "Maddy!" Luna said, hugging her friend tightly. "Lulu!" Madeleine said, laughing as Luna wrapped her in a bear hug. Plus Luna remarked on how tall Finley and Malaya had gotten. "Your mom sent me so many videos of your ballet recitals." Luna said, smiling at Malaya. "I don't know much about ballet but you were amazing, Mal." She said. "Thanks auntie Luna." Malaya said, blushing a bit. Malaya’s dark brown eyes flitted to her ex-girlfriend, Luna’s daughter Piper, and she smiled at her. "Hey Pipes." She said. Hey Mal." Piper smiled politely. "I just can't believe you are broken up. I was telling Luna that you two might've been like her and Chrissy, high school sweethearts." Madeleine said, smiling at Piper. "I know auntie Maddy, it just didn't work with Mal and me." Piper said, rubbing the bridge of her nose as Malaya looked sheepish too. "But I'm with my girlfriend Cam and she's really amazing." Piper said, an automatic smile coming onto her face as she said Cam's name, and Madeleine nodded. Malaya bit back a sigh, although she was happy for Piper and Cam, she still felt a sting of jealousy hearing Piper say Cam's name and smile and gush about her so much.

While Chesa, Finley, and Marianna chatted with Tess, Megan, Hamuera, and Emily, Madeleine and Malaya sat outside with Piper and her moms. "So, how is this Cam like?" Madeleine asked teasingly. "Mom." Malaya said, smiling and rolling her eyes. "Can you please not bring her up?" Malaya said in Japanese (she's part Japanese from Madeleine's side and part Filipina from Chesa's side). Madeleine gave Malaya a mom look before smiling at Piper. "She's really great. She's smart and good at fixing and building things, and she's so sure of herself and very goofy and sweet. We're going to Foxbury together. She's going to study engineering or robotics while I'm studying fine arts." Madeleine nodded. "Plus, she's really cute and she has short choppy black hair and brown eyes." Piper added. Malaya bit her lip and Piper felt sheepish. She wasn't trying to make Malaya jealous or feel bad on purpose, but she couldn't stop bringing up Cam. She decided to change the subject, and asked Malaya about her ballet classes and dancing. Malaya’s eyes lit up, and Piper listened as she told her about her rehearsals and recitals, and an almost mishap she had on stage. "We're putting on a Simlish show and I get to dance with this very cute girl for a pas de deux." Malaya said, blushing a bit. "That's great Mal." Piper said. Last year she would've been jealous but now she just felt happy for Malaya. Madeleine exchanged a playful look with Luna and Chrissy. "Our nooboos are already growing up." She said, and Luna nodded while Chrissy smiled.

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[marloray]

Oh man, welcome! I'm Marly/Scrunkly, and this is my writing sideblog! You can find my main at @scrunkalicious!!

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{A LITTLE ABOUT ME!!}

Hi! I'm Marly/Scrunkly! I go by She/Her, though I don't mind They/Them. I'm a Filipina artist, musician, and writer! You can find my main at @scrunkalicious!! I'm a big fandom person (NITW, Lackadaisy, BATIM, Pokemon, more!), and I love talking about OCs, so I'm always open to chat! Hope you all enjoy my writing!