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Please excuse me while I go into the forest to scream.
#I have zero focus today#can't do homwork#can't read#can't write#don't feel like playing video games#raaahhhhhhh#So often I'm like “maybe I'm actually a faker and I don't have ADHD”#but then there's days like today where my head is in the clouds all day and I'm like “Yeah. I probs have the AD of the HD.”
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Specific manifestations of anankastic / obsessive-compulsive PD in my life
see similar post for schizoid PD
When I first heard of my personality disorders, it was hard for me to notice their role in my life. Part of it was that I was younger, and with less experiences, but part of it was that by nature PDs are so ingrained it's hard to see the full scope of their influence. Particularly I struggled to see the "dysfunction" part - I was thinking that sure, I do experience that, but is it really that bad? And you can't have a PD without the dysfunction, so do I even count? I think that now, after some time and more reflections, I can say I do see the dysfunction, so I thought to share my observations.
Disclaimer: I am going to combine DSM V and ICD10 criteria, and omit those that do not apply to me
Using DSM V + ICD10 criteria for OCPD that are relevant to me:
1/ A preoccupation with order and details that results in the person missing the point of an activity / Perfectionism that hinders the completion of tasks
This manifests in a very classic way for me. I get overfocused on aligning shapes in my presentations instead of focusing on, well, the goal of the presentation. I get fixated on trying to undestand everything in my classes/courses - instead of seeing what the entire course is trying to teach me, I get anxious and feel like a failure for not understaning one concept. It prevents me from moving on and trusting the process.
A big one that deserves it's own point is when I am organising things. I organise everything in my life, and I get into those organisation obsessions. When I am in one, it's all I can think of. How to put those notes in order, where to put this thing, how to create a system that makes perfect sense. Instead of recognising that the organisation part is supposed to help me with the things I am trying to organise, I get obsessed with the details of the organisation system itself.
2/ Undue preoccupation with productivity to the exclusion of pleasure and interpersonal relationships to an extent that is excessive and not explained by economic needs
Very much connected to 3/ for me, more on that there.
When I was still in school, the feeling of obligation was overwhelming. I can't quite even find the words to describe the extent of this feeling. I neglected everything, literally everything to do schoolwork. Sleep, relationships, family, my health, just because I felt this enormous pressure that Have To. I refused to meet with friends, or to watch movies with family, or to do anything fun, or to even go to the doctors because I had homwork, or an exam. And I know everyone does that from time to time, but the frequency and intensity is what made it dysfunctional. Also, as it turns out, it only caused me more harm than good - me getting a good grade 5 years ago absolutely doesn't mean anything anymore now. And me not making any long-lasting relationships? Absolutely does affect me to this day. My priorities were not serving me.
Now I don't have this singular intense big obligation that school was for me, but I still am rather obsessive about trying to gain skills that would make me employable / not useless. Granted, I am failing miserably at that, but it is my main focus. And I still neglect other things and relationships because of work or some other task I deemed an Obligation. I literally work full-time and then study part-time on the weekeds, I don't think I would do that if I cared about friendships or fun...
I can't allow myself to do anything fun / think about anything else when I have an Obligation planned. And it doesn't have to be anything big - even when I Have To buy someone a gift, I will not fully relax as long as I fulfill the obligation. Which is stupid, because there are always things to be done, so I am permanently stuck in this.
And all of the above is so irrational... Like I come from a relatively well-off family. I have had a full time job for a year now, with permanent contract. And yet, I still feel this sense of Danger and that I Have To do all the things, like work and studying, to make sure I don't die (it feels like I will die if I stop).
3/ Reluctance to spend money on oneself or others and a belief that money should be hoarded for emergencies
The motivation for all from point 2/ always has been fear of spending money, fear of being useless, fear of not having the skills for people to employ me and ultimately fear of ending up homeless. I was thinking of this even when I was like 13yo learning geography. I don't know how normal that is. So, I have always saved up as much as I can, to have the money when something bad happens. I am saying when, and not if, because it feels inevitable.
Everything costs money, and when I am afraid of spending it it affects so many aspects of life. I don't go to fun events for which you have to pay. I feel bad going out for dinner with friends, so I isolate instead. I don't buy clothes unless the ones I have are absolutely unwearable. I postpone going to the doctors, or getting tests done when I have to pay. I feel bad even bying basic groceries.
This is a big factor contributning of me not going to therapy, because it's expensive.
I also feel even more guilty when other people spend money on me. Like, I absolutely don't have to work actually, my parents could pay for my university. But it feels too wrong. I can't. I physically can't allow them to.
4/ Reluctance to delegate tasks to or work with others unless things are done his or her way
Pretty related to 1/. Other people just don't care about the details, or doing things right as much as I do (which actually, good for them because I am the one in the wrong, but I can't help it). I hated group assignments in school because of this. And then I would put too much effort into a stupid project that ultimately meant nothing, and so the cycle continues.
On the flip side, it makes me refrain from tasks, jobs or even basic activities which involve other people, because I know I will suffer with trying to ignore the "imperfections", or they will suffer if I nag them about them. So it may be limiting in terms of what I take on. Like not choosing work that I would maybe like / benefit from because it involves groupwork. And let's be honest, in today's complicated world there aren't many things you can do completely alone. All big, important projects involve cooperation.
5/ Excessive conscientiousness and infexibility related to morality or values (not explained by one's culture or religion)
The main value I hold in my life is to cause as little harm as possible. And you know what is the easiest way to cause as little harm as possible? To do as little as possible. I try to not consume much. I isolate because I don't want to hurt anyone with my broken brain. I chose the line of work and study not because I truly want to do them, but because they are viewed as more useful/benefitial than what maybe I would have chosen otherwise. I don't want to be a waste, and a burden.
I also hold some other tangentially related philosophical beliefs, that most likely don't serve me, but they feel too right for me at the moment. To name a few: antinatalism, nihilism, atheism, pessimism (in the philosophical sense). I like to think I could become convinced otherwise, but that I just haven't heard good counterarguments, but I don't know. Some poeple have said to me that I am just stubborn and refuse to listen, so maybe it is my infexlibility and not the weakness of the arguments.
6/ Feelings of excessive doubt and caution
The thing that have defined my life since I can remember is this feeling that the world is a dangerous place. That I am unwanted here and that I have to prove that I deserve to stay. That I have to make the right choices, and be cautious to avoid pain.
It's hard to find specific examples, because it's something so ingrained I can't imagine how I would act otherwise? But even such things as avoiding going out at dark (impossible to do 100% of the time) that made me miss out on fun or important things. I never trust people fully, especially that they will fulfill their obligations to me. I never trust myself - that I deserve to be where I am, and I always feel at danger of getting kicked out of places. I don't trust strangers on the streets to even not attack me, even though it never happened? I could go on and on. I just have this feeling that I always have to watch myself, and my steps, and to prepare for the worst always.
7/ Intrusion of insistent and unwelcome thoughts or impulses
Probably a lot is covered in 6/ as well
I want to also mention my bfrb - skin picking. It's embarrasing to be honest. I pick everywhere, but especially on my shoulders to the point I look like I was burned. I like doing it, but I guess it is unwanted in the sense that I wish I didn't? I don't know, it's complicated.
I would also classify my obsessive need for organisation here. Like sometimes I wish I could just do something, instead of having this need to organise and plan everything neatly first.
For thoughts, it's pretty standard talk of not being enough, of not working hard enough, of comparing myself to others. I recently also started having flashbacks to random memories. I don't particularly want to think about the past anymore, and I wish they would stop.
I also get some thoughts that are like what many people think is going on in OCD - I get anxious about not locking the door, not turining off the oven, stuff like that. I do occasionally have to go back and check to calm myself, and even after I do I still think "but what if I didn't???". A big and constant one is thinking I lost/forgot my keys, wallet and phone all the time even though I am literally touching them in my pocket lmao. I don't think it's to the extent of a person with OCD though.
Fighting all of that just takes a lot of brainpower in my day-to-day, and that is pretty distressing itself because then I will spend my brainpower on thinking about how much brainpower I am using on those things? Ridiculous cirular thinking, that I am also experiencing in other aspects, but this post is long as it is.
#schcomtalk#anankastic personality disorder#obsessive compulsive personality disorder#ocpd#cluster c
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The Last Kingdom - Biker AU
Focusses on The Band of Bebbanburg
A minor yet affluent and influential Biker Gang in the London area
Lead by Uhtred Ragnarsen
Second in Command: Finan
Uhtred works as Head of Security for Alfred of Winchester
Finan is a baker with his own bakery
Sihtric is a cagefighter who moonlights as an escort
Leofric works as bodyguard for Alfred
Alfred at one time had an affair with Leofric's sister, whcih resulted in Osferth
Osferth's mother passed away not long ago and Alfred agreed to take the lad in until he's graduated
Osferth is a theology student and two years from graduating
To say Easlwith hates him is an understatement
Leofric can't bear seeing how Alfred's wife mistreats the lad and vent about it to Uhtred
Uhtred has the luminous idea to tell Leofric to take Osferth along for the next meeting
It is at Finan's place, as usual
Osferth at first very shy, especially about Sihtric's flirting with him
And God does his heart flutter whenever he is near Finan!
Finan's house becomes Osferth's save haven
Slowly but surely he moves his stuff in
Finan is not at all complaining And neither is Sihtric, who rents Finan's attic
Osferth spends all his free time at Finan's Mostly just going his homwork, but he'll gladly help Finan in the shop and around the house.
At first he sleeps in the guestroom
He is very good at guilt tripping Sihtric into doing chores, but like in the most angelic innocent way
Sihtric sorta hates it, but can never stay mad at Osferth for it. The guy just wants a neat living space, okay!
He has his first kiss with Finan His very first kiss and he is enxious as well as giddy about it for DAYS
But Sihtric gives him his first BJ
And this messes him up for a good bit
Because he is in love with Finan and buidling things up with the man, but he defo was no reluctant participant in that BJ
He sort of avoids them by not staying over for a week or two
Uhtred spots him over at Alfred's place and gets really worried, bc it is evident Osferth is miserable there
Yeah, Elswith is not nice to him at her best days
So Uhtred goes and talk to Ose and then proceeds to get very angry at Sihtric
Nothing Sihtric says can soothe that rage
But a blowjob sure goes a long way
And post nut clarity makes Uhtred realise that all Sihtric wants is to make people feel comfortable and happy
He is just not going about it in the smartest way
So he makes Osferth sit down with Finan and Sihtric and acts a bit of a mediator
And Osferth just bursts, babbling about how he is in love with Finan and how he never meant to get this deep into his feelings and how Sihtric made him feel confident and comfortable and and and
He's full on ugly crying after a while
Uhtred gets up and drags Sihtric out of Finan's house
Finan and Osferth make up and agree to take it slow, but to try and build something with each other
Osferth moves back into his room in Finan's house
They are cute and domestic
Sihtric does not meddle, he's learned his lesson
Meanwhile, Uhtred is getting hitched
Again...
To Osferth's half sister
Of course Alfred and Aelswith are of the devil
But Aethelflaed loves Uhtred and Uhtred loves her
And she is a great stepmum to his kids
She assimilates well into the gang, too, which is a huge pro
And she is sweet to Osferth
Despite being his half sister
This of course causes an added layer of spite from Aelswith
And thus Osferth does no longer go to his father's place
Officially moves in with Finan
And comes out in the process
Alfred is not pleased with that last part!
Osferth, Finan and Sihtric then sort of roll into a poly thing
Sihtric is SO protective over Osferth
Holy fuck, no one gets to even as much as fart in Osferth's general direction without having beef with Sihtric
Finan loves that about Sihtric
Sihtric teaches Osferth how to please Finan
Sihtric is the only one Finan's ever met to easily take him, be it mouth or arse
Finan is defo a bit too big for Osferth to fully take him
But Osferth does his best
And Sihtric is a good teacher
Though he usually is on the receiving end of any play going on
It gives Osferth practise, at least
For which Osferth is very grateful
Eventually the three become an official throuple
Sihtric quits his escorting
He and Osferth both start also working for Finan
The Bakery gets an upgrade
A lil coffee corner with Sihtric as barrista
And the three of them settle in nicely together
End up adopting first Aethelstan, who is Osferh's nephew, and then Cynlaef
Happy family
Kiddo's get to ride in the sidecar with Osferth when they go touring with the bikes
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Barley thinks about getting something to eat at 3 AM
1, HOME - NIGHT
It's three in the morning. In the living room, all the lights are off. Barley attempts to do his homework but his head's too far into the clouds.
BARLEY: (In his thoughts) Gosh, I'm getting hungry... I should get something to eat.
He gets up and heads over to the kitchen.
He stops in his tracks. We see into Barley's imagination: dishes pile up on his side of Melanie's desk.
BARLEY: Gasp! (T) I should really wash the dishes piled up in my room, first!
We then see the floor of his room is a mess.
BARLEY: (T) I did say that I'd tidy my room before anything...
We see his laptop screen, showing a game of solitaire.
BARLEY: (T) Aw man, but I'd really feel bad if I didn't do anything productive on my homwork.
A close up to Barley's sleep-deprived eyes.
BARLEY: (T) But, I'm so tired... There's no way I'd be able to work like this...!
Barley looks at his laptop.
BARLEY: (T) No way man! I can't sleep?! The only other way I should get energy is food!!!
Back to reality: It's three in the morning. In the living room, all the lights are off. Barley attempts to do his homework but his head's too far into the clouds.
NARRATOR: And then Barley starved to death.
Back to reality's back to reality: It's three in the morning. In the living room, all the lights are off. Barley attempts to do his homework but his head's too far into the clouds.
BARLEY: I'm gonna die of starvation!
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tag dump .
#' I do some web design ' ; peter parker / tasm#' I can't go to Germany. I got homwork. ' ; peter parker / mcu#verse ; peter parker / tasm#verse ; peter parker / mcu#out of webs / ooc#can you tell that i've never really done this before? .#open starter /#memes / specify muse
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Agere culture is not regressing for a while and trying to do homwork but you start to feel small and can't finish it
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#age regressor culture is#agere#age regression#sfw agere#sfw agere blog#agere community#age regressor#agere blog
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okay hi hello hi jumping up and down. system things tee he
also @evilpuzzlingpapercrown (hi it’s me puzzle and i’m taging my alt and writing on annon because i refuse to mention this stuff of main. i have… irls in there. i don’t want to have a long ass awkward convo with some of the more skeptic about system people i know)
this is going to be a load of rambles because yes ✨ but i would love to hear any stories/answers/assorted things you have to anything i ramble on about
the most immediate thing i can think of is headspace/internal word. i’m always curious as to how that works for different systems. i read somewhere that even singlets can have a kind of headspace which is cool. cool beans (beans that are cool) mine is simple af and confusing af. hashtag dinner theater
okay and also i can remember when i first learned about plurality beyond like stereotypical nonsense like 3 years ago. i thought i was plural for months but there was such a mental blocker on figuring everything out and i decided i was just a different brand of mentally ill. i then had like a questioning period every other two months until i did like extensive research on systems and plurality. turns out finding info from people who have the thing ur looking into is the best place for info and coping skills. \o/
okay unrelated i keep smelling maple syrup all day and i don’t know why. it’s good though so i can’t complain.
anyway do you have colors you associate with any of your alters/headmates? also i find the word headmate funny. like mainly because my college algebra teacher says “and you can get help on homwork with your roomates, suitemates, any of your mates!” and i giggle. checking my homework with the other dumb bitches in my brain. hhahahehe
okay a question! we’re there ever things that you had a very switched up opinion of or something before realizing you were a system. like having some time really enjoying one kind of music and then something in ur brain is shocked later like “huh but i liked this music more” when it was just two people liking different music? okay that was an elaborate question i might give another example thou. like uh….. style! having a part of your brain that really liked a specific style unlike what you mostly like and realizing it’s an alter being freaking vocal but only about this one specific thing. like honey you can indulge futuristic neon cyber punk whatever later. right now is time for jeans and a hoodie because i said so
oh yea do you do anything specific to try and like monitor your system? like for any kind of memory things or just yo keep track of switches. ect ect. you don’t have to answer that because that’s kinda personal i was just wondering if you had a method that worked well for y’all? tbh i am going through an assortment of attempts at keeping a slight track of things… it’s difficult tbh. sometimes there’s a really freaking apparent switch and other times i realize someone’s like here with me now i guess and other times there’s a moment and i’m like “wait i don’t remember this morning. or like this whole week. haha. wait.” ect ect
haha silly moments over here
okay and i should probably give a more thought provoking topic. like uh… oh yea! positivity time yesyes
has your self image/self perception improved since realizing you were a system in any way? is there anyway that embracing this all has helped you? ect ect
YIPPEE OKAY HI!!! Mare fronting rn but we have a lot of thoughts about this so idk if anyone else is gonna co con or whatever but hiii
so for us, the internal world/headspace kind of... barely exists? this i think is because our brain isn't very good at retaining pictures for a long period of time, like we've had difficulties in the past trying to envision a scene we're working on writing but not being able to get a clear picture of it for a while. it's not that we can't imagine things at all, but it's kind of tricky. also, we're a pretty new system. so as of right now, most of the internal world is just... if an alter is about to front, i can see them sometimes doing a specific action, but it's in an empty void of space. the other day i was trying to call dahlia out to front but she was sitting there reading and kind of floating in the abyss
we do have an exception which is more like the. hm. okay so we have the foreground of headspace, which is just what i call the headspace, and that is where all the frequent fronters are. then in the background we kind of have a place where shit gets blurry and its hard to tell delusion from internal world. but that's where we get things like the woods and all that
damn that's fascinating actually, i feel very strange b/c i really and truly did NOT expect to be a system, like, i'd done research on systems for ages but i think i just didn't know about systems that like... didn't have amnesia walls, or weren't specifically DID. and bc of that i like did not realize what i was experiencing... Was That. having friends who r systems really helped on that front i agree wholeheartedly
i kind of dont like maple syrup like as a vibe. it's so sticky. it like tastes fine and smells fine and whatever just. residue :(
HELPSDFKDFSHKSDF you rolling up to ur alters like Guys its calculus time ^_^ nah but in terms of colors uhhh well it's. pretty on the nose actually but yeah! dahlia is pink, klavier is purple, i am a more blue-toned lighter purple, nightshade is a very dark purple-grey shade, and some of the other bastards have colors but idk their names yet so it's hard to talk about them. the deer is iridiscent but most closely matches with very light blue and very very VERY light pink
NO BC THAT'S STRAIGHT UP HOW WE FOUND OUT BASICALLY. like to cut the story short i have dealt with bad identity issues for a while bc my consistency with interests and personality traits and opinions were so different. how i realized that it might be a system thing was bc one day i got super into the Met gala despite never having fucking cared for it ever before. and i felt very like not like "me" in that moment. turns out that was someone else i don't remember who now but yeah that kicked us off
wishing u a lot of luck with tracking things, unfortunately i have no strategies :( i actually really struggle to keep track of it bc sometimes i'll be wandering doing smth and go "wait who am i?" and then i have no idea and i'm like "okay well. not mare but whatever" and then maybe half hour later i tune in again and it's me again. also my memory is really awful and we're so frequently co con, and honestly i am around so goddamn much, that it's kind of difficult to tell. i remember all the clear switches bc i journal them later, but none of the times and i never know what happens in those empty periods. so yeah shits rough and i wish u so much luck w that
this is kind of funny to say bc i think it's caused both grief and joy, but i've felt a lot better about myself since realizing that i'm not the same host that the system had in the start. like realizing that i am a new alter that emerged mid-2021 and has been host every since explains so much. i experience such imposter's syndrome and one of the biggest issues i had was realizing i was aro-spec and ace bc i felt like in the past EVERYTHING was testifying against that. and it took me until like last WEEK to realize. yeah that's because those memories weren't you. you probably formed to BE arospec and ace bc of them actually. it's so validating.
also. it's just. it's kind of nice. to not be alone :')
and also also this is kinda too much info but being a system despite not having that much amnesia walls or anything, has helped kind of a lot with trauma coping. its made some things worse but i think once we know the other alters and things organize it;ll actually end up being easier to handle everything
thank u for the questions friend i <3 you
#nightmare.ask#nightmare.system#long post#THANK U FR THIS I LOVE TALKING BOUT THIS STUFF#and it stayed me the whole time wowie#we had a nightshade co con moment earlier that was kind of iconic but i think they're gone now#physical protector tingz i guess LOL#sleepy anon ☁️
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İ love my bf dearly but usually when i do homwork i like to sit at my desk and chainsmoke while i do it and i can't while he's here obvi
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Sphinx aesthetic:
Thick glasses with metallic frame, you never quite remember their eyes
Hair half tied, half lose
Clean hands with nice nails, but the arms are covered in little notes
Maximum levels of sarcasm, until you can't ever tell if they're serious
Long, elegant eyeliner that remains no matter what
Whispered voice that keeps going constantly, even when you're not around them
Hidden claws
Closed smiles, nice but noncomital, hiding something
Long discourses filled with rage, filled by hav silences
Autumn evenings doing homwork, a comfy pillow in the back, no interruptions
Random funfacts carefully written in too-nice notebooks
Golden pens
Characters it reminds me of: Hermione Granger, Lily Potter, Beatriz Mendoza, Genya Safin, Sydney and Zoe Sage
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Hi yes I’m at a sitzprobe and I feel like I’m gonna be here forever come send me things & talk to me
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